Guys, your FACE is the most important. Evrything else are not or almost not important. U can be fat, with short legse, without a hair, if u have a nice face, u are HANDSOME man. SIMPLE. I realy do not know why, but 99% of womans will not admit that to you. They will say: your hair is beautiful, your hands are rough and sexy, you are handsome in that jacket. But, what they realy thinks: YOUR FACE IS BEAUTIFUL. I realy do not know why, but almost every woman behaves and talks on that way.
SUMMARY GUY #1: Being a good driver. #2: Watching you fix something. #3: Great with kids or a Dog dad. #4: Saving money (Financially stable). #5: Your Hands. #6: Grey Hair (matured men). #7: Roll up your sleeves. #8: Your smell (Great fragrance). #9: Wearing glasses. #10: Showing your talents or skills.
Courtney is definitely that cool, no BS, no mixed signals because she's fooling around when she shouldn't, friend who gives it to you straight and helps you decode some of the feminine mystique that us men sometimes don't know how to crack. Every guy should have a female friend like her and I'm so glad I found this channel!
When you start to focus on yourself to become the best version of yourself, they will notice and find that attractive. Never chase women, always chase excellence.
I actually agree with this a lot! I find that women become attracted to men based on what they’re doing with their own lives and whether or not they want to be a part of that life.
Women still expect you to approach. And even if they didn't, telling guys not to ask women out isn't great advice. No offense but I'm starting to think this "cHaSe ExCeLlEnCe nOt WoMeN" manosphere line is just giving men an excuse to avoid taking risks or becoming vulnerable, by convincing them you can just focus on yourself and women will fall into your lap. But that's not how it works at all.
One of the things that helped me win my wife of 15 years over was a piece of advice her girlfriends gave her when we first started dating. They told her to carefully watch how I treated my mother because that's how I would treat her. What they didn't know was that Mom was getting divorced from her husband (My dad died several years earlier so he was not my father) and forced to sell their house. I bought it from them, told Mom to not move a thing and told her soon-to-be ex to please vacate my house. When she explained that to her friends they said, "Marry him!".
Haha, hate to break it to you, but those types are the "Worst" types. Sorry Man, but you got yourself another NPC... First of all, W who take advice from other W are dangerous and have no innate personality of their own, and the girls who base you off how you treat your mother, use that as a gauge of how well you can be manipulated. Just as easy as your wife was told to "Marry You", tomorrow she could be told to "Divorce You" and she'll be all for it.
I can attest to the showing off your skill point. I'm a paramedic. I was at a large outdoor concert as the medical staff one summer. I had to go out into the crowd to treat a patient who had fainted. I brought them back to the med tent and eventually called for a second ambulance to transport them to the hospital as I had to stay on site. My wife was there and got to watch me go into, "Medic mode," as she called it. She showed her appreciation very well when I got home that night.
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.
One of the things I've found that men and women appreciate but women seem to really find attractive is being able to explain or teach something to someone without making them feel dumb or foolish for not knowing whatever it is you are talking about.
my gf told me that she loved that ill stop a conversation to open a door for someone (generally an older person or someone who is carrying something), and that i say "thank you" a lot to the waiting staff. she said she rarely saw men do that.
Good for you. Respect for service people is really important to keep the world running smoothly. They do a lot of work for very little money and rewards like being thanked make them feel appreciated and being taken for granted does not. Never forget that your gf should be told how much you appreciate her too.
We spend so much time thinking about big issues and grandiose schemes that might possibly make the world better but it's really things like this that are under-appreciated that will certainly make the world a better place to live. Thank you, Courtney.
Here's the summary: 1. Being a good driver 2. Reversing the car 3. Watching you fix something 4. Great with kids or a dog dad 5. Saving money 6. Your hands 7. Grey hair 8. Roll up your sleeves 9. Your smell 10. Wearing glasses
Men's list for women looks something like this: #1: Has a feminine energy and lilt in her voice (no vocal-fry please!) #2: Being supportive and appreciative of our efforts #3: Being playful and has a good sense of humor & wit #4: Knows how to cook and spoil us once in a while #5: Doesn't constantly nag and complain (THE #1 turn-off!) #6: Dat ass
it is sad that 38 people are agree with you even half of what you say is wrong . 1# It is not nearly neccesary and not so important . When I think none of the girls I liked in the pass had a sexy voice or even feminine energy 2# I would like to know my partner is aware of my value but she doesn't have to express it all the time like I need the non-stop attention ( Just letting you know the diffarence ) 3# true 4# I don't seek a woman who know how to cook . I knew it well enough thanks to my family culture . Not all of us has a need our girl to spoil us it could be fun of course but I am being the one who spoil its partner ( rewarding her) is also fine . 5# If she knows how to explain herself respectfully not just yelling and bitching than I am with her till de and because those woman are rare and very valuable 6# nah its just a sexual instinct not important while searching for a serious partner In the and you can't generalise those toughts of yours . Mainly what men wants most is to have a pecafull life .
@@gokerveral6713 Of course everyone is different. But I am pretty sure most men would sign off on my list. One thing we do agree upon is that men just want peace in their home.
After this video: Teddy scheduled driving lessons, took out a light bulb to replace it, signed up to foster a dog, opted for cheaper lunch, used grip trainers for more veiny hands, bought touch of grey hair dye, rolled his sleeves, sprayed cologne, then juggled knives in front of Courtney
Fixing something I can attest, girls freaking LOVE that. It surprises me to this day. We don't do it for that reason to be honest. We do it because we resist paying a lot of money to have someone else do something we believe we can handle. But #10 doesn't always work if you're a bass player. Some women are unusually attracted to a bass player. Many are not. It's a weird thing. There is a drummer version of that too.
My gf really loves how passionate and proficient I am at art. She loves the fact that I've been successfully adding parts and accessories to my guns without needing any instructions (since instructions are for squares, lol) and she loves how I've been turning into a bit of a gear head as well since I've been fixated on learning how to tune up vintage muscle cars, especially since I'm planning on getting one very soon. 😁😎 Love your content as always Courtney. God bless you. 🙌🏻
I think many men get the "being a good driver" part wrong. They see for example in movies a dude that drives super fast, and others in the movie are amazed by it. The point isn't that he's driving fast, it is that he is driving fast not because he wants to show off but because he _has_ to (often because they are being chased by bad guys in the movie). He is actually a very skilled driver, remains in control, and does his best to keep everyone safe in spite of the adverse situation. And *that* is what is attractive.
What I find funny is that a lot of people who flex with expensive stuff arent even as rich as they seem. And then there are people who make a lot more money yet they still dont waste them on all the overpriced stuff
I had no choice but to well up and get teary-eyed when you said glasses were a positive. It's always been my thing, complex, whatever, that wearing them made me some perpetual dweeb, weakling, Urkel, whatever because a lot of people graduate high school but never graduate high school. I never thought of it as a positive asset until now!
As a fellow glasses wearer, something important that I think she left out is your FRAMES. Something that simple can make the difference between sexy and dorky. Make sure that your glasses frames compliment your face shape well. Get the opinions of some trusted friends, particularly women, and find out if your glasses match your face. And if they don't, swap them out for a pair that do. It took me a few tries to find what works for me, but now that I have, I get the same style every time I update my prescription because I know what makes me feel confident and hot. I promise you'll start feeling good in your glasses in no time, best of luck!
I used to do the one-handed driving thing, then I grew up. I have had extensive training in pursuit, executive protection, escape & evasion, and tactical response driving in various vehicle types. I now drive with both hands on the wheel and am hyper-conscious of my surroundings. When I drive, I drive and keep conversation and other distractions to a minimum. I want to get myself and my passenger to our destination safely. I think she will understand.
Hi Courtney, that was VERY helpful. I think more people should spend a little time each day watching your videos. This was good, solid, constructive advice for all of us and it really made me think about my life and ways I can improve. This video kind of goes hand in hand with some recent videos I watched that talked about people we need to avoid and things that are best kept to ourselves. They were both done well and were very constructive. I actually saved them so I can go back and watch them from time to time as a reminder. Sorry so wordy . Thank you for being kind and honest.
Showing off your talents & skills is a major draw, it shows you are creative & are always planning new ways to make it truly wow the women. As a Graphic artist, I have to agree on this one.
Hey Courtney. I'm a 56 year old guy, happily married, and started watching your channel a couple of years ago to improve my fashion style a bit....but then kept watching cause of all the great and interesting videos you make. Any way, just wanted to say I thought of you at the airport the other day. I was in the TSA line (in my Courtney approved outfit) and saw a nice looking lady (don't forget, happily married...but not dead) who was way back in the line. Before I knew it, she was standing right behind me. Anyway, I said hello and made a little joke about the joys of travel (sarcastically). She laughed and then right away.....her eyes went straight to my new leather dress shoes. I started cracking up because it reminded me of something you said in a video about a year ago. So just wanted to share that you were right. I almost wanted to say to her...."Hey, my eyes are up here"...but then refrained. Anyway, keep up the great work. Love your videos and just the way you keep things real. Have a great day !!
This was super helpful thank you! I’m that introverted shy guy. I’m not a bad looking guy physically, but I know the talk behind my back gets me the label of “asshole” just based on looks, sorry all, just not really socially skilled, at all, even a little bit. What really doesn’t help my case out, im really dumb. With that being said, channels like this honestly do help, literally just Learned all this for the first time. A lot of that stuff, people collectively all do, and know how to respond. Me, those subtle hints you where explaining that woman do, well I’m in my 30’s and I never knew woman did that. And if iv ever noticed which is rare my thought has always been “woman love to talk to everyone, and if one is attracted to me, I can’t wait until she comes and talks to me” and then she doesn’t. I know woman are afraid of everything at first. You ladies even talked in this one how your friend had to walk up to people and do interviews and it was like a man waking up to a woman he’s interested in, it’s terrible! and I agree. It’s nerve wracking and uncomfortable. Especially if they are thinking you’re “just some asshole” it would be really confusing getting messed with by a woman you’ve just met.
I realized this smell thing pretty early since all of my past girlfriends, and my now wife, liked how I smell. Also got that it's not the BO smell but something to do with with my "basic natural smell" if that makes sense. I can't smell it myself but I wish I could so I'd know what the fuss is about. 😀
I feel like having a sense of humour and being sarcastic with women is attractive. I noticed that a lot when you joke with one woman or you’re just being sarcastic with her or try to tease her, she’ll find more ways so you can do this more. If another girl notices that she’ll find ways to be around you as well so you can make her laugh too. However it’s all based from my experience
Women actually do not care about sense of humor, at least from the standpoint of attraction. They only say they like a guy who is funny because they know funny guys can be easily manipulated since they don't take life too seriously. It means you are an ATM who will more easily dispense for them.
I was recently at a family event that was catered. A young lady and her brother were manning a taco bar and doing a wonderful job at it. Very professional, well run and efficient. Great food too, but the ingredients were produced off site at the Family's restaurant. In the end, while taking down the bar, I happened to have the opportunity to speak to the young lady. Now I am 67 and happily married and I was not at all meaning to flirt with the young woman. I introduced myself, and mentioned that I wanted to compliment "them" on such a skillful and professional presentation. This was a very striking young lady and since I was from out of town, I assumed that she was maybe a friend or relative to someone in attendance. The answer was no, that she was not. I asked what town she was from, and I knew that town, so I started to pinpoint her origin and life a little bit. I assumed that she was in her mid 20's or so, but was very much taken that she gave me her complete and undivided attention. (Something that I find very attractive!) Come to find out that she was going to be off to a 4 year college, as soon as her Jr college graduation in the spring. (Another attractive thing to a man!) Calculating in my mind, I now put her into her very early 20's. But the surprises kept coming! I next asked if she had graduated highschool locally, and was again startled to hear that she was going graduate this spring from both highschool AND from community college at the same time! That she had been in a program called running start and was about get two diplomas at the same time. So, I said to her that she must like 18 or 19? The answer was again no. That she was turning 17 soon! Again I was shocked! She was so put together (a big attraction to me) and was till giving her undivided attention! And much so, that I started to feel self-conscious! She had so readily told me some details about her life that, if I was at all "on the hunt" I felt like I could have asked for more and gotten it from her. Not in a sexual context, but in a friendship/relationship context. I am always attracted by youth, and potential, and by confidence, and I always try to promote and encourage those qualities. Someone who has it, has a great gift and needs to be encouraged! It was very refreshing, as I don't often run across someone so young, so well put together.
Great job. Today at church talking to my friends. I am 64 go to the gym daily. My church friends are all women older than me. Most are friends that knew my passed away GF of many years. A woman I see regularly at church comes up to us and engages us all. After being introduced she replies all the single women our age know who you are and your name. I can only guess my friends are talking me up. They all know how much I miss my GF. And how much I want to be married. It was a boast to hear from a good woman.
The glasses one was something that I both appreciated and chuckled at, because when I had glasses as a kid (ages 4-13), girls HATED my glasses. Then, almost overnight, the whole “geek chic” thing took off once I was in high school and glasses were suddenly sexy. I’m 34 now and I know I’ll need glasses again in the near future. Hopefully it’ll work out better for me the second time around. 🤷🏻♂️ As far as anything I do that attracts women, I’m kinda drawing a blank. I’m a nerd working towards a Ph.D, so that doesn’t exactly scream “sex appeal.” 😂😅
Ive gotten attention for being a good cook, and not of just steak. The designer in me, loves the presentation as well. I've also gotten noticed for being a good host at a party or function. Along the hands line. I've been told a few times over the years, that my hands were dangerous. I learned to give a great massage and luckily I have strong hands, and not just the shoulders, having had many sports injuries over the years, and having to get massage for recover, I also picked up anatomy, studying for my personal trainer certification. I just now what usually is hurt and sore! LOl. Now when asked how did I learn to do these things, my answer is usually, well since I'm not 6ft or make 6 figures, I had to have other skills along with being cute and charming! I know I really need to work on my lack of self confidence. Thanks for the content.
I'm a circus artist and that last one has happened a lot to me. Sometimes there's a girl that I normally wouldn't even notice, but once she starts showing her skill at the stage doing her thing, she suddenly becomes the sexiest girl in the world.
The contrast the hardware store thing: knowing when to ask for help instead of pretending to know what you're doing. Someone pretending they can fix something when they can't can result in spending more money on further damages or doing quick fixes that just delay the problem and actually cause future problems. This also includes mental and physical health issues that men ignore. Being open and knowing when to go to the hospital or therapy is valued by a woman as well.
I know quite a few woman that enjoy being in a speeding car. There are more women into racing than you think. You just are not one of them, is all. So thank you for sharing things you find attractive in men. Not all women are the same folks, just like not all men are the same. That's the beauty of being an individual. Don't try to fit into a mold. just be the real you and let the other people decide if they like that or not. If they don't no great loss you got along your whole life without them as part of your life, I know you'll survive the rest of your lives without them. There are billions of people on this planet and worrying about what one person thinks or feels about you is immature in it self. I'm 62yrs in age and I am my own person. I love who I am and my friends are like family to to because they care about who I am, not what they want me to be.
Why do I feel like this video was an homage to Teddy.😅 Here's my odd one for women: When she has an inherent, weird, almost abstract(ish) sense of humor and she doesn't even know it, but it comes naturally to her because she's wired different. It's addicting.
I hit 10/10 on your list, although I wear contacts 90% of the time because I don’t like the feel of glasses. However my wife (very much like you on your 10 scale) prefers the glasses. She has similar taste as you, and one said to me one time when, I was finishing our basement and was carrying a 2x4 with my sleeves rolled up, work gloves, and dirty clothes, she practically fainted 😊 Another time when I was flying is home (I’m a pilot and we’ve had our own plane for years) in bad weather, turbulence, landing and she was in the front seat with me, she related how hot it was seeing me struggle with the controls and said so while I was flying. It was nice. She agrees with your list.
Laughed at the grey hair part. I’m in my early 20’s and started finding grey hair in my head and my beard. I fear that my hair might be fully grey by the time I’m 40. But hey, that might work in my favor 😂
I’ve had a full head of grey hair since I was like 15. With greys in the beard more over the years, now the beard is mixed but mostly grey. I’ve never dyed it except for once or twice when I was a kid. I never minded it. Have been asked about it a lot lol. I will say, once the beard gets to fully grey I might start using one of those little combs that makes it dark brown, at least enough to keep it mixed. I don’t mind the hair or beard alone being fully grey, but I’m thinking keeping the beard mixed is the way to go
Quick note about the "engine revving" thing: If a guy drives stick and he revs his engine he's probably not doing it to impress you, it's actually called a rev match. When you downshift it's common to give the throttle a quick blip to get your RPMs up and match the speed of the transmission in the lower gear. This prevents the car from bucking or jerking when you let out the clutch.
I remember hearing a lady tell me once "Men don't make passes at girls with glasses." I felt the opposite. Women with glasses were instantly more attractive. What's more, it was an instinctual attraction with no conscious cognition. What I believe could be going on here is that I associate glasses with intelligence (even though I consciously understand that the two are not really related). I"m attracted to intelligence, so glasses are hot. Like my friend said above, this doesn't work on everybody. But I'll just submit that while wearing glasses might limit the pool of people attracted to you, it may improve the quality.
As a women, I definitely think my glasses limits the dating pool for me and I definitely do that when it comes to “making passes” I thinks pretty true. You can think something is attractive but I also think certain physical traits make a man a little more sexual forward. I think men can want to marry a brunette, but when it comes to making passes, it’s going to be at the blonde. And I’ve got red hair, so I’m screwed lol.
Maybe it was just my case, but my previous GF, was way younger than me, and she said she felt attracted to my own self esteem and interesting conversations, she also liked my hobbies (more the fact that I have them than the activities themselves)
Yes if you must attract women with money you will end up with a succubus. If you can't attract her with your personality, after getting noticed by your looks, you will never get very far. Game and frame, AKA people skills and strong mental fortitude, will get you much much further than looks alone
Thanks Courtney, lots of interesting points! For the women out there, as a guy I always notice women’s hands - shape, size, softness, and for me short nails and natural is preferable so no need to get fancy manicures (unless you like that yourself)
when you have plenty of money, you stop caring about these things. You can be yourself and do whatever you want to, and women will still find you attractive
You know a woman is all about you when she doesn't even ask you to drive, she just hands you her keys, if you don't go out and pull your car around first
Be careful not to go to the bank with that thought. More accurately, the woman trusts you enough to drive but many times either hates to drive and/or wants a chauffeur. Driving in big cities is frankly a chore for many people anyway let alone the assumption of the man paying for any parking or valet. It takes many dates, in what I call the 90 day rule, to even remotely know who one is dating let alone to be "all about you" as motivation can change 180 degrees in a heartbeat. Time is needed to truly tell the truth in that matter.
the fixing things is so true girls find it so hot when i helped them fix their Macbooks or helped them understand how to use a program. Like at times they would grab my hand because they found it attractive seeing my hands fix things
Seems like my wife missed the "what women find attractive" course. I'm married since a few years and the best compliment I got is "I'm happy to have you" because I help in the household. Never experienced more attraction than that
I think you need to compare this to how she complements other people. She may not be overly complementary, or may not be a very strong communicator. Also, just ask her why she doesn’t complement the things you do. But, be ready for her asking why you don’t complement her. Maybe start by complementing her to see if she catches on. Good luck, mate.
As a person who has engineering conversations with non-engineers on a regular basis - I found I started to have trouble after I got lasik. People started saying the confidence in a solution is "intimidating" whereas I never had that before. Before they took my suggestions as just suggestions when I had glasses.
having had glasses since 13 ( I am allergic to saline solution ) I can attest that NO GIRL has ever found me attractive from the glasses on my face. No matter the different styles, sizes, lenses. not once. not ever.
As a women, I can attest to it for the most part. I would probably replace grey hair with (well-groomed) facial hair, but that's my personal preference.
Important things as well: 1:51 (being a good driver), 2:16 (funny, and agree with you totally Courtney 😂😂😂👏👏👏), 2:23 (reversing the car), 2:57 (watching you fix something), 3:26 (great with kids or a dog dad), 4:10 (saving money), 5:17 (totally agree with that difference as well. That's a total respect as well), 5:30 (your hands), 6:49 (grey hair), 7:11 (mentally mostly, I agree that), 7:20 (roll up your sleeves), 7:41 (your smell), 8:24 (agree with the smell of either onion, or garlic as well 😂😂😂👏👏👏), 9:31 (wearing glasses), 10:00 (showing your talent or skills), 10:47 (agree with confidence as well). The most important things are deeds, and not the words. The deeds is what do everybody sees as well. The grey hair cannot be just showing who is mentally mature. The mature mentality can be seen by behavior as well. Everybody wants a person that is also a mature, and that can also be relaxed as well (of course not literally to be relaxed, but to have a balance between two mentioned things as well). Relaxed men have self-confidence, and they are gentlemen as well (believe it or not) As for me I'm doing model kits, and believe it or not I have even met some women that find doing model kits interesting as well. Also some of them are collecting toy cars as well (believe it or not). I also play guitar as well. And even some of the girls even asked me what is that model kit airplane, and I have explained it etc. I'm a future civil engineer (I hope as well). Forgot to mention that my channel is dedicated to hobby modeling. If you are interested, you can check my channel as well. Keep up the work you intelligent and gorgeous lady 😉😘😘😘🙂💪💪💪🦾🦾🦾🤓😎❤❤❤❤❤❤. Love your work very much Courtney. Have a nice day as well ❤❤❤❤❤❤.
My wife always likes that I'm not an angry driver even though people cut me off or speed around me to hit the exit that is 200 feet in front of us. The dog thing really is a plus that I didn't know about. My wife, while we were dating, noticed how I interacted with my puppy and her puppy and instantly thought I would be a good father and husband. She also really liked how emotionally stable I am yet able to be vulnerable at times. It's a hard balance but when done properly is a major plus. Also, where did you get your shirt? It is a very pretty and the style my wife loves. I would like to get her something similar to it for Valentines Day.
Thank you for this insightful video on things women find attractive. Very reaffirming message in it. As always, thank you for providing resources to help men on their journey to becoming better men.
"I Don't Even Have Any Good Skills. You Know, Like Nunchuck Skills, Bow Hunting Skills, Computer Hacking Skills. Girls Only Want Boyfriends Who Have Great Skills!" - Napoleon Dynamite 😂
Lol. Love it. I commented about Napolean Dynamite too. But my comment was on the closing scene...."Wanna play me?" The tetherball kid gets the girl....Be Napolean. "Napolean, don't be jealous that I've been chatting online with babes, all day. Besides, we both know I've been training to become a cage fighter." Be Kipp, the poet. Don't be Uncle Rico 😉
In the friend group i usually associate with there's a strongly opinionated woman who was giving her opinion of a specific topic, it happened to be a topic i was very knowledgeable of and i noticed a flaw in her opinion so i voiced mine in an attempt to fill in that gap. She tried to counter with a more elaborate explanation of her viewpoint and i answered with mine, we were both passionate about this topic. I knew my info was correct so i stood my ground proving my point with evidence. After this instead of being angry at me she actually said she was pleasantly surprised to see that i could stand my ground. Hope this is a good example.
Dennis Prager has some amazing insights and straight talk about men and women. He says most good men are married and gives 2 reasons why. Good men marry more often, AND marriage makes men better. Hard to argue with that. I'd love to hear a discussion between Dennis and Courtney.
@@ace0425 One could argue that gives him more credibility. He learned a lot. He's happily married now. He's a very wise man, and he has great insight. You're obviously a hater. I doubt you know anything about what he believes. Tell me one of his foundational positions re male-female relations that you think is wrong?
I'm a guy in my 50's that's been happily married for going on 23 years. I like watching your vids regarding the attractive (or non-attractive) qualities of men. It helps to remind me and reset/refresh my point of view from time to time. We can all get lazy and forget what's important -- I want to strive to keep my wife happy with me.
Great vid ! As an older man, and Chauffeur, I have found that the attraction meter with the ladies goes max when I'm dressed in a Tux !! I've caught women from their 20's and up, with the "deer in the head lights" stare . . . tooo funny, but complimentary. Thanks for sharing
Don't worry about being a little bit "weird" out there. I'm trying to learn and I need to hear honest thoughts like the hand veins. Thanks for posting this!
I found this video very interesting. Especially when you said women like it when a man backs up the car and puts his arm around the passengers seat when he turns around. This is standard back up procedure in virtually every state. Men or women, Cameras, or not,mirrors or not, When you test for a license this is what the manuals say and motor vehicle inspectors look for. The right arm gives you the leverage to be able to turn fully around to lookout the rear window. Some driving teachers and license inspectors actually cover the computer screen in the car when it comes time to back up
Thank you Courtney for the mention about playing an instrument. Even though you’re not for the song writing type, if you heard me play the diatonic harmonica, you would swoon.
I totally relate to your bit about hands! Even down to the part about feeling like a weirdo. 😅 And while it seems common for women to be into guys’ hands, it seems less common for guys to be into women’s hands. 🙈
Courtney, thank you for another interesting, informative, respectful and kind video. I notice that one of the media articles you quoted had a small error. Forgive me if I'm stating something that you and your audience already know. Oxytocin is not a pheromone but a hormone. Pheromones are chemicals used to communicate between two different individuals, whereas hormones are chemicals used to communicate between distant cells within the same organism. Oxytocin is released from a part of the brain called the posterior pituitary. It can also be administered as a medication. In medicine, we are interested in oxytocin for its contractile effect on the uterus (causing labour, childbirth, and cessation of bleeding after delivery), for its effect on mammary glands (causing release of milk in response to stimulation during breast feeding), for its effect on emotional bonding between mom and baby and for causing water retention and hypertension (these last two are unwanted effects). I have heard of it being used to spike women's drinks, to make the women feel more loving, thus altering their judgement. I'm sure it's illegal and I can imagine what you and your audience would think about that.
Great job as always Courtney, I can see your confidence growing as a creator, your sense of humour is definitely coming through more now and as a Brit, Sarcasm and being Deadpan are very well-received. 🙌🏻💥
I used to play guitar to put my daughter to sleep when she was a new born. Her mother adores those memories. She told me that is one of the reasons she loves me.
A new girl I was talking to got stuck helping a lady jump her car while she was getting gas, I was on the phone with her about to pick her up and I just pulled up where she was and diagnosed everything and went to autozone and swapped the lady’s battery and got her car started. We might’ve lost an hour of hangout time but man she dug that up and she’s wild for me now 😂
I can confirm the thing about saving money. I've set myself a goal of saving a certain amount of money to buy a little apartment in a few years. The eyes of the girls literally change when they hear that. It shows that you have goals and you are financially responsible.
Hey Court loved the video just wanted to add one thing. My girlfriend loves when I paint 🎨 because she said she likes seeing me focused and in my zone doing something I love . Next time I paint on canvas I'm gonna roll my sleeves up & make her go wild lol
I used to think I was weird for specifically looking at a guy's hands. Good to know I'm not alone lol. And I agree about the silver hair. And I love when a guy has silver in his beard
I jump started a woman's car after our 1st date while it was bucketing with rain. Her car had a sparkplug issue I noticed as well which I fixed. I messaged the next week to if can meet again, she replied " thanks you are a really nice guy but I'm dating someone else.However i want to stay friends as you never know " I passed. She contacted me again 6 months later and I still passed.
This was a good list you mentioned a lot of things you don't hear often. The hands/forearms is dead on. Also a decent video concept may be something like "Women's worst fears/best case scenario on a date" like the things she'd most want to happen and the worst possible things she doesn't want to happen. Also "What makes a person boring." Anyway, cheers.
Honestly, I've never had even the slightest idea of what women actually find attractive about me, and that's not purely my crushingly low self-esteem talking. I sort of understand what men find attractive about me; I'm available, and for a lot of men that's the major box ticked, but I've never really been conscious of or thought to ask what women find in any way attractive about me. I assume there's something, as I've been in relationships, but what actually drew them to me in the first place remains an enigma. I think at least one ex. liked me because I'm tall and she found that in some way comforting or useful, which I can understand as I do indeed excel at reaching things on high shelves, but otherwise I simply don't recognise what's in it for them? It's not particularly relevant now as I'm no longer actively seeking a relationship, but your video does certainly make me wonder what was my U.S.P.? Please keep the great videos coming though, they're a needed and welcome island of reason in an increasingly toxic sea of division that seems to be drowning society in general and social media in particular.
Bro, a guy that is tall for women is the equivalent of a girl nice body for men. Women want someone who can make them (and their offspring, biologically speaking) feel safe. Men who are larger in stature are more imposing, and thus make her feel safe, provided she trusts you.
One thing that I do, which seems to repel women by the masses, is exist! A lot of the women I’ve been meeting lately aren’t super stoked that I’m alive!
I always get drawn to what Courtney has to say , even though I’m not able to carry these things out , people think I’m damaged goods and I think they are giving me a wide birth , even though I’m good company , lost my fiancée 2 years ago , it’s a long lonely road I’m afraid
Courtney, I spoke with a friend today and he mentioned something I thought was interesting. I told him a couple of weeks ago I was speaking to a woman I found attractive and a guy “blocked” me, pulled her aside for her number and more… my friend said the woman was able to recognize the “block”! IS THAT TRUE?!
I've been married for 17 years, and I have to admit that I drive VERY differently when my wife is in the car versus when I am alone. I'm not saying I tailgate or cut people off, but I am a very proactive driver and have a lead foot. Speed just doesn't scare me, except for getting a ticket. But when I'm with my wife, I drive like a grandmother. I think she would freak out if she knew how I really drive.
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normal women don't care about menspreading... but do you think some find it attractive? 🤔
Guys, your FACE is the most important. Evrything else are not or almost not important. U can be fat, with short legse, without a hair, if u have a nice face, u are HANDSOME man. SIMPLE.
I realy do not know why, but 99% of womans will not admit that to you. They will say: your hair is beautiful, your hands are rough and sexy, you are handsome in that jacket.
But, what they realy thinks: YOUR FACE IS BEAUTIFUL. I realy do not know why, but almost every woman behaves and talks on that way.
@@whisperjet5346 ?
@@whisperjet5346lol subtle
I'll tell u what I find atractivo! u! love ur gorgeous eyes and smile! and i love ur hair & outfit
SUMMARY GUY
#1: Being a good driver.
#2: Watching you fix something.
#3: Great with kids or a Dog dad.
#4: Saving money (Financially stable).
#5: Your Hands.
#6: Grey Hair (matured men).
#7: Roll up your sleeves.
#8: Your smell (Great fragrance).
#9: Wearing glasses.
#10: Showing your talents or skills.
dang so having grey hairs at 30 is a no go? lol
@@Underthegun897 you mustn't have all qualities. That one is for old men 😂
@@justody1 i started getting grey in my beard around age 25-26
@@Underthegun897 you R now an old man ✅
Is it sus if a guy cleans his nails ?
Courtney is definitely that cool, no BS, no mixed signals because she's fooling around when she shouldn't, friend who gives it to you straight and helps you decode some of the feminine mystique that us men sometimes don't know how to crack.
Every guy should have a female friend like her and I'm so glad I found this channel!
😂 women are not your friends. The only exception is maybe a sister.
@@thomashall6288 maybe ? what ?
@@milannikolic3371 I stand by that.
When you start to focus on yourself to become the best version of yourself, they will notice and find that attractive. Never chase women, always chase excellence.
I actually agree with this a lot! I find that women become attracted to men based on what they’re doing with their own lives and whether or not they want to be a part of that life.
No. They won’t. You’ll just be an awesome guy who is well put together, has a lot going for him, who women STILL don’t give a shit about…
Women still expect you to approach. And even if they didn't, telling guys not to ask women out isn't great advice. No offense but I'm starting to think this "cHaSe ExCeLlEnCe nOt WoMeN" manosphere line is just giving men an excuse to avoid taking risks or becoming vulnerable, by convincing them you can just focus on yourself and women will fall into your lap. But that's not how it works at all.
Rich cooper was right
That’s all you really need to do!!!!Everything else falls into place enough said conversation over
One of the things that helped me win my wife of 15 years over was a piece of advice her girlfriends gave her when we first started dating. They told her to carefully watch how I treated my mother because that's how I would treat her. What they didn't know was that Mom was getting divorced from her husband (My dad died several years earlier so he was not my father) and forced to sell their house. I bought it from them, told Mom to not move a thing and told her soon-to-be ex to please vacate my house. When she explained that to her friends they said, "Marry him!".
Haha, hate to break it to you, but those types are the "Worst" types. Sorry Man, but you got yourself another NPC... First of all, W who take advice from other W are dangerous and have no innate personality of their own, and the girls who base you off how you treat your mother, use that as a gauge of how well you can be manipulated. Just as easy as your wife was told to "Marry You", tomorrow she could be told to "Divorce You" and she'll be all for it.
@@prussiansocietyofamerica, "NPC"? Is that a MGTOW code?
@@Staticjumper Nope. It means an Automaton.
Help me out here, @@prussiansocietyofamerica. An "Automaton"? I'm still not understanding your point.
Good man! Sometimes, doing the right thing provides real rewards!🤘
I can attest to the showing off your skill point. I'm a paramedic. I was at a large outdoor concert as the medical staff one summer. I had to go out into the crowd to treat a patient who had fainted. I brought them back to the med tent and eventually called for a second ambulance to transport them to the hospital as I had to stay on site. My wife was there and got to watch me go into, "Medic mode," as she called it. She showed her appreciation very well when I got home that night.
Gross
Haha yeah boyyy
Keep her away from those doctors at the hospital. She might go into "Rich Doctor mode"
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.
@Rose Allen well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer
@Rose Allen her name is Shelly Renee White, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster.
@Rose Allen you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
Shut up you scammers
Yea because if YOU do you get screwed financially by the divorce court and the eyes of the law
One of the things I've found that men and women appreciate but women seem to really find attractive is being able to explain or teach something to someone without making them feel dumb or foolish for not knowing whatever it is you are talking about.
That is actually not easy to do.
I always find that impressive, and I'm not even a woman 😎
And be accused of mansplaining ?
@@briar35981 Never been accused of that in my life, but I usually don't engage with the type of people who would make that claim.
Spot on brother! It shows competence and confidence with humility. What's more attractive than that? Especially to women?
I can listen to her voice forever! So soothing and really slows my mind down enough to completely digest what she's saying
my gf told me that she loved that ill stop a conversation to open a door for someone (generally an older person or someone who is carrying something), and that i say "thank you" a lot to the waiting staff. she said she rarely saw men do that.
Good for you. Respect for service people is really important to keep the world running smoothly. They do a lot of work for very little money and rewards like being thanked make them feel appreciated and being taken for granted does not. Never forget that your gf should be told how much you appreciate her too.
Did you score in the bedroom after it was all set and done?
That is unusual. That doesn't play into the usual trope of women seeking big baddy brutes.
We spend so much time thinking about big issues and grandiose schemes that might possibly make the world better but it's really things like this that are under-appreciated that will certainly make the world a better place to live. Thank you, Courtney.
"My ovaries can barely handle this." Best line ever. I was looking for an excuse to spit coffee all over my carpet.
😂
🤣
Now if you spit your coffee with precision that could count as a talent or skill women could find attractive 😉
Bro
Somebody should make a video of "Courtney Ryan out of context" with quotes like this.
Here's the summary:
1. Being a good driver
2. Reversing the car
3. Watching you fix something
4. Great with kids or a dog dad
5. Saving money
6. Your hands
7. Grey hair
8. Roll up your sleeves
9. Your smell
10. Wearing glasses
This sounds like bullshit just to make a video
This is really more long term partner attraction vs short term fun.
Do you know why women have such a hard time parallel parking? Because they've been lied to all their life about what 8 inches is.
Again, all of this is about what you can do for them. Not anything about you that she is attracted too.
We’ll done Courtney! My wife finds many of the same traits attractive in me and I kid her….”that’s only because you love me.” Who knew?🤗
“…
Men's list for women looks something like this:
#1: Has a feminine energy and lilt in her voice (no vocal-fry please!)
#2: Being supportive and appreciative of our efforts
#3: Being playful and has a good sense of humor & wit
#4: Knows how to cook and spoil us once in a while
#5: Doesn't constantly nag and complain (THE #1 turn-off!)
#6: Dat ass
Thanks Norwegian Blue
it is sad that 38 people are agree with you even half of what you say is wrong .
1# It is not nearly neccesary and not so important . When I think none of the girls I liked in the pass had a sexy voice
or even feminine energy
2# I would like to know my partner is aware of my value but she doesn't have to express it all the time like I need the non-stop attention ( Just letting you know the diffarence )
3# true
4# I don't seek a woman who know how to cook . I knew it well enough thanks to my family culture . Not all of us has a need our girl to spoil us it could be fun of course but I am being the one who spoil its partner ( rewarding her) is also fine .
5# If she knows how to explain herself respectfully not just yelling and bitching than I am with her till de and because those woman are rare and very valuable
6# nah its just a sexual instinct not important while searching for a serious partner
In the and you can't generalise those toughts of yours . Mainly what men wants most is to have a pecafull life .
@@gokerveral6713 that's your opinion, and you are entitled to it, just like others have an opinion.
@@gokerveral6713 Of course everyone is different. But I am pretty sure most men would sign off on my list. One thing we do agree upon is that men just want peace in their home.
@@vincentortega4284 yes genius thats the point
After this video:
Teddy scheduled driving lessons, took out a light bulb to replace it, signed up to foster a dog, opted for cheaper lunch, used grip trainers for more veiny hands, bought touch of grey hair dye, rolled his sleeves, sprayed cologne, then juggled knives in front of Courtney
please do message again later as to the results in your life before and after 🙂
So you became 'Jason Bourne.' 😉
😂
All that effort and all you got was poorer, stink, wasted days and now 2 parasites hanging off you, one human and one canine.
☕☕☕
“It’s like having a little wingman, that won’t steal your girl.” - priceless!!
When a guy is themself and focused on their purpose, women will flock.
not
Yes!!
I prefer to use the term froth.
Not if he's one of the 80% of men that women find unattractive.
Not in my experience
Fixing something I can attest, girls freaking LOVE that. It surprises me to this day. We don't do it for that reason to be honest. We do it because we resist paying a lot of money to have someone else do something we believe we can handle.
But #10 doesn't always work if you're a bass player. Some women are unusually attracted to a bass player. Many are not. It's a weird thing. There is a drummer version of that too.
My gf really loves how passionate and proficient I am at art. She loves the fact that I've been successfully adding parts and accessories to my guns without needing any instructions (since instructions are for squares, lol) and she loves how I've been turning into a bit of a gear head as well since I've been fixated on learning how to tune up vintage muscle cars, especially since I'm planning on getting one very soon. 😁😎
Love your content as always Courtney. God bless you. 🙌🏻
I think many men get the "being a good driver" part wrong. They see for example in movies a dude that drives super fast, and others in the movie are amazed by it. The point isn't that he's driving fast, it is that he is driving fast not because he wants to show off but because he _has_ to (often because they are being chased by bad guys in the movie). He is actually a very skilled driver, remains in control, and does his best to keep everyone safe in spite of the adverse situation. And *that* is what is attractive.
Yes, saving money is a huge plus - for both men and women. I can't tolerate financial irresponsibility!
What I find funny is that a lot of people who flex with expensive stuff arent even as rich as they seem. And then there are people who make a lot more money yet they still dont waste them on all the overpriced stuff
Courtney, seriously , you are giving me hope in the mad world we are living, listening to your great advices is allways enjoyable
I had no choice but to well up and get teary-eyed when you said glasses were a positive. It's always been my thing, complex, whatever, that wearing them made me some perpetual dweeb, weakling, Urkel, whatever because a lot of people graduate high school but never graduate high school. I never thought of it as a positive asset until now!
As a fellow glasses wearer, something important that I think she left out is your FRAMES. Something that simple can make the difference between sexy and dorky. Make sure that your glasses frames compliment your face shape well. Get the opinions of some trusted friends, particularly women, and find out if your glasses match your face. And if they don't, swap them out for a pair that do. It took me a few tries to find what works for me, but now that I have, I get the same style every time I update my prescription because I know what makes me feel confident and hot. I promise you'll start feeling good in your glasses in no time, best of luck!
There are different woman. Different preferences. And remeber guys this is only one girl's opinion. Don't generalize . Get to know your girl.
I used to do the one-handed driving thing, then I grew up. I have had extensive training in pursuit, executive protection, escape & evasion, and tactical response driving in various vehicle types. I now drive with both hands on the wheel and am hyper-conscious of my surroundings. When I drive, I drive and keep conversation and other distractions to a minimum. I want to get myself and my passenger to our destination safely. I think she will understand.
Hi Courtney, that was VERY helpful. I think more people should spend a little time each day watching your videos. This was good, solid, constructive advice for all of us and it really made me think about my life and ways I can improve. This video kind of goes hand in hand with some recent videos I watched that talked about people we need to avoid and things that are best kept to ourselves. They were both done well and were very constructive. I actually saved them so I can go back and watch them from time to time as a reminder. Sorry so wordy . Thank you for being kind and honest.
Showing off your talents & skills is a major draw, it shows you are creative & are always planning new ways to make it truly wow the women. As a Graphic artist, I have to agree on this one.
Hey Courtney. I'm a 56 year old guy, happily married, and started watching your channel a couple of years ago to improve my fashion style a bit....but then kept watching cause of all the great and interesting videos you make. Any way, just wanted to say I thought of you at the airport the other day. I was in the TSA line (in my Courtney approved outfit) and saw a nice looking lady (don't forget, happily married...but not dead) who was way back in the line. Before I knew it, she was standing right behind me. Anyway, I said hello and made a little joke about the joys of travel (sarcastically). She laughed and then right away.....her eyes went straight to my new leather dress shoes. I started cracking up because it reminded me of something you said in a video about a year ago. So just wanted to share that you were right. I almost wanted to say to her...."Hey, my eyes are up here"...but then refrained. Anyway, keep up the great work. Love your videos and just the way you keep things real. Have a great day !!
I hope you told your wife about all of this.
@@Primitive_Code yep…sure did
Um...
@@oscard2577 How could you survive then?😅
This was super helpful thank you! I’m that introverted shy guy. I’m not a bad looking guy physically, but I know the talk behind my back gets me the label of “asshole” just based on looks, sorry all, just not really socially skilled, at all, even a little bit. What really doesn’t help my case out, im really dumb. With that being said, channels like this honestly do help, literally just Learned all this for the first time. A lot of that stuff, people collectively all do, and know how to respond. Me, those subtle hints you where explaining that woman do, well I’m in my 30’s and I never knew woman did that. And if iv ever noticed which is rare my thought has always been “woman love to talk to everyone, and if one is attracted to me, I can’t wait until she comes and talks to me” and then she doesn’t. I know woman are afraid of everything at first. You ladies even talked in this one how your friend had to walk up to people and do interviews and it was like a man waking up to a woman he’s interested in, it’s terrible! and I agree. It’s nerve wracking and uncomfortable. Especially if they are thinking you’re “just some asshole” it would be really confusing getting messed with by a woman you’ve just met.
I realized this smell thing pretty early since all of my past girlfriends, and my now wife, liked how I smell. Also got that it's not the BO smell but something to do with with my "basic natural smell" if that makes sense. I can't smell it myself but I wish I could so I'd know what the fuss is about. 😀
I feel like having a sense of humour and being sarcastic with women is attractive. I noticed that a lot when you joke with one woman or you’re just being sarcastic with her or try to tease her, she’ll find more ways so you can do this more. If another girl notices that she’ll find ways to be around you as well so you can make her laugh too. However it’s all based from my experience
Women actually do not care about sense of humor, at least from the standpoint of attraction. They only say they like a guy who is funny because they know funny guys can be easily manipulated since they don't take life too seriously. It means you are an ATM who will more easily dispense for them.
I was recently at a family event that was catered. A young lady and her brother were manning a taco bar and doing a wonderful job at it. Very professional, well run and efficient. Great food too, but the ingredients were produced off site at the Family's restaurant. In the end, while taking down the bar, I happened to have the opportunity to speak to the young lady. Now I am 67 and happily married and I was not at all meaning to flirt with the young woman. I introduced myself, and mentioned that I wanted to compliment "them" on such a skillful and professional presentation.
This was a very striking young lady and since I was from out of town, I assumed that she was maybe a friend or relative to someone in attendance. The answer was no, that she was not. I asked what town she was from, and I knew that town, so I started to pinpoint her origin and life a little bit. I assumed that she was in her mid 20's or so, but was very much taken that she gave me her complete and undivided attention. (Something that I find very attractive!) Come to find out that she was going to be off to a 4 year college, as soon as her Jr college graduation in the spring. (Another attractive thing to a man!) Calculating in my mind, I now put her into her very early 20's. But the surprises kept coming! I next asked if she had graduated highschool locally, and was again startled to hear that she was going graduate this spring from both highschool AND from community college at the same time! That she had been in a program called running start and was about get two diplomas at the same time. So, I said to her that she must like 18 or 19? The answer was again no. That she was turning 17 soon! Again I was shocked! She was so put together (a big attraction to me) and was till giving her undivided attention! And much so, that I started to feel self-conscious! She had so readily told me some details about her life that, if I was at all "on the hunt" I felt like I could have asked for more and gotten it from her. Not in a sexual context, but in a friendship/relationship context. I am always attracted by youth, and potential, and by confidence, and I always try to promote and encourage those qualities. Someone who has it, has a great gift and needs to be encouraged!
It was very refreshing, as I don't often run across someone so young, so well put together.
Great job. Today at church talking to my friends. I am 64 go to the gym daily. My church friends are all women older than me. Most are friends that knew my passed away GF of many years. A woman I see regularly at church comes up to us and engages us all. After being introduced she replies all the single women our age know who you are and your name. I can only guess my friends are talking me up. They all know how much I miss my GF. And how much I want to be married. It was a boast to hear from a good woman.
The glasses one was something that I both appreciated and chuckled at, because when I had glasses as a kid (ages 4-13), girls HATED my glasses. Then, almost overnight, the whole “geek chic” thing took off once I was in high school and glasses were suddenly sexy. I’m 34 now and I know I’ll need glasses again in the near future. Hopefully it’ll work out better for me the second time around. 🤷🏻♂️
As far as anything I do that attracts women, I’m kinda drawing a blank. I’m a nerd working towards a Ph.D, so that doesn’t exactly scream “sex appeal.” 😂😅
What topic are you researching for your PhD?
Ive gotten attention for being a good cook, and not of just steak. The designer in me, loves the presentation as well. I've also gotten noticed for being a good host at a party or function. Along the hands line. I've been told a few times over the years, that my hands were dangerous. I learned to give a great massage and luckily I have strong hands, and not just the shoulders, having had many sports injuries over the years, and having to get massage for recover, I also picked up anatomy, studying for my personal trainer certification. I just now what usually is hurt and sore! LOl. Now when asked how did I learn to do these things, my answer is usually, well since I'm not 6ft or make 6 figures, I had to have other skills along with being cute and charming! I know I really need to work on my lack of self confidence. Thanks for the content.
I'm a circus artist and that last one has happened a lot to me. Sometimes there's a girl that I normally wouldn't even notice, but once she starts showing her skill at the stage doing her thing, she suddenly becomes the sexiest girl in the world.
The contrast the hardware store thing: knowing when to ask for help instead of pretending to know what you're doing.
Someone pretending they can fix something when they can't can result in spending more money on further damages or doing quick fixes that just delay the problem and actually cause future problems.
This also includes mental and physical health issues that men ignore. Being open and knowing when to go to the hospital or therapy is valued by a woman as well.
Fixing things AKA competence
I think being a nice person and supporting those who need help is the best quality. Not focusing on what others think and be yourself.
Courtney is back to back with the content and I'm loving it!
Well, there's an abundant resource of material to cover!! hahaha (We're dealing with women, right??). This ain't Baskin&Robbins my brother.
I know quite a few woman that enjoy being in a speeding car. There are more women into racing than you think. You just are not one of them, is all. So thank you for sharing things you find attractive in men. Not all women are the same folks, just like not all men are the same. That's the beauty of being an individual. Don't try to fit into a mold. just be the real you and let the other people decide if they like that or not. If they don't no great loss you got along your whole life without them as part of your life, I know you'll survive the rest of your lives without them. There are billions of people on this planet and worrying about what one person thinks or feels about you is immature in it self. I'm 62yrs in age and I am my own person. I love who I am and my friends are like family to to because they care about who I am, not what they want me to be.
Why do I feel like this video was an homage to Teddy.😅
Here's my odd one for women:
When she has an inherent, weird, almost abstract(ish) sense of humor and she doesn't even know it, but it comes naturally to her because she's wired different. It's addicting.
I hit 10/10 on your list, although I wear contacts 90% of the time because I don’t like the feel of glasses. However my wife (very much like you on your 10 scale) prefers the glasses.
She has similar taste as you, and one said to me one time when, I was finishing our basement and was carrying a 2x4 with my sleeves rolled up, work gloves, and dirty clothes, she practically fainted 😊
Another time when I was flying is home (I’m a pilot and we’ve had our own plane for years) in bad weather, turbulence, landing and she was in the front seat with me, she related how hot it was seeing me struggle with the controls and said so while I was flying. It was nice.
She agrees with your list.
Laughed at the grey hair part.
I’m in my early 20’s and started finding grey hair in my head and my beard. I fear that my hair might be fully grey by the time I’m 40. But hey, that might work in my favor 😂
I started going grey when I was in my 20s too but I like grey hair so it was not a problem. I'm in my 70s and there are still red hairs.
Silver fox
It WONT trust me.. im 38 and half grey already and have YET TO HEAR 1 SINGLE FEMALE tell me m grey hair is attractive or a turn on..😒
I hear ya. I've got some gray appearing in my red beard. My wife calls it cinnamon sugar.
I’ve had a full head of grey hair since I was like 15. With greys in the beard more over the years, now the beard is mixed but mostly grey. I’ve never dyed it except for once or twice when I was a kid. I never minded it. Have been asked about it a lot lol. I will say, once the beard gets to fully grey I might start using one of those little combs that makes it dark brown, at least enough to keep it mixed. I don’t mind the hair or beard alone being fully grey, but I’m thinking keeping the beard mixed is the way to go
Quick note about the "engine revving" thing: If a guy drives stick and he revs his engine he's probably not doing it to impress you, it's actually called a rev match. When you downshift it's common to give the throttle a quick blip to get your RPMs up and match the speed of the transmission in the lower gear. This prevents the car from bucking or jerking when you let out the clutch.
Liking for the Pagani reference. Love it when you can reference old content.
😂❤️
In a word… competence
Different forms of it
Physical strength, driving well, financially savvy, dressing/smelling good, interacting with others
I remember hearing a lady tell me once "Men don't make passes at girls with glasses." I felt the opposite. Women with glasses were instantly more attractive. What's more, it was an instinctual attraction with no conscious cognition. What I believe could be going on here is that I associate glasses with intelligence (even though I consciously understand that the two are not really related). I"m attracted to intelligence, so glasses are hot.
Like my friend said above, this doesn't work on everybody. But I'll just submit that while wearing glasses might limit the pool of people attracted to you, it may improve the quality.
As a women, I definitely think my glasses limits the dating pool for me and I definitely do that when it comes to “making passes” I thinks pretty true. You can think something is attractive but I also think certain physical traits make a man a little more sexual forward. I think men can want to marry a brunette, but when it comes to making passes, it’s going to be at the blonde. And I’ve got red hair, so I’m screwed lol.
Maybe it was just my case, but my previous GF, was way younger than me, and she said she felt attracted to my own self esteem and interesting conversations, she also liked my hobbies (more the fact that I have them than the activities themselves)
Yes if you must attract women with money you will end up with a succubus. If you can't attract her with your personality, after getting noticed by your looks, you will never get very far. Game and frame, AKA people skills and strong mental fortitude, will get you much much further than looks alone
100%, Well Said!
Thanks Courtney, lots of interesting points!
For the women out there, as a guy I always notice women’s hands - shape, size, softness, and for me short nails and natural is preferable so no need to get fancy manicures (unless you like that yourself)
I believe that Courtney described many beautiful traits of Steve Stifler in one video! He is also a great dancer. 😁
haha wtf
when you have plenty of money, you stop caring about these things.
You can be yourself and do whatever you want to, and women will still find you attractive
You know a woman is all about you when she doesn't even ask you to drive, she just hands you her keys, if you don't go out and pull your car around first
😂😂
Be careful not to go to the bank with that thought. More accurately, the woman trusts you enough to drive but many times either hates to drive and/or wants a chauffeur. Driving in big cities is frankly a chore for many people anyway let alone the assumption of the man paying for any parking or valet. It takes many dates, in what I call the 90 day rule, to even remotely know who one is dating let alone to be "all about you" as motivation can change 180 degrees in a heartbeat. Time is needed to truly tell the truth in that matter.
Especially if you might put gas in the car for her.
the fixing things is so true girls find it so hot when i helped them fix their Macbooks or helped them understand how to use a program. Like at times they would grab my hand because they found it attractive seeing my hands fix things
Seems like my wife missed the "what women find attractive" course. I'm married since a few years and the best compliment I got is "I'm happy to have you" because I help in the household. Never experienced more attraction than that
welp, this is sad 🥺
I think you need to compare this to how she complements other people. She may not be overly complementary, or may not be a very strong communicator. Also, just ask her why she doesn’t complement the things you do. But, be ready for her asking why you don’t complement her. Maybe start by complementing her to see if she catches on. Good luck, mate.
As a person who has engineering conversations with non-engineers on a regular basis - I found I started to have trouble after I got lasik. People started saying the confidence in a solution is "intimidating" whereas I never had that before. Before they took my suggestions as just suggestions when I had glasses.
Have you seen "the expert" (made for engineers) series? These are freak'n hilarious and true. m.ruclips.net/video/BKorP55Aqvg/видео.html
@@echo-channel77 - Yeah, I love them
having had glasses since 13 ( I am allergic to saline solution ) I can attest that NO GIRL has ever found me attractive from the glasses on my face. No matter the different styles, sizes, lenses. not once. not ever.
Shades
As a women, I can attest to it for the most part. I would probably replace grey hair with (well-groomed) facial hair, but that's my personal preference.
Isn't Facial Hair just a Beard or am i stupid? Lmao. But kinda Based.
Important things as well: 1:51 (being a good driver), 2:16 (funny, and agree with you totally Courtney 😂😂😂👏👏👏), 2:23 (reversing the car), 2:57 (watching you fix something), 3:26 (great with kids or a dog dad), 4:10 (saving money), 5:17 (totally agree with that difference as well. That's a total respect as well), 5:30 (your hands), 6:49 (grey hair), 7:11 (mentally mostly, I agree that), 7:20 (roll up your sleeves), 7:41 (your smell), 8:24 (agree with the smell of either onion, or garlic as well 😂😂😂👏👏👏), 9:31 (wearing glasses), 10:00 (showing your talent or skills), 10:47 (agree with confidence as well).
The most important things are deeds, and not the words. The deeds is what do everybody sees as well. The grey hair cannot be just showing who is mentally mature. The mature mentality can be seen by behavior as well. Everybody wants a person that is also a mature, and that can also be relaxed as well (of course not literally to be relaxed, but to have a balance between two mentioned things as well). Relaxed men have self-confidence, and they are gentlemen as well (believe it or not)
As for me I'm doing model kits, and believe it or not I have even met some women that find doing model kits interesting as well. Also some of them are collecting toy cars as well (believe it or not). I also play guitar as well. And even some of the girls even asked me what is that model kit airplane, and I have explained it etc. I'm a future civil engineer (I hope as well).
Forgot to mention that my channel is dedicated to hobby modeling. If you are interested, you can check my channel as well.
Keep up the work you intelligent and gorgeous lady 😉😘😘😘🙂💪💪💪🦾🦾🦾🤓😎❤❤❤❤❤❤.
Love your work very much Courtney. Have a nice day as well ❤❤❤❤❤❤.
Sobering up by the time she gets home from work. It shows that you are putting effort into the relationship.
My wife always likes that I'm not an angry driver even though people cut me off or speed around me to hit the exit that is 200 feet in front of us. The dog thing really is a plus that I didn't know about. My wife, while we were dating, noticed how I interacted with my puppy and her puppy and instantly thought I would be a good father and husband. She also really liked how emotionally stable I am yet able to be vulnerable at times. It's a hard balance but when done properly is a major plus.
Also, where did you get your shirt? It is a very pretty and the style my wife loves. I would like to get her something similar to it for Valentines Day.
This subject was amazing, the way you explain it is so unique and honest. It’s great to see the female perspective.
Thank you for this insightful video on things women find attractive. Very reaffirming message in it. As always, thank you for providing resources to help men on their journey to becoming better men.
I appreciate you being nice and not shaming men for something they cant control.
Thank you Courtney for helping your male viewers be attractive.
Happy Saturday and keep doing them squats along with eating healthy.
Try factor :)
Thank you my friend!!
@@CourtneyRyan you’re welcome 😊
My gf loooooooooves when I play guitar!! She loves my hands and it’s even better when I’m using them to sketch, play guitar, lift, etc
"I Don't Even Have Any Good Skills. You Know, Like Nunchuck Skills, Bow Hunting Skills, Computer Hacking Skills. Girls Only Want Boyfriends Who Have Great Skills!"
- Napoleon Dynamite 😂
Lol. Love it. I commented about Napolean Dynamite too. But my comment was on the closing scene...."Wanna play me?" The tetherball kid gets the girl....Be Napolean. "Napolean, don't be jealous that I've been chatting online with babes, all day. Besides, we both know I've been training to become a cage fighter." Be Kipp, the poet. Don't be Uncle Rico 😉
In the friend group i usually associate with there's a strongly opinionated woman who was giving her opinion of a specific topic, it happened to be a topic i was very knowledgeable of and i noticed a flaw in her opinion so i voiced mine in an attempt to fill in that gap.
She tried to counter with a more elaborate explanation of her viewpoint and i answered with mine, we were both passionate about this topic.
I knew my info was correct so i stood my ground proving my point with evidence.
After this instead of being angry at me she actually said she was pleasantly surprised to see that i could stand my ground.
Hope this is a good example.
Dennis Prager has some amazing insights and straight talk about men and women. He says most good men are married and gives 2 reasons why. Good men marry more often, AND marriage makes men better. Hard to argue with that. I'd love to hear a discussion between Dennis and Courtney.
Prager has been married three times.
@@ace0425 One could argue that gives him more credibility. He learned a lot. He's happily married now. He's a very wise man, and he has great insight. You're obviously a hater. I doubt you know anything about what he believes. Tell me one of his foundational positions re male-female relations that you think is wrong?
I'm a guy in my 50's that's been happily married for going on 23 years. I like watching your vids regarding the attractive (or non-attractive) qualities of men. It helps to remind me and reset/refresh my point of view from time to time. We can all get lazy and forget what's important -- I want to strive to keep my wife happy with me.
Great vid !
As an older man, and Chauffeur, I have found that the attraction meter with the ladies goes max when I'm dressed in a Tux !! I've caught women from their 20's and up, with the "deer in the head lights" stare . . . tooo funny, but complimentary.
Thanks for sharing
"My ovaries can hardly handle this." 😂😂
Don't worry about being a little bit "weird" out there. I'm trying to learn and I need to hear honest thoughts like the hand veins. Thanks for posting this!
Weird is better than boring any day
*Guys, can she be trusted?*
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Never, ever fully trust a woman, it will backfire!
@@CourtneyRyan *alright 🚬🗿*
She has a significant other_ I believe in love _ just treat people the way you want to be treated
I found this video very interesting. Especially when you said women like it when a man backs up the car and puts his arm around the passengers seat when he turns around. This is standard back up procedure in virtually every state. Men or women, Cameras, or not,mirrors or not, When you test for a license this is what the manuals say and motor vehicle inspectors look for. The right arm gives you the leverage to be able to turn fully around to lookout the rear window. Some driving teachers and license inspectors actually cover the computer screen in the car when it comes time to back up
This is heartwarming to me because I've always thought I needed to be more attractive but I wear glasses and I'm talented at rapping and art
Women: I want a man that can fix things.
Men: Alright, cool. And i want a women that can cook.
Women: REEEEEEEE F*#/K@$
*_KeK_*
Thank you Courtney for the mention about playing an instrument. Even though you’re not for the song writing type, if you heard me play the diatonic harmonica, you would swoon.
My girlfriend likes the salt and pepper on me
I love it!!!
@@CourtneyRyan I love the salt and pepper look
My gf likes the chocolate fondue on me....
Too much information? 😉
I totally relate to your bit about hands! Even down to the part about feeling like a weirdo. 😅 And while it seems common for women to be into guys’ hands, it seems less common for guys to be into women’s hands. 🙈
Courtney, thank you for another interesting, informative, respectful and kind video. I notice that one of the media articles you quoted had a small error. Forgive me if I'm stating something that you and your audience already know. Oxytocin is not a pheromone but a hormone. Pheromones are chemicals used to communicate between two different individuals, whereas hormones are chemicals used to communicate between distant cells within the same organism. Oxytocin is released from a part of the brain called the posterior pituitary. It can also be administered as a medication. In medicine, we are interested in oxytocin for its contractile effect on the uterus (causing labour, childbirth, and cessation of bleeding after delivery), for its effect on mammary glands (causing release of milk in response to stimulation during breast feeding), for its effect on emotional bonding between mom and baby and for causing water retention and hypertension (these last two are unwanted effects). I have heard of it being used to spike women's drinks, to make the women feel more loving, thus altering their judgement. I'm sure it's illegal and I can imagine what you and your audience would think about that.
Great job as always Courtney, I can see your confidence growing as a creator, your sense of humour is definitely coming through more now and as a Brit, Sarcasm and being Deadpan are very well-received. 🙌🏻💥
I used to play guitar to put my daughter to sleep when she was a new born. Her mother adores those memories. She told me that is one of the reasons she loves me.
🥹❤️ love this.
A new girl I was talking to got stuck helping a lady jump her car while she was getting gas, I was on the phone with her about to pick her up and I just pulled up where she was and diagnosed everything and went to autozone and swapped the lady’s battery and got her car started. We might’ve lost an hour of hangout time but man she dug that up and she’s wild for me now 😂
I can confirm the thing about saving money. I've set myself a goal of saving a certain amount of money to buy a little apartment in a few years. The eyes of the girls literally change when they hear that. It shows that you have goals and you are financially responsible.
My girlfriend does not like to cook, but I do & I do it well. She likes my cooking & also that I am handy & working on a home project at all times.
I'm enthralled with all your old-fashioned sayings... The bees knees... love it! 🐝
"...You can keep something alive besides yourself.." I can see how that would a desirable trait 😀. Thank you for another interesting video!
Hey Court loved the video just wanted to add one thing. My girlfriend loves when I paint 🎨 because she said she likes seeing me focused and in my zone doing something I love . Next time I paint on canvas I'm gonna roll my sleeves up & make her go wild lol
I used to think I was weird for specifically looking at a guy's hands. Good to know I'm not alone lol. And I agree about the silver hair. And I love when a guy has silver in his beard
“My friends and I” not me, “We women, girls” not “us”😮
I jump started a woman's car after our 1st date while it was bucketing with rain. Her car had a sparkplug issue I noticed as well which I fixed. I messaged the next week to if can meet again, she replied
" thanks you are a really nice guy but I'm dating someone else.However i want to stay friends as you never know " I passed. She contacted me again 6 months later and I still passed.
you're a king, you did not let her put you on her waiting list. Awesome
This was a good list you mentioned a lot of things you don't hear often. The hands/forearms is dead on. Also a decent video concept may be something like "Women's worst fears/best case scenario on a date" like the things she'd most want to happen and the worst possible things she doesn't want to happen. Also "What makes a person boring." Anyway, cheers.
Honestly, I've never had even the slightest idea of what women actually find attractive about me, and that's not purely my crushingly low self-esteem talking. I sort of understand what men find attractive about me; I'm available, and for a lot of men that's the major box ticked, but I've never really been conscious of or thought to ask what women find in any way attractive about me. I assume there's something, as I've been in relationships, but what actually drew them to me in the first place remains an enigma. I think at least one ex. liked me because I'm tall and she found that in some way comforting or useful, which I can understand as I do indeed excel at reaching things on high shelves, but otherwise I simply don't recognise what's in it for them? It's not particularly relevant now as I'm no longer actively seeking a relationship, but your video does certainly make me wonder what was my U.S.P.? Please keep the great videos coming though, they're a needed and welcome island of reason in an increasingly toxic sea of division that seems to be drowning society in general and social media in particular.
Bro, a guy that is tall for women is the equivalent of a girl nice body for men. Women want someone who can make them (and their offspring, biologically speaking) feel safe. Men who are larger in stature are more imposing, and thus make her feel safe, provided she trusts you.
I'm on point with nearly all these things, and never get a second look. NEVER.
One thing that I do, which seems to repel women by the masses, is exist! A lot of the women I’ve been meeting lately aren’t super stoked that I’m alive!
I always get drawn to what Courtney has to say , even though I’m not able to carry these things out , people think I’m damaged goods and I think they are giving me a wide birth , even though I’m good company , lost my fiancée 2 years ago , it’s a long lonely road I’m afraid
Courtney, I spoke with a friend today and he mentioned something I thought was interesting. I told him a couple of weeks ago I was speaking to a woman I found attractive and a guy “blocked” me, pulled her aside for her number and more… my friend said the woman was able to recognize the “block”! IS THAT TRUE?!
I've been married for 17 years, and I have to admit that I drive VERY differently when my wife is in the car versus when I am alone. I'm not saying I tailgate or cut people off, but I am a very proactive driver and have a lead foot. Speed just doesn't scare me, except for getting a ticket. But when I'm with my wife, I drive like a grandmother. I think she would freak out if she knew how I really drive.
I'm the same way with anyone in the car. When I'm by myself, it's hammer time.
I'm the same. I don't value my life or bodily health. But if someone else got hurt because of my actions, I'd never be able to live with myself.