How to Correct Someone in Sin (Fraternal Correction)
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- Опубликовано: 3 июн 2021
- How do we go about correcting someone in sin without making things worse?
Fraternal correction can vary drastically based on what kind of state the person is in. For example, you wouldn’t approach a person in an abusive or self-destructing behavior the same way you would approach a person in the public eye. Today, however, we’re going to be talking about the basics of fraternal correction, and what to do when you feel called to speak to someone in your life about their relationship with God.
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“BRING GOD INTO IT”; “Don’t make it about you”; “Pray for 9 days with a little sacrifice” - that’s Love. What great advice! The best advice I think I’ve ever heard on the subject. I wish I would have heard a message like this with practical steps years ago. Thank you for this wisdom!
Poignant words. I have much to do. My sons have followed in my lazy, lukewarm Catholic life. And my relationship with my wife is broken (hopefully not beyond repair) and I'm trying and praying for conversion for us all. Thank you Fr. Mark, God bless
I'll be praying for you!
@@mariri-13 thank you ! I'll be praying for you as well
@@mattberg916 Thank you so much!
Pray the rosary for this intention as well. God bless you🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️
@@mangafq8 believe me I do. God bless you
I feel like God is talking to me through this video. Im actually going through with my friends. I care for them and see them suffer because of the sin.
Very practical talk.
God give me the grace to do this right
Fr.Altman is a fantastic shepherd!!!
Father James Altman is a true Padre! There are Shepherds that are a handful just as good but none better. Unfortunately there all under fire for speaking the truth.
Amen!
Awesome topic and presentation Father Mark Mary! I’ve been offering my daily Rosary in Thanksgiving to Holy RUclips Priests including you.
Woow. You give a new idea for my prayer🙏🏼
Brotherly correction is to give correction, advice, or even rebuke out of care for the person because you love him as a brother, or her as a sister; if you don't care about whatever happens to the person anyway and just simply want to look righteous or good in front of others, then that is not a fraternal correction.
Shame is a bully - grace is a shield
This subject needs way more discussion or explanation.
Don’t take weed hacker to rose bush. Thank you!
Valuable learning, on correcting one's brother, to abstain from sin while making sure about the situation.
What a timely video, GOD is good!
First comment? looking forward to this video!
The culture of trust, cultivation through love, leads to peace. Yah, sometimes pruning makes it worst if not handled well.
It is timely that you shared this! I needed this bro! Thanks!
Wow, I struggle with this every day with those I love and who I can see are not actually living the life that God would like them to live. Thanks for the practical application of our prayer life in being an encouraging person in their lives and not a critic. By the way, I’m reading your “Habits for Holiness” and I so admire your gift for simplicity especially your gift of explaining the reality of what our faith challenges us to be. As always, God bless you.
Exactly what i needed to hear
Thank you so much for this, and for all blessed content; God bless the most! 😊
Thank you for the honesty and teaching a loving way to approach people who we love and care about.
That's really good. Thank you Fr.🙏🙏🙏
That was very helpful thank you. I didn’t know about the part of sacrificing with the prayer. Thanks, I will give that a try. God bless !
Appreciate you taking this up!
Thank you Fr Mark Mary. I postponed watching this video yesterday and it cropped back up exactly when I really need it at this specific moment!! It gave me an extreme insight on how to deal with this present situation in a loving manner. Very grateful to the Lord and to you, this has been very providential for me. In my prayers.
Thank you so much for making this video! I really wanted an explanation on this topic. Praise The Lord and God bless!!
This Came our at a really good time. Thank You Fr.Mark Mary 👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for wise and insightful advice for how to approach correction with love and patience!
Thank you Father. It is hard to tell my 30 year old son he is sinning because I don't want to risk not having a relationship with him.
This is extremely helpful
Thank you.... sometimes there's only one chance to help someone including ourselves to make a loving change...I truly appreciate this.
YES. Appreciate this so much. LOVE you.
I really needed this video. My parents have said the lords name in vain and some if my family members to and I haven’t wanted my dad or mom to look at someone else. My mom has made “jokes” about actors and guys being attractive and it just frightens me a lot about my mom and my parents doing this. Thank you and praise be to the messiah and the father in heaven!!
Acknowledging a man's handsome looks is not necessarily a sin.
Have you asked them why they choose to take the Lord’s name in vain? Most people are ignorant of their behavior or just have made a poor habit of it. If it’s not brought to their attention it will continue. On the other hand, if it’s not someone I know well, I just recite the Golden Arrow prayer or a variation thereof
I’ve tried telling them it’s wrong but I’m 12 and they’ll just tell me to stop. I even told them that Jesus says to warn a brother when they sin or confront them but the just say stop it
And plus my mom is angry for an accident I made and idk. I just need help. And my mom I think would wrath because of her hitting me and my sister in rage for doing something on accident. And I don’t think she’s happy with us and my dad because she is always calling dad an idiot and that he is the reason why me and my sister are “stupid and idiots”. And it’s my birthday
@@leothebeast4378 that’s awesome that a young man of your age already knows about Jesus’ teachings on that level. Pray for your family. I always pray for all marriages & families, especially those in need of healing.
Thank you so much for this Fr. Mark Mary
Very helpful thank you 💕
Prayed to learn about this today.
THANK YOU MAY GOD BLESS YOU FOR HELPING US..
this will help me in many ways, thank you!
Thanks for this. Such great advice. Blessings. 🙏🙂
This was VERY helpful! 🙏 thank you.
Thank you!! Just what I need it!! Father May God bless you with more wisdom
Thank you Father! I think of this a lot!
This is a hard topic. Thank you for speaking on it and for your advice on how to approach it.
Great teaching very helpful thank you Father
Thank you 🙏 I really needed to hear this
God bless you Father Mark-Mary
My favourite Friar, RESPECT G 💯😎❤️
Thank you!
so wonderful, thank you
Thank you struggling with this 🙏🏼 I will trust that this is Truth. Sometimes I can be stubborn and want to hit people with the truth but I hope to be doing Gods will.
Thank you Fr Mark🙏✝️🙂⛪️
Thank you for the advice. I am going to do this. Please keep my son in your prayers.
Thank you for sharing this, Fr. Mark. This really give me a lot of insights. I realized how wrong I was doing it. Bless you
Great advice 😊
Excellent thank you Br Mark Mary
Have this kind of situation in my life... Thank God, He's been helping me holding back for good. These tips are worth to try. Thank you, father.
It's rare in life to listen to someone who is on his way to Sainthood. This is one of those times.
@Eternal Learner They mean reverential sainthood. Different from sainthood of the saved.
@Eternal Learner My pleasure. You may find conflicting information, mainly because the orthodox and protestants use these terms strictly in separate contexts from each other. I would look into each context specifically, but we’re all nonetheless called to sainthood.
Amen
Agreed!!!!!
Sorry but not a single soul is a saint player
Well said!
Prayer with sacrifice. Love it.
Thumps up! 👀
Thank you
Wow. I especially love the idea of a novena and sacrifice. And like you said that helps you to determine where your heart is in it. Love love love.
if this video had come a month earlier I might not have screwed up so badly. now all I can do is pray and try not to worry.
Every point here is true. I’ve practiced these points without knowing and can testify that practicing these points have opened the door to much healing to others and to bring people to Christ. When you show people you care about them-over a period of time and not just one moment in time-people are more likely to listen to what you have to say when the time comes to rebuking a person of their ongoing sins because they have a rapport with you that shows your intentions are true and for their own good.
This is true. Come from a place of love. It depends on the relationship we have with the person and how we represent ourselves. We can't always expect people to be receptive immediately, but plant the seed. Thank you Father.
thank you father 💕
Fathers, if your children don’t see you praying on your knees, expressing love and adoration for their mother, reading scripture or prayer, and going to church, then start...if you want to make a difference ....otherwise children will eventually follow the world and immoral culture
Deepening my relationship with God ( studying Catholicism) I depend more on Catholic virtual videos, and other social media as my Fraternal Correction….
More than my present Non-Catholic religion Thank you 🙏🏾 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Just what I was thinking about today 🤔
Me too!
@@monicakau768 that kind of thing always happens me, I'll be thinking about something then I'd see a video about it recently uploaded. Strange
And me too...I am sure there is a lot of prayer going in the background... Most of the time, when I'm in a state of confusion Ascention Presents come with a video related to it.
@@jamesjacjose yes, that's exactly what happens me
brillhant. tks
God bless you, Amen
Amen beautiful father Mark Mary so true make-up bless you keep up the good work
All this was great, especially loved the part about making sacrifice!
Thanks to Our Lady and praying the Pompeii rosary novena I have got many blessings and many troubles gone away. Just pray to Her with faith and She will do like at the wedding in Cana to ask her Son for help.
Agree, if it feels wrong all the time or hurts you, makes you angry or fearful all the time, how can it be right?
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life, but whoever disobeys the Son will not see life, but the wrath of God remains upon him.
John 3:36
You are correct indeed
Oh Father, first rule is it true? The person corrected usually stands alone. Truth is needed and the person needs to be heard both sides.
Thank you. I feel I am not rooted enough in prayer to do this yet. I have many friends who have dropped Christianity for New Age and often Buddhist practices. I do feel sad for them, but they are openly critical of Catholicism, so feel as though i would be wasting my time. Also, because I am so young in the Church, having attacks on it feels as though it weakens my faith. I became Catholic because the only friend I had who as doing well was Catholic. My life is now everything I could wish it to be. Hoping that what happenen to me will happen to them . Do feel that New Age doctrines and therapies are very divisive and antagonistic towards Catholicism. I have lost friends because of my beliefs. They think I have gone mad!
Thank you so much for this. Fraternal correction has been something I've really been struggling with for a while, and today I was getting pretty overwhelmed by the obligation to correct others. I thought your steps were helpful. I appreciate you taking the time to deliver this well-needed message.
It would be good to hear about how to cultivate a relationship of trust with difficult people. What if the relationship is bad?
Like, how do you have a relationship of trust with someone who is untrustworthy? At some point, it’s time to step away at least for awhile.
Get out of the relationship , you can’t fix someone who doesn’t want to be fix , because first of all they will deny that they have a problem .
This is very timely for me. There is a coworker of mine who identifies with one of those "non-binary" identities that is en vogue today, and I called her out privately, but didn't do it well. Sigh ... it's hard. I prayed for her to accept her gender, and repent of her lifestyle. Hopefully the Holy Spirit will work where I didn't really help.
@@fathermike1818 I understand you probably wish to make people feel better, but you are clearly not the real Father Mike. If you wish to do this, perhaps you can create an original identity instead of using someone else's name and face. ❤
Jesus describes what to do if you see a brother or sister of the Lord sinning in Scripture. First tell them what they are doing which is sin and if they don't listen to you bring in another person and if they still refuse to listen instruct them to go before their Priest and if they still refuse to listen treat them as a non-believer. This applies to other Baptized Christians not towards the Unbaptized. It was what Christians done they did separate themselves from those who lived in mortal sin including family members. It's sort of like an intervention for a loved one addicted to something you make them choose between your relationship with them or with their substance this is called though love.
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Lord Jesus corrected the buyers and sellers in the temple by making a whip out of cord. He had a zealous anger against the sin, in the same way I also feel the degree by which we correct, whether it’s being gentle and kind, or a little firm to the point of being harsh (not bcoz we like it) in order to discourage repetition of the act, aft being so patient, also largely depends on the type n severity of the sin. Though I don’t like to do it and it’s painful for me, it’s sometimes very necessary to nip things in the bud by sometimes rebuking somewhat severely, (of course without raising ones voice or shouting and as I mentioned earlier, after having exercised much patience by the Grace of Almighty God). Speak the Truth in love
Father Mark-Mary probably listens to some rap and loves sports haha such a chill guy
If you prune a rose wrong, I imagine you can hurt yourself too. I wish he mentioned certain personality types who have made it their mission to point out the flaws of those around them constantly. Sometimes these people are blind to their own flaws. Their fraternal correction borders on meddling in other people's business.
Painful reality for those around them.
Wouldn’t that be the time to simply recite scripture
Matthew 7:1-5
Ball is back in their court
I grew up with that. That's not correction though. They are the kind of people who think it's their God given duty to tell everyone else what's wrong with them, but not tactfully nor with compassion. They are hard to love.
@@kowens8504 once you’ve recited that scripture, or better yet, have them read it and explain what they think it means to them, you’re done. Criticism is not admonishing the sinner or instructing the ignorant.
@@kowens8504 I've unfortunately encountered personality types like that who seem to have an eye for other people's flaws but never their own.
This was a great video. With that being said....
I hope you guys corrected Father Casey on that Abortion video he did. He needs some loving fraternal correction.
Pray, fast (small sacrifices) 9 day novena to Our Lady Undoer of Knots...or any other Saint...St Joseph, Mother Teresa...Padre Pio...
One suggestion: In your mind kneel down in front of the other person. And send your guardian angel to the other person's guardian angel.
I’m trying to help someone beat a habitual sin so if you guys could pray for them that would be great!
The call to correction and conversion to the life of Christ!” Love the idea of praying a Novena and a small sacrifice to help others.
April 26, 2022
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Hello Father, what can I do when my own daughter shut us out of her life😞 because she chose a to fallow this twisted world😭
I’m sorry for your family’s suffering. Remembering prayer AND fasting, and if she does restore communication. as St. Augustine noted, talking to God more about your daughter than m your daughter about God. Currently facing our greatest trial in parenting, clinging to the certainty that God, our father, loves her even more then we as parents do, and He will give us the graces we need to persevere in Love.May your daughter open even a slight sliver of her heart to Him and He send someone into her life Who will help her be restored in relationship with Him and you.
@@amykubelka4862 Thank you for your prayers & kind words💙🙏🏻💙 May God Bless you🙏🏻
This message is so hard I'm trying so much to do God's work I feel it's getting worse than better. My mother 87 is so far from the faith that she is taking my children and others with her down the same road. Her belief God is merciful and not to worry and sinning. No need for the Sacramentos. My whole family rejects and believe I attend a cult. If I give them a small text of a inspirering video or message like this fire and brimstone comes upon me. I'm now not allowed to be amounst family gatherings. I can't even ask them to join me in praying or mass. Should I shake the sand and walk away? I'm alone now but at least I have God and my church family.
What would be appropriate way to tell a woman speaking in church that she should be silent?
Sssshhh!
Anybody in a relationship with the Lord has a right to make their passion for him known at opportune and appropriate times, male and female. That is if I’m to assume this conundrum is from Corinthians, where women had only begun to be educated in God’s word. That said, this is a very schismatic and denominational topic, so I may be giving you irrelevant information for your congregation.
I just tell them they are sinning, if they ask me how I tell them how, if they get angry I keep my stance, if they call me a hateful Christian I ask how it's hateful that I want someone else to go to heaven
it is impressive how strong you are in that aspect. i dont have the patience to correct people. and to that i know it is not good but unfortunately i dont even care enough for other people sins. only if they are close to me.
@@tatronhox8711 For me I carw about peoples sins but I also realize that lots of people who don't care if they sin or not. So if they are open or have dedicated themselves to the Lord, I hope I would correct them but truth be told I haven't ran into anyone like that
Usually, if someone around me is sinning I honestly feel uncomfortable. I do not have the strength to correct someone unless what they said or did is highly offensive to me. It is difficult to admonish another adult or your equal. They may not listen. They may become angry. They may stop talking to you. It may lead to unnecessary drama. I think we should check out intentions when we are correcting others. Are we speaking the truth to help another or deflect from our flaws? Are we harsh or are we compassionate?
Hateful Christian is an oxymoron and most people who respond like this are either convicted by your statement or are delusional, if they truly believe anyone besides God has the power to judge them.
@@210SAi I think all my replies got auto deleted lol
i have an inner dragon lady who breathes fire upon occasion. she definitely needs to be tamed. it is a struggle to take a step back before opening my mouth in criticism. it is one of those things i am trying to work on. think positive for me.
Is censorship part of your fraternal correction?
I have sinned against the Holy Spirit and am truly sorry and regret it can I be forgive or am I going to hell
So why isn't correcting Pope Francis about the Mayan idol worship at the Vatican Amazon Synod October 2019? Not a word ! Why.? The Panchamma idols were brought into St Peter's and into a church nearby dedicated to the BVM. Pope Francis actually ordered the idols to be rescued when dumped into the Tiber.
I'm going to chime in here I'm not a youngin anymore there is no such thing as doing it wrong when you are telling them the truth. I would say discern how to do this but never back down from saying something that's true. We also have to understand that we can't just keep tiptoeing to make people feel comfortable trying to do the right thing that's not what it's about.
I made the mistake of becoming emotional when I was trying to get help with a priest that did something to me. The diocese did not believe me. And he got off Scott free.
I love that, help me Father God not to kill the plant while I try to help in your son Jesus's name amen
I have many bisexual friends i don#t think they want to be corrected, they are fairly happy with the outcome of their actions.
I also think they will be offended by my input in that matter.
Should people correct friends that are not Christian or just leave them to their “own truth”?
Part of our faith includes the spiritual works of mercy, although I think this video is about how to do it charitably. Why would you not want to correct a pagan friend any less than your Christian friend?
Correct them as if they are in your Christian communion. Christ’s message doesn’t stop at just your church-goers. Look at the epistles; they are all after the people who are pagan.
You might want to correct them in terms they can understand, if they see your point and you have a good relationship with them you can explain the christian point of view as well