Why I'm Saying No to Botox and Fillers & Society's Fear of Aging
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I'm about to turn 36. And in today's video, I want to talk about aging and why I've decided for myself to say no to botox and fillers, as well as society's fear of aging. Let's talk about it!
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🌼 Vera
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Getting older, mid thirties 0:00
Important things to keep in mind 4:38
What are botox & fillers 6:53
Society and aging 8:05
Fear & loss vs Excitement & gratitude 10:20
The risks 13:38
The commitment 15:57
The costs 17:05
The importance on looks 18:23
Authentic faces 20:43
What I'm willing to do 22:12
For anyone who's thinking about it 25:03
Losing value as you age 27:02
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Thank you Vera! This is really supportive insight to accept ourselves as we are and embrace getting older :)
Excellent video, well done!
I just turned 50. Instead of trying to look young, I now try to shine🌟
My friend is a nurse working in ICU always says “aging is a privilege “. She often tells me about young people dying in car accidents. It helps me keep aging in perspective and appreciate being alive
I agree!. Look at younger people and celebrities who die young, some not from their own actions but as you say from accidents etc - we still get to be here today connecting over our thoughts on this video. I was also told once that it is not getting old that we should fear but should fear NOT being able to get older. To not have a long experience on earth. I myself have outlived others and I'm fortunate that I'm still getting the days I have waking up each morning. It's all in how we think about things and having the self love to treat ourselves the best we can through life ♥️
I’m 67 and don’t do anything. Fighting the inevitable, aging, is exhausting and pointless. For me, it is more pleasing to look at a peaceful face than a young face.
Yes we all age and will leave this life no matter what. Acceptance is also a thing of beauty as when you are more at peace you don't hold onto that stress of getting older. I just want to look good for my age as I go through time, not strive to look 25 again.
I'm 70 and have grey hair, wrinkles, and scars. They are all part of me and I have no thoughts of getting rid of any of them. The freedom this decision gives is huge and encompasses much more than just looks, as it allows me to be myself in every way. I'm happy for you that you've decided to buck the current trend and be yourself!
It’s pretty easy for them to “buck it”. Not easy for a less fortunate person.
I’m 68 and made this choice and 30 years ago. It is so freeing. Enjoy sweetie. It would be an uphill battle to constantly try to defy aging. At some point you won’t be able to and then your face ect will not even look like you. Embrace your age and love yourself 🙏❤️🤗
@@lorim805 Yes, it's all about loving yourself embracing whatever age you are and whatever the universe throws at you!
@@lorim805I'd say anyone at 68 has the face of a survivor. To have survived those 68 years of life experience and still be here. To me that shows great strength. I'm younger but if I'm fortunate enough to get to your age I'd like to think of how much I've survived living life and be proud I got to be an older age.
Aging is a gift. It means you lived long enough. I cant imagine women my grandmas age having this conversation. We didnt even have this conversation 40 years ago. Things have gone off the rails
Las mujeres grandes buscan jovenes de 40/50 años...
Oh, this has been going on forever. The Victorians took arsenic, the Egyptians used milk baths, and beauty creams have been found in Roman ruins. You can bet that most of our formothers talked about how to slow down the aging process.
@@ardethellis8930 milk... jajaja
Physical aging past a certain point is not a gift. Let’s be real here.
Especially for those who never got to freely experience their youth..but really for everyone to some extent, a body and brain in decline is not a pleasant thing.
@@ardethellis8930 Donkey milk, even
I am about to turn 68 this year. Occasionally, I look in the mirror and think my face looks old. Then I remember, "Oh, wait. I am old. I get to look old." even if I don't feel old.
I do remember being very concerned about aging when I was in my mid 30s. I did get my hair dyed for a while. But eventually, I just went natural.
One big thing has influenced my perspective on aging. I had "an a ha" moment at about 35 when I realized that my heros like Eleanor Roosevelt, Bella Abzug, Shirley Chisholm, or Golda Meir were neither beautiful nor young when they had the most impact in the world.
You, Vera, are having a lovely impact on the world. You will continue to look lovely regardless of the condition of your skin and body. ❤
Thank you Vera. You have made an impact.
Im 42. And I won't get botox either. That's ok for me to look older with age (it's just natural). I decided to focus on everyday care and also practise face joga, to help my face muscles work fine. And to use oil instead of a cream on my face. My skin is partly dry and partly oily and oil normalize it.
I think that''s not wrinkles that make us look older but lack of spark in the eye because we are tired or not happy. So let's take care of ourselves.
Love the message of taking care of ourselves 🥰💕🍵🌱
So true!!! Also, Face Yoga is Very, very helpful....its amazing in fact.
For me, it's the worry about things going wrong that puts me off, and that's why at 55 I've not had anything done. However, since menopause or perimenopause, it's not the wrinkles and grey hair that are aging me - it's how the face shape changes. The distribution of fat, slight jowls, things moving 'south' etc that bothers me - not wrinkles or grey hair. You're right in that aging is a gift and I am grateful for it - but sometimes it's hard to look in the mirror and see your face changing into an old person's face when you are still 'you' inside. Thank you for a thoughtful and well considered video.
Fifty- six here and soo agree with you. I'm too scared to have things done, but looking at a different face is shocking sometimes.
I don't recognize myself, either, and it seemed to happen overnight in my late 40s. I wish I could be in my 30s again. I am weighing my options at this point.
I'm 42 years old and my secret is that I'm very shortsighted and when I look in the mirror I don't see wrinkles 😂
Great analysis and thanks for being so candid! We need more pro-aging and age acceptance content like this on social media.
Thank you, so glad you enjoyed it! Have a lovely weekend
Have you ever met someone that you thought was so pretty, until you got to know them and then you looked at them and wondered why you used to think they were beautiful? I was in my twenties when I began to realize that what makes a person beautiful is who they are. Their love, kindness, caring heart, and joyful spirit is what is truly attractive. ~Connie
Absolutely. I can think of those I found attractive, who ended up being the ugliest of people. Not only were they ugly inside but it began to be visible on the outside. Also those who grew on me because of the spark they carry inside
I'm 60, and I have beautiful gray hair, wrinkly skin, lines on my face, and sinewy, veiny hands, and I LOVE THEM!!! I feel like I look honest and genuine and have character. I love looking like an old lady; it gives me "age cred." I have three cousins who all died from cancer before they aged enough to get wrinkles. It's good to be alive and old and wrinkly; the alternative really sucks. Being old, and having the signs of age on my body makes me proud that I've made it as long as I have. I hope to become wrinkly, kick-ass 90-something year old lady, before I die and I sure don't want to try to look younger. Seriously, what's the point? Our society needs to "get over" ageism; it's gross and disrespectful.
You are as young as you feel. I shared that when i was young and in school everyone told me to stop smiling and laughing. I smile with my eyes. I have many laugh lines and wrinkles. I am closing in on 70. Do i wish i looked like i did when i was 20? Of course. It would be odd with a 20 year old face and a 70 year old body. Ultimately it is not what we look like on the outside. It is how we feel, and care for ourselves and others that counts. The fountain of youth has been searched for forever. Growth needs to come from inside as we mature. Wrinkles show character. There is no stopping aging. Great video. I hope you make another when you turn 50 to see if you feel the same way. Laugh ladies and enjoy your life. It is very short. ☮️🌍🌲
Very worthwhile video! I’ve been thinking about the topic so much as I always thought I would embrace aging gracefully. As I approach 55, I’m discovering it’s quite a process to witness my own aging. It’s pretty intense watching my transformation into older age…hands, neck, face….especially because I do a lot of videos for my business , I can see in detail how the last 5 years have aged me. There’s a grief process in saying goodbye to one’s young self. I’m practicing embracing that too. It’s a daily practice to challenge the societal norms of disliking aging at my age, I’m finding. I still intend to never turn toward artificial anti aging measures. And I love to demonstrate for others that we can embrace ourselves looking however we do. Thank you for adding your voice to this mission of helping people be comfortable with themselves!❤
Wow I loved reading your comment and what you said about aging being a grief process in a way saying goodbye to one's young self. Very inspiring
I don’t think it’s the duty of the less fortunate and most affected to challenge the social norms.
Too exhausted trying to survive or grasp for crumbs.
At the same time, the people who do have the energy and the freedom to openly fight the status quo..tend to be the same people that benefit from it…so their arguments are either nonexistent or myopic to the point of being counterproductive or too ignorant to reach the necessary depth of conversation (for example, this video).
It’s easy for people to embrace good genetics and the fact that they experienced their youth to the point they’re less bothered and less “wanting” once it starts to fade. Not so easy for people who weren’t so lucky.
Yes, we all age, but people are not equal in their experiences or privileges or disadvantages which inform how they respond to the passage of time and its consequences.
It’s unfortunate that one of the only ways people can play catch up externally is the cosmetic surgery industry..because there are so many issues with it and so many people left worse off, along with stigma that makes it even harder for them to speak out.
Videos like this are not helping.
Ignoring other relevant factors.
I don’t like this whole “natural is superior” nonsense, we indulge in so much “artificial” in all areas of life..nobody has a right pretend being “natural” is their virtue.
It’s ridiculous and absurdly hypocritical.
@ccc-ct9tb. Did you intend this as a reply to my comment? I’m a little confused. And did you watch the whole video?
I am 44 and have always looked younger. But I've had grey hair for 20 years and used To dye. But last June I decided to stop dying. There is no problem with it, a female colleague told me that it looks very good on me 😊 grey or White hair is NORMAL just like wrinkles and cellulite.
I think you are right to not do it. I'm a few years younger than you and already gray haired after a big medical scare and i know that a lot of people, including a few of my students, asked me why i wouldn't dye my hair. I think the aging of the body is unavoidable, and the more peaceful we feel about that, the more relaxed we are ^^
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. It always surprises me that people ask those kinds of questions and apparently feel it's okay to comment about someone else's appearance, or ask about their choices in such a way. The choice to dye or not to dye is ours alone :) And I agree, I want to try and practice being peaceful and relaxed about aging. :) Hope you're doing well after your medical scare, wishing you a great weekend!
Thank you ❤ i'm perfectly fine, no worries! The gray hairs are the only consequences of the scare, and it actually has to do with the emotional shock, according to the medical team that helped me ^^
I can understand my students questions, though. I think they already are used to social media, TikTok and all, and for them, it probably seems very strange to be okay with signs of age on me, despite being younger than their parents 😂 i hope that my attitude will also impact them enough for them, when they will face the choice, to remember that not dying hair or not having botox and fillers is actually a choice they CAN make should they want to ^^
I love your exchange here and I completely agree.
I've had grey hair since I was about 17 so getting more nearing my fourth decade of life doesn't bother me. I hope one day to have a head full of white and silvery curls-if I could be so lucky.
Cheers!
People are more “peaceful” about it when they’ve already been able to thoroughly enjoy what they’re about to lose.
Not everyone has that luxury.
This is a complex issue that does not affect people equally.
Also, so much documentation in this day and age too. Even more for someone to be able to hold onto, over the years.
So amazing that I have been watching you ever since you were about 28. Time has flown by! EMBRACE your FACE, and age in GRACE. 🤗🙂
I’m going to be 42 this summer and I’ve thought a lot about aging since I turned 40. It was like a switch turned on the morning of my 40th birthday and suddenly I was consumed with thoughts on it. It was really weird lol. But anyway, I am not going to get anything “done” and I’ve also stopped dying my hair a couple months ago. I’ve dyed it for fun since I was a teenager and I’m finally giving it up. I want to watch and enjoy the process of seeing my gray hairs grow in over the next decades.
I live in SoCal where there’s a lot of cosmetic procedures and I’ve come to the realization that people look their age whether they have Botox or not. They just look like they’ve had Botox. I don’t really see the point.
Each to their own but I wouldn't want to get botox, fillers or any surgeries because I wouldn't want to alter my face. I want to keep the face I've had since I was born, wrinkles and all. I read a quote once: "Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many.” I've known a few people the same age as me who are no longer alive. I'm grateful to still be here, living this life. Wrinkles are the least of my worries 😊
Yes I agree. I had a friend who only got 29 years and tragically died of leukaemia and I'm lucky enough to be given the gift to still be here. I think society is so focussed on looking a certain way that they actually forget to be grateful that they are still alive each day. I think if we do our best to enjoy and embrace life, that glow will make us always look youthful ♥️
I decided that I’m just going to let myself age and not worry about wrinkles, losing my hair or whatever. I’m getting close to sixty but yet I don’t necessarily feel I’m 50. I work in a high school and around young adults who could be my grandchildren, but yet it keeps me feeling younger. I’ve also come to the understanding that I’m not here to impress anyone but myself so I’m happy with how I am and who I am. I am a grandparent and I don’t think I look like one, or like I saw my grandparents. I feel like they looked older than I do. I also know that it’s a perspective of how old I was at the time compared to how I see things now. Everyone needs to just feel good about themselves and if that means Botox, fillers, etc., than that’s fine. Good video!
I love this video!
I’m turning 69 this year and feel like I’m 33! People think I’m in my 50’s.. I believe it is because I have a young spirit!
I’m aging gracefully and POWERFULLY! All my wrinkles are a tribute to my laughter and feeling life.. I would not want these deleted from my face.
I would not get any Botox or fillers because of the health risks. Financially, I would invest in memories with my loved ones and experiences, not facial expressions.
I eat healthy and exercise regularly. I choose to live a peaceful and healthy lifestyle.
My 70’s will be my best years yet. I’m excited for this season in my life!
Most of the women I know have had body, facial surgery… Botox , fillers. That’s ok. Im not judging them ..To each their own.
My laugh lines are my legacy!😊
It shows you are "happy" and it can't get any better than that!
Oh Vera, I’m so glad you posted this today! I turn 35 tomorrow and have been getting freaked out…partly because I don’t feel ‘accomplished’ enough for someone this age (that’s a different topic!), but I’ve noticed signs of aging in myself physically too, and am aware that this is stereotypically the age that women ‘stop being attractive’. It is a shame because I believe our true value lies in our kindness rather than the way we look, but I have clearly been affected by these negative (and untrue) messages in society around aging - especially as I am an actress!
I resonate with everything you say, and have chosen to steer clear of these procedures for the same reasons. I especially like the part about choosing gratitude and excitement over loss and fear 🤍 and I too feel younger at heart, that’s all that matters! Also, a couple of former colleagues of mine died suddenly within the past year, who were around the same age as us, and that has helped me remember that getting older is a gift and we need to embrace all we have, wrinkles and all 😉 Thank you Vera, this video has really soothed me and I’m sure it will encourage others to reflect wisely on whether to have these procedures or not. Big love from Bath in England! 🛁 🏴 🤗
This is what true beauty is. I used to believe I need 10 different skin care products to be a certain way, but the more I stopped doing and reduced it to 2 basic things, I feel liberated! ❤ My skin performs better, I do see myself age and change but it’s natural. What’s the point in fighting that right? The moment you realise that the beauty industry wants to make money off of you not actually help you, that’s when you’re free. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Vera❤
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! Definitely important to keep in mind that sometimes, less is more and simplified routines are the easiest to keep up in the long run :) Have a wonderful rest of your weekend!
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I never wanted to get Botox, I feels you never know what the side effects of these drugs are completely, about two days ago I seen a news article saying that there have been botulism cases reported, and their investigating with the source of the Botox came from and also what you said about the 10 year old girls and Sephora is completely sad to think that these young girls instead of enjoying the youth and having fun they’re already worried about how they’re going look, Parents really do need to teach their children that they are perfect just the way they are. I have been dying my hair for many years now, but I’m almost ready to give that up also
Only because there are a lot of chemicals in the dye and to be honest, I’m just tired of doing it 😖 I never thought I would be 65 but here I am and I’m happy that I made it to this age, my mom passed away at 65 from cancer and so I feel blessed to have each and every day that I am alive and very grateful 🩷
Acceptance is beauty ♥️
A few years ago when I treated myself to a facial at a local clinic they also offered a skin analysis photo type of thing that showed what the skin really looked like, horrifying. As I was also due to have a followup appointment with my dermatologist I mentioned it to him and showed him the photo to which he said, "Take no notice of them at all, it was all a gimmick and to delete the photo." Immediately I felt so much better.
My parents who lived until late 90's lived by their words, "If you say you are old, you will become old." I will never forget those words.
I love your parents phrase about if you say you are old, you will become old......so so true. Words are things! When I say my age at 68.......I say I'm 68 years YOUNG!
I really enjoyed this video Vera! When I was a teenager I was very insecure and wanted to change my entire face shape by getting plastic surgeries. Now at 23 years old I no longer dream of getting work done. I am learning how to accept and honour the features I was given.
Thank you Natalia! That's a good point, I also remember wanting to get some things done in my teens, and I was actually researching when to start doing botox back then. Puberty can be rough...
So funny that this posted on my birthday. 😂
Why does society judge women so harshly, making them feel like they are “not enough”.
Comparison robs you of happiness. Be you!
Compliments on your decision to think critically about what is best for you. As someone approaching 60 and contemplated the pressure of marketing in all its forms, I also decided that “turning back the clock” isn’t something in which I want to invest. I will invest in making my life a beautiful legacy of love, laughter, generosity, support, integrity, and living in a way that glorifies the God who created me. I’d be lying if I said there aren’t times I cringe at some of the changes in my skin and body (and mind!), but the up side is that as I embrace even the uncomfortable sides of life, I found an unexpected transformation in seeing the beauty of others and myself in who they are and not what they look like. I have far more confidence than ever before and am loving who I am much more than I ever did when I was a young “beautiful” woman. Remember that none of us is guaranteed tomorrow, or health or anything else. Embrace today!
Love what you shared, thanks so much. Especially love the part about love, laughter, generosity, support and integrity. ❤️
Thanks Vera for not going with the "aging gracefully", I agree with you. I'm 56 and at around age 45 I had surgery on my upper lid to remove excess skin. I did it because I could feel that skin when I blinked and it became uncomfortable. After tons of research I chose the highest ranked surgeon in that field, and I couldn't be happier with the results still years later. I let my hair go grey during the pandemic and I'm rocking it with a stylish hairstyle, some wrinkles and lipstick 😂
We are very similar-minded on this. I’ve never even considered it
When you mentioned not feeling 36, I smiled because I tell people I feel 35 and I'm 30 years past that. Our brain doesn't always align with our chronological age, but I think of it as keeping that energy. You summarized a great deal of what is considered, both personally and societally, re women, aging and the quest for youth. Thank you. I have chosen not to get procedures, but I sure wish there was a cream for marionette lines that can make me look angry when I'm not. Still working on finding peace with that one. :)
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! Glad you enjoyed the video 🤗🌱💕 Have a wonderful day!
Haven't watched yet but I applaud you for taking on this topic! I am turning 29 soon and have also decided that it's not for me. (I once got my upper lip hair waxed and had an identity crisis… so…)
Edit: I really love that you didn't comment on whether it looks good on people. You approached the topic gracefully.
Hahaha thank you 🤗 🍵
Thanks for reminding people that nobody is forcing them to watch this stuff on social media. It is trending to do all of this but honestly I live in NYC and don’t personally know anyone doing this. I’m not in those type circles and most people aren’t either. And please, children shopping at Sephora is a rich baby thing. The average elementary school kid is lucky if they can pick out cosmetics at the drugstore. It’s still very rare even in a big city with a lot of wealth. So the whole perception that “everyone” is doing it is a lie. But if you are constantly watching content that shows it, you feel it’s everywhere. The average person is just trying to get by in this economy and doesn’t have time or interest in such frivolity. I’m into fashion and beauty and just focus on skin care. I’ve used sunscreen, tretinoin and chemical exfoliants for years as “anti-aging” along with hydration and those are cheap solutions with proven results. Even body care now has exfoliants to help with keeping the skin fresh and can be found cheap. People just want to overcomplicate things and the problem is often mental health, not aesthetics.
I've been following you for quite sometime now... I takes courage to show your 'NOT' so good looking pictures without fear of being judged. I really respect you! ❤❤❤
I think aging should be celebrated. I am 45. My skin is not perfect. I have sunspots and some discoloration. I do wear makeup, which covers some of these marks; however, I would not consider Botox or surgery. I am fine with the fact that my skin looks 45 and not 25. I also worry about the consequences of Botox and various treatments. I would hate to have some type of permanent damage done to my skin or body. That being said, I don’t judge those that have had Botox or other treatments. I feel it is a very individual choice.
Couldn't agree more :) Well said!
You are beautiful, courageous, and an inspiration to me. No to toxins. Keep up a joyful, simple lifestyle and things will unfold gently. Getting older is an interesting process and very freeing in its own way. ❤
Love this video because I feel like not enough people are talking about this. It’s scary to me how much focus there is on looking young on Instagram and TikTok. I am 27 years old and I already feel like I should’ve started Botox years ago when I look at the video’s on TikTok.
One thing that has been helpful is following people on SM that are older. Following women specifically that are embracing their gray hair and their aging makes aging seem less scary. So if someone isn't willing to quit SM completely, that may help. The beauty of doing this is that you'll keep receiving recommendations of older people living their lives.
I agree with you and you handled a very sensitive topic really well! I haven’t and wouldn’t get fillers or injections either. The side effects and health risks are a big part of why. I’m a big chicken and glad about it. LOL! Another reason is the upkeep: these procedures are not cheap and I’d rather spend my money elsewhere. Also, I do not like having appointments to keep in my personal time that aren’t absolutely necessary. My professional life is full of appointments and meetings. I want my schedule to be as free as possible everywhere else in my world. Lastly, I prefer my own face as imperfect as it may be. 😊 Great video, Vera❤
Hi Vera. Your videos have become my Saturday morning go-to, setting the tone for the rest of my day & weekend. I love snuggling under a blanket with my dog and a cup of tea and just breathing in your calm, sensible talks. So refreshing compared to all the “noise” out there trying to sell us products and perspectives that don’t serve us. I’ll be fifty this year and have seriously considered nasolabial fillers - even went for a consultation - but that’s as far as it got. Self-acceptance is free (and freeing) so I chose that option instead.❤🇨🇦🥰
Well done….. I applaud you 👏
I’ve never even considered any procedures like this. I don’t even wear make-up. It’s sad that we don’t want to look our age. I take pride in my age. Not everyone gets that opportunity.
Wow, didn't know that there are still some normal people left out there! 👍
How did you manage to escape the main stream? 🏃♀️
One of my teachers in high school told us she was committed to not smiling (or frowning, but emphasized smiling) so she wouldn’t get wrinkles. It broke my heart, but also made me more determined to smile and laugh way more.
I'm 41 and what I regret is not listening to my body and accumulating damage by pushing through what was just a minor injury to leave lasting impacts.
When I think I may have another 40 odd years in this body, then I wish I'd looked after it more so far. I've learnt the hard way.
I want a body that allows me to live my life (nothing spectacular) with energy and not in pain for as long as possible.
As for looks, learning to appreciate the human behind the mirror without anyone's validation is most important. If we just use looks or aging as another stick to beat ourselves with, it's a sad life. What can grow stronger and stronger, is our inner person and that's always in our power.
Fabulous video, and thank you for stating your views. I am hoping a “going natural” trend begins to blossom. I think you are right that women- especially younger women tend to follow the crowd whether they agree with it or not. As you stated, they don’t want to be the only one not doing it. That is unfortunate.
What a great video!!!
I remember a friend of mine from years ago, who was diagnosed as anorexic, saying she always looks fat in the mirror.
It made me think that people who get a lot of ‘work’ done are a bit the same sometimes…. For example they don’t see how ‘too much’ filler in their lips can look unattractive. I think they may still see their thinner lips when they look in the mirror. Do you think that’s possible?
You said that you don’t feel 36. Well from this point on you will never feel any older inside (your head). You may have more aches and pains, and yes, lines. But you’ll be the same person inside your head…. with more experience and confidence. It’s going to become more and more obvious… like you said, not thinking about your looks (checking yourself out in mirrors and window reflections). You won’t believe the level of confidence you’ll attain! I think that life became way more amazing after my 40’s. I’m 71 now and I’m still the same person I was at 35…. but better….. even without Botox or fillers!
PS: As far as looks go, I don’t think you’ve reached your full potential yet. You have a bone structure that will look great for years to come.
"What we give attention to, will grow (11:28)", I'm ok. I'm 39 soon but I feel not very concerned with my age, for example by practicing sport with the goal to loose some belly volume^^
We should accept that the youth go by, and enjoy each present moment. You have reason not to spend your thousands euros for botox or fillers, because the more you do injections the more you will feel insecure, as the years go by. Just accepting the age we are is ok. Every day is a gift and could be the last one. And yes when we are aging (not everybody I'm ok) we tend to become more wise or more sure about what we want and what we don't want. Not me, I acknowledge I'm always very undecided and hesitant😅
I wish you to have a long life, full of beautiful experiences Vera 🙏💞
I'm happy to follow you on your channel.
I will age naturally with you! I am 37 and absolutely will not get injections. I recently tried a resurfacing serum that apparently had retinol...and every night I tried it, I woke up with shortness of breathe! Some people react strangely to retinol and I am one of them. I do not want to go down that road of spending money on products that apparently keep you younger. Simple facewash and moisturizer for me...done and done! I am not going grey yet but refuse to dye my hair when I do.
I am 66 yrs old and do the best I can to stay as healthy as possible. People tell me I don’t look my age as they initially think I am about 50yrs.
I have never had any plastic surgery or Botox etc but I think I am just very lucky with my skin.
My hair is still it’s natural colour of mid brown ( with a few grey hairs but not many) so I don’t have to dye or think whether I want to dye my hair atm.
I would be lying if I said I don’t mind looking older, and I do envy young people as they look so lovely, youthful etc, and I do miss being young - but equally I feel I am blessed to age, as unfortunately many people don’t get that chance.
I was always taught by my parents to have inner confidence and I think that has helped, because it’s about more than just physical beauty, or youth.
I also made the most of each stage I was at, I think that helped as well.
Looking back now I would still make the decision not to have plastic surgery or fillers etc, because once you start you have to keep going with it. I also feel that work like this can ( not always) make people look very fake and thats not a good look imo.
Youth is part of life and so is ageing, it’s not just our looks that fail with age, it’s also our physical abilities and this is a lot to deal with.
I think the best we can do is to try:-
Make the most of our youth and energy while we have it
Do the best we can to stay as healthy and physically fit as possible
Not judge ourselves or let others judge us purely on our physical appearance
Appreciate the lessons life has taught us
Appreciate our bodies for all that they have done to get us to old age
There are so many positive things I could say about this wonderful video. It makes me so happy that this video, that offers such wonderful reasons to choose not to have botox and fillers, is out in the world to give people an alternative that they may otherwise not have considered. While I was watching I couldn't stop thinking about the Japanese art of Kintsugi, where cherished items that are worn or damaged through use or accident, are pieced together, lacquered and the joins are highlighted in gold. The history and use of the piece is not hidden or covered over but beautified. The most significant people in my life were my grandparents, who both lived long and sometimes difficult lives - my grandad lived to be 101 years old. They were beautiful people who made the world a million times better by their being part of it. Because of them and their example I see aging as a great privilege and I see genuine beauty in it.
No one needs anything to prevent the look of aging because for thousands of years people aged with out the need of this type of thing I feel. Also in the long run it’s only a short temporary fix cuz at some point you can not keep trying to counteract your bodies natural corse of physical changes from aging. When and if you make it to like 85. Just let life be life the way it’s always been.
Btw wow you are so pretty! My goodness. Good video!
This is a very important and inspiring video! Thank you for all the time you put into making this, I love that its a slightly different topic than usual on your channel, I would love to see more videos like this about your thoughts on other areas of life ❤❤ you are very wise and grounded, thank you for continuing to support good values and being a fantastic role model!
-Sincerely a 27 year old
As far as botox and fillers I agree that they are not for me. I have considered other cosmetic procedures such as getting a nose job because I have felt self conscious and like I dont fit societys standard for beauty. But it becomes such a slippery slope once you start to do body modifications and we keep chasing this dream of perfection that really cant be achieved anyway. I love your comment about everyone having a unique and different face and I agree, it is so lovely to see when people display who they truly are instead of trying to hide behind a mask. Its all about self confidence in the end.
I’ve just turned 31 and I have started noticing some more fine lines, but generally feel like I still look pretty young. I also don’t want Botox and fillers for all the same reasons as you. The heath risks are a major turn off, I don’t love that people are morphing into the same person (celebrities in particular) and I don’t think I could personally justify the costs/maintenance
I'm 65 and have often wanted to have something done to feel better since I'm divorced and trying to meet a nice guy. However... I agree ,we're obsessed with looking young, and it's shallow and ridiculous. If you're healthy and happy you're lucky, and really I try not to care anymore. There are far more important things in life than my looks. Getting old is part of nature , the wrinkles and scars are evidence that I've lived, laughed, cried. People should stop putting so much emphasis on looks and more in character and as a person.
I had botox and lip filler once. Didnt do it again, its like chasing your own tail. Never ends. Its super expensive and evenually it makes people look very unnatural and alien like. I am very happy to get older, its a blessing
Thank you for this thoughtful and informative video.
I loved it as always.
Yeah, I'd rather stay natural and risk free than look "younger".
I practice Qigong with people around 60~90 years old, mostly women. I learned from them that if you have a healthy mind then you look juuuust FINE😊
I had wrinkles around my eyes as very young age like 7. One day my aunt took me on her lap and said,
"oh you have those wrinkles around your eyes, I love that because that means you laugh a lot!"
Thanks aunt😁
The beauty industry exists to separate you from your hard earned money by convincing you that things that aren't actually problems are terrible problems. Resist!
Watching my mother age and becoming more lovely with her wrinkles and her hair turning gray made me not fear my aging, yet I personally feel the changes, and appreciate the “privilege of aging”, and so thankful to hear another lovely woman talk about accepting herself, with artificial augmentation.
Excellent video. I am 52 and will be aging naturally. As so many have mentioned, again is a gift that many don’t get a chance to get ❤
My 100% support to you! I think exactly the same - this is not for me.
Also, I'm really curious how I'm going to look when I'm older, and the only way to know your real older face - is to wait for it without any procedures :)
Thank you Vera for your insight. Aging is a gift. I could think of worse thing's happening to me than me getting older. We need to be happy in our skin and love ourselves just as we are. I'm 74 years old. I got wrinkles and gray hair and I love myself just as I am. ❤
This is a lovely, uplifting vid! 💚
Being 41 now, this kind of stuff has been on my mind A LOT but, really, I’m most interested in seeing how good I can look naturally from a healthy lifestyle. I also just can’t afford procedures. Thanks for your refreshing perspective, pretty lady. ✨
Great video!! This kind of video is very much needed in the world. You've covered all the important points. I especially appreciate the discussion of side effects & things gone wrong, as well as the discussion of self-esteem, confidence, Authentic faces, & making your own decisions which lead to being able to take the best care of yourself possible.
Very thoughtful and thought-provoking video, Vera. I am 21 years older than you. I agree with everything you said in this video. I have never done botox, fillers, etc. I just use basic skin care. I prefer to keep "young" looking from the inside: healthy plant-based eating, drinking lots of water, abstaining from alcohol, getting plenty of sleep, exercising a bit every day in the fresh air. Take care of your health, and the rest is up to nature and genetics. I have better things to do with my time, energy, and money than obsess over my appearance. I find it more important to focus on my inner life: learning, being a good person, being an asset to others in some way. I also love that you talk about how aging is a privilege that is denied to many. Wars, infectious disease, and famine around the world deny a natural lifespan to many people. Even in parts of the world that do not have these problems, life is easily cut short. I see this every day in my work as an oncology nurse. Aging is a gift, even if it does not always look pretty.
Love your genuine and kind sharing, as always!❤ Your follower from Hong Kong 😊
This video really helped me. Thank you! Please keep making videos :)
I love the way you expressed this. I have always felt exactly the same way.
Thank you for sharing this video Vera! It was so refreshing. I am 59 years old and have the same outlook as you do about aging. I see it as an adventure to be discovered and embraced. I do dye my hair with a healthier hairdye but don't feel it's necessary to wear makeup. Rather I wear a cheerful countenance, smiling and laughing lots, embracing each day with gratitude and thanksgiving for the gift of life! You are truly a blessing Vera! Have a good week. ❤😊Sue
Great video. I did not know about some of the side effects 😱
I really hope more information like this will make its way to the public because at the moment botox and fillers are presented like the holy grail of youth.
I totally agree with all that you said Vera..thank you. ❤
Very informative video! I definitely needed to hear this as I also thought about getting it, but my thoughts are completely changed! Thank you.
your hair is so prettyyyyy 😭😭😭😭
Amazing video. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for helping us to understand Botox , fillers etc. xx
It’s amazing when you think about age this particular moment and YT gives you this video 🥰
great video, thank you for sharing your take!
Very good video Vera !!.....Simplicity is a fashion not everyone can afford 😊 ....I also love to live simply....it's so liberating indeed
Thank you so much! Have a wonderful day
Hey, Vera! Thanks for this video 😊
Can you do a video about finding love in life from your perspective? I'm 23 now, and I don't have a boyfriend. Most of the time, I feel enough and happy, but I wish I could experience love too.
Great topic❤Self massage is actually good tool to relax face muscles❤Thank you, Vera❤Adore your content, especially on tips for HSP❤❤❤More of it pleaseee❤
I just turned 70 two weeks ago and I must say this is the best season of my life so far. I am savoring every minute of every day and am so grateful to be alive and healthy. True, aging comes with its own challenges, but I have gained a wiser and brighter perspective over the years. I am now focusing on what truly matters. Keep smiling and finding joy in the simple things.
I will be 44 this year. I had a total hysterectomy for medical reasons a few years ago and so I'm aging a lot sooner. I won't use botox and fillers, but I do use Frownies for my frown lines (cornstarch, paper, water - to retrain the forehead muscles to release tension, relax, and lay flat.) and face yoga to sculpt the face. And it really works for me! I started using Frownies after seeing photos of myself where I just looked angry all the time!
Also, I wanted to share this: I work in a nursing home and I always tell my residents - there is no such thing as old, only older :)
Thank you so much for the time and effort you took to make this video. This is such an important topic.
So when I was younger I was totally against botox and fillers, and definitely in a judgy way! But I am 63, and my situation is that my husband looks much younger than I--I am white and he has black skin, which as you probably know, does not show age as easily. It has been bothering me, so I did go ahead with the procedures, with a reputable cosmetic surgeon. TBH, I am very happy with the results and my self-esteem and confidence have been boosted, as lame as that may sound! I do not dye my hair and have a lot of gray, which doesn't bother me. I personally feel that dyed dark hair only accentuates aging skin in older white women. For yourself, you may change your mind later, and if you do that is totally OK. I am proof that one should never say never!😉
Thanks Vera. Been thinking a bit about it lately, as like you, I'm getting closer and closer to 40s. I decided on aging naturally as the idea having any of these procedures done makes me feel uneasy - and I hate needles etc.. so it's a given for me! Happy to see there are other people on the same wavelength, as social media makes us think we're the only ones!
Thank you for this thoughtful, insightful video, Vera! I'm only a few years younger than you, and I'm also adjusting to the beginning signs of aging. I have a scattering of grey hairs growing already, and I'm actually fond of them. I try to take care of my skin (primarily by wearing sunscreen!), eat well, and stay hydrated. These habits are good for me holistically, not just for my looks! Change can be difficult and intimidating, but beautiful too.
I really love your outlook on life. This was such a beautiful and educational video. I like that you mentioned that we get older if we are lucky. That is so true, my mother only lived to the age of 42. How I wish she lived long enough to see her hair turn grey and wrinkles spread across her face. ❤️
Great video! I just turned 50yo and am glad I show signs of aging. It reminds me of my life's experiences and lessons that I don't want to forget. I also don't care what people think like I used to when I was in my 20s & lower 30s - that's a big relief. take care
Thank you so much for this. You are aging well and appear to be a very calm person. I love watching your videos.
Thank you so much Pamela! 🤗🌱
Beauty to ashes is what came to mind. I love the fact that you are embracing aging, I am 45, and I am comfortable in my own skin. However, this was a long, hard journey to come to this point. Thank you for sharing this video.
Thank you for this 🥰🙏🙏🙏
LOVED this video. We just need to accept who we are and quit always trying to look like everyone else. Just be you. I know people who get it done and I can't help but wonder if down the road, they are going to regret it. And when you added it all up--yowsa! I too can think of a whole lot of things I would rather use that money for as well.
You are awesome. So much confidence and being comfortable in your skin is amazing. I've had nothing done to my face, no fillers or botox or anything. But I love antiaging products. I notice a difference in my skin texture and I look about 10 years younger than I am. I know this might be negating what your video is about, but I do like to look like how I feel. I don't feel 53, I feel about 40, so why not look like it? Serums are so good for your skin and have benefitted me so much.
Keep up the journey of empowering women and their looks!
I think it depends a lot of the people you are surrounded with, I dont have any people around me who use botox and such, but they are all teachers, hikers, biologist, people who dont really care about their own or someone elses looks in general. So that makes it easier I guess, also here in the east of the Netherlands (Arnhem) I dont see many people in the street who had their faces done, maybe its more a western\big city thing.
But all in all its everyones own choice, though i think most people who had done things to their face dont look younger: they look like an old person who has done procedures. 🤷♀️
(And for people who say: 'you can not see it on me' thats simply not true, you see it emediately, its just that if you have a lot of people aound you who have had surgery you are used to seing faces like that, other people see it right away because for them its not 'normal.'
Great video. Lot's of love from Germany ❤
Thank you Stefanie 🤗🍵❤️ Have a great day!
@@SimpleHappyZen Have a great day too, thank you. ❤️🙂
Great and beautiful video ❤
I totally agree with yours ideias about botox and fillers.
I am 42 and I also have chosen to age naturally.
Aging is a privilege and as an artist, authentic faces and bodies is a must for my models. To me, authentic caracter will always be better than altered beauty.
Thank you so much for making this video! I really, really needed it! I turn 35 this month so I'm around your age and I definitely noticed changes to my skin. Hitting my thirties was very hard for me, and I feel like I haven't accepted myself and all of my new fine lines, wrinkles, etc. I guess I just needed someone to tell me it's OK to age! I am very expressive with my face so the lines are definitely showing and I love your perspective. I also have Grey hair coming in that I cover by adding blonde highlights to my already dark blonde hair. :) but I think it's time to stop worrying if I look "young." I'm not 20, like you said, I'm a whole teenager older than 20!
Love your perspective and content. ❤
6:15 such a graceful way to approach this particular topic.
I can tell you have thought about this a lot dear Vera. I hope time brings you all the confidence, wisdom and peace you need, so that you don't even have to think about these trends anymore 🙂 Love from Germany
I really appreciate this video. I used to be insecure and obsessed with looking younger and had lots of fillers over the years. I'm 51. I look great for my age even without anything. Last February, I got a terrible face infection due to lingering filler and probably some kind of bacteria that dry in maybe from a sinus infection. I looked like the elephant woman. My face was a horror picture for a month. I had to get 2 rounds of steroid injections , 3 rounds of oral antibiotics and oral steroids and even then I was still in danger of it spreading to my brain. It's NOT worth it!! WE as a societyneed to get real, learn m self acceptance and start honoring the song process. Thank you!!