Feeling like a failure all my life. ... and been told that I was every single day of my life. But now I finally know why I do the things that I do (or don't do).
I'm 41 and I just got my ADHD inattentive diagnosis back in January. I was only able to start meds for treatment two weeks ago. It's been life changing. I've successfully completed more tasks in the last two weeks than in the last year now that I've got a working solution test out. I kind of unrealistically regret all the things I failed at knowing I had this the whole time but by not knowing I couldn't treat it. Now that you know you have ADHD, you can move ahead with more surety. It's great to remove the confusion and find the clarity of a path to move down. I'm cheering for you. Keep on moving.
My diagnosis five years ago at age 50 allowed me to forgive myself for a life where I thought I lived in a lackadaisical, go-with-the-flow way. I was blind to situations that overwhelmed me like organization and housework. Severe rejection sensitivity. I will remain unmedicated, but now that I understand what is happening with me, I choose to celebrate my creative, bumbling, intelligent. kind ADHD self. Hyperfocus is my superpower. I can do amazing things when I am avoiding other no-so-amazing things lol. My mother tells me that they just didn't diagnose girls with ADHD in the early 1970's. There was really no way we could have known. Love yourself. I am fairly new to your channel, but I will keep coming back. :) Happy Monday!
Thanks for sharing this. I had to retire at 54 because I couldn't get my brain to work. At 63 I drastically changed my diet, so now I feel much better, but I still struggle. My wife thinks I am lazy and stupid. Before I retired my work sent me to see psychologist and psychiatrist, but nobody give me a diagnosis or any help. Now if I could just get the dishes done before my wife gets home from work, and read the books I have instead of buying more.
you really sound like you have ADHD too. So I can give you two really great tips. If you have to do the dishes, watch this : ruclips.net/video/8U68jPTq9Bo/видео.html It is a body doubling video and that works great when you have it. Another tip is: watch this (busy) channel: how to ADHD, she does a great job explaining what it is. You are not lazy nor stupid, you are just wired differently. And there are ways around it. And it has it advantages too.
@@AnnNovella I went for a walk to a little free library, dropped off 2 books and didn't find anything interesting to bring home. While still energized from walking in the cold, I got the dishwasher reloaded. Now can I get some reading done before its time to go for my flu shot?
Thank you so much for sharing your story. After many years of supporting my partners with their ADHD, I'm realizing it is likely affecting me as well. Society is really on the cusp of needing to come to terms with neurodivergence so we need to keep talking about it. Very interested in the books you read/are reading on the subject as well!
Thinking of you! So terrible to read all the comments and have them be so hurtful. I'm a special education teacher and it breaks my heart when school just isn't designed for certain people. I strive to make my class accessible and welcoming to all, but there's always more growth needed.
I'm really sorry to hear you've been struggling, but applaud you for being so open about it here 💚 I feel awful for never answering your comment on my video - maybe you'll understand my reasoning though: I wanted to take some time to write a longer reply because your message was so raw and the diagnosis so new. And then I kept forgetting, which happens so easily, if I don't do something immediately, cause... ADHD 😳 I'm here to chat though if you feel like it. Either for just some understanding or exchanging what's been helpful etc. The story of how you found out has me really curious - what kind of questions did these people ask and how did they feel confident to "armchair-diagnose" you like that?
I’m trying to get a diagnosis here in my small town as well. It’s fairly certain, and have high anxiety right now also from economic reasons. And I have the exact same school history as you. It’s affecting my work, so I need to do something about it. I hope the changes work well for you!
I'm 41 and I just got my ADHD inattentive diagnosis back in January. I was only able to start meds for treatment two weeks ago. It's been life changing. I've successfully completed more tasks in the last two weeks than in the last year now that I've got a working solution test out. I kind of unrealistically regret all the things I failed at knowing I had this the whole time but by not knowing I couldn't treat it. Now that you know you have ADHD, you can move ahead with more surety. It's great to remove the confusion and find the clarity of a path to move down. I'm cheering for you. Keep on moving.
Good Luck Ann with your issue there, and please keep the Videos coming, they're Wonderful.
you can expect the next bookish video later today or tomorrow at the latest. ;-)
My diagnosis five years ago at age 50 allowed me to forgive myself for a life where I thought I lived in a lackadaisical, go-with-the-flow way. I was blind to situations that overwhelmed me like organization and housework. Severe rejection sensitivity. I will remain unmedicated, but now that I understand what is happening with me, I choose to celebrate my creative, bumbling, intelligent. kind ADHD self. Hyperfocus is my superpower. I can do amazing things when I am avoiding other no-so-amazing things lol. My mother tells me that they just didn't diagnose girls with ADHD in the early 1970's. There was really no way we could have known. Love yourself. I am fairly new to your channel, but I will keep coming back. :) Happy Monday!
Thank you. 😘 Hyperfocus is a blast. 🙌🏻
Thanks for sharing this. I had to retire at 54 because I couldn't get my brain to work. At 63 I drastically changed my diet, so now I feel much better, but I still struggle. My wife thinks I am lazy and stupid. Before I retired my work sent me to see psychologist and psychiatrist, but nobody give me a diagnosis or any help. Now if I could just get the dishes done before my wife gets home from work, and read the books I have instead of buying more.
you really sound like you have ADHD too. So I can give you two really great tips. If you have to do the dishes, watch this : ruclips.net/video/8U68jPTq9Bo/видео.html It is a body doubling video and that works great when you have it. Another tip is: watch this (busy) channel: how to ADHD, she does a great job explaining what it is. You are not lazy nor stupid, you are just wired differently. And there are ways around it. And it has it advantages too.
@@AnnNovella I went for a walk to a little free library, dropped off 2 books and didn't find anything interesting to bring home. While still energized from walking in the cold, I got the dishwasher reloaded. Now can I get some reading done before its time to go for my flu shot?
Sending you my understanding and encouragement and very very warm regards. E
Dear Ann, all the best on your journey, it's never easy! Stay strong! 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing your story. After many years of supporting my partners with their ADHD, I'm realizing it is likely affecting me as well. Society is really on the cusp of needing to come to terms with neurodivergence so we need to keep talking about it. Very interested in the books you read/are reading on the subject as well!
Thinking of you! So terrible to read all the comments and have them be so hurtful. I'm a special education teacher and it breaks my heart when school just isn't designed for certain people. I strive to make my class accessible and welcoming to all, but there's always more growth needed.
Those were the seventies and eighties. That no longer happens 🫶🏻
I'm really sorry to hear you've been struggling, but applaud you for being so open about it here 💚
I feel awful for never answering your comment on my video - maybe you'll understand my reasoning though: I wanted to take some time to write a longer reply because your message was so raw and the diagnosis so new. And then I kept forgetting, which happens so easily, if I don't do something immediately, cause... ADHD 😳
I'm here to chat though if you feel like it. Either for just some understanding or exchanging what's been helpful etc.
The story of how you found out has me really curious - what kind of questions did these people ask and how did they feel confident to "armchair-diagnose" you like that?
Ha! Don’t worry about it. They asked a lot of questions around being detail oriented, forgetfulness …
I’m trying to get a diagnosis here in my small town as well. It’s fairly certain, and have high anxiety right now also from economic reasons. And I have the exact same school history as you. It’s affecting my work, so I need to do something about it.
I hope the changes work well for you!
I hope you'll get help soon!
@@AnnNovella thank you :)
@@SpringboardThought Food is an important factor, so look into that.
@@AnnNovella I will! Thanks
I’m sending virtual hugs to you both. E x