Why Do People Commit Suicide? Director of Suicide Prevention at Mount Sinai
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- Dr. Igor Galynker, MD, PhD, is the Director of the Suicide Research and Prevention Laboratory at Mount Sinai Hospital in New York, where he’s developed and validated scales to determine the suicidal risk of patients. Dr. Galynker discusses the contributing factors to suicidality, prevention strategies, and his proposed suicide-specific diagnosis, Suicide Crisis Syndrome.
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Hopelessness, abuse, fear, no outlook of living getting better, no want or will to continue fighting
not try even little by more scientific thinking makes it non-easy to solve that
@@Guys_Love_Each_Other what?
Why is it so hard for people to comprehend hopelessness?
Its so frustrating. Like, why? Why NOT? No one does this if they feel like they have a choice
@@OGreenWorId like we don't try to feel those emotions but try to run away from those emotions, we don't try to solve those emotions logical way
Being gang stalked and tortured is definitely putting me over with no loyal wife
People commit suicide because life is bad and they just want their suffering to end and to rest. The end.
Absolutely.
No treatment or psychiatrist can fix someone’s bills, homelessness etc.
@@vtwin1979 There are resources for the homeless. In Texas, there are specific programs for those who are homeless and are being discharged from a psychiatric hospital. It truly is about getting connected to the right resources for your situation.
yeah, nothing confusing as doctor making our to be its simple as that
additionally, most are locked inside of their own thoughts isolating
and most either are not having the benefit of a nice little therapist to talk with or are not emotionally strong enough to call around getting an appt for someone to talk to. plus; good luck with that, as it is impossible to get an immediate emergency doctor's appt. And what suicide candidate is going to drive themselves to the ER in their dreadful last hours or moments?
We do it because this world is horrible, and we dont want to live in it anymore. Some people are magnets for poverty and tragedy. People who have storybook lives could never understand. 😢
Yes I've never rly come close to doing something like that but even I understand how this goes to happen, how is that even a question you have to study for 15years lol.. I mean in most cases it's so obvious why ppl make that choice. And the biggest reason imo is simply the lack of care or not getting the treatment or whatever you need in this world (love too for example, maybe most of all).
I think there are very few people that live storybook lives but unfortunately people can present their lives as storybook. I think for most of us our lives have both significantly painful and some Beautiful Moments. If you love nature and animals there's so much to get from that or if you love listening to music or whatever it is. Find what you feel is beautiful in this world and try to put some attention to that. Sending care and compassion to find the beauty in your world.
I came to America with $40 in my pocket. I worked as cleaning lady while going to college and paying for it myself. I am still only one from my family who came here. My life was very difficult and can be look at like horrible for some. As for me I see it as successful. It is all in your mind. You may find a good sides to any situation you are in. Money has nothing to do with happiness. It is plenty to do in this country without money.
@@enatp6448well said👍
@@bekeneel the ‘care’ even though lacking- maybe it’s a blessing that it is lacking many times bc it’s so harmful it’s a joke
That lady is one talented interviewer, who asks questions that are not suggestive, who lets her guest speak. Excellent interview.
She just knows that topic, she is awesome
Jesus is Lord give your life to God he’s worth living for it’s not too late he have it all for us the least you can do is let him in your life and be strong till heaven! Don’t feel sorry for yourself get eternal life trust in Gods free gift ! Life forever ! You’re a child of God don’t miss this ONE in a lifetime opportunity to FOLLOW GOD THROUGH JESUS HE DIED SO YOU CAN LIVE.
Read John 3:16 in the Bible
@@markash12. Jesus is Lord give your life to God he’s worth living for it’s not too late he have it all for us the least you can do is let him in your life and be strong till heaven! Don’t feel sorry for yourself get eternal life trust in Gods free gift ! Life forever ! You’re a child of God don’t miss this ONE in a lifetime opportunity to FOLLOW GOD THROUGH JESUS HE DIED SO YOU CAN LIVE.
Read John 3:16 in the Bible
It’s like being on a loop of inner turmoil you can’t escape from .
Every memory in ones inner monologue is negative
Jesus is Lord give your life to God he’s worth living for
@@ohkay7418 Jesus is Lord give your life to God he’s worth living for
Jesus is Lord give your life to God he’s worth living for
we can try to control that loop, we are not totally powerless probably
Ultimately it comes down to loss of hope. Once you lose hope that better days are ahead everything loses its meaning.
That's exactly what it is
You are absolutely right. Or in my case anyway. When my girlfriend passed away hope went with her.
Bingo
@@joeszymanski3540I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope you’re doing well now or atleast trying to
Very true
Wow, that doctor brought me to tears because he really understands the issue. When I've told my Dr about my suicidal plans, and all the health care professionals that would ask me, they all tell me to call the national suicide line.
I tell them that that's not going to work because my problem is that I don't feel loved enough, so having to talk to a stranger who doesn't know me, and doesn't care or know anything about me is really not the solution.
My problem can't be fixed with pills or a few appointments with a psychologist.
My problem is within myself, and I need to work on the core issue.
And I had to tell my Dr that if I were seriously suicidal, I wouldn't call him, because if I'm actually planning on going through with it, I don't want to be talked out of it, let alone risk being institutionalised...
Thank you doctor for getting it.
I wish I wouldn't have to tell my health care carers about basic thought processes
Word for word how My experience of being suicidal is like. Im happy you’re still with us. I think I know exactly what you’re going through because I have the same thoughts. I hope you’re able to find a way through it.
I don’t want to live but I’m scared to die. I understand wanting to get help opposed to doing it. My depression tells me do it, but then my anxiety reaches for help
Not feeling loved enough - requiring to much validation from external sources. Up your self love. Expect nothing from anyone else. I have found the Buddha answers these questions best of all. Namhu Amida Buttsu
God loves you, life is beautiful and I love you.keep living and help others @Beeppoop
I understand this completely. I have had major depressive since it was diagnosable, usually around 18, though I remember looking for ways to die as early as 6 years old. Each time a depression would hit, it would be much worse than the last. After a 2 year period of several major losses, I honestly ran out of reasons to live. I have adult kids who I didn't want to harm, and I have my faith, but during that time, i lost sight of both. So I made my plan, gathered my things, and prayed, mostly for forgiveness. A couple hours later, I camecto the realization that I had walked several miles from home. Ironically, that realization came when a car hit me on the side of the road and sped off as I fell down a short hill. The anger is what brought me to the present moment. Long story short, I ended up at an ER, and they evaluated me. They did a psych consult while they had me because I had no idea why I left and because I simply said there was nothing to live for. They said I was fine and were going to send me home. That was maybe the only time I wanted actual help, but I was uneinsured. When they asked if I understood the discharge, I said I did and that if they didn't do anything to help me the next time I came in, they would either resuscitate me or pronounce me either way I didn't care. They decided to help me. I'm pretty sure if they sent me home, I would never have seen this. The reason I talk about it is because we need to put this out in the open so people can discuss it and ask for help before it takes over and kills them. Anything we leave in the dark can grow big enough to swallow us hole. For me, medications don't help. Therapy does some good, but minimally, so I have looks into alternatives like binaural beats and diet. I am also fortunate enough to have both a psychiatrist and therapist who understand why hospitalization is not usually the best answer for someone like me. It is so hard to advocate for your own wellbeing when all you want to do is die, but if you come out of such a crisis alive, you will find more strength than you believe is possible. Also, the best antidepressant for me is meeting people in those dark places, honestly listening to them, looking directly at their pain, and walking beside them on their way out. Most importantly, understanding that if they lose the fight even as you are there for them that the outcome was never yours to determine. There are many reasons why people choose to die, but I have found that people with honest connections to others make the choice to live a lot easier.
People commit suicide when life is full of pain, there is nothing more to do and there is no hope of change.
My son in 2011 shot himself I was in shock for 7 or so years this is the very best video and doctor I have ever seen I hope he succeeded I getting it in DMS ❤
Sorry to hear, I had a similar loss recently.
i am crying for your loss. i know you will meet again in the next life. love to you.
❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. My cousin is dealing with the same loss of his son.
So sorry!
Severe chronic pain should be put on the list as well. Thank you and God Bless
Try explaining that to my idiot doctor 😢
Chronic physical illness and pain, a childhood bereft of love and community… everyday is pain.
This is me, i am still hoping it gets better, i give it to the end of the year.
Jesus is Lord give your life to God he’s worth living for it’s not too late he have it all for us the least you can do is let him in your life and be strong till heaven! Don’t feel sorry for yourself get eternal life trust in Gods free gift ! Life forever !
@@janetklumper6048. Jesus is Lord give your life to God he’s worth living for it’s not too late he have it all for us the least you can do is let him in your life and be strong till heaven! Don’t feel sorry for yourself get eternal life trust in Gods free gift ! Life forever ! You’re a child of God don’t miss this ONE in a lifetime opportunity to FOLLOW GOD THROUGH JESUS HE DIED SO YOU CAN LIVE.
Read John 3:16 in the Bible
Absolutely yes I can relate honestly
You can sum it up in one sentence. They lose hope.
I think it's an awful thing to try to prevent suicide. There is too much suffering and we should just let people go when they want to. It is selfish to want to keep someone here and let them continue to suffer for our own selfish desires.
Some people who have tried or have thought to end their lives and received treatment go on to have normal lives. Don't You think they deserved that second chance?
i would agree with this if most suicides weren't based purely on impulse and not actually what the person wants
A healthy society should make room for both suicide prevention and sanctioned suicide. Sometimes people have suicidal episodes that they can move beyond and lead happy fulfilled lives afterward, but also sometimes people have prolonged/life-long depression or terminal illness and such people must be able to choose what is best for them. It can be tricky because it is sometimes unclear which bucket a suicidal person falls into. Ultimately though the decision should be left up to the individual. We should give people many opportunities to help pull them out of suicidal ideation if they wish to recover, but forcing an always unhappy person to choose life is immoral. I think the dominant culture falls a bit too heavily on the suicide-prevention-only side of this, and the rights of the individual are prone to being ignored. However, giving up on suicide prevention all together is not the right thing either. If you're reading this, I want you to be happy and, to the extent possible, I want your suffering to be limited. Best to you ❤
Sometimes I wished people around me stopped caring and trying to keep me here suffering so I can just rest finally
@@thebaysixThe best answer 🩷
i feel like a broken heart comes just above financial.broken heart,by betrayal is by far THE WORST PAIN EVER
Try being made to feel like you aren't a woman by more than one man because they have an evil attachment but you're made to believe that's the norm like you're hypnotised and you're ugly if you're not skin and bone and feel like God can't even save you then you go stand next to the cut open fence next to the train tracks like I'm thinking of doing now
no home's worse than anything
Health is number one. All other things give you a chance to start again.. really bad health doesn't necessarily
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 Thats true if you dont have health you dont have anything
Yes, betrayal is horribly painful, still, I think the death of a child is the worst pain, I believe.
I've started applying Maslow's hierarchy of needs, such as working on housekeeping before expecting myself to drive to a yoga class. Self-care includes self-allowance to do what works.
Jesus is Lord give your life to God he’s worth living for it’s not too late he have it all for us the least you can do is let him in your life and be strong till heaven! Don’t feel sorry for yourself get eternal life trust in Gods free gift ! Life forever ! You’re a child of God don’t miss this ONE in a lifetime opportunity to FOLLOW GOD THROUGH JESUS HE DIED SO YOU CAN LIVE. GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE seriously.
Read John 3:16 in the Bible
Your decision to accept Jesus is EVERYTHING and your LIFE depends on it not just on this earth.
Never has someone reflected my thoughts and feelings back at me so completely and so accurately. This is exactly it, this is exactly how i feel.
I felt the same way!
I love this dr.
You rarely see this degree of empathy in medicine.
My own experience has been ignorance in medicine.
Most drs are very type A personalities. Type A people have very little empathy and think your problems are because you aren't trying hard enough. Many think their success is solely because of their hard work and not because of advantages they may have had or just being in the right place at the right time. I'm not saying someone can't work their way up, but it is amazing that someone who is in medicine can lack self awareness and empathy. I write this as a suicidal type A person. My inner dialog is ridiculous.
@@jplum7708 I find the majority of mental health workers, not just Drs, to have extremely limited empathy or understanding and as you say, think you aren't trying hard enough is an actual symptom of the illness and in my experience judge and punish you for it. Perhaps the mhws should just realise that they are unable to understand and have enough to help and stop taking a wage for their incompetence.
Sorry the grammer isn't great above but I hope the gist is understandable
The majority of MH professionals are hugely overworked, overwhelmed and underpaid ( here in UK at least) this leads to jadedness and a drop in empathy and care
I lost 2 sons to suicide in the last 18 months. It's painful to understand in retrospect how they chose to die, but so helpful and important. The most helpful thing is to hear our love and presence probably kept our loved ones alive for longer than if we weren't there. Thank you.
I’m so sorry to hear this. My only child, my son took his life on April 13th of this year. I still can’t believe it. I’m so sorry for your loss and for your pain. Many prayers to you.
@@erinhernandez5087How are you coping? I can imagine this being incredibly difficult to deal with. I can’t imagine the pain the OP must be feeling, with losing TWO children to suicide.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
For me it’s financial! I’m a pretty jovial person in all, but because of debts, finances and student loans it’s draining me and making me depressed to go in the real world. Suicide just seems as an escape! And that escape brings me hope to an end of financial burden. We only getting older, time is only going forward with things being more expensive each day wtf. Realistically I can’t see myself owning a home. Let alone enjoy life.. I’m ready to die but i will pray for y’all’s happiness before I leave ❤
I resonate with u.
I feel the exact same way. I want to end it all but I'm afraid to do it. I know one day I will end it all.
Same here. Too poor to continue living.
There are brand new construction homes near Houston Texas and other areas for only 200k. Just move to a lower cost state to buy a house.
Rented my whole life…”Owning” a home is often just an external general goal…better to find a passion, or just something you feel in flow doing…also try volunteering perhaps. I know times are tough financially and there a places where people are poor but have good realtionships, music, humor and make it through.
In my experience, leaving the hospital after being suicidal only added to the hopelessness I was feeling. I felt like I was a number for profit, then thrown out back to the same problems with not one real resource. This was so informative, thank you Doctor! 🙏🏻 Great interview! ❤
I recently was in the hospital and ya, I feel worse than when I went in. even after telling them how beyond depressed I was and am, and how I was severely suicidal, yet no one was listening, or noticed, so I was let out after 3 weeks, on no medication, and feeling unbelievably worse, which I still can't understand is possible. but I'm at the point where I literally have no one, no friends, no family, and not even the small handful of people that I was able to talk to, that I trusted, and that knew me, were no longer at the hospital, so I didn't even have anyone in there. I have absolutely no one anywhere, and nothing matters to me anymore. I'm done with everything and everyone.
@@petsmart1000How are you doing now?
When I left hospital after a suicidal episode I had a 101-degree fever and was told to report I t to the discharging doctor. His reply was that this was not a homeless shelter. I left angry, and if not, for family around me may not have survived the week.
That doctor should have been discharged. Unfortunately, hospital work acts as a magnet to assholes as well as good people.
@@aleccullen2696 ahh had same troubles with Doctors at Auckland City hospital- n.z. - they kept me Homeless for 30 years. - They now have me in new city mission which since it opened for the extreme insane homeless 2023 has had 77 fire allarms at mostly night time when hard too walk down stairs as elevators shut off pronto when allrms go off.- 9 floors high is the modern tech building.
Thank you for acknowledging family as so many have none or worse. I am so sorry that happened to you.
Horrible experience.
What a 'care- less' answer of that doctor.
An @sshole of a doctor.
@OurTube_TheOriginal I tell my story not to cause pity but to hopefully help others. In all honesty, I believe helping others recover we heal our own lives. I did report that doctor as did other clients. That doctor no longer works at that facility. The importance of family and friends is so important to mental health. Fur family has also made so much of a difference in surviving and thriving.
As someone who had attempted twice before and who does still think about it from time to time, I loved this episode. Like it was mentioned, there's so much stigma around talking about suicide and especially when one has attempted. ❤
The only reason I’m alive is because of my 6 year old daughter
Please stay alive and keep reaching out to people.
We’re all here for each other. Keep reaching out. ❤
I am always confused when I read about suicidal women. Youre a woman, you are important, you can create life, people want you to exist, you are welcome anywhere.
Please stay with us; we need you! ❤️
One of my college professors said, during a class discussion, that she wasn't interested in studying why people commit suicide. She said she understands why some people commit suicide. She was interested in why some chose not to do it. I found her thoughts profound. That discussion changed my own questions and the focus of my own research, eventual theories, and focus of care.
Survivorship bias. If we understand why people keep on trucking, we can prevent suicide.
LOL…PROFOUND? Ah, yeah cause that is easier to study. What a sad lazy species sometimes…when it comes to killing others we are so ready relatively and saving people who bash themselves and other driving drunk or whatever and yet a depressed person gets nothing…50 min a week “Therapy” and meds or lock up and if one is poor that is for 72 hours sitting around doing nothing.
I'll do it to prevent going into a nursing home! If I can because as a nurse I've seen too many bodies with no quality just rot away. It's so sad.
@@JEBBY123IFYYes, miserable, on all of these meds, incontinent, all alone, dirty glasses. On & on they live. I started to feel that people are like roaches, and no matter what, they live on & on.
I’ve had four attempts on my life. And I have no family to support me. How would this doctor treat me, I wonder. I am wholly responsible for all of my suffering and recovery. And yet I am still just waiting for death to relieve me.
The world is better with you here I promise.
@@alyssacoyle4845 This made me cry. Thank you for sharing that with me. I am not so sure I believe it but I appreciate your kindness.
@@alyssacoyle4845I know you are trying to be kind ...but people that feel very depressed and suicidal don't believe this patronising nonsense
It will come. Life is short when you look back. I'm 75 and when my husband got a motorcycle we were 65 and I loved it. I asked him " please go SLOW down this road. He didn't 45 miles an hour is not slow in my eyes. He hit a stray dog and he wasn't injured but I fell off going into a comma for a month, learning to eat, drink, swallow walk. 10 years ago. I suffer everyday of my life. TBI pain, blame, so much!! My stomach ruptured 6 months later!! I'd be gone if I wasn't a coward. Afraid it won't work. Pills I do believe but maybe pills and rope but don't want them to know I did it.
@@juliebryant3968 You are very right. And the reason is, that it's a platitude. Nothing about such a statement actually makes the person hearing it feel better about themselves or their lives.
It's like when you praise a child for "being good"! That actually causes anxiety over time, because the child doesn't actually KNOW or learn how it's behavior is "good" or how that child can improve, even. Saying the child sings in key, always plays fairly, kindly helps her little brother with his school work unasked, etc., those are very specific things to say. That will help her reflect and learn to differentiate better, and grow up to be emotionally and mentally sound/even-keeled, because she can know what her part/role is in every interaction. If she grows up to not know how she contributes, or what it is that people like or dislike about her behaviors, she's always going to remain ignorant of the control she actually has over her own life...
People, like children, need you to say WHY they make the world better... if you don't know that person, or try to get to know them... how can you?
All I know about this person, is that they are suffering, possibly to the same degree that I'm suffering, but it's not a competition! At least, I know this person CARES about suffering, or @MrBungle900 wouldn't have watched the video (idk if they did or not) or take the time to write a comment (possibly reading many of the comments like I have, too).
It shows that @MrBungle900 is compassionate. And that's a good reason to say they "make the world a better place," because there are far too few compassionate people as far as I'm concerned. But, I'm just speculating. Basing it off my own _dramedy;_ my own "cave allegory".
Man, I hate sounding like a know it all, but I've survived some real hard $h!t in my lifetime. I ain't holding back any more... and learning how to give and receive feedback, helped me learn how to find something nice (and specific to the person) to say about anyone. I'm really good at throwing insults at people, too, though. So, forgive me if I've insulted anyone here!
Simple answer, I believe suicide is caused by lack of hope. That things won't get better.
OMG ! What a remarkable, special doctor he is. The world needs more professionals with a heart and compassion like he has. The interviewer was excellent too! Thank you both!
I like that he brings up that you can not trust a person who wants to leave this life. My friend lied to me too. She said she was staying for her brother, animals, and kids .We were making future plans, and then she was gone.
I helped stop her before, but this time, she never said anything. I knew her for 30 years since elementary school.
Lied? Perhaps it was true until one more thing pushed her over. That you would say she “Lied” speaks to anger turned towards the one who gave up their life, the victim. Maybe there was more mistreatment of her in her life by friends and family than we will ever know
@OurTube_TheOriginal His patient in the video said he was fine when it wasn't. If you make up your mind to finally leave this life, wouldn't you lie to prevent people from stopping you,.
In the past, she made half-hearted attempts and would tell people via Facebook or phone calls. We could usually catch her before she did anything. The last time was different. She made up her mind and told no one.
There is anger because of the guilt. The if I paid more attention guilt. You're right. People did not treat her well. Her boyfriends did her no favors. I did my best to influence her away from abusive people, but all I could do was give my observations and advice and hope she at least thought about them.
i’m not kying when i say i stay for my kids but that may not be enough in the end when i’m struggling and they have adult lives. why should i suffer painfully every day so my friends won’t be hurt but then move on?
@lisalasers It's good to have reasons like kids to stay. I don't know if you have a similar experience as mine, but the thoughts and darkness overwhelm and are very intense for a short time. It overrides the reasoning for staying. I just try to get through it. Those short times are the most dangerous.
I think that is what happened to my friend. She had overwhelming feelings and finally decided to do it.
No one ever truly moves on after. I have to work and live life, but she is always in my thoughts. I still feel guilty. Her brother feels guilty, too, and we still talk about her to this day. She was a big part of our lives. We still talk about the good times we had with her.
I hope you keep trying to get better. I'm not a professional, so the above comment is just based on personal experience. Don't give up.
The shock and guilt stay for a long time , a decade or more , but eventually it is livable with . You make peace with the trauma and the happy memories do return . A scar definately but not raw ...
I’m on a psychiatric unit now with severe depression. It’s torment
They allow cell phones there?
@@mylittlekittens I’m in England. Yes, the unit im in does
If you're in England, you have a lot to be depressed about. Sign yourself out and move to a place that isn't f___d. Maybe Portugal. Anywhere but the UK. You'll feel like living again. I did it. It worked. @@justmadeit2
@@mylittlekittenswell its not prison is it...
@@juliebryant3968 In US, psych hospitals do not allow cell phones to patients or visitors as they feel that they may be used for photography and a patients identity is very private during a psych admission. Not sure about cell phones in prison.
I was a teacher in the Peace Corps in 2000-01 to 8th graders. One young girl in one of my classes committed suicide by drinking poison. The class she was part of was one of my worst behavior classes- just rude and mean as a whole. She was sweet, sensitive and caring. So a universal; sensitive, out of place, affected by the collective, having no outlet to express and when attempted mocked or ridiculed [ word ] a suicidal person is far from narcissistic. The tribe will say so thogh.
Just watching this can actually gives some the knowledge they need to prevent their own suicide, for me it has been gratitude and remembering life isnt about the goals and reaching them but about the entire journey and the most important relationship is the one with yourself. Helping others may actually help you help yourself and can be healing in itself. Taking accountability for your own life and focusing on what you can control and letting go of what you can't. Detachment - not allowing anything to own you.
Yes. I agree. That’s the first time I heard anything about goals and failing especially when failing with a family. That clicked with me, also with being a perfectionist and trauma in childhood. I’m have several of those.
That is true. But living in constant fear, traumas, pain, in such a society is also not ok. I wish i had courage.
This comment has been regurgitated a million times.
I hear you@@mitch5222
excellent well said
Healing. I have hypothyroidism and I wasn’t on the therapeutic dosage of levothyroxine so I was feeling depressed and crappy. I had a long crying spell in the hospital. Now I take a higher dosage of levothyroxine and I feel better. Medical problems like hypothyroidism, cancer, and Alzheimer’s disease can cause people to do away with themselves. If you find out that you have Alzheimer’s quickly, there’s medication that you can take to slow down the forgetfulness.
Yes be careful of prednisone also.
This podcast must go VIRAL
I just can't fathom a society that requires so much to live. I can't even get treatment in my country (the US) because I am uninsured. How are we supposed to hang on when we are disposable at our jobs, everything is so expensive and literally nobody cares whether you get housing or starve. Everything is about profit and if you can't conform to the wishes and desires of this economy, they treat you like trash!
Well you all got what you voted for. Suck it up x
Because living life is hell duh!
Thank you for having Dr.Galynker as a guest. I appreciate his work and commitment and contributions to helping people with mental health issues. His knowledge and understanding set a healthy example for other professionals to strive for.
Most of the therapists I saw after my attempt 40 ears ago were full of crap when it came to understanding suicide. When I told them truthfully that I didn’t have a choice in doing what I’d done, they argued the point with me. Sorry…it’s MY experience, not yours! It’s like someone coming home from vacation and saying truthfully that they did not enjoy themselves, only to have someone say “Yes you did!”
Hopefully, mental health professionals these days are less full of themselves.
Why didnt you have a choice, if you don't mind me asking?
An extremely fatigued mind and body from years of suffering.
I have chronic pain and it has crossed my mind. I'm fine now
That's wonderful 🙏🏻✨
Asking someone if they have considered suicide, is as useful as asking a jihadist if they plan on jeopardizing the flight they are going on. It is laughable that someone would reveal plans for others to prevent.
I've struggled with suicide since I was 8 years old, surviving incest by my father who shared me with a couple of friends and our neighbor, neglect by my mother and never getting me the help I needed.
A abusive marriage,we worked really hard to make it better then he was killed in a car accident leaving me with three children, and now I've lost my 20 year old son to suicide 4 days after my birthday! I'm also a recovered addict who got addicted to pain medicine, and I'm now on methadone.
I fight every minute of the day to not take my life, when I go on a walk It's really hard not to walk in front of a car, when I am trying to go to sleep it's so hard to stop thoughts in my head,I have to hurt myself to try and stop the thoughts in my head I've punched my arms and legs cut myself small ones so it's okay pinch the back of my arms, I've always had thoughts to stab myself with a pencil or pen but luckily I've not done it!
I fought so hard for so long then my son beat me to it and he always told me he could not live without me that I would really disappoint him, but he turns around and does it, how do you come back from something like this?
It's been 3 years the clock is ticking tic tok tic TOC, what do you do?
I refuse to let him be by himself, they say when you complete suicide you don't go to heaven you stay here wandering around forever therefore how does a mother let their son walk this earth scared 😨😳😢😮 afraid lost when he could have me with him?
I've made it almost 50 years my birthday is coming up and so is the anniversary of his death, I really would love to see my son again but I would also love to see the other side of 50 also, the reason I'm saying all of this is to try and show how much I've been through and how strong I've tried to be I'm not selfish I'm tired, I want to also see my grandchildren graduates get married have children,I want to see my son that is living have a child, so many people and so much life that hasn't been lived, it's a fight a real fight, wether I choose to or not I just want to say you don't have to be the victim you can be the victor you can be strong and right now I choose to live but if I do choose to see my son again I'm not a failure, I really did try hard!
My dear you are not alone in the struggle. Always remember that
Thank you for being so open. I’m 50 with a brain tumour.. and because of my illness, my entire family and friends won’t talk to me anymore.. I’ve been considering suicide but I’m such a gutless human to even try.. I have zero people in my phone contacts.. I’ve just got myself..( my own worst enemy)
I’m sorry to hear your story.. it actually made me cry.. but I needed the reality read.. I really hope our lives get better ❤️🩹
Kindest regards, James 😢
How do Americans have all these crazy instances. In Africa our problems keep us sober. You're fighting for survival everyday. You don't have the luxury of even contemplating suicide. The hunger in your belly keeps you as alert as a watchdog.
please choose your life, always. please.
@@NothinglefttosayWhy won't your family and friends talk to you?
Prescribing controlled substances without asking if they have an addiction or are in recovery from addiction can turn deadly. There are many physical issues not mentioned here that also cause suicidal thinking as a side effect - Sleep Apnea for example. Giving them benzos, ambien, and psychotherapy is not going to solve until the physical apnea is resolved. Hypothyroidism, Tramatic Brain Injuries, and having an addiction/alcoholism all cause suicidal ideation. It is imparitive that suicidal conditions be diagnosed with a cross-functional medical team that includes a neurologist, general practitioner, in addition to psychotherapy. It is not appropriate to address it with psychotherapy alone. And benzos should be a last resort. I recently had a suicidal client and it was Gabapentin that was the culprit. Taking her OFF the drug cleared up the suicidal symptoms within 4 days.
My 39 y.o. son w/ history of drug&alcohol experimenting in teens, high IQ yet difficulty identifying w/ peers, went on to work on MA’s at Uof Chicago,School of Social Work. He started Prozac@18 unknown to us. At age 39, after a family vacation w/ us, he took a trip alone to northern CA and committed suicide, but all along had been seeing therapist, had meds, etc, but prior to trip hearing voices…but we never knew about the voices…😢It will be 5 years in April and at age 74, I cannot get over my grief & guilt…I finally sought treatment at MAYO for which I am thankful, but it causes such sadness b/c his care was not that good…Thank you for your work…this is such an amazing interview…I only wish we had more cooperation when I tried family therapy when he was 15…As his Mom, it is not easy to overcome my guilt because I think I felt suicide was a possibility…
So sad for you, my son, high achiever 33yrs etc, is always on the verge of suicide..finds how he is and who he is unbearable. Most days are agony. Medications little use..he is adamant it's no ones fault but his and no one else is to blame. I imagine your son felt you would know instinctively it wasn't your fault..they are wrong here but their mindset is malfunctioning. I think it's an inherited mental disorder and I feel my son's condition was made worse by medical intervention during his birth..living with unbearable mental agony is overwhelming.
this was not your fault ❤. i’m sorry he’s gone. and it must hurt so much. but he was probably in lifelong pain and you couldn’t have relieved it gor him ❤❤❤❤ much love, friend
He is talking truth from a person who was in that position....feeling entrapped and also fear of everything
I think about suicide nearly everyday because of the horrible debilitating anxiety that I also feel nearly everyday.
Thank you doctor and interviewer for this video. Mental illness and suicide is such a taboo subject. So happy your discussing this and giving hope
Listening to guided mindful meditations had helped more than anything I’ve tried. I can find contentment in the moment. But thinking about the past and worrying about the first is my worst trigger.
Thank you for bringing Dr. Galynker on. I learned a lot from him. Our family, on both sides, has a history of suicide. Dr. Galyniker answered many questions for me. Good luck in getting your clinical trials approved sir.
Thank you so much for this video! It was so interesting, and I learned so much. I love Dr. Galynker, and I so appreciate the changes he is trying to bring about. I wish he was closer so I could go see him. My brother committed suicide many years ago, and I still sometimes think about all the "what ifs" that maybe could've saved him. He was on medication for clinical depression after my dad died, but he suddenly stopped taking it without letting anyone know, which threw him into a downward spiral. It was a complete shock to everyone because he seemed quite happy the days prior. Later, I learned that people will often feel a weight has been lifted and seem happier when they've made the decision to kill themselves because they know the pain will soon be over. Sometimes I get really depressed now as well, but it's hard for me to show it or tell anyone about it. I wear a mask very well, just like my brother did.
Try all of this in one year. Betrayed by a life partner who left me because 'Im getting older and need peace in my old age. I have no relatives. They all committed suicide. I lost my job because I fought FOR my tenants. Nex week will be my 3rd move for the year, I will lose my car and will soon be homeless. Give me one good reason to continue...just one
Hi @BritzieR74 I hope you’re doing better & just want to reach out … please let me know how you’re doing & maybe I can be your “pen pal” to help with any loneliness or to try to cheer you up every once in a while 😇 Sending hugs and prayers 🙏😇❤️
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Rock bottom is the very solid foundation in which to rebuild upon…….find a shelter close to a job opportunity area w bus transport and/or ride a bike then, get into housing you can actually afford & food stamps if u qualify 👉once in a stable job & housing 👉get you a dog & cat👉they love unconditionally 👉and a lot of time are better than human companionship ❤
how are you going to do it? only thing stopping me is finding a method.
@@peanut1001xyeah same. Look into the dark net markets.
Yes my mom was very very special and an artist. I was kept from having her artwork that was thrown into a dumpster by my family but I rescued it out of the dumpster just in time before the rain came. My mother was really fantastic too good to be treated the way they treated her and her life’s work. 😢
How does this only have 500 views! So interesting
I'm telling you. This video is the most important content on RUclips IMHO. Mental health crisis is the silent pandemic affecting millions. And it is aggravated by social media
i would say YT is suppressing it unfortunately
@@hollygrace6814It's not suppressed. It popped up in my feed.
It's a subject that was made taboo 1,700 years ago by the newly formed Catholic Church. And since then, idiots have believed their garbage. Suicide was the worst of mortal sins to a Church that murdered millions as heretics. When I was caught in that trap, suicide looked like an attractive option. I broke out and got a life. But now, in the Age of Trump and Biden, the desire to end it all has returned. Humanity is a sick joke.
for me part of the allure of suicide is just that its my choice, my very personal action. something that i have control over and noone else. i feel like almost everything i do is something i have to do, for someone else, whether its for the government, my boss, my family or whatever. but suicide is my own.
well that and also just feeling very overwhelmed by internal and external stressors and seeing very little hope of things improving in the future.
poor personal economy plays a big part in it also for me.
It is your choice but your choice will effect many in your life. Having found my father hanging two weeks ago I cannot forget that vision ever. I cannot stop thinking about how much I wish I told him I needed him, how much I loved him. I will never stop questioning if I could have done something different to help him with his pain
im so sorry to hear that. do you know why he did it? was it totally unexpected?
i am not suicidal currently my situation is acceptable at the moment thank you and yes one of the reasons i havent done it before was like you said because of the famil especially my mom@@alyssacoyle4845
I wish you could confide in someone and let them take the burden from you. I know that my son would have been completely fine if he confided in me. You have to accept that your mind is malfunctioning so you may be incorrectly deciding that no one can help
hey im so sorry to hear that and yes part of why i never seriously thought of doing it was because of the effect it would have on my family. strangely my response comment was deleted. i am currently not contemplating suicide. i just wanted to explain suicide ideation to those who may not understand it.@@alyssacoyle4845
Therein lies the contradiction. You strongly desire to act, and you know you'll have efficacy. But you're not practicing action, rather passively being blown here and there, and blaming others for your experience. I'd say it's time to dig yourself out of your hole, with passion, and set sail! Watch FightClub, and then plot out your own Tyler Durden adventure. Maybe read a little Ayn Rand too ... and then you'll maybe see that suicide is both boring & anti- "your own".
Rise of suicide since 1999 = social media??? Instant connection???screen time ^. income inequality, fracture of american dream. And an ^in stress.
Just watch the rise in suicides when Trump gets back into the Oval Office.
Everyday we lose more of our humanity. And people who find it harder to cope leave permanently.
This is a MUST WATCH VIDEO!!! I wish everyone will watch this video and at least 3 times. We all need to be educated about mental health. The stigma needs to be broken
most people don't have families & they do they don't care. most "parents" caused the problem & are very sick & horrible people who hate the person.
probably because of non-good supports we get this suicide becomes inevitable
I hope this doctor gets his application approved for the diagnosis, suicide syndrome and can really make a mark in society's medical field! It would be taught in college for those getting medical licenses and THEY would be more educated on the topic. Thank you for this episode!!! ❤
I'm not asking or in need of any silly empathy etc, but I'm on the verge of this now. I've been there before, and the idea of it coming back as it once did absolutely horrifies me nthe only difference between then and now is I was out of my mind on medications. Nothing wrong with meds, btw, but I could not feel anything back then. Now? Now I want the pain to end so badly that I'm wilyto do anything to stop it.
The first time it happened , the tl;Dr version, I was working over 90 hours a week and rarely slept. Always busy. Then things fell to pieces , lost a few people, etc. this time, I was laid off and now cannot afford to pay my rent, and I will be homeless within 2 weeks. I have looked for work everywhere I could. I can't drive, seizures have been happening ever since I was cut off the medicationsbi was put on, too soon. This pain is so I overwhelming and I have no family or anyone else to confide in. If I go into a hospital , that will push me harder into wanting to end it all, because I understand how the hospitals around here operate.
I am naive and what to know what is the “pain” is it heartbreak, is it physical, is it disappointment of life? ❤
@@memyself4431 right now it's being homeless and having no way out.
I loved this interview with Dr. Galynker. He asks the correct questions to get us thinking with new perspectives. His vulnerability in discussing the first loss of one of his patients to suicide was very powerful.
thank you so much, i have been in a group. my best friend shot herself 4 months ago. WHY? it helps to know she was in terrible pain that came on suddenly and that i probably kept her alive for some time. i just didn't see any signs. She did many things perfectly, i will watch this again and take notes.
Divorce is the ruin of me. Everyone has his opinion. I can’t talk anymore. Take my heartbreak take my savings take my sanity. I’m smoking more than ever and I’ll never wish to harm anyone but all I want is to do is fix myself but it’s not easy
Here’s one reason. This world is a god damn suffering hell hole!!! Jfc, the best case you could hope for is only outliving your children. This place is actual hell.
It fucking amazes me how long it goes on for I mean for fuck sake, I feel like I have been here for eternity already. Waking up to this world is just a disappointment each fucking time I wake up.
There have been moments I have wanted to end it all, probably more than I can count. But I think the reminder of my parents, my memories and loved ones always kept me from taking those actions and saving me. I can’t tell if I should be thankful or not. Cause apart of me doesn’t want to leave them devastated, but apart of me feels I’ve doomed myself anyway. That my future is doomed cause of my own actions. That I’ll never be able to seek what I thought I could have achieved in the future.
This is a good conversation. When feeling suicidal, it would be from being SHUNNED AND VIOLATED WITH INHERITANCE THEFT. AND COURT OF LAW ABUSE IS AT AN EXTREME HIGH ABUSE. THE HOPELESSNESS AND HURT IS BEYOND COMPREHENSION. THE 2 OLDER SIBLINGS AND THEIR WIVES CAN NOT STOP THE ABUSE.
You can’t miss what u never had👉the love of money is the root of all evil👉what do u do? U walk away from the evil causing u harm (the money)❤
I'm here right now. I was the only one that looked after my Mama. We didn't get along she was narcissistically abusive
. My two siblings took everything. I don't have the money to fight it in court. I've walked away. I believe it all evens out in the end.
This is the most accurate, comprehensive and useful set of information to understand the traits, indicators, risk factors, stages and types of stress events that lead to suicide.
This has given me the answers to my questions that I needed to come to peace and confirmed what I thought about my sons death and why/what triggered it, if we had time to save him, and what he was thinking and feeling the last days and hours of his life.
The suicide crisis syndrome exactly describes the state at the end as it was the same feelings, triggers and stages in the past and in his final letter to us. I feel grateful to have found this in my search for answers because I don't have to search anymore.
Thank you and great work. I will be promoting your checklist and addition to DSM. This info needs to get out to families and clinicians.
I’m very sorry for your loss.
I have never believed that I was suicidal. But I do recognise a lot of these symptoms. But ehat I do have is hope.
why is it that when someone hates something, let's say, the neighborhood they live in, nobody thinks they do because they are depressed or sick in the head. nobody prescribe them any drugs but, if a person hates this existence they are automatically diagnosed with depression. they are immediately prescribed drugs. why is it that people think that hating this existence is impossible for anyone unless they are sick or that there is something wrong with them. why is it that everyone must be forced to love being alive and everyone must be forced to stay here?.
Sometimes it makes more sense to me why to do so than why to live in the first place, but then I realize most people are affected by life situations and their mental state, so it's not usually something for the long term.
I suffer from suicidal endogenous depression and reduced mobility caused by a rapid anti depressant withdrawal. I heard someone say once "I just cant imagine ever feeling that desperate". I felt nothing but absolute envy. I would love to have that ignorance of it. It's a powerful urge which whitelines all logic when its in control.
I remember years ago seriously considering suicide after I realized that Christianity is a mountain of bullshit, and how much my identity was entangled with it. I finally realized that none of those people gave a damn about me or what I had discovered/realized (God's purpose for me was to realize that there is no God 😅). The psychological freedom is wonderful, but Christianity was definitely the biggest psychological battle of my life.
I like this shrink. Very open and willing to answer every question from this lovely gal asking great direct questions.
Thank you for you insight, rarely do we hear of the symptoms that someone maybe experiencing, because not everyone is comfortable talking about what’s going on inside their head or because they feel unable to or that they just don’t understand it themselves, and may not be well enough to recognise that they are experiencing symptoms, and that they need help, it’s important for us to try and recognise this for them. Talking about the 7 risk factors and triggers and that the crisis can last anywhere between a few hours and a few days is all new to me, and explains a lot to my own understanding. Thank you for sharing.
The only singular thing that keeps me from checking out is my DAUGHTER I will not leave her alone I raised her from an infant and she is 22 now I stay alive for her that's it.
It's never going to be good enough to watch people on any social media, and send them likes or comments. It's empty mental calories. It's like talking to a photo.
Having people in the room with you is always going to be better. We're connected, but we're not THERE. You can't reach out and hug a screen. You can't do anything more than talk AT someone online. It's impossible to talk WITH someone. You can't offer someone a coffee, or show them how you feel, or be THERE for anyone.
Being there in person is immensely better than talking to a phone or a screen. You can't swipe away from a real person RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU, and we need more real people RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU.
I know I do.
What a lovely man. Thank you for this interview, more things resonated than I would have liked. I’ve spent the last few days trying to hold back tears unless I’m alone and this gave me the courage to see my mum and tell her how much I’m struggling rn and how frightened I am about dark feelings returning after a long time of being ok. I had a good cry with her and am booking an appointment to see someone.
Love and hugs to anyone in this fight and to those who are trying to help them ❤
Wow what an amazing man! I wish that in my lifetime of pain I had the chance to speak to even 1 person like this
This life is not as good as not living....rather be dead than put up with people....period.
I feel when some people speak. It comes off more like music to your ears compared to others where your Trying to get through them talking to get the information.
I don't know exactly what that is but It's very easy to listen to this guy talk.
Thank you so much for this video! ❤❤❤
The current stats must be very alarming. The rise in suicide is kept a secret I think. I have known eleven close to distant friends take their own lives. A life filled with battles, one after the other took a heavy toll on these unfortunate friends/contacts. So tragic to accept the staggering concept of these troubled souls.
Can't lose more tax cattle 😂
Family dysfunction is high up in that list.
Depression for me starts as a diminishing hope for the future. It closes in rapidly.
It’s treatable and preventable IF you can get in to see a doctor who doesn’t drag you down the same tired regimen of ineffective medications when you’re already in crisis.
Why? Because mental anguish is a real pain. And people get tired of living with it..and they truly understand that there are far WORSE things than death.
yeah not good than death it seems because of mental non-health
I feel guilt about my ex bf/best friend dying of alcoholism, which was a slow suicide because I wished I had personally taken him to hospital to get checked out, especially after he had several falls to his head. What makes it worse is his brothers cutting me off and not letting me see his Death Certificate/Autopsy report, even though one of the brothers had peomised me he would send me a copy of them.
imagine trying to get health insurance with a suicide diagnosis 😂
Or life insurance.
When your suffering from mental illness and have tryed every treatment possible without any relief and each day you are going through torture in your mind and are suffering, that will be my reason to end it all and be at peace
I'm thinking about suicide because I have been suffering from 24/7 chronic backpain for 4 years. It has destroyed my husband and I can't be a burden on him any longer. It's not fair to my husband that he has to change his life because of me. Why? Because I'm in chronic backpain and can't find help I can no longer take the physical pain.
Hope you are feeling better now . Sending you thoughts of hope &❤ wellness .
Have you had your Vit D level checked? If not need to asap 👉in fact get vit & mineral deficiency checked & eat/supplement accordingly 👉and walk 30 minutes a day even thru the pain👉and you’ll change ur mind & u & ur husbands life for the better
Try Stu McGill team before you give up on your back. The Back Mechanic.
I'm so sorry to hear you are going through that. Having severe back pain is hard to live with. So many Drs act like it's no big deal.. those doctors have not had to deal with it themselves.
Very useful information, wish I had come across this before I losy my dear son 😢
As much as I want to end my life I cannot abandon the people that depend on me but I’m afraid I can’t be strong enough anymore
Don't call 911 on yourself in WA state. You get a ride to the ER. A brief convo and a BIG ass bill said a local person who did just that. Now she's totally devastated. She expected help and got a giant bill instead. (she has "insurance")
Life is hell and life’s bullshit are the reasons why people commit suicide.
The Philippines. They have one of the lowest suicide rates in the world, despite being one of the poorer countries in the world.
Literally, out of 183 countries studied worldwide, with 1 being highest and 183 being lowest - the Philippines ranked in at 176.
Suicidal ideation is rarely a problem there. And after I lived there amongst the locals for 8 months, it gradually became clear why:
1. They don't mind if they have very little, they just live for the day and are appreciative for what they have.
2. Their whole community spirit is amazing. They are all family-oriented, and they all look out for each other. I'm not kidding - even in the poorest neighborhoods where drug use is common, neighbors still all look out for each other and live together peacefully and with warmth.
3. During one of the regular street parties in the small narrow road I lived in, I went out where folks were celebrating as if it were Christmas, and as i walked down the street, at least 2 people offered me a beer or invited me to join them for a game of cards. I asked the most talkative one what actually is the secret to Filipinos being so cheerful despite many living in horrid poverty, and he said:
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"We wake up, go to work, then go back with the family and get together with our neighbors for a good time in the evening. We don't care about the bigger things. We are content with what we have and stick together with what we all have."
For this reason mainly, i choose to abandon life in my home country, UK, to live permanently in Philippines, even if it means sacrificing wealth and ease of living.
I think it literally is like an oasis for people prone to feeling suicidal.
And I mean this 100%: the whole world could learn a lot from the way of life in the Philippines.
Thank you so much Doctor.
Brilliant. Thank you for this interview.
From the people I've met who committed suicide it was the easiest way out of a bad situation
It is NEVER the easiest way out.
Most struggle day in day out for years and think about 100 of things, before doing it.
Some fight against all kind of things for 40 years and avoid the act. But...one more thing added to the mix can make someone pull the trigger. The breaking point.
Most people have no idea, what people go thru and do not grasp why someone unlives himself/herself.
Btw. Most people do not care anymore about people.
We are more and more alone and fighting life alone. Humans are not safe for one another and wherever you look, someone screwes another person. The ones who get more screwed over, are the ones who are allready in a vulnerable state, so that can also contribute to suicide. You have nowhere to go and wherever you go, nobody cares or makes it much worse.
I know people who pushes people to commit suicide, just by pushing a little further, with only 1 sentence, atitude...
Many people are jerks.
@heide-raquelfuss5580 it is the easiest way out because the pain ends. I'll give you a example. My mother . When all medical intervention did not work to help her and she was suffering horribly she decided she wanted to be euthanized. The next day the doctor injected her with enough morphine to kill a elephant and she died. Her pain was over. I had to accept her decision. Same with another friend who blew his head off with a .45. He was not happy with life. He wanted out. I knew this was going to end with him committing suicide but I couldn't do anything to stop him except respect his wishes to leave this world. And he did.
is not easy but living is harder on uncopable anymore.
Finding and getting in to see a mental health professional is so so hard. If you are in an acute state there is nowhere to get quick help that I know of. That is a crisis in and of itself. Not many people end up getting help at a place like McLean Hospital.
It is very simple, these people get sick and tired of this shity life
My best friend since 4th grade took his own life when he was 21. Schizophrenia ran in his family (family of 7 kids, 3 suicides) and as research shows onsets in males majority times in early 20's. He graduated 4th in his high school class (extremely intelligent) and had full ride college scholarships. We both went to the same college university, also. I'm 51 now....and miss him greatly still, just as much as when it happened..
The meds made it worst