TOXIC PARENTS |10 Ways Disturbed Parents Can Wreak Havoc On Your Life |
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- Опубликовано: 7 июл 2024
- Disturbed parents can wreck havoc in your life until you grow to a place of understanding and awareness.
Disturbed parents tend to function in very toxic ways and create toxic environments for children growing up.
But kids who grow up in these homes don't always walk away healthy and stable. Some go on to experience years of psychological, relational, and emotional pain.
Parents who are suffering from psychosis and refuses to get help, substance abusers who put their children in harms way, argumentative and confrontational parents, envious and trouble-making parents, and manipulators of the family dynamic are difficult to live life with. They can negatively impact you for many years.
In this live chat, I discuss disturbed parents and the 10 ways they can negatively impact their adult children.
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#trauma #tamarahilllpc #TOXICPARENTS
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DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAT:
0:00 intro
7:55 concepts (maladaptive parenting, etc)
14:48 DISTURBED PARENTS ARE...
26:28 affection with disturbed parents
28:40 intense rage
30:54 "maladaptive parenting" vs. "negative parenting"
34:04 "intentionally unreachable" parents
36:00 WHAT DISTURBED PARENTS LOOK LIKE
47:17 "BAITORS"
50:47 Emotional Incest
53:23 WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU
*discussion in-between content
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Mentioned In The Video (research & further information):
1. Parenting Characteristics and Callous-Unemotional Traits in Children Aged 0-6 Years: A Systematic Narrative Review
link.springer.com/article/10....
2. Heritable and non-heritable pathways to early callous-unemotional behaviors
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
3. Heritable and Nonheritable Pathways to Early
Callous-Unemotional Behaviors
ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/...
4. The Heritability of Callous and Unemotional Traits
www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
5. The Link between ADHD Symptoms and Antisocial Behavior: The Moderating Role of the Protective Factor Sense of Coherence
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
6. Mommy Dearest movie • Mommie Dearest
7. Lindsey Gibson Self-care book
Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence a.co/d/6WYf9kZ
8. My video on parents who don't care • 7 SIGNS YOUR PARENTS D...
9. Parenting and personality disorder: An overview and meta-synthesis of systematic reviews
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
10. Early Maladaptive Schemas and Their Impact on Parenting: Do Dysfunctional Schemas Pass Generationally?-A Systematic Review
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
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*Videos are provided for exploration and educational purposes only and does not constitute clinical suggestions or consultation for individual cases.
If you or someone you know is having a medical emergency involving harm to self, please reach out to the suicide prevention hotline suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.
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I remember in a McDonald a grand mother screaming at her grand son because he droped his coke and I'm in no way shy and I told her, shame on you he is just a child. She was so taken aback that she said nothing. I turned around and left. I would do it again anytime I don't care
Wow. I'm sure she was taken aback. But shame on her. Glad you said something. I'm like that too, within reason. In a sense, we are re-educating the adult to appropriate behavior and thinking.
Excellent!💖
This is so confirming and validating: I recall the majority of my childhood and teen years walking around on eggshells, terrified and anxious awaiting one of my parents to start screaming and shouting. My parents were both very angry and stressed, whenever my mother felt neglected by my father I was her emotional and mental punching bag.
My mother would run me off the phone during crucial conversations, including job screenings and interviews.
Oh my. You wonder if she knew what she was doing when she was doing it?
Very similar situation. And when I was having problems at work and was looking for advice from her, which I never usually do. she suddenly flipped the conversation to when SHE was having issues at work years before and suddenly started reliving all emotions and dumping them on me - even though I’d already previously heard the same stories at the time. So not in an empathetic way (she doesn’t have empathy) but in a way to make the conversation all about her, like it was a competition, as per usual.
Thank you for this video, Tamara. So many layers and reasons for why these parents are dusturbed.
The older I get, with more info and clarity from this awesome channel, I see that my mom took that generational route of continuing to parent the way which was predominant for ages. Not sure if she was disturbed though. I always place her in a grey area🤷🏽♀️
Religious justifications did not help with how she (and most of my family) dealt with me as a Highly Sensitive Person either. The whole "get over it" or "go pray about it" was never comforting to me.
Though she wasn't anywhere near as bad as the extremes I hear about with these other parents, it was still tough for me growing up and dealing with, essentially, an emotionally immature parent.
I’m a 42 year old black man. I can forgive my parents and I am taking responsibility for my healing but what was taken from me I can never get back. My mother made me codependent upon her my entire life and my father when he was around criticized everything about me. Plus growing up gay in the south added another layer. I just walked away from my entire family and although I’m very intelligent and carry myself well and most people tell me I carry myself as if I have it togther and look confident but my life have always been one weird battle after another. I’m a good looking brotha but yet I have barely had any relationships but 3 who were all narcissists and never been in love or even lived with my partner. Now I’m struggling feeling like an orphan who gave no clue what to do to move my life forward now cause no matter what choice I make I keep ending up in weird toxic living environments.. don’t have money for therapy anymore cause had to get on disability for health reason so this is hard and it didn’t have to be for me
Thank you, these videos have been very validating of my childhood 😢
I'm so glad! You're welcome!
Some families favoritism stems from personal insecurities. For example a dark skinned woman who loves light skinned men but feel slighted in the world by light skinned women. Now you have children with this man and you have one dark skinned daughter and one light skinned daughter. All I have to say is I feel for any woman who had to endure the mistreatment of a mother who hates her because of her complexion, hair texture or physical appearance . God bless you.
God Bless you Dr. Hill. You have answers. You restore my faith a little each stream I watch. 🙏🏾
That's really humbling, thank you and God bless you too!!
I feel that! Yes.
You have such a big heart . Your content is definitely helpful, thank you so so much 🙏🏾
Thank you!! Appreciate that. Glad this is helpful!
Thank you so much.
Sometimes I have a hard way verbally explaining my parents & siblings, but you explain things in a scientific matter that makes it all make sense.
🤗You're welcome! I'm very glad this was helpful to you. Having the right language can change everything.
I've seen a bit of rages, controlling and diminishing, corporal punishments, but thankfully these things gradually become recognized as inappropriate. This is why I support globalization. Sometimes I hear how neighbors rage at their kids though(
Now I live with a fear that I can unintentionally pass down some kind of trauma or disorder)
This was soooooo good. Thank you love! You know I can relate to this 😅
🤗🙈🙉🙊
I had a stepmother who would grab a butcher knife and go after my dad. My stepbrother, baby half sister & I would get so scared we’d cry and sometimes hide in my closet. I was terrified she would kill my dad. I remember one cold school night she chased my dad, stepbrother & I out of the house in the middle of the night. Sound like a disturbed parent??? 😂😂😂 True story, My dad was a horrible abuser himself. I suffered emotional, physical & childhood sexual abuse at his hands. After the knife wielding stepmother he brought home a gold digging, honky tonk hoochie. I can tell some stories. It’s a wonder I survived.
I love the length of your videos. I soak up your content like a sponge. I would like to know what we can do to help children and adults who are experiencing/exhibiting disturbed parenting? What are some things we can safely implement as a non cohabitating co parent for example or a friend of an adult who does these things to their own children but who is also under educated or under aware these behaviors as toxic. Because in my experience, not even CPS/mental - behavioral - school district - social work professionals take these behaviors seriously and infact dismiss their severity because the threshold into abuse isn't universally defined or has been historically subjective. How do we create universality / codification of these terms without minimizing/normalizing the severity of impact?
I would see on the family FB page, pictures of my mom, and family on a family reunion to Yosemite.
As I would come to wonder.at home by myself and wondering where everyone was.
In high school, I lived with my mom, aunt/sister, young female cousin, and at times my uncle.
💜💜💜💜💜 Breezy BeEazy 💯
You are describing my mother. And she’s a therapist who specializes in family and marriage counseling. Multiple masters degrees. I think she has bpd and here of her husband leaving her
Thank you. 🎉🎉💜
Welcome! 😊