I think there needs to be a balance between an obsessively clean home and an over cluttered dirty home. Example, I am not going to wash my curtains weekly or clean every surface of my home daily or every second day. My home is neither spotless nor dirty or over cluttered. It’s lived in with five humans and one dog as well as a couple of fish. Life is far too short to obsess over cleaning. Regardless of how spotless our homes are, we’re still only here for a short time. Live life and be happy. Spend time with those you love the most.
My mother was obsessive about cleaning our home and yard. It’s all she did and never seemed to enjoy anything in life. She was always sweaty and exhausted living on coffee and cigarettes. Us kids basically lived outside while she cleaned away day and night. I never learned how to clean and have an aversion to it because of my upbringing. It’s odd, isn’t it? I grew up in an immaculate home but really don’t know what is normal vs excessive cleaning. I keep up with the basics but I get angry inside when I clean. I’m trying to find a balance between clean and tidy without the stress and anger associated with it.
I love this! My home is clean enough. When people stop by I don't apologize for the messes and some clutter because my family is busy and happy. I am trying to be more aware of not bringing extra things in that we don't need. Balance is definitely the answer.🥰
I have a friend who wants to emulate my home hitch I find bizarre as it’s just lived in but relatively tidy ( we do live in it), but she does have 3 teenage boys - enough said! I have no problem with people dropping by they take me as they find me, but I would love to get rid of a lot of things and live a minimalist life.
@@adoptedscot So, a friend of mine commented about my home, saying it is pleasant. I found this to be a compliment. She was saying it feels good to be here. I'm a life coach and prof home organizer. I think what you might have success with is tackling one small area at a time if there's things you want to get rid of. If someone wants to emulate your home, they may like your no stress home.feel, which is a compliment to you.😁👍
Staying on top of little tasks is HUGE. Keeping a clean space clean is less time and effort than letting it get gross and then trying to get back to clean.
The best part of the video that struck a chord with me was when you said why can't we keep our home as neat and clean always for ourselves to enjoy, as we want our visitors to see...
You got it! People with tidy homes don't shop as a hobby. They don't buy a surplus of items or keep a roomful of extra supplies & food. They buy only what's needed & maybe 1 back up . Whenever a new item is brought into the home, an old item goes out! It's sometimes hard to do, you don't always feel like doing it, but it is the answer to an always tidy home:)
I don't shop as a hobby. But I do kept extra staples around - so we always have a ready package of paper towels or toilet paper, and storage bags for the kitchen, aluminum foil, etc., around. for when something runs out. (We have drawers and cupboards where these things live.) And I don't take something out when something new comes in. (More often than not, the new thing coming in is a book... ;) Although at times we do make an effort to cull - mostly so we can keep our "Free Little Library" and our neighbors' Free Little Libraries - well stocked.
I was raised extremely tidy and clean. My mum was raised the same. My grandmother too. I also noticed neuroticism building up in these females, a lack of unconditional love and peace. I learned at the end of my twenties to finally let go. I am still tidy. I still like it clean. But I can fully accept it when I am too tired to clean. It can wait a few more days. Much more love. Much more peace. No more female neuroticism.
This is a really good point. I find it hard to sit down and play with my kids or even read a book with them if the space is unkept. My mother basically said if you have a messy space you dont deserve to have free time. Dessert wasn't served on the weekends until the living room was spotless including dusting. I see that bleeding over into the way I look at my still quite young children. My husband actually raised an eyebrow the other day when they were sitting and playing a game, and I asked why are you sitting down when there's so much cleaning to do! It was 9pm. I am trying to do better now especially since we are renovating an old house and there's very few finished spaces.
@@gloriack7976What kids remember is not the cleanliness of the house (even though I am happy my mother taught me that), but they remember if they were loved, played with, listened to, encouraged. But yes, I also had to learn (I did so by living in incredibly dirty but loving communities for a couple of years). I like to use the “So what” method. Laundry isn’t done yet. So what. Hallways is dirty again. So what. Again, it doesn’t mean my house is dirty. It just isn’t a hospital 😅 And it’s cozy. I remember my mom washing my hair every day! Until I was the one in class who always got lice. Until another mother said: “Your kid is too clean. Let her get dirty” 😅 I think you are an amazing mum, you care and you love. I am sure your kids love you a lot too. And I hope you enjoy the weekly cleaning with your kids as much as I did with my mum (we always had a great lunch, we listened and danced to funny music). But I also hope you can look at the dust on the table and think… So what 😊❤
Another way to look at this is that needing/wanting extreme cleanliness may be a symptom of insecurity and a need for safety or control. There may be underlying issues or events feeding this mindset.
@@barbarakelly1916 this is an interesting point certainly. I think we do need to have a certain amount of "control" over our homes and personal spaces, but I guess the difference would be an extremely micromanaging manager or a calm level headed manager. Working well with ebb and flow. The more out of control we feel in other areas, the more micromanaging we get in our home.
Years ago I adopted a mind set to never leave the room empty handed meaning take something with you that belongs in the room your heading to. It’s so much easier to keep everything in its place.
I actually clean after my guests leave. I could never understand why people wait for others to come over before they clean their own space. You should maintain it for yourself after all it is yours. It shows appreciation and gratitude.
Always do your dishes after you've eaten, clean up as you go along cooking. Clean bathroom every morning. Do washing once there's enough for a load, then fold and put away laundry as soon as dry. Make your bed every morning. Keep surfaces clear. Minimise belongings. Good job on the video!
The one minute task is a game changer 👊 Since the death of my husband I have fallen behind removing unwanted clutter - My mindset being “What’s the point?” Your video has been a timely nudge - thank you
Im so sorry for your loss. I've lost someone, too. Grief is consuming. When you are ready and able, start to take steps to give yourself the declutrered home you deserve. Joshua Becker is such a great help and motivator for this. I found that it was easy to build momentum decluttering once I started because I could feel how living in a decluttered environment felt much better. I hope it feels good for you, too ❤
I know people who don’t like a home to be to neat and tidy not a dirty home but some people feel more comfortable in a house that looks lived in as a quest I feel more comfortable comfortable with a few scattered things around again not dirty but not a show room house .
When I was a young nurse in the 1980's, we were taught, no empty hands! Always attending to someone, or cleaning something, or studying . What I do find difficult now is that my husband does something he calls "surface filing" which means leaving his stuff on tables, sofas and chairs. My daughter dumps her stuff all over the place, not much has a home... I have given her baskets and bowls to contain her stuff, but it makes no difference. But I don't want to be a nag. Leading by example hasn't had any impact. I am now 63 and getting tired of it all. Love your videos, they give me hope that one day I will also enjoy the peace of a decluttered and tidy home.
Yes! I have said all along that decluttering is ongoing and never stops! It is for us as regular as cleaning the oven…If you do it often then it is a small task!
I like that your videos are "minimal". You get right to the point, and are concise. I personally am a hot mess at times, but in the last year and a half, I've rid my house of at least 50% of our things. Some of it was just trash that I've never addressed, some of it was able to be donated. We don't need all that stuff, and I sure dont miss any of it.
Joshua ~ You are so right! I make the one or two minute thing a game. If I put something in the microwave for 1 min, I see what tasks I can do...I can refill the dog's waterbowl, wash a few dishes, fold some laundry or dispose of unwanted mail. I love the challenge ~ it's fun. I actually follow all 5 of your suggestions because it brings me peace and joy to have a tidy home.
❤ that is me. Our 4 legged child (we are in retirement age) leaves her toys around and that is ok. They get put away and then she can still mess up when she wants to play. It is a home not a show house. Always tidying. A clean house is more important than her toys for play. 😂
This was something I struggled with until I discovered decluttering in 2016. So I felt like I was useless because I couldn't put everything in its place because it wasn't possible for everything to have a place. The clutter has never returned and I have a tidy home now. 🎉
I clean and organize my house for my own satisfaction and not to impress my company. I like walking in and being greeted by fresh smells and the pride I feel when i notice how much positive difference my recent efforts have made. If I have company drop by and they feel welcomed by that aura, that's good too! But I always keep my kitchen, bathroom and laundry area tidy. But other spaces are let go a bit more!
Joshua, Hubby & I are on the road to minimalism. Before someone would come visit, we asked people to give ys a wks notice, or we'd make excuses why we couldn't invite someone in...better yet we just wouldn't open the door. Since our journey started, we're still not there yet, but now we're down to a 24 hr or less notice. It feels so good to be able to pick up, sweep, mop, dust, & do a few other things in a matter of a couple of hrs vs days. Keep the inspiration coming. 😊
Teach your children from a very young age how to make their bed when they get up, hung up their clothes, pick up their toys, and let them help you etc…that means when you clean, when you cook, doing dishes etc. at a very early age they love to help…
When I was decluttering 'big time' I took digital pictures of unused & stored-out-of-sight sentimental items. I also prayed over all items before sharing with a charitable group...that the next 'steward of my stuff' will be blessed & have a happy life. Doing these 2 things made & still makes letting go a breeze! ♡
I recently enjoyes many items, all were clean, in go I d condition, some of them I purchased earlier thus year. I donated them to a resale shop that as all volunteers there. There are no high paid excutives and the items are priced reasonably . The employees appreciate all the donated items. It made me feel good knowing that someone could be blessed by my donations
Great comments as always, Joshua. I'm reminded of the sayings, "Clean as you go', and "It's always easier to clean a clean house. I've mentioned before and will mention again that model/actress/author Isabella Rossellini told about her mother Ingrid Bergman telling the children, "Never leave the room empty-handed", and gave the examples of take a glass from your room back to the kitchen or return a magazine to the living room. For myself I've given away just over 50 books that I've never read and would only have read if I lived longer than I'm probably going to live. There's a twinge of sadness in not experiencing the reading of those books, but more than that I feel better at the removal of a burden and stress and at having more space and peace.
I have 7 now adult kids, and tho I’m no minimalist, I’ve had several come back to me and thank me for teaching them to make their bed when they get up, (I made it easy with just having a fitted sheet and a large easy to handle quilt, no fussing with a top sheet back then, to clean as you go in the kitchen, and to quit spending emotional energy on 1-2 minute jobs. I dislike unloading the dishwasher, complaining it “takes 10 minutes “… actually I set a timer and it took 90 seconds…..seriously…major lesson learned…what took 10 minutes was the internal emotional upheaval I put myself thru to do a job I disliked that took 90 seconds. So I now choose to not have an emotional reaction to doing quick jobs except to rejoice that they are DONE!
My sister is constantly cleaning and worried what guests will think if her 2000 sf house, where she lives alone, isn't perfect. I was more of a minimalist as a teenager. I am now squeezed into a senior apt with few cabinets or storage places. Everyone I know in this bldg is cluttered. With health problems it's tough to be tidy. No one here throws parties, so I guess we're OK. There's a cat in here somewhere. Just kidding.
❤LOVE THIS!! Shared with all of my family-married kiddos and their families. Although the last time I did a big declutter my son called my husband and asked if I was okay? Was there something going on with me? 😆 🤣 Thanks for the motivation
Hi, I get rid of craft supplies I haven't used in a year. I pass them on to other crafters. I trade houseplant cuttings so my indoor garden looks lush but not overgrown. We live in a 2BR condo near O'Hare airport so I need my indoor garden. Tina, Al's wife
I just gave away over 90%of my beading supplies. I never thought I would do that. I kept just a few items for a necklace I want to make and the beading tools. I've moved on....
I will try my very best to maintain these things. FYI, you are the one who introduced me into practicing minimalism. I started last 2018, and it's not easy because I have experienced some reversions. But now I can proudly say that I try to practice it more seriously, especially now that I just retired and turned 61. I'm a subscriber from the Philippines and just wanted you to know that you are a great part of my minimalism journey.. 😊❤🖐👍!!
I spend 1-1 1\2 hrs in the morning cleaning....kitchenbathroom everday, quick vacuum(all hard floors) steam mopping my bed and bathroom/kitchen every morning....yes everything has a place and never gets left out...i love to throw things out/ get rid of, it feels soo good...in fact my father tried to give me "binoculars" yesterday😂 i said, "why, ill never use them and they will become junk in a closet.....NO!"😂
Joshua❤ THANK YOU- I love that your videos are short but you give us so much to think about and implement into our lives!! this video has made me truly realize that my house is in fact cluttered and I have a lot of work to do. Thank you.❤
I feel blessed that both my husband and I are on the same page with regard to keeping a tidy, clean home. It's not that we don't occasionally leave some mail on the table or some clothes on the dryer....however, if one of us leaves something like that for more than a day or two, the other will give a gentle reminder about it. We share cleaning responsibilities...Every other Tuesday, we go out to breakfast and come home, put on some music, and together we clean the house top to bottom.
I have been watching your money series repeatedly and have made significant improvements 😇….. it will take 4 more months to get where I want to be … but thank you for reminding me that I’m not hopeless 🙏🏻
I regularly pet sit for a family that lives in a $3.5 million, 5,000 sq ft. 5 bedroom, 5 bath house. (4 people total live in it: Mom, Dad, son & daughter). It is totally UNCLUTTERED. The house has no excess junk in it! The kitchen however, has LOTS of multiples, but it's all stored away. For example, there's two dozen spatulas, 6 cookie sheets, 3 pairs of scissors, 3 veggie peelers, 6 big ladles, 2 instant pots (6qt, 8qt), 2 blenders (a VitaMix and a Ninja), etc. Plus, a food pantry bigger than my bedroom with enough food for 3 years!
Well, I have a lot (a lot!) of books, as well as a whole bunch of family photos. Luckily, there are bookshelves in most of the rooms of our house, so the books and pictures (the ones that aren't on the wall) have a place to live. And yes, I discovered as an adult (I'm nearly 70 now), that it really isn't necessary to have to "look for the scissors" every time you need scissors- you just have a spot where they always live. (My mother was definitely "not" organized). All that being said, I find the kitchen that Mr. Becker is recording from unrealistic, unless he just relies on take-out food. We have a toaster, a coffee maker, a coffee grinder, a Kitchen Aide mixer, a bread box, two containers for cooking tools (for non-stick pots and regular). And a knife block that holds 35 knives. And a microwave. Hauling what we need to cook a meal every time would be exhausting, to say the least. It's a working kitchen (and yes, we keep it clean), and it seems the height of inefficiency - and of caring more about form than function - to hide everything you use to cook away somewhere. (We do have a corner cupboard where our small appliances live). Just my two cents.
You are so right about not waiting for company coming to clean...I regret that I made my family's life miserable before holidays by cleaning like a crazy person and being totally miserable while doing it!!
It's easy to admire what seems hard. It's easy to envy whatever seems effortless. You finally made me feel this in my stomach, not just understand it in my head.
Very good advice. Such a nice opposite to the very dangerous and overwhelming “ grocery and other supplies hauls” . People treating their houses as satellites storages for Walmart warehouses…
The COVID epidemic, economic and political conditions, and supply chain issues factor into the "hauls" habit. People want to feel secure in uncertain times, as well as to save money. My parents grew up in the 1930's Depression years; and as adults always had a stockpile of goods, behavior based on their memories.
I've always done these things naturally, but didn't realize most people didn't do this until I moved in with my gf (now wife). I remember when we started dating, she said she cleaned her place on Saturdays, and I was confused. I was like what do you mean you clean? What is there to clean? You live alone. What she meant is she had to clean up all the dishes and clothes and miscellaneous things she'd leave scattered around her place throughout the week. I've never had to reserve time for cleaning because I've always cleaned as I made a mess, or I put my clothes in the laundry basket immediately, or the dishes in the dishwasher immediately. The only cleaning I need to do is to dust furniture or vacuum. People make living in a tidy and clean space very difficult for themselves because they have the wrong approach. I guess you have to enjoy the process, which I do. My wife hates doing laundry because she wants it to be "finished", but I view laundry as just a weekly process that I enjoy. I enjoy hanging up my shirts to dry, folding up shirts, etc. I even hang my socks to dry because they're really high quality and I don't want to ruin them. I view laundry as something I get to do, rather than something I have to do. My wife treats her clothes like a stranger's clothes. When her laundry is done, she'll let it sit in a pile to be folded. Usually sits there for days at a time before she makes time to put it away.
The "I get to do this" mindset is very positive. It illustrates and promotes self care. The "chore/ I have to do this" mindset comes from a more negative, close to "victim/ poor me"identity. The degree of one's creativity is also a factor in how we view and do household management.
This is great….and I’m getting there. It’s a process. The first one is what I struggle with…but I’m getting there. This video is a great reminder to me to stop bringing in unnecessary items. My home is, however, a much more peaceful place to live in…less stress. Thank you for this video!
@@Jack.of.all.learning Thank you! Much appreciated. After watching this video I went from room to room and took three items that were “unnecessary”…put them in a box and took them to the Salvation Army before I could change my mind. I’ll do this every weekend until I get down to necessities. I did that with my garage a few years ago and it’s so satisfying to pull my car into a tidy clutter free garage with just the few tools I need for gardening, a shop vac, and car cleaning products. Amazing how clutter and excess stuff can create stress in your life. Stay well 💜
@@lizzieb6311 Alright! I've been getting ready for a renovation which is almost worse than moving as far as "stuff" becoming inconvenient and have been purging a lot as a result. I agree less clutter is more peaceful.
@@Jack.of.all.learning Jack…buckle up. I did a full kitchen and bathroom remodeling job concurrently while living there. Using my 2nd bathroom to wash dishes was not ideal and felt incredibly disgusting. Plan on dining out if possible or at least paper plates (biodegradable ). My biggest advice - if you get annnoyed and ready to blow your stack due to the dust, noise, and people traipsing through your house all day: Walk away. As soon as you feel the pressure - go for a walk…a bike ride…something away from the mess. It’s a sanity saver 😉It will be worth it at the end…but it is stressful. With less clutter you've already tackled a big stressor during a remodel. The other thing…cover everything and INSIST they put down floor protection. You got this Jack!
I decluttered and minimalised anticipating a busy life when I went back to work full time. No job yet and sometimes bored. But having everything in its own home cuts out the stress. ❤
I really don’t understand Roombas. Haphazard, inconsistent, perpetually in the way… doesn’t know the difference between coins or lost earrings versus scraps of paper and lint, and don’t forget the infamous photo of dog poop smeared all over a room. (So many issues there, starting with a poor neglected, untrained dog.). It takes me just a few minutes to sweep my kitchen or vacuum a room, and I KNOW it has been thoroughly done.
All these rules sound good, but if you happen to have mobility issues & you're old without much energy & no help, you end up doing what you can. Things get out of control pretty quickly & it's hard to catch up!
I have a tidy home with now grown up kids (they still live at home) but it was tidy when they were younger, plus dogs and a cat. It’s not hard to clean and tidy everyday. And the less clutter you have the easier it is.
No excuses unless dealing with a disability. I have 3 under 3 and our house is always tidy because we're minimalists and organized. Only a few days when pregnant/post-partum or in the case of unforeseen/spontaneous activities has our house been messy before bed-and even then it gets done asap. We care about tidiness so we just pick up super quick (and only hand-wash dishes). Deep cleaning is a different story though 🙃
Thank you for analysing, summarising, sharing and reminding. It helps me in the process on my way to a more enjoyable lifestyle. As a kid I was told: Every thing at its place saves a lot of time and words. I now remember. 😂❤
I don't keep unnecessary things but live in a tip, not filthy but untidy, books and papers lying around. Clothes and shoes lying around. I like it this way and when anyone visits they remark how comfortable they feel in my home
They don't keep unnecessary items. They don't let cleaning tasks pile up. They don't overlook regular decluttering. They don't ignore designated space. They don't wait for company to clean up.
This is how I live, people think you’re crazy because you do so much housework but they are the crazy ones I just have a place for everything. My Aunty once told me, before you go to bed straighten your pillows in the lounge room, put the kids toys away, tidy the kitchen and if someone knocks at your door early your home is tidy. I have done this for 52years.
It’s not that hard. Just do things right away. Also, no, depression, adhd and those thypical «excuse» diagnoses are no excuses! Yes it’s a contributor- but you make the choise to let the depression or whatever it is to control your life each day. I know this is triggering for some to read, so I’ll add in how I was so severely depressed and suicidal for years, that things got out of hand. Aswell as ptsd and eating disorder, and a physical disability. It thook a choice every single day then the choices multiplied by the day, and now it’s me in control, not that diagnosis in control. And go figure, I’d rather be depressed and have a complete meltdown down in a neat, clean tidy home, than to have that upon other stresses like clutter, dirt and unhygienic environment. You can believe it or not, but “it’s not working for everyone” is outdated, usually the ones screaming this have not even tried, or “i can’t just tell myself to be happy”, well yes you can. You can force your ass up from bed and make yourself the favourite cuppa coffee, if that makes you happy in the moment. Or other things. You control you, unless you choose to let IT Control you. Edit; not saying your gonna be happy constantly, no one is and emotions are a part of life. Emotion, reactive and accountability regulating however is a life’s work.
These simple habits really do the trick! It helped us get control of clutter, battle dust allergies, downsize to full time RV life, and allowed us to become semi retired in our 40’s. The habits spill over into other parts of life and become normal.
It’s the middle ground of decluttering I really struggle with. For example, declutterring clothes I want to sell on and waiting for them to sell online.
One couch is enough! Comfortable chairs, facing it, and not too many of them is a nice idea. I know people with three couches in one room that’s only 12 x 15‘.
I think they figure out logical places for things and always put them back there. That's probably my biggest challenge. Also, they go through their stuff once or twice a year. They have a schedule for cleaning.
I have most of my life been pretty tidy. Recently I‘ve moved many times and now, I moved as a tenant to home that was not very well cleaned. Besides it, I had a new job and - it tirned out that it is a messy place. I get tired only when I step in there. Now, I should make my place tudy in my work and at home, I have eyhausted amout of repairing work to do - if I want to see what I want. Besides, I have three cats who lose lots of hair daily. Who else has furry sheets! I do! Disorder makes tired. Especially in my workplace I am dead tired only because of the disorder.
When i was a kid, I'd make my bed while still in bed. Easiest clean up/tidy job to do. When i divorced, I'd tidy up the bed the same way. Why sweat the small stuff? Perfection is saved for when it's actually needed. If you're happy in your home that YOU have created, then so be it. If you want it cleaner or more organized, then do it. Dont be lazy about yourself. If your ocd, obsessed w cleanliness, worry what others think of a tiny stain on carpet but otherwise a clean home then you need to work on yourself to feel and be comfortable.
Since I have a little ADHD, I've learned to break tasks down into smaller 'bites' that will hold my attention. Also, I can't leave a task until it is done, so these 2 rules work together well.
I think there needs to be a balance between an obsessively clean home and an over cluttered dirty home. Example, I am not going to wash my curtains weekly or clean every surface of my home daily or every second day. My home is neither spotless nor dirty or over cluttered. It’s lived in with five humans and one dog as well as a couple of fish. Life is far too short to obsess over cleaning. Regardless of how spotless our homes are, we’re still only here for a short time. Live life and be happy. Spend time with those you love the most.
My mother was obsessive about cleaning our home and yard. It’s all she did and never seemed to enjoy anything in life. She was always sweaty and exhausted living on coffee and cigarettes. Us kids basically lived outside while she cleaned away day and night. I never learned how to clean and have an aversion to it because of my upbringing. It’s odd, isn’t it? I grew up in an immaculate home but really don’t know what is normal vs excessive cleaning. I keep up with the basics but I get angry inside when I clean. I’m trying to find a balance between clean and tidy without the stress and anger associated with it.
I love this! My home is clean enough. When people stop by I don't apologize for the messes and some clutter because my family is busy and happy. I am trying to be more aware of not bringing extra things in that we don't need. Balance is definitely the answer.🥰
I have a friend who wants to emulate my home hitch I find bizarre as it’s just lived in but relatively tidy ( we do live in it), but she does have 3 teenage boys - enough said! I have no problem with people dropping by they take me as they find me, but I would love to get rid of a lot of things and live a minimalist life.
@@adoptedscot So, a friend of mine commented about my home, saying it is pleasant. I found this to be a compliment. She was saying it feels good to be here.
I'm a life coach and prof home organizer. I think what you might have success with is tackling one small area at a time if there's things you want to get rid of.
If someone wants to emulate your home, they may like your no stress home.feel, which is a compliment to you.😁👍
@@likeargamanflaming940 thank you for your positive comment - made me feel good 😀
Staying on top of little tasks is HUGE. Keeping a clean space clean is less time and effort than letting it get gross and then trying to get back to clean.
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Don't put it down, put it away.
Exactly what I've been trying to do for the past several months. Working well for me.
The best part of the video that struck a chord with me was when you said why can't we keep our home as neat and clean always for ourselves to enjoy, as we want our visitors to see...
I keep mine tidy for me first then if visitors arrive it’s tidy for them too!Tidy house,tidy mind
You got it! People with tidy homes don't shop as a hobby. They don't buy a surplus of items or keep a roomful of extra supplies & food. They buy only what's needed & maybe 1 back up . Whenever a new item is brought into the home, an old item goes out! It's sometimes hard to do, you don't always feel like doing it, but it is the answer to an always tidy home:)
I don't shop as a hobby. But I do kept extra staples around - so we always have a ready package of paper towels or toilet paper, and storage bags for the kitchen, aluminum foil, etc., around. for when something runs out. (We have drawers and cupboards where these things live.) And I don't take something out when something new comes in. (More often than not, the new thing coming in is a book... ;) Although at times we do make an effort to cull - mostly so we can keep our "Free Little Library" and our neighbors' Free Little Libraries - well stocked.
I needed aluminum foil...thanks for reminding me!
That's a tricky subject, but not necessarily mutually exclusive. As in, One can be a maximalist and tidy.
I was raised extremely tidy and clean. My mum was raised the same. My grandmother too. I also noticed neuroticism building up in these females, a lack of unconditional love and peace. I learned at the end of my twenties to finally let go. I am still tidy. I still like it clean. But I can fully accept it when I am too tired to clean. It can wait a few more days. Much more love. Much more peace. No more female neuroticism.
This is a really good point. I find it hard to sit down and play with my kids or even read a book with them if the space is unkept. My mother basically said if you have a messy space you dont deserve to have free time. Dessert wasn't served on the weekends until the living room was spotless including dusting. I see that bleeding over into the way I look at my still quite young children. My husband actually raised an eyebrow the other day when they were sitting and playing a game, and I asked why are you sitting down when there's so much cleaning to do! It was 9pm. I am trying to do better now especially since we are renovating an old house and there's very few finished spaces.
@@gloriack7976What kids remember is not the cleanliness of the house (even though I am happy my mother taught me that), but they remember if they were loved, played with, listened to, encouraged. But yes, I also had to learn (I did so by living in incredibly dirty but loving communities for a couple of years). I like to use the “So what” method. Laundry isn’t done yet. So what. Hallways is dirty again. So what. Again, it doesn’t mean my house is dirty. It just isn’t a hospital 😅 And it’s cozy. I remember my mom washing my hair every day! Until I was the one in class who always got lice. Until another mother said: “Your kid is too clean. Let her get dirty” 😅 I think you are an amazing mum, you care and you love. I am sure your kids love you a lot too. And I hope you enjoy the weekly cleaning with your kids as much as I did with my mum (we always had a great lunch, we listened and danced to funny music). But I also hope you can look at the dust on the table and think… So what 😊❤
I’m a bit ocd
Another way to look at this is that needing/wanting extreme cleanliness may be a symptom of insecurity and a need for safety or control. There may be underlying issues or events feeding this mindset.
@@barbarakelly1916 this is an interesting point certainly. I think we do need to have a certain amount of "control" over our homes and personal spaces, but I guess the difference would be an extremely micromanaging manager or a calm level headed manager. Working well with ebb and flow. The more out of control we feel in other areas, the more micromanaging we get in our home.
Years ago I adopted a mind set to never leave the room empty handed meaning take something with you that belongs in the room your heading to. It’s so much easier to keep everything in its place.
Great advice
Why would something belonging elsewhere be in the room in the first place - why not just return it once it’s finished with?
Well, that's an obvious question. I'll ask my husband why he can't do that. Makes me crazy
Same
I actually clean after my guests leave. I could never understand why people wait for others to come over before they clean their own space. You should maintain it for yourself after all it is yours. It shows appreciation and gratitude.
Because I have many neuroses William
Always do your dishes after you've eaten, clean up as you go along cooking. Clean bathroom every morning. Do washing once there's enough for a load, then fold and put away laundry as soon as dry. Make your bed every morning. Keep surfaces clear. Minimise belongings.
Good job on the video!
This is exactly what I do
The one minute task is a game changer 👊 Since the death of my husband I have fallen behind removing unwanted clutter - My mindset being “What’s the point?” Your video has been a timely nudge - thank you
I’m sorry about your loss, they have grown older loss has been the hardest for me to reconcile with
Im so sorry for your loss. I've lost someone, too. Grief is consuming. When you are ready and able, start to take steps to give yourself the declutrered home you deserve. Joshua Becker is such a great help and motivator for this. I found that it was easy to build momentum decluttering once I started because I could feel how living in a decluttered environment felt much better. I hope it feels good for you, too ❤
You still deserve a tidy, welcoming home. ❤️🩹 hugs
I understand this so well. That is a question I also ask.
I know people who don’t like a home to be to neat and tidy not a dirty home but some people feel more comfortable in a house that looks lived in as a quest I feel more comfortable comfortable with a few scattered things around again not dirty but not a show room house .
A guest
When I was a young nurse in the 1980's, we were taught, no empty hands! Always attending to someone, or cleaning something, or studying .
What I do find difficult now is that my husband does something he calls "surface filing" which means leaving his stuff on tables, sofas and chairs. My daughter dumps her stuff all over the place, not much has a home... I have given her baskets and bowls to contain her stuff, but it makes no difference. But I don't want to be a nag. Leading by example hasn't had any impact. I am now 63 and getting tired of it all.
Love your videos, they give me hope that one day I will also enjoy the peace of a decluttered and tidy home.
You could claim a couple of “ tidy zones” in your home, and leave the rest to their choics
I totally understand. We can change ourselves but we can’t change our family members.
My main rule w. My fam is kids things belong in their room. The items can visit the rest of the house but at night they go to sleep in their room.
Yes! I have said all along that decluttering is ongoing and never stops! It is for us as regular as cleaning the oven…If you do it often then it is a small task!
Oh my goodness, I got 5 out of 5!! I love being a Tidy Homes Don't Do person!!
Bravo🎉🎉
I like that your videos are "minimal". You get right to the point, and are concise.
I personally am a hot mess at times, but in the last year and a half, I've rid my house of at least 50% of our things. Some of it was just trash that I've never addressed, some of it was able to be donated. We don't need all that stuff, and I sure dont miss any of it.
Joshua ~ You are so right! I make the one or two minute thing a game. If I put something in the microwave for 1 min, I see what tasks I can do...I can refill the dog's waterbowl, wash a few dishes, fold some laundry or dispose of unwanted mail. I love the challenge ~ it's fun. I actually follow all 5 of your suggestions because it brings me peace and joy to have a tidy home.
Everything has a place and everything in its place 😊
❤ that is me. Our 4 legged child (we are in retirement age) leaves her toys around and that is ok. They get put away and then she can still mess up when she wants to play. It is a home not a show house. Always tidying. A clean house is more important than her toys for play. 😂
This was something I struggled with until I discovered decluttering in 2016. So I felt like I was useless because I couldn't put everything in its place because it wasn't possible for everything to have a place. The clutter has never returned and I have a tidy home now. 🎉
It’s very difficult to keep from stockpiling, especially after experiencing the Covid lockdown.
And thats when my online shopping addiction started... 😏🙄😁
Place for everything and everything in it's Place. ❤
I clean and organize my house for my own satisfaction and not to impress my company. I like walking in and being greeted by fresh smells and the pride I feel when i notice how much positive difference my recent efforts have made. If I have company drop by and they feel welcomed by that aura, that's good too! But I always keep my kitchen, bathroom and laundry area tidy. But other spaces are let go a bit more!
People with tidy homes don't ignore designated spaces is the big secret
Joshua, Hubby & I are on the road to minimalism. Before someone would come visit, we asked people to give ys a wks notice, or we'd make excuses why we couldn't invite someone in...better yet we just wouldn't open the door. Since our journey started, we're still not there yet, but now we're down to a 24 hr or less notice. It feels so good to be able to pick up, sweep, mop, dust, & do a few other things in a matter of a couple of hrs vs days. Keep the inspiration coming. 😊
@JoshuaBeckker That's ok with me. 😊
I have a home daycare and my house is always tidy and clean by doing these things and I always get compliments from parents when they go to my house.
I used to have a home daycare and when the kids were napping in the afternoon, I would clean. My house was always tidy and clean too.
Teach your children from a very young age how to make their bed when they get up, hung up their clothes, pick up their toys, and let them help you etc…that means when you clean, when you cook, doing dishes etc. at a very early age they love to help…
When I was decluttering 'big time' I took digital pictures of unused & stored-out-of-sight sentimental items. I also prayed over all items before sharing with a charitable group...that the next 'steward of my stuff' will be blessed & have a happy life. Doing these 2 things made & still makes letting go a breeze! ♡
I recently enjoyes many items, all were clean, in go I d condition, some of them I purchased earlier thus year. I donated them to a resale shop that as all volunteers there. There are no high paid excutives and the items are priced reasonably . The employees appreciate all the donated items. It made me feel good knowing that someone could be blessed by my donations
Having a place for all necessities helps to identify the things that aren’t necessary.
You just described ME!!
It’s EASY… to maintain a CLEAN & TIDY home!!!🏡 😊😃😁
Great comments as always, Joshua.
I'm reminded of the sayings, "Clean as you go', and "It's always easier to clean a clean house. I've mentioned before and will mention again that model/actress/author Isabella Rossellini told about her mother Ingrid Bergman telling the children, "Never leave the room empty-handed", and gave the examples of take a glass from your room back to the kitchen or return a magazine to the living room.
For myself I've given away just over 50 books that I've never read and would only have read if I lived longer than I'm probably going to live. There's a twinge of sadness in not experiencing the reading of those books, but more than that I feel better at the removal of a burden and stress and at having more space and peace.
Mostly common sense I think
I have 7 now adult kids, and tho I’m no minimalist, I’ve had several come back to me and thank me for teaching them to make their bed when they get up, (I made it easy with just having a fitted sheet and a large easy to handle quilt, no fussing with a top sheet back then, to clean as you go in the kitchen, and to quit spending emotional energy on 1-2 minute jobs. I dislike unloading the dishwasher, complaining it “takes 10 minutes “… actually I set a timer and it took 90 seconds…..seriously…major lesson learned…what took 10 minutes was the internal emotional upheaval I put myself thru to do a job I disliked that took 90 seconds. So I now choose to not have an emotional reaction to doing quick jobs except to rejoice that they are DONE!
I am sooooo grateful for a dishwasher now in my new place. Before moving here, hand washing for 6 years after moving out of my ex-boyfriend's.
Now I know why my house is a mess. Failed with every single item. 😢
My sister is constantly cleaning and worried what guests will think if her 2000 sf house, where she lives alone, isn't perfect. I was more of a minimalist as a teenager. I am now squeezed into a senior apt with few cabinets or storage places. Everyone I know in this bldg is cluttered. With health problems it's tough to be tidy. No one here throws parties, so I guess we're OK. There's a cat in here somewhere. Just kidding.
@@BridgetR72 lol!
❤LOVE THIS!! Shared with all of my family-married kiddos and their families.
Although the last time I did a big declutter my son called my husband and asked if I was okay? Was there something going on with me? 😆 🤣 Thanks for the motivation
Hi, I get rid of craft supplies I haven't used in a year. I pass them on to other crafters. I trade houseplant cuttings so my indoor garden looks lush but not overgrown. We live in a 2BR condo near O'Hare airport so I need my indoor garden. Tina, Al's wife
I just gave away over 90%of my beading supplies. I never thought I would do that. I kept just a few items for a necklace I want to make and the beading tools. I've moved on....
I will try my very best to maintain these things. FYI, you are the one who introduced me into practicing minimalism. I started last 2018, and it's not easy because I have experienced some reversions. But now I can proudly say that I try to practice it more seriously, especially now that I just retired and turned 61. I'm a subscriber from the Philippines and just wanted you to know that you are a great part of my minimalism journey.. 😊❤🖐👍!!
I spend 1-1 1\2 hrs in the morning cleaning....kitchenbathroom everday, quick vacuum(all hard floors) steam mopping my bed and bathroom/kitchen every morning....yes everything has a place and never gets left out...i love to throw things out/ get rid of, it feels soo good...in fact my father tried to give me "binoculars" yesterday😂 i said, "why, ill never use them and they will become junk in a closet.....NO!"😂
Would you come over to my house?
Joshua❤ THANK YOU- I love that your videos are short but you give us so much to think about and implement into our lives!! this video has made me truly realize that my house is in fact cluttered and I have a lot of work to do. Thank you.❤
I feel blessed that both my husband and I are on the same page with regard to keeping a tidy, clean home. It's not that we don't occasionally leave some mail on the table or some clothes on the dryer....however, if one of us leaves something like that for more than a day or two, the other will give a gentle reminder about it. We share cleaning responsibilities...Every other Tuesday, we go out to breakfast and come home, put on some music, and together we clean the house top to bottom.
I have been watching your money series repeatedly and have made significant improvements 😇….. it will take 4 more months to get where I want to be … but thank you for reminding me that I’m not hopeless 🙏🏻
Well done you! What an achievement! Hope you’re taking time to be proud of yourself! 👏
@@lydiasalerno2320💞💞💞
The beauty of this is that cleaning as you go is perfect if you hate cleaning, because it never gets overwhelming!
@JoshuaBeckker sorry, no can do.
I regularly pet sit for a family that lives in a $3.5 million, 5,000 sq ft. 5 bedroom, 5 bath house. (4 people total live in it: Mom, Dad, son & daughter). It is totally UNCLUTTERED.
The house has no excess junk in it! The kitchen however, has LOTS of multiples, but it's all stored away. For example, there's two dozen spatulas, 6 cookie sheets, 3 pairs of scissors, 3 veggie peelers, 6 big ladles, 2 instant pots (6qt, 8qt), 2 blenders (a VitaMix and a Ninja), etc. Plus, a food pantry bigger than my bedroom with enough food for 3 years!
Well, I have a lot (a lot!) of books, as well as a whole bunch of family photos. Luckily, there are bookshelves in most of the rooms of our house, so the books and pictures (the ones that aren't on the wall) have a place to live. And yes, I discovered as an adult (I'm nearly 70 now), that it really isn't necessary to have to "look for the scissors" every time you need scissors- you just have a spot where they always live. (My mother was definitely "not" organized). All that being said, I find the kitchen that Mr. Becker is recording from unrealistic, unless he just relies on take-out food. We have a toaster, a coffee maker, a coffee grinder, a Kitchen Aide mixer, a bread box, two containers for cooking tools (for non-stick pots and regular). And a knife block that holds 35 knives. And a microwave. Hauling what we need to cook a meal every time would be exhausting, to say the least. It's a working kitchen (and yes, we keep it clean), and it seems the height of inefficiency - and of caring more about form than function - to hide everything you use to cook away somewhere. (We do have a corner cupboard where our small appliances live). Just my two cents.
You are so right about not waiting for company coming to clean...I regret that I made my family's life miserable before holidays by cleaning like a crazy person and being totally miserable while doing it!!
Great. Perfect. Short and sweet. To the point. Not a bunch of time wasting chatter.mTHANK YOU.
It's easy to admire what seems hard. It's easy to envy whatever seems effortless. You finally made me feel this in my stomach, not just understand it in my head.
Very good advice. Such a nice opposite to the very dangerous and overwhelming “ grocery and other supplies hauls” . People treating their houses as satellites storages for Walmart warehouses…
It’s gross. And these are the same ones who go on about the environment. 🙄
The COVID epidemic, economic and political conditions, and supply chain issues factor into the "hauls" habit. People want to feel secure in uncertain times, as well as to save money. My parents grew up in the 1930's Depression years; and as adults always had a stockpile of goods, behavior based on their memories.
Thanks for the concise reminder, Joshua. A little reinforcement of what I have already learned from you now and then helps.
I've always done these things naturally, but didn't realize most people didn't do this until I moved in with my gf (now wife). I remember when we started dating, she said she cleaned her place on Saturdays, and I was confused. I was like what do you mean you clean? What is there to clean? You live alone. What she meant is she had to clean up all the dishes and clothes and miscellaneous things she'd leave scattered around her place throughout the week. I've never had to reserve time for cleaning because I've always cleaned as I made a mess, or I put my clothes in the laundry basket immediately, or the dishes in the dishwasher immediately. The only cleaning I need to do is to dust furniture or vacuum. People make living in a tidy and clean space very difficult for themselves because they have the wrong approach. I guess you have to enjoy the process, which I do. My wife hates doing laundry because she wants it to be "finished", but I view laundry as just a weekly process that I enjoy. I enjoy hanging up my shirts to dry, folding up shirts, etc. I even hang my socks to dry because they're really high quality and I don't want to ruin them. I view laundry as something I get to do, rather than something I have to do. My wife treats her clothes like a stranger's clothes. When her laundry is done, she'll let it sit in a pile to be folded. Usually sits there for days at a time before she makes time to put it away.
The "I get to do this" mindset is very positive. It illustrates and promotes self care. The "chore/ I have to do this" mindset comes from a more negative, close to "victim/ poor me"identity. The degree of one's creativity is also a factor in how we view and do household management.
Your wife is very very blessed to have you… 😊❤
5 out of 5 for me🎉 Then again i have been practicing a minimalist lifestyle for about 15 years so i dont have alot of stuff.
Another masterpiece .makes complete sense ❤❤❤
This is great….and I’m getting there. It’s a process. The first one is what I struggle with…but I’m getting there. This video is a great reminder to me to stop bringing in unnecessary items. My home is, however, a much more peaceful place to live in…less stress. Thank you for this video!
Rooting for you!
@@Jack.of.all.learning Thank you! Much appreciated. After watching this video I went from room to room and took three items that were “unnecessary”…put them in a box and took them to the Salvation Army before I could change my mind. I’ll do this every weekend until I get down to necessities. I did that with my garage a few years ago and it’s so satisfying to pull my car into a tidy clutter free garage with just the few tools I need for gardening, a shop vac, and car cleaning products. Amazing how clutter and excess stuff can create stress in your life.
Stay well 💜
To clarify - 3 items per room…not just 3 items 😂
@@lizzieb6311 Alright! I've been getting ready for a renovation which is almost worse than moving as far as "stuff" becoming inconvenient and have been purging a lot as a result. I agree less clutter is more peaceful.
@@Jack.of.all.learning Jack…buckle up. I did a full kitchen and bathroom remodeling job concurrently while living there. Using my 2nd bathroom to wash dishes was not ideal and felt incredibly disgusting. Plan on dining out if possible or at least paper plates (biodegradable ). My biggest advice - if you get annnoyed and ready to blow your stack due to the dust, noise, and people traipsing through your house all day: Walk away. As soon as you feel the pressure - go for a walk…a bike ride…something away from the mess. It’s a sanity saver 😉It will be worth it at the end…but it is stressful. With less clutter you've already tackled a big stressor during a remodel. The other thing…cover everything and INSIST they put down floor protection. You got this Jack!
I love being a 5 out of 5! ❤
I decluttered and minimalised anticipating a busy life when I went back to work full time. No job yet and sometimes bored. But having everything in its own home cuts out the stress. ❤
Excellent, you’re right. Stop being a slave to unnecessary stuff. Can’t live without my Roomba robot vacuum. So much easier to keep floors clean.
I really don’t understand Roombas. Haphazard, inconsistent, perpetually in the way… doesn’t know the difference between coins or lost earrings versus scraps of paper and lint, and don’t forget the infamous photo of dog poop smeared all over a room. (So many issues there, starting with a poor neglected, untrained dog.). It takes me just a few minutes to sweep my kitchen or vacuum a room, and I KNOW it has been thoroughly done.
All these rules sound good, but if you happen to have mobility issues & you're old without much energy & no help, you end up doing what you can. Things get out of control pretty quickly & it's hard to catch up!
I always clean up the kitchen after eating even if I'm in pain & moving slowly.
I have a tidy home with now grown up kids (they still live at home) but it was tidy when they were younger, plus dogs and a cat. It’s not hard to clean and tidy everyday. And the less clutter you have the easier it is.
Omg why are you describing me exactly! All 5 points fit me precisely. My mantra is, a place for everything and everything in its place.
Always GREAT ADVICE to live by!!♥️♥️♥️! Thank you so much!!
No excuses unless dealing with a disability. I have 3 under 3 and our house is always tidy because we're minimalists and organized. Only a few days when pregnant/post-partum or in the case of unforeseen/spontaneous activities has our house been messy before bed-and even then it gets done asap. We care about tidiness so we just pick up super quick (and only hand-wash dishes). Deep cleaning is a different story though 🙃
Thank you for analysing, summarising, sharing and reminding. It helps me in the process on my way to a more enjoyable lifestyle. As a kid I was told: Every thing at its place saves a lot of time and words. I now remember. 😂❤
I don't keep unnecessary things but live in a tip, not filthy but untidy, books and papers lying around. Clothes and shoes lying around. I like it this way and when anyone visits they remark how comfortable they feel in my home
They don't keep unnecessary items.
They don't let cleaning tasks pile up.
They don't overlook regular decluttering.
They don't ignore designated space.
They don't wait for company to clean up.
This is how I live, people think you’re crazy because you do so much housework but they are the crazy ones I just have a place for everything. My Aunty once told me, before you go to bed straighten your pillows in the lounge room, put the kids toys away, tidy the kitchen and if someone knocks at your door early your home is tidy. I have done this for 52years.
It’s not that hard. Just do things right away.
Also, no, depression, adhd and those thypical «excuse» diagnoses are no excuses! Yes it’s a contributor- but you make the choise to let the depression or whatever it is to control your life each day. I know this is triggering for some to read, so I’ll add in how I was so severely depressed and suicidal for years, that things got out of hand. Aswell as ptsd and eating disorder, and a physical disability.
It thook a choice every single day then the choices multiplied by the day, and now it’s me in control, not that diagnosis in control.
And go figure, I’d rather be depressed and have a complete meltdown down in a neat, clean tidy home, than to have that upon other stresses like clutter, dirt and unhygienic environment.
You can believe it or not, but “it’s not working for everyone” is outdated, usually the ones screaming this have not even tried, or “i can’t just tell myself to be happy”, well yes you can. You can force your ass up from bed and make yourself the favourite cuppa coffee, if that makes you happy in the moment. Or other things. You control you, unless you choose to let IT Control you.
Edit; not saying your gonna be happy constantly, no one is and emotions are a part of life. Emotion, reactive and accountability regulating however is a life’s work.
Well done Joshua! I try to do them all!
As a minimalist, I do all of these 5 things.
You are 100% correct. I practice all these things, and it works. I clean my place every morning before work as well.
I constantly go through my things and declutter. Minimalist for 5yrs now. Thanks, Joshua. 👍🏻
Thanks, Joshua. That’s what I long for.
Definitely will follow this good advice. GAY HIV Positive African American Senior! Thanks 🙏🏿
He and his wife talk to All of Us! Bless Them!👏🏿
These simple habits really do the trick! It helped us get control of clutter, battle dust allergies, downsize to full time RV life, and allowed us to become semi retired in our 40’s. The habits spill over into other parts of life and become normal.
This is my retirement goal.
Thank you Joshua ❤
Great vid as usual.
I am aiming for 5 out 5.
I am nearly there!
Decluttering works well. The cleaning…meh. I do the surface cleaning okay. The deep cleaning like the sliding door tracks and windows…er, no comment.
God bless you Josh, but i am finding it hard to get a partner that i can have such an organized family with
Thank you for sharing this. I do this all the time, unfortunately some member of my family think that I am crazy, Ike a tidy home.
It’s the middle ground of decluttering I really struggle with. For example, declutterring clothes I want to sell on and waiting for them to sell online.
Can you make a designated space for them that’s not hanging around the area that you’re decluttering them from?
Thank you.
Albert Einstein: "If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, what then is an empty desk?"
For everything except art supplies. 😂 Thx Joshua!
Thank you for the encouragement Joshua very much appreciated ❤😊
Fantastic advice and so true! Hoarding and procrastination can create a difficult and miserable life.
One couch is enough! Comfortable chairs, facing it, and not too many of them is a nice idea. I know people with three couches in one room that’s only 12 x 15‘.
Awesome video and wisdom.
My mantra;
HANDLE IT ONCE!
DONT set something down, go extra few seconds to put away where it belongs.
Many thanks.
I am old now, but have 3 kids, and my home was as clean as it's now.
Children can be displined, from chilhood.
Thank you Awsome encouragement.👏🏻😀
Cleaning all the time is overwhelming as well!!
Indeed. Minimalism makes cleaning so much quicker!
I think they figure out logical places for things and always put them back there. That's probably my biggest challenge. Also, they go through their stuff once or twice a year. They have a schedule for cleaning.
Great tips, Joshua. Thank you.
I have most of my life been pretty tidy. Recently I‘ve moved many times and now, I moved as a tenant to home that was not very well cleaned. Besides it, I had a new job and - it tirned out that it is a messy place. I get tired only when I step in there. Now, I should make my place tudy in my work and at home, I have eyhausted amout of repairing work to do - if I want to see what I want. Besides, I have three cats who lose lots of hair daily. Who else has furry sheets! I do!
Disorder makes tired. Especially in my workplace I am dead tired only because of the disorder.
When i was a kid, I'd make my bed while still in bed. Easiest clean up/tidy job to do. When i divorced, I'd tidy up the bed the same way. Why sweat the small stuff? Perfection is saved for when it's actually needed. If you're happy in your home that YOU have created, then so be it. If you want it cleaner or more organized, then do it. Dont be lazy about yourself. If your ocd, obsessed w cleanliness, worry what others think of a tiny stain on carpet but otherwise a clean home then you need to work on yourself to feel and be comfortable.
I continue to find your content relevant and inspiring
“If you clean as you go, there’s no mess, ya know,”. That is what I tell my grandkids ,,
Helpful tips Joshua. Thank you 👍😊
Thank you for sharing😊
Hi Joshua 🙏
thank you always worthwhile
Since I have a little ADHD, I've learned to break tasks down into smaller 'bites' that will hold my attention. Also, I can't leave a task until it is done, so these 2 rules work together well.