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Phrase 1 : curiosity - external exposure Phrase 2 : maintaining curiosity - continuously external exposure (watching, thinking, maybe engaging in some way) Phrase 3 : Theory crafting = *internnally* Thinks and reflects on things (try stuffs out, reflect on yourself with questions, create your own strategies) Repeat. Phrase 4 : For when you're Well developed = have a certain degree of resilience, stability, and have a highly developed sense of things. 1) Started to understand and appreciate the theory craft of others / can absorb deeper level of information (consume harder contents) 2) keep the momentum of input going (the more you read, the more experts you become) 3) Asking for feedback ( Becomes more and more important, the further in journey you are.) Notes : - Curiosity is a desire for more external exposure - In phrase 2, No need to conquer anything. Don't need a long life passion yet. Just give it a shot and have fun with it. - Doing phrase 2 until you feel like you feed your curiosity enough. That's when you switch to Phrase 3. - Thinkers continued to externally expose, while Doers transition to phrase 3 - Repeat phrase 3 over and over until you get ideas of why it'll work and why it won't work - you'll likely to understand the theory crafting of others - That's when you transition to 4 - In short, Repeat phrase 3 until you fit the criteria of phrase 4. (God tier) - Don't do phrase 4 too early. Since it's god tier, if you're not developed enough, it may gives negative emotions instead. Just a summary for myself, the information and grammar might be inaccurate.
I'm no college graduate, but I do notice a great deal a difference between KNOWLEDGE and APPLIED KNOWLEDGE. Knowledge without application is just being a walking database. Great video.
You REALLY learn this stuff when you get into things like Nursing or anything with the medical field. This was a hard lesson for me because as I progressed through the early stages of my program, I learned there's a fundamental difference between studying for an A on a test vs actually applying the knowledge that you studied to pass that test and actually using it in the real world. It's a trip, man
Applied knowledge is even more limited. Possessing applied knowledge and being able to apply knowledge are very different things. But then again study mathematical physics and application is the bane of my existence lol
I got to this conclusion myself lately. I've been recognizing that I always try to force myself to study and do boring shit like that. Then I thought about it and actually I don't want to spend my life being good at torturing myself everyday, what I want is to enjoy doing the important stuff, to not view it as boring. It's not abous "discipline" in the sense of being able to force yourself to do stuff, but more about pointing your attention towards something and letting your curiosity take the steps on their own if it makes sense.
Everything I like (I think I like???), I need to force myself to do it. I often wonder if I'm fooling myself. I don't think bedrotting with my phone is the only thing I like in this world, precisely because I hate it, and yet it's the thing I do the most. It seems counterintuitive to me that I actually secretly hate all of my passions, which means that to me, personally, I need to force myself to start those things. Why can't I feel the same spontaneity of... Literally anyone who has hobbies? Sorry for the vent, maybe someone has tips about this (to be fair I haven't watched the video yet lol)
@@indohhh Speaking from personal experience: You probably do like those things, but you fear doing those things poorly. And the fear grows with the scope of the goal. You have to spend more time immersing yourself in activities, environments and communities that foster your interest of that passion and get yourself to theory-craft/strategize. And usually that means cutting out the mindless entertainment that occupies your mind much of the time. Personally, by trying dopamine detox (you should check out Dr. K's guide on that), I've been able to do a lot of high-quality theory-crafting, something I wouldn't have had the patience for before. I also felt way more satisfied at the end of the day. Also, a very important tip if you're also a perfectionist: Don't try to be "the best you can", and set strict time limits for each step of your process so that you don't infinitely try to find new ideas every time your current idea seems too challenging/flawed.
@@LentilSoupGirl and It can be Depression. And you don't die If you don't do it. In Germany you don't have to do EVERYTHING perfekt, but If you do nothing you will be alone. You can do it and do IT again and again This is a good Thing. But it's the a hard Life sentence. You WILL fail, Exception If you are very talented or have good luck. Because of This you have to Work hard and LEARN Something. And it's No fun everyday to learn Same Things again and again until you're good or perfect. But you are Not a unicorn and do all Things perfekt at the First time you do it. Sometimes you have to do it 1000 Times until you're good at it.... Really perfection? You will never reach that. There is Always a thing you can do better. E.g. If you do Sports and want to be muscle Guy, you have to do it for a Lifetime or you will Not gain muscles and If you Stop you lose muscles again.
@@LentilSoupGirl if you are afraid to fail, you don't do it for yourself. If you do it for yourself, you just want to see how it goes ans how you can improve from your level, not what anyone else thinks. That's, i think, "intrinsic motivation" that's what he talks about und the video
Try 5 min committments. I say to myself "ima read for 5 minutes" sometimes It turns into 20mins. Sometimes it's just the 5 and I'm waiting for the 5minutes on my alarm to finish so I can stop asap 😂
1. Initial interest, curiosity 2. Surround yourself with information and experiences (in a fun and relaxed way) 3. Action, Reflect, theo crafting 4. Get feedback, keep learning deeper
I think he's covered those topics before. I relate and I feel like I've seen similar stuff from him, but I wouldn't be able to point you to somewhere. I'd suggest listening to the interviews when you're available to listen while doing stuff. I'm sure you'll come across the topic.
He's got stuff on procrastinating. No procratination, no need to fear wasted time. :) This may be self-worth realted though. As in judging your worth by what you do and feeling bad when you don't do enough. In which case you need to prioritise work on your self-worth. As for the fear itself, personally I would need to know what's behind it to give a proper response. As in what it is you fear that will happen because of "wasting time"? Usually it would be something in the likes of never amounting to anything, not being good enough or fearing judgement from others. Which is pretty much the same as in above option.
I'm so glad you addressed how getting feedback can negatively affect you. I've been an artist for well over a decade now, and I've seen that happen again and again with beginner or new artists. They know the culture of getting critiques on artworks, and think that it's mandatory in order to improve. But they've literally just started drawing. And I've seen these critiques destroy them. I constantly try to tell artists to spend at least a year or long period of time frequently drawing BEFORE getting a single critique. People need to dip their toes in, explore, and get comfortable first, otherwise they'll just quit. I'm glad I have a better understanding of why this is the case, so thanks for the explanation in your video :)
Hey, you can reflect and think about it by making notes on this video and topic. That way you will use what Dr K teach in this video and actually stick it to you. I observed on me that if I dont make notes and reflect on what Dr K teaches I forget it, but when I do it sticks to me. He also said in the past that if you binge watch a lot of his content it is not helpful, better way is to watch 1 video a day from him and reflect on that topic and think about it.
I imagine this is a big contributing factor in why it's good to practice a skill for even 5 minutes a day. Just going through the process of using that time effectively does so much.
@@reesetyra902 EXACTLY! 👍👍 very underrated comment (so far 😅) You are hitting the nail on the head! 🔨 Just those 5 minutes alone, repeated every day account for 1,825 minutes, or 30 hours per year (365 days x 5 minutes/day = 1,825 min/ 60 min/h = 30.4 hours)… 5 minutes a day of intense, purposeful deliberation followed by just 1 single fitting action moving forward MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE in the 🌎 Imagine for a brief moment what 30 hours in total will do to any project/task/to-do list over time… 🤩 getting things done ✅ (the smart or the hard way?)
So in summary: Step 1: See cool thing, Step 2: Research cool thing, Step 3: Make theories on how to do cool thing differently/ your way, Step 4: Analyze other ppl doing cool thing based on what you’ve learned, Step 5: get others to critique your ways you’ve developed to do the cool thing your way.
It is hard to overstate the benefit of altering your environment to invovle regular, repeated exposure to your desired change. Signing up for a weekly class or club is how I've been doing it lately, and it really works.
@@h.t.8812 Sure! I've found that scheduling the things I want to do more of removes the relevance of whether I "feel like it." But for me it's not enough to just create a calendar in a moment of motivation, it's better to sign up for activities through community groups, Meet Up, the library, volunteering, and so on. That way it's not really up to me, because I'm lazy. If I let my laziness guide me my life gets worse and worse. If I want to exercise more, it just works better if I sign up for a class at an appointed time and place that I can forecast and prepare for, instead of pursuing it alone where no one will see or care if I don't do it.
i hope everyone recovers from the things they keep to themselves and the mistakes they tend to repeat, and to relax and live in the present, away from past and future worries, in a place of calmness.
Thanks a lot! I am in a trouble because of my irresponsibility at work, and I am now stuck in guilt and cannot forgive myself and move on. Everyday I feel like I am living in hell. Your kindness empower me to actually stand up to take actions, apologize, change and regain internal peace!
@@stilljellyonlyforstu2053 For real. The only way is up brother. Otherwise you'll be stuck in the same place all your life. Take control... dont let hell loose. thats the way to peace of mind. love you. keep going. you can do it. make yourself proud.
I definitely felt like I made the most progress on something when I took the time to "make it mine" and connect it to other concepts I was already thinking about.
This is something I have been considering about myself a lot lately. I over think, I overanalyze. Im indecisive like Hamlet. Sometimes I have to just force myself to take action just to take action or I will be paralyzed forever.
This happens to me a lot too. For me, I always try to get things right the first time out of fear of doing things wrong and having to re-do in the future. Because if I have to re-do, it'd be wasted time/resources. In my case, this comes from lack of knowledge. I recently picked up programming and whenever I want to try and write something, I get stuck thinking about how I should do it. But I've never done this stuff before. So I can't actually engineer the thing correctly the first time, I'd need experience for that. And the only way to obtain that experience is to just jump in, try doing it somehow, failing horribly and rewriting the thing correctly. And then next time, I could refer to the experience when doing something else. And exactly as you describe, at some point, I just have to tell myself "screw this, let's do something and see how it goes", otherwise I'd never get to try anything and get the experience.
@@lamjeri I had problem with this. I called it perfectionism. Hindered me a lot as a teen and my early 20'. Then after I finally realised what's going on I'd just try to reasure myself it's fine to screw up or telling myself things like "perfection is the enemy of the progress". It used to be so bad that I would re-do things, before even finishing them, because the tiniest flaw about anything I created and not fixing that. That can't be. Do over. Now I am much better and I learnt to be more accepting of doing mistakes, but it's still hard and I have a long way.
@@Tallula_Lula dont take these thoughts too seriously though, or they could become a reality. im currently procrastinating btw bruh wtf someone slap me
The stages after curiosity is literally Shu-Ha-Ri (守破離): a Japanese methodology in which a learner goes through the "follow" -> "break" (innovate) -> "deviate" (self-distinguish) stages.
@@d4nivart516 There are I am sure a few lazy people in Japan but per person they get the most done and post WWII they appear to be more satisfied than average.
One of the most interesting videos i've ever watched. I used to be a thinker, but with time became a big time doer - and i've also wondered , how come that has changed? what is the difference? and this was spot on! I've always had "obsessive" tendencies when it came to hobbies. So once i find something interesting - it consumes my thoughts. before, i used to think this was a bad thing, so i tried my best to avoid it. I thought wasting my thoughts and consuming content was a waste of time , instead of doing the thing (even though it's not like i was doing the thing instead, just avoided it overall) until i came across content that said otherwise, that being obsessed is a superpower. After i started embracing it, over time i started really sticking with certain passions and achieving more. Which is apparenately the result of me actually doing step 2: and letting myself consume a lot of content of that certain thing i was interested in. And of course - that allowed me to also follow through with level 3: of internalizing it and having an independent thought of it. so basically, finally accepting my "obsessive" tendencies, and learning and letting said passion consume my mind - is what led to naturally follow all the "doer" steps and become a doer! Incredible!!!!!
i don't know what to do or where to start. i never feel prepared, so i spend all of my time trying to get ready for something that will never come. i feel like i've wasted so many valuable years and i'm so behind in life compared to literally every single one of my friends/peers who started in the same place as i did. maybe this video will fix my life though smile
I'm 45, and just starting to work on my own sh*t. . . my dad is almost 70 and just the last couple years trying to open himself up more. Life runs at your own pace to your own place. You got this!!!
@@NoahWei42thank you for this. I'm 47 and feeling pretty lost. Even though I feel I've learned a lot and have changed things about myself, as far as moving forward- is where I feel overwhelmed. Surely it is due to internal and external circumstances, but "lost" is still the highest feeling. Good luck to all of the ones struggling ❤
To a psychology and biology lover, and for someone that tries everyday to be a better person, your channel is the best! So much data compressed in a yt video, it feel like I´m in college again. Thank you for your service sir!
I always got "why don't you do more of this, you are so good at it" in the beginning of learning something new, and would immediately get put off from pursuing it.
I so relate to that! Ppl wont shut up about telling me to draw instead of dance, bc im so naturally talented at drawing (not really i practiced since the age of 5). Go for what you wanna do, Ik that these comments can lead u to becoming a perfectionist thinking "I gotta be good at what I do" and that ur not meant for this and yada yada yada... But what u can do that rly helps is lowering ur standards and expectations. Just do it for fun c: tell urself that ur just doing it for fun and just enjoy doing the thing, u dont have to become an olympic athlete, ur just a normal person doing something for fun. Eventually once u get comfortable u can upper that standard and push urself more if u want. But it is not a good idea having to be good at something at once. Also avoid comparison as much as u can, the stress of having to "be the best" is well, rly stressy. Dont worry about how good others are or whose worse than you, at what "level" you are ect. Just keep on telling urself ur doing it for fun and go into that mindset c: I hope this helps. But if not thats ok too
Nothing is more toxic for the pursuit of a new hobby than having other people annoy you about it all the time. "Can you draw for me"? "OMG, your music is so good please play for us." It's why I don't do art commissions despite people always asking me to. The expectation and pressure would kill the excitement I have in creating things.
@@spacejunk2186 I dont think u can stop ppl from expecting things of you. I know it feels scary and brings performance anxiety but imo we have to learn to deal with this. Its not like I can make ppl stop doing this, I can only control how I feel about it. I think the only choice is to try and deal with that ppl are going to expect things when u say a certain thing, if u think about it u prolly do that to. When someone says they are playing basketball u have an image in ur head about them doing basketball. I struggle alot myself with my annoyance with other people but I know its within me i need to work. i cannot control society nor do i blame them for doing this
I've been pretty lucky with a lot of intrinsic motivation to finish my first game which took me 8 years. Everyone always asked me how I can keep pushing through and I never had an answer. I actually consider myself to be very lazy typically, but for some reason that project was different. Of course it's more personal and I had lots of passion, but everyone has their passion projects they never finish. Was afraid I'd lose that drive to work hard, so learning there's method to the madness is great! I hope I can keep up these highs! Thank you!
I cannot understate just how important this video is to me. I've had like 3 epiphanies throughout it and the more i think on it the more i realize how my life follows the same structure he's detailing to the letter. If this is what's driving my passions and, more importantly, limiting my potential, it makes so much sense. It just connects all the dots that were missing. Insane.
the other day, i learnt the second part of the old saying “jack of all trades”. growing up i’ve always thought that it’s good to expose myself to as many things as i can before i decide what i like and want to pursue. but now i feel like it’s kinda backfired on me as i find myself curious about lots of things and then get bored quickly either when the skills required is too easy or too difficult. i have truly become a jack of all trades, but at the same time also a master of none. this video is very insightful and i hope i’ll be able to implement these phases into my life and become a person with more perseverance 🤞🏻
You got this poisson. Don't pressure yourself to make perfect things. Just things you haven't made before, until you know enough to turn them into a banger.
@@judah_levi if you're starting from scratch: it's easy to tell what the very first step is. start learning an instrument. if you already play an instrument start learning another one if your first is a melodic instrument, try a rhythmic instrument and vice versa. learning and understanding the workings of at least two instruments on a decent level is the cornerstone of music production, i mean you can start studying a DAW however deeply you want to, i'm just saying that attempting to produce music without being able to play music is like playing basketball without knowing how to jump and throw. also, trust me, learning an instrument is way more fun and rewarding than messing around with MIDI, recording, knobs, automations, effects etc etc etc. don't get me wrong that part is enjoyable too, but it doesn't even come close to writing music and playing instruments. as soon as you have crystal clear ideas in your head of what you would record and how you'd want it to sound, but feel like you lack the technical skills to reproduce what's playing in your head, that's your cue to start production. if you already play instruments: try to find something structured, like a coursera or udemy course, i'm sure there are many available. i guess theoretically you would find every single aspect of production for free on the internet with tutorials and all, but theoretically you would also find every material needed to become an advanced theoretical physicist. the problem with both is, if there's no curriculum to follow and no one to make you understand what's happening, you'll have no idea what to look for, where to look for and how concepts are built on one another. just for a frame of reference, in my case, it was 10 years ago that i enrolled to a real life course (which is by veeeeeery far the best way to learn production by the way) and attended 3-hour classes twice (sometimes thrice) a week for 6 months. that set a solid foundation to build upon, but that really was just the "tutorial" part, to understand what is what, what does what and most importantly why. after that it took years of experimentation, until i took it to a level where i was able to output something of which i actually thought it was good. so yeah, you need a framework to learn production, try to do online only if you have no chance at all to attend an on-site course. if you have to do it online, take a deepdive into which course is worth it (pointer: it's not the cheapest or the one with the 80% discount offer), try not to fall for scams, otherwise you'll end up being discouraged and quit for no good reason.
8:44 I know exactly what you mean.. I just got into oil painting. It's easy to get stuff learning how to paint with some of the cool videos; but you have to put your brush to tgd canvas eventually. Half the joy is learning new ideas, the other half is trying them out 🎨🖌️
This video helped me realise that I am a ‘doer’ with a lot of things that I never really noticed. Coding, writing, editing and cooking are all things I ‘theory craft’ about, but I never thought these hobbies seemed to be as impressive as playing the guitar, or doing karate. I guess it’s just important to acknowledge your strengths instead of downplaying them, because you’ll realise that you’re a lot more capable than you think.
Hi, can you give me an example of how you theory crafted when you were learning to code? I'm still technically a beginner and have had trouble getting hands-on with projects of my own because I have a lot of doubts and don't know where to begin, so I may have ideas but they feel so out of my current capacity.
@Kirgaby that's actually part of it, you're in the right path :D You usually want do do or implement something, and have no idea how.. so you try it out with what you know until you get stuck or fail, then google/research/check stack overflow, and incorporate what you learned. Repeat :) Often you will think something along the lines of "oh that was so simple, I'm stupid" , but it's really part of the process. It will always happen to a degree, but eventually for way more complex problems 😊 So you might get good and not even realize it lol
Ha omg, I do martial arts and play the guitar and I get so obsessed over people that can code, cook and edit videos as to me that’s impressive and takes much more discipline/attention and creativity, because guitar and taekwondo for me were always just pure fun. There’s always hardships but is hard as in killing a difficult boss hard, still _very_ enjoyable :)
Steps to become a doer: 1. Feed your curiosity. - external exposure (breadth search): watch, imitate, play, attend events, make friends 2. Craft your theory. - internal reflection (depth search): reflect on yourself with questions, create your own strategies, appreciate others' theories 3. Go back to 1. Tips to not giving up halfway: Curiosity needs tender loving care. - Just have fun. There's no need to put too much pressure on yourself. - Feedback and comparison might be harmful in the early stage. - Start with baby steps to avoid being overwhelmed. - Keep the momentum going. It's okay to reduce the energy when you're tired or busy but don't let the vibration stop. Remind me of two quotes: "If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration." - Tesla "Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality." - Einstein
My little sister has literally a medal winning voice (South Indian Carnatic singing), she is so afraid of diving in first and she hasn’t passed the 2nd step. She complains so much about not following through but this is her problem. I’ve noted stuff done simple enough for her. This would both help her and myself who is now sitting Advanced Levels to try and get into med school! Love your videos doc ❤
The feedback part of the video reminded me of school. Schools are pretty much completely built upon giving feedback to students: you did this well, you should be working on this, you are bad at this, and so on. But if the student has any doubts about their competency in the subject, the feedback will destroy their motivation. And they can't choose not to get feedback, it's given to them whether they like it or not.
Probably one of the top 5 best videos so far. This truly broke things down so I can help implement these things, not only with myself, but helping my team at work reach their own goals. This video ALSO inspired me to ENGAGE via comments, because it isn’t about ego-serving reasons, but reinforcing that intrinsic motivation by engaging and theory crafting. What a guy, Dr. K! Bravo!
Only half way through and already this is super helpful for me and also contextualizes and reaffirms some of my decisions. I've been struggling through a pretty difficult time with depression and anxiety and made a commitment to start meditating regularly again. I have a lot of negative emotion about having fallen off the wagon, but I've kept books in view and have been reading them bit by bit and trying some of the smaller exercises described. I felt like this wasn't "good enough", but now I feel like it's a healthy and concrete step to my larger goal. You're great to listen to, lots of enthusiasm and passion so it's easy to stay hooked on a video.
The timing of this video is funny. I didn't watch it yesterday, but it's was literally yesterday where I was thinking about how I feel I've watched enough videos on a topic I want to get better at and how I need to focus on moving into the _doing._ 🤣
Recently I am studing and improving really well in academics. I use some of the dr.k's tips to become intrinsically motivated. I can totally relate to this video. I have gone through these steps, I guess thats why I am more consistent and discipline now towards my goals.
I can confirm from experience that organically followed this steps for 2 activities that are today my passion, without even knowing it. And yes, many times I fell into the endelss curiosity with things that also wanted to be involved with. Excelent content Dr. K. thank you!
I like that the process described here occurs naturally in every person. I reflect to this so much! In my experience, sometimes it's a little difficult to get motivated to do stuff. Sometimes I want to do a lot of stuff, others I'm burnt out and I don't wanna do anything. But, whenever I do get curious about something, I get like 200% invested: I start watching RUclips videos about it, learning about the subject and how to do stuff, basically spending a ton of time on it. I also get to the point of transition, and so I start asking myself lots of questions, like "hmm, what do I wanna do within this?", "if I do it like this, then this would be the result, but then..." My issue is always here, because with curiosity and internal motivation also comes doubt, and insecurity. I'm often afraid of screwing it up, and that fear paralyzes me.
Wouldn't that be a good stage in the process to apply "reframing" tricks in order to transform rather paralyzing narratives into more motivating ones? For example: 1. We could reframe the first question as: "hmm, Once I start taking action I will surely come up with so many great ideas on what to do within this, that it will be a tough but very satisfying decison process! Yeah! Let's go for it!!!" 2. Or we could also change the paralyzing "but" sentence into a "despite" one by reformulating: "if I do "A", then "B" would be the result, BUT then "C" ..." into something like: "If I do "A", then, IN SPITE OF "C" (which in itself will be a great challenge indeed!), the very desirable "B" will be the result! (So, yeah, let's go for it!) " And so on...
@@jeronimominino339 that's such a good idea! It's hard for me to catch myself and snap out of my usual train of thoughts whenever I get trapped in fear, but I'll practice this change of mindset from now on. Today I was talking with my friend about something similar, and I got to a conclusion: when we want to change a bad habit, it's important to always be ready to correct us EVERY TIME we find ourselves falling into the patterns of the bad habit. It's not about avoiding behaviour, but to recognize it each time it comes and snapping out of it (also, it might be even more important to replace the bad habit with a good one, and not just to remove it). Reading the examples was especially helpful. Thank you so much!
Hey, Dr.K. Would it be possible to add these shorter videos to the RUclips Music app? Like the 'Interviews' playlist already there, I would love to be able to listen to these videos with my screen off; saving some battery 🔋 and some data 👍🏼
this lines up really well with why many people get really good at art or writing via fanart or fanfic. 1/2. the situational exposure is naturally motivated by wanting content of the media you love, engaging with a fandom, etc. 3. after doing that for a long time and admiring others and fostering ideas, eventually you start making things of your own. people will be very forgiving & accepting of amateur works too, bc Look! Someone else who loves the thing i love! yay! 4. after sharing your works with friends and getting feedback and improving, when you post it there are already so many fan platforms out there perfectly set up for maximum engagement and support.
I find there's a difference between home and my retail work. At home, it's hard for me to start doing something like cleaning my room, cook, etc. It's so easy for me to sit and do nothing. But when I'm at work, wooh, I just CANNOT stay still. I will always try to find something to do.
the change of enviroment is really something wonderful, happened to me too, i wonder if theres a way to use that to one advantage at home to fix habits
Honestly I think it's because you use all your energy at work. When I come home from work I'm always stressed and drained that I don't feel like doing any work at home. All I can think about is playing that game or watching that show to get my brain away from all the stressers of the day.
this video was so reassuring that i am on the right path. I see how many people around me are neither a thinker or a doer but just overwhelmed about everyone’s obsessesion or success and just accept the thought of “it is what it is, only if I was rich like that guy then i would be able to accompish something”.
This video is exactly what i needed. the last few months i have been asking myself why i have these curiousities, but don't follow up on them. Exploring new hobbies etc.. It all makes sense now..
*curiousity spark* (wanna see more) [ext] 1. expose urself more - more input to feed curiousity [ext] 2. theory crafting (asking urself questions) [instrin] 3. think abt other ppl in the space, appreciate how they do stuff 4. when confident and more established, incorporate more feedback
I'm going to have to review this video again, this seems really good! I can see these steps in my own life, like my experience with Team Fortress 2. At first I was just exposed to the game through RUclips videos from people like LazyPurple. I then started to play the game and would take knowledge from the videos and think about how I would want to apply it to my game. I think the fourth step is my biggest hurdle, because I've wanted to improve but never made it too far beyond that. Thank you for the video!
@vaishnavisoni186 Don't follow the motivation, follow your curiosity. Pick literally anything, anything at all, that interests you. Only invest enough to get a basic understanding if you're short on time or energy. The things that you keep coming back to or that you think about while you're trying to sleep are the ones you should try putting a bit more time and effort into. The rest should start falling into place from there.
I have said this once before, and I will say it again. The videos that this man is making are so spot on and to the point that I just can't believe I have never heard it before. Everything Dr K says makes complete sense to me and I thought there was no answer to the nagging questions of my mind but this man has satiated those questions. Thank you Dr K.
I always see a comment like this, but man this was a perfectly timed upload lol. I've been struggling so much with how to create intrinsic motivation for a few days and then this pops up in my feed. This reminds me so much of a book I read once about how to study more effectively and quickly. The main takeaway I got was that after studying, you need to try to recall the information that you learned, then you need to play around with the information. Sounds just like theory crafting in step 3. Awesome video.
What I found is that if your reasons to do something are good enough, motivation will follow. You just need to figure out why it really is that you want to do something, even if the return of the action is less obvious and noticeable in the long term.
I’m 49 years of age. When I was 19 years old, I joined the military and simply picked up discipline from during my stint in service. Motivation gets you going, discipline keeps you growing!!!
im still in the intro, but i wanted to share why this intro makes me look forward to the video. im way too late with my transition. wanted to start as a teenager, but didnt. during this time of me waiting to finally get to the point where im gonna do it, i did alot of important survival stuff. like studying and learning a job. and it was always fueled by anger about my situation and wanting to change it sometime in the future. im done now. im so much healthier in practically every aspect. but i don't know anymore how to motivate myself to do stuff now that my anger is gone. i now notice that i never in my life explicitly motivated me intrinsically. i have a life now. i have dreams. i can and want to do stuff. but i dont... im so looking forward to this video. :) -=-=-=- the video just teached me that i was doing it right as a kid and lost it when growing up, trying to listen to all the bad but well-intended advice... so i actually do know what intrinsic motivation is like. now i just need to tap into what child me did right. that'll be interesting. lets goooo! :)
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 same age bracket. not much difference. I was discussing with myself the reason why it worked for me like a minute ago. i dont have a clear concise answer yet. but i can share my suspicion. so i was always the odd one. i knew i was trans at 4 yo. i never fit in anywhere and all i had going for me was academia. i constantly had a book in my face. i loved learning and because everyone else was so much against it, i identified with it, thinking that was the reason i was different. (it took me a while to figure out that guys dont typically cry themselves to sleep wishing they'd wake up as girls every day...) so i never really considered having my own learning style to be weird. im weird naturally anyway, so whatever. 🤷🏻♀️ thus i always followed my instinct and that was theorycrafting. i discuss with myself alot. i want to learn and to understand. and if possible apply practically. so i guess i ended up doing exactly what dr.K described in this video all on my own. but i was constantly thinking im doing it wrong, because no one else does it like i do AND everyone says smt completely different about how motivation works. so what did i do during my teenage years and beyond? i stopped doing this and adapted myself to the way everyone else was doing it. failing ofcourse. except if it was really important to me, which rarely happened. then i went back to my own weird, but functional way.
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 seems like youtubes ai ate my long answer... same age bracket. i started randomly doing what dr k is talking about as a kid. and until this video I didn't realize I was actually doing it right. as a kid i adapted to the world around me and did it wrong for most things in my life...
That’s really interesting, and I’m glad you’re in a more secure place. Yeah, with something as strong as anger and gender dysphoria, I can imagine how it could be hard to act based on “weaker” and less visceral motivations. I hope you find them. ⭐️
Very cool video. Listened through this and relate heavily. This is a POV I built over time: Nobody is born good. Everybody who is good at something had to be bad first. Therefore I try stuff and I never judge myself and let the joy and my curiosity take the lead, which has given me the ability to do things and execute smoothly without being stuck in thinking and has been so far the most effecient learning experience.
Creating a RUclips channel can demonstrate the importance of feedback timing quite well. For example, I've known many new channel creators who quit early on because they started with a subject they were not yet so confident in, some of the feedback was brutal, and it destroyed their motivation. However, those who can stomach it (or perhaps that element of "over-confidence" that winning athletes are also found to have), or who started their channels as a way to expand on their up and coming expertise, found a wealth of knowledge in the feedback to continue to learn and grow; the final-phasers, as you said 🍻💪 Great theme that can apply to many modalities- thank you, Dr. K and team!
I remember when I was getting into drawing when I was younger and I used to go to this online forum of concept artists (not sure if it still exists) and a lot of what I encountered there felt very judgmental toward what beginners did. Like, drawing anime stuff was WRONG. Sketching a character without using basic shapes as a basis was WRONG. Drawing less than an hour a day was WRONG. It didn’t matter if an amateur was drawing MS Paint-level Sailor Moon fan art just for fun… ’cause they should be LEARNING HOW TO SHADE A CUBE. So for a long time I thought the artistic community was very judgy and even hostile. That kind of “feedback” really tends to be discouraging when someone is starting a new hobby. Nowadays, with the advent of AI and artists exhorting people who use image generators to “try and pick up a pencil,” I often hear the argument of how friendly and willing to help beginners the artistic community is. To me that came off as a surprise. And probably a beginner in the right kind of community on Twitter or Cara would have absolutely no idea what I mean by judgy and hostile. I still dabble in drawing, but it always feels like someone is watching me over my shoulder and criticizing what I’m doing. So, yeah, avoiding feedback during the curiosity and exposure phases (at the very least) could prevent the emergence of many frustrated artists/athletes/etc. in the future. Unless they ask for it. After all, no one is under the obligation to become good at or an expert in a certain activity that is sought initially out of innocuous interest.
I have been working on a game since February this year, and I was super motivated for about 5 months. Then in June I suddenly became unmotivated, and I've been searching for the reason on why I can't get back to working as hard as I was. Asking myself, what is different about me. Your statement about your mind not seeing overcoming the negative emotion worth it, really resonated with me. I realized that I didn't see the work that I was doing on my game (adding in art assets to create animations and creating ai for my enemies) worth giving up my distractions of playing video games. I know that absorbing self help knowledge doesn't by itself change your mindset, which is why I had stopped absorbing your content. I felt that I had overcome my distractions. But without it, I didn't maintain my interest in this mindset; therefore, reverting back to my original degen gamer mindset. Anyways, love the content, thanks for everything!
I love theorycrafting. But for some reason I never make it past that point. Even in games. I spent pretty close to 20 hours over a week theorycrafting a build for elden ring and only ever played the game for about an hour. What am I doing wrong at that point? Shouldn't I want to play after doing that? This is pretty consistent for all areas of my life. I find something, I research it, I spend days if not weeks thinking and theorycrafting and when it comes time to start applying it I give up immediately.
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If I'm starting to understand this correctly, the important part between building curiosity and touch with certain thing and next part of "theorycrafting" is also if we WANT TO theorycraft - if our predispositions, talents or attention is willing and enjoying the analysis, comparing, creativity and craft of our perspective/performance/creations in that specific thing - if we match it with our values and importance of that thing for world according to us. If not, maybe it's better to try something new after some time.
Man this explains why the passion that stuck with me is the passion that I discovered reviewing my thoughts & work at end of the day helped me learn more. I started naturally doing that step 3 turning into a doer
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I'm sadly in the group that thinks about doing stuff... I've been trying this year to get more involved in things that I've been avoiding, but it's so fucking hard. I'm scared to death of making mistakes, I think that's the biggest thing. I'm worried about changing jobs and hating the new job and having a worse schedule and stuff like that (or not even find a job). I also worry about investing time and money into things and then not following through because I easily lose interest in stuff. I get bored easily. I don't have a one passion that burns so hard I wanna pursue it to the end of the world. I like many things, many many, but nothing quite like that, nothing that I feel would be right for me to pursue.
ADHD? :) I have no idea how I got over of making mistakes, maybe through actually making a few and barely getting any bad outcomes overall. It's wild people are nice and reasonable, however lately fucked up big time, perhaps. Customer still sounded through phone like oh no, what? instead of WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU DO or such. I'm currently thinking talking to company owner again, cause for some reason head went again into improving my workstyle and changing the job itself, but got an intersting tip from a friend... need receipts of my actions, so I'm like FK it I'll do my own thing and try to record the actions. Me forgeting to take pictures FUCK... well at least I'm doing things. Investing money and time is sadly part of the process, probably :) I'm all over the place that I'm in debt, but my logic is I can't save money so I should take loans, cause I'll manage somehow in the end, stupid but works. If I get out of loans, then I can try saving again, but It has never shown any promise.
@@gamerdweebentertainment1616 i have tried getting diagnosed for ADHD but I had a really unpleasant time with it. the doctor that saw me refused to diagnose me with anything, saying i have my life "well put together" and that i can't possibly have ADHD, even though i actually check like... 70% of the boxes or more. i'm not sure if i have it or not myself, and idk how i feel about trying to pursue another diagnosis, because at this point it would feel like i'm forcing myself to have an excuse for my lack of direction and motivation. it's true that my life seems well put together, but that's because i always play safe instead of doing things i'd genuinely care for. i have savings, live somewhat comfortably, but at the cost of my sanity
have courage, my friend. it's okay. so what, if you fail? you can also fly. but without trying you will reach nowhere. you miss 100 per cent of the shots you don't take. make well-informed decisions, but make them.
This is incredibly eye opening. For my one interest that I've had for my entire childhood it absolutely followed this and hearing it spoken out loud connected so many dots.
I think you are describing a recurrent iterative process from external data to internal and back to external. The internal phases are building schemas and heuristics and the external is model building and validation. I think there is a link with creativity, specifically the third phase. So it would be 1. Stimulus and interest 2. Curiosity and data gathering 3. Creativity and heuristic building 4. Testing and validation. I am an also a doctor and I found with each of the very difficult postgraduate exams I say I had to learn to study again. Now I realise I was building motivation by researching how to study and building a new schema
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Finally, I found my source of wisdom on RUclips! Thank you doctor for being a great teacher and positively influencing the youth with such profound knowledge.
This is exactly what I needed. All my life I have had lots of interests in multiple fields. And after years I find that I have never stick with anything at all. And after decades of having goals I think that are important to me, but have never follow through or be consistent enough in anything. Now I only wish that I had.
Jungians: Ti vs Te Those that seek to understand on a deterministic, mechanical level are usually the "thinker" type. But those that just wanna throw shit at a wall and see what sticks are the usual "doer" types. What usually gets left out is the implicit overvaluation of doing, not to say that concrete actions aren't valuable, but the reason action is their method is because they want to find out; "fuck around and find out" by definition. Whilst "thinkers" are less 'productive' (btw by who's standards), "doers" are less understanding, and anecdotal evidence and empiricism becomes their statistical shield to hide from inefficient decisions and poorly thought-out plans (if any). On the other hand, "thinkers" tend to spend too much time considering and end up psyching themselves out from any action whatsoever, so while society tends to overvaluate doing, its only useful in the context of committing to more action for chronic thinkers. Overindexing on "doing" leads to poor decisions and wastage of time.
I like your post and i agree, however also important to consider the extroverted observers Se/Ne, tbh. An ESTP/ENTP even though valuing Ti over Te can be quite the doers cause they value Se/Ne over Ti. Especially ESTPs(pretty sure its my type). I also like brute forcing things, and after I wanna know why it works. I am also ok with "shotgun accuracy". Blast the problem and if it's at least 80% ok I am good. Se and Te together can be quite caveman mind though, 😂 jocko willink comes to mind. Strong ape with bonk power 😅 What do you think dr k is BTW? Pretty sure he has ENTP preferences but could also be INTP. He seems extremely balanced on Ti and Fe
This could be why bands work. I have been able to be more consistent making music because my friends all make music aswell so we are inspired at different times. Kinda fills in the inspirational gaps until it becomes more internal.
Now I understand why certain things stuck and certain things did not..... Thanks so much. I'm going to try apply this consciously to the next thing I want to do!
honeslty this was the only reason why i got very interested in cites skylines so i naturally went down this path without understanding how my curiosity led to me taking action and now this breakdown allows me to understand how curiousity and refelction can be good for me
"Watching this video gave me the inspiration I needed to finally make some positive changes in my life. Thank you for always being a source of motivation and encouragement!"
This is one of the most helpful, on point RUclips videos I’ve ever encountered. You are truly incredible in your presentation and communication of a very difficult and obstinate subject to deal with in life. You’re a great asset to anyone looking to grow and continue growing. Thank you!
I've had a lot of interests that right as I'm about to start actually doing things or while I'm still absorbing content, people will give me unsolicited feedback that will make me feel like a total dunce or that it's not worth the money or the effort to try and do the things. After repeatedly dealing with this, it's become super difficult for me to actually do things that once interested me and the influence has actually knocked out my curiosity and interest in those things.
it happens. if you can’t use the spite of wanting to prove people wrong as motivation to at LEAST get you to stage 4, you can try looking online or to other people involved in that hobby for feedback on how to push thru; often just hearing someone you see as Super Skilled telling you about their initial doubts can really help. idk what interests you’re talking about, but aside from reddit and youtube i joined a free writing group at my library for this, and every time i go i want to write the SECOND i get out. i also hear people read their works that vary from “oh my god. you are so inspiring” to “i could probably write that! actually, i think i might even have feedback for YOU”
@crstph well I finally got into 3D printing after years of not getting started... but I've been putting off 3D sculpting, leather work, general cosplay prop making, small robotics/IOT projects, etc etc.
Past knowledge creates curiosity, curiosity drives learning. But if you go ahead to know a bit more of knowledge without doing/learning anything, you'll be left alone in a desert of thought where the knowledge is no more familiar to you. So you dismiss the knowledge as boring/too difficult without learning the thing. Yeah, your video requires a bit more of the focus to understand. But thank you for bringing this up.
I've just recently started watching your videos as I came across one and just thought to subscribe because I am an aspiring clinical psychologist, and your videos really help me out and gives me an idea about how it is going to be like once I achieve my goal thank you so much. I am in the 11th grade right now, and psychology is one of my favorite subjects even since I entered in grade 11th, and it really fascinates me, and your videos are like a cherry on top.
I agree that negative feedback can be bad, but positive is mostly good. My mom always made us feel like we are the best at doing something. She didn't overdo it but she made us feel like we are doing progress. And I turned out to be quite good at certain things. I would have never gone that far if my mom (and dad) didn't give me that confidence.
ah theory crafting is often where i get stuck! even with hobbies i used to theory craft in, i now find myself constantly researching to find the “best” way to do something bc i fundementally feel like my own ideas are not good enough. time to build more self confidence!
This is such a good point! I often see videos about "how to learn to code" encouraging independent projects instead of copying code from someone else. Your commend made me realize this is exactly why: if you don't do it yourself, you're not going to build up your confidence...
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i dont enjoy anything because anyone can take it away.
Not to brag, but I clicked on this video instead of adding it to watch later like all the others, so I’m basically already a doer 😏
This hits home
I clicked it and then left it open in a tab 😭
Feel you. Did you ever reach the 2k videos in the watch later list?
I actually Just thought about this... i added it to watch later first... then thought ( Wait... omg ) and put it on.
Adhd tourettes .. i swear...
Why attack me so personally? 😭
Phrase 1 : curiosity - external exposure
Phrase 2 : maintaining curiosity - continuously external exposure (watching, thinking, maybe engaging in some way)
Phrase 3 : Theory crafting = *internnally* Thinks and reflects on things (try stuffs out, reflect on yourself with questions, create your own strategies) Repeat.
Phrase 4 : For when you're Well developed = have a certain degree of resilience, stability, and have a highly developed sense of things.
1) Started to understand and appreciate the theory craft of others / can absorb deeper level of information (consume harder contents)
2) keep the momentum of input going (the more you read, the more experts you become)
3) Asking for feedback ( Becomes more and more important, the further in journey you are.)
Notes :
- Curiosity is a desire for more external exposure
- In phrase 2, No need to conquer anything. Don't need a long life passion yet. Just give it a shot and have fun with it.
- Doing phrase 2 until you feel like you feed your curiosity enough. That's when you switch to Phrase 3.
- Thinkers continued to externally expose, while Doers transition to phrase 3
- Repeat phrase 3 over and over until you get ideas of why it'll work and why it won't work - you'll likely to understand the theory crafting of others - That's when you transition to 4
- In short, Repeat phrase 3 until you fit the criteria of phrase 4. (God tier)
- Don't do phrase 4 too early. Since it's god tier, if you're not developed enough, it may gives negative emotions instead.
Just a summary for myself, the information and grammar might be inaccurate.
Thank you!
@LindaR-xh5hf I wish every video came with a summary like this in the description
He's the hero we needed
I bet a lot of your friends look at your notes at the end of the classes.
This is a good summary.
This comment should be pinned.
I'm no college graduate, but I do notice a great deal a difference between KNOWLEDGE and APPLIED KNOWLEDGE. Knowledge without application is just being a walking database. Great video.
It's masturbation.
You REALLY learn this stuff when you get into things like Nursing or anything with the medical field. This was a hard lesson for me because as I progressed through the early stages of my program, I learned there's a fundamental difference between studying for an A on a test vs actually applying the knowledge that you studied to pass that test and actually using it in the real world. It's a trip, man
u are wrong about this
Applied knowledge is even more limited. Possessing applied knowledge and being able to apply knowledge are very different things. But then again study mathematical physics and application is the bane of my existence lol
I guess it’s disingenuous to say that absolutely, that’s just what I believe
I got to this conclusion myself lately. I've been recognizing that I always try to force myself to study and do boring shit like that. Then I thought about it and actually I don't want to spend my life being good at torturing myself everyday, what I want is to enjoy doing the important stuff, to not view it as boring. It's not abous "discipline" in the sense of being able to force yourself to do stuff, but more about pointing your attention towards something and letting your curiosity take the steps on their own if it makes sense.
Everything I like (I think I like???), I need to force myself to do it. I often wonder if I'm fooling myself. I don't think bedrotting with my phone is the only thing I like in this world, precisely because I hate it, and yet it's the thing I do the most.
It seems counterintuitive to me that I actually secretly hate all of my passions, which means that to me, personally, I need to force myself to start those things. Why can't I feel the same spontaneity of... Literally anyone who has hobbies? Sorry for the vent, maybe someone has tips about this (to be fair I haven't watched the video yet lol)
YES! YES THIS!
@@indohhh Speaking from personal experience: You probably do like those things, but you fear doing those things poorly. And the fear grows with the scope of the goal.
You have to spend more time immersing yourself in activities, environments and communities that foster your interest of that passion and get yourself to theory-craft/strategize.
And usually that means cutting out the mindless entertainment that occupies your mind much of the time. Personally, by trying dopamine detox (you should check out Dr. K's guide on that), I've been able to do a lot of high-quality theory-crafting, something I wouldn't have had the patience for before. I also felt way more satisfied at the end of the day.
Also, a very important tip if you're also a perfectionist: Don't try to be "the best you can", and set strict time limits for each step of your process so that you don't infinitely try to find new ideas every time your current idea seems too challenging/flawed.
@@khongnoi1012 thanks :) yes you guessed it, I do struggle with perfectionism. It sucks the fun out
good luck to ya! Thanks for answering
so true....
This was exactly what I was looking for. I know all the answers (essentially), but find it hard to commit to action.
It's basically just too much overthinking and wanting a perfect plan and solution before starting AND the fear of starting bc what if i fail?
@@LentilSoupGirl and It can be Depression. And you don't die If you don't do it.
In Germany you don't have to do EVERYTHING perfekt, but If you do nothing you will be alone.
You can do it and do IT again and again This is a good Thing. But it's the a hard Life sentence. You WILL fail, Exception If you are very talented or have good luck. Because of This you have to Work hard and LEARN Something. And it's No fun everyday to learn Same Things again and again until you're good or perfect.
But you are Not a unicorn and do all Things perfekt at the First time you do it. Sometimes you have to do it 1000 Times until you're good at it.... Really perfection? You will never reach that. There is Always a thing you can do better.
E.g. If you do Sports and want to be muscle Guy, you have to do it for a Lifetime or you will Not gain muscles and If you Stop you lose muscles again.
@@LentilSoupGirl not even that. im finding it hard to find sustained commitments because of distractions
@@LentilSoupGirl if you are afraid to fail, you don't do it for yourself. If you do it for yourself, you just want to see how it goes ans how you can improve from your level, not what anyone else thinks. That's, i think, "intrinsic motivation" that's what he talks about und the video
Try 5 min committments.
I say to myself "ima read for 5 minutes" sometimes It turns into 20mins. Sometimes it's just the 5 and I'm waiting for the 5minutes on my alarm to finish so I can stop asap 😂
1. Initial interest, curiosity
2. Surround yourself with information and experiences (in a fun and relaxed way)
3. Action, Reflect, theo crafting
4. Get feedback, keep learning deeper
I really wish Dr k would make a video about the fear of wasting time, a topic I think a majority struggle with
good idea
I think he's covered those topics before. I relate and I feel like I've seen similar stuff from him, but I wouldn't be able to point you to somewhere. I'd suggest listening to the interviews when you're available to listen while doing stuff. I'm sure you'll come across the topic.
He's got stuff on procrastinating. No procratination, no need to fear wasted time. :)
This may be self-worth realted though.
As in judging your worth by what you do and feeling bad when you don't do enough. In which case you need to prioritise work on your self-worth.
As for the fear itself, personally I would need to know what's behind it to give a proper response. As in what it is you fear that will happen because of "wasting time"? Usually it would be something in the likes of never amounting to anything, not being good enough or fearing judgement from others. Which is pretty much the same as in above option.
I'm so glad you addressed how getting feedback can negatively affect you. I've been an artist for well over a decade now, and I've seen that happen again and again with beginner or new artists. They know the culture of getting critiques on artworks, and think that it's mandatory in order to improve. But they've literally just started drawing. And I've seen these critiques destroy them. I constantly try to tell artists to spend at least a year or long period of time frequently drawing BEFORE getting a single critique. People need to dip their toes in, explore, and get comfortable first, otherwise they'll just quit. I'm glad I have a better understanding of why this is the case, so thanks for the explanation in your video :)
Might have to rewatch this one a few times so it sticks.👏🏽
frr
Instead of just thinking about it lol
Hey, you can reflect and think about it by making notes on this video and topic. That way you will use what Dr K teach in this video and actually stick it to you. I observed on me that if I dont make notes and reflect on what Dr K teaches I forget it, but when I do it sticks to me. He also said in the past that if you binge watch a lot of his content it is not helpful, better way is to watch 1 video a day from him and reflect on that topic and think about it.
I imagine this is a big contributing factor in why it's good to practice a skill for even 5 minutes a day. Just going through the process of using that time effectively does so much.
Depends on the skill. You’d make great progress at anything with 30 minutes a day. 5 minutes maybe a bit too short though.
@@reesetyra902 EXACTLY! 👍👍 very underrated comment (so far 😅) You are hitting the nail on the head! 🔨 Just those 5 minutes alone, repeated every day account for 1,825 minutes, or 30 hours per year (365 days x 5 minutes/day = 1,825 min/ 60 min/h = 30.4 hours)… 5 minutes a day of intense, purposeful deliberation followed by just 1 single fitting action moving forward MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE in the 🌎 Imagine for a brief moment what 30 hours in total will do to any project/task/to-do list over time… 🤩 getting things done ✅ (the smart or the hard way?)
So in summary: Step 1: See cool thing, Step 2: Research cool thing, Step 3: Make theories on how to do cool thing differently/ your way, Step 4: Analyze other ppl doing cool thing based on what you’ve learned, Step 5: get others to critique your ways you’ve developed to do the cool thing your way.
@@creatureoflegend2635 actually thinking back, all the hobbies that I have followed through on this has been the process😊😊
I was finding you, you never disappoint me, you always here
@@deepanshudagdi huh? You were finding me? Why? Do I know you? If so, where from?
Where...is. the doing tho
@@creatureoflegend2635 I mean in every content there is one guy who summaries the content in points and I was finding that guy, so I found you.
It is hard to overstate the benefit of altering your environment to invovle regular, repeated exposure to your desired change. Signing up for a weekly class or club is how I've been doing it lately, and it really works.
Some of us have trouble actually showing up for the weekly class.
Can you talk more about it? Examples are very helpful. Like what kind of club?
@@h.t.8812 Sure! I've found that scheduling the things I want to do more of removes the relevance of whether I "feel like it." But for me it's not enough to just create a calendar in a moment of motivation, it's better to sign up for activities through community groups, Meet Up, the library, volunteering, and so on. That way it's not really up to me, because I'm lazy. If I let my laziness guide me my life gets worse and worse.
If I want to exercise more, it just works better if I sign up for a class at an appointed time and place that I can forecast and prepare for, instead of pursuing it alone where no one will see or care if I don't do it.
i hope everyone recovers from the things they keep to themselves and the mistakes they tend to repeat, and to relax and live in the present, away from past and future worries, in a place of calmness.
Thanks bro
Peace within and that's everything
You too, kind stranger !
Thanks a lot! I am in a trouble because of my irresponsibility at work, and I am now stuck in guilt and cannot forgive myself and move on. Everyday I feel like I am living in hell. Your kindness empower me to actually stand up to take actions, apologize, change and regain internal peace!
@@stilljellyonlyforstu2053 For real. The only way is up brother. Otherwise you'll be stuck in the same place all your life. Take control... dont let hell loose. thats the way to peace of mind. love you. keep going. you can do it. make yourself proud.
I definitely felt like I made the most progress on something when I took the time to "make it mine" and connect it to other concepts I was already thinking about.
This is something I have been considering about myself a lot lately.
I over think, I overanalyze. Im indecisive like Hamlet.
Sometimes I have to just force myself to take action just to take action or I will be paralyzed forever.
This happens to me a lot too. For me, I always try to get things right the first time out of fear of doing things wrong and having to re-do in the future. Because if I have to re-do, it'd be wasted time/resources.
In my case, this comes from lack of knowledge. I recently picked up programming and whenever I want to try and write something, I get stuck thinking about how I should do it. But I've never done this stuff before. So I can't actually engineer the thing correctly the first time, I'd need experience for that. And the only way to obtain that experience is to just jump in, try doing it somehow, failing horribly and rewriting the thing correctly. And then next time, I could refer to the experience when doing something else. And exactly as you describe, at some point, I just have to tell myself "screw this, let's do something and see how it goes", otherwise I'd never get to try anything and get the experience.
@@lamjeri I had problem with this. I called it perfectionism. Hindered me a lot as a teen and my early 20'. Then after I finally realised what's going on I'd just try to reasure myself it's fine to screw up or telling myself things like "perfection is the enemy of the progress". It used to be so bad that I would re-do things, before even finishing them, because the tiniest flaw about anything I created and not fixing that. That can't be. Do over. Now I am much better and I learnt to be more accepting of doing mistakes, but it's still hard and I have a long way.
@@missquprisonperfectionism sucks
Alot of times the more I think the less gets done
@@Italiangentleman2394 damn, you said something too real that I'm gonna think about for the rest of the day 😰
@@Tallula_Lula dont take these thoughts too seriously though, or they could become a reality. im currently procrastinating btw bruh wtf someone slap me
The more I eat, the less I don't eat 😯
I love thinking about doing things, it feels productive
@@marianosetula5666 do the thing right now. no more waiting
The stages after curiosity is literally Shu-Ha-Ri (守破離): a Japanese methodology in which a learner goes through the "follow" -> "break" (innovate) -> "deviate" (self-distinguish) stages.
thanks for the contributtion it actually sums up really well what is mentioned in the video.
@@d4nivart516 There are I am sure a few lazy people in Japan but per person they get the most done and post WWII they appear to be more satisfied than average.
One of the most interesting videos i've ever watched.
I used to be a thinker, but with time became a big time doer - and i've also wondered , how come that has changed? what is the difference? and this was spot on!
I've always had "obsessive" tendencies when it came to hobbies. So once i find something interesting - it consumes my thoughts. before, i used to think this was a bad thing, so i tried my best to avoid it.
I thought wasting my thoughts and consuming content was a waste of time , instead of doing the thing (even though it's not like i was doing the thing instead, just avoided it overall)
until i came across content that said otherwise, that being obsessed is a superpower.
After i started embracing it, over time i started really sticking with certain passions and achieving more.
Which is apparenately the result of me actually doing step 2: and letting myself consume a lot of content of that certain thing i was interested in.
And of course - that allowed me to also follow through with level 3: of internalizing it and having an independent thought of it.
so basically, finally accepting my "obsessive" tendencies, and learning and letting said passion consume my mind - is what led to naturally follow all the "doer" steps and become a doer!
Incredible!!!!!
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i don't know what to do or where to start. i never feel prepared, so i spend all of my time trying to get ready for something that will never come. i feel like i've wasted so many valuable years and i'm so behind in life compared to literally every single one of my friends/peers who started in the same place as i did. maybe this video will fix my life though smile
I'm 45, and just starting to work on my own sh*t. . . my dad is almost 70 and just the last couple years trying to open himself up more.
Life runs at your own pace to your own place.
You got this!!!
Who cares about feeling prepared, just do shit unprepared
If you figure it out, leave tips for the rest of us, lol.
@@NoahWei42thank you for this. I'm 47 and feeling pretty lost. Even though I feel I've learned a lot and have changed things about myself, as far as moving forward- is where I feel overwhelmed. Surely it is due to internal and external circumstances, but "lost" is still the highest feeling.
Good luck to all of the ones struggling ❤
I feel the same way 💗
To a psychology and biology lover, and for someone that tries everyday to be a better person, your channel is the best! So much data compressed in a yt video, it feel like I´m in college again. Thank you for your service sir!
I always got "why don't you do more of this, you are so good at it" in the beginning of learning something new, and would immediately get put off from pursuing it.
I so relate to that! Ppl wont shut up about telling me to draw instead of dance, bc im so naturally talented at drawing (not really i practiced since the age of 5). Go for what you wanna do, Ik that these comments can lead u to becoming a perfectionist thinking "I gotta be good at what I do" and that ur not meant for this and yada yada yada...
But what u can do that rly helps is lowering ur standards and expectations. Just do it for fun c: tell urself that ur just doing it for fun and just enjoy doing the thing, u dont have to become an olympic athlete, ur just a normal person doing something for fun.
Eventually once u get comfortable u can upper that standard and push urself more if u want. But it is not a good idea having to be good at something at once. Also avoid comparison as much as u can, the stress of having to "be the best" is well, rly stressy. Dont worry about how good others are or whose worse than you, at what "level" you are ect. Just keep on telling urself ur doing it for fun and go into that mindset c:
I hope this helps. But if not thats ok too
I think that once somebody puts an expectation on you, you then feel pressured to get a result which in turn kills the initial fun/interest.
Nothing is more toxic for the pursuit of a new hobby than having other people annoy you about it all the time. "Can you draw for me"? "OMG, your music is so good please play for us."
It's why I don't do art commissions despite people always asking me to. The expectation and pressure would kill the excitement I have in creating things.
@@spacejunk2186 I dont think u can stop ppl from expecting things of you. I know it feels scary and brings performance anxiety but imo we have to learn to deal with this. Its not like I can make ppl stop doing this, I can only control how I feel about it. I think the only choice is to try and deal with that ppl are going to expect things when u say a certain thing, if u think about it u prolly do that to. When someone says they are playing basketball u have an image in ur head about them doing basketball. I struggle alot myself with my annoyance with other people but I know its within me i need to work. i cannot control society nor do i blame them for doing this
@@natlila9136 excellent advice 👌
I've been pretty lucky with a lot of intrinsic motivation to finish my first game which took me 8 years. Everyone always asked me how I can keep pushing through and I never had an answer. I actually consider myself to be very lazy typically, but for some reason that project was different. Of course it's more personal and I had lots of passion, but everyone has their passion projects they never finish. Was afraid I'd lose that drive to work hard, so learning there's method to the madness is great! I hope I can keep up these highs! Thank you!
I cannot understate just how important this video is to me. I've had like 3 epiphanies throughout it and the more i think on it the more i realize how my life follows the same structure he's detailing to the letter. If this is what's driving my passions and, more importantly, limiting my potential, it makes so much sense. It just connects all the dots that were missing. Insane.
the other day, i learnt the second part of the old saying “jack of all trades”. growing up i’ve always thought that it’s good to expose myself to as many things as i can before i decide what i like and want to pursue. but now i feel like it’s kinda backfired on me as i find myself curious about lots of things and then get bored quickly either when the skills required is too easy or too difficult. i have truly become a jack of all trades, but at the same time also a master of none.
this video is very insightful and i hope i’ll be able to implement these phases into my life and become a person with more perseverance 🤞🏻
Perfect timing as always! Been trying to learn music production after work, and it's been quite the challenge.
How are you going about learning production? I'm only curious because I'm thinking about learning it too
You got this poisson. Don't pressure yourself to make perfect things. Just things you haven't made before, until you know enough to turn them into a banger.
That’s where I started, and now I rap. Just stay consistent
Im in the exact same boat
@@judah_levi if you're starting from scratch: it's easy to tell what the very first step is. start learning an instrument. if you already play an instrument start learning another one if your first is a melodic instrument, try a rhythmic instrument and vice versa. learning and understanding the workings of at least two instruments on a decent level is the cornerstone of music production, i mean you can start studying a DAW however deeply you want to, i'm just saying that attempting to produce music without being able to play music is like playing basketball without knowing how to jump and throw. also, trust me, learning an instrument is way more fun and rewarding than messing around with MIDI, recording, knobs, automations, effects etc etc etc. don't get me wrong that part is enjoyable too, but it doesn't even come close to writing music and playing instruments. as soon as you have crystal clear ideas in your head of what you would record and how you'd want it to sound, but feel like you lack the technical skills to reproduce what's playing in your head, that's your cue to start production.
if you already play instruments: try to find something structured, like a coursera or udemy course, i'm sure there are many available. i guess theoretically you would find every single aspect of production for free on the internet with tutorials and all, but theoretically you would also find every material needed to become an advanced theoretical physicist. the problem with both is, if there's no curriculum to follow and no one to make you understand what's happening, you'll have no idea what to look for, where to look for and how concepts are built on one another. just for a frame of reference, in my case, it was 10 years ago that i enrolled to a real life course (which is by veeeeeery far the best way to learn production by the way) and attended 3-hour classes twice (sometimes thrice) a week for 6 months. that set a solid foundation to build upon, but that really was just the "tutorial" part, to understand what is what, what does what and most importantly why. after that it took years of experimentation, until i took it to a level where i was able to output something of which i actually thought it was good. so yeah, you need a framework to learn production, try to do online only if you have no chance at all to attend an on-site course. if you have to do it online, take a deepdive into which course is worth it (pointer: it's not the cheapest or the one with the 80% discount offer), try not to fall for scams, otherwise you'll end up being discouraged and quit for no good reason.
As a teacher, I can’t wait to apply this to my teaching to foster my students’ curiosity.
8:44 I know exactly what you mean.. I just got into oil painting. It's easy to get stuff learning how to paint with some of the cool videos; but you have to put your brush to tgd canvas eventually.
Half the joy is learning new ideas, the other half is trying them out 🎨🖌️
17:11 I'm getting MTG vibes lol
This is by far the most helpful video in my life journey! Thank you Dr K!
This video helped me realise that I am a ‘doer’ with a lot of things that I never really noticed. Coding, writing, editing and cooking are all things I ‘theory craft’ about, but I never thought these hobbies seemed to be as impressive as playing the guitar, or doing karate. I guess it’s just important to acknowledge your strengths instead of downplaying them, because you’ll realise that you’re a lot more capable than you think.
Thank you, I needed that
Hi, can you give me an example of how you theory crafted when you were learning to code? I'm still technically a beginner and have had trouble getting hands-on with projects of my own because I have a lot of doubts and don't know where to begin, so I may have ideas but they feel so out of my current capacity.
@Kirgaby that's actually part of it, you're in the right path :D
You usually want do do or implement something, and have no idea how.. so you try it out with what you know until you get stuck or fail, then google/research/check stack overflow, and incorporate what you learned.
Repeat :)
Often you will think something along the lines of "oh that was so simple, I'm stupid" , but it's really part of the process. It will always happen to a degree, but eventually for way more complex problems 😊
So you might get good and not even realize it lol
Ha omg, I do martial arts and play the guitar and I get so obsessed over people that can code, cook and edit videos as to me that’s impressive and takes much more discipline/attention and creativity, because guitar and taekwondo for me were always just pure fun.
There’s always hardships but is hard as in killing a difficult boss hard, still _very_ enjoyable :)
Coding is like s tier hobby/passion tho
Steps to become a doer:
1. Feed your curiosity.
- external exposure (breadth search): watch, imitate, play, attend events, make friends
2. Craft your theory.
- internal reflection (depth search): reflect on yourself with questions, create your own strategies, appreciate others' theories
3. Go back to 1.
Tips to not giving up halfway:
Curiosity needs tender loving care.
- Just have fun. There's no need to put too much pressure on yourself.
- Feedback and comparison might be harmful in the early stage.
- Start with baby steps to avoid being overwhelmed.
- Keep the momentum going. It's okay to reduce the energy when you're tired or busy but don't let the vibration stop.
Remind me of two quotes:
"If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration." - Tesla
"Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality." - Einstein
My little sister has literally a medal winning voice (South Indian Carnatic singing), she is so afraid of diving in first and she hasn’t passed the 2nd step. She complains so much about not following through but this is her problem. I’ve noted stuff done simple enough for her. This would both help her and myself who is now sitting Advanced Levels to try and get into med school! Love your videos doc ❤
The feedback part of the video reminded me of school. Schools are pretty much completely built upon giving feedback to students: you did this well, you should be working on this, you are bad at this, and so on. But if the student has any doubts about their competency in the subject, the feedback will destroy their motivation. And they can't choose not to get feedback, it's given to them whether they like it or not.
Probably one of the top 5 best videos so far.
This truly broke things down so I can help implement these things, not only with myself, but helping my team at work reach their own goals.
This video ALSO inspired me to ENGAGE via comments, because it isn’t about ego-serving reasons, but reinforcing that intrinsic motivation by engaging and theory crafting.
What a guy, Dr. K! Bravo!
Only half way through and already this is super helpful for me and also contextualizes and reaffirms some of my decisions.
I've been struggling through a pretty difficult time with depression and anxiety and made a commitment to start meditating regularly again.
I have a lot of negative emotion about having fallen off the wagon, but I've kept books in view and have been reading them bit by bit and trying some of the smaller exercises described.
I felt like this wasn't "good enough", but now I feel like it's a healthy and concrete step to my larger goal.
You're great to listen to, lots of enthusiasm and passion so it's easy to stay hooked on a video.
So glad you have a sponsor, you so deserve it. Thank you for keeping your content free ❤
The timing of this video is funny. I didn't watch it yesterday, but it's was literally yesterday where I was thinking about how I feel I've watched enough videos on a topic I want to get better at and how I need to focus on moving into the _doing._ 🤣
No one can convince me that Dr K doesn’t read our minds. The timing is way too accurate
He's just hacking The Matrix, don't worry about it.
you are not in the front of the steering wheel
Recently I am studing and improving really well in academics. I use some of the dr.k's tips to become intrinsically motivated. I can totally relate to this video. I have gone through these steps, I guess thats why I am more consistent and discipline now towards my goals.
Thanks dr k. Genuinely what I needed as ive been stuck in the thinking phase for a while
I can confirm from experience that organically followed this steps for 2 activities that are today my passion, without even knowing it. And yes, many times I fell into the endelss curiosity with things that also wanted to be involved with. Excelent content Dr. K. thank you!
I like that the process described here occurs naturally in every person. I reflect to this so much! In my experience, sometimes it's a little difficult to get motivated to do stuff.
Sometimes I want to do a lot of stuff, others I'm burnt out and I don't wanna do anything. But, whenever I do get curious about something, I get like 200% invested: I start watching RUclips videos about it, learning about the subject and how to do stuff, basically spending a ton of time on it. I also get to the point of transition, and so I start asking myself lots of questions, like "hmm, what do I wanna do within this?", "if I do it like this, then this would be the result, but then..."
My issue is always here, because with curiosity and internal motivation also comes doubt, and insecurity. I'm often afraid of screwing it up, and that fear paralyzes me.
Wouldn't that be a good stage in the process to apply "reframing" tricks in order to transform rather paralyzing narratives into more motivating ones?
For example:
1. We could reframe the first question as: "hmm, Once I start taking action I will surely come up with so many great ideas on what to do within this, that it will be a tough but very satisfying decison process! Yeah! Let's go for it!!!"
2. Or we could also change the paralyzing "but" sentence into a "despite" one by reformulating:
"if I do "A", then "B" would be the result, BUT then "C" ..."
into something like:
"If I do "A", then, IN SPITE OF "C" (which in itself will be a great challenge indeed!), the very desirable "B" will be the result! (So, yeah, let's go for it!) "
And so on...
@@jeronimominino339 that's such a good idea!
It's hard for me to catch myself and snap out of my usual train of thoughts whenever I get trapped in fear, but I'll practice this change of mindset from now on.
Today I was talking with my friend about something similar, and I got to a conclusion: when we want to change a bad habit, it's important to always be ready to correct us EVERY TIME we find ourselves falling into the patterns of the bad habit. It's not about avoiding behaviour, but to recognize it each time it comes and snapping out of it (also, it might be even more important to replace the bad habit with a good one, and not just to remove it).
Reading the examples was especially helpful. Thank you so much!
Perfect timing for people starting new life from 1st day of the month. Dr K knew his audience 😁
Love your videos. I think you're doing great work helping people out with them. In these times, people, myself included, kind of need it. 🔥🔥
One of the biggest blessings in my life is... This channel
Hey, Dr.K. Would it be possible to add these shorter videos to the RUclips Music app? Like the 'Interviews' playlist already there, I would love to be able to listen to these videos with my screen off; saving some battery 🔋 and some data 👍🏼
this lines up really well with why many people get really good at art or writing via fanart or fanfic.
1/2. the situational exposure is naturally motivated by wanting content of the media you love, engaging with a fandom, etc.
3. after doing that for a long time and admiring others and fostering ideas, eventually you start making things of your own. people will be very forgiving & accepting of amateur works too, bc Look! Someone else who loves the thing i love! yay!
4. after sharing your works with friends and getting feedback and improving, when you post it there are already so many fan platforms out there perfectly set up for maximum engagement and support.
I find there's a difference between home and my retail work. At home, it's hard for me to start doing something like cleaning my room, cook, etc. It's so easy for me to sit and do nothing.
But when I'm at work, wooh, I just CANNOT stay still. I will always try to find something to do.
the change of enviroment is really something wonderful, happened to me too, i wonder if theres a way to use that to one advantage at home to fix habits
Same for me I've been thinking about doing something like renovating my place to change the environment maybe it'll stimulate me to action
Probably because the lack of real pressure. There is probably nobody at home threatening to fire you if you don't appear to be busy all day.
Honestly I think it's because you use all your energy at work.
When I come home from work I'm always stressed and drained that I don't feel like doing any work at home. All I can think about is playing that game or watching that show to get my brain away from all the stressers of the day.
this video was so reassuring that i am on the right path. I see how many people around me are neither a thinker or a doer but just overwhelmed about everyone’s obsessesion or success and just accept the thought of “it is what it is, only if I was rich like that guy then i would be able to accompish something”.
“There's only two types of people in the world
The ones that entertain, and the ones that observe” - Britney
@@SheenaHongMusic best comment
LMAOOO she said "according to the Gospel of Britney..." *chef's kiss* kind of comment.
This video is exactly what i needed. the last few months i have been asking myself why i have these curiousities, but don't follow up on them. Exploring new hobbies etc.. It all makes sense now..
Dr K keeping me sane everyday.
*curiousity spark* (wanna see more) [ext]
1. expose urself more - more input to feed curiousity [ext]
2. theory crafting (asking urself questions) [instrin]
3. think abt other ppl in the space, appreciate how they do stuff
4. when confident and more established, incorporate more feedback
I'm going to have to review this video again, this seems really good!
I can see these steps in my own life, like my experience with Team Fortress 2. At first I was just exposed to the game through RUclips videos from people like LazyPurple. I then started to play the game and would take knowledge from the videos and think about how I would want to apply it to my game. I think the fourth step is my biggest hurdle, because I've wanted to improve but never made it too far beyond that.
Thank you for the video!
Excellent! Matches others’ take from a different POV: the seemingly magical effect of affirmations.
0:44 what about those who don't get motivated at all? neither by external circumstances nor by internal?
They stay in the corner for the rest of their lives
@vaishnavisoni186 Don't follow the motivation, follow your curiosity. Pick literally anything, anything at all, that interests you. Only invest enough to get a basic understanding if you're short on time or energy.
The things that you keep coming back to or that you think about while you're trying to sleep are the ones you should try putting a bit more time and effort into. The rest should start falling into place from there.
I have said this once before, and I will say it again. The videos that this man is making are so spot on and to the point that I just can't believe I have never heard it before. Everything Dr K says makes complete sense to me and I thought there was no answer to the nagging questions of my mind but this man has satiated those questions. Thank you Dr K.
Is that why people say “Never share your success until you’ve actually done it”? 15:22
I always see a comment like this, but man this was a perfectly timed upload lol. I've been struggling so much with how to create intrinsic motivation for a few days and then this pops up in my feed.
This reminds me so much of a book I read once about how to study more effectively and quickly. The main takeaway I got was that after studying, you need to try to recall the information that you learned, then you need to play around with the information. Sounds just like theory crafting in step 3. Awesome video.
What I found is that if your reasons to do something are good enough, motivation will follow. You just need to figure out why it really is that you want to do something, even if the return of the action is less obvious and noticeable in the long term.
I’m 49 years of age. When I was 19 years old, I joined the military and simply picked up discipline from during my stint in service. Motivation gets you going, discipline keeps you growing!!!
im still in the intro, but i wanted to share why this intro makes me look forward to the video.
im way too late with my transition. wanted to start as a teenager, but didnt.
during this time of me waiting to finally get to the point where im gonna do it, i did alot of important survival stuff. like studying and learning a job. and it was always fueled by anger about my situation and wanting to change it sometime in the future.
im done now. im so much healthier in practically every aspect. but i don't know anymore how to motivate myself to do stuff now that my anger is gone.
i now notice that i never in my life explicitly motivated me intrinsically. i have a life now. i have dreams. i can and want to do stuff. but i dont...
im so looking forward to this video. :)
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the video just teached me that i was doing it right as a kid and lost it when growing up, trying to listen to all the bad but well-intended advice...
so i actually do know what intrinsic motivation is like.
now i just need to tap into what child me did right.
that'll be interesting. lets goooo! :)
how old r u .. im 34 and still cant do anything long term.
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 same age bracket. not much difference.
I was discussing with myself the reason why it worked for me like a minute ago. i dont have a clear concise answer yet. but i can share my suspicion.
so i was always the odd one. i knew i was trans at 4 yo. i never fit in anywhere and all i had going for me was academia. i constantly had a book in my face. i loved learning and because everyone else was so much against it, i identified with it, thinking that was the reason i was different. (it took me a while to figure out that guys dont typically cry themselves to sleep wishing they'd wake up as girls every day...)
so i never really considered having my own learning style to be weird. im weird naturally anyway, so whatever. 🤷🏻♀️
thus i always followed my instinct and that was theorycrafting. i discuss with myself alot. i want to learn and to understand. and if possible apply practically.
so i guess i ended up doing exactly what dr.K described in this video all on my own. but i was constantly thinking im doing it wrong, because no one else does it like i do AND everyone says smt completely different about how motivation works.
so what did i do during my teenage years and beyond? i stopped doing this and adapted myself to the way everyone else was doing it. failing ofcourse.
except if it was really important to me, which rarely happened. then i went back to my own weird, but functional way.
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 seems like youtubes ai ate my long answer...
same age bracket.
i started randomly doing what dr k is talking about as a kid. and until this video I didn't realize I was actually doing it right. as a kid i adapted to the world around me and did it wrong for most things in my life...
That’s really interesting, and I’m glad you’re in a more secure place. Yeah, with something as strong as anger and gender dysphoria, I can imagine how it could be hard to act based on “weaker” and less visceral motivations. I hope you find them. ⭐️
Very cool video. Listened through this and relate heavily. This is a POV I built over time: Nobody is born good. Everybody who is good at something had to be bad first. Therefore I try stuff and I never judge myself and let the joy and my curiosity take the lead, which has given me the ability to do things and execute smoothly without being stuck in thinking and has been so far the most effecient learning experience.
Creating a RUclips channel can demonstrate the importance of feedback timing quite well. For example, I've known many new channel creators who quit early on because they started with a subject they were not yet so confident in, some of the feedback was brutal, and it destroyed their motivation. However, those who can stomach it (or perhaps that element of "over-confidence" that winning athletes are also found to have), or who started their channels as a way to expand on their up and coming expertise, found a wealth of knowledge in the feedback to continue to learn and grow; the final-phasers, as you said 🍻💪
Great theme that can apply to many modalities- thank you, Dr. K and team!
I have been thinking of starting a channel for one of my interests and this comment really helps with my decision
This video is mind bending. Thanks for making this.
I remember when I was getting into drawing when I was younger and I used to go to this online forum of concept artists (not sure if it still exists) and a lot of what I encountered there felt very judgmental toward what beginners did. Like, drawing anime stuff was WRONG. Sketching a character without using basic shapes as a basis was WRONG. Drawing less than an hour a day was WRONG. It didn’t matter if an amateur was drawing MS Paint-level Sailor Moon fan art just for fun… ’cause they should be LEARNING HOW TO SHADE A CUBE. So for a long time I thought the artistic community was very judgy and even hostile. That kind of “feedback” really tends to be discouraging when someone is starting a new hobby. Nowadays, with the advent of AI and artists exhorting people who use image generators to “try and pick up a pencil,” I often hear the argument of how friendly and willing to help beginners the artistic community is. To me that came off as a surprise. And probably a beginner in the right kind of community on Twitter or Cara would have absolutely no idea what I mean by judgy and hostile. I still dabble in drawing, but it always feels like someone is watching me over my shoulder and criticizing what I’m doing. So, yeah, avoiding feedback during the curiosity and exposure phases (at the very least) could prevent the emergence of many frustrated artists/athletes/etc. in the future. Unless they ask for it. After all, no one is under the obligation to become good at or an expert in a certain activity that is sought initially out of innocuous interest.
I have been working on a game since February this year, and I was super motivated for about 5 months. Then in June I suddenly became unmotivated, and I've been searching for the reason on why I can't get back to working as hard as I was. Asking myself, what is different about me. Your statement about your mind not seeing overcoming the negative emotion worth it, really resonated with me. I realized that I didn't see the work that I was doing on my game (adding in art assets to create animations and creating ai for my enemies) worth giving up my distractions of playing video games. I know that absorbing self help knowledge doesn't by itself change your mindset, which is why I had stopped absorbing your content. I felt that I had overcome my distractions. But without it, I didn't maintain my interest in this mindset; therefore, reverting back to my original degen gamer mindset.
Anyways, love the content, thanks for everything!
I love theorycrafting. But for some reason I never make it past that point. Even in games. I spent pretty close to 20 hours over a week theorycrafting a build for elden ring and only ever played the game for about an hour. What am I doing wrong at that point? Shouldn't I want to play after doing that? This is pretty consistent for all areas of my life. I find something, I research it, I spend days if not weeks thinking and theorycrafting and when it comes time to start applying it I give up immediately.
Could it be fear of failure? Maybe force yourself to do it once, let failure happen, and then see how you feel next time
Props for accepting the sponsorship by Proton, it's such a nice product that I don't know how I've lived without it. And no, I'm not a bot, but if I were, I'd be happy to tell you the ad blocker really does wonders all across the devices I'm using lol
If I'm starting to understand this correctly, the important part between building curiosity and touch with certain thing and next part of "theorycrafting" is also if we WANT TO theorycraft - if our predispositions, talents or attention is willing and enjoying the analysis, comparing, creativity and craft of our perspective/performance/creations in that specific thing - if we match it with our values and importance of that thing for world according to us. If not, maybe it's better to try something new after some time.
Man this explains why the passion that stuck with me is the passion that I discovered reviewing my thoughts & work at end of the day helped me learn more. I started naturally doing that step 3 turning into a doer
4:54 is where it gets interesting
This is one of the best video of Dr. K for me. Especially since I like to hop around and learn different hobbies/forms of art.
Let's check it out.
My man! Finally a content creator that promotes a VPN that's NOT based in a country of the "Fourteen Eyes Alliance", an international agreement that basically allows the government of those 14 countries to force the VPN provider to collect and share your data with their secret intelligence services.
Plus props to Proton for spotting the right ally for the sponsorship! The no-log and open access stuff is very in line with your honesty❤
I'm sadly in the group that thinks about doing stuff... I've been trying this year to get more involved in things that I've been avoiding, but it's so fucking hard. I'm scared to death of making mistakes, I think that's the biggest thing. I'm worried about changing jobs and hating the new job and having a worse schedule and stuff like that (or not even find a job). I also worry about investing time and money into things and then not following through because I easily lose interest in stuff. I get bored easily. I don't have a one passion that burns so hard I wanna pursue it to the end of the world. I like many things, many many, but nothing quite like that, nothing that I feel would be right for me to pursue.
ADHD? :) I have no idea how I got over of making mistakes, maybe through actually making a few and barely getting any bad outcomes overall. It's wild people are nice and reasonable, however lately fucked up big time, perhaps. Customer still sounded through phone like oh no, what? instead of WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU DO or such. I'm currently thinking talking to company owner again, cause for some reason head went again into improving my workstyle and changing the job itself, but got an intersting tip from a friend... need receipts of my actions, so I'm like FK it I'll do my own thing and try to record the actions. Me forgeting to take pictures FUCK... well at least I'm doing things. Investing money and time is sadly part of the process, probably :) I'm all over the place that I'm in debt, but my logic is I can't save money so I should take loans, cause I'll manage somehow in the end, stupid but works. If I get out of loans, then I can try saving again, but It has never shown any promise.
@@gamerdweebentertainment1616 i have tried getting diagnosed for ADHD but I had a really unpleasant time with it. the doctor that saw me refused to diagnose me with anything, saying i have my life "well put together" and that i can't possibly have ADHD, even though i actually check like... 70% of the boxes or more. i'm not sure if i have it or not myself, and idk how i feel about trying to pursue another diagnosis, because at this point it would feel like i'm forcing myself to have an excuse for my lack of direction and motivation. it's true that my life seems well put together, but that's because i always play safe instead of doing things i'd genuinely care for. i have savings, live somewhat comfortably, but at the cost of my sanity
have courage, my friend. it's okay. so what, if you fail? you can also fly. but without trying you will reach nowhere. you miss 100 per cent of the shots you don't take. make well-informed decisions, but make them.
This is incredibly eye opening. For my one interest that I've had for my entire childhood it absolutely followed this and hearing it spoken out loud connected so many dots.
Gonna follow through and watch this video to the end
I think you are describing a recurrent iterative process from external data to internal and back to external. The internal phases are building schemas and heuristics and the external is model building and validation. I think there is a link with creativity, specifically the third phase. So it would be 1. Stimulus and interest 2. Curiosity and data gathering 3. Creativity and heuristic building 4. Testing and validation.
I am an also a doctor and I found with each of the very difficult postgraduate exams I say I had to learn to study again. Now I realise I was building motivation by researching how to study and building a new schema
*Larry Burkett's book on "Giving and Tithing" drew me closer to God and helped my spirituality. 2020 was a year I literally lived it. I cashed in my life savings and gave it all away. My total giving amounted to 40,000 dollars. Everyone thought I was delusional. Today, 1 receive 85,000 dollars every two months. I have a property in Calabasas, CA, and travel a lot. God has promoted me more than once and opened doors for me to live beyond my dreams. God kept to his promises to and for me*
There's wonder working power in following Kingdom principles on giving and tithing. Hallelujah!
But then, how do you get all that in that period of time? What is it you do please, mind sharing?
It is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer. A lot of folks in the US and abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household Thank you Jesus
And thanks to my co-worker (Michael) who suggested Ms Susan Jane Christy
How can I start this digital market, any guidelines and how can I reach out to her?
Finally, I found my source of wisdom on RUclips! Thank you doctor for being a great teacher and positively influencing the youth with such profound knowledge.
People who only do stuff on deadline are motivated by fear of failure, people who are intrinsically motivated are motivated by want/values
This is exactly what I needed. All my life I have had lots of interests in multiple fields. And after years I find that I have never stick with anything at all. And after decades of having goals I think that are important to me, but have never follow through or be consistent enough in anything. Now I only wish that I had.
Jungians: Ti vs Te
Those that seek to understand on a deterministic, mechanical level are usually the "thinker" type. But those that just wanna throw shit at a wall and see what sticks are the usual "doer" types. What usually gets left out is the implicit overvaluation of doing, not to say that concrete actions aren't valuable, but the reason action is their method is because they want to find out; "fuck around and find out" by definition.
Whilst "thinkers" are less 'productive' (btw by who's standards), "doers" are less understanding, and anecdotal evidence and empiricism becomes their statistical shield to hide from inefficient decisions and poorly thought-out plans (if any). On the other hand, "thinkers" tend to spend too much time considering and end up psyching themselves out from any action whatsoever, so while society tends to overvaluate doing, its only useful in the context of committing to more action for chronic thinkers. Overindexing on "doing" leads to poor decisions and wastage of time.
let me guess: you are a thinker.
Your comment spoke to me. Fellow Jungian here. We should talk!
I like your post and i agree, however also important to consider the extroverted observers Se/Ne, tbh. An ESTP/ENTP even though valuing Ti over Te can be quite the doers cause they value Se/Ne over Ti. Especially ESTPs(pretty sure its my type).
I also like brute forcing things, and after I wanna know why it works. I am also ok with "shotgun accuracy". Blast the problem and if it's at least 80% ok I am good.
Se and Te together can be quite caveman mind though, 😂 jocko willink comes to mind. Strong ape with bonk power 😅
What do you think dr k is BTW? Pretty sure he has ENTP preferences but could also be INTP. He seems extremely balanced on Ti and Fe
@@jake_with_the_BIG_snake this INTJ is shocked by the caveman comparison, but alright, i can see it, too. unleash the Se, blunt object goes bonk bonk
let me guess: you are a heavy Ti user
This could be why bands work. I have been able to be more consistent making music because my friends all make music aswell so we are inspired at different times. Kinda fills in the inspirational gaps until it becomes more internal.
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Yo, I thought about the same😭
Now I understand why certain things stuck and certain things did not..... Thanks so much. I'm going to try apply this consciously to the next thing I want to do!
Hey, this ad really has an active influence on the therapy process 0:12
Bless
@@krzysztofsmoa9551 Responding to your own comment?
honeslty this was the only reason why i got very interested in cites skylines so i naturally went down this path without understanding how my curiosity led to me taking action and now this breakdown allows me to understand how curiousity and refelction can be good for me
"Watching this video gave me the inspiration I needed to finally make some positive changes in my life. Thank you for always being a source of motivation and encouragement!"
Thank you for making and sharing this. Now I understand why I don’t chase some things that I like
You slowly creeped into my feeds as shorts, now YT is recommend full
Videos.. and I’m glad for it.
This is one of the most helpful, on point RUclips videos I’ve ever encountered. You are truly incredible in your presentation and communication of a very difficult and obstinate subject to deal with in life. You’re a great asset to anyone looking to grow and continue growing. Thank you!
I've had a lot of interests that right as I'm about to start actually doing things or while I'm still absorbing content, people will give me unsolicited feedback that will make me feel like a total dunce or that it's not worth the money or the effort to try and do the things. After repeatedly dealing with this, it's become super difficult for me to actually do things that once interested me and the influence has actually knocked out my curiosity and interest in those things.
it happens. if you can’t use the spite of wanting to prove people wrong as motivation to at LEAST get you to stage 4, you can try looking online or to other people involved in that hobby for feedback on how to push thru; often just hearing someone you see as Super Skilled telling you about their initial doubts can really help.
idk what interests you’re talking about, but aside from reddit and youtube i joined a free writing group at my library for this, and every time i go i want to write the SECOND i get out. i also hear people read their works that vary from “oh my god. you are so inspiring” to “i could probably write that! actually, i think i might even have feedback for YOU”
@crstph well I finally got into 3D printing after years of not getting started... but I've been putting off 3D sculpting, leather work, general cosplay prop making, small robotics/IOT projects, etc etc.
Past knowledge creates curiosity, curiosity drives learning. But if you go ahead to know a bit more of knowledge without doing/learning anything, you'll be left alone in a desert of thought where the knowledge is no more familiar to you. So you dismiss the knowledge as boring/too difficult without learning the thing. Yeah, your video requires a bit more of the focus to understand.
But thank you for bringing this up.
I've just recently started watching your videos as I came across one and just thought to subscribe because I am an aspiring clinical psychologist, and your videos really help me out and gives me an idea about how it is going to be like once I achieve my goal thank you so much.
I am in the 11th grade right now, and psychology is one of my favorite subjects even since I entered in grade 11th, and it really fascinates me, and your videos are like a cherry on top.
I agree that negative feedback can be bad, but positive is mostly good. My mom always made us feel like we are the best at doing something. She didn't overdo it but she made us feel like we are doing progress. And I turned out to be quite good at certain things. I would have never gone that far if my mom (and dad) didn't give me that confidence.
One of your most important videos. Thank you so much for putting all this knowledge out here. ❤
Wow literally the best and maybe the most important video I have evr watched in my life
ah theory crafting is often where i get stuck! even with hobbies i used to theory craft in, i now find myself constantly researching to find the “best” way to do something bc i fundementally feel like my own ideas are not good enough. time to build more self confidence!
This is such a good point! I often see videos about "how to learn to code" encouraging independent projects instead of copying code from someone else. Your commend made me realize this is exactly why: if you don't do it yourself, you're not going to build up your confidence...