First of all, that clip of you like a kid in the candy store got me 😂😂😂 I would personally say that was a very advanced way of grieving. I think you were able to move on and accept babygirl’s death because you were able to take yourself out of the picture and see her separate from you. Having that empathy, context, and approach to not make it about you is what many ppl (including myself) think they have but usually don’t. I think this is what delays the grieving process. Thank you for sharing! ❤️
🤣I was LITERALLY a kid in a candy store!! that’s such an insightful perspective, “delays the grieving process”. that just made me sooo curious!! thank you for that and also that you for appreciate my share. 🥰♥️
It is truly unfortunate how trauma is propagated. How much suffering has been caused by lack of awareness and understanding in human history. My mother was also abusive but I eventually came to understand that the abuse was not personal but a response to her own trauma. You have so much self-awareness. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal piece of yourself ❤.
Sooo unfortunate, isn’t it? I mean, Idk if people really had much of a choice before recently because mental health was not even considered as a real thing for sooo long in our human history. We’re only just getting to it. Luckily our generation at least has a choice and I have so much gratitude for that. It’s still hard to hear stories like yours, you know. Being raised under the abuse of a parent but I feel so happy I could cry when I engage with people who empathize with the trauma their parents went through because, ultimately, they’re vulnerable humans just as we all are. You have to have a lot of self awareness and emotional healing to empathize on the level you’ve empathized with your Mom. I hope she found some measure of peace in her life and I hope you are in a place where you can enjoy your personal growth. ♥️
This was really brave Nowa. That must’ve been a very difficult time for you, especially because they’re your own family. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, no child should ever have to experience such pain. Grief is tricky, we all grieve differently just like we express everything else in life different from one another. The way you grieve is actually healthy, at least that’s what I think. You are sad but you’re also looking at the bright side of things. Baby Girl lived a long and happy life. You gave her a home and family and she passed in your arms. It’s sad losing a loved one, a pet, they’re family. But you also know you were able to make it comfortable for them to until the end. Grief is important to me, I did not grieve anything or anyone until I was able to heal my traumas. I accepted, acknowledged and grieved for some time. Then I was ok. Now I just allow myself the time to go through it whenever something happens, wherever I lose someone dear. Then I look at the bright side! At least they’re not hurting anymore, at least they’ve lived a long and full life. You are amazing, you’ve been through a lot, and you’ve worked hard on yourself and continue to do so. If this isn’t inspiring, I don’t know what is ❤️
You’re really the absolutest sweetest Mai. This message was so encouraging on so many levels. Especially your level of self awareness and openness. I’ve definitely met many people who are very critical of how others grieve and like to prescribe the correct grieving formula but, as you say, we all grieve differently just as we express everything else differently from one another. You’re the second person to validate that I may have grieved in a healthy way in spite of my lack of experience and that’s very encouraging. Ultimately, I think time will definitely add the full stamp of approval on my recent experience but I feel f-in fortunate to share this experience with you and others. 🤗♥️
*Are you the outlier in your family/friend circle? *The last time you grieved a loss, do you think you did it in a healthy way and do you think you had enough support? I read and respond to all my comments 😊
First of all, that clip of you like a kid in the candy store got me 😂😂😂
I would personally say that was a very advanced way of grieving. I think you were able to move on and accept babygirl’s death because you were able to take yourself out of the picture and see her separate from you. Having that empathy, context, and approach to not make it about you is what many ppl (including myself) think they have but usually don’t. I think this is what delays the grieving process.
Thank you for sharing! ❤️
🤣I was LITERALLY a kid in a candy store!!
that’s such an insightful perspective, “delays the grieving process”.
that just made me sooo curious!!
thank you for that and also that you for appreciate my share. 🥰♥️
It is truly unfortunate how trauma is propagated. How much suffering has been caused by lack of awareness and understanding in human history. My mother was also abusive but I eventually came to understand that the abuse was not personal but a response to her own trauma. You have so much self-awareness. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal piece of yourself ❤.
Sooo unfortunate, isn’t it?
I mean, Idk if people really had much of a choice before recently because mental health was not even considered as a real thing for sooo long in our human history.
We’re only just getting to it. Luckily our generation at least has a choice and I have so much gratitude for that.
It’s still hard to hear stories like yours, you know. Being raised under the abuse of a parent but I feel so happy I could cry when I engage with people who empathize with the trauma their parents went through because, ultimately, they’re vulnerable humans just as we all are.
You have to have a lot of self awareness and emotional healing to empathize on the level you’ve empathized with your Mom. I hope she found some measure of peace in her life and I hope you are in a place where you can enjoy your personal growth. ♥️
This was really brave Nowa. That must’ve been a very difficult time for you, especially because they’re your own family. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, no child should ever have to experience such pain.
Grief is tricky, we all grieve differently just like we express everything else in life different from one another. The way you grieve is actually healthy, at least that’s what I think. You are sad but you’re also looking at the bright side of things. Baby Girl lived a long and happy life. You gave her a home and family and she passed in your arms. It’s sad losing a loved one, a pet, they’re family. But you also know you were able to make it comfortable for them to until the end.
Grief is important to me, I did not grieve anything or anyone until I was able to heal my traumas. I accepted, acknowledged and grieved for some time. Then I was ok.
Now I just allow myself the time to go through it whenever something happens, wherever I lose someone dear. Then I look at the bright side! At least they’re not hurting anymore, at least they’ve lived a long and full life.
You are amazing, you’ve been through a lot, and you’ve worked hard on yourself and continue to do so.
If this isn’t inspiring, I don’t know what is ❤️
You’re really the absolutest sweetest Mai. This message was so encouraging on so many levels.
Especially your level of self awareness and openness. I’ve definitely met many people who are very critical of how others grieve and like to prescribe the correct grieving formula but, as you say, we all grieve differently just as we express everything else differently from one another.
You’re the second person to validate that I may have grieved in a healthy way in spite of my lack of experience and that’s very encouraging. Ultimately, I think time will definitely add the full stamp of approval on my recent experience but I feel f-in fortunate to share this experience with you and others. 🤗♥️
*Are you the outlier in your family/friend circle?
*The last time you grieved a loss, do you think you did it in a healthy way and do you think you had enough support?
I read and respond to all my comments 😊