I like this video, but I kind of disagree with one point. Maybe I was insecure, but I'm in my twenties and I literally just realised all of my friendships have been one sided. Literally. I used to describe myself as a loyal friend "no matter what", and I always used the, "Friendships aren't transactional and they don't owe me anything," till I went through the most traumatic period in my life and there was literally no one. I've cut them off now, and have decided to never put myself into that kind of situation again. Realising my friends were basically not my friends filled me with a lot of resentment. So I will never have another friend that does the bare minimum for me while I am a real friend. Your advice works if your friends at least come through for you when you really need them. If they can't even do that, what then is the point? You're just a slave
Completely agree with you, but it’s more so if those friends do other things. Our love languages are different so some people value quality time and make effort to plan, others may always get you a present for a bday etc. the point is that we can’t expect people to replicate what we give, people give in different ways. If you’re constantly giving and feeling like you’re getting nothing return, then yes of course why be friends with them, but then you simply move on from that friendship rather than sticking around wondering why your friendships are one-sided :) I’ve definitely let go of friends where I felt they didn’t care about me, so I don’t mean by that point that you just stick around with people who suck it’s just having perspective that we’re all different :)
@@Akta I see your point now. While you're here, I'm not certain you'll see this but I'd like your opinion. I once had a friend I would do everything for. Like everything he wanted, no matter what. And then the best he could do for me was to "check up" now and again and if I felt bad, mostly leave me to my own devices or basically tell me to toughen up. I got tired and he always said that this was the best he could do. He claimed that his default was not caring about anything or anyone, so what he was doing was the best he could do, and me being an over achiever was not in his nature. I tried to make him see I also had to try hard to get everything right and he could do with a bit of effort, but he claimed what he was doing was effort enough. What do you think about this?
@@Dude-dx5ns honestly, only you can answer that. Only you can say if the effort he gives feels like effort to you, and if it’s something you appreciate or not. If you carry resentment that it’s not good enough, then I personally would take a step back in how much energy you’re giving. I’d also ask why you’re giving so much - why do everything he wants no matter what? Are you doing what you want? Only you can answer these qs and do what feels right for you :)
@@Akta Thank you so much. I think I've just been wired to be loyal to people and do whatever they want and I'm really really working on that. Thanks a lot.
Those were all the things I used to think about when I was a teen and in my 20s, I just turned 30 this year and my view on friendships have changed so much, I grew apart from so many friendships in last two years it’s the reality thanks for a great video ❤
it’s not about quantity it’s about quality of the friendships you have. i been going through a lot of friendship breakups these past 2 years especially in the past yr it definitely hurts but i know i been aligned with the tribe i will have.
Aww thank you so much Robert! Honestly, I didn’t think I ever could too! But once you start, you realise life feels a lot lighter when you take off that armour :)
How many friends you have matters is the biggest lie. In reality, I just have a few people I call friend, and I don't usually share things I don't want to with them. Nice video Akta ♥️
Whenever I edit my videos, I constantly second guess whether they would help anyone so thank you so so so much for saying this, because it really does encourage me to continue. I really appreciate it John ❤️
Really great video and came at the right time! I recently moved to Amsterdam, making friends in a new country at 28 is strange but also exciting finding people that inspire you rather than forcing friendships back from home that didn't serve! Appreciate you! xx
You just summed up every big dark cloud floating in my head since my graduation in 2019 into organised topics. I have always thought it's only me experiencing this harsh reality about friendships until I stumbled across your video just now. It's such a hard pill to swallow but I'm gradually coming to terms with it. Thank you for making me feel related and connected ❤
Hi Akta 👋, One unrealistic expectation regarding friendships that I had to unlearn is that early friendships (even the really good ones) last forever, though I have to admit it took me quite a while to get myself there. As difficult as it was for me to let go of the people I thought I made lifelong friendships with, on the other hand I realized how liberating it feels to mentally hit this reset button and choose the people I want to connect and be friends with. Sending you lots of love!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤗
Hey Ritchie! Omg yes, this is such a hard expectation to let go of. I also struggled with it massively, especially since most people I knew had their childhood friendships, so I thought it was normal! You’re so right though, it really is liberating to let go! Thanks for watching this ❤️
This video is so underrated because everything you said was so true and so wise. People who don't understand these topics end up being constantly being frustrated with friendships and sometimes it becomes a toxic relationship.
Love the encouragement about finding friends outside of school! I've found that a struggle, especially finding other creators like yourself. I would love to connect with you, a fellow RUclipsr who thinks deeply and provides value like in your videos
The love or friendship that are based on personal interests will eventually break when it is not serving the need. Time tested relationship are imperfect and has it's own sacrifice. "Love and Hate are the illusion of our emotion that which we don't have a clarity but with full of assumptions, real love lies in the acceptance of the flaws which is why it hardly exists"
I agree with everything you have said in this video! I feel when you are in your 20s there is so much transition with your friendships. I have experienced that! For me the main thing I learnt is to always try and see things from your friends side. For example, you may think they are ignoring you but they may be going through a lot and replying to messages is just not a priority
Back in 2004 when social networks were just starting, here in Brazil not everyone had computer as its very expensive for the most at the time (3~5 months salary). My long time friend started to stay up to 10 hours on MSN Messenger, Orkut, Facebook and stuff. When I visited his family as neighbors he was at that PC, he talked to me while still looking to the PC screen. So I had some thoughts about alienation, depression and stuff. Just as I calculated, 10 years later the world changed with popularization of social networks and smartphone. The world is having the many issues and one of them you just described on this video. Thanks for helping people and the world!
I very much agree on these points. Boundaries are so important in all aspects of our lives. Although I can't help but think that we all have to live and go through it to really learn all this.
I think the best friend idea does add a lot of pressure on both sides. As long as I considered someone a good friend, that's all that matters to me. People become friends for different reasons.
This is something I really reflected on this year. I just wrote a piece on it too. I have slightly different thoughts about some points you brought up, but everything you share provide such good insight to building better friendships as an adult.
Damn I can tell you been through the ringer on the topic. This is a decent video on the discussion of friendship and the multiple complexities involved. On the surface we think we have an idea on what it is but over the years I found my definition and perspective evolves, readjusts, old friendships die off and new ones are formed. Mainly bc I think the topic is just under explored and often ignored. Even now how friendship is defined is evolving with the use of social media and the idea of interpersonal connectivity.
I find this to be really good & resourceful, but regarding having friends that we support but they don't support back, what if that friend CAN really help (eg: something small as sending a shortnote pdf for a lecture you missed) but decides not to ? If you're a giver, what if your friend realizes that even if she/he doesn't help you back you'd continue to support her/him, hence she/he worries not to remain selfish?
I think it’s really up to us to keep our own boundaries, and if we don’t, then that’s on us. I used to be such a people pleaser, but learning to stand for my own self worth has been so life changing! I didn’t mean by that lie about people not giving to just accept people not giving at all, just that we give in different ways! If someone wasn’t giving anything to the friendship, I wouldn’t consider it a friendship - but people may give in a different way :)
Great post, I have had friends come and go I used to say I have no close friendships which is true. We go through different seasons and opportunities come and go embrace it.
Thank you for sharing this. I definitely think that as we grow up our priorities change and some friendships adapt and grow while others are fond memories but don’t hold the same place if you’re growing in different directions. ♥️
Thanks for another great video! Love all of your content. I struggle with trying to find ways to also make new friends as an adult esp as an introvert. I wanted to share a new book about this in case it’s helpful it’s called Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends by Marisa Franco. Hope you have a good day Akta! ❤
Thank you so much for the lovely comment, and for your book recommendation! I’ll add it to my list 🤗 I hope you’re having an amazing day too Asmeret ❤️❤️
How does one really make friends as an adult? I'm trying after battling with depression and suicidal ideations. Who anyone please give good advice? I'm trying to improve my quality of life with healthy friendships.
Hey lovely! I have a few videos on friendship so I’d definitely recommend watching, but I think the best way to make friends is to do the things that you already want to do, no matter what it is. I previously tried friendship apps and going to random classes I had no interest of continuing, but when I started things that I wanted to do (with no intention of making friends) that’s when I started making more friends because I was in an environment I was happy/myself in. For me this was doing RUclips, I have a handful of real life friends I’ve met through doing that. I also completely changed how I was with other people/not being afraid of being alone (I have a video on that). I hope mentally you’re in a better place and I’m sure you will find what you’re looking for 🙏🙏✨
@@Akta I appreciate your advice and kind words. I've actually been alone with myself since 2014. I had enough of alone time and don't desperately seek friends but in need of communication and human interaction. I don't know if it's just me, but the more people I encounter the more I look into people eyes. I don't feel or see them. When I look into their eyes I feel and see and empty shell. Almost soulless. I wonder if this has become the reality of our current society where people of depth don't actually exist outside of narcissism or facades. How can one really find their tribe when it seems that most people have based their personalities and values on curated lifestyles and aesthetics that are marketed to us? For example the bohemian girl, or the emo girl, etc. I've noticed when trying to connect with some people they are not who they portray themselves to be, hence the facade. I'm not one to be pessimistic of my future but I am deeply concerned and curious to know your age everyone elses thoughts on this.
I want to disagree with the likening of having/finding a best friend to getting a romantic partner. I think a best friend is somewhat necessary. Ppl can live without that if they have a handful of very decent friends. However, getting and keeping a best friend, traditionally, is nowhere near as hard as getting a perfect romantic partner. Traditionally, ya have 1-2 best friends at an early age, and with some support from a parent, make sure you don't lose touch. Being quite young, you won't have the high standards, biases, insecurities, negative influences, etc. to be critical, or picky. As time goes on, they become a consistent companion and a part of you, but there almost never are dynamics that can upset the balance except incorporating new friends into the fold. Traditionally, there ARE no pressures to look your best, certain (unnatural) behaviour to always impress, physical desires and hormones causing anxious interference of sound judgment, gender based conflicts, a rush to size up the other person and progress the relationship, nor are there enough fundamental differences to make the bond flimsy or conditional. Long term companionship cultivated from a casual bond of reciprocity is easy to keep going. Especially if both parties don't have tremendously busy lives, and their lives are otherwise a tad empty.
Hi, I'm Brian and I have no friends at all. I haven't had a real friend since I was in high school. I used to be depressed and have anxiety from it. I would go to the bars and clubs by myself in my 20s and early 30s by myself. It was so rough and tough. I'm 39 now. I'm just focused now on building my finance and wealth. I wish I could meet a woman as real and kind as you. Lots of horrible women out there.
Hey Brian! I’m sorry to hear that you’ve struggled with anxiety, depression and loneliness! It’s great that you’re directing your energy into more positive things now, and I hope you keep an open heart so that people can still come into your life 🙏
I'm sorry for putting you on the spot lol. Well organic is possible seeing how you didn't say no. So I'll start names Manuel and I'd like a chance to chat, talk, get to know one another more. Now it'd make for some decent content if we wanted to make conversations public. I don't know who knows we may be polar opposite or very similar but we won't know until we know.
Okay maybe it doesn't like links. Look, We're in runaway climate change. It will be very difficult to survive by 2030. You need to completely refocus this channel if you really had a high IQ.
I like this video, but I kind of disagree with one point. Maybe I was insecure, but I'm in my twenties and I literally just realised all of my friendships have been one sided. Literally. I used to describe myself as a loyal friend "no matter what", and I always used the, "Friendships aren't transactional and they don't owe me anything," till I went through the most traumatic period in my life and there was literally no one. I've cut them off now, and have decided to never put myself into that kind of situation again. Realising my friends were basically not my friends filled me with a lot of resentment. So I will never have another friend that does the bare minimum for me while I am a real friend. Your advice works if your friends at least come through for you when you really need them. If they can't even do that, what then is the point? You're just a slave
Completely agree with you, but it’s more so if those friends do other things. Our love languages are different so some people value quality time and make effort to plan, others may always get you a present for a bday etc. the point is that we can’t expect people to replicate what we give, people give in different ways. If you’re constantly giving and feeling like you’re getting nothing return, then yes of course why be friends with them, but then you simply move on from that friendship rather than sticking around wondering why your friendships are one-sided :) I’ve definitely let go of friends where I felt they didn’t care about me, so I don’t mean by that point that you just stick around with people who suck it’s just having perspective that we’re all different :)
@@Akta I see your point now. While you're here, I'm not certain you'll see this but I'd like your opinion.
I once had a friend I would do everything for. Like everything he wanted, no matter what. And then the best he could do for me was to "check up" now and again and if I felt bad, mostly leave me to my own devices or basically tell me to toughen up. I got tired and he always said that this was the best he could do. He claimed that his default was not caring about anything or anyone, so what he was doing was the best he could do, and me being an over achiever was not in his nature. I tried to make him see I also had to try hard to get everything right and he could do with a bit of effort, but he claimed what he was doing was effort enough. What do you think about this?
@@Dude-dx5ns honestly, only you can answer that. Only you can say if the effort he gives feels like effort to you, and if it’s something you appreciate or not. If you carry resentment that it’s not good enough, then I personally would take a step back in how much energy you’re giving. I’d also ask why you’re giving so much - why do everything he wants no matter what? Are you doing what you want? Only you can answer these qs and do what feels right for you :)
@@Akta Thank you so much. I think I've just been wired to be loyal to people and do whatever they want and I'm really really working on that. Thanks a lot.
I took it more as "patience". Sometimes they'll do the heavy lifting in the relationship, sometimes you will.
Those were all the things I used to think about when I was a teen and in my 20s, I just turned 30 this year and my view on friendships have changed so much, I grew apart from so many friendships in last two years it’s the reality thanks for a great video ❤
Thank you so much lovely! It’s crazy how we grow apart from people as we get older! ❤️
Since I was 17 I found it hard to trust anybody, even more so as I got older. Many friends are enemies in hiding.
it’s not about quantity it’s about quality of the friendships you have. i been going through a lot of friendship breakups these past 2 years especially in the past yr it definitely hurts but i know i been aligned with the tribe i will have.
So true friendship break ups can be so painful, I wish they were spoken about more!! It’s good you know what aligns with you :) 🙏
Thank you for being so vulnerable in front of everyone. It's quite brave -- something I couldn't do.
Aww thank you so much Robert! Honestly, I didn’t think I ever could too! But once you start, you realise life feels a lot lighter when you take off that armour :)
Friends , who needs ‘em !
Lie 10? I'd been telling myself that for ages!
me😓
I liked the point you made about being secure in your friendships not having to feel pressure to see your friends all the time ❤
How many friends you have matters is the biggest lie. In reality, I just have a few people I call friend, and I don't usually share things I don't want to with them. Nice video Akta ♥️
It’s so true!! I’m the same :) thanks so much for watching Chinyere ❤️
If you have 3 QUALITY friends then your doing well 👍
Definitely, but even they can come and go I think 😅
@@Akta absolutely, no denying that 😂
Your videos have gotten me through many hard times. Please don't ever stop. I'm so glad you showed up in my recommendations.❤️
Whenever I edit my videos, I constantly second guess whether they would help anyone so thank you so so so much for saying this, because it really does encourage me to continue. I really appreciate it John ❤️
Really great video and came at the right time! I recently moved to Amsterdam, making friends in a new country at 28 is strange but also exciting finding people that inspire you rather than forcing friendships back from home that didn't serve! Appreciate you! xx
OMG you’ve moved to Amsterdam?! How is it going?? I’m sooo excited for you, enjoy this new chapter in your life! 🙏 I appreciate you too 🤗❤️
That's great best of luck on everything.
I moved to UK , and yes making friends at 28 away from home in a foregein language with a different culture is a challange😅
You just summed up every big dark cloud floating in my head since my graduation in 2019 into organised topics. I have always thought it's only me experiencing this harsh reality about friendships until I stumbled across your video just now. It's such a hard pill to swallow but I'm gradually coming to terms with it. Thank you for making me feel related and connected ❤
Hi Akta 👋,
One unrealistic expectation regarding friendships that I had to unlearn is that early friendships (even the really good ones) last forever, though I have to admit it took me quite a while to get myself there. As difficult as it was for me to let go of the people I thought I made lifelong friendships with, on the other hand I realized how liberating it feels to mentally hit this reset button and choose the people I want to connect and be friends with.
Sending you lots of love!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤗
Hey Ritchie! Omg yes, this is such a hard expectation to let go of. I also struggled with it massively, especially since most people I knew had their childhood friendships, so I thought it was normal! You’re so right though, it really is liberating to let go! Thanks for watching this ❤️
This video is so underrated because everything you said was so true and so wise. People who don't understand these topics end up being constantly being frustrated with friendships and sometimes it becomes a toxic relationship.
Thank you so much lovely ❤️
Love the encouragement about finding friends outside of school! I've found that a struggle, especially finding other creators like yourself. I would love to connect with you, a fellow RUclipsr who thinks deeply and provides value like in your videos
Thank you so much :) That is so kind!!! If you’re on Twitter, that’s where I speak to creators most! :)
Great video about friendship! I used to be picked on for not having friends or having a lack of friends, but this video made me feel better about it!
I’m so sorry to hear that Petter! I’m glad this video made you feel better, you deserve better!! 🙏
Thank you for all your videos 💛 makes me feel grateful for what I already have and content with where I am rather than always looking for more !
This is exactly what I want people to feel 🥹🥹 so thank you so so so much for saying this Justine ❤️
The love or friendship that are based on personal interests will eventually break when it is not serving the need. Time tested relationship are imperfect and has it's own sacrifice. "Love and Hate are the illusion of our emotion that which we don't have a clarity but with full of assumptions, real love lies in the acceptance of the flaws which is why it hardly exists"
I love this, so true
I agree with everything you have said in this video! I feel when you are in your 20s there is so much transition with your friendships. I have experienced that!
For me the main thing I learnt is to always try and see things from your friends side. For example, you may think they are ignoring you but they may be going through a lot and replying to messages is just not a priority
Your videos r so helpful for self help n the way u explain real life problems is so informative
I’m so glad you think so 🤗
Back in 2004 when social networks were just starting, here in Brazil not everyone had computer as its very expensive for the most at the time (3~5 months salary). My long time friend started to stay up to 10 hours on MSN Messenger, Orkut, Facebook and stuff. When I visited his family as neighbors he was at that PC, he talked to me while still looking to the PC screen. So I had some thoughts about alienation, depression and stuff. Just as I calculated, 10 years later the world changed with popularization of social networks and smartphone. The world is having the many issues and one of them you just described on this video. Thanks for helping people and the world!
I hope you’re in a better headspace now 🙏 thank you so much for sharing and for your kind words :)
I very much agree on these points. Boundaries are so important in all aspects of our lives. Although I can't help but think that we all have to live and go through it to really learn all this.
This is so true!
A good friend is better than an old friend 👌 great one (all of them, actually. But this one specially for people older than 30!) Haha
I know!! It’s so freeing when you realise you don’t have to hold on! 😅
I think the best friend idea does add a lot of pressure on both sides. As long as I considered someone a good friend, that's all that matters to me. People become friends for different reasons.
You’re so right Raphael!
This is something I really reflected on this year. I just wrote a piece on it too. I have slightly different thoughts about some points you brought up, but everything you share provide such good insight to building better friendships as an adult.
I love that you’ve recently reflected on this too! Thank you so much for watching Cynthia 🤗
It's so sad 🥺 friendships always meant to me so much more than any other relations
But everything is so different when you're an adult
It’s true, they really are! It’s so nice you value them though
Damn I can tell you been through the ringer on the topic. This is a decent video on the discussion of friendship and the multiple complexities involved. On the surface we think we have an idea on what it is but over the years I found my definition and perspective evolves, readjusts, old friendships die off and new ones are formed. Mainly bc I think the topic is just under explored and often ignored. Even now how friendship is defined is evolving with the use of social media and the idea of interpersonal connectivity.
Thanks so much! :) you’re so right
I find this to be really good & resourceful, but regarding having friends that we support but they don't support back, what if that friend CAN really help (eg: something small as sending a shortnote pdf for a lecture you missed) but decides not to ? If you're a giver, what if your friend realizes that even if she/he doesn't help you back you'd continue to support her/him, hence she/he worries not to remain selfish?
I think it’s really up to us to keep our own boundaries, and if we don’t, then that’s on us. I used to be such a people pleaser, but learning to stand for my own self worth has been so life changing! I didn’t mean by that lie about people not giving to just accept people not giving at all, just that we give in different ways! If someone wasn’t giving anything to the friendship, I wouldn’t consider it a friendship - but people may give in a different way :)
Great post, I have had friends come and go I used to say I have no close friendships which is true. We go through different seasons and opportunities come and go embrace it.
So true! I love thinking of it as seasons
It's hard to meet people when you're not allowed to do anything or hang out anywhere without spending money.
Always a pleasure to watch your videos. So easy to listen to. Great to see the channel growing. Well deserved. B😁
Thanks so much B, I really appreciate you being part of this channel for so long and always being so supportive 🥰
@@Akta 😁 You are so welcome.
Awesome useful video, thank you so much
Thank you for watching Lavan :)
Thank you so much for these points. This is so good.... Love it...🤩😋
Thank you so much Yasith!! 🥰
I appreciate you for sharing your insights! Another great video. The choice of clips from Friends was a nice touch.
Thank you so much Renshaw 🤗
Thank you for sharing this. I definitely think that as we grow up our priorities change and some friendships adapt and grow while others are fond memories but don’t hold the same place if you’re growing in different directions. ♥️
I agree, then new people come in your life and friendships develop.
Thank you for watching this lovely ❤️
If I can't expect friends to be there for me, then what are they for?
Thanks for the great information!!
Thanks for watching ❤️
Thank you ❤️💫
Thank YOU ❤️
I love the wisdom and advice that you have to share. I'm always so excited to watch each new video that you come out with.
You’re so sweet Tiffany 🥹 thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
i can relate to all of this, thank you sm Akta ♡
Thank you for watching ✨
Great video Akta. Really insightful stuff I find these videos to be super interesting! 😄
Thank you so much Daniel 🤗
Underrated RUclipsr
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You are such a therapist Akta ❤
Definitely not! Just sharing my experiences, reflections, and what I read around it 😅 but thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Is normal for a friend to not react to my social media posts, even if I react to their posts?
I needed this.
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💙 Thank you
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This’s so true
Thanks :)
such a good video
Thanks Leo 🤗
Thanks for another great video! Love all of your content. I struggle with trying to find ways to also make new friends as an adult esp as an introvert. I wanted to share a new book about this in case it’s helpful it’s called Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends by Marisa Franco.
Hope you have a good day Akta! ❤
Thank you so much for the lovely comment, and for your book recommendation! I’ll add it to my list 🤗 I hope you’re having an amazing day too Asmeret ❤️❤️
How does one really make friends as an adult? I'm trying after battling with depression and suicidal ideations. Who anyone please give good advice? I'm trying to improve my quality of life with healthy friendships.
Hey lovely! I have a few videos on friendship so I’d definitely recommend watching, but I think the best way to make friends is to do the things that you already want to do, no matter what it is. I previously tried friendship apps and going to random classes I had no interest of continuing, but when I started things that I wanted to do (with no intention of making friends) that’s when I started making more friends because I was in an environment I was happy/myself in. For me this was doing RUclips, I have a handful of real life friends I’ve met through doing that. I also completely changed how I was with other people/not being afraid of being alone (I have a video on that). I hope mentally you’re in a better place and I’m sure you will find what you’re looking for 🙏🙏✨
@@Akta I appreciate your advice and kind words. I've actually been alone with myself since 2014. I had enough of alone time and don't desperately seek friends but in need of communication and human interaction. I don't know if it's just me, but the more people I encounter the more I look into people eyes. I don't feel or see them. When I look into their eyes I feel and see and empty shell. Almost soulless. I wonder if this has become the reality of our current society where people of depth don't actually exist outside of narcissism or facades. How can one really find their tribe when it seems that most people have based their personalities and values on curated lifestyles and aesthetics that are marketed to us? For example the bohemian girl, or the emo girl, etc. I've noticed when trying to connect with some people they are not who they portray themselves to be, hence the facade. I'm not one to be pessimistic of my future but I am deeply concerned and curious to know your age everyone elses thoughts on this.
I want to disagree with the likening of having/finding a best friend to getting a romantic partner. I think a best friend is somewhat necessary. Ppl can live without that if they have a handful of very decent friends. However, getting and keeping a best friend, traditionally, is nowhere near as hard as getting a perfect romantic partner. Traditionally, ya have 1-2 best friends at an early age, and with some support from a parent, make sure you don't lose touch. Being quite young, you won't have the high standards, biases, insecurities, negative influences, etc. to be critical, or picky. As time goes on, they become a consistent companion and a part of you, but there almost never are dynamics that can upset the balance except incorporating new friends into the fold. Traditionally, there ARE no pressures to look your best, certain (unnatural) behaviour to always impress, physical desires and hormones causing anxious interference of sound judgment, gender based conflicts, a rush to size up the other person and progress the relationship, nor are there enough fundamental differences to make the bond flimsy or conditional. Long term companionship cultivated from a casual bond of reciprocity is easy to keep going. Especially if both parties don't have tremendously busy lives, and their lives are otherwise a tad empty.
Hi, I'm Brian and I have no friends at all. I haven't had a real friend since I was in high school. I used to be depressed and have anxiety from it. I would go to the bars and clubs by myself in my 20s and early 30s by myself. It was so rough and tough. I'm 39 now. I'm just focused now on building my finance and wealth. I wish I could meet a woman as real and kind as you. Lots of horrible women out there.
Hey Brian! I’m sorry to hear that you’ve struggled with anxiety, depression and loneliness! It’s great that you’re directing your energy into more positive things now, and I hope you keep an open heart so that people can still come into your life 🙏
Your not alot, I have had friends come and go.
How many times I've been to the cinema by myself seeing others in groups. It's a very sad state the way the world is
I bring 21year old guy, i don't have friends nor i have a girlfriend 😔 which makes my life boring life go through so much social anxiety. Depression
I’m so sorry Jovin 🥹 hope this season of your life passes
@@Akta yes Akta. This what makes makes me through social anxiety.
Just here in the comments to tell you how stunning you are again! :D
I suscribe :)
Could we become friends
I never know how to reply to comments like this because I feel like friendships need to be organic 😅
I'm sorry for putting you on the spot lol. Well organic is possible seeing how you didn't say no. So I'll start names Manuel and I'd like a chance to chat, talk, get to know one another more. Now it'd make for some decent content if we wanted to make conversations public. I don't know who knows we may be polar opposite or very similar but we won't know until we know.
NEW HERE!
Thanks for being here :)
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who r u? im surprised to see someone speak truth after a very very long time. who r u?
That’s so nice Aziz! I’m Akta 👋
@@Akta "akta" different name. Never heard this name befr.
Okay maybe it doesn't like links. Look, We're in runaway climate change. It will be very difficult to survive by 2030. You need to completely refocus this channel if you really had a high IQ.
Feel free to share your channel here so people can check it out :)
Feel free to share your channel here so people can check it out :)
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