Thanks for this direct and unapologetic episode. I’m here for it. Looking nice and put together absolutely matters! Does it get you better results with men? YES! But beyond that it also gets you better treatment in shops, at appointments, in interviews. More smiles. Better service. Every interaction is better. People go out of their way to interact with you. They’re kinder too. Can we stop fighting with the reality of the world we live in, accept this fact, and in the wise words of Slumflower “stop sleeping on our potential”?!
YES BITTER TRUTH. Men respond to beauty. They themselves will admit that women who look the best and put the most effort into themselves will yield the best results with men and get the best treatment .This is the reality whether you see it as fortunately or unfortunately .
And notice how when she describes what she does for her looks (corset, heels, etc), the reasons are because SHE feels more confident that way. To be "beautiful" is not just checking off the boxes of todays beauty standard, it is a mindset, it is presenting yourself in a way that makes you feel your most confident and empowered. People are reading your energy, not only what you look like. Me personally, I am uncomfortable in tight clothes and dont personally like the feeling of makeup on my skin (sensory thing). So when I dress in that way, I am not confident nor comfortable. When i wear looser, more flowy outfits and focus more on hygiene and being well groomed, I feel much more comfortable and therefore exude much more beauty and confidence. Its not one size fits all, we all feel most beautiful in a way unique to us
My mother raised me like this but I let the pan African movement lull me into thinking otherwise …but it’s true, looking good yields great results in every arena
And with regards to the reparations conversation, I think that women are not understanding bc we've been taught if we are patient and "wait our turn", we'll finally get what we want. So to see someone like you that is bypassing the line and going exactly for what you desire, yeah I see why they would be upset lol.
I’m in relationship. This man got me messed up and you know how they piss you off and then you start looking on how ugly they really are lol. I know! The slumflower is about to get me right! 😂
You know this internalizes the belief that if you weren't naturally beautifully you won't be able to get a good mate. Like some of us weren't born light-skinned if I used this reasoning I would have to turn myself into a light-skinned woman in order to get good treatment
Men find different aspects attractive. So if the men youre into care ab skin tone and desire lighter ones, then direct your attention to others who dont care to prioritize that aspect. Im into a certain caliber of men, and i expect them to have standards, wisdom, and discernment. So my type of man wont treat women they dont find attractive bad, and they also wont entertain just anyone bc of their looks. Looks catch attention, but what rlly attracts and keeps you? But back to the point of: looks catch attention. They arent everything but as i have standards for the men im into- i expect them to have some as well. For me, i dont date men who wear skinny jeans and use 3-in-1😂 for a man? Could be he likes to see u take care of yourself, like even if u in sweats- are your teeth brushed or hair done? Is your face washed? Are u ashy? What clothes do u wear? So basically if the men u like dont like u bc of something like skin color or the way your eyes look or your skin condition- then dont like them. They arent the ones for u. Now if they arent interested bc you wear ill fitting clothes or you dress like a 304 at olive garden then it is what it is😂 we make our choices and others make theirs. the ones for u will be attracted to you bc of the way u carry yourself n take care of yourself n the way you move through your life. Now how do u wanna do that?
After this episode I really don't want to date. ...I am someone who isn't light-skinned if I started cutting myself into what men want it is just impossible.
Thanks for this direct and unapologetic episode. I’m here for it. Looking nice and put together absolutely matters! Does it get you better results with men? YES! But beyond that it also gets you better treatment in shops, at appointments, in interviews. More smiles. Better service. Every interaction is better. People go out of their way to interact with you. They’re kinder too. Can we stop fighting with the reality of the world we live in, accept this fact, and in the wise words of Slumflower “stop sleeping on our potential”?!
RESULTS...I love it!!!. only your mother will love you as you are, period. Out there in the world...its DIFFERENT!..loveyaslumflower🌸
YES BITTER TRUTH. Men respond to beauty. They themselves will admit that women who look the best and put the most effort into themselves will yield the best results with men and get the best treatment .This is the reality whether you see it as fortunately or unfortunately .
Sis said I spoke at Oxford don’t try me 😂😂😂 love it!
Path of least resistance+path of more abundance FTW 🙌🏾 🙌🏾🙌🏾🥳🥳🥳
And notice how when she describes what she does for her looks (corset, heels, etc), the reasons are because SHE feels more confident that way. To be "beautiful" is not just checking off the boxes of todays beauty standard, it is a mindset, it is presenting yourself in a way that makes you feel your most confident and empowered. People are reading your energy, not only what you look like. Me personally, I am uncomfortable in tight clothes and dont personally like the feeling of makeup on my skin (sensory thing). So when I dress in that way, I am not confident nor comfortable. When i wear looser, more flowy outfits and focus more on hygiene and being well groomed, I feel much more comfortable and therefore exude much more beauty and confidence. Its not one size fits all, we all feel most beautiful in a way unique to us
Thank you for this new episode !!!
Yeaaaaaa!! Slumflower baby🎉🎉🎉
My mother raised me like this but I let the pan African movement lull me into thinking otherwise …but it’s true, looking good yields great results in every arena
Here for the truth period!
I enjoyed that interview and was ready to be up in arms against those close-minded broads😂😂
this is true. ive had things done for me instantly too lol.its reality.
Real masculine men crave the feminine period. Looks, energy, essence, spirit.
Yay! I’m here for the video drops
And with regards to the reparations conversation, I think that women are not understanding bc we've been taught if we are patient and "wait our turn", we'll finally get what we want. So to see someone like you that is bypassing the line and going exactly for what you desire, yeah I see why they would be upset lol.
Yes queen
I’m in relationship. This man got me messed up and you know how they piss you off and then you start looking on how ugly they really are lol. I know! The slumflower is about to get me right! 😂
You got this bestie! I believe in you
5:53 I don't wanna build! Please & Please
You know this internalizes the belief that if you weren't naturally beautifully you won't be able to get a good mate. Like some of us weren't born light-skinned if I used this reasoning I would have to turn myself into a light-skinned woman in order to get good treatment
I don't think you understood her points
Men find different aspects attractive. So if the men youre into care ab skin tone and desire lighter ones, then direct your attention to others who dont care to prioritize that aspect. Im into a certain caliber of men, and i expect them to have standards, wisdom, and discernment. So my type of man wont treat women they dont find attractive bad, and they also wont entertain just anyone bc of their looks. Looks catch attention, but what rlly attracts and keeps you? But back to the point of: looks catch attention. They arent everything but as i have standards for the men im into- i expect them to have some as well. For me, i dont date men who wear skinny jeans and use 3-in-1😂 for a man? Could be he likes to see u take care of yourself, like even if u in sweats- are your teeth brushed or hair done? Is your face washed? Are u ashy? What clothes do u wear? So basically if the men u like dont like u bc of something like skin color or the way your eyes look or your skin condition- then dont like them. They arent the ones for u. Now if they arent interested bc you wear ill fitting clothes or you dress like a 304 at olive garden then it is what it is😂 we make our choices and others make theirs. the ones for u will be attracted to you bc of the way u carry yourself n take care of yourself n the way you move through your life. Now how do u wanna do that?
After this episode I really don't want to date. ...I am someone who isn't light-skinned if I started cutting myself into what men want it is just impossible.
Yes, yes it does. I got to be attracted to you before I have to love you. And yes I got to look at my man and be like “gyatt damn he fine”. So yup.