Adoption Education | Is adoption trauma real?
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Abandonment issues! Transracial Adoption! Adoption education! Adoption trauma! Adoption awareness!
Join me as I dive into whether or not adoption trauma is real, pulling from my own personal experiences as an adoptee from Korea, as well as what I've learned over the years from interviews I've filmed with adoptees, adoptive parents, social workers, authors and a trauma therapist.
If you'd like to hear from an expert on adoption trauma, please watch Beyond Biological Ep. 2 "The Connection".
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I'd love to know in the comments below if you learned something new from this video about adoption trauma, and also if there's anything you'd like me to try and cover in this series.
I'm sorry you have had a bad time. May God grant you a long good life.
Each day I remind myself what I am grateful for. It helps me get though this battle with cancer day by day.
There's a considerable fee to adopt a child usually. I always felt kind of like an investment; a slave or a farm animal.
@@theobserver9131 thank you for sharing your thoughts. There is so much cost in private and inter-country adoptions.
Im not involved in any adoption process yet currently but I really support your work so I’m here every video😊 especially fighting breast cancer, you’re amazing for continuing to educate on important topics that advocate for the voiceless!
Thank you so much!
I'm so grateful to hear other adopted people talking about adoption trauma. For the longest time I thought there was something really wrong with me and psychiatrists have been absolutely no help with the lifelong anxiety and depression. Now it turns out that many other adoptees have similar experiences. The work of Paul Sunderland and Gabor Mate has been very helpful too. At least now I have a little bit of sense of what's going on.
Thank you so much for commenting and including other resources. I am familiar with Paul Sunderland, but have not heard of Gabor Mate.
As an adoptee, I'm not sure where maternal separation and adoption trauma begin and end. I know that losing your real mother is something you never heal from, even if you are taken at birth. It's probably worse if it happens later, and if it's the result of something horrible like war.
Adoption isn't a nice thing. It's kind of like chemotherapy. The best way we know how to deal with a bad situation. Debating abortion vs adoption? I can't give advice, even as an adoptee. Early abortion might be the best (kindest) choice. I kinda wish I wasn't.
I was adopted by farmers wanting to grow their own farmhands. My brother and I were intended to be workers. It didn't end up being like that. Flakey man decided to be a pilot instead, and ended up crashing and dying. Then my brother and I became burdens for my now widowed adopted mother. My life...the dumpster fire.
"my brother" was adopted from a different girl. We did not get along well.
Thank you for sharing a piece of your story. There are so many layers to adoption, as there is in being treated for cancer (chemo, surgeries, radiation therapy… aggressive medications afterwards…). I’m a cancer survivor and there are many parallels for me as a survivor of cancer, and the journey I am on being in remission, and as an adoptee, they are both life-long journeys for me.
I am a Russian adoptee who has been struggling with adoption trauma for quite a lifetime. It got worse when I found out my entire biological family has passed away and that my dream of meeting them was crushed before my own eyes. The second wave of trauma came when I learned i red taken away from my mom because she didn’t know how to care for me. My brother on the other hand, another Russian adoptee has no adoption trauma. He found his birth mother and she wanted a relationship with him. He never did. He views the family here as his real fam. My cousin with adoption trauma has really struggled without any help. I have seen the effects of that. I’ve seen all sides.
I also have separation anxiety and fear of loved ones dying.
Thank you for sharing parts of your story. Adoption is incredibly complex and we are all at different stages in our journey.
Hello Shelby. You look great with that short hair. I had breastcancer twice and I'm now aware of the small things in my life. I found youre information really interesting and good. Thank you for that. I wish you all the luck in the world.
Thank you so much! I am so sorry you have had to battle breast cancer twice and I hope the cancer never returns for any of us survivors. I remind myself everyday what I’m grateful for, so I don’t just sink into this deep sadness about what I have lost from this cancer journey so far. And realizing how fragile life really is, gave me some motivation to keep trying to spread awareness about foster care and adoption and now also my own personal cancer journey.
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I learn so much from your videos, I appreciate your voice and you sharing your experiences. I had never really thought through or known the way trauma could be experienced in-utero, and the different ways trauma can be felt by a newborn and experiences that affect them as well. Can't wait to watch next week's!!
Thank you so much for watching and let me know if there’s anything you’d like to try and cover in this series.
I'm raising my great-niece and your content has given me much to think about. Thank you.
Thank you so much for watching! Please let me know if you have other questions you’d like me to try and cover.
Complete Truth is as important as love ! I'm adopted and 56 .