"Marriage is Never 50/50." - Brené Brown | The Tim Ferriss Show
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- Tim Ferriss is one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People” and an early-stage tech investor/advisor in Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Shopify, Duolingo, Alibaba, and 50+ other companies. He is also the author of five #1 New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers: The 4-Hour Workweek, The 4-Hour Body, The 4-Hour Chef, Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors. The Observer and other media have named him “the Oprah of audio” due to the influence of his podcast, The Tim Ferriss Show, which has exceeded 900 million downloads and been selected for “Best of Apple Podcasts” three years running.
Sign up for "5-Bullet Friday" (Tim's free weekly email newsletter): go.tim.blog/5-...
Follow the Tim Ferriss Podcast: tim.blog/podcast/
Visit the Tim Ferriss Blog: tim.blog/
Follow Tim Ferriss on Twitter: / tferriss
Follow Tim Ferriss on Instagram: / timferriss
Like Tim Ferriss on Facebook: / timferriss
![ARGENTINA vs. CHILE [3-0] | RESUMEN | ELIMINATORIAS SUDAMERICANAS | FECHA 7](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/De3AWmXzhuA/mqdefault.jpg)
I watched this about a year ago and told my husband about it. We implemented it and usually use it on days where one of us doesn't feel well so that the other one knows where you are at. And whenever we both feel around 20 we just know to excuse the other ones behaviour and not to react badly because it has nothing to do with you. It was the best advice I ever heard. ❤
Aw I love this keep slaying
Plan of kindness ❤
Plan of Karen.
A very rare incidence...to have a spouse that understands and adopts this.
We need to teach children how to negotiate emotional contingency plan. That is definitely sustainable , practical and mature way to deal with negative emotions while going through tough times in life.
My PRAYERS for your mother, Ms.Brown,I hope she feels better Very Soon. You Are So Wise,you are a Social Worker,We Are Wise People,Ms.Brown.Peace,Love, Kindness,Caring for you and your family.
Thank you for sharing this and for being you !
I love Berné Brown. She speaks nothing but the truth.
My husband gives 💯 and expects me to give 💯 , 💯 of the time
That is a solid way to describe a 50 /50. It only not 50/50 when one person is always carrying the other.
Wonderful no entitlement just room for love.
Exactly - it's not about keeping score, it's about loving each other and doing the best you can for yourself and your partner to create a healthy, strong and caring relationship.
Brene Brown keepin' it real!
Everyone cover each other because it's a team with the goal of making the team stronger (or at the very least not fail). Most partners excel in different things and are terrible at others. Just have emotional maturity and communicate what's up.
I wish I had someone to take the slack.
This is the most genius thing I have heard in a long time! WOW!!!!
Love it. Moves that potential frustration and resentment into compassion and empathy and keeps you both on the same team. I'm gonna discuss adopting this immediately with my wife. Love that I can continue to learn from you both -- thanks!
How did that conversation go?
We Love you Brene Brown and are grateful for everything you do , youve healed the mental processes of so mamy , Thank you 🎀❤️🎀
Wow. True. Brilliantly said. It’s the same with friendship. It’s never 50/50. Life is hard and unpredictable.
My wife I do this but never thought of in the structured way but without saying we definitely have each others backs
This is awesome
Tim stoked you posted this. I had seen it in the full version and couldn’t find it. A consequence of watching too many of your videos :-)
Thank you.
Wow.. energy wise she’s quite right.
If both say 20, 20 and at least they know where their energy levels are.
I know so many marriages that aren't partnerships. They're just 2 seperate people going through the motions.
I don't earn much in my job. We just about get by, but i feel like i hit the jackpot with my missus.
We understand each other completely. I don't have any secrets. We do everything together and when i was ill for 5 months last year, she did everything.
I'm sure it stressed her out but she never once made me feel guilty. She was so great that our daughter barely noticed a difference.
The only difference i noticed was her sleep pattern. Every night she put her head on the pillow and was immediately out cold.
I'd like to think i could do the same if the roles were reversed but I'm not sure i could.
She was like a machine.😂
Openess and Honesty is 100% the most important thing in any marriage.
Without it there's nothing.
This is fabulous! If you are in a healthy relationship, you should be able to work tgis way.
That was my first marriage: everything split down the middle, from the money to the emotions.
And people wondered at the time why we didn't last.
This is amazing. Never heard of partnership actioned like this before
As someone who is yet to marry, I LOVE THIS!!!
I love this! Thank you Tim!
Brene, you are amazing. I love your words. This is a great idea.. I'm gonna try this. Thank you
One of my friends is married to a guy who is practically counting the minutes he's "on kid duty" and won't ever cover her. It's horrible.
@@gezenewsyou think counting minutes to look after his own children is better than counting money? I promise you that marriage won’t last long if that husband/father continues on that path. It’s not healthy at all.
@@happilydivorced3235 The wife looks after all the kids needs
Love this straighforward dealing with eneegy levels
This idea of more than 100 and coverage is acute and excellent symbolic communication perfectly built for us primates. Well done Brené, I can give this one to patient to support more complex issues .. if they can’t do this they won’t do the rest of the work
I just love Brené ❤
I love it. ❤
For any relationship to evolve into marriage, it MUST be mutually connected - that is the only unexplainable force that can attract and bind two strange individuals together defying logic. It is the foundation that gives you ability to entwined as a team. Every other strategies used to sustain it are branched from these affection.😊
Quantifying your energy to your spouse is being a help mate with limits
Finally, a short video in which the sentence is completed before it cuts off.
Oh wow love this!
Thank you ❤
Husband is not a brother though. But yeah I agree.
Best advice ever!
So totally agree. It never 50/50
She’s right : it’s 100/100
I married someone that wanted to be adored and obeyed 24/7, full blown narcissist. I always gave him 250 of me and ended up empty of everything I ever had/felt. Divorce was a blessing to fill my own cup again but I’m not bitter I’m better. 😊
Love this
Remarkable
Beautiful advice ❤
first time checking her out and already caught my attention
Maybe not 50/50 in a single day. But averaged out over time, yea, it is! Or somewhere in the vicinity. It doesn’t have to be exactly. Whatever works for a specific relationship. But overall, it should be close. Some people need more than others so, it’s very situational for each relationship.
Finally some one spoke the truth when the whole world is out of its mind...
Link to the full episode?
I dig this
Outstanding advice and it's all true
Soooo good.
Its never 50/50 but I stil try to be patient and bot hurtful
Beautiful 😊
Love you Tim. Needed to listen to this today
It is50 50 and only when it is you can understand why today I am 15in energy
Genius
Yep
I think it averages out to 50-50 - it has to! else it will be one person always giving more. yes, on any given day I understand what she is saying of 50-50 not being possible.
Also, we have to normalize that we don't need to be 100 always. It should be absolutely ok, we are only human to let ourselves recharge and do just 70. That is what mature relationships allow. Both could be having a shitty week / day. Hence, IMHO, in a relationship Communication is THE key to solve problems.
Ot only needs to average out to over 100 and each party genuinely satisfied with the relationship Bec not everyone wants or needs 50 or more believe it or not .. what IS important is that both recognize the utility and vital function of the need for sharing the numbers in time and the correct player covering the other when it’s less than 100 combined .
Discrepancies in commitment or identification of a serious problem in one partner will be reflected over time in the numbers .
Excellent tool potential here 👊🏼👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
This is exactly what I was thinking. Yes, every situation is going to be different and each person will deal with it differently, but in the end, you're both in it together.
She's saying the same thing though really. It's how life works, every situation will be different and it'll never always be 50/50 for each situation. That's asinine to even think is possible, let alone probable. What's the saying, 'to be human is to err"?
However, she does give a solution to those situations where you both can't give enough to fulfill the task at hand. Which is vastly better than just making a statement.
Marriage is 💯 + 💯 ÷ 2 = 1
Does anyone have the full video on this?
kindness XX
We did not have a plan unfortunately 😔
Wife sent me this. I looked at her and said “10”. She seems upset.
I love this idea,tho, obviously, must be caring & honest…
How can this become such a professional concern , compassion and care comes naturally to your loved ones . Idk why Americans have made it a bullshit type of difficulty. I would love to call you india !
Amen!!!
80/20 one day, 20/80 the next. Doesn’t that still come out to 50/50 ish in the long run 🤔
Ideas for ”the plan”?
One thing can be an agreement that something that normally gets done today will instead be done tomorrow, to lower the load. The important thing is that they're communicating and agreeing together
Mine is to a point..he pays half of bills I pay the other..been doing this for 28 years different bank accounts it works for us
What happens when you or he wants something expensive the other doesn't?
Assuming the person who wants it has the money to buy it for themselves.
I thought this was a given 😅 - it's 50/50 in the long run not every damn day
Nice idea. Now I'm asking the universe for a man who would understand this!
full episode link please?
Yes yes ❤
50/50 is bills
Well overall, all said and done, id hope its 50-50.
I wish I had this when I was married.
Oh well. Next time.
Lmao any man who’s been married knows it’s pretty much always 80/20.
Where can I watch or listen to this full video!
it's on his youtube channel
Do you mind sharing the name of the episode? I can’t figure out which of his interviews with Brene it’s from.
ya like when we’re at 0 our partner understands that and vice versa
#2Spirit #indigenous #dating #relationships
edit: he doesn’t need to know the extra Ego we Vacuum it’s cultural shhhh
I got you brother “
Wish my wife Called me bro
❤❤❤
Wow not in my world?? My husband is nice to me but mine is 90 / 10 always!! We both work full time ,his job ends when he gets home ALWAYS!!! I do all house duties,cooking,clean shopping ,yardwork,kids ,laundry till bed! Every women I know it's about the same!
You both need to talk about this. Resentment is a brutal load to carry.
No it is two hundred percent and if 1 of you is not putting in your hundred then you do not have the solid relationship you might think.
Relationships are about selflessness.
So you can't be all about yourself and be in a healthy relationship.
🔥🔥
Excellent idea. Too bad it's a short.
And yet if a wife who never worked a day in her life divorces husband, she still entitled to 50% or more of there assets and his 401k ??? Marriage is about consistency, the odd 20/80 here and there most can put up with but in the past I’ve been in 20/80 relationship for years and screw that!
Most everything most people tell you nowadays is a crock of shit. 😂
> Honey I only have 25 today.
Where the fvck is the other 25 and the 50 you owe me from last week?
😂😂😂😂😂😂
A combined score of 100.
Yikes…can it be like 80? 90 tops lol
💯
Robustness in the relationship!
Dear - Women are known to bear 80-90 all the time
I'm the man I'm only giving 25 percent you give the other 75 😊
Yeah, 50/50… you cook, I eat
❤
Yeah but Steve just put all the money on the table and now he’s down to 20.
How do you know he puts ALL the money on the table? I don’t know anyone who’s living in a family unit (2 parents +/- kids)who’s not in a dual income household. Who the heck can survive on one salary these days?
🎯🎯🎯
I like what she is saying so you don't take things out on your partner but she is still going off the 50/50 idea you equal 100. It's 100/100. Your using averages not addition.
what are you even saying. the point of 50/50 is 50 is fucking equal to 50
@@nuigmep3766 I'm saying a marriage works when both give 100 to the relationship not half. Like I said it's not addition trying to equal 100. If you both only give half the effort you will get half a relationship. It's not hard to figure out. 50/50 attitude has lead to over 50% divorce rates. Your vows are a commitment to the other people not a contract as well.
@@gofigure84Women never share as much a men. 50/50 is a bs delusion. Women respect men who make more money than them and provide for them.
A woman doesn’t see a lover as an equal or worse than them. They see their lover as superior than them.
@petermj1098 when did I say the way you give 100% was the same between men and women?
@@gofigure84 I am pretty sure you give 100% to every job your have in life not just a partnership.
❤❤😊
I think she has just a few ideas and runs with it