ARE YOU CURSED WITH TOXIC & TRAUMATIC RELATIONSHIPS? Discover The Truth Here
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- Опубликовано: 16 июл 2024
- Traumatic and toxic relationships are difficult because the relationship seems to rob you of more than you are willing or able to give.
Relationships are hard work -- even family relationships -- and it can discourage you from trying.
Have you ever wondered why you continue to experience toxic (and traumatizing) relationships?
Have you ever wondered why there is pain and suffering in your life?
Ever ask if you are being punished?
Predestination is the (existential and/or religious) concept that an individual will experience a series of events in their life that is inevitable.
The paradox of predestination is that it holds within the concept both:
1. fate and,
2. free
So which one is at play here?
In this live chat, I discuss predestination, trauma, and toxic relationships.
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#trauma #tamarahilllpc #TOXICRELATIONSHIPS
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DISCUSSED IN THIS VIDEO:
0:00 intro
5:39 Free will and choices
6:57 Religious ideology
7:27 internal locus of control vs. External Locus of control
14:55 Jeremiah 1:5 (biblehub.com/jeremiah/1-5.htm)
16:32 Learned behavior/free will/trauma
17:13 Carl Jung's view
21:57 3 IMPORTANT VIEWS
27:49 St. Agustine's predestination view
32:47 LEARNED HELPLESSNESS
41:10 WAYS TO USE YOUR FREE WILL
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Mentioned In The Video:
1. Theological view of pre-destination: www.britannica.com/biography/...
2. Does Believing in Fate Facilitate Active or Avoidant Coping? The Effects of Fate Control on Coping Strategies and Mental Well-Being
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
3. Free Will & Predestination by St. Augustine philosophynow.org/issues/20/F...
4. What is a self-fulfilling prophecy www.verywellmind.com/what-is-...
5. Carl Jung Depth Psychology carljungdepthpsychologysite.b...
***Swiss psychiatrist
C.G. Jung - 'Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.'
"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become. You are what you do, not what you say you'll do."
6. Learned helplessness in the rat
M E Seligman et al. J Comp Physiol Psychol. 1975 Feb.
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11509....
7. Somatic therapy
www.health.harvard.edu/blog/w...
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RUclips will make the VERY LIVELY chat box available to you to see within 12 hours of this live chat ending. Always the best part!!
Excellent ✨✨✨
You can’t go into a negative mindset in life! It hinders you! No doom
And gloom!
I could right a book on what my husband did to me cheating. Mental problems.
Oh my. I'm sorry. And I'm sure you could. I just told my mom and colleague the other day how much I dispise cheating and deception. It's sneaky. It's dark. It's awful.
Hi, been married 15 years, husband overtalks, interrupts, and leaves during conversation. He is still refusing marriage counseling, I am going to file for legal separation since I dont believe in divorce. We have 13 year old getting ready for high school. Any advice? So broken can’t stay in this situation. Don’t even want to see or talk to him now. He created this atmosphere which is very bad. We don’t sleep in same room. He doesn’t really respond to texts. I feel we are at the point of no return. Once he eroded communication, didn’t respect me, why would I want to even expose myself to that negativity? And have him break me down even more. I have to learn to love myself and build myself up. He will learn he didn’t value what he had after it’s too late. We are just like room mates now. I warned him years ago I didn’t want get to this point and now we are here.
I'm sorry to hear this. This is complex indeed. I had a good friend in college who was in a terrible marriage. She didn't believe in divorce but began to deteriorate. I remember asking her two questions I thought might set her free. I asked "do you truly believe, in your heart and soul, that a merciful God would want you to stay in a marriage and suffer just for the sake of marriage?" I told her we have to be careful with how we interpret scripture without being prayerful. The other question I asked her was "how do you know this is the will of God for your life? That WILL may not include the very person you have chosen to marry."
She went on in her life and found authenticity and freedom in her life. She's doing wonderful now in a healthy marriage with beautiful children.
Sometimes I think we create our own prisons and that's not predestination.
Sorry to hear. I got to this point in my marriage and after 11 years together, and with a 1 1/2 year old, I made the decision to leave. It was 20 years ago. I have never regretted that decision, albeit, it wasn’t ideal for anyone. We obviously didn’t get married, have a child and buy a house to get a divorce. But when it gets so toxic, loveless, (godless,) constant silent treatment and self centered behavior, threats to divorce me weekly, and so much worse. Verbal abuse, taken for granted, unwilling to change, etc. It had to end. That beautiful baby boy would have witnessed a terrible example of marriage. When my son tries to understand how I “chose,”to make him grow up in two homes (we were 50/50 custody,) and have him go back and forth, I try to assure him that I could not raise him in the environment that was. He will never know the emotional pain I suffered for missing out on half of his life. Btw I wanted more kids and my ex didn’t and there was no discussion. Just his decision after having one child. We were 9 years in when I learned this about him only wanting one child. Divorcing him cast a lifelong hardened heart in him and he has manipulated our son against me, and held onto bitterness and anger at me even after remarrying a decade ago. I pray he learns that unforgiveness hurts him the worst. But it hurts all of us as I was unable to even go to his front door when I picked up my son after age 12 and once he remarried. I had to park around the corner. I held and still hold high standards that haven’t been met, therefore I haven’t remarried just to remarry. I actually put my son before my needs.
I agree with Ms. Tamara very much regarding scripture and God. Even after all the suffering, I know it was the right decision and God would never want a toxic marriage. ❤🙏🏼💕
Since I was 5 years old, I felt like I was in a mission to break the family course. Now that I did it I got a new one, to help others who suffers like me. Maybe you got the same mission, that's your destiny
Predestination can be redirected if you have knowledge and experience over the reoccurring cycle of events! You can control it by cognitive abilities over that period of time! Thought over emotions!
Thank you so much for existing. SUCH a profoundly important channel for so many of us 🙌
❤❤🤗 Thank you!! And THANK YOU for this humbling comment. I'm blessed to have all of you on this channel.
Tamara. Yes difficult deep subject... I've had difficult bosses/coworkers in my lifetime. Things will start off well and eventually turns toxic with new bosses coming in and the whole dynamic changes making it near impossible to continue to stay and work in this environment. 😢 I always wondered why this would keep happening. Thank you so much.
That’s it! Trauma reenactment!!!!
❤ hello Tamara many blessings of peace prosperity and protection and abundance over your life and your family
Amen! And thank you. 🤗God bless you.❤ God's peace be with you on this journey.
This is extremely helpful and important, thank you so much. I’d love if you would expound upon St Augustine and his take on this because I have definitely delved deeply into this existentially, spiritually and biblically. Dark triad family scapegoat here. Happened from ‘church’ frauds also. It’s been vicious hell on earth.
You're welcome! And thank you. Glad this was helpful. I will for sure add this topic back to the channel video list. I think a video might offer more details. In the description box, there is a link that talks about his view on things.
Everything you said today was true im in that state right now and I don't even wanna be close with nobody at all its unpleasant to even think of getting close to anyone I perfer up in the air connected because I dont have to see them or carry them throughout my life im not there or nor do i want to connect with anybody other then the few 2 people and God ❤
I completely understand that thinking. It's a juggling act between reality and fear. You may have to "test the waters" a bit before you can open up or at least begin to trust a bit more.
This is my problem and I know it’s me…I have to get better ❤
I live by Carl Jungs Philosophy and I promise I experience 80 percent less drama … the other 20 percent I cant control other folks behavior
Thank you for this! As always, you have so much knowledge that you share freely. It is a true gift and so needed and appreciated! I miss your lives due to working west coast times. But hope to catch more! Ohhhh …who we are around!! One of my top focuses right now!
You are so welcome! And thank you!! Love seeing you in live chats when you are able to tune in.
This is so sad
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Yes.
Family/In Laws etc.
Tribal/Community
Gf's/Lovers
Peers/Work
Police/Courts lol
Exactly what is MK Ultra?
No life is just crazy
Lets say You wont die from airplane crash if u never take airplane yes a airplane can fall out sky onto u but thats called predestined