Silence is gold indeed. It can be a very useful weapon when confronting nervous individuals seeking to throw you out of your balance, for what they seek is a reaction as agitated and violent as the way they address you, but if the only thing they get is silence, that means they could not load you with all their negativity, so that it bounces right back to them, driving them into madness. I remember my parents getting incredibly nervous at my silence when they were reprimanding me for something. Lack of reaction can have a massive impact on the other individual trying to vent their stress on you.
I believe I am an IFNJ but I didn't recognize myself in this video. I am most of the time silent in work meetings and speak if I think it is necessary to express my point of view. But in arguments, I will talk back if I disagree as I hate unfairness. As said also in another comment, I tend to finish other's sentences. I try to restrain myself on that matter because I think I am being rude. It happens when I guess what the person want to say but I am in a hurry or when I lose patience.
these videos try to explain infjs so logically and in such cold manner, that they miss the real understanding of what makes us this way. To me, all these explanations feel really disconnected from how we truly are. For example, in this video, silence is not only explained as our biggest power (which is not) but also explained as how it makes us more intriguing to others. However, silence is not the strongest power we have, INTUITION is, and we base everything on it, including these moments of silence. And, we are not silent just to appear more interesting, it is actually a deep need for quietude our brain has, as well as for lots of space and time needed to go within to process, reflect, understand and decide the next step. So silence is the result of our thinking and sensing intuitive mode, not something we create in order to be different.
Since my preteens, I’ve been content with my own company, and preferred it, over desiring to be in a group, with lots of drama. Even though I’ve been on sports/academic/community teams, and can thrive there, I always know, that it’s for the accomplishment of a specific purpose/goal. Once that thing is completed, I can’t usually stay consistently engaged with the group. Without the goal, as the focus, the human interaction becomes overwhelming. I’m 60 now, and continue to become more, and more comfortable, with “being silent”, in social settings, and with more alone time.
I have many friends who are performers, actors and alpha personality types. I have always realized that I attract them because they quickly see that I am an a mere audience member who will never compete with them or their presence. They get to shine and I get to people watch and give my support and approval but never take their limelight. It works for everyone involved.
I am an INFJ It is definitely up there There was a time when my nurse friend needed to make major decisions about an aged and dying dog. I sat there and gave her my full attention for a good 45 minutes while she problem solved
This video seems a bit idealized. My observations of silent types, especially in group settings, is they usually become invisible. If people do take notice of their silence, it isn't usually because it casts some powerful mystique. The comments I've observed about silent types at work and social settings range from they are shy and inept to they don't want to talk to people (snobbery). Not interrupting is always a good habit, but due to the constant active mind soup of some INFJ, I've seen them interrupt others. It seems to occurs when their mind is whirling and they already know what you're going to say before you finished saying it. And yes they usually were right about what the person is going to say but they did interrupt/overtalk a person. Also the several INFJs I've come across not one just stared silently as someone ranted at them in a rage. They responded back, but it was calmly, and this made the yelling person look even more like a disregulated idiot. This video's ideas are nice, but it's a fantasy. I've yet to see silence, perfect listening, and mystery combined as the video describes. I do agree that silence is a preference of the introverted personality, but it will manifest in various ways from person to person.
Thumbs down for inaccuracy and lack of insight. You should had an INFJ make this video so it would be good instead of crap. If you add words in like "can" and "may" to illustrate when silence is valuable over destructive and dangerous then this video would not be in the horrible shape that it is. Silence kills, like when people look away while people suffer, silence does not offer insight or aid to those whom need, want, or seek it. Silence can be an evil choice a d is more often used to abuse than to help anyone, I suspect.
Silence is gold indeed. It can be a very useful weapon when confronting nervous individuals seeking to throw you out of your balance, for what they seek is a reaction as agitated and violent as the way they address you, but if the only thing they get is silence, that means they could not load you with all their negativity, so that it bounces right back to them, driving them into madness. I remember my parents getting incredibly nervous at my silence when they were reprimanding me for something. Lack of reaction can have a massive impact on the other individual trying to vent their stress on you.
The best response to a fool is silence..you are heard loud and clear.👍🏼😁😸😸
Beg to differ. Intuition. That I can't explain. But holds true the vast majority of the time.
Great point! And without the necessary moments of silence, intuition would easily be clouded 😌
Silence is golden for an INFJ. Absolutely agree with #7.
SILENCE SPEAKS VOLUMES
Thank you so much Sir!❤
I believe I am an IFNJ but I didn't recognize myself in this video. I am most of the time silent in work meetings and speak if I think it is necessary to express my point of view. But in arguments, I will talk back if I disagree as I hate unfairness. As said also in another comment, I tend to finish other's sentences. I try to restrain myself on that matter because I think I am being rude. It happens when I guess what the person want to say but I am in a hurry or when I lose patience.
these videos try to explain infjs so logically and in such cold manner, that they miss the real understanding of what makes us this way. To me, all these explanations feel really disconnected from how we truly are. For example, in this video, silence is not only explained as our biggest power (which is not) but also explained as how it makes us more intriguing to others. However, silence is not the strongest power we have, INTUITION is, and we base everything on it, including these moments of silence. And, we are not silent just to appear more interesting, it is actually a deep need for quietude our brain has, as well as for lots of space and time needed to go within to process, reflect, understand and decide the next step. So silence is the result of our thinking and sensing intuitive mode, not something we create in order to be different.
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Letting people dig their own holes, especially Narcissists, is kind of cathartic.
Since my preteens, I’ve been content with my own company, and preferred it, over desiring to be in a group, with lots of drama. Even though I’ve been on sports/academic/community teams, and can thrive there, I always know, that it’s for the accomplishment of a specific purpose/goal. Once that thing is completed, I can’t usually stay consistently engaged with the group. Without the goal, as the focus, the human interaction becomes overwhelming. I’m 60 now, and continue to become more, and more comfortable, with “being silent”, in social settings, and with more alone time.
I have many friends who are performers, actors and alpha personality types. I have always realized that I attract them because they quickly see that I am an a mere audience member who will never compete with them or their presence. They get to shine and I get to people watch and give my support and approval but never take their limelight. It works for everyone involved.
Thxs for the Video...
Ahhh 😮. Extraverted sensing
Lack of confidence!? I beg to differ! LOL
Ok Ok I got it I'll shut up 😅
lol
😂
AS AN INFJ. I. AGREE. THAT. SILENCE IS THE MOST VALUABLE POWER
So me 😮😅
I am an INFJ
It is definitely up there
There was a time when my nurse friend needed to make major decisions about an aged and dying dog. I sat there and gave her my full attention for a good 45 minutes while she problem solved
This video seems a bit idealized. My observations of silent types, especially in group settings, is they usually become invisible. If people do take notice of their silence, it isn't usually because it casts some powerful mystique. The comments I've observed about silent types at work and social settings range from they are shy and inept to they don't want to talk to people (snobbery).
Not interrupting is always a good habit, but due to the constant active mind soup of some INFJ, I've seen them interrupt others. It seems to occurs when their mind is whirling and they already know what you're going to say before you finished saying it. And yes they usually were right about what the person is going to say but they did interrupt/overtalk a person. Also the several INFJs I've come across not one just stared silently as someone ranted at them in a rage. They responded back, but it was calmly, and this made the yelling person look even more like a disregulated idiot.
This video's ideas are nice, but it's a fantasy. I've yet to see silence, perfect listening, and mystery combined as the video describes. I do agree that silence is a preference of the introverted personality, but it will manifest in various ways from person to person.
Thumbs down for inaccuracy and lack of insight.
You should had an INFJ make this video so it would be good instead of crap.
If you add words in like "can" and "may" to illustrate when silence is valuable over destructive and dangerous then this video would not be in the horrible shape that it is.
Silence kills, like when people look away while people suffer, silence does not offer insight or aid to those whom need, want, or seek it.
Silence can be an evil choice a d is more often used to abuse than to help anyone, I suspect.