I’ve experienced many deaths in my life, but the first one that was truly personal was the miscarriage that I suffered in my early 20’s; then the sudden passing of my 14 month old daughter a few days after Thanksgiving in 2001. I remember driving in the car with my mom and one of my sisters shortly after burying my daughter (and being extremely exhausted from crying and taking care of my other 4 children)… “You know what! I’m not going to allow Hannah’s death to dictate my future in that of my children so from this day forward, the Lord has made it very clear to me, in a very loving way, that I have two choices. I can either allow Hannah’s passing to make me a better person or make me a bitter person.” I literally struggled and wrestled, mentally, emotionally and spiritually for the first three years after her passing with hundreds of questions like “why me, why my family, why my baby, etc.” But the Lord spoke through his Word to me, and gave me peace. I miss her, and all the “what ifs” and wonders of how she might be today. Yes, grief stinks and always will this side of Heaven ❤❤
My grief over losing my only child has opened my eyes to many areas in my life where I was tolerating disrespect. I am now setting solid boundaries, where before I would have just walked the other way and avoided these people. It's allowed me to lose sh*t people in my life. This includes family members. Sad but true.
Since I have lost my son I feel like I am more in tune with people I am listening more spending time engaging and whatever they want to talk about it's almost like what my mom always used to tell me take time and smell the roses kind of like take time with people and really be there for them. Don't be in such a hurry in life enjoy and embrace the beautiful things God has put in your path.
I will have to agree. After loosing my son to suicide, I've changed in so many ways. I have my own grieving page and could never have done that before this plus I feel like I'm helping others going through this as well.
That's why I love watching your videos! Since the passing of my son, I've had to reevaluate my life and who I truly am because I will never ever be the person I was. I've realized I am a strong person my mother always told me I was. Like you said, loosing a child sucks!! It is the worst thing ever, but it opens your eyes to so many things. As far as fearing death. I cannot imaging going through this again with either of my surviving children. That said, I do not personally fear it, if that makes sense. Keep doing you! You're awesome!
I listen to another person on a grief journey and several years after losing her oldest son (she has 2 young daughters) she still seems stuck in a terrible place, never smiling even. It is so sad. You are really refreshing in your outlook. Your pain and struggle are obvious but you are growing and don’t appear hopelessly stuck in the past. Also, not fearing death is healthy. For me it has to do with a Savior I cannot wait to meet!
Thank you so much for your kind words. Grief is so tough, I don't want a sugar coat it at all, but I also don't want to waste the rest of the time that I've been given. ❤️❤️❤️
I get so much from. watching you and getting your thoughts to help my husband in his grief journey as he does not address it directly. His daughter was my bonus daughter, she was in my life for 27 years.❤
Thank you Brooke - I love your honestly and your ongoing wisdom. Keep on posting and being vulnerable for us. 18 months on from losing my son, Sam - I now have found space (a positive) to love more openly my love ones who still live on. I consider this a developing trait to be a big positive to who I was before his death.
I am so much more empathetic toward people who have experienced losses. I give hugs freely and show my emotions. I try to really listen and HEAR them. But….I have far less tolerance and empathy for people who, in my opinion, have not shown up for me. I don’t know if this part is good but I just cut them out.
I totally get what you mean! Don't worry...no hate here! Since my husband died, I have less time for BS...I cut thru a lot of it...which I see is good because I would rather spend the time knowing what a problem is than guessing to find the answer... I also find I am happier when people find happiness in this world...I wasn't a jealous B before...but when some finds their happiness sooner, they have more time to enjoy it...and we have so little time to enjoy it... And I have become VERY aware of how many people are dying or have died...i see death notices for people all the time now 😳 I am still going thru the grief (only 5 months since Keith died) so I am still feeling the fallout of the grief every day and very intensely...but I know what you mean about 'positives' to a negative situation. ❤ And I'm not afraid of death anymore either...it's like, it happened and I'll see Keith on the other side...what is there to be afraid of now? I don't look forward to dying, unless it's painless...because more times they dying part hurts...but the actual death, I'm not fearing. 🤔
I love what you said about finding a positive in other people's happiness... And oh my gosh, the noticing how many other people have died thing is so true!!!!
Thank you, i Couldn't agree with you more and thank you for being here for us!!! Also do you know of any books that would help my daughter through this hard time of losing her brother? Thank you again ❤❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. How old is your daughter? Books for younger children will be different than books for teens, so if you let me know her age I'd be happy to recommend some for you. ❤️
@@brookecarlock hello, my daughter is 28 and my son was 24 he passed 6/30/23 we also live together and she works from home. Thank you, i appreciate you're help ❣️
I am so much more empathetic toward people who have experienced losses. I give hugs freely and show my emotions. I try to really listen and HEAR them. But….I have far less tolerance and empathy for people who, in my opinion, have not shown up for me. I don’t know if this part is good but I just cut them out.
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I’ve experienced many deaths in my life, but the first one that was truly personal was the miscarriage that I suffered in my early 20’s; then the sudden passing of my 14 month old daughter a few days after Thanksgiving in 2001.
I remember driving in the car with my mom and one of my sisters shortly after burying my daughter (and being extremely exhausted from crying and taking care of my other 4 children)… “You know what! I’m not going to allow Hannah’s death to dictate my future in that of my children so from this day forward, the Lord has made it very clear to me, in a very loving way, that I have two choices. I can either allow Hannah’s passing to make me a better person or make me a bitter person.”
I literally struggled and wrestled, mentally, emotionally and spiritually for the first three years after her passing with hundreds of questions like “why me, why my family, why my baby, etc.”
But the Lord spoke through his Word to me, and gave me peace.
I miss her, and all the “what ifs” and wonders of how she might be today.
Yes, grief stinks and always will this side of Heaven ❤❤
Please ignore the trolls...you are doing a great job showing others support thankyou ❤
Thank you!!
My grief over losing my only child has opened my eyes to many areas in my life where I was tolerating disrespect. I am now setting solid boundaries, where before I would have just walked the other way and avoided these people. It's allowed me to lose sh*t people in my life. This includes family members. Sad but true.
Yay to boundaries!!! So important. 👍
Since I have lost my son I feel like I am more in tune with people I am listening more spending time engaging and whatever they want to talk about it's almost like what my mom always used to tell me take time and smell the roses kind of like take time with people and really be there for them. Don't be in such a hurry in life enjoy and embrace the beautiful things God has put in your path.
Love this!! ❤❤
I relate thankyou ❤
Thanks for watching!! ❤
I will have to agree. After loosing my son to suicide, I've changed in so many ways. I have my own grieving page and could never have done that before this plus I feel like I'm helping others going through this as well.
It definitely helps to help others somehow, doesn't it? It even helps us just to share our experiences. It's like therapy somehow. ❤️
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Of course!! I appreciate you watching and hope it helped. ❤️
That's why I love watching your videos!
Since the passing of my son, I've had to reevaluate my life and who I truly am because I will never ever be the person I was.
I've realized I am a strong person my mother always told me I was.
Like you said, loosing a child sucks!! It is the worst thing ever, but it opens your eyes to so many things.
As far as fearing death. I cannot imaging going through this again with either of my surviving children. That said, I do not personally fear it, if that makes sense.
Keep doing you! You're awesome!
Totally makes sense what you are saying about not fearing death for yourself, but still fearing it for your children. Same for me. ❤️❤️❤️
I listen to another person on a grief journey and several years after losing her oldest son (she has 2 young daughters) she still seems stuck in a terrible place, never smiling even. It is so sad. You are really refreshing in your outlook. Your pain and struggle are obvious but you are growing and don’t appear hopelessly stuck in the past. Also, not fearing death is healthy. For me it has to do with a Savior I cannot wait to meet!
Thank you so much for your kind words. Grief is so tough, I don't want a sugar coat it at all, but I also don't want to waste the rest of the time that I've been given. ❤️❤️❤️
I get so much from. watching you and getting your thoughts to help my husband in his grief journey as he does not address it directly. His daughter was my bonus daughter, she was in my life for 27 years.❤
I'm so grateful that you're finding value in my videos. Sending you and your husband my love. ❤️
Thank you Brooke - I love your honestly and your ongoing wisdom. Keep on posting and being vulnerable for us.
18 months on from losing my son, Sam - I now have found space (a positive) to love more openly my love ones who still live on. I consider this a developing trait to be a big positive to who I was before his death.
I love this... Grief definitely helps us realize what is important and what isn't. ❤️❤️❤️
I am so much more empathetic toward people who have experienced losses. I give hugs freely and show my emotions. I try to really listen and HEAR them. But….I have far less tolerance and empathy for people who, in my opinion, have not shown up for me. I don’t know if this part is good but I just cut them out.
I totally get what you mean! Don't worry...no hate here!
Since my husband died, I have less time for BS...I cut thru a lot of it...which I see is good because I would rather spend the time knowing what a problem is than guessing to find the answer...
I also find I am happier when people find happiness in this world...I wasn't a jealous B before...but when some finds their happiness sooner, they have more time to enjoy it...and we have so little time to enjoy it...
And I have become VERY aware of how many people are dying or have died...i see death notices for people all the time now 😳
I am still going thru the grief (only 5 months since Keith died) so I am still feeling the fallout of the grief every day and very intensely...but I know what you mean about 'positives' to a negative situation. ❤
And I'm not afraid of death anymore either...it's like, it happened and I'll see Keith on the other side...what is there to be afraid of now?
I don't look forward to dying, unless it's painless...because more times they dying part hurts...but the actual death, I'm not fearing. 🤔
I love what you said about finding a positive in other people's happiness... And oh my gosh, the noticing how many other people have died thing is so true!!!!
Thank you, i Couldn't agree with you more and thank you for being here for us!!! Also do you know of any books that would help my daughter through this hard time of losing her brother? Thank you again ❤❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. How old is your daughter? Books for younger children will be different than books for teens, so if you let me know her age I'd be happy to recommend some for you. ❤️
@@brookecarlock hello, my daughter is 28 and my son was 24 he passed 6/30/23 we also live together and she works from home. Thank you, i appreciate you're help ❣️
I am so much more empathetic toward people who have experienced losses. I give hugs freely and show my emotions. I try to really listen and HEAR them. But….I have far less tolerance and empathy for people who, in my opinion, have not shown up for me. I don’t know if this part is good but I just cut them out.
Oh my goodness, this totally resonates with me. Thank you for sharing.