it's so strange to me that watching stephs vlogmas last year feels like yesterday but also like I've changed so much circumstances have changed so much and it's so comforting that there's some one who feels the same way
I’m a silent watcher but it’s people like you who are so expressive about their introverted personalities and embracing the importance of being alone and spending time with yourself to be introspective that makes me feel less alone in this world
The quote “ the most beautiful part of your body is where it’s headed & remember loneliness is still time spent with the world “ is from my all time favourite poet Ocean Vuong and hearing you say it makes me feel like we are twins souls because this quote and his work has changed my whole life. His book On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous is one of the most beautiful stories I’ve ever had the privilege to read, it’s my magnum opus. I read a poem of his out in my English class and two people started crying and that was a time when I thought how much of an impact I can have on people and the beauty of sharing art, so thank you for sharing with us everyday ,as a lonely person who hasn’t been able to see their friends in a while I feel like I have a friend in these videos,it brings me so much solace ❤you are so loving and so loved.
"If it is meant for you, you cannot mess it up. If it is not for you, you cannot fix it." I REALLY needed to hear that. This was such a beautiful video and I loved hearing your thoughts on learning, changing, and all that fun stuff that comes with growing up. Thank you for sharing with us, you've inspired me to do my own reflecting & journaling today ❤❤
everytime Steph says "im gonna shut up, i talked so much" i feel like it hasnt even passed that much time, and wish she would talk even more. i enjoyed this video so much, probably one of my favorites of all time, ilysm
this video really spoke to me in ways I cannot explain: I'm 16 and everyday I wake up so bored at the world and that's not because the world is boring it's because of my choices I make and I'm the only one who can change that. a quote that has followed me into 2024 is: " you cannot find peace by avoiding life" and "but then it passed like all things do" because we only have one life and NOTHING is impossible we just think things are because we don't want to dedicate our soul and passion into things we know we love, sometimes life feels lonely knowing I know what I want but don't know where to start and that's okay !! the time is going to pass either way, there's a version of you six months from now that already exists. there's two versions of you ahead; there's the version of you where nothing changes and there's the version of you where everything changes. but the difference between which one you end up with is completely up to you, set those goals and boundaries !!
i'm breaking my silent watcher status to say that seeing you reflect on your year resonated with me SO much and i needed to hear some of the things you had to say to reflect on my own year. this year i turned 20 and came to the realization that mistakes are bound to be made, but you shouldn't hold that against yourself. sometimes as perfectionists we forget this, but it's so deeply important to hold space for yourself to explore life without the constant fear of making mistakes along the way. in the wise words of taylor swift: if you never bleed you're never gonna grow
omg the quotes & just the way u journal in general rlly just struck a chord in me and i didn't even realise how much resonate with it.. as a question of the day, could u make a video or talk abt how u journal? bc i love the way u express your thoughts and feelings, this video just made me feel so seen 🤍
I'm 19 rn and recently I have been having so much anxiety about life, adulting, feel like I'm so behind everyone. I've never felt this anxious before. Videos like this heal my soul ❤
BEST VIDEO OF VLOGMAS EVER MADE!!!!! ...this vid made me feel so emotional and the quotes you said just hit so hard and the way you were reflecting on 2024 was emotionally amazingly impeccable!!!
steph, you have changed my life. i have been so much happier and its all because of you! as you mentioned in the video, you have taught me how to look at life in a happier lense and be excited to wear the new raincoat instead of complaining about the rain. your videos have also showed me that its okay to be alone and off my phone and i have reconnected with so many of my childhood hobbies outside of my studies and ballet like reading, coloring, and baking. i am forever grateful for you and your videos!
Hey Steph, I am usually a silent watcher but I felt like I needed to comment on this video. This is one of my favorites from this years vlogmas. I turned 30 this year and I have been reflecting on my 20s and what I want to accomplish in my 30s. Your reflections are helping me with that. You are so mature and I love hearing your perspective on the world. I can't wait to hear about your goals for 2025.
I learned that the secret to fulfillment is not success or perfection. The secret is the ability to sit with yourself, not because you’re afraid no one else will, but because you like your own company.
Hi I am a silent watcher! This video has inspired me to comment about my 2024. To say the least it’s been a very rough year for me. Long story short I’ve spent the majority of the year going through surgeries and recovery due to a moped accident where in I tore both my acls and meniscus’s. I’ve basically spent everyday learning to walk again and a lot of time laying in bed with nothing to do but read and watch tv and RUclips. Most of my time has been spent alone which has given me a whole new outlook on my life. I am a very extroverted person, but spending all this time alone has made me realize I can do things on my own. I’ve had time to reflect on the things I want to do to live my life to the fullest when I am completely healed. There’s so many times that I could have let my situation take a toll on my mental health but thanks to videos like this I remember to look at the bright side of everything. This year my life has felt like it’s been on pause, I’ve been vicariously living through your Charleston videos, but I’m in the home stretch of my recovery and planning to make 2025 my best year yet. Also my birthday is on Friday and yesterday I was going a little crazy feeling like I’m getting old and like there should’ve been so much more I’ve done with my life by now, but today after this video I have a whole new thought process. “Loneliness is still time spent with the world” is exactly what I needed to hear in this moment in my life. I don’t have to look at this year as lonely anymore, I can look at it as and experience that I got to live and become stronger because of. I’ve grown so much in a way I never would of other wise. I just wanted to say thank you, and to anyone else going through hard times, find the good in everything and it will get better!
I have two questions about journaling! When you journal, do you write names? Sometimes I want to write about new crushes, or old crushes, or vent about someone, and I want to write their name, but I worry someone's going to read it. And second question, do you ever reread your journal entries?
i honestly never thought anyone experiences the same thing with answering their messages, i have never felt that seen in my life. Like wow, thank you for sharing that and putting it into words. And I also wanted to tell you, that you are just such an inspiring person through and through, thank you! And i loooveee your vlogmas so much!!!♥️
Hi, Steph! I don’t comment often, but when you talk about the whole thing you have with responding messages you have helped me so much. The breakthrough you had with the book you mentioned, I had it with you when you talked about it the first time. I felt so much more normal that someone else also does that. I feel so bad for doing it, but seeing someone I like do it, made me feel less of a bad person for not answering the people I love. I’m 30 and I still struggle with it, but I have been working on it and I noticed that small steps are important to build our confidence, since it is about being afraid of answering something wrong, or not being nice enough or in general trying to be perfect and being anxious. I hope you try to get better at it and that you know you’re loved and nobody thinks all this bad things going on your head, hahaha ❤
I don't comment muvh but this video made me feel comfortable with this year. It wad probably one of my hardest years and I didn't like it much but watching this video made me realize how much it helped me grow and how much I appreciate life now and I carish those memories with me. Change is always good and it took me a really hard time to realize that. So I wanted to thank you for making me see the other view and I learned a lot and I'm glad we had a lot of stuff in common this year, I'm sencerly honored about that. Hope this year will be even better for you and for me and everyone reading this. With sencer appreciation and love, your ghost fan
it's so interesting to me how we all seem to have similar revelations in our early twenties and i'm glad you're sharing yours with us. it makes it all sink in even more
I resonated with the things you’ve learned this year so much. I am trying to find out what I enjoy outside my phone thus I deleted all my social media (expect RUclips obviously) and I’m making time to try out new hobbies. I’m only just starting now but I’m excited where I’m gonna be at during and at the end of it. You’re videos bring me so much joy, thank you for sharing 🤍
steph!! you should read “never let me go” by kazuo ishiguro. zero smut, childhood yearning and amazing twists! it’s a book that really gets you thinking
Question of the day as a silent watcher (we’re all cropping up now and I love it!) what is your go to perfume? Are you a floral or vanilla girly (I’m gourmand!) ❤
The way you really feel like a person than a youtuber is amazing. Often I feel there is a different between me and the youtuber I am watching, like they are above me in some way. But with you Steph, you really feel just like a woman living her life and showing your ups and downs. There is no faking, nothing of you being above us, you are just you and I love it. You have, what, almost 800k followers but you act like any normal person. I feel more connected to you than anyother youtuber. You are so authentic. You are such a light in my day❤ I always get happy when I watch your videos❤
11:45 your speaking to my soul right now! I also had to move after middle school and high school years weren’t the best at my new state. Whenever someone asks where I’m from idk what to say because I’m not really from anywhere, really.. and it’s hard to make friends so late in life because I feel like everyone already has their friend groups established. It’s a very hard and lonely feelings at times so I’m glad that your sharing your experiences ❤
i’ve been watching you since 2021 and can i just say that i feel so proud to see how far you’ve come! seeing you find your place and people & enjoying your life, i feel like a proud sister
The hardest lesson I learned this year was that you can work harder than you ever have at something or be the best you’ve ever been at something and there will still be people who will tell you you’re not good enough. And as hard as it is to get over wanting someone’s approval or affirmation you have to get over it because the only person’s approval that should matter is your own and the only person who truly has your back at the end of the day is you.
Silent watcher here. Steph, I've been watching your videos since the beginning. I have also watched the videos that were taken down 😂 I want to share something, though. During your last vlogmas, I moved to another country. Canada. I'm from India. So, I was thousand miles away. It was also, my first flight. This year, I've finally settled in and I know who I am. What a journey. 15:50 Also, I used to hate that I never left my hometown but when you said, "at least you had a hometown!" I felt so incredibly grateful to have a place I can always go back to. Love you sm ❤
the whole reminder about how i get to choose my life and i’m in control just blew my mind. you help more than you know and i’m so proud of us for the women we’re becoming 🤍
I can’t believe it’s been a year of following u steph! I found you from last years reflecting on 2023 video and you immediately my favorite RUclipsr. Looking forward to another amazing year of books and vlogs! ❤️🤗
I accomplished my goal of doing a solo trip for the first time and of meeting new people by going to a girl club in Paris where I met some of the most incredible girls I know. To meet new people and embrace my passions, I did a creative retreat and a book camp and they were so amazing ! Live your life for you and spend your money on things that make you happy, not others !
I cannot express how much I love you Steph, so much. I woke up today and felt the disappointment from the people around me, especially those I respected so much. I handled it like how I felt was the most appropriate, but I can’t help to feel lonely and just out of it. I knew that I did my best, but it also felt like I could have done way better. Anyway, this video really reassured me of things. We can’t please everyone, and it certainly does not matter what they think of you as long as you know in yourself that you’re a good person. I really needed to hear that today so thank you :) I think watching you and listening to your perspective in life has really influenced me to become a better and more mature, loving and caring person. You may not feel it, but you have helped so many of us struggling to go through life. And although we’re all going through different problems, we’re somehow all experiencing it similarly; learning the same lessons; and applying it to our life which makes it so much better to live in. What I’m trying to say is: you are in the middle of completing your purpose in life. You said it was to love and be loved, and to spend our time being able to empathize and feel one another. That’s exactly what you’re doing right now. You’re not just uploading these videos and talking to your subscribers, no. You are influencing us to love, you are giving us love. And we love so much more because of you, so thank you :) Please always remember this.
I'm trying to be kinder to myself and you have made this so much easier, thank you genuinely Steph :-). Being able to reflect gently with myself and not criticise myself for what I've not achieved and instead focused on where I am now has left me feeling hopeful, I feel less alone watching your videos, thank you for all you have done :-)
thank you for continuously making my day everyday this entire month, you hv no idea how grateful i am for you filming editing and uploading these vlogs everyday, it genuinely means the world! ilyy! 🫶🏼💌
Silent watcher here : These vlogs became a part of my day , I genuinely don’t know what I’ll watch after vlogmas ends and Steph stops posting daily 🥲your vlogs are comforting and entertaining I appreciate the hard work you put into them !
Question of the day: Have you ever been to therapy? If not, would you like to go? When i tried it, It change my life Hi from Argentina!🇦🇷 I've been a fan since 2021❤
I’ve been watching you since the pandemic and seeing how much you’ve grown as a person since then is so cool. Watching this video has motivated me to journal and change some aspects of my life. Thank you for being an inspiration to me 🩷
I have learned that even when loneliness can be considered the worst thing ever , its better than surrounding yourself with people who only have time for you when they are alone. Those people consumed my energy and made me feel so bad for so long and now after cutting them off i am focusing on myself and loving myself more. And i have also learned to stop trying to control everything and accept the fact that sometimes things gonna happen and you have to deal with them and have faith that things will become better soon ❤
i also keep a list of things i am learning this year, some of my faves: you can only meet people as far as they have met (or are willing to meet) themselves, it's okay if you are not good at something you previously were, a huge part of growing up is in fact walking around and trying 100 different versions of yourself, pour your love into the cup without focussing on whether it is drunk, you are exactly where you are meant to be and please shutdown your laptop instead of putting it on sleepmode.
I honestly love your videos I am a silent watcher I am moving in a few months and I’m so terrified!!! But seeing you move and hearing you say you are the only one who can change/ switch your life up motivates me so much!!!! I feel like I can relate to you so much♥️
seeing u talk about such raw and emotional things honestly is what makes you my forever favorite. it’s always been like we’ve been on a facetime call, and you’ve been my “best friend”. i’ve learned SO SO many things from you, and am so grateful for your vlogmas. thank you so much steph. 🤍🤍
what you were saying about hometowns really resonates with me i don't think i've ever felt more seen! i've had a similar experience to you and i can't wait for the day i find my forever home like you have xxx
It felt so full-circle moment watching u reflect on the past year.... The most important thing I learned in 2024 is "you're on your own kid". 2023 was a shitty year for me so I started this year with a vow that I won't cry (atleast for stupid silly things). I needed to take time for myself & just be OK with being by myself. People come & go but at the end of the day it's just me & my mind. No parents, friends or anyone else is going to be there for you at every step in life, so better be self-sufficient. I had a very formative year & am very proud of myself the way I evolved up until my bday in October (I turned 22 yay). A couple weeks after my bday, my uncle passed away & it came as a massive shock to everyone in the family. Life just stopped suddenly & every thing, every plan just went out the window. Now 2 months after it, we're all still reeling & trying to get back to normal as much as we can. Currently life feels heavy but can't wait for 2025 to bring some blessings ❤ Love watching your videos since the beginning. Please don't ever stop.... All my love from India ❤️❤️ -Aryaa
i am a silent watcher but i needed to comment this. thank you so much for explaining how hard it is for you to answer texts and emails because the same happens to me. i will research into it now but i've spent the last few years getting mad at myself because i am so bad at answering texts and i don't really know why. you're the first person that i hear has the same problem so thank you so much! 2025 goals: we will get pass this problem !
steph!! this was my favorite vlogmas video like why am i crying!! i’m so proud of you and everything you’ve accomplished this year. question: would you ever do a meetup in charleston or in real life book club meeting w/ the besties in patron??
hiiii im catching up on ur vlogmas rn but the entirety of this conversation fully resonated w me, esp as someone who shares similar personality traits (infp girlie to ur infj) and current life ambitions. topic after topic was hit after hit and you've inspired me to achieve more of the same goals in the upcoming year. i've tackled more of my mental and identity goals and hope to get thru my more physical ones, which has been a continuous struggle for the past few years. i choose to please only myself in what i truly want and deserve in life, after figuring out what those things are. love u steph fr u are internet bestie and as parasocial as that may seem you really are such a person that makes me want to believe in myself the way you do
i actually got married this year, which is crazy to say 🥹 from reading endless romance books to experiencing it in real life…. there is soooooo much love in this world! you’re my best friend steph, thank you for being who you are
Honestly I had never heard anyone go through the same thing as me. My family moved during middle school and I have always felt like the new person. And the feeling about just wanting a home is exactly what I am experiencing. That’s was so needed to know that I’m not the only one going through that.
It's so crazy how it feels like we are on Facetime every video! Also, I am genuinely so grateful for each time you remind us how important & fulfilling it is to romanticize our everyday lives. I have always believed that the "purpose" of life is to just live it, but yet oftentimes, I find myself letting life happen TO me, so again, your reminders are so appreciated and needed at times.
I am truly enjoying your vlogmass. You are such a true inspiration. I envy you so much. I'm twice as old as you are and you've done more in your life than I have. I'm going to rewatch this video and write a lot of your inspirations, quotes and growing moments. Your the best. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us.
I love your reflection type videos so much! So I turned 25 this year and made a notes tab of 25 things I've learned at 25! Here are some of my favorites: 1- It's okay to change your mind. Only you are in control of your life. 3- Do the thing. Time will pass anyways. 5- Life will always bring darkness and despair so you must be grateful for the streams of light that find you. 6- If there are people who would rather let you drown because they're too impatient while you learn to swim, then they are people who are not worth having in your life. 7- Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. 8- A crackhead could be piss poor but still find a way to get crack. Don't be outdone by a crackhead. 9- It's okay to not know what you're doing. To feel lost. To start over and over again until it feels right for you. 14- Stay kind and honest and you will attract good people in your life. 15- If you're scared to do it, do it scared. 16- In life mistakes will always be made that leads to loss. It's okay to lose things and make mistakes even if it's difficult. From losses opportunities and knowledge may be gained as well. What is gained from losses fosters growth. 20- Never delete photo memories. Even if they're painful or cringey or "ugly" or invoke any negative emotion. Because you will want to look back and laugh for see how far you've come or reminisce. 21- Embrace rejection as a form of empowerment because you had the courage to try. 22- Grace, mercy, and kindness costs you nothing. 23- Enjoy being in the process of becoming
I’ve been a silent watcher since you began this channel from me being a freshman in high school to freshman in college. Your videos make me feel so seen. You are incredible!!!!
To answer the question, in 2024 I actually learned so much about myself, more than I think I have in a long time. I learned to balance my introversion and extroversion and how to be alone and enjoy it but also how to talk to new people and put myself out there without focusing on my anxiety and letting it control me. This year has been one of the craziest years for me full of good and bad and it helped me be grateful for life and everything I have and all the people in my life that are important to me. btw these vlogs are my advent calendar same as last year and I love them so much!
i've been trying to comment more here, because being a silent watcher is great but i wanted you to know that your videos give me so much comfort. I've been really struggling with anxiety this year, and watching your videos helped me so much, so thank you steph, and happy (early) christmas
hi steph! this year i have learned that i shouldn’t be putting effort into friendships that don’t benefit me or that i don’t like the friend and they are rude or a bully, i have learned to speak up for myself whenever i am being bullied and your videos helped me understand that so thank you so so much i am so grateful for you 💗
In 2024 I learned that I don’t need the validation from the people around me to do things that I want to do, and that’s something I’m really proud of myself for. I also learned that having more friends doesn’t necessarily mean I have MORE friends
Not me getting emotional 🥺 I really hope you’re proud of everything you’ve accomplished and challenges you’ve overcome this year. And having these reflections and also still aspiring to improve (I don’t like that word is this context like the idea of always improving and never being happy with who you are currently are that’s not what I mean) but knowing your worth and value and learning to be happy. Gosh I just love you and your gentle soul 💓
hi steph! i'm a silent watcher and have been watching you for years now & consider you to be one of my favorite youtubers. hearing you talk about how much you love living in charleston was super special because it feels like just yesterday i was watching the vlogs of you first moving there! i also feel like i have found comfort and happiness in the town i've recently moved to, so that was also very relatable for me. in regards to that though, i did wanted to ask: how did you end up making friends in a new area like that? i know it 's always hard to do that especially without school and other places with "forced proximity" like that, so i was just curious since it seems like you've built a great community!
This definitely inspired me to sit down and reflect on my goals last year and focus on goals for next year! This year I learned that nothing is ever guaranteed you can picture a life for yourself and it can all change so quickly, so being okay with change, it’s hard for me but I’m trying
i honestly learned so much about myself this year, and i feel like i found out so much about myself because i’m still really young. i found i am an independent person who honestly relies on myself and God. i’ve found so much through God this year, and just seeing how blessed i am to have grown up with a family that loves to be around me. i’ve had a lifelong goal to romanticize. my biggest one on school, i really don’t like it, but at least i can learn. instead of complaining, just realizing truly the endless amount of things i have.
‘i hope u enjoyed’ LITERALLY ONE OF MY MOST FAVE VIDEOS YOUVE EVER DONE OR IVE EVER WATCHED EVER FROM ANYONE (sorry im not shouting just excited) but i just really really loved this video and i really really love who you are and your content and your mindsets and like i know how you help me but a lot of the quotes or self-talk things you were talking about ive also done in 2024 because of you but i didn’t realise quite how much until now and i can’t thank you enough, i have standards because you taught me im enough and you taught me to not settle i love you and i think you’re so great and you’ve helped me in so many ways that it’s actually crazy and i feel like i can’t articulate what im trying to say but just know you.are.great.
Another mostly silent watcher here. Absolutely adored this and this is my favorite video ever. Cant wait to do even more journaling and reflecting tomorrow based on this! Just spent hours talking to my friends about these exact things and have never been so content. So much love to you
hi! silent watcher here, and i just wanted to say that your vlogmas is probably my favorite time of the day and i wish you all the success and happiness in the coming year!!
I have until now been a silent watcher, but i wanted to express my gratitude for this video! It’s one of my absolute favorites of yours. I wanted to run to my journal right away after watching it and write about my 2024. The way you speak and reflect is truly inspiring❤️ Love from Norway🇳🇴
Silent watcher here. I don’t think I could put into words how much I feel seen watching these vlogs. I will truly miss coming home to one of your vlogs. QOTD: What do you think is the purpose of your life and how do you want to be remembered when you’re gone? PS: I love you and your vlogs so much and I hope you know how grateful we all for you! 💗
*silent watcher here* not really a question but can you show us your sweater collection!! I need more sweater recommendations! Please! Also I might start a RUclips and I’m very nervous but you have inspired me and pushed me to achieve my goals! Love you Steph!! 🩷🩷
This video reminds me why I LOVE writing, not deep stuff, but just writing and then reading so I can understand a little bit of what it means to me. Thanks Steph🤍
this was so inspiring, just good to listen to you. You have a very sensible take on life. The thing I've learnt is that I can choose more how I spend time 😊
This is prob my favorite video of Steph! I loved all of it and I am sooooo proud of your growth throughout the year! and so happy for you to find YOUR place where you feel you belong and can call your home. I do have a place where I can call my hometown but I had never felt at home in all the houses where I lived in including the one I grew up in, up until I moved to my current place five months ago. I truly feel so grateful and happy that I live in a place where I feel at home and I want to come home to ☺ Thank you for Steph for being who you are and taking us along your journey 💫
I can relate to the roots part so much. I was born in Kansas and moved to Kentucky in middle school and now I’m graduated from college. I still have friends in both places so it’s hard thinking about which place I consider “home.” But I think it’s a beautiful thing to grow up experiencing new things and meeting so many new people
I learnt that I'm only every going to completely understand myself, and that no one, even the people closest to me, are going to see things exactly the same way. It was disappointing, but an important reality to realise.
This actually really inspired me to reflect on my year, so after I finish this video I’m going to write on my journal for hours about my year while I listen to music. Ily Steph you are such an inspiration to me💗
I discovered your channel just a year ago and today I can say that I feel you like friend, I love to see how we both have grown and evolved throughout this year. Best wishes for the new year from Spain❤
What a beautiful video Steph, MY GOD did I resonate with it a lot! I'm the same age as you, and normally I am able to relate to you so much. A lot of the things that you have learnt this year (in relation to being comfortable with yourself, loving yourself, staying true to who you are) is something that I have really worked on this year. It has always been present in my life, but I had situations this year that I learnt and grew from and have allowed me to evolve myself as a person. This has inspired me to reflect on my year as well! Thank you Steph for building this community and being open to share what you do with us xxxx
how are we already more than halfway done with vlogmas omg?! i fear i am not ready for the homesickness im abt to feel when it’s over 😫😞
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Gonna be rewatching a bunch 😭
I always feel the homesickness since I started watching steph
fr, I was so behind on the vlogs and I finally caught up and I got so sad that its almost over
it's so strange to me that watching stephs vlogmas last year feels like yesterday but also like I've changed so much circumstances have changed so much and it's so comforting that there's some one who feels the same way
I’m a silent watcher but it’s people like you who are so expressive about their introverted personalities and embracing the importance of being alone and spending time with yourself to be introspective that makes me feel less alone in this world
The quote “ the most beautiful part of your body is where it’s headed & remember loneliness is still time spent with the world “ is from my all time favourite poet Ocean Vuong and hearing you say it makes me feel like we are twins souls because this quote and his work has changed my whole life. His book On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous is one of the most beautiful stories I’ve ever had the privilege to read, it’s my magnum opus. I read a poem of his out in my English class and two people started crying and that was a time when I thought how much of an impact I can have on people and the beauty of sharing art, so thank you for sharing with us everyday ,as a lonely person who hasn’t been able to see their friends in a while I feel like I have a friend in these videos,it brings me so much solace ❤you are so loving and so loved.
This is so beautiful
So beautiful! Just ordered this book because of your comment 🤍
"If it is meant for you, you cannot mess it up. If it is not for you, you cannot fix it." I REALLY needed to hear that.
This was such a beautiful video and I loved hearing your thoughts on learning, changing, and all that fun stuff that comes with growing up. Thank you for sharing with us, you've inspired me to do my own reflecting & journaling today ❤❤
everytime Steph says "im gonna shut up, i talked so much" i feel like it hasnt even passed that much time, and wish she would talk even more. i enjoyed this video so much, probably one of my favorites of all time, ilysm
this video really spoke to me in ways I cannot explain: I'm 16 and everyday I wake up so bored at the world and that's not because the world is boring it's because of my choices I make and I'm the only one who can change that. a quote that has followed me into 2024 is: " you cannot find peace by avoiding life" and "but then it passed like all things do" because we only have one life and NOTHING is impossible we just think things are because we don't want to dedicate our soul and passion into things we know we love, sometimes life feels lonely knowing I know what I want but don't know where to start and that's okay !! the time is going to pass either way, there's a version of you six months from now that already exists. there's two versions of you ahead; there's the version of you where nothing changes and there's the version of you where everything changes. but the difference between which one you end up with is completely up to you, set those goals and boundaries !!
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i'm breaking my silent watcher status to say that seeing you reflect on your year resonated with me SO much and i needed to hear some of the things you had to say to reflect on my own year. this year i turned 20 and came to the realization that mistakes are bound to be made, but you shouldn't hold that against yourself. sometimes as perfectionists we forget this, but it's so deeply important to hold space for yourself to explore life without the constant fear of making mistakes along the way. in the wise words of taylor swift: if you never bleed you're never gonna grow
I love your sit down and talking videos so much !!!!! the whole reflection segment of the vlog gave me so much comfort and reassurance.
“smarter and wiser….and hotter” LMAOO, so real for you to throw that in there. 😂 Thank you Taylor we say in unison. 😭💗
omg the quotes & just the way u journal in general rlly just struck a chord in me and i didn't even realise how much resonate with it.. as a question of the day, could u make a video or talk abt how u journal? bc i love the way u express your thoughts and feelings, this video just made me feel so seen 🤍
I'm 19 rn and recently I have been having so much anxiety about life, adulting, feel like I'm so behind everyone. I've never felt this anxious before. Videos like this heal my soul ❤
i’m also 19 and i also have so much anxiety about life 😭
@@VanessaTansakun8668 not a fun age that's for sure, I've heard it gets better. Though we'd have to go through it first
BEST VIDEO OF VLOGMAS EVER MADE!!!!! ...this vid made me feel so emotional and the quotes you said just hit so hard and the way you were reflecting on 2024 was emotionally amazingly impeccable!!!
steph,
you have changed my life. i have been so much happier and its all because of you! as you mentioned in the video, you have taught me how to look at life in a happier lense and be excited to wear the new raincoat instead of complaining about the rain. your videos have also showed me that its okay to be alone and off my phone and i have reconnected with so many of my childhood hobbies outside of my studies and ballet like reading, coloring, and baking. i am forever grateful for you and your videos!
I am a such a fan of seeing you grow
Hey Steph, I am usually a silent watcher but I felt like I needed to comment on this video. This is one of my favorites from this years vlogmas. I turned 30 this year and I have been reflecting on my 20s and what I want to accomplish in my 30s. Your reflections are helping me with that. You are so mature and I love hearing your perspective on the world. I can't wait to hear about your goals for 2025.
my literal comfort vlogs
I learned that the secret to fulfillment is not success or perfection. The secret is the ability to sit with yourself, not because you’re afraid no one else will, but because you like your own company.
Hi I am a silent watcher! This video has inspired me to comment about my 2024. To say the least it’s been a very rough year for me. Long story short I’ve spent the majority of the year going through surgeries and recovery due to a moped accident where in I tore both my acls and meniscus’s. I’ve basically spent everyday learning to walk again and a lot of time laying in bed with nothing to do but read and watch tv and RUclips. Most of my time has been spent alone which has given me a whole new outlook on my life. I am a very extroverted person, but spending all this time alone has made me realize I can do things on my own. I’ve had time to reflect on the things I want to do to live my life to the fullest when I am completely healed. There’s so many times that I could have let my situation take a toll on my mental health but thanks to videos like this I remember to look at the bright side of everything. This year my life has felt like it’s been on pause, I’ve been vicariously living through your Charleston videos, but I’m in the home stretch of my recovery and planning to make 2025 my best year yet. Also my birthday is on Friday and yesterday I was going a little crazy feeling like I’m getting old and like there should’ve been so much more I’ve done with my life by now, but today after this video I have a whole new thought process. “Loneliness is still time spent with the world” is exactly what I needed to hear in this moment in my life. I don’t have to look at this year as lonely anymore, I can look at it as and experience that I got to live and become stronger because of. I’ve grown so much in a way I never would of other wise. I just wanted to say thank you, and to anyone else going through hard times, find the good in everything and it will get better!
STOP IT! you + journaling is such a great comboooo
I have two questions about journaling! When you journal, do you write names? Sometimes I want to write about new crushes, or old crushes, or vent about someone, and I want to write their name, but I worry someone's going to read it. And second question, do you ever reread your journal entries?
i honestly never thought anyone experiences the same thing with answering their messages, i have never felt that seen in my life. Like wow, thank you for sharing that and putting it into words. And I also wanted to tell you, that you are just such an inspiring person through and through, thank you! And i loooveee your vlogmas so much!!!♥️
Hi, Steph! I don’t comment often, but when you talk about the whole thing you have with responding messages you have helped me so much. The breakthrough you had with the book you mentioned, I had it with you when you talked about it the first time. I felt so much more normal that someone else also does that. I feel so bad for doing it, but seeing someone I like do it, made me feel less of a bad person for not answering the people I love. I’m 30 and I still struggle with it, but I have been working on it and I noticed that small steps are important to build our confidence, since it is about being afraid of answering something wrong, or not being nice enough or in general trying to be perfect and being anxious. I hope you try to get better at it and that you know you’re loved and nobody thinks all this bad things going on your head, hahaha ❤
this felt so inspiring and healing in a way, thank you sweet steph
I don't comment muvh but this video made me feel comfortable with this year. It wad probably one of my hardest years and I didn't like it much but watching this video made me realize how much it helped me grow and how much I appreciate life now and I carish those memories with me. Change is always good and it took me a really hard time to realize that. So I wanted to thank you for making me see the other view and I learned a lot and I'm glad we had a lot of stuff in common this year, I'm sencerly honored about that. Hope this year will be even better for you and for me and everyone reading this.
With sencer appreciation and love, your ghost fan
it's so interesting to me how we all seem to have similar revelations in our early twenties and i'm glad you're sharing yours with us. it makes it all sink in even more
i’m not ready for vlogmas to be over 😭😭 but thank you for being so consistent with vlogmas and letting us into your life
26:13 listening to this while working out…doing my hobby while enjoying social media at the same time
I resonated with the things you’ve learned this year so much. I am trying to find out what I enjoy outside my phone thus I deleted all my social media (expect RUclips obviously) and I’m making time to try out new hobbies. I’m only just starting now but I’m excited where I’m gonna be at during and at the end of it. You’re videos bring me so much joy, thank you for sharing 🤍
my sunshine on a cloudy day! 🌞💖 we love you Steph
steph!! you should read “never let me go” by kazuo ishiguro. zero smut, childhood yearning and amazing twists! it’s a book that really gets you thinking
not steph but I'll read it and hopefully give u a review🙃
I've been wanting to read it for so long, but I always kept doubting and thinking maybe it won't be that good
yesss such an amazing book!
Question of the day as a silent watcher (we’re all cropping up now and I love it!) what is your go to perfume? Are you a floral or vanilla girly (I’m gourmand!) ❤
The way you really feel like a person than a youtuber is amazing. Often I feel there is a different between me and the youtuber I am watching, like they are above me in some way. But with you Steph, you really feel just like a woman living her life and showing your ups and downs. There is no faking, nothing of you being above us, you are just you and I love it. You have, what, almost 800k followers but you act like any normal person. I feel more connected to you than anyother youtuber. You are so authentic. You are such a light in my day❤ I always get happy when I watch your videos❤
11:45 your speaking to my soul right now! I also had to move after middle school and high school years weren’t the best at my new state. Whenever someone asks where I’m from idk what to say because I’m not really from anywhere, really.. and it’s hard to make friends so late in life because I feel like everyone already has their friend groups established. It’s a very hard and lonely feelings at times so I’m glad that your sharing your experiences ❤
i’ve been watching you since 2021 and can i just say that i feel so proud to see how far you’ve come! seeing you find your place and people & enjoying your life, i feel like a proud sister
The hardest lesson I learned this year was that you can work harder than you ever have at something or be the best you’ve ever been at something and there will still be people who will tell you you’re not good enough. And as hard as it is to get over wanting someone’s approval or affirmation you have to get over it because the only person’s approval that should matter is your own and the only person who truly has your back at the end of the day is you.
Silent watcher here. Steph, I've been watching your videos since the beginning. I have also watched the videos that were taken down 😂 I want to share something, though. During your last vlogmas, I moved to another country. Canada. I'm from India. So, I was thousand miles away. It was also, my first flight. This year, I've finally settled in and I know who I am. What a journey. 15:50 Also, I used to hate that I never left my hometown but when you said, "at least you had a hometown!" I felt so incredibly grateful to have a place I can always go back to. Love you sm ❤
the whole reminder about how i get to choose my life and i’m in control just blew my mind. you help more than you know and i’m so proud of us for the women we’re becoming 🤍
this video was so needed steph, thank you! i feel so reflective now and hopeful for the new year!
this is my favorite type of video steph, so happy you brought it to vlogmas
I can’t believe it’s been a year of following u steph! I found you from last years reflecting on 2023 video and you immediately my favorite RUclipsr. Looking forward to another amazing year of books and vlogs! ❤️🤗
my comfort vlogs!! i can’t believe we are more than halfway down😩
spent like 5 hours catching up with your vlogmas last light and im finally up to speed :)
live laugh love steph's vlogmas >>>
I accomplished my goal of doing a solo trip for the first time and of meeting new people by going to a girl club in Paris where I met some of the most incredible girls I know. To meet new people and embrace my passions, I did a creative retreat and a book camp and they were so amazing ! Live your life for you and spend your money on things that make you happy, not others !
I cannot express how much I love you Steph, so much. I woke up today and felt the disappointment from the people around me, especially those I respected so much. I handled it like how I felt was the most appropriate, but I can’t help to feel lonely and just out of it. I knew that I did my best, but it also felt like I could have done way better. Anyway, this video really reassured me of things. We can’t please everyone, and it certainly does not matter what they think of you as long as you know in yourself that you’re a good person. I really needed to hear that today so thank you :) I think watching you and listening to your perspective in life has really influenced me to become a better and more mature, loving and caring person. You may not feel it, but you have helped so many of us struggling to go through life. And although we’re all going through different problems, we’re somehow all experiencing it similarly; learning the same lessons; and applying it to our life which makes it so much better to live in. What I’m trying to say is: you are in the middle of completing your purpose in life. You said it was to love and be loved, and to spend our time being able to empathize and feel one another. That’s exactly what you’re doing right now. You’re not just uploading these videos and talking to your subscribers, no. You are influencing us to love, you are giving us love. And we love so much more because of you, so thank you :) Please always remember this.
i love you steph can't wait to see what u do in 2025!!!
I'm trying to be kinder to myself and you have made this so much easier, thank you genuinely Steph :-). Being able to reflect gently with myself and not criticise myself for what I've not achieved and instead focused on where I am now has left me feeling hopeful, I feel less alone watching your videos, thank you for all you have done :-)
thank you for continuously making my day everyday this entire month, you hv no idea how grateful i am for you filming editing and uploading these vlogs everyday, it genuinely means the world! ilyy! 🫶🏼💌
ahhh i’m OBSESSED with these vlogs!! i hope to be like you when i get older 🫶
Silent watcher here : These vlogs became a part of my day , I genuinely don’t know what I’ll watch after vlogmas ends and Steph stops posting daily 🥲your vlogs are comforting and entertaining I appreciate the hard work you put into them !
Question of the day: Have you ever been to therapy? If not, would you like to go? When i tried it, It change my life
Hi from Argentina!🇦🇷 I've been a fan since 2021❤
I’ve been watching you since the pandemic and seeing how much you’ve grown as a person since then is so cool. Watching this video has motivated me to journal and change some aspects of my life. Thank you for being an inspiration to me 🩷
I have learned that even when loneliness can be considered the worst thing ever , its better than surrounding yourself with people who only have time for you when they are alone. Those people consumed my energy and made me feel so bad for so long and now after cutting them off i am focusing on myself and loving myself more. And i have also learned to stop trying to control everything and accept the fact that sometimes things gonna happen and you have to deal with them and have faith that things will become better soon ❤
i also keep a list of things i am learning this year, some of my faves: you can only meet people as far as they have met (or are willing to meet) themselves, it's okay if you are not good at something you previously were, a huge part of growing up is in fact walking around and trying 100 different versions of yourself, pour your love into the cup without focussing on whether it is drunk, you are exactly where you are meant to be and please shutdown your laptop instead of putting it on sleepmode.
I honestly love your videos I am a silent watcher I am moving in a few months and I’m so terrified!!! But seeing you move and hearing you say you are the only one who can change/ switch your life up motivates me so much!!!! I feel like I can relate to you so much♥️
seeing u talk about such raw and emotional things honestly is what makes you my forever favorite. it’s always been like we’ve been on a facetime call, and you’ve been my “best friend”. i’ve learned SO SO many things from you, and am so grateful for your vlogmas. thank you so much steph. 🤍🤍
what you were saying about hometowns really resonates with me i don't think i've ever felt more seen! i've had a similar experience to you and i can't wait for the day i find my forever home like you have xxx
It felt so full-circle moment watching u reflect on the past year.... The most important thing I learned in 2024 is "you're on your own kid".
2023 was a shitty year for me so I started this year with a vow that I won't cry (atleast for stupid silly things). I needed to take time for myself & just be OK with being by myself. People come & go but at the end of the day it's just me & my mind. No parents, friends or anyone else is going to be there for you at every step in life, so better be self-sufficient.
I had a very formative year & am very proud of myself the way I evolved up until my bday in October (I turned 22 yay).
A couple weeks after my bday, my uncle passed away & it came as a massive shock to everyone in the family. Life just stopped suddenly & every thing, every plan just went out the window. Now 2 months after it, we're all still reeling & trying to get back to normal as much as we can. Currently life feels heavy but can't wait for 2025 to bring some blessings ❤
Love watching your videos since the beginning. Please don't ever stop.... All my love from India ❤️❤️
-Aryaa
i am a silent watcher but i needed to comment this. thank you so much for explaining how hard it is for you to answer texts and emails because the same happens to me. i will research into it now but i've spent the last few years getting mad at myself because i am so bad at answering texts and i don't really know why. you're the first person that i hear has the same problem so thank you so much! 2025 goals: we will get pass this problem !
steph!! this was my favorite vlogmas video like why am i crying!! i’m so proud of you and everything you’ve accomplished this year.
question: would you ever do a meetup in charleston or in real life book club meeting w/ the besties in patron??
hiiii im catching up on ur vlogmas rn but the entirety of this conversation fully resonated w me, esp as someone who shares similar personality traits (infp girlie to ur infj) and current life ambitions. topic after topic was hit after hit and you've inspired me to achieve more of the same goals in the upcoming year. i've tackled more of my mental and identity goals and hope to get thru my more physical ones, which has been a continuous struggle for the past few years. i choose to please only myself in what i truly want and deserve in life, after figuring out what those things are. love u steph fr u are internet bestie and as parasocial as that may seem you really are such a person that makes me want to believe in myself the way you do
hey Steph, silent watcher here - 24:29 the way i whipped out my journal because i needed to hear this so bad
i actually got married this year, which is crazy to say 🥹 from reading endless romance books to experiencing it in real life…. there is soooooo much love in this world! you’re my best friend steph, thank you for being who you are
You are such an inspiration!🫶🏻 watching your videos has made me grow so much as a person🩷
Honestly I had never heard anyone go through the same thing as me. My family moved during middle school and I have always felt like the new person. And the feeling about just wanting a home is exactly what I am experiencing. That’s was so needed to know that I’m not the only one going through that.
It's so crazy how it feels like we are on Facetime every video! Also, I am genuinely so grateful for each time you remind us how important & fulfilling it is to romanticize our everyday lives. I have always believed that the "purpose" of life is to just live it, but yet oftentimes, I find myself letting life happen TO me, so again, your reminders are so appreciated and needed at times.
I am truly enjoying your vlogmass. You are such a true inspiration. I envy you so much. I'm twice as old as you are and you've done more in your life than I have. I'm going to rewatch this video and write a lot of your inspirations, quotes and growing moments. Your the best. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us.
I love your reflection type videos so much! So I turned 25 this year and made a notes tab of 25 things I've learned at 25!
Here are some of my favorites:
1- It's okay to change your mind. Only you are in control of your life.
3- Do the thing. Time will pass anyways.
5- Life will always bring darkness and despair so you must be grateful for the streams of light that find you.
6- If there are people who would rather let you drown because they're too impatient while you learn to swim, then they are people who are not worth having in your life.
7- Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
8- A crackhead could be piss poor but still find a way to get crack. Don't be outdone by a crackhead.
9- It's okay to not know what you're doing. To feel lost. To start over and over again until it feels right for you.
14- Stay kind and honest and you will attract good people in your life.
15- If you're scared to do it, do it scared.
16- In life mistakes will always be made that leads to loss. It's okay to lose things and make mistakes even if it's difficult. From losses opportunities and knowledge may be gained as well. What is gained from losses fosters growth.
20- Never delete photo memories. Even if they're painful or cringey or "ugly" or invoke any negative emotion. Because you will want to look back and laugh for see how far you've come or reminisce.
21- Embrace rejection as a form of empowerment because you had the courage to try.
22- Grace, mercy, and kindness costs you nothing.
23- Enjoy being in the process of becoming
I’ve been a silent watcher since you began this channel from me being a freshman in high school to freshman in college. Your videos make me feel so seen. You are incredible!!!!
To answer the question, in 2024 I actually learned so much about myself, more than I think I have in a long time. I learned to balance my introversion and extroversion and how to be alone and enjoy it but also how to talk to new people and put myself out there without focusing on my anxiety and letting it control me. This year has been one of the craziest years for me full of good and bad and it helped me be grateful for life and everything I have and all the people in my life that are important to me. btw these vlogs are my advent calendar same as last year and I love them so much!
I’ve listened to 23:05 like 5 times so far, it hits so hard
Okay lol
i've been trying to comment more here, because being a silent watcher is great but i wanted you to know that your videos give me so much comfort. I've been really struggling with anxiety this year, and watching your videos helped me so much, so thank you steph, and happy (early) christmas
im already excited for this
hi steph! this year i have learned that i shouldn’t be putting effort into friendships that don’t benefit me or that i don’t like the friend and they are rude or a bully, i have learned to speak up for myself whenever i am being bullied and your videos helped me understand that so thank you so so much i am so grateful for you 💗
In 2024 I learned that I don’t need the validation from the people around me to do things that I want to do, and that’s something I’m really proud of myself for. I also learned that having more friends doesn’t necessarily mean I have MORE friends
Not me getting emotional 🥺 I really hope you’re proud of everything you’ve accomplished and challenges you’ve overcome this year. And having these reflections and also still aspiring to improve (I don’t like that word is this context like the idea of always improving and never being happy with who you are currently are that’s not what I mean) but knowing your worth and value and learning to be happy. Gosh I just love you and your gentle soul 💓
Ur the best part of my day!!❤
hi steph! i'm a silent watcher and have been watching you for years now & consider you to be one of my favorite youtubers. hearing you talk about how much you love living in charleston was super special because it feels like just yesterday i was watching the vlogs of you first moving there! i also feel like i have found comfort and happiness in the town i've recently moved to, so that was also very relatable for me. in regards to that though, i did wanted to ask: how did you end up making friends in a new area like that? i know it 's always hard to do that especially without school and other places with "forced proximity" like that, so i was just curious since it seems like you've built a great community!
This definitely inspired me to sit down and reflect on my goals last year and focus on goals for next year! This year I learned that nothing is ever guaranteed you can picture a life for yourself and it can all change so quickly, so being okay with change, it’s hard for me but I’m trying
i honestly learned so much about myself this year, and i feel like i found out so much about myself because i’m still really young. i found i am an independent person who honestly relies on myself and God. i’ve found so much through God this year, and just seeing how blessed i am to have grown up with a family that loves to be around me. i’ve had a lifelong goal to romanticize. my biggest one on school, i really don’t like it, but at least i can learn. instead of complaining, just realizing truly the endless amount of things i have.
tv show recommendation! I feel like you would love This Is Us, it is soo character driven and I truly love it so much x
‘i hope u enjoyed’ LITERALLY ONE OF MY MOST FAVE VIDEOS YOUVE EVER DONE OR IVE EVER WATCHED EVER FROM ANYONE (sorry im not shouting just excited) but i just really really loved this video and i really really love who you are and your content and your mindsets and like i know how you help me but a lot of the quotes or self-talk things you were talking about ive also done in 2024 because of you but i didn’t realise quite how much until now and i can’t thank you enough, i have standards because you taught me im enough and you taught me to not settle i love you and i think you’re so great and you’ve helped me in so many ways that it’s actually crazy and i feel like i can’t articulate what im trying to say but just know you.are.great.
Okayyyyyyy
Another mostly silent watcher here. Absolutely adored this and this is my favorite video ever. Cant wait to do even more journaling and reflecting tomorrow based on this! Just spent hours talking to my friends about these exact things and have never been so content. So much love to you
hi! silent watcher here, and i just wanted to say that your vlogmas is probably my favorite time of the day and i wish you all the success and happiness in the coming year!!
I have until now been a silent watcher, but i wanted to express my gratitude for this video! It’s one of my absolute favorites of yours. I wanted to run to my journal right away after watching it and write about my 2024. The way you speak and reflect is truly inspiring❤️
Love from Norway🇳🇴
Silent watcher here. I don’t think I could put into words how much I feel seen watching these vlogs. I will truly miss coming home to one of your vlogs.
QOTD: What do you think is the purpose of your life and how do you want to be remembered when you’re gone?
PS: I love you and your vlogs so much and I hope you know how grateful we all for you! 💗
*silent watcher here* not really a question but can you show us your sweater collection!! I need more sweater recommendations! Please! Also I might start a RUclips and I’m very nervous but you have inspired me and pushed me to achieve my goals! Love you Steph!! 🩷🩷
This video reminds me why I LOVE writing, not deep stuff, but just writing and then reading so I can understand a little bit of what it means to me. Thanks Steph🤍
this was so inspiring, just good to listen to you. You have a very sensible take on life. The thing I've learnt is that I can choose more how I spend time 😊
This is prob my favorite video of Steph! I loved all of it and I am sooooo proud of your growth throughout the year! and so happy for you to find YOUR place where you feel you belong and can call your home. I do have a place where I can call my hometown but I had never felt at home in all the houses where I lived in including the one I grew up in, up until I moved to my current place five months ago. I truly feel so grateful and happy that I live in a place where I feel at home and I want to come home to ☺
Thank you for Steph for being who you are and taking us along your journey 💫
What growth?
I can relate to the roots part so much. I was born in Kansas and moved to Kentucky in middle school and now I’m graduated from college. I still have friends in both places so it’s hard thinking about which place I consider “home.” But I think it’s a beautiful thing to grow up experiencing new things and meeting so many new people
I learned that feeling lost after graduation is normal and okay; it’s a new exciting chapter of life
These make my day. I refresh to see you post!
I learnt that I'm only every going to completely understand myself, and that no one, even the people closest to me, are going to see things exactly the same way. It was disappointing, but an important reality to realise.
This actually really inspired me to reflect on my year, so after I finish this video I’m going to write on my journal for hours about my year while I listen to music. Ily Steph you are such an inspiration to me💗
just wanted to tell you that you are so inspiring steph ❤!!
I discovered your channel just a year ago and today I can say that I feel you like friend, I love to see how we both have grown and evolved throughout this year. Best wishes for the new year from Spain❤
AH the whole part about relying on others.. oh my gosh i’m crying rn, thank you so much for these videos
What a beautiful video Steph, MY GOD did I resonate with it a lot! I'm the same age as you, and normally I am able to relate to you so much. A lot of the things that you have learnt this year (in relation to being comfortable with yourself, loving yourself, staying true to who you are) is something that I have really worked on this year. It has always been present in my life, but I had situations this year that I learnt and grew from and have allowed me to evolve myself as a person. This has inspired me to reflect on my year as well! Thank you Steph for building this community and being open to share what you do with us xxxx