Postpartum Depression and Anxiety
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- After dealing with depression and anxiety for the past year, I feel like it's time to share my story. My postpartum depression manifested itself in anger and numbness for me. No matter your struggle, please know you're not alone. Read more about my experience at: mothershewrote.co/
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You are not alone mama.
This is the worst thing I have ever gone through. Hugs to you!
Oh, girl. Depression and anxiety are so tough. You are absolutely right that it does not fit in a box and everyone's experience is different. When you first mentioned your struggle with this I instantly thought of a quote that is something like, "I loved you because I knew you were perfect. And then I learned that you were not perfect, and I loved you more." You are seriously a champion to me, because you are willing to show your true self to the world.
A hard part about depression and anxiety is that you can't cross the finish line and be done with it for good, but I try to remember that the occasional lows are there to remind us to prioritize and refocus. Over time the recovery gets faster and less daunting and you can always get through it. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; it's only an acknowledgement of your support system. You have a great one and there should be no shame in using it.
I adore you and I hope that there are a lot more days filled with pure joy heading your way. Please know that I'm always here to talk and I'll cry right along with you.
Oh Kari, I don't know if you know how much this means to me. I love you so much. You said exactly what I'm hoping for. I don't think you ever really "get over" depression, but I want to learn how to manage it better so I can bounce back from tough days sooner. You are such a light in my life. THANK YOU.
Thank you for sharing this. I related so much to your story; my depression manifests itself in a very similar way and it only got worse postpartum. I only have a 14 month old now (no luck with a second yet) but after months of denying my mom's help and acting like I could do everything I finally started taking advantage of her being so close by having her watch him when there are things to catch up on around the house or if I'm just having a bad day and need to sit in my room and doodle or whatever. And sometimes I feel dumb for feeling overwhelmed with one kid and a house that isn't even 1000 square feet, but I think it is important for everyone to recognize their emotional and mental limits and take moments to relax and not worry how others will judge that. So thank you for spreading that message. I needed this video today.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me! Please, PLEASE don't ever feel dumb for feeling overwhelmed. Motherhood is hard no matter the number of kids or the size of your house. Your struggles and feelings are valid and real! I'm so glad you reached out to your mom for help. Sometimes that first step and admitting we can't do it all is the hardest. You are incredible.
Stay strong mama! I feel you. You are not alone at all! I love my children to death but as a mom of 3 I sometimes just want to crawl in bed and cry and cry. I wish I could have someone help me too. You are doing amazing, your kids love you and see you as a superhero! I know mine as well but sometimes I need someone (hubby) to say it to me. Someday...
I'm proud of you for being so transparent and vulnerable. I had my daughter 4 months ago, and those low feelings you mentioned really hit home. Watching this made me feel so not alone. I feel for you, I cry with you, and I hope everyday you know you're enough! 💗💗💗
I promise you're not alone! It's so hard when those low feelings come in, especially when your little one is so young. You already feel a little lost in motherhood (suddenly all your attention and focus goes into this tiny, incredible human!) so having any degree of depression or sadness added to that makes the whole motherhood transition harder. Thank you so much for commenting and sharing part of your story with me. It means so much. I hope you know YOU'RE enough too.
Oh, Brissa. I just love you to pieces. You are so brave to bring all this out in the open. YOU ARE AMAZING!!!! Having 3 children in 3 years is sooooooo hard. I just love that you put it all out there and made yourself so vulnerable. But you are so humble and so sweet and so cute. You are going to be just fine. You are not alone, but you certainly nailed it. You are great and wonderful and fantastic AND SOOOOO BRAVE.
Thank you SO MUCH, Marilyn. This means so much to me!
I just found your channel today after searching for a diaper bag review, and now I know God sent me here for a real reason! I could have been the one talking... you took the words right out of my mouth! I have an almost 5 year old and am 37 weeks pregnant... I have felt silly because I have ONE child right now and yet I can't seem to figure out how to manage life. I'm constantly cranky/angry and short with my son, and I just can't seem to find my happy anymore. I just recently started to wonder if this truly is depression, and yet I'm terrified to admit that because I don't want to have to take medication to fix it! It scares me! But all I can think about is if it's bad NOW with one kiddo, how awful of a mom am I gonna be when I have two!? I'm scared to death of failing and I feel like these boys deserve a happy mama. I recently read a blog talking about accepting the fact that maybe we're not all Pinterest moms and that maaaaybe, just maybe, thats 10000% ok. I know I put too much onto myself and worry too much about what people think... but it is hard to let that go. This gave me another little nudge/reminder that I need to just be ok with the clutter, be ok with the crazy... let others swoop in and save the day if it helps my sanity and not feel like a failure because I accepted the help. Thank you for being raw and open and sharing a truth that so many of us moms are feeling! I think if we all lower our expectations of motherhood we'll realize that our main job is to love these sweet kiddos! The dust and the cobwebs and the dishes can wait! These babies won't keep! Thank you again for saying just what I needed to hear! Praying that we can both find a way to climb out of this pit and have fun again!
Oh Sarah, my heart is with you! I'm so sorry you're going through this, but how wonderful that you've been able to find some things (like an article and this video) that help you realize it's OKAY to let go a bit. You're not a failure at all for accepting help. That is so hard to admit because even though no one else thinks that, we think that and trying to retrain your brain to accepting help is not accepting defeat is so hard. I don't know you, but I can tell you love your boys so much, and THAT is the most important part of motherhood. I hope with all my heart this depression goes away after you have your little baby. But if not, I hope you're at least able to manage it better and have your good days outweigh the bad. One of the biggest things for me was recognizing my anger and frustration as depression. Somehow giving it a name made it lose some of its power. Praying for you too! Thank you SO MUCH for coming here and sharing your story with me. You are stronger than you think you are!
After I had my second which was 8 years later. I felt like i ruined my sons life. I was constantly saying no to him for things. I didn't have as much attention for him bc he could do for himself and my daughter needed me. I also was so depressed. I couldn't let anyone hold her. I felt like she wouldn't know me. I literally wanted to be in a bubble with her. I lost all patience with my son and husband. I would cry constantly after they went to bed bc I felt like a horrible mom. It was a rollercoaster. After 6 months I got better with help of Prozac that I no longer take. Long story short depression is for real. You the bomb mama. You say we aren't alone but you are not alone.
Thank you so much for sharing some of your story with me, Ashli. It's so hard to bring in a new baby because you really do feel like the kids who are already there get less time and attention. Depression is SO REAL. I'm so glad you were able to get the help you needed and are able to manage it on your own now. That's huge! Thanks for the reminder that none of us, me and you included, are alone.
Would it make u feel differently ? Drowsy ?just sleepy ?
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Thanks for sharing. I love asking people for help! I might have the opposite problem.... Hiring a teenager to help you out for a few times a month is genius. There's too much expected of us SAHMs. I've thought of doing this to make regular videos, but I don't have the luxury of a backyard!
I often think about how women mothered way back when when there really were villages that people lived in, ya know?! I wouldn't be surprised if they all nursed each other's kids, haha. We've gotta have each other's backs!
The backyard is truly such a blessing to get them out! Except lately they've been "too hot" and want to come inside. haha. You should do it! Or maybe work out a deal with another mom to switch babysitting once a week so you can get some time for you and she could get some time for her! Heaven knows we all need it. They were totally nursing each other's kids, ahaha. Love you, girl!
Can't thank you enough for sharing this! Motherhood is frigin hard work! And we want to be on top of things all the time but that can only last so long. I've crumbled many many many times and struggle with the idea that "you know what, I can't do it all". I have a 3yr old and about to pop my second and watching something so honest as this has really helped me today with fears and thoughts that I'm going through at the moment. YOU ARE DOING AN AMAZING JOB! Why, because your kids are happy, healthy and alive! That's all we want in life. Everything else (being super mum) can wait!
First and foremost we are US! we came into this world as US! we didn't didn't come into this world as a mum. So we have to look after ourselves before ANYONE else.
Hats off to your amazing self! xxxx
THANK YOU SARAH!!!!! This means so much! Motherhood really can be so hard! Good luck to you as you learn how to balance having two soon! YOU GOT THIS!! What you said is so true. When things get overwhelming, it's important to scale it down to basics and realize my kids are happy, healthy and alive. That's all we can ask for!! You are wonderful. Thank you so, so much for your thoughtful words.
I am so glad I met you this past weekend! You are truly an amazing person. Everyone has their own struggles they are fighting and you would never know it. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much, Callie! I'm so glad I got to meet you too. I wish we'd been able to talk more while we were there. You really never know what people are going through until they open up about it. I'm so excited to get to know you better.
You are very welcome! It was hard to talk with such a packed schedule of classes! I definitely came home exhausted from all of the new knowledge! It was my first trip out to Utah, but I'm sure it won't be the last!
Thank you for making this video. I only have one kid and am a SAHM as well and it's already very hard. Sometimes I do cry and feel sad, angry, lonely, and bored to death.
I'm so sorry, Duka!! Motherhood is such an adjustment! I've been there too. Heck, sometimes I'm STILL there with being bored and sad and lonely. Something that's helped me a little is finding a purpose for myself outside of motherhood. Right now that's making these videos and learning something new. I hope you can find what works for you and helps you feel like you aren't completely lost in motherhood.
My heart broke and cry with you 😊 I'm sure you doing a great job as a mom 👍🏻thank you for sharing.. I knw is hard and is hard too talk about it and sometimes people don't understand what we as a mom go through
It's so hard to try to explain it to someone who doesn't quite understand. But I like to think that other mothers get it on one level or another. No matter our different experiences and struggles, we all understand feeling like we have to do it all alone. Thanks so much for all your sweet words. They truly mean so much!
Oh dear! I feel for you. You're such a good mum. I mean you made 3 Angels in 4 years. You're stronger than you think.
I can relate to most of what you were saying, but I keep denying that I need help. You're really strong; being able to talk about it is a big step.
Please do what makes you happy, because then, and onlg then , you can make others happy 😊
Thank you so, so much for this sweet comment. Motherhood is hard no matter which way you slice it. Wonderful and full of joy, but still so hard. It's taken me a while to be able to speak up about it. You'll get there when it comes to talking and accepting help. That part is still so, SO hard for me. We've just got to take it day by day. And I agree! We need to be happy with ourselves in order to help others be happy and see the good in themselves!
You are so strong! Thank you for sharing. I love that even in talking about difficult things you seem to have a light about you that just radiates. Nothing gonna keep you down!!! ❤️
EMILY!!!!!! This is one of the nicest things. Thank you so much for always lifting those around you. You are wonderful!
Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope you know that you are a wonderful mother. My mum gave me much the same council as far as taking time for myself. It's ok to have a break and regain some sanity. :)
It's okay and necessary to take breaks! Ain't nobody happy if mama ain't happy!
There are a few things you can try, but first I want to applaud you for not going straight to pharmaceuticals. There is a time and place for meds, but it shouldn’t be your first go to.
I would highly suggest home remedy, as it is inexpensive, noninvasive, and very safe (including if you are breastfeeding). The first remedy I tried was …Relaxing mama stress reducing tea. Many people seem to have great results.
Thanks for watching and for the suggestions!!
Thank you for sharing this with all of us. Take some time for yourself , time for prayer . It is so hard for us mothers to be understood and yes in fact we do need help , raising kids and taking care of a family is alot ally of work. Having that support of our husbands is a great help. Also open up with close family members that you trust the most. it's never wrong to ask for help when you most need it. sending prayers your way sweetie🙏.
I am in my 8th month pregnancy I have a seven year old and yes I myself is afraid to what to expect, how I'm I going to do it, will i be able to do it? but you know what just living day by day and doing what most you can will make things work. Always keeping yourself in prayer and put your self in God's hands, He will never let you down.
I love this advice so much. It's always such a good reminder to turn to God and know He will never leave us alone or let us down. Thank you so much for commenting and for all the sweet things you said. Good luck with the last little bit of your pregnancy! I hope the transition from one to two can go smoothly for you. Sending so much love your way.
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Thank you so much! 😘
keep in touch with all of us.
I would love that! My favorite part about social media is the community here. It's so strong and loving.
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Yes, I have been a full time working mom for the past seven years and I am now taking more time off for my kids. I have found so many great videos with great ideas of how to keep myself busy at home etc. deff a drastic change for me. Lol I enjoy watching you and thank you once again for being such a great person!
I bet that's such a change! But what a great opportunity for you to spend more time at home with them! Thank you so much for being so kind!
about 95 percent of what you said is EXACTLY how i've felt, how i still feel at times but its been 4 years of having my youngest so I still feel i'm just having a bad day, i still keep saying tomorrow will be better, i will do better but it doesn't seem to "get" better.
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Oh, I totally understand those days! You have a bad day and then a few good days in a row so you think that bad day was JUST a bad day. I hope you can find something to help you. It doesn't matter how old your youngest is, motherhood is hard no matter the age or stage. Sending so much love your way.
Have you made 100% sure that your sleeping, eating, and exercise habits are optimized to you, personally?
Thank you, for this.
Sending so much love your way.
WHy should be done for this depression ? I know that you are not a doctor but you share you experience...... sometimes it could be suicidal thouğths .....or it could be thinking your going to die
I am definitely not a doctor or even an expert in depression. But if you're feeling these things, please reach out! Talk to your loved ones and let them know how you feel and go to a doctor. Both therapy and medication are incredible tools to help combat depression.
❤️❤️ you are strong mama