On Nov 3, 1990….32 1/2 years ago!!…our first child, Andrew was still born. Last week, this 62 year old man, with 3 additional grown children, was standing in a “take out” line behind a tall, young man ordering lunch. He look to be about 32/33 and he gave his name as Andrew. For some reason, in that moment, I was overwhelmed. This would have been him. The pain lessens over time (comes back at unexpected moments). You will always love, you will never forget. I promise. I believe he paved the way for his beautiful sisters and brothers who came after❤️
Thank you for sharing. I lost both of my kids. One on 12/23/2018 and the other one 6/10/2021. As a father, it's been super hard. I have tried to be strong for my wife, but I am so tired. It feels like I failed to protect my wife and children. Hearing other fathers talk lets me know im not alone. Thank you for sharing.
I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Sometimes the strongest thing we can do for our families is to make sure we're getting the help we need as well. Blessings my friend
On judgment day the babies/children who passed away will give water to their parents in silver utensils and plead with God for their parents to enter paradise. This is the belief. So don’t despair remember To God we belong and to him we return. Prayer that muslims recite when faced with a calamity. Look after your health God is most merciful and the best of planners. Please read the final revelation the Holy Quran, God sent it as a mercy and a guide for his creation.
Was home taking a nap with our 3 year old son while she went to her dr appointment on 12/26/2017. 4:15 pm I get woken up by a text message saying,"I'm sorry. I lost him." 2 weeks before he was due. Had to go ahead and deliver him. He was born an Angel on 12/27/2017. I can still remember it all so vividly. Think about lil brother every day. Thank you for this video.
So sorry for your loss. I had a stillborn baby girl on October 9, 2019, I was 28wks 4days. The pain of losing my baby is still raw. Just don't lose faith nor give up hope, you'll have your rainbow baby some day as will I.
We lost ours at 22 weeks just two months ago. The doctors said the wife has an incompetent cervix. We were in our ultrasound appointment when her water broke. There was nothing we could do but wait for the heartbeat to die off in order to induce labor thanks to heartbeat laws. She was in labor for almost 24 hours before he came out. He died in the middle of the night before he was born. Now surrounded by our dead child and the screams of babies in other rooms who are alive and well. My grief has paused the last week or so and its scary to me. I dont know what kind of volcano of sadness is brewing. Im just numb.
Words can not express the sadness I feel for you both. I'm so sorry you have had to experience the loss of a child. It is never easy. Jason can speak to this far better than I ever can, and I know he will respond if you ever want to reach out to him on instagram.
You express yourself so well. I know you will help so many people by your shared experience. I do hope that many find you online to listen and learn from you. Thank you.
Thank you so much for these videos. I lost my daughter 5 years ago, and I spent most of that time running away from the grief. It finally caught up with me in the last 6 months, very badly. My heart goes out to you and your family.
I think a lot about the loss I of my son, Noah at 40 weeks (which was in 2012). I seek out videos like this for comfort when it's weighing on my mind.. because when I am looking back on my experience.. I realize nobody knows what to say and that it would not have helped at that time.. but, now I see that I would have benefited if my loved ones decided to reach out (after some privacy and much needed time alone), when I was ready to have those tough conversations.. it was obvious they felt that any topic related was off limits (which I think is out of respect and love). I don't talk about it much, even years later, due to try not to make them feel uncomfortable
Thank you so much for sharing about Noah. You are and always will be his mother and I bet you have lots of wonderful stories to share from those 40 weeks you spent together and time you have shared together since then in spirit. Sending you lots of love!
I feel compelled to share something that's helped me to feel differently about my experience.. but in the least selfish way possible.. .. after years of pain and self blame.. I'm at peace because I know that I can connect to my Noah as if I knew him as any mother know they're children. Any time I want, all it takes is for me seeking the Lord, when I'm in God's presence I also feel Noah's here with me.., I cherish these moments and are tremendously peaceful
I lost my son almost a week ago. I was 36 weeks exactly when I didn't feel him moving around anymore. 😔 I went to the hospital and hoped I was just over reacting and that he'd soon be dancing around, but there was no heartbeat... my husband was working at the time and I had to make that terrible phone call. 😔 He's been amazing through this, but we still don't know how we're supposed to live without our baby boy that we were so ready for... and we lost our previous pregnancy at 13 weeks due to Triploidy. Life can be so cruel. 😔 💔 I'm sorry for anyone who has been through something similar. Wouldn't wish it upon anybody.
I lost my baby 3 weeks ago. I was 39 weeks pregnant and felt like the baby isn't moving. We went for the checkup and there was no heartbeat. The doctors had to take her out through C-section. Please do tell me after how long did you guys planned another baby and was the baby safe ?? Because now I am really worried about my secon pregnancy. Please answer
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss, extending our love as you and your family all heal from this. I think you might find answers to your questions and some reassurance in part 2 of Jason's story here ruclips.net/video/JudYOuLlOUg/видео.html Jason is also very active on IG and if you ever want to reach out to him directly feel free to DM him at @jasondyk
Sorry for you loss I lost 3 and I use hospital mine was 2 miscarriages 1 stillborn miscarriages was because of I have Rh negative factor blood that cause it and the stillborn was cause her afterbirth bag came out first and she was stuck in the birth canal they had to do a C-section on me in emergency section they got her out I quit breathing in my heart stopped because of how fast they put me under being an emergency C-section they put you to sleep when my baby was born she was 7 lb 14 oz 19 and 1/2 in Long in every way she was perfect and healthy she passed away because of being trapped and could not get out they call this prolapse umbilical cord I was 41 weeks
We went through the same thing and as the husband the thing that sticks with me is what you said about the phone calls, making people deflated…..that sound after you break the news is appalling.
It's a sickening sound isn't it? Sorry to hear that it resonates, someone told me recently - Welcome to the shittiest club...with some of the best members.
I personally believe that they should only let you go only go maybe a day or two past your due date. A due date is just an estimated guess anyways. The placenta begins to die even a few weeks before 40 weeks. Most stillborns happen when mom is over due and it’s most likely caused due to the lack of nutrients Bc the placenta is no longer functioning properly.
Some personal opinions are best kept to one's self. There are so many variables surrounding the cause of stillbirth, so to imply being a day or two overdue is the cause is first - not true and second- heartless to say in this circumstance. There are countless stillbirths that happen to babies who aren't"overdue".
@@lucyabing8502 well I'm sorry, but being 8 to 12 days overdue is ridiculous and dangerous for a baby.... I don't understand why a doctor/midwife wouldn't take action sooner
@@lucyabing8502 I agree with you also. I have seen this happen to 2 friends just in my little circle. One lost her baby in the night while she was asleep and could tell when she woke up that the baby had passed. The other kept asking the doctor to induce her because she was so far overdue and he wouldn’t. She ended up with a placental abruption, the baby died before birth and she almost lost her life also. These doctors need to be held accountable.
On Nov 3, 1990….32 1/2 years ago!!…our first child, Andrew was still born. Last week, this 62 year old man, with 3 additional grown children, was standing in a “take out” line behind a tall, young man ordering lunch. He look to be about 32/33 and he gave his name as Andrew. For some reason, in that moment, I was overwhelmed. This would have been him. The pain lessens over time (comes back at unexpected moments). You will always love, you will never forget. I promise. I believe he paved the way for his beautiful sisters and brothers who came after❤️
Thank you for sharing. I lost both of my kids. One on 12/23/2018 and the other one 6/10/2021. As a father, it's been super hard. I have tried to be strong for my wife, but I am so tired. It feels like I failed to protect my wife and children. Hearing other fathers talk lets me know im not alone. Thank you for sharing.
I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Sometimes the strongest thing we can do for our families is to make sure we're getting the help we need as well. Blessings my friend
On judgment day the babies/children who passed away will give water to their parents in silver utensils and plead with God for their parents to enter paradise. This is the belief. So don’t despair remember To God we belong and to him we return. Prayer that muslims recite when faced with a calamity. Look after your health God is most merciful and the best of planners. Please read the final revelation the Holy Quran, God sent it as a mercy and a guide for his creation.
Was home taking a nap with our 3 year old son while she went to her dr appointment on 12/26/2017. 4:15 pm I get woken up by a text message saying,"I'm sorry. I lost him." 2 weeks before he was due. Had to go ahead and deliver him. He was born an Angel on 12/27/2017. I can still remember it all so vividly. Think about lil brother every day.
Thank you for this video.
Sorry to hear of your loss Chuck. Sending you lots of gentle thoughts
So sorry for your loss. I had a stillborn baby girl on October 9, 2019, I was 28wks 4days. The pain of losing my baby is still raw. Just don't lose faith nor give up hope, you'll have your rainbow baby some day as will I.
So sorry to hear about your loss. That is so difficult. We appreciate you sharing a bit about your journey with us. ❤️
We lost ours at 22 weeks just two months ago. The doctors said the wife has an incompetent cervix. We were in our ultrasound appointment when her water broke. There was nothing we could do but wait for the heartbeat to die off in order to induce labor thanks to heartbeat laws. She was in labor for almost 24 hours before he came out. He died in the middle of the night before he was born. Now surrounded by our dead child and the screams of babies in other rooms who are alive and well. My grief has paused the last week or so and its scary to me. I dont know what kind of volcano of sadness is brewing. Im just numb.
Words can not express the sadness I feel for you both. I'm so sorry you have had to experience the loss of a child. It is never easy. Jason can speak to this far better than I ever can, and I know he will respond if you ever want to reach out to him on instagram.
Hey Alec, sorry to hear about your loss. If you ever want to chat, dm me on Instagram @jasondyk
Hey Alec, just happened to be watching this video and then came across your comment--just so utterly heartbreaking, hoping you are finding peace.
Just so heartbreaking to hear about your loss. God's grace be with your family.
You are manly in expressing your thoughts and emotions. Thank you.
My heart goes out to him and his family. Such a beautiful message around mental health and loss.
Thank you for sharing.
Thanks for watching ❤️
That deafening silence.
You express yourself so well. I know you will help so many people by your shared experience. I do hope that many find you online to listen and learn from you. Thank you.
Thank you so much for these videos. I lost my daughter 5 years ago, and I spent most of that time running away from the grief. It finally caught up with me in the last 6 months, very badly. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Thank you for sharing ❤️. I'm so sorry you lost your daughter, did she have a name?
Grief is weird isn't it? Sorry to hear that it's caught up with you, if you ever want to chat, let me know.
God bless you and yours. Amen to that Amen. Rest in peace little angel. The Sweder Family.
Thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry for your loss and your wife's loss. My heart, thoughts and prayers are with you all. ❤🙏
Thank you for watching ❤️
I think a lot about the loss I of my son, Noah at 40 weeks (which was in 2012). I seek out videos like this for comfort when it's weighing on my mind.. because when I am looking back on my experience.. I realize nobody knows what to say and that it would not have helped at that time.. but, now I see that I would have benefited if my loved ones decided to reach out (after some privacy and much needed time alone), when I was ready to have those tough conversations.. it was obvious they felt that any topic related was off limits (which I think is out of respect and love). I don't talk about it much, even years later, due to try not to make them feel uncomfortable
Thank you so much for sharing about Noah. You are and always will be his mother and I bet you have lots of wonderful stories to share from those 40 weeks you spent together and time you have shared together since then in spirit. Sending you lots of love!
Noah is lucky to have a wonderful mother like you Kelly! Sending you lots of 💕
I feel compelled to share something that's helped me to feel differently about my experience.. but in the least selfish way possible.. .. after years of pain and self blame.. I'm at peace because I know that I can connect to my Noah as if I knew him as any mother know they're children. Any time I want, all it takes is for me seeking the Lord, when I'm in God's presence I also feel Noah's here with me.., I cherish these moments and are tremendously peaceful
So sorry
2 yrs now.... still crying alone. - Daddy Z
Grief never really goes away, we just seem to learn how to live with it as it becomes our new normal. Thinking of you ❤️
@@MabelsLabels_Mabelhood Thank you... ❤️
Thank you for sharing, i would love to share my story. But then again it's like yours
I lost my son almost a week ago. I was 36 weeks exactly when I didn't feel him moving around anymore. 😔 I went to the hospital and hoped I was just over reacting and that he'd soon be dancing around, but there was no heartbeat... my husband was working at the time and I had to make that terrible phone call. 😔 He's been amazing through this, but we still don't know how we're supposed to live without our baby boy that we were so ready for... and we lost our previous pregnancy at 13 weeks due to Triploidy. Life can be so cruel. 😔 💔
I'm sorry for anyone who has been through something similar. Wouldn't wish it upon anybody.
My heart goes out to you both. I'm so sorry 😞
Sorry to hear that Sarah, and I agree, wouldn't wish it upon anybody. If you (or your partner) ever have a desire to chat, look me up
Bless
I lost my baby 3 weeks ago. I was 39 weeks pregnant and felt like the baby isn't moving. We went for the checkup and there was no heartbeat. The doctors had to take her out through C-section. Please do tell me after how long did you guys planned another baby and was the baby safe ?? Because now I am really worried about my secon pregnancy. Please answer
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss, extending our love as you and your family all heal from this. I think you might find answers to your questions and some reassurance in part 2 of Jason's story here ruclips.net/video/JudYOuLlOUg/видео.html Jason is also very active on IG and if you ever want to reach out to him directly feel free to DM him at @jasondyk
It was weird taking pictures. I feel that
So weird! Super glad we have them now, but so weird
Sorry for you loss I lost 3 and I use hospital mine was 2 miscarriages 1 stillborn miscarriages was because of I have Rh negative factor blood that cause it and the stillborn was cause her afterbirth bag came out first and she was stuck in the birth canal they had to do a C-section on me in emergency section they got her out I quit breathing in my heart stopped because of how fast they put me under being an emergency C-section they put you to sleep when my baby was born she was 7 lb 14 oz 19 and 1/2 in Long in every way she was perfect and healthy she passed away because of being trapped and could not get out they call this prolapse umbilical cord I was 41 weeks
Sorry to hear of your loss Misty, sending you all the gentle thoughts 💕
We went through the same thing and as the husband the thing that sticks with me is what you said about the phone calls, making people deflated…..that sound after you break the news is appalling.
I'm so sorry you can relate and thank you for sharing.
It's a sickening sound isn't it? Sorry to hear that it resonates, someone told me recently - Welcome to the shittiest club...with some of the best members.
I personally believe that they should only let you go only go maybe a day or two past your due date. A due date is just an estimated guess anyways. The placenta begins to die even a few weeks before 40 weeks. Most stillborns happen when mom is over due and it’s most likely caused due to the lack of nutrients Bc the placenta is no longer functioning properly.
Some personal opinions are best kept to one's self. There are so many variables surrounding the cause of stillbirth, so to imply being a day or two overdue is the cause is first - not true and second- heartless to say in this circumstance. There are countless stillbirths that happen to babies who aren't"overdue".
@@lucyabing8502 well I'm sorry, but being 8 to 12 days overdue is ridiculous and dangerous for a baby.... I don't understand why a doctor/midwife wouldn't take action sooner
Lucy Abing you are correct! The charge of the other cometary seems to be based only on feelings and not backed by educational fact based knowledge
@@lucyabing8502 I agree with you also. I have seen this happen to 2 friends just in my little circle. One lost her baby in the night while she was asleep and could tell when she woke up that the baby had passed. The other kept asking the doctor to induce her because she was so far overdue and he wouldn’t. She ended up with a placental abruption, the baby died before birth and she almost lost her life also. These doctors need to be held accountable.