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I love the way you are dressing now. I love, absolutely love watching the transformation The Lord is doing in your life. 🙏🏽❤️ So many young ladies are getting a great example.
Amen!!!
Oh my, Milena! As a teenager, this is something the Lord has really been putting on my heart lately, and I was so happy when I saw this!!
Yes! Please be an example to other young women. I have teens and it is hard to find tops that don’t show the belly. I’m constantly holding up shirts and asking where the rest of it is.
@@lc8119I like how she mentioned wearing a tank top under crop top shirts. Super cute AND modest.
If a man stops going to church because he cannot control himself he needs therapy… not for women to dress differently. And that’s coming from a person who naturally leans “modest.”
Also… if you’re married… your husband should decide what you wear?? Why??
I’m sorry, I don’t mean to come off rude, but some of the reasons behind this are concerning to me. I just don’t get it.
Yes, im a Christian woman and wife of 25 years , I understand pleasing your husband but, I also believe I am a separate human who has a relationship with God and I also do dress for myself.
Yes, im a Christian woman and wife of 25 years , I understand pleasing your husband but, I also believe I am a separate human who has a relationship with God and I also do dress for myself.
Looking for clarification…
We should ask our husbands what he likes on our body but we shouldn’t wear clothes that we like on our body?
I was confused on that part.
the question is, who are you serving? your own flesh or your husband and the Lord? -I think that clarifies it.
@@anastasija9486 but its not for your husband nor the lord its your own if you like something on your body makes you feel good wear it
No I don’t think that’s what she meant. To me it feel more like a win win situation. Kind of like i’m taking into account what he likes and what I like. And I thought she was saying he liked when she dresses girly and it wasn’t necessarily her favorite back then but now she loves it. Still serving him in the way you dress by catering to the colors or styles he likes but in versions you like. So if he likes when you wear flowers finding a floral top/dress you love and then can wear so you both are excited about your clothes. You because the top is cute and your husband because he feels love (even if he doesn’t know it) because you heard him and showed him that you heard him and care about what he likes.
Do everything for the glory of God
Our body is not our own, our life is not our own. We must do everything unto the Lord. Our body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. We must respect Him in all our ways, and that means to respect our bodies. We must ask if we're wearing stuff that makes us look good for our own self esteem, that is all about us, our image, our wanting to look good to feel good about ourselves.
When we know that we're Gods, we don't have to wear anything to make us feel "better" about ourselves. We already love how God has made us! We can wear beautiful clothes that cover us, don't show us off, are comfortable and feel amazing about it all at the same time :)
I think dresses and skirts may be practical for you to wear on a daily basis, but they really aren’t for me in my job and home life. Is there no way for me to be feminine because I prefer jeans? I don’t think it’s right to assert that if a guy can wear something (like jeans) you shouldn’t be. Sounds very legalistic to me. I totally agree with the modesty part, and the questioning your heart and motives. I appreciate your message on that, but it seems your implying that dresses and skirts are the only way to look feminine and be modest and that’s not true at all. Maybe you just meant that for you that was the case🤷♀️ but I definitely know it’s not that way for every woman and we shouldn’t box each other in with our own convictions. The Bible commands us to be modest and appropriate, but no where does it have a list of clothing you should and shouldn’t wear💕
Agree wholeheartedly with you 💖
I agree. A woman can still dress modest and look good/have clothing on that flatters their body type.
I couldn’t have said it better ❤ Amen
Hi. I read your comment and would like to offer a response. Not sure if Milena will answer or not.
First, I believe Milena is not telling anyone how to dress or to place her convictions on others. I know it can be exhausting to keep giving disclaimers like “this is my conviction, I’m not telling you to you have to dress/think like me”. 😊
Secondly, when we read the Bible we have to remember that the Bible was originally written in Greek, Hebrew, and Aramaic. That being said, we have to look at what the original text meant. “Modest Apparel” mentioned in 1 Timothy 2:9-10 (KJV) means Kosmisos Katastola in Greek. which means “long flowing garment”. Back then they all knew what Kosmisos Katastola meant and followed that teaching. It’s our modern society that has changed the definition of “modest apparel”. We cannot take scriptures and filter it through our own will/lifestyle. We have to take the scriptures and apply how it was intended. I hope this helps. I will he happy to answer any more questions. 😊 God bless.
I was contemplating this as well. I mean, there is Deuteronomy 22:5 that discourages men and women both from dressing as the opposite gender. But what is feminine is a very broad arena. What I get here is search your heart, and find what the Lord is asking to do. Then, do it. It is easy to become defensive of the way I dress, for example, but when I pause and really ask the Lord what to do, he softens my heart. For me, the more convicting aspect she spoke about is dressing in a way that makes my husband happy. Not in a weird way, but because I genuinely love him and want to make him happy/proud of us. So, if he doesn't mind jeans, or if he does - is a very relationship specific nuance. And, I think the conversation can equally go the opposite way - my husband wants to dress / present himself in a way that I appreciate for the same reasons. Submission and headship can be graceful and beautiful when it is handled between two respectful, willing partners.
I loveeee that you’re saying what everyone is too scared to say in today’s world. You’re an incredible example for women who follow Christ! ❤️
You are simply a delight!🥰🥰🥰 Your joy is contagious! So thankful for your ministry! I leave your videos both convicted and inspired every single time!🙌🏾
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Love this video. Just a heads up about eliminating more clothes just to get the # of dresses down. Since you have small children and cook, clean, etc in your dresses, having a lot is not a bad thing bc inevitably some will get stained.
I love that you feel good about the clothes you are wearing and feel a break from the bondage that it was holding on you! I do think it is important to note that dressing modestly and being free from clothing bondage does not mean you have to dress in girly florals and dresses all the time. Femininity looks different for each woman, and I do think that wearing a button up or oversized blazer etc is fine. You said to dress modestly and avoid tight clothing, but then said not to wear baggy clothing like the oversized button ups or blazers? I often find those are helpful to hide my feminine shape a bit in outfits that may show my figure more esp since modest clothing can be a little more limited in options for myself. I think your style/ your husbands personal style for you may be those cute girly florals but I don’t see a need to generalize it to every women unless there is some scripture I missed that outlines a women needing to dress this way!
Also, about the point you made of not dressing for yourself at all, I find it interesting that the clothes you wear are mostly likely clothes you like still. I think inevitably we will wear clothes that we find cute because we need to wear something and are going to gravitate buying clothes that are our style. Just want to remind you that your personal preferences are not necessarily needed to be generalized to all women. But love your journey close to God and your heart to glorify him in your every choice!
This 👏🏻
I was trying to find the words but you stated this so perfectly. Modesty is unfortunately not something that the Bible has black and white dos and don’ts. Modesty is above all else, a posture of your heart. I grew up in a very strict denomination that was actually recognized by the FBI at one point for being a cult. One of the biggest parts of that group was how the women were told to dress. They all dressed “modestly” but their hearts were still hateful and unkind. I love this journey that you have been on Milena but so important to remember that Modesty starts in the heart and works it’s way out. This will look differently for every women and THATS OK!
Thank you for sharing a different perspective ❤
Sooo true!!
Can’t agree more! Thank you for saying what I was thinking in a very kind and polite way. We love you Mi, but I thing is fair to mention this. 🤍
Perfectly said
Milena, I just have to say, THANK YOU! I never leave comments but I just really felt the need to encourage you as you press in to the Lord’s leading in the content you are producing. I have been so beautifully convicted and encouraged in my walk as a wife and mother and follower of Christ. Please continue!!
Epic!!❤
Why do you wear a dress??? Cuz it’s flattering on your body …. Don’t understand your reasoning
Wearing something that flatters your body is different than wearing something that calls attention to your body and is “sexy”. You can be modest and still wear clothes that show your feminine shape but the problem lies in taking it too far and really showing off your whole body to the world. I hope that makes sense. I believe that is what Milena is trying to convey.
I am so proud of you!!! You are such a light to young women!!! Telling the truth and living it! Thank you for being a light on the internet people need it!
This was an interesting perspective for me to hear. Wearing clothing that I feel expresses my unique style is something that really lights me up. I feel lucky that my husband could not care less what I choose to wear lol
Its a bit worrying if my husband didnt care at all… no offence just in general
@@busrayalavac I don’t take offense at all! he sees my beauty shine through brightest when I am free to express my authenticity. All this to say I’m not someone who dresses particularly scandalously. I think if I tried to leave the house in a swimsuit in December he would be concerned. When I say he doesn’t care I think my point is that he trusts me to make dressing decisions on my own accord without needing to involve himself, if that makes any sense
I would love to see how you style your dresses for the winter.
I absolutely look up to you Melana! You’re such a beautiful godly women and I’m so thankful for you god really uses you to speak to me ❤
I love the way God has been working through you lately 👏🏻 it’s been about a year and a half since my femininity and modesty journey started, and it’s truly amazing how much it shifted for me. I adopted a dress only wardrobe because I realized I prefer dresses over skirts and blouses. It felt so good to get rid of everything else - never thought I’d stop wearing jeans but one day, they just felt wrong 😂 now I have a very specific style when it comes to dresses I like, and the same with colour palette. And it makes getting ready so easy. I’ve found I get complimented more as soon as I started wearing modest dresses, mostly by older women and it’s been so sweet.
Lindywell is an AMAZING Pilates program! She’s a believer and all about grace over perfection. Each month has a different health focus and the videos range from 5 min-45min depending on what you are looking for that day! :)
I started my slow fashion journey a few years ago after learning to sew. I didn’t know how hard sewing was and learning made me dig into the fashion industry. I now shop the way you described-slowly and with intention. Natural materials like cotton, linen, and wool are so much healthier and they hold up for so much longer!
I love everything that you have said in this video! You have been so inspiring and I love that you said modesty is a journey!!
I dont understand the reasoning behind "if a man can wear that, I shouldn't." why? its the opposite of dressing for your body lol.
I literally thanked God the other day for YOU in my prayers, Milena. A part of me feels like a weirdo for saying that😂 but the amount of times you have opened my eyes is astounding!! God always sends me to you when He knows I need it. I am currently on this new journey of submission & modesty, & stepping into my role as a Daughter of God outside of being a mother. (Loved your chat on idolizing your children in your last video, it really hit home & helped me so much!!)
What a wonderfully needed reply, bless you, sister for that heartfelt advice!😊
Lots of spiritual growth wow! Iv been praying for 2 years that you would embrace your God given hair , so I love to see it. You are being renewed and sanctified in every way .
I want to resonate with everything you said, but it’s just so hard for me to accept that wearing dresses and skirts is the only way to look feminine. I have a ton of different ones for church but on a weekly basis, I find them so many of them impractical and I dread wearing them unless it’s for a nicer event where I’m expected to. Growing up and now I do lots of manual, physical labor outside and never wore dresses on typical days because they got in the way and would get super dirty. So that means I can’t be feminine? It’s hard because it seems that so many women equate anything other than dresses and skirts with being masculine and not as God honoring - even if the outfit is modest and girly.
Totally get that and I agree! I am naturally curvy and wear scrubs in the hospital as well as doing manual labor on the side, so dresses arent a go to for me - and the amount of Christian women that come to condemn me and/or say that im not "feminine enough" is wild
Same!
It’s funny how worldly dressing is seen as cultural but dressing in feminine dresses and skirts isn’t lol? Let’s be honest, they’re both cultural dressing, just two different cultures. Both views are a little too fixated on clothing in general for my tastes. I find preoccupations with the way we dress to be a problem in and of itself.
@@skyelynnae But even scrubs...they are an example of modernity & masculinity. Women ALWAYS wore dress uniforms as nurses, even up until the 70s. So scrubs are not really a valid excuse. My great grandmother, grandmother, & aunts all performed their nursing duties wearing not only a dress & nylons, but also a hat at all times. My great aunt was a nun, working with the leper colony in Hawaii & performed all nursing duties wearing a floor length dress & a full habit on her head until the late 80s.
I LOVE THIS MILENA!! I love seeing people growing in their walk with God, not just based off of what others believe but grasping the true word of God! I changed my wardrobe 4 years ago and it has been the best decision. I too have noticed people are more nicer and more approaching why because we look Holy, people see Christ shine! I'm going to be praying for you Milena through this journey!
I feel you Sister! This has been heavy on my heart as well..🙌🏽♥️
You just inspired me to donate SO many old dresses that don’t fit my lifestyle anymore as a mom
My question is, if you like clothes because it makes you feel nice what about make up? Or wha my about dressing modestly that also makes you feel nice ? I’m not understanding
She was talking specifically about feeling sexy. Feeling beautiful isn't wrong, but the way you go about it/ whether it honors the Lord is what's important. We wear clothes to cover ourselves not accentuate our body even though that is how our society tells us to dress.
It takes a lot of prayer and reading the word to change our ways.
Same. I do my hair cuz it makes me feel pretty and put together. But my clothes also make me feel that way. So not sure what the difference is. Or why it’s a problem to want to feel nice.
I do think it is a society thing and there is a line. But right now I view it as taking care of myself so idk.
Same I like wearing hoodies cause they are comfy :(
@@laney7776It isn’t a problem at all! There’s nothing wrong with wearing clothes that make you feel confident and beautiful.
Thank you for being transparent with your fashion journey with the Lord. I resonate with your perspective and it is inspiring me to continue my journey to dress modestly and be aware of fabrics. Thank you!
On the same journey! It’s been rough, but so encouraging to hear other women my age have this on their heart. I’m in the same place with my jeans on hold too, but I honestly feel so uncomfortable wearing anything other than a dress/skirt at this point. Also I totally have noticed that people in public are kinder now that I wear dresses. It seems people hold doors for me more and offer to help me with groceries to my car. Things of that nature. I think when you show your femininity it makes men around you step up & be more chivalrous.
you are SO helpful to me!!!! NO one talks about what you talk about, TRULY. Thank you for convicting me and blessing me. Truly appreciate what the Lord has worked into you. You are such a blessing to us women. Love you so much. Stay blessed sister 💛
It is wonderful to see your transformation through the years. I discovered you my senior year of university 2018. It was actually your waiting until marriage video that made me decide to also wait until marriage. I’m now a happy 27 year old wife and mama! I feel like I’ve grown up with you!!💗
I do remember some of your outfits from a couple years ago and I did not think they were modest, especially your gym clothes and some of the angles you had your camera in. I am very happy to see your wardrobe transformation!
I did become more modest myself and I can never see myself going back. God is constantly working in all of us 🌷
I love watching the raw transformation you’ve had. I’ve never had a sister, but content creators like you are ones that I view almost like a sister. Of course besides being a sister in Christ. But being able to get on your channel and with such care and kindness watch how you have grown in your walk with God. You set an example with so much love and patience with us. I remember watching a video of yours when I was 17 before I became Christian. All glory to God here I am now 23 and saved by Christ. I have the privilege to be able to watch and learn from someone like you. ❤️
Thank you Milena. ❤ This video is very encouraging and convicting for me... I went through a few years of wearing modest dresses only. But then I experienced very traumatic few years of my life where I had dpdr (I was disconnected from myself) and I had memory issues etc. Ever since then, I'm struggling to connect to who I was before all of this happened. I'm way more relaxed in what I wear now. I feel ashamed that my heart has changed and I no longer feel excited and passionate about these things. But it is a reminder. This video makes me so happy that you are changing into more modest and godly woman. 😊🙏
As a 'young' muslim married woman everything this video is just spot on sis. I've always found my traditional Christian friends lifestyles were always very similar to my own. love your videos 💛
Love love this!!! My sister and I are in our 30’s and the Lord is bringing us through a lot of the same stuff you are going through!!! And this is one! Thank you for sharing!
Your faith journey has been beautiful to witness. Thank you for welcoming us to be a part of it! ❤
I've been so encouraged by watching you go through this process!! It's encouraging to see that it is step by step thing and not instantaneous. Although I've dressed modestly most of my life, I have loved your perspective on picking pieces that will last and of good quality and that you can use in various outfits. I'd personally love to see updated Amazon storefronts or other stores with links to dresses and skirts and outfits that are quality and modest options since I have a hard time finding ones that especially are more budget friendly (: soooo thankful to God for the way He is using you!!!!
Hi, I'm 9 min in and I just wanna say so kindly that I'm not trying to be rude or anything to you or anyone who are similar in your modesty journey. Also, I must say some of the things you're saying in the video I used to say. And that i come from someone who struggled with lustful thoughts as a woman towards men and women. I feel like there are many contradictions to what people say including myself, when they say things like, "I shouldn't wear this if I like how it looks on me." But on the flip side we don't want to look like a sac of potatoes. I'm really confused like I get it because I'm getting older and usually when we get older (24) our wardrobe really changes but I pose a question. Why is it when men wear tight clothes such as shirts, jeans, or shorts it's normal, but when a woman does it's immodest or causing others to stumble? Or if women wear skinny jeans or anything tight it's harlotry, but when a man does it's feminine or in other words fruity. No, I'm not saying wear whatever, but I'm genuinely confused and I hope you know that I'm not trying to bash you because I think that it's really cool to bring us on your journey, but I'm giving food for thought. Also, what about swim suits? I hope you and everyone reading this will understand. Blessings!
I have the same thoughts!
I hear what you’re saying. I’m watching this as someone who dresses “immodestly”. However, I think we women we need to be aware of the fact that we have bodies that people are going to want to look at, just naturally. It’s just a fact! Men as well. If a man is dressing in a tight shirt and stuff naturally you may look over and look.
The issue with what you are saying here is you are filtering your thoughts through a culture lense, meaning what culture tells you is ok and what is not. I think the goal for us all as Christians is to filter our thoughts through Gods lense.
After watching this video I’m not going to be purging my closet, but I will be thinking more about what I wear, not for the satisfaction of others but for the Lord. I encourage you to think about it as well! Speak to the Lord about it even if it bothers you, bc honestly I’m bothered by this video!! But I know it’s because I’m convicted inside. Think about it! ❤
I’m catholic and a quote that really helped me was “a bare breasted woman is modest within the context of her culture” you can check out ascension presents,Jackie Angel has the best approach on modesty imo. I get what content creators like Milena are saying but I do disagree with her on such topics. You can look up Jackie and hopefully that helps,all the best . Many blessings to you😊
what's wrong with taters? they ain't done nothing to you. 😂 modesty protects everybody. self. audience. and a marriage. modesty rocks.❤🎉
I’ve heard men talk about modesty for them also! Men getting rid of skinny jeans and tighter outfits too.
Milena!! Thank you so much for this video-this is truly such a blessing! As a teenage girl who does dress modestly, I was extremely convicted when you asked “Why do you like that piece of clothing?” It made me realise that although I dress modestly, my intention was to wear clothes that I thought were flattering, or would make me feel good about my body-which is not glorifying to the Lord. I definitely will need to be doing a lot of heart searching and praying about this 🤎
Loved this video. I’m a mama of two and very recently have felt this conviction around my wardrobe and how/why I dress the way I do. Clothing has been such a battle for me, always wanting to dress for attention and to look hot. God has really put this on my heart and I’m on the same journey! This was so encouraging and loved the tips about paying attending to materials too!!
I'm loving your content!! This is the Milena you've always been meant to be. 💗 Needed this so much.
I love the change in your channel recently! I feel like you have been growing so much and it shows-you are glowing!
Like I’m 42 years old and just NOW found what I want my style to be. And the fact you’re so much younger than I am and can still motivate me to go through the things I’ve had had since like the early 2000s. Yes, girl! I’m from the Jessica Simpson and Britney Spears era, lol! But I’m 5 feet and petite, have two boys (4 and 5). I have forgotten to have a style since being so caught up with my kids, I’m always in leggings and an my hubby’s oversized shirt. I remember telling my mom months ago that I want to feel comfortable and feminine in my clothes again. I have some super tight dresses that are sooo pretty but are not compatible with my lifestyle anymore. Thanks for this extra boost to get me to go through my closet!
I’ve commented this same thing on so many videos but I AM SO LOVING THIS CONTENT! I am loving watching God work thru you Milena! Keep them coming!! I’ll continue watching and supporting them!
I LOVE THIS! This is the type of content we need!! To be honest the lord has been putting me through the same journey as you for the last 2 years and slowly I’ve been modifying every aspect about myself and I feel born again truly scales off my eyes
So happy that you’re making these types of videos because it so hard to find other Christian women who do these videos.
A lot of the time I find the “Christian” people I follow to not be on the same journey that I am on.. and just find them not very scriptural or biblical with how they present themselves
Love this and needed this
Keep it up!!
(Im also 26 years old🥺❤️)
I LOVE your perspective. This is so helpful!! I’m excited to ask my husband what he prefers me to wear 🥰💕
ooof, this is convicting SIS! ❤ thank you! i loved this video, it has blessed me in so many ways :)
You are very inspiring!! I love your style, it’s very much what I am into as well. I originally found you through another Christian influencer and I’m SO glad I did. You’ve become one of my favorite people to follow. I have been feeling very convicted lately, especially when it comes to dressing and being more modest in general. Would love to see your current collection!! Thank you as always for sharing with us you are such a light in this sometimes dark world 🤍
I love this so much! Thank you for always making these encouraging videos that help strengthen my faith.
ooooo i've been looking forward to thissss video!!! this is so relevant to me right now!
I'm there. I'm so in this chapter right now! I've been feeling the conviction to downsize and modify my wardrobe yet again. When I was saved in 2019, my very sexy clothes I was all about was one of the first things to go immediately, I was not even hesitant, it's amazing how God works in us if we are truly willing to seek Him and His ways.
So now, I'm ready to dress for my husband and not so casually lazy, if I'm honest, lol but yeah I just am struggling with the getting started part. But this video was definitely a godsend, sister, so thank you!! I have a starting point and I'm confident and it truly sounds fun to go on this journey of creativity. Thank you sooooo much!!!🙌😊💪
Girl preeechhh!!! Your speaking straight to me! ❤
You are so brave talking about this issue! Congratulations!
Milena,
The fire that you have in your soul for the Lord is so inspiring and truly contagious. Jesus shines through you. Each video you bring Jesus' perfect love. I absolutely love your dresses! Wishing you a blessed day and weekend. ❤
Ahhh yay! That’s so great that you’ve been convicted of linking Amazon 💛 so so many better shops out there.
I just started learning about fabrics too! Natural fabrics and even the way they are created and discarded is mind blowing.
Love love this video so much 🥹 Very convicting in a beautiful way. It’s a joy to watch you share this journey!
I follow your channel because I find the content you share inspiring & uplifting..
your hair is so beautiful!!! love the way you styled it here!
I don’t wear dresses often, but I also love dressing modestly! This video is inspiring, even for someone with a different style. Thank you :)
I m amazed by your transformation! Contrats sis! Very inspired! God bless you really!
Love love love this (and all your recent videos) ❤ Gotta thank the Holy Spirit for convicting our hearts and leading us to repentance. Thank you for being open and vulnerable about your journey. Will keep these questions in mind as I go through my closet or shop for new pieces in the future!
I cannot tell you how refreshing this video was!! Please keep these types of videos coming!!
Love this!!! I am trying to minimize my wardrobe, having trouble with dresses bc I don’t want to feel limited, or like I’m having to wear the same clothes all the time. I do love dresses! Also love skirts and tops, and loose, flowy pants for when I’m not feeling like wearing a dress or skirt
Hi Milena,
I think the message of glorifying the Lord in all you do, both in word and action, is beautiful and powerful. It is important as Christians that we don't just talk the talk but walk the walk. I appreciate what you said about this, so thank you.
I do just want to offer additional perspective on a couple of the anecdotes you shared regarding modest dress.
When you said that you have heard directly from your brothers in Christ that they can't go to church anymore because they are too tempted, this makes my heart extremely sad. I agree that it is disrespectful to be showing your entire chest like you said; however, I do question the effort on the man's part to remedy their experience, as church's main focal point is Christ and worshiping Him. I find it hard to believe that they cannot enter their church anymore because they are too tempted by what women are wearing there. I just feel that there are perhaps other layers to that particular situation, and as you also said in your video, we all need to take responsibility for our actions. I will pray that these men might find a community in which they can be called onto holiness, but I don't feel that they no longer can attend church due to the way women are dressing.
Also, in regards to what you've heard about women being nicer to women who dress more modestly, I would just counter that we all are called to be kind to one another, no matter how someone is dressed. I understand that someone who is dressed immodestly might come across as more intimidating, as you said, and this may lead to comparison. However, Jesus dined with, healed, and conversed with those who were considered intimidating and immodest in his society, and we are called to meet Christ in the other person, regardless of how they are dressed. First impressions are powerful, 100%; however, we are not called to look on the outside, rather at the heart, and I think that disregarding or immediately judging or labeling someone as intimidating because of how they are dressed is not fully seeing them as Christ calls us.
By no means am I trying to twist your words, so I hope that I understood what you shared correctly. Just wanted to offer an additional perspective.
God bless you and your family 💛
I got rid of 90% of mine, my husbands, and our kids wardrobes and it had been a huge blessing. I never realized how much effort was going into picking out what to wear. Now it’s turning into swapping pieces for more modest fits with better quality. It’s a process but is so worth it. ❤
Funny coincidence. I’ve been purging and taking my clothes to donate and recycle, so many big bags full. I’ve probably cleared about 5 big garbage bags and I still have more to go! It feels so good to have less clutter! I love my FAMILY and I love REST. I don’t want to feel weighed down by so much clothes! ❤️
I’m also a modest dresser, I’ve always been a floaty, airy, feminine dress kind of gal for about the last 5-6 years. 💕 But- I love fashion in general, it’s such a hobby for me, I don’t feel in bondage to it what so ever though, it’s truly just for fun 🥰 I love analyzing fashion from different decades, for example I love 50s fashion so I like to watch old vintage movies to analyze the different pieces! I’m not obsessed with it in a way that it consumes me or takes away from my relationship from the Lord. But I can see how important it would be to minimize for someone that is in bondage to it! ♥️
This is so beautiful 🤍 loving this for you Milena thank you for sharing✨🌸
Milena this is so refreshing! Love how the Lord is leading you and how gracious you share it! 🤎
Thank you for this, I got convicted. The Lord is truly using you, you are being salt and light. I'm on my journey as well in dressing modestly, I've seen some changes in my life specially in my heart and I know it's a long journey to come. Praise the Lord, he is so good 🤍
I haaaaate polyester! I never buy it anymore, it’s terrible and it looks cheap! Love that you’re embracing your femininity and all the wisdom and knowledge you shed on us!
I love your style and how cute u dress while also being modest. U are an inspiration and I have loved seeing the journey from your older videos to now. It’s so encouraging I my walk with Christ. I struggle with this as well and this has shed some light on things I had been feeling. thanks for sharing!!
Beautifully put MILENA. I’ve been in a similar journey but stuck for a while. You gave me a lot to think about
Thankyou so much! Like I can’t say that enough. I’ve learned so much from your videos. This one is my new favorite at the moment. God bless you!❤
my husband experienced being set free by the Lord. He practiced a clothing fast where he wore only a few outfits for 40 days that he didn’t normally wear and the Lord showed him that it’s okay to dress in the colorful way that he liked. And that it was okay to enjoy fashion and it wasn’t dishonoring to God. I also would warn you against “sprinkling conviction” as that’s the Holy Spirit’s job and not ours as believers. Be blessed.
Love this so much milena. And I know a lot of people don’t get it but I completely do. We’re not dressing for approval of the culture. We’re honoring God with the clothes we choose. Thanks for sharing ♥️
I simplified my clothes about 2 years ago. I had a horrible shopping problem. I have about ten pieces that I use throughout the week. It also took me a long time to figure out what I like to wear. I still struggle. Your doing great.
This came at the perfect time in my journey ❤ thank you!!
Milena… this is THE BEST video… this is really the biggest issue among young women and youth today. I can testify that I had been SO brainwashed to believing my worth is external validation. I was convicted praying with God about my husband and how hurt I am when he looks at other women, and then He revealed my heart to me while I was getting dressed how hypocritical I have been and the lack of grace I’ve had towards my husband because when I get dressed, it’s for the world and attention and not the Lord. I can’t show any mid section skin anymore, it feels so wrong. Thank you for this and I pray other women listen!!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS SO MUCH. Thank you for taking modesty SERIOUSLY and going so deep with this. I needed to hear ALL of this. I’m going to work on my wardrobe like you did. 😍❤️🥰
I loved this!
Thank you for sharing your a role model 💗
I really love that you brought up how dressing modestly to not cause a brother to stumble pisses off some women. The fact that they get pissed off, also pisses me off LOL Because the world has twisted our minds into thinking that dressing provocatively is okay and shows female empowerment, and that men need to control themselves. Trust me I agree that they absolutely do, but I think the women is at fault too. I know people hate the phrase "she's asking for attention" but to me It kinda feels true??? We all need to look into what our heart posture is when we put on something that does not glorify the lord and might tempt other men.
I have slowly been doing this with my wardrobe and it’s a game changer! Can you do a video in winter on dressing feminine? I feel like it’s easy for me in the spring and summer but when it gets cold I struggle!
I Can see why this would be a conviction for some, but I feel like God is a “one size fits all” type of God. I feel like you can wear whatever you want, God will still welcome you with open arms, no judgement. I feel like if any other men can’t keep their thoughts or eyes to themselves that sounds like a them problem. As long as you feel good about yourself, whether you are wearing more revealing clothes or more modest clothes, God still loves you.
Creepy men have seen me at work in my scrubs and have made disgusting comments, am I supposed to wear a dress to work? Oversized scrubs that fall off? Not very practical for me, but some people would still say it not honoring God with simply my work uniform 😕
This!
God does love all, but has standards.
Just like mums love their children but still have standards of behaviour that is acceptable to display. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean they get free reign to do what only pleases them. God gives clear direction on what he finds acceptable.
First part of 1 Tim 2:9 “ likewise, the women should adorn themselves in appropriate dress, with modesty and soundness of mind.”
Love to see it, Milena! So great and encouraging to see the Lord working in your life, especially things He’s been working on me too!
I love listening to these modesty testimonies! This past summer Ive really felt the desire to feminize my wardrobe, and hearing you say things like “if a man could wear this, i shouldn’t” is identical to some of the “my clothes are androgynous” epiphanies I’ve had! Thank you for sharing! It wonderful getting confirmation from a fellow sister in Christ that my thinking is in line with the Lord’s desires!
Yesssss, same for me!!! I used to love playing dress up when it was the old me dressing provocatively, and so when I wear winter clothes I love the layers, but now in summer I have no clue, lol so I think I hide behind the casual pants and oversized shirts and just lazy apparel but I know I can get my act together with this change! We all can have fun with it and show up for our husbands and show out for God's glory!😊❤
**no offense meant at all for single sisters!
This is what I’ve been wanting since that Instagram story🎉
Never stop sharing how the Lord is sanctifying you! God is using you in amazing ways and your humility is beautiful!
I just love the inspiration you are to us ladies! ❤
I am a 38 year old woman and I just got te know our Lord and Savior 3 years ago. I am learning so much from you, thank you!
You’re such an inspiration, Milena ❤ wish you and your hubby would lead my community group!
Amen Sister! I am 37 and now figuring out my style and changing my wardrobe to be more feminine and modest. It definitely is the Lord helping my heart, I am so grateful for this journey. Thank you for sharing wisdom on this topic. 💕🙏
“Align” by Bailey Brown. The BEST Pilate program 🥰 Thank you for this video. I love it!
I love this! I’m definitely wanting to do the same with my closet 😊you’re so encouraging
I was only convicted of this a few years ago and I’m 52. Hallelujah that the Lord convicted you of this at such an early age. Your children will benefit from your choice for the rest of their life 💕
I love this video so much. This is the only thing I struggle SO much, dressing modestly 😭😭 although I’ve been doing better.
This is beautiful ❤️ thank you you have encouraged me as well today
Very inspirational video. I am 37 and am still trying to find my style! I really appreciate your point of finding breathable (non-plastic) fabrics to be super important. My husband loves an athletic look like jeans and a T, but I prefer dresses, so it's all about balance. This encourages me to go through my wardrobe again and really think on each piece. And I have this habit of "saving" things I love and then never wearing them-- I should definitely start wearing what I love more often! Life is short!
Thank you for sharing your modest journey with us! ♥️
Amen! Let’s strive to be ambassadors of Christ in all areas 🙌❤️ I’ve been on the same journey as well and there’s so much I am receiving from this - I need to ask myself why I like some of my pieces and I can already tell you that some of my answers are “I like how my butt looks” …I love the Holy Spirit conviction when he sheds a light on what needs correcting in our lives ❤️🙏