Get out and ignore them. If you do listen to them your self esteem will be destroyed. I was in a toxic work environment for 6 years it nearly took me a year to recover
What do you do when you have never took part in office gossip or spoke about anyone at the office, yet you are consistently the centre of gossip? What do you do if you’re discriminated against without taking legal action (which can be quite costly and energy draining)?
To answer the question: "Are there any normal people out there anymore?" "Of course there are sweety. They're the ones being used, overlooked, bullied, and chased out of companies"
Though I'm still at my toxic job for the moment and DYING to leave, I will say one thing that helps me. I stopped talking to my toxic boss about my emotions, under any circumstances (he is a textbook narcissist). This keeps me safe from many of his emotional manipulations. He still hates me because I stand up to him, but he doesn't know what to do with me anymore, so he mostly leaves me alone now. --I so agree with you, too, Jennifer, that toxic workplaces can really wither away your confidence and affect your job search ability. It's so frustrating when you wake up in a good mood most days and come home from work just feeling pathetic, unmotivated, and exhausted. It's an uphill battle to stay at a place that does that to you. I can't do it much longer. I'd rather be broke.
I'm so sorry you're in it Freya. Try something small best time you wake up feeling great. Before you start work, either write down, do a voice note or take a video for yourself describing EXACTLY how you feel. Are you unstoppable, awesome, optimistic, happy. At the end write or say, "no matter what happened between this morning and this moment, this is my true self and my true potential." Then watch/listen/read after work. That message to yourself is going to be a shortcut to get back to it after work (or mid day if you need it). You've got this, friend.
For me, what I did is to keep my personal life, private. Because you will always seek comfort from your coworkers and you will only be disappointed because they're toxic.
One thing that bothers me is that a lot of people conflate office gossip with the essential venting and support we might need from a coworker or two to survive a toxic workplace. So many orgs will see you confiding in someone and you get labeled a troublemaker when in truth, you are just trying to get through the day without losing your mind.
Anyone else’s manager give them mad anxiety because they are scared their boss will find something to be mean to you about because he’s in a bad mood??
That reminds me of my toxic teacher who mistreats students severely. Always remember that they aren't as mighty as they believe they are, and remember that your dignity cannot be hurt by anyone, because you know they're wrong. Stay strong.
I actually had a very bad depressive episode this year and was on sick leave for a month. When I returned, I found that I was being treated differently. I am picked on and other members of the team are included in jokes etc, but not me. I feel as if they are trying to drive me off the edge instead of lending support. My anxiety and depression have returned and my blood pressure is through the roof.
I was like this for a few weeks , but now I just deal with it each day as it comes . So far it’s Wednesday and I got spoken to every day about something I did wrong. Oh well I will deal with it as it comes
A former assistant manager who was toxic and gossipy AF used to ask me why I didn't talk about myself or personal life at work. I told her the company didn't pay me to talk but paid me to work. Even she laughed. Never give them any info. Keep it polite, neutral and keep it moving.
My boundary for toxic coworkers is don't talk to me, unless it's work related. When they showed me who they are, I believed them. I want nothing to do with them.
Take people as outsiders. You will have to survive thrive. In this world when no one is with you help yourself be your best friend :) Be blessed hope it makes a difference.
Toxic work environment, get out of there friends, even if its not targeted at you it could be one day, don't support or be part of a toxic work environment.
If you walk away from a conversation with someone at work feeling totally confused (this is a big one) OR feeling way "lower" than them (less smart, less cultured, less sophisticated, less worthy, less important, less powerful, less capable, etc), ASSUME they're toxic and limit contact with them. It's more about going with how you feel than what you think, if you want to build a "radar" system for this junk. I say "junk" because people who use tactics to lower the esteem of someone or intentionally confuse them are literally garbage people. I don't care how much money they have, if they can't treat people right and see them as humans, they belong in a trash colony among their own type. 🙂
Boundary setting is probably the best hint. Your personal life is absolutely none of your BPD manager's business. Whatever you extra information you give your BPD / NPD manager will get used against you
So true. I moved to a more affordable apartment and my boss told everyone the reason I was so stressed was becasue I was renting more than I could afford and it was causing me to be bitter. Even 6 months later when I quit, a few coworkers asked if it was because of my rent. Paying rent wasn't my problem, it was my manager
Every job I have had over the past 8 years had been toxic in one way or another…If you set boundaries, they cross them. Being told I am the problem for asking questions. Management will do nothing to remedy a bullying problem, you told you are being overly sensitive. I have had dread & anxiety about going into my job so much, that I would cry the entire weekend, then be throwing up Monday morning. This is not right or acceptable, yet I am told suck it up and deal with it! It is wrong and hurtful… know you are not alone, and hang in there as best you can until you can leave!!
No people should have rights to judge your emotions. I am on the hands of bully and psychopath and freak control bully. I report them to the management. They change more subtle way. Now, I set very tight boundaries. My boss ban one of them to approach me because her violent behaviour. She send few of her friends come. I told of them vert strictly and I said, I didnt feel comfortable you ever approach me or talk with me yet. If you need any "help" and go to ask another coworker. So it became better and they are not approach me anymore. But this group of bully will use a lot subtle ways to control u.
I am so with you. My husband always tells me that he is with me because of my sweet, sensitive, nature and that I wasn't bitchy like other girls. I try to stay true to my self but I make a lot of mistakes. I sort of take on my husband's persona to deal with people and it doesn't work for me. ( he is pretty confident)
@@vickywitton1008I get you! I’m the same way. My fiancé literally worries for me because I’m really nice and empathetic. He knows that people take advantage of that and they do. I left my prior job because it was such a negative place only to end up at another job with major problems to the point that I cry almost every day. My confidence has diminished so much in a very short amount of time.
I am disliked/ hated at work for genuinely being myself becausr and that would be kind....most believe I am being "fake" ....too bad I am too good for them..... clearly they have never had a genuine person like me in their life.
Same problem I had. Nice people are viewed as weak and easy targets. A group of female co-workers started a smear campaign against me and my mental health got so bad I was thinking about committing suicide. I let the fear of losing my job control me. I finally woke up one day and decided that I wasn't going to fear anything. Changing my own perception brought incredible freedom.
Should I stay in a workplace wherein you feel heavy, and you feel that all the happiness had gone from the world every time you enter and stay in that office or department? It's like working with dementors every single dayyyy. Im just new to the job, and I can already see their true colors showing.
Crying so much right now while whatching This.I feel awfull. I was hired to work at a school in the admnistrative services. And the chief of the services doesn't give me work. Called me names. The coworkers are so mean. I don't know what to do. I can't quit.
I swear, I'm at work 15 mins early everyday, to sit in my car and watch these videos. It really helps me to get in the right frame of mind 😌. Thank you!
Most workplaces are toxic... I work in one that the boss does not like conflict and panders to the office bully. When she is not around it is much more peaceful. He himself is self-absorbed and only cares to talk about himself and what he thinks and wants you to agree with him. People complain about each other to each other. I am consistently feeling on edge bc people come to me to complain and it drains the hit out of me. I am unsure of what exactly to say to make them stop. I need something fast and simple to say bc people have small attention spans. Could you please do a video on that, easy phrases to use with toxic coworkers/bosses.
I'm struggling with how to put it into words: I'm working with very entitled yet incompetent, lazy and insincere people. Basically they pretend to be sickly sweet and nice when they want something from you but at the same time gossip and spread lies behind your back. It boils my blood and sickens me. Makes me feel alone and absolutely smothered. Their cunning tactics are on top of that called "being savvy". Advancing in your career past certain stage means becoming the shallowest of friends with people on higher posts and it angers me because I just can't do it. Even thinking about it feels like I'm about to throw up or cry. It bothers me that I will need to jump through hoops to qualify myself and expand my skills to maximum just to maybe someday even out the position these people claimed through connections. And then have to work with them even though they are absolutely underqualified to carry out the jobs they have.
the risk of toxicity is probably why i recommend keep applying even if you don't want a job. and even start taking interviews. and then leave when a better offer comes around. life is too short to deal with toxic employer/workplace. i didn't know how toxic my first corporate job was until i left. it wasn't the straightforward toxic it was the slow nagging that can become annoying. for example there were small almost negligible errors in a spreadsheet that if my intern brought to me, i would just fix them myself and let the intern know to fix next time. no my boss called me into meetings and made huge deal that would hurt self confidence. you can live with it but its annoying. sometimes you need another pair of eyes to look at your work.
You're totally right, life is way too short to say in a toxic workplace. And it can be so hard to spot when you're in one; cognitive dissonance comes into play.
@@sureyyaekinci4630 i think you replied to the wrong comment. i was the worker. i got penalized for tiny errors that someone else probably made. or even if i made them, i could fix them in like 2 seconds. they weren't big enough to be lectured on.
@@asadb1990 I’m dealing with this right now. I’m already overloaded so of course I miss things and then get lectured for missing a digit or getting a price wrong. There’s no one “safe” who checks it over; it goes straight to my boss and then to a copy editor
@@Window4503 yeah i feel for you. keep moving on to a new employer. its gonna be tough but there are plenty of employers that are much better. my current employer treats errors like this a with no issue. they warn me to be aware. but its never a lecture or annoyance. its "hey i noticed this error, can you fix it quick or its so small i will fix it while im working on it." and thats the end of it.
I'm glad you're here my friend! With everything going on in the world, it's easy to be negative. But we can, at least most of the time, choose otherwise.
I was fired yesterday because I stood up for myself. And I was abused badly by the office narcissist who gaslighted me right up the time I got called into the Doom Room. It was easier to get rid of me, the new girl than to discipline the Passive Aggressive on steroids woman who bragged daily about how the place would crumble and how irreplaceable she is.
I have passive aggressive team leader. I hate it, honestly. She treats me horribly but cover everything with false smile. Is hard to stand it. I am thinking now to change job because of her
The narcissist coworker probably abused and gaslighted everyone until she gained all the control, so that's why it would crumble because she abused her way into holding all the cards. People like that die alone and hated.
Honestly at the end of the day I would’ve just quit the job cuz I can’t stand toxic people and the work environment wasn’t bad but the people there made it so horrible. So many of my co workers left cuz of how awful it was and I was one of the only few left. Good thing it’s just one job out of all and there are many work places that are nice and have kind workers and a good leading manager
I think the best way to escape a toxic workplace is to be referred by a friend who works in a healthy workplace so you can be hopefully employed under a good company.
I've been with my company, a major corporation, 32 years and I just need to make it 3 more so I can get my pension in full. It's not easy, but too much to lose at this point if I don't find a way to stick it out. This company has become so toxic and the management is clueless. I'm one of the older people left now and the younger generation just isn't as competent and the company has lost its control of quality. It's a clown show everyday.
There is no way of saving my career at the company I am at. I have learned a lot about myself being in a toxic environment, but it is hurting me health wise. I simply want to leave at this point. I have been saving all of my money and I have about 7 months of expenses. I know it’s not a lot so I am trying to save more just in case I have no choice but to leave. I’m hanging in there though.
Thanks for the video. I found it refreshing this Friday morning after a slightly toxic workweek. Excellent tips for how to think about the toxic personality. That really helps adjust my mindset so I can stay a positive force for my team versus being dragged into a dark hole. As a manager, I have always made it a priority to NOT pass down any toxicity I receive directly. It's distressing to read all the comments and to see how many people experience the phenomenon.
For me, I'm in my 2nd month of probation and I work as a receptionist. The toxic behaviour is not (yet at least) directed to me, but is around me. The managers know my coworker's attitude and yet they arent doing anything about it. That coworker is very loud, putting someone down when they make a mistake and just plainly bossy. Everyday it's like that. But I know, one day, it only takes time, that it will be directed to me.
Update: yup it has been directed to me now. In trying to learn how to stand up for myself without sounding proud and not getting fired...it's hard, but I'll just be here for a year or 9 months...hopefully I can last that long😭
I am in this situation and telling them i am done tomorrow. I tired all this. When it was effecting me i ignored it but then it started interfering in my work and projects. I can ficus on completing my target when it is surrounded by drama
The best way to deal with a toxic workplace is to leave. Years ago I was in a horrible work environment. It did a number on my mental and physical health. Leaving was the best thing ever.
I use to alwaaaaays ruminate what i could have done, now at the end of the day i just say forget it forget it forget it or f*** it or whatever rocks your boat And it resets my mental pallette so i can be in another mood for whatever else on my agenda.. Physical strength replenish thru a nice shower
A toxic co woker, got suspended....indefinitely, because he disrespected me on the job....oh well, his problem not mine, now the jerk has to go on unemployment.
It actually has rubbed off on me and I was guilty of joining in. In the beginning I started losing my hair, started having pain , very fatigued, depressed, anxious, paranoid etc. I’m order to fit in I had the if you can’t beat ‘em. Join em. I did the kill em with kindness, became a yes person. People were even asking me for money and I’d hand it over. Over that time they learned all my weaknesses and woke up one day with a major target on my back! Now I’m trying to change this whole thing. But I may have to leave
How to survive a toxic work place ? Quit. You are going to be working 40-50 years. If you are in a job that you can not stand get a different job or new career that you can stand. Otherwise you are going to end up miserable, over weight, unhealthy, sick, crazy or dead.
I do see people that go to work at something they want to do seem to be happer .than those that are going to work is just to pay rent or just to put food on the table or they are just doing all they can to just chase money
Currently dealing with a toxic work environment. One of the ladies is very insecure and jealous and always makes snide comments that clients love me, I have been working here the longest and mimics and copies my phone mannerism. Anytime anyone new starts she clings to them like a leech and manipulates them and tries to turn them against me, Gossips about me and gives me backhanded compliments. She quit 3 times than begged for her job back. She should be fired but the owner is desperate for employees. Recently she went to the officer manager and made up a lie and tried to get me in trouble and it did not work because nobody believed her. I am sick and tried of it.
I know toxic people like this can be extremely frustrating to work with. She sounds like she is deeply unhappy and very stuck in a dead end job. Think of it this way: where she is at now is her best life. She sees your potential and it reminds her of what she doesn't have so she's trying to drag you down to her level. Don't go there. She may be the type that if you uplift her, her energy will shift. It's worth a try - and if it doesn't work, distance yourself as much as possible.
Thank you for these survival tips. I am working in a hospital program that takes 1 year to complete. I am half way through and I am trapped in a toxic environment. I like the boundaries tip a lot and I will try to implement them!
Many thanks for sharing the tips of dealing with narcissistic attacks. However, just yourself in the workplace environment where you have a narcissistic boss. Will these tips be different? Would you keep quiet when the narcissistic boss creates a scene in the open work environment that you are incompetent, only you know what they did to not only gas light you but also everyone around you. You know the truth but you can not say to protect yourself? I found around 60% of management have narcissistic tendency nowadays. If you could make videos about how to deal with them at work, it is much appreciated. Thank you.
My empathy has never benefitted me in any way. It's benefitted others though. I'm done with having empathy for my pathetic toxic coworkers that are trying to get me fired. I don't speak to any of them anymore unless it's work related. They want me to dim myself so they'll feel more comfortable. I won't do it. I won't quit either. They're gonna' have to fire me.
I am currently not appreciated at my job. My boss keep trying to stop me from taking vacation because he knows when I use it up I will quit. I will just leave no notice and wait until they are very busy to do it.
I’m reading all the comments and honestly it feels good to hear everyone’s perspective on this Since I’m in this phase Rightnow! There are few fake and manipulative individuals whom I can’t stand at all so I just stopped talking to em, it’s like they act as CEO’s assistant
Funny how I put in my two weeks and most my coworker say ima regret and miss this place 😂. Why would I miss a place where everyone talk smack about each other on the low and then shake hands like they cool af 😂. I rather get micromanage and just get my day done
The “Energy Reset”. I don’t know why but, when I take a shower after a long workday I practice haikus (5,7,5). It’s like I start venting to myself about my day at some point.
Number 1 rule Never discuss your personal life or discuss what you do in your free time to any boss or co workers if they ask keep it very simple sweet and small talk It will be used against you 1 way or another someway down the line
Let's be honest and look at ourselves. We went to school, got one skill, one degree, one this, just one. So yeah you are trapped. Can't go left or right, one dimension. So yeah we get stuck in positions we dont wanna be in
Best way to deal with a toxic environment is to leave it, stress and anxiety will kill you faster than any bad diet or cigarette, if u have kids and a mortgage then ok things arent so black and white but if u have no responsibilitys and u have some savings then just quit its not worth it
My workplace is toxic and I also need my job as it pays very well. I’m open to finding a new job and actively searching however until then i’m SO GLAD I found this video! Incredibly helpful! Thank you.
At Goodwill there was some past supervisors that would tell me I was doing a good job those employees have long since gone... now it everyone is trying to get me to quit on my own...I always stressing about my job even on my days off.. sometimes it is hard to sleep at night.. mainly worried about my job is am I working fast enough to have job the next time I show up for work...I am working with on kidney.it dose take some time to keep up and at the same time I feel if I move faster I am end up hurting myself or running over and hurting others with a floor jack if I ran faster.just feeling no matter what I do I am not going to win .. still feeling like that kid that graduated high school way back in 1987
I'm the highest seniority part timer in my department. Been with the company for 11 years. I'm changing my availability to mornings. The full timers attacked me because we're already short handed and with me going to mornings will 'screw up everything' they're pretty much upset because full timers NEED to be available whenever. They will work them whatever shift the company schedules them and nothing they can do about it. So they're scared lol
Toxic people are low vibration. They need air supply. They are flying monkeys that didn’t get enough hugs and love as a child, from their parents. They love having me on they mind and in their mouth, take it as a compliment.
I am super grateful for the tips I have gotten from this video. Being in a toxic work environment can corrode one's confidence. Indeed I am going to continue to apply all the tips fro this video. It's really helpful. You are awesome.
Okay I heavily need advice. I’ve been at my new job for about a couple of months, I started as a friendly person but as soon as I saw how many people or my coworkers started to act towards me (walking over me, telling me to do their job, takes my things etc.) I became quiet and distant, and the coworkers that I considered my friends stopped talking to me because I’m “rude and don’t know how to make friends” but in reality I just want to do my work and go home. I really don’t know how to ignore them and just keep to myself. I try but sometimes their actions like pretending I’m not there hurt my feelings, any advice? It’s heavily appreciated.
It's politics at play. You can't work in a place and completely isolate yourself. If you can, it'll be terrible for you in the end. You have to find a happy middle ground where you cultivate friendliness, avoid gossip, and maintain boundaries. It also depends on what kind of work you do and the maturity level of the people working with you. If it's an entry level job filled with all very young people, it can be a mean-girl nightmare and you might have to look elsewhere.
Set boundaries but not towards them, more towards your actions, limit yourself to do basic things and remember they're more scared than you, it's just they're scared of someone else/boss etc. If you need money you have no choice, but if you have saved some just make month break and find sth else. Noone should make high school out of work, you will never win this game, specially if you got at least 1 psychopath in there, don't make emotional decision, if you want stay then stay, people be just people in the end, weak and cowards who's wifes cheating on them and kids who hates them
Deep stuff you can’t work by yourself but wt do u do in a situation where both boss and staff are passive towards you and they make friends with themselves and daily make the work unpractical for you to do.
To whom this may concern every wher you in this world you will find toxic coworker , boss's ,or business persons through the usa. All people are not toxic just a few . I have met a lot of nice , and kind people, in personal and personal .Your mind set is what makes you different, exposure in life and your experiences. Without motivation endurance , confidence,without pressverance , how can a person handle devisity, changing situations and executing there jobs and job performance. I as in me am not standing a lone ,I have my father God who walks hefor me and me as I follow. So at the end of the day the Author who wrote the book which is God said stand then I shall not be moved. I want you to know I do enjoy my job and the people that I have came in contact with .I can not and will not be intimidated. Their will be new achievements and skill setting with growth and advancements . I'm an like a sponge willing to absorb and learn!
I was recently hired as a junior kindergarten teacher replacing my bosses close friend . I feel I can't do anything right . I'm misjudged and she thinks all I do has bad intentions . I get randomly accused of stuff and I never know what can be perceived as a wrong . Example I was told not to let kids play with something , told the kids she doesn't want us to play with this right now , I don't have an issue with them playing with the stuff . She accused me of making her into the bad guy. Not my intention at all ! I was appealing to kids empathy not trying to make anyone look bad .
I'm a young mother. Fortunate to land a job after a maternity break. This new co-worker of mine tries to sabotage my work every single day. Moreover due to the pandemic, as I was on-boarded from home and working from home, I feel I'm in the blind. It's not even a month and my team suddenly doesn't talk to me, my co worker makes me look bad in front of my boss. She pretends to be nice in front of my boss but is a different person altogether otherwise..she trains me during my lunch time or when I'm about to log off..I feel my time isn't respected Here..i was supposed to get her work part by part but I get it overnight and she goes on leave for a week. I tried talking openly to my boss and other co-workers, without being direct about my coworker' evil mind, but I still feel there's this wall...I want to give up already.I know I am not bad at my job.
Good afternoon. So here is my question. When you are in a toxic work environment and policies made are ineffective...what do you do with the feelings or anger? Do you just eat it (eat poop)? Or eat unhealthy food or drink or nap? How do you eradicate that frustration in a healthy way?
I am wondering if the best thing is to quit or stay there and learn how to handle this toxic environment. What I am thinking is that people change. Maybe today there are no toxic people in your workplace and tomorrow there are. Do I have to quit my job because of them? I personally can quit my job but I feel like 'giving up' and letting them win over me. However, I still didn't manage to win my stress and anxiety regarding my job.
Have you survived a toxic workplace before? What tip would you add?
Get out and ignore them. If you do listen to them your self esteem will be destroyed. I was in a toxic work environment for 6 years it nearly took me a year to recover
What do you do when you have never took part in office gossip or spoke about anyone at the office, yet you are consistently the centre of gossip? What do you do if you’re discriminated against without taking legal action (which can be quite costly and energy draining)?
Be loving and kind to all 🥰
@@robbiepeterh yes! You truly don't know what someone is going through.
Pray 2 jesus early before work
To answer the question: "Are there any normal people out there anymore?"
"Of course there are sweety. They're the ones being used, overlooked, bullied, and chased out of companies"
Coworkers are NOT your friends. Do not go out with them. Dont go to a dive bar with them. It will only be used against you.
Yes very true
Though I'm still at my toxic job for the moment and DYING to leave, I will say one thing that helps me. I stopped talking to my toxic boss about my emotions, under any circumstances (he is a textbook narcissist). This keeps me safe from many of his emotional manipulations. He still hates me because I stand up to him, but he doesn't know what to do with me anymore, so he mostly leaves me alone now. --I so agree with you, too, Jennifer, that toxic workplaces can really wither away your confidence and affect your job search ability. It's so frustrating when you wake up in a good mood most days and come home from work just feeling pathetic, unmotivated, and exhausted. It's an uphill battle to stay at a place that does that to you. I can't do it much longer. I'd rather be broke.
I'm so sorry you're in it Freya.
Try something small best time you wake up feeling great. Before you start work, either write down, do a voice note or take a video for yourself describing EXACTLY how you feel. Are you unstoppable, awesome, optimistic, happy. At the end write or say, "no matter what happened between this morning and this moment, this is my true self and my true potential."
Then watch/listen/read after work. That message to yourself is going to be a shortcut to get back to it after work (or mid day if you need it).
You've got this, friend.
Good 👍
I feel you
I'm going through the same feelings about my work place.😬
Same I feel exactly the same I’m praying God is just preparing us for the greatest blessing ahead.
For me, what I did is to keep my personal life, private. Because you will always seek comfort from your coworkers and you will only be disappointed because they're toxic.
One thing that bothers me is that a lot of people conflate office gossip with the essential venting and support we might need from a coworker or two to survive a toxic workplace. So many orgs will see you confiding in someone and you get labeled a troublemaker when in truth, you are just trying to get through the day without losing your mind.
So true!
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I really needed to see this ❤
Yep exactly. Not allowed to vent. Must work harder and burn out faster lol.
@@brandonhealy7158 “harder, better, faster, stronger…”
I put in my resignation today and I'm leaving my toxic career. I firmly believe call center is toxic for everyone.
To be clear the managers I've had in both call centers were always great, it's the industry that's the problem
I made a terrible mistake. Never ignore the red flags.
Good for you and congratulations!
So true
Definitely has to be a call center
Anyone else’s manager give them mad anxiety because they are scared their boss will find something to be mean to you about because he’s in a bad mood??
That reminds me of my toxic teacher who mistreats students severely. Always remember that they aren't as mighty as they believe they are, and remember that your dignity cannot be hurt by anyone, because you know they're wrong. Stay strong.
I actually had a very bad depressive episode this year and was on sick leave for a month. When I returned, I found that I was being treated differently. I am picked on and other members of the team are included in jokes etc, but not me. I feel as if they are trying to drive me off the edge instead of lending support. My anxiety and depression have returned and my blood pressure is through the roof.
This is my manager AND my parents :(
Absolutely!!! Its the worst! Because he’s a narcissist and has good and bad days. Hard to know what you’re walking into
I was like this for a few weeks , but now I just deal with it each day as it comes . So far it’s Wednesday and I got spoken to every day about something I did wrong. Oh well I will deal with it as it comes
A former assistant manager who was toxic and gossipy AF used to ask me why I didn't talk about myself or personal life at work. I told her the company didn't pay me to talk but paid me to work. Even she laughed. Never give them any info. Keep it polite, neutral and keep it moving.
A bad tree, cannot bear good fruit! A good tree doesn't bear bad fruit! I love your channel.
Well said🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
When I set boundaries, people look at me like I am crazy
My boundary for toxic coworkers is don't talk to me, unless it's work related. When they showed me who they are, I believed them. I want nothing to do with them.
@@PerrySkyePhoenix That's what my dumbass needs to hear, to see back stabber, gossip and brown noser as who they really are😂.
It is very important keep your personal and professional strictly separate. Many issues/challenge s can be avoided
Take people as outsiders. You will have to survive thrive. In this world when no one is with you help yourself be your best friend :) Be blessed hope it makes a difference.
Toxic work environment, get out of there friends, even if its not targeted at you it could be one day, don't support or be part of a toxic work environment.
having to rewatch this video again for the second time this week lol I cant wait to walk into my next blessing.
You've got this my friend.
@@JenniferBrick thank you:(
Such a beautiful outlook! You are going to rock it!
You’ve got this! I wish you much luck!
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If you walk away from a conversation with someone at work feeling totally confused (this is a big one) OR feeling way "lower" than them (less smart, less cultured, less sophisticated, less worthy, less important, less powerful, less capable, etc), ASSUME they're toxic and limit contact with them. It's more about going with how you feel than what you think, if you want to build a "radar" system for this junk. I say "junk" because people who use tactics to lower the esteem of someone or intentionally confuse them are literally garbage people. I don't care how much money they have, if they can't treat people right and see them as humans, they belong in a trash colony among their own type. 🙂
Boundary setting is probably the best hint. Your personal life is absolutely none of your BPD manager's business. Whatever you extra information you give your BPD / NPD manager will get used against you
Yes, so much this 🙌
So true. I moved to a more affordable apartment and my boss told everyone the reason I was so stressed was becasue I was renting more than I could afford and it was causing me to be bitter. Even 6 months later when I quit, a few coworkers asked if it was because of my rent. Paying rent wasn't my problem, it was my manager
Every job I have had over the past 8 years had been toxic in one way or another…If you set boundaries, they cross them. Being told I am the problem for asking questions. Management will do nothing to remedy a bullying problem, you told you are being overly sensitive. I have had dread & anxiety about going into my job so much, that I would cry the entire weekend, then be throwing up Monday morning. This is not right or acceptable, yet I am told suck it up and deal with it! It is wrong and hurtful… know you are not alone, and hang in there as best you can until you can leave!!
I feel the same way. The management told me I was overly sensitive also.
No people should have rights to judge your emotions. I am on the hands of bully and psychopath and freak control bully. I report them to the management. They change more subtle way. Now, I set very tight boundaries. My boss ban one of them to approach me because her violent behaviour. She send few of her friends come. I told of them vert strictly and I said, I didnt feel comfortable you ever approach me or talk with me yet. If you need any "help" and go to ask another coworker. So it became better and they are not approach me anymore. But this group of bully will use a lot subtle ways to control u.
I am so with you. My husband always tells me that he is with me because of my sweet, sensitive, nature and that I wasn't bitchy like other girls. I try to stay true to my self but I make a lot of mistakes. I sort of take on my husband's persona to deal with people and it doesn't work for me. ( he is pretty confident)
@@vickywitton1008I get you! I’m the same way. My fiancé literally worries for me because I’m really nice and empathetic. He knows that people take advantage of that and they do. I left my prior job because it was such a negative place only to end up at another job with major problems to the point that I cry almost every day. My confidence has diminished so much in a very short amount of time.
The technique to circumvent toxic behavior is called 'observe, don't absorb.'
I am disliked/ hated at work for genuinely being myself becausr and that would be kind....most believe I am being "fake" ....too bad I am too good for them..... clearly they have never had a genuine person like me in their life.
Same problem I had. Nice people are viewed as weak and easy targets. A group of female co-workers started a smear campaign against me and my mental health got so bad I was thinking about committing suicide. I let the fear of losing my job control me. I finally woke up one day and decided that I wasn't going to fear anything. Changing my own perception brought incredible freedom.
Sad but true 👍
@@finallyfinanciallyfree7237❤❤ 🫂
Fake and genuine don't mix. So something here isn't true here in your comment.
BTW you are not better than anyone, we're all equal. You could've said you have a better attitude instead. I already don't like ya!
The fish smells from the head! In other words toxic workplaces start from the top. Good leaders do not produce toxic workplaces.
This
Should I stay in a workplace wherein you feel heavy, and you feel that all the happiness had gone from the world every time you enter and stay in that office or department? It's like working with dementors every single dayyyy.
Im just new to the job, and I can already see their true colors showing.
Same here 👁👁
I felt physically sick as soon as I walked in. Stayed there 2 and a half years
This is exactly how it feels when I go to work.
Crying so much right now while whatching This.I feel awfull. I was hired to work at a school in the admnistrative services. And the chief of the services doesn't give me work. Called me names. The coworkers are so mean. I don't know what to do. I can't quit.
I’m so sorry Maria. I’m in same situation but I’m An accountant. They’re probably just jealous. We will get through this
Get a voice recorder and record them. You can sue for harassment if you have proof.
update your resume and start looking asap
I don’t tell my boss anything about my personal life. Every time she asks I say everything is fine. No fuel for her to abuse later.
I swear, I'm at work 15 mins early everyday, to sit in my car and watch these videos. It really helps me to get in the right frame of mind 😌. Thank you!
Sending you all the vibes, Wendy 💜
Please don't sit in your cat 😺
Too funny 🤣
Most workplaces are toxic... I work in one that the boss does not like conflict and panders to the office bully. When she is not around it is much more peaceful. He himself is self-absorbed and only cares to talk about himself and what he thinks and wants you to agree with him. People complain about each other to each other. I am consistently feeling on edge bc people come to me to complain and it drains the hit out of me. I am unsure of what exactly to say to make them stop. I need something fast and simple to say bc people have small attention spans. Could you please do a video on that, easy phrases to use with toxic coworkers/bosses.
The only way is to get out. Period. No getting around it. There is no way you won't smell like smoke in a smoke filled room.
I'm struggling with how to put it into words: I'm working with very entitled yet incompetent, lazy and insincere people. Basically they pretend to be sickly sweet and nice when they want something from you but at the same time gossip and spread lies behind your back. It boils my blood and sickens me. Makes me feel alone and absolutely smothered.
Their cunning tactics are on top of that called "being savvy". Advancing in your career past certain stage means becoming the shallowest of friends with people on higher posts and it angers me because I just can't do it. Even thinking about it feels like I'm about to throw up or cry. It bothers me that I will need to jump through hoops to qualify myself and expand my skills to maximum just to maybe someday even out the position these people claimed through connections. And then have to work with them even though they are absolutely underqualified to carry out the jobs they have.
the risk of toxicity is probably why i recommend keep applying even if you don't want a job. and even start taking interviews. and then leave when a better offer comes around. life is too short to deal with toxic employer/workplace. i didn't know how toxic my first corporate job was until i left. it wasn't the straightforward toxic it was the slow nagging that can become annoying. for example there were small almost negligible errors in a spreadsheet that if my intern brought to me, i would just fix them myself and let the intern know to fix next time. no my boss called me into meetings and made huge deal that would hurt self confidence. you can live with it but its annoying. sometimes you need another pair of eyes to look at your work.
You're totally right, life is way too short to say in a toxic workplace. And it can be so hard to spot when you're in one; cognitive dissonance comes into play.
Wow the main thing is you did the right thing by your workers good on you for helping them
@@sureyyaekinci4630 i think you replied to the wrong comment. i was the worker. i got penalized for tiny errors that someone else probably made. or even if i made them, i could fix them in like 2 seconds. they weren't big enough to be lectured on.
@@asadb1990 I’m dealing with this right now. I’m already overloaded so of course I miss things and then get lectured for missing a digit or getting a price wrong. There’s no one “safe” who checks it over; it goes straight to my boss and then to a copy editor
@@Window4503 yeah i feel for you. keep moving on to a new employer. its gonna be tough but there are plenty of employers that are much better. my current employer treats errors like this a with no issue. they warn me to be aware. but its never a lecture or annoyance. its "hey i noticed this error, can you fix it quick or its so small i will fix it while im working on it." and thats the end of it.
So glad I found your RUclips channel. I needed to hear some of these tips. Negative people are everywhere and we can survive them.
I'm glad you're here my friend! With everything going on in the world, it's easy to be negative. But we can, at least most of the time, choose otherwise.
I have the luxury of creating my own schedule. I try to go in at 4 a.m. when no one is there and I get to enjoy my work and can get so much more done.
I was fired yesterday because I stood up for myself. And I was abused badly by the office narcissist who gaslighted me right up the time I got called into the Doom Room. It was easier to get rid of me, the new girl than to discipline the Passive Aggressive on steroids woman who bragged daily about how the place would crumble and how irreplaceable she is.
It happened to me but I was not fired. I escaped!
I have passive aggressive team leader. I hate it, honestly. She treats me horribly but cover everything with false smile. Is hard to stand it. I am thinking now to change job because of her
The narcissist coworker probably abused and gaslighted everyone until she gained all the control, so that's why it would crumble because she abused her way into holding all the cards. People like that die alone and hated.
Happened to me just like this. Laid off. Well, fuck them. Let's continue somewhere else.
Keep your head down, don’t get involved and get shit done.
You do this but colleagues still find ways to set you up and things still get worse for you. What do you do then?
@@ldnlove Exactly. I mind my business & ppl are mad that I mind my business & don't kiss their ass.
Honestly at the end of the day I would’ve just quit the job cuz I can’t stand toxic people and the work environment wasn’t bad but the people there made it so horrible. So many of my co workers left cuz of how awful it was and I was one of the only few left. Good thing it’s just one job out of all and there are many work places that are nice and have kind workers and a good leading manager
So true, there are many wonderful companies out there!
I quit my job yesterday😊
I think the best way to escape a toxic workplace is to be referred by a friend who works in a healthy workplace so you can be hopefully employed under a good company.
I've been with my company, a major corporation, 32 years and I just need to make it 3 more so I can get my pension in full. It's not easy, but too much to lose at this point if I don't find a way to stick it out. This company has become so toxic and the management is clueless. I'm one of the older people left now and the younger generation just isn't as competent and the company has lost its control of quality. It's a clown show everyday.
1:50 Not personal 4:00 toxicz 5:10 Set boundaries 5:30 WorkLife 6:00 Decline the Drama 7:00 Empathy 9:10 Have confidence 10:14 Be awesome
There is no way of saving my career at the company I am at. I have learned a lot about myself being in a toxic environment, but it is hurting me health wise. I simply want to leave at this point. I have been saving all of my money and I have about 7 months of expenses. I know it’s not a lot so I am trying to save more just in case I have no choice but to leave. I’m hanging in there though.
Good luck my friend, I wish you the best. I'm in the same boat. I know how you feel.
@@clover831 good luck to you as well.
update your resume and start looking for something new so you can just transition into a new place its a lot easier
Thanks for the video. I found it refreshing this Friday morning after a slightly toxic workweek. Excellent tips for how to think about the toxic personality. That really helps adjust my mindset so I can stay a positive force for my team versus being dragged into a dark hole. As a manager, I have always made it a priority to NOT pass down any toxicity I receive directly. It's distressing to read all the comments and to see how many people experience the phenomenon.
You said it. Leaving a toxic situation is the best way. Staying only magnifies and let's you tolerate BS from everyone.
I won't give them that satisfaction. F 'em.
You have no idea how helpful this was.....thank you so much. You just changed my entire life. I deeply appreciate your advice so much!
I'm over here doing illuminati rituals just to get ready for my toxic job lol
For me, I'm in my 2nd month of probation and I work as a receptionist. The toxic behaviour is not (yet at least) directed to me, but is around me. The managers know my coworker's attitude and yet they arent doing anything about it. That coworker is very loud, putting someone down when they make a mistake and just plainly bossy. Everyday it's like that. But I know, one day, it only takes time, that it will be directed to me.
Update: yup it has been directed to me now. In trying to learn how to stand up for myself without sounding proud and not getting fired...it's hard, but I'll just be here for a year or 9 months...hopefully I can last that long😭
@@d_grace update your resume and get the hell out of there asap
@@d_graceHi. Did you leave that job?
I don’t want to have to work for a living
Same. Either that or I just badly need to work from home.
I am in this situation and telling them i am done tomorrow. I tired all this. When it was effecting me i ignored it but then it started interfering in my work and projects. I can ficus on completing my target when it is surrounded by drama
The best way to deal with a toxic workplace is to leave.
Years ago I was in a horrible work environment. It did a number on my mental and physical health. Leaving was the best thing ever.
I use to alwaaaaays ruminate what i could have done, now at the end of the day i just say forget it forget it forget it or f*** it or whatever rocks your boat
And it resets my mental pallette so i can be in another mood for whatever else on my agenda..
Physical strength replenish thru a nice shower
I see that 13 toxic people found and disliked the video. Thanks for the tips!
I've just left a very toxic work environnement. Honestly There's no other way, because it takes too much mental effort, usually for very little money.
A toxic co woker, got suspended....indefinitely, because he disrespected me on the job....oh well, his problem not mine, now the jerk has to go on unemployment.
That sucks for him, but Im glad your employer doesn't tolerate that behavior to keep a positive work environment for you.
Man I wish MY company would react like that with the toxic coworker I am dealing with but they are understaffed as is. It will not happen.
I just want out!
Your page is amazing!!! So glad I found it. You have such great vibes! Meditation is my new jam in battling work and overall life stress. Love these!!
So glad you found my channel too! Thanks for hanging out with me here!
Working on resigning! The 1st one will help me the most. I'm usually empathetic.
I wish I would had seen this video while I worked at the toxic place. I quit the job last week because I had no more energy.
I work in a toxic shit workplace and have to stay for 6 months as I can’t leave…. I hope I make it out alive
Just 1 more month to get heart attack in there, keep us updated
U came out yet from dey
It actually has rubbed off on me and I was guilty of joining in. In the beginning I started losing my hair, started having pain , very fatigued, depressed, anxious, paranoid etc. I’m order to fit in I had the if you can’t beat ‘em. Join em.
I did the kill em with kindness, became a yes person. People were even asking me for money and I’d hand it over. Over that time they learned all my weaknesses and woke up one day with a major target on my back! Now I’m trying to change this whole thing. But I may have to leave
Toxic person will sit at the desk play on her phone toxic supervisor supports the behavior. 🤦🏻♀️ dysfunctional supervisor and employee
You are amazing thanks for your precious advise 🙏100 % Gratitude
How to survive a toxic work place ? Quit. You are going to be working 40-50 years. If you are in a job that you can not stand get a different job or new career that you can stand. Otherwise you are going to end up miserable, over weight, unhealthy, sick, crazy or dead.
I don't cope. If my boss or coworker was treating me like shit, I take off.
I do see people that go to work at something they want to do seem to be happer .than those that are going to work is just to pay rent or just to put food on the table or they are just doing all they can to just chase money
Venting to people close to me that are outside my job helps me alot!
Pray 🙏 first 🙏 ❤
It sucks when you don't have this option.
I'm surrounded by unhappy people.
Currently dealing with a toxic work environment. One of the ladies is very insecure and jealous and always makes snide comments that clients love me, I have been working here the longest and mimics and copies my phone mannerism. Anytime anyone new starts she clings to them like a leech and manipulates them and tries to turn them against me, Gossips about me and gives me backhanded compliments. She quit 3 times than begged for her job back. She should be fired but the owner is desperate for employees. Recently she went to the officer manager and made up a lie and tried to get me in trouble and it did not work because nobody believed her. I am sick and tried of it.
I know toxic people like this can be extremely frustrating to work with. She sounds like she is deeply unhappy and very stuck in a dead end job.
Think of it this way: where she is at now is her best life. She sees your potential and it reminds her of what she doesn't have so she's trying to drag you down to her level. Don't go there.
She may be the type that if you uplift her, her energy will shift. It's worth a try - and if it doesn't work, distance yourself as much as possible.
@@JenniferBrick Thank you for the advice. She is nothing but a covert Narcissist.
@@AbsoluteMdot did you watch my video about working with narcissists yet?
@@JenniferBrick I do not believe so, I'll have to check it out
@@AbsoluteMdot dealing with narcissists is never fun, but knowing their psychology they are easy to influence.
Bless you dear. This video is very helpful
Management at my job is extremely toxic and they pit people against each other.
Thank you for these survival tips. I am working in a hospital program that takes 1 year to complete. I am half way through and I am trapped in a toxic environment. I like the boundaries tip a lot and I will try to implement them!
You're past the half way point!
The best strategy was to find a new job. Unfortunately,it took some time.
Many thanks for sharing the tips of dealing with narcissistic attacks. However, just yourself in the workplace environment where you have a narcissistic boss. Will these tips be different? Would you keep quiet when the narcissistic boss creates a scene in the open work environment that you are incompetent, only you know what they did to not only gas light you but also everyone around you. You know the truth but you can not say to protect yourself? I found around 60% of management have narcissistic tendency nowadays. If you could make videos about how to deal with them at work, it is much appreciated. Thank you.
THANK GOD I'M NOT ALONE! 😮
My empathy has never benefitted me in any way. It's benefitted others though. I'm done with having empathy for my pathetic toxic coworkers that are trying to get me fired. I don't speak to any of them anymore unless it's work related. They want me to dim myself so they'll feel more comfortable. I won't do it. I won't quit either. They're gonna' have to fire me.
I am currently not appreciated at my job. My boss keep trying to stop me from taking vacation because he knows when I use it up I will quit. I will just leave no notice and wait until they are very busy to do it.
You've helped me so much in dealing with my toxic work environment. I've watched several of your videos. Thank you so much for all that you are doing!
It is really helpfull.,
But, the suggestion is doesn't work for me 😅.,
Anyway, thanks for the suggestion 🙏
I’m reading all the comments and honestly it feels good to hear everyone’s perspective on this Since I’m in this phase Rightnow! There are few fake and manipulative individuals whom I can’t stand at all so I just stopped talking to em, it’s like they act as CEO’s assistant
Funny how I put in my two weeks and most my coworker say ima regret and miss this place 😂. Why would I miss a place where everyone talk smack about each other on the low and then shake hands like they cool af 😂. I rather get micromanage and just get my day done
The “Energy Reset”. I don’t know why but, when I take a shower after a long workday I practice haikus (5,7,5). It’s like I start venting to myself about my day at some point.
Number 1 rule
Never discuss your personal life or discuss what you do in your free time to any boss or co workers if they ask keep it very simple sweet and small talk
It will be used against you 1 way or another someway down the line
Let's be honest and look at ourselves. We went to school, got one skill, one degree, one this, just one. So yeah you are trapped. Can't go left or right, one dimension. So yeah we get stuck in positions we dont wanna be in
Thanks a lot ma'am! 😊😊😊
Best way to deal with a toxic environment is to leave it, stress and anxiety will kill you faster than any bad diet or cigarette, if u have kids and a mortgage then ok things arent so black and white but if u have no responsibilitys and u have some savings then just quit its not worth it
Worst thing is they will try to push you out and really you just end up giving them what they want by leaving.
I work in a automotive transmission shop and the levels of negativity are absolutely astronomical
Im working at the kindergarten but as a engineer teacher from a private company my job is daily monotony and boring most of the time toxic too
My workplace is toxic and I also need my job as it pays very well. I’m open to finding a new job and actively searching however until then i’m SO GLAD I found this video! Incredibly helpful! Thank you.
At Goodwill there was some past supervisors that would tell me I was doing a good job those employees have long since gone... now it everyone is trying to get me to quit on my own...I always stressing about my job even on my days off.. sometimes it is hard to sleep at night.. mainly worried about my job is am I working fast enough to have job the next time I show up for work...I am working with on kidney.it dose take some time to keep up and at the same time I feel if I move faster I am end up hurting myself or running over and hurting others with a floor jack if I ran faster.just feeling no matter what I do I am not going to win .. still feeling like that kid that graduated high school way back in 1987
if you are young, please take care of your health. health is number 1. jobs come and go
I'm the highest seniority part timer in my department. Been with the company for 11 years. I'm changing my availability to mornings. The full timers attacked me because we're already short handed and with me going to mornings will 'screw up everything' they're pretty much upset because full timers NEED to be available whenever. They will work them whatever shift the company schedules them and nothing they can do about it. So they're scared lol
Hurt people hurt people
For me , starting now I decided to interact with them absolutely only when it’s necessary
Toxic people are low vibration. They need air supply. They are flying monkeys that didn’t get enough hugs and love as a child, from their parents. They love having me on they mind and in their mouth, take it as a compliment.
I am super grateful for the tips I have gotten from this video. Being in a toxic work environment can corrode one's confidence. Indeed I am going to continue to apply all the tips fro this video. It's really helpful.
You are awesome.
A much needed video. I’m currently crying at work
Sending you positive vibes, Gabriela 💜
❤❤ 🫂 I am so sorry you’re going through this.. I know the feeling
Okay I heavily need advice. I’ve been at my new job for about a couple of months, I started as a friendly person but as soon as I saw how many people or my coworkers started to act towards me (walking over me, telling me to do their job, takes my things etc.) I became quiet and distant, and the coworkers that I considered my friends stopped talking to me because I’m “rude and don’t know how to make friends” but in reality I just want to do my work and go home. I really don’t know how to ignore them and just keep to myself. I try but sometimes their actions like pretending I’m not there hurt my feelings, any advice? It’s heavily appreciated.
It's politics at play. You can't work in a place and completely isolate yourself. If you can, it'll be terrible for you in the end. You have to find a happy middle ground where you cultivate friendliness, avoid gossip, and maintain boundaries. It also depends on what kind of work you do and the maturity level of the people working with you. If it's an entry level job filled with all very young people, it can be a mean-girl nightmare and you might have to look elsewhere.
Set boundaries but not towards them, more towards your actions, limit yourself to do basic things and remember they're more scared than you, it's just they're scared of someone else/boss etc. If you need money you have no choice, but if you have saved some just make month break and find sth else. Noone should make high school out of work, you will never win this game, specially if you got at least 1 psychopath in there, don't make emotional decision, if you want stay then stay, people be just people in the end, weak and cowards who's wifes cheating on them and kids who hates them
Deep stuff you can’t work by yourself but wt do u do in a situation where both boss and staff are passive towards you and they make friends with themselves and daily make the work unpractical for you to do.
The last night emails are what’s bringing me down. Like please go away 🙄 I need a break.
To whom this may concern every wher you in this world you will find toxic coworker , boss's ,or business persons through the usa. All people are not toxic just a few . I have met a lot of nice , and kind people, in personal and personal .Your mind set is what makes you different, exposure in life and your experiences. Without motivation endurance , confidence,without pressverance , how can a person handle devisity, changing situations and executing there jobs and job performance. I as in me am not standing a lone ,I have my father God who walks hefor me and me as I follow. So at the end of the day the Author who wrote the book which is God said stand then I shall not be moved. I want you to know I do enjoy my job and the people that I have came in contact with .I can not and will not be intimidated. Their will be new achievements and skill setting with growth and advancements . I'm an like a sponge willing to absorb and learn!
I was recently hired as a junior kindergarten teacher replacing my bosses close friend . I feel I can't do anything right . I'm misjudged and she thinks all I do has bad intentions . I get randomly accused of stuff and I never know what can be perceived as a wrong . Example I was told not to let kids play with something , told the kids she doesn't want us to play with this right now , I don't have an issue with them playing with the stuff . She accused me of making her into the bad guy. Not my intention at all ! I was appealing to kids empathy not trying to make anyone look bad .
I'm a young mother. Fortunate to land a job after a maternity break. This new co-worker of mine tries to sabotage my work every single day. Moreover due to the pandemic, as I was on-boarded from home and working from home, I feel I'm in the blind. It's not even a month and my team suddenly doesn't talk to me, my co worker makes me look bad in front of my boss. She pretends to be nice in front of my boss but is a different person altogether otherwise..she trains me during my lunch time or when I'm about to log off..I feel my time isn't respected Here..i was supposed to get her work part by part but I get it overnight and she goes on leave for a week. I tried talking openly to my boss and other co-workers, without being direct about my coworker' evil mind, but I still feel there's this wall...I want to give up already.I know I am not bad at my job.
Thanks very useful
Good afternoon. So here is my question. When you are in a toxic work environment and policies made are ineffective...what do you do with the feelings or anger? Do you just eat it (eat poop)? Or eat unhealthy food or drink or nap? How do you eradicate that frustration in a healthy way?
Feelings are for feeling. I think this is where rituals come into play to deal with and purge them, and compartmentalization also helps.
I must watch this video again and again. It helps me lots. Thanks
I am wondering if the best thing is to quit or stay there and learn how to handle this toxic environment. What I am thinking is that people change. Maybe today there are no toxic people in your workplace and tomorrow there are. Do I have to quit my job because of them? I personally can quit my job but I feel like 'giving up' and letting them win over me. However, I still didn't manage to win my stress and anxiety regarding my job.