Such a breath of fresh air to hear you mention, dress in what suits your own individual style regardless of the price tag and labels. I am so totally in agreement with that because it's very obvious when a person tries too hard and it feels forced. Sometimes it actually detracts from the entire outfit. Wanting to impress others with brand names & labels is certainly not my thing but that's only my own opinion, each to one's own personal taste & style!!! 💟💜💟
I totally agree Linda:) Lovely kind women are what inspires me, not the label in the back of their clothes! Or the money they've spent on them for that matter:/ Happy Sunday Linda, I hope you've had a wonderful weekend so far x
That woman was jealous of you; of your external beauty and your kind gentle spirit Jess. I think all women, especially young women, need to hear your message. As a 57 year old woman I find it sad that so many young women don't have confidence and feel insecure about the way they look and feel about themselves. It seems the inherent beauty of their youth passes them by and they don't appreciate all they have. It was so inspiring hearing you talk about your epiphany at the tender age of 18. Powerful stuff and it's served you well by the looks of it. Fiona x
Hi Fiona, it's really sad isn't it. I've heard women say they can't bear school drop off because the clique group of women who make them feel inferior:/ No-one should ever feel like that, and certainly not once we've all got past teenage years! I really hope if people take anything from my videos it's a little confidence in themselves more than anything else. Happy Sunday Fiona, and thanks so much again for watching x
Thank you for this inspiring video! In my twenties I lacked everything! I admired friends who could dress in a way I thought I could not do. I envied collegaes who were not shy to give their opinion in meetings. When I turned 40 a neighour asked my my age on the day of my birthday. When I gold here it was 40 she told me: "I don't know how you do it, but I would love to have some of it". That's the day I looked a little bit longer in the bathroom mirror and asked myself who I am. I am 62 now, know what I like, even on a dull day I like to look good. It took a while but indeed: 'fake it till you make it'!
What a lovely story Joan, thank goodness you got there eventually! I spent so many years worrying what people think that when you finally realise you need to change the cycle it feels liberating! If only we could tell our 20 year old selves these things hey! Happy Sunday Joan x
Loved your video and all your helpful comments, I totally agree. I have always believed that it is your imperfections that make you beautiful. How boring it would be if we were all identical. I have always brought my two girls up to say that it is lovely to be beautiful on the outside but far more important to be beautiful on the inside. I remember my daughter said to me recently when I asked what her type was. Was that it was difficult, people who she at first glance thought beautiful, the more she got to know them , in some cases, the uglier they got. And people she at first hadn’t noticed, on more conversations, suddenly became more beautiful. So is lesson to us all from a girl of 20 years old. Don’t judge a book by its cover and only radiate out into the world, what you would like to come back and you won’t go far wrong. Thank you for your lovely video and sharing your experiences, you are always a pleasure to watch. Speaking as a Mother, I’m sure yours is very proud. Wishing you lots of happiness, Lisa, Aimee and Anna 🌈
I have been a mentor for both men and women. But everyday, I will tell a total stranger that I like their hair, dress, or other things. When I do,they always smile. Makes me happy
there is ALWAYS something you can find to say that is positive about the other person...sometimes you have to look very hard, but it is do-able...and good practice for all of us ( I am a 72 year old personal trainer, and most of my clients are older, and I always give positive feedback...it is soooo very important!) Thank you for your videos...I enjoy...
As a woman who constantly hears things like “why are you so dressed up?” It’s so important to encourage young women to own their style no matter what anyone else thinks. No one who is happy and owning their style is going to criticise anyone else.
I get that, too, constantly, because I wear more skirts and dresses. No matter how casual they are, T-shirt dresses, denim skirts, etc., always bring these put-downs.
I taught my daughter to always give a compliment and from a very young age she was always confident approaching a stranger to say a kind word. The response she gets is always so positive and it’s built her confidence in return. Empowering others is self empower too!
How lovely:) And she'll grow up one kind, caring and positive woman as a result. Which is all we can hope for with our children isn't it. Good for you lovely teaching your daughter such a lovely message x
Truly the one EVERYone needs to watch. Trying to fit in and be someone I am not has always left me feeling inadequate and as if I am falling short. Throughout the ages we are constantly evolving and learning. Lockdown has helped me in some respects as I needed a breather to reconnect with myself and re-establish who I am and where I am going looking forward. As I am 50 next year I am trying to negotiate the the changes and really focus on health, wellbeing and happiness. Much love, we've got this!! Xx
Hi Naomi, thank you so much for watching and getting in touch:) I think 'fitting in' is overrated, being original makes us all special. I tend to warm to people like that too, I'm not one for being in the 'cool' gang , it's all a bit mean girls for me. Surround yourself with goodness and it makes for a much happier and positive life. It sounds like the enforced reset has really helped you gather your thoughts, it's felt good hasn't it. Sending lots of love and hugs on your exciting new wellbeing journey Naomi x
You are the loveliest. I think the story you told demonstrates how important words are. What would it have cost that woman to try and get to know you and build you up instead of break you down? Especially when you were young and trying to find your feet in a new environment. That being said, it is wonderful that you were able to use that pain you felt to drive personal growth and it's now just one of the many stories that have gone into building a strong woman, who cultivates her confidence from the inside out and uses it to uplift other women.
Hey Jess, 100% agree, it's so important to be true to ourselves and in our style. It sounds easy enough but it takes time to discover who you really are, i just turned 40 and still trying to figure it out. I will be sharing your video with my daughter when she is old enough, your words of wisdom; and something i wish i knew when i was in my 20s/30s. You have inspired me in so many ways, i am truly grateful - thank you xx ❤❤
What a lovely comment Cindy, thank you so much:) You've all inspired me so much since I've had this channel in so many ways. It does take time to really discover your personal style and I think it changes along the way a little too. We like certain things as we get older or a trend appears that really fits how we see ourselves. But it's such a lovely feeling when you get to that point, or even have a hint of it appear. Sending big hugs Cindy and thanks so much again x
You’re my kind of gal Jess hands down - kindness and compassion can make the world of difference - I have a dear dear friend who is doing it so tough over there in London atm - things got just too much for her - thank God a friend in Aus contacted the authorities in her county they made their way to her just in time - she’s recovering and rebuilding herself with the help of some amazing professional at the Priory Hospital just spoke with her a few moments ago xx
Hello Gloria, first of all please accept my apologies I'm only just getting back to you:/ I reply in the back end of youtube and sometimes they don't go through properly so i'm sorry about that:( I'm so sorry to hear about your lovely friend, I really hope she received the help she needed. Sometimes a little kindness and love is just what people need isn't it. Life can be tough sometimes, and I think this year has been especially hard for people. Thank goodness for wonderful friends to pick us all back up again. Sending big hugs Gloria:) x
I agree, it (style) should come from within otherwise it's just an added stress creation point instead of being fun and creative. Very honest, and encouraging video!
After watching this video, I am speechless...... except to say how wise, uplifting and insightful you are, Jess. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Aww what a beautiful comment Gina, thank you:) It's so nice to hear you found it uplifting it's something I've wanted to say for a while. Have a fab week lovely x
I often admire all the cool girls and their cool looks. I’ve tried it and it just doesn’t suit me! I discovered early on that classic styling is built in my genes. You be you. That’s why you’re doing so well! X
The 'cool girls' are often stood there with their own insecurities running round their head! It sounds like you got lucky and figured out what your personal style is early on. It's such a liberating feeling isn't it. x
Thank you for sharing such supportive messages - so many of them rang true for me. I'm at an exciting juncture of life right now (I hope) with having made the decision to retire early from my current place of employment after dedicating 20 years to it but I truly needed to remove myself from an environment that has been such a toxic influence and which has had a very negative effect on my sense of self-worth and confidence, despite being highly accomplished personally and professionally. I can't wait to have some breathing space to focus on rejuvenating my 'mojo' and moving in new directions that inspire me and those around me. Have a super weekend!!
Hello Heather, so sorry I missed your comment but how exciting is that! A new path ahead for you and wiping your hands clean of a toxic environment. I salute you gorgeous:) And I'm imagining once the dust has settled it'll feel like the best decision you ever made:) Big hugs lovely and congratulations x
So eloquently said and so true. I love your post, it’s so genuine and helpful. I’ve always loved fashion but as a young girl my family had the funds to buy new clothes for four kids. My grandmother was a seamstress in a wealthy area and would bring up bags of very expensive “hand me downs”, and I would make these amazing outfits out of them. Even though I couldn’t wear the cool outfits all my friends were wearing, I felt confident that what I wore was unique! I’ve tried to instill your belief in my two granddaughters- to be yourself and have fun with your clothes! Thank you.
Hi Maryellen, what a lovely story of your childhood, I bet you're a wizz on the sewing machine! And I love the idea of that uniqueness shining through, better than any trend led piece in my humble opinion:) My childhood was filled full of hand me downs too, not only with an older sister but an older cousin too! I'd find I'd have the same dress in my closet for years just a bigger version! But it certainly makes you appreciate clothes when you get older:) Happy Sunday Maryellen and thank you again for getting in touch x
I’m so glad I found your channel. It’s inspire me to rethink my clothing choices to not only make me feel better but better for our planet! Your ideas are so timeless, classic and beautiful.
Aww that's so lovely to hear:) Well I'm so chuffed you found me too and to hear you're finding my ideas helpful makes it all worthwhile. Have a wonderful week lovely x
Great advice Jess. Be who you are and as you say if you can't say anything nice don't say it makes you feel so much better about yourself. You are such an inspiration and I am old enough to be your mum but just love watching your videos.
Aww thanks Lynne:) Age is but a number on our birthday cards and I've taken to start counting mine backwards anyhow! I'm so pleased you found the video helpful, I feel very lucky to have such a nice group of like minded women on this channel:) Happy Sunday Lynne x
I just found your channel and I am so happy you spoke about confidence and feeling good. It's so important for all of us to bring each other up and this is a good message. Clothing and beauty can, indeed help us feel better. So does exercise, breathing deeply, meditation and talking to a good friend. Thank you, blessings and good health to all of your loved ones, and to all of your followers. Be healthy and loving and stay in the present moment.
The last two days have been pretty horrible, some of the most horrible of the past while. And here you are, still making a difference, speaking to me, just over a year later. #thankyou
I heard on another channel - everything you want is on the other side of fear. I have found this to be true in my own life as well. If we can just equip our children with the armour to face the world not fearless but willing to face and conquer the fear, we have done well. Thanks for this wonderful video, Jess!😊
Words of wisdom but said with such compassion. Your point about encouraging other women was so motivating and in ways more proactive for me personally .I have no difficulty admiring/complimenting small children but am afraid that with an adult it appears like there is an angle. When friends moving on leave you feeling down because the time you invested in that friendship seems wasted some will respond with stop thinking of others and focus on yourself but it's nice to be nice and a kindness from a stranger or acquaintance is such a welcome surprise.Its about striking the balance. Your friends and family are so fortunate to have you in their lives. I will quote you moving forward and bring joy to someone else's life.To quote you: ' you're doing great...'.xx
I think lots of women are the same. Not that you don't think nice things about other people but perhaps are too shy to say them aloud. I can honestly say that if it comes from somewhere genuine I don't think any woman would feel there's an angle, you'd just give them a sprinkle of confidence instead:) Here's to a lovely week hun and thank you so much for letting me know your thoughts x
Genuine and heart felt. My mum said the same thing to me when I was growing up, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing.” Another thing she said if I was feeling sorry for myself was,” There’s always someone worse off than you.” Xx
What you said about put downs is so true. For a lot of women, those put downs come from their parents, and especially their mothers. I know it sounds awful but I will never forget some of those carping, nitpicking criticisms and now there will never be any more. It’s as though a weight has rolled off my shoulders; I dumped the dowdy clothes I wore to visit her the day she passed away. PS The Sezane boots do look lovely. Western boots are so comfy, please let us know how you get on with them if you do treat yourself - I’m a half size so would be grateful for input as returns can be a faff if you’re in the sticks.
I hope all your younger followers really listen to your wisdom! I really love how you extend the term 'fashion' into another level. Keep up the great videos! x
Absolutely be true to yourself. I'm 54 and I wear shorts and mini skirts because I want to! I've got a great pair of legs and nobody is going to stop me! You should wear what makes you feel good and not what you're "expected" to wear. Fashion very rarely suits everyone. We all have different shapes so realistically something that might be the height of fashion might not look good on you.
Good for you Lesley!! You know if I thought I had a great pair of legs I'd absolutely be doing the same! And I totally agree, trends come and go and all of them will not suit everyone each season. This Autumn Winter for example I've totally discounted fringing from my wardrobe, it might have been all over the catwalk but I look a bit of a plonker in the trend! Always, unapologetically wear what you love and what you believe suits you:) x
What a wonderful video, Jess. Your beautiful self shines through! I liked what you said about the women who seem to disappear in expensive, ‘labels’ clothing. When I was young, my mum and I used to love to watch the Oscar Awards. The fashion was so much fun - everyone chose their own outfits, and revealed something about their true selves in doing so. There were glorious moments, and jaw-dropping disasters! Breath-taking ensembles and ‘oh dear’ ones. We loved it! You never knew what you’d see next! Now it’s so homogenous, with big labels, stylists, and such competition to outshine. So unimaginative and disappointing. Your advice to be yourself resonates deeply in these times. That’s what fashion should be all about! Thanks so much ❤️
WOW! Just what I needed today. Am about to turn 63 and was worried about the 'mutton' thing. Your insightful words (and the way you said them) has really helped. Thanks Jess xx
I think that body shape and size dictate the fashion you can wear more than age. I once had a friend 20 years older who could wear "younger" styles than me because she was a size 2.
I turned 63 earlier this year and and I realized it's a crucial time in life. Not yet 65 but no longer 60. Meaning time to take stock of who you've been and who you want to be in that last third of life. It can actually be fun reinventing yourself. :). Cheers!
@@noolie62 Haha absolutely! And you know what, if you love wearing skinny jeans then go ahead and wear them! I actually think it's old fashioned when people say things like that. 'Oh not at your age' was a thing possibly in the 80s but these days thankfully we've all realised that's just a silly and outdated idea. Why would anyone, with a love of fashion, not want to follow the trends a little because of the age a birthday card reads?! x
Great advice Jess. For 20 years, I dutifully wore the local California Boho style. When I turned 60, I thought, why? I’ve since returned to my classic roots and feel much more like myself.
I had just watched a "style" video and was feeling uneducated and confused about all the "rules." THANK YOU. I love your attitude and kindness and you put it all in a new perspective for me. I do know who I am but (as a Gemini) I often feel different on different days and so go in different directions. I guess that's ok? I also have a horse so have my western barn style as well. Love the look of the English dressage equestrian but that's not me. You are a gem.
That's absolutely okay Susan:) We are all a bit like that I think, especially Women. And I think that's an important point to just flow with your mood. I filmed a new video the other day and one item is a lovely red dress, a little bit sexy but understated. And on that day if felt nice wearing it but it'll be one of those dresses you have to be in the mood for! Happy Sunday lovely x
Hi hope your building work is going well for you. Mine starts tomorrow !. Your entirely right about giving another women a compliment i often give others a compliment. It makes another person feel good and also makes me happy that I've done something good. The other day I bought myself 2 bunches of roses in sainburys as I walked back to my car a elderly lady was getting into her car and said oh arent they pretty so i gave her a bunch (my fav colour as well)! Lol but omg she was so pleased and that made my day. Sorry I do ramble on dont i. ! Enjoy your week. X
Hello lovely, please accept my apologies taking so long to get back to you:/ I often reply in the back end of youtube and I've just realised some of them haven't gone through:( Sorry. Anyhow, love that little moment you had with the elderly lady, I bet you made her week! I'm a firm believer in karma so I'm hoping you're surrounded in that kindness too:) Hows your building work going? Ours is very nearly finished...a few straggly bits to do but then ill film a house tour so i can see what you all think. Happy Sunday lovely x
Thanks so much for the reminder Jess! I've always been a "individual" or "quirky" dresser and as I face turning 50 very soon I'm trying not to lose that sense of "me" yet be a little more age appropriate. After working in the music, tv and film industries for years I was just seen as the quirky "arty" type. Now I'm very much a soccer Mum etc it's harder to strike the balance. I'm never wearing the same as any of the other Mums which used to give me confidence because it was me. Now I'm not sure. Anyway, the point is, I really enjoyed this video, so many sensible things said and all were appreciated. Hope you've had a lovely weekend with your family! Cheers x
I love quirky, it always makes me smile in a really positive way:) I see people like you and truly think 'you go girl' it's inspiring. I really wouldn't worry about fitting in with the whole "soccer Mum' thing, it sounds like you have that true individual style which is enviable, never a negative:) x
A very inspiring session. Full of truth, wisdom and strength. I often compliment other women of all ages of how great they look.....it costs nothing and if you are inspired by the moment the compliment will lift not only the person you admire but also yourself.
I totally agree Mary-Anne:) Something that is free, accessible for all and makes us and other people feel so good has got to be a good thing. Thanks so much for watching lovely, I hope you're having a wonderful week x
I love it! I love that you aren't a "brand pusher". There are soooo many luxury brands out there that are making really ugly and unflattering clothes. People fall all over this stuff. I dont get it. I think the absurdity of couture and luxury fashion is almost mocking to those who have money but no sense of style. I don't fall for it. One of my favorite shops often has sales of $10 for tops, but its really cute stuff! I try not to buy it unless i really intend to wear it, so as not to be wasteful, but i have no problem buying cheaper items if the fabric feels good and i really do like the piece. You can be in fashion at any price point, you just need to stay true to what you like and what flatters you best.
Haha so true! And they stick a big fancy label on it and people think that's 'style'? Not for me I'm afraid. I do see the quality in lots of designers, and often pieces can be like works of art, but I'd never buy something 'because' of what the label reads:/ Totally agree with you lovely, true style is not what you spend but how you wear it that counts. Happy Sunday lovely x
First you look absolutely stunning! The white blouse, gold jewelry and your eye makeup, love it all. Secondly, thank you for this talk, I needed to hear it. I lost my job beginning of this year, first time ever and it was a shock. At first I took care of myself, but as the months got on, less so. I’ve been making my self small and invisible and of course guarantee had helped staying away from everything. I’m slowly turning my situation better financially, but my emotional side needs to strengthen. I have wonderful supporting family, so I have nothing to worry about, but still I’ve stumbled. It’s time to be me again. ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Eija, thanks for watching lovely. So sorry to hear you lost your job, that can really knock your confidence I know. And I'm sure there's lots of people in the same boat at the minute. Please don't hide yourself away, you have the strength to pull yourself back. No job is worth losing that little bit of you for and it's sounds like with a wonderful family having your back your on the right track:) I know when my Mum died I literally wanted to hide under the duvet and make the world just fizzle away but at some point I just forced myself up, into the bath, put some nice clothes on and essentially pretended to be okay. A bit like my 'fake it till you make it' theory from when I was younger. Eventually I realised I wasn't pretending anymore, I was okay. Getting 'you' back will feel wonderful and I promise you it's totally within your grasp. Sometimes we just have to fight a little to get it back. Sending you big hugs my lovely and oodles of strength x
Thank you so much❣️I actually ordered the blouse and pants from Mango that you had on the video, because I just loved the look of them on you. This was my first clothing purchase this year, so I’m so happy to break this lack mentality. I’m home alone for few days so it’s a perfect time to concentrate on self care and happiness. 💕much love, Eija
This is brilliant Jess, I couldn't agree more with everything you said. Learning and loving your own style is a journey and there are times in your life when your wardrobe calls for a little adjustments here and there. I've just turned 48 this week and I'm at that junction again. I love clothes but want them to be a reflection of me rather than just fitting into the current trend and in my opinion what a great time to be a woman of any age - we should have the confidence to dress how we want to dress and wear what we feel comfortable! Xx
What a spot-on message! I can relate to so many of these. As a teenager I had very little confidence. As a 50+ I have a core group of smart, funny and supportive women who seek out my companionship. Complimenting people is the best way to brighten someone’s day AND make yourself smile.
Couldn't agree more lovely:) Teenage years can be tough can't they, but thank goodness for great friends finding each other along the way:) Happy Sunday gorgeous x
Such a beautiful and inspiring video ❤️there were many points that you made that brought happy tears to my eyes. I’ve lacked confidence in myself for years. I’m now remarried to a gem of a man who allows me to be my quirky self and shine. As I rediscover myself and my style, a world of possibilities has opened. I am trying new silhouettes and choosing colours that bring me joy 🌻🌸🌺
Hi Cristina, thank you so much for watching and letting me know you liked it:) It sounds like you've got your mojo back with a good partner who builds you up, which is fantastic to hear. You found your Mr Darcy:) Discovering your own personal style should be fun and I'm so pleased it sounds like that's where you're at with it:) Happy Sunday my lovely x
It amazes me how something that happened to you in your teens can resonate in that a few years back I was going through certain time of my life that shook my confidence that I only just started to come into and it was someone I held very dear to my heart and looked up to as the sister I did not have,they was encouraging me for a long time see what they saw that I am good looking women I only came to that conclusion 4 years ago I'm in my late 40s it's been a journey of self discovery but when it did finally click that person turned on me it felt like a rug was pulled right from under me but in so doing I have learned that you have to learn to love and rely on that inner voice that we tend to ignore most of our lives that is for me my confidence telling you are doing fine yes you are looking stunning today I like how you are rocking that dress that colour looks awesome on you I now don't need someone else validation to feel good in my own skin if I want to dress as if I'm going to a garden party for instance on the rare occasions we have good weather in the UK 😌 and I'm just going to Tesco then I do so it is a part of me I love fashion I have all my life and I will continue to thank you for your honesty words they did resonate stay blessed because you are 🙏😊
Hello Leahcar thanks so much for getting in touch and sharing your thoughts:) It sounds like you finally realised the true issue at the heart of that situation and used it to build yourself back up. I know how that feels, more than I can say on here but I'm so glad you got there. Love the idea of you dressing up for Tesco, and why not if that makes you happy! Love it:) Have a fab week lovely and thanks again for watching x
Thank you i will be honest i have relapses now and again doubts but I think shaking it off each time just makes me stronger 💪 🤗 and reinforcing that I am rocking it🤗 stay blessed because we are all blessed 🙏🏼
Hi Jess. I've followed you for some time but never commented before. I've just turned 67. I thought I must be your oldest subscriber but happily see that's not the case. Your video is so genuine and heartfelt and true. Thank you so much for you.
Isn't it lovely:) Genuinely passing on the love so to speak can really make someone feel good. It's infectious! Hope you're having a lovely Sunday Deborah, the sun is finally out here so we're off out to celebrate! x
So so much to address and unpack if this was a IRL relationship. Suffice it to say that you are a one the luckier ladies I’ve met. Truly...you are blessed and you are aware of it and are grateful for it. That’s the trick, isn’t it? Thanks for such an uplifting video. Much needed right now considering the world we all now live in. Hugs from an unlucky lady in Florida. 🌴✨😎🚀🙏🏼💖
Bravo Jess 👌... loved that, I can relate so much, when we moved from Scotland ( age 18) I was so nervous, because of my accent I was constantly teased ( put politely).. it took me ages to at least fake confidence but it does work, even now , I tend to talk constantly when nervous. Having a child with autism has made me more confident as I fight so hard for him and forget my own shyness. I now have my own style, I think, and love your videos and styling tips, your confidence is wonderful, you are quite inspiring. Hope you’re having a great weekend. Love Pauline ps.. still have a Scottish 😉
Hi Pauline, hope you're well lovely and thanks for watching:) That must have been hard moving at 18 and upping and leaving friends but thank goodness you had that 'fake confidence' tactic in your back pocket too. It really works! I'm totally with you on fighting hard for your kids. It's amazing what parents can overcome once little ones come along isn't it. And baby groups can be harder to walk into than any high flying meeting! Haha! Big hugs lovely, love that you fight away the shyness for your boy, that will have such a positive effect on him:) x
Wow, this video is good for women to see and hear. I’m 51 and I’m trying to experiment with fashion more than I used to. My friends are very casual. Sometimes I feel like I’m trying too hard or I think others will think I am or that I’m trying to get attention which I’m really not trying to do. I’ve always been very into clothes ever since I was a child. I’m still trying to reconcile this in my head. Now that I’m a little older, I definitely have more confidence than ever before, so I’m just trying to enjoy the process. I totally agree that women should try to build each other up. I find some women always have something critical to say about everybody. This makes me feel very sad. Thank you for your kind words and your candor. I always look forward to your videos. You have such beautiful style! Stay safe Jess! ❤️😊
Hello lovely, I think that's often the problem, we women tend to think too much! Did we say/do/wear the right thing, we could often drive ourselves potty with it all! If you love fashion that's something to be celebrated not hidden away and all the right women around you will love you for it:) Have a fab week Kristin, I'm off shopping today to go celebrate my own love of fashion! x
How lovely and well said Jess... I moved overseas to follow my husband and after 15 years and two children we got divorced and he moved away. I had to start from zero, with no family around and my confidence crushed. My girlfriends came to my rescue by lifting me up and helping carry me until I could walk on my own again. Today I feel peaceful and much prettier than ever.
That's so lovely to hear you now feel in your happy place:) Great girlfriends always come to the rescue don't they! You don't even have to ask, the 'right' people are there when you need them. I actually think the second part of our life has to be the best, we know all the mistakes and feel so much more comfortable in our own skin:) Have a wonderful week lovely and thanks again for watching x
A lot of warm and fuzzy packed into this video Jess! Thanks so much for reminding us of what is real and that life is not a series of Instagram photos and videos. Cheers, Tiina xx
Aww thanks Tiina:) A lot of Instagram is smoke and mirrors, I can't believe anyone's life is that perfect! Haha, the state of my house right now would shock the home bloggers that's for sure! Hope you're well gorgeous. Are you in lockdown again I hear? x
@@FashionStyleEdit Luckily your state of disarray is short-lived and the payoff will be worth it! The state of Victoria is in lockdown, yes. My sister-in-law + her husband have been stranded there since March (assisting my 95 year old mother-in-law). The borders have been shut and we are praying that the virus doesn't make it's way back into South Australia.
Loved these words from you Jess. Being confident in who we are is so difficult for many women. Spent years trying to work out my style and not there yet after 50 odd years... Others comments and looks haven't always helped... But I realise now it is my opinion that matters and feeling good in my own skin.. Thank you. X
Absolutely Julianne. There's so many other things at work when we receive mean comments. It could be as simple as someone having a bad day to them just not being very nice! But ultimately it's truly 'their' issue not yours at all. It sounds like you're on the right track now feeling good in your own skin which is absolutely the best place to be:) x
Just stopped by to say how much I loved this. Almost every single piece you linked was something I would love to wear. I am going for a job interview with a tech startup and had lots of good ideas now. ❤️
Hi Biki, thanks so much for watching and apologies I'm so late replying:/ I hope the job interview went well and I gave you a little spring in your step with my waffling! Happy Sunday lovely x
Beautifully done Jess! Completely agree with your statement about women supporting women. I've moved to UK years ago and started from the bottom. I was studying to finish my PhD and I remember no one could believe it, because...hey, your English is not perfect and you are a foreigner. But I pretty much found my voice after countless of negative comments. With so many bloggers out there, is so great to see someone original, refreshing and humble. Thank you :)
The best comeback is your huge success! Good for you lovely:) I hate it when people tell me something is impossible, just makes me want to prove them wrong! I am not fluent in any other language, just little bits here and there so I have great admiration for anyone who can speak another language fluently let alone write perfectly in it too:) Have a wonderful week Zeni and thanks again for watching x
We loved this video Jess. So glad you eventually made it. Knowing our personal style, definitely helps to build confidence. And there’s nothing better than a small tribe of women who completely have each other’s backs. Beautifully said. Xox
Aww it's my pleasure Paola:) It's something I'd really wanted to talk about for a while but couldn't find the right words so I'm glad it's come across as I meant:) Have a wonderful week lovely x
Great video!! Really enjoyed it. You spoke my truth, too. It's always good to be reminded! Easy to fall back into that old belief. The universe amazes me. It sends us messengers if our mind is open to them. Thank you. I needed to hear that today!
Jess what is so lovely about you is you are stunning but a lovely person also 🥰 This video was very helpful and I agree with everything you said , thank you xxx
Oh wow that is so kind of you to say:) Thank you Susan that is really lovely of you and I do appreciate it. Have a wonderful week, fingers crossed the suns coming back now:) x
I love how honest and real you are about the importance of allowing yourself to show your true personality. It's so important to bear in mind but so easy to forget. Thank you so much for your awesome and inspiring content, Jess!
This was by far my favorite video I just had a conversation with my daughter who was crying because she’s about to go off to college she is shy and insecure and that fake to you make it saying is spot on and I had fallen into the trap of not getting dressed during the lockdown and have felt horrible and unattractive Jess you have inspired me to turn that around I will play this video for my daughter we women need to be supportive of one another and God Bless you for giving us the kick start to be ourselves and express it with fashion bravo Jess
Oh no, I'm sorry to hear your daughter is upset. It's a big thing going off to Uni especially if she's a little more shy and insecure. Things are never as tough as we make out they'll be but I know in the moment it's very hard to see that. I've really found my 'fake confidence' really helps, tell her it's like acting. She could pretend she's more confident at college and then eventually something just clicks and you realise you're not pretending anymore, you just feel fine. Sending big hugs Ann, I have all this to come with my boys I'm sure:) x
Wear something lovely for yourself every day, it makes such a difference and a bit like money you can't take it with you, so wear it now and don't keep stuff for best x
What a lovely vlog, Jess, Thank you. I understand that quiet, a little different, not quite fitting in feeling. now I am in my 50s, I embrace it. It really is ok to be different. I am all for lifting up other woman and never understood why some woman are just horrible to each other.
Me too, it seems such a negative way to live life doesn't it? Well I'm all for a little individuality and quirkiness, it keeps life exciting:) Have a wonderful week Lynne and thanks so much for watching x
This just re emphasized exactly why I fell in love with your channel the moment I first saw it. I couldn’t agree more, true beauty really radiates from within and just emphasizes the beauty outside. Please know that you are such an inspiration to us all! Thank you from the bottom of my heart all the way from Seattle!
Hello Jess. This video is actually so important and relevant. Thank you for posting this. I've been a subscriber for about a year now and love your style and content. I've been in a similar situation as yourself with an older group of people surrounding me. I think I knew who I was but was afraid of being missunderstood or belittled just by virtue of being the youngest and prettiest. Other women are often mean to pretty girls. I found my voice and use it fearlessly! lol.
Jess, such good advice about everything! You certainly are a gem. Thank you for taking the time to share this with us. Such beautiful fashion as well. I love that cream shirt you are wearing. Thank you again!
Aww that’s so kind thank you😊 I truly wish more women could get that sprinkle of confidence back we often had in our 20s. Happy weekend lovely and thanks again for watching x
Mornin jess. Awww your so lovely and genuine and your words are inspiring. Sat here in baggy Jean's n shirt not feeling my best. So I am now going to shower and get spruced up to visit my sis. Your a breath of fresh air.xx
Thank you so much Debra, I really appreciate you saying that:) And I truly meant every word. I just hope it's helped inspire a little confidence for everyone x
Lovely. I’m senior leader in a corporate role that hates the TMLewin (pencil skirt, jacket and shirt) look that woman think they have to subscribe to. I’ve made beautiful dresses work for me in the corporate world.
That sounds perfect Hailey and good for you:) I hate conforming to what people 'think' I should be, or wear, or behave. Life is way too short for any of that nonsense! x
Thank You for these really wonderful and wise tips. They are so true to feeling good about yourself and having more confidence. I tend to worry about getting older, but I love what you said about not worrying about age and just wear what makes you feel good inside. Thank You so much, Jess. Your advice has helped me a lot.
Wonderful video Jess but it also brought a tear to my eye. I've always struggled with my self image, spent my whole life feeling self conscious and have never really found my style. I pick up clothes in shops that I love but put them back cos I don't think I could wear them and buy something more conservative. Strangely I think the lockdown had helped a little as its put things into perspective but I wonder if I can keep the mindset going when things are more normal and life takes over again. Your lovely words are in my head and I shall keep thinking of them and take little steps to change my attitude. You're a star Jess xx
Hey Jo, I'm so sorry hun I seem to have missed your reply:/ I really hope my words are still in your head hun since this video! If in doubt try and look at it as a game. Dare yourself to stand out from the shadows just once and wear something you truly love but usually would say no in fear. What's the worst that can happen? And hopefully when you realise nothing bad happens you'll do it again and again! Even if you do get a snarky comment, does it matter? I really try to not let things like that effect my day and I so wish everyone could too. I heard a really interesting quote the other day that most people are fundamentally so self absorbed they barely notice what everyone else is doing let alone wearing! It made me laugh and I do think there's some truth to it. Everyone's worried what everyone thinks of them, a group of women could all being stood together worrying about the same thing! So try it Jo, throw caution to the wind and just have a go, I promise you once you get used to it stepping out from the shadows will be the most liberating feeling:) x
Lovely Jess, you have to be the most conscientious RUclipsr out there, thank you for responding to this even though you don't have to. I will try, I will, I will, I will 😁 😘 x
Boy oh boy do I understand you in this episode. Who knew loose baggy clothes would be in style now, when I used them to hide myself when I was younger. Not because I was oversized but because people in my circle then thought I had a ‘Barbie’ shape. To me Barbie was sexy and I didn’t see myself as that so I hid. Then got to college with a boost of self confidence and never looked back.
What a lovely video. You put together a collection of inspiring points for us all to consider and put into action. Thank you. You always brighten my day. 🥰
WOW ive never heard more humble honest words in all my life ! love love love this video and everything you say is so true. x
Aww thank you Tracy:) That means a lot. x
Me too
I agree!! 😘
Yes, “Say something nice to another woman, OUT LOUD!” It will make you both feel wonderful! 🙌
Absolutely:) And it's infectious..that one little compliment might just spur them on to do the same to someone else. Have a great week Lauren x
I want every young woman to see this! Or anyone, really. Such words of warmhearted wisdom.
Aww that's so nice of you to say, thank you:) I really do appreciate that x
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Such a breath of fresh air to hear you mention, dress in what suits your own individual style regardless of the price tag and labels. I am so totally in agreement with that because it's very obvious when a person tries too hard and it feels forced. Sometimes it actually detracts from the entire outfit. Wanting to impress others with brand names & labels is certainly not my thing but that's only my own opinion, each to one's own personal taste & style!!!
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I totally agree Linda:) Lovely kind women are what inspires me, not the label in the back of their clothes! Or the money they've spent on them for that matter:/ Happy Sunday Linda, I hope you've had a wonderful weekend so far x
That woman was jealous of you; of your external beauty and your kind gentle spirit Jess. I think all women, especially young women, need to hear your message. As a 57 year old woman I find it sad that so many young women don't have confidence and feel insecure about the way they look and feel about themselves. It seems the inherent beauty of their youth passes them by and they don't appreciate all they have. It was so inspiring hearing you talk about your epiphany at the tender age of 18. Powerful stuff and it's served you well by the looks of it. Fiona x
Hi Fiona, it's really sad isn't it. I've heard women say they can't bear school drop off because the clique group of women who make them feel inferior:/ No-one should ever feel like that, and certainly not once we've all got past teenage years! I really hope if people take anything from my videos it's a little confidence in themselves more than anything else. Happy Sunday Fiona, and thanks so much again for watching x
Thank you for this inspiring video! In my twenties I lacked everything! I admired friends who could dress in a way I thought I could not do. I envied collegaes who were not shy to give their opinion in meetings. When I turned 40 a neighour asked my my age on the day of my birthday. When I gold here it was 40 she told me: "I don't know how you do it, but I would love to have some of it". That's the day I looked a little bit longer in the bathroom mirror and asked myself who I am. I am 62 now, know what I like, even on a dull day I like to look good. It took a while but indeed: 'fake it till you make it'!
What a lovely story Joan, thank goodness you got there eventually! I spent so many years worrying what people think that when you finally realise you need to change the cycle it feels liberating! If only we could tell our 20 year old selves these things hey! Happy Sunday Joan x
Loved your video and all your helpful comments, I totally agree. I have always believed that it is your imperfections that make you beautiful. How boring it would be if we were all identical. I have always brought my two girls up to say that it is lovely to be beautiful on the outside but far more important to be beautiful on the inside. I remember my daughter said to me recently when I asked what her type was. Was that it was difficult, people who she at first glance thought beautiful, the more she got to know them , in some cases, the uglier they got. And people she at first hadn’t noticed, on more conversations, suddenly became more beautiful. So is lesson to us all from a girl of 20 years old. Don’t judge a book by its cover and only radiate out into the world, what you would like to come back and you won’t go far wrong. Thank you for your lovely video and sharing your experiences, you are always a pleasure to watch. Speaking as a Mother, I’m sure yours is very proud. Wishing you lots of happiness, Lisa, Aimee and Anna 🌈
I have been a mentor for both men and women. But everyday, I will tell a total stranger that I like their hair, dress, or other things. When I do,they always smile. Makes me happy
It's a lovely feeling isn't it:) x
there is ALWAYS something you can find to say that is positive about the other person...sometimes you have to look very hard, but it is do-able...and good practice for all of us ( I am a 72 year old personal trainer, and most of my clients are older, and I always give positive feedback...it is soooo very important!) Thank you for your videos...I enjoy...
100% agree my lovely:) If we all try to see the good wouldn't the world be a lot nicer place too! Have a lovely week Gail x
One of the best fashion videos I have ever watched. It will still make sense in 50yrs time .
Aww that is so kind of you to say Tracy, thank you:) I really appreciate it x
As a woman who constantly hears things like “why are you so dressed up?” It’s so important to encourage young women to own their style no matter what anyone else thinks. No one who is happy and owning their style is going to criticise anyone else.
I get that, too, constantly, because I wear more skirts and dresses. No matter how casual they are, T-shirt dresses, denim skirts, etc., always bring these put-downs.
I taught my daughter to always give a compliment and from a very young age she was always confident approaching a stranger to say a kind word. The response she gets is always so positive and it’s built her confidence in return. Empowering others is self empower too!
How lovely:) And she'll grow up one kind, caring and positive woman as a result. Which is all we can hope for with our children isn't it. Good for you lovely teaching your daughter such a lovely message x
Truly the one EVERYone needs to watch. Trying to fit in and be someone I am not has always left me feeling inadequate and as if I am falling short. Throughout the ages we are constantly evolving and learning. Lockdown has helped me in some respects as I needed a breather to reconnect with myself and re-establish who I am and where I am going looking forward. As I am 50 next year I am trying to negotiate the the changes and really focus on health, wellbeing and happiness. Much love, we've got this!! Xx
Hi Naomi, thank you so much for watching and getting in touch:) I think 'fitting in' is overrated, being original makes us all special. I tend to warm to people like that too, I'm not one for being in the 'cool' gang , it's all a bit mean girls for me. Surround yourself with goodness and it makes for a much happier and positive life. It sounds like the enforced reset has really helped you gather your thoughts, it's felt good hasn't it. Sending lots of love and hugs on your exciting new wellbeing journey Naomi x
You are the loveliest. I think the story you told demonstrates how important words are. What would it have cost that woman to try and get to know you and build you up instead of break you down? Especially when you were young and trying to find your feet in a new environment. That being said, it is wonderful that you were able to use that pain you felt to drive personal growth and it's now just one of the many stories that have gone into building a strong woman, who cultivates her confidence from the inside out and uses it to uplift other women.
What a beautiful comment, thank you so much Sarah:) I really appreciate that x
Hey Jess, 100% agree, it's so important to be true to ourselves and in our style. It sounds easy enough but it takes time to discover who you really are, i just turned 40 and still trying to figure it out. I will be sharing your video with my daughter when she is old enough, your words of wisdom; and something i wish i knew when i was in my 20s/30s. You have inspired me in so many ways, i am truly grateful - thank you xx ❤❤
What a lovely comment Cindy, thank you so much:) You've all inspired me so much since I've had this channel in so many ways. It does take time to really discover your personal style and I think it changes along the way a little too. We like certain things as we get older or a trend appears that really fits how we see ourselves. But it's such a lovely feeling when you get to that point, or even have a hint of it appear. Sending big hugs Cindy and thanks so much again x
You’re my kind of gal Jess hands down - kindness and compassion can make the world of difference - I have a dear dear friend who is doing it so tough over there in London atm - things got just too much for her - thank God a friend in Aus contacted the authorities in her county they made their way to her just in time - she’s recovering and rebuilding herself with the help of some amazing professional at the Priory Hospital just spoke with her a few moments ago xx
Hello Gloria, first of all please accept my apologies I'm only just getting back to you:/ I reply in the back end of youtube and sometimes they don't go through properly so i'm sorry about that:( I'm so sorry to hear about your lovely friend, I really hope she received the help she needed. Sometimes a little kindness and love is just what people need isn't it. Life can be tough sometimes, and I think this year has been especially hard for people. Thank goodness for wonderful friends to pick us all back up again. Sending big hugs Gloria:) x
I agree, it (style) should come from within otherwise it's just an added stress creation point instead of being fun and creative.
Very honest, and encouraging video!
I'm so glad you liked it, thank you Veena:) x
After watching this video, I am speechless...... except to say how wise, uplifting and insightful you are, Jess. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Aww what a beautiful comment Gina, thank you:) It's so nice to hear you found it uplifting it's something I've wanted to say for a while. Have a fab week lovely x
Bravo.... Ir took me decades to have the confidence to be able to compliment others without putting my own light out.
I totally get it Linda:) And liberating once you're out the other side of it! x
I often admire all the cool girls and their cool looks. I’ve tried it and it just doesn’t suit me! I discovered early on that classic styling is built in my genes. You be you. That’s why you’re doing so well! X
The 'cool girls' are often stood there with their own insecurities running round their head! It sounds like you got lucky and figured out what your personal style is early on. It's such a liberating feeling isn't it. x
Thank you for sharing such supportive messages - so many of them rang true for me. I'm at an exciting juncture of life right now (I hope) with having made the decision to retire early from my current place of employment after dedicating 20 years to it but I truly needed to remove myself from an environment that has been such a toxic influence and which has had a very negative effect on my sense of self-worth and confidence, despite being highly accomplished personally and professionally. I can't wait to have some breathing space to focus on rejuvenating my 'mojo' and moving in new directions that inspire me and those around me. Have a super weekend!!
Hello Heather, so sorry I missed your comment but how exciting is that! A new path ahead for you and wiping your hands clean of a toxic environment. I salute you gorgeous:) And I'm imagining once the dust has settled it'll feel like the best decision you ever made:) Big hugs lovely and congratulations x
So eloquently said and so true. I love your post, it’s so genuine and helpful. I’ve always loved fashion but as a young girl my family had the funds to buy new clothes for four kids. My grandmother was a seamstress in a wealthy area and would bring up bags of very expensive “hand me downs”, and I would make these amazing outfits out of them. Even though I couldn’t wear the cool outfits all my friends were wearing, I felt confident that what I wore was unique! I’ve tried to instill your belief in my two granddaughters- to be yourself and have fun with your clothes! Thank you.
Hi Maryellen, what a lovely story of your childhood, I bet you're a wizz on the sewing machine! And I love the idea of that uniqueness shining through, better than any trend led piece in my humble opinion:) My childhood was filled full of hand me downs too, not only with an older sister but an older cousin too! I'd find I'd have the same dress in my closet for years just a bigger version! But it certainly makes you appreciate clothes when you get older:) Happy Sunday Maryellen and thank you again for getting in touch x
I’m so glad I found your channel. It’s inspire me to rethink my clothing choices to not only make me feel better but better for our planet! Your ideas are so timeless, classic and beautiful.
Aww that's so lovely to hear:) Well I'm so chuffed you found me too and to hear you're finding my ideas helpful makes it all worthwhile. Have a wonderful week lovely x
Great advice Jess. Be who you are and as you say if you can't say anything nice don't say it makes you feel so much better about yourself. You are such an inspiration and I am old enough to be your mum but just love watching your videos.
Aww thanks Lynne:) Age is but a number on our birthday cards and I've taken to start counting mine backwards anyhow! I'm so pleased you found the video helpful, I feel very lucky to have such a nice group of like minded women on this channel:) Happy Sunday Lynne x
I just found your channel and I am so happy you spoke about confidence and feeling good. It's so important for all of us to bring each other up and this is a good message. Clothing and beauty can, indeed help us feel better. So does exercise, breathing deeply, meditation and talking to a good friend. Thank you, blessings and good health to all of your loved ones, and to all of your followers. Be healthy and loving and stay in the present moment.
The last two days have been pretty horrible, some of the most horrible of the past while. And here you are, still making a difference, speaking to me, just over a year later. #thankyou
I heard on another channel - everything you want is on the other side of fear. I have found this to be true in my own life as well. If we can just equip our children with the armour to face the world not fearless but willing to face and conquer the fear, we have done well. Thanks for this wonderful video, Jess!😊
Oh I love that saying:) And how very true! I really hope my children grow up like that. Unafraid to be 100% themselves. x
Words of wisdom but said with such compassion. Your point about encouraging other women was so motivating and in ways more proactive for me personally .I have no difficulty admiring/complimenting small children but am afraid that with an adult it appears like there is an angle.
When friends moving on leave you feeling down because the time you invested in that friendship seems wasted some will respond with stop thinking of others and focus on yourself but it's nice to be nice and a kindness from a stranger or acquaintance is such a welcome surprise.Its about striking the balance.
Your friends and family are so fortunate to have you in their lives.
I will quote you moving forward and bring joy to someone else's life.To quote you: ' you're doing great...'.xx
I think lots of women are the same. Not that you don't think nice things about other people but perhaps are too shy to say them aloud. I can honestly say that if it comes from somewhere genuine I don't think any woman would feel there's an angle, you'd just give them a sprinkle of confidence instead:) Here's to a lovely week hun and thank you so much for letting me know your thoughts x
Genuine and heart felt. My mum said the same thing to me when I was growing up, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing.” Another thing she said if I was feeling sorry for myself was,” There’s always someone worse off than you.” Xx
Thank you so much Andrea:) I follow your Mum's motto as well, especially important to remember this year. Happy Sunday lovely x
What you said about put downs is so true. For a lot of women, those put downs come from their parents, and especially their mothers. I know it sounds awful but I will never forget some of those carping, nitpicking criticisms and now there will never be any more. It’s as though a weight has rolled off my shoulders; I dumped the dowdy clothes I wore to visit her the day she passed away.
PS The Sezane boots do look lovely. Western boots are so comfy, please let us know how you get on with them if you do treat yourself - I’m a half size so would be grateful for input as returns can be a faff if you’re in the sticks.
I hope all your younger followers really listen to your wisdom! I really love how you extend the term 'fashion' into another level. Keep up the great videos! x
Aww thank you so much lovely:) If all my waffling gives just one woman a little sprinkle of confidence then that makes me very happy x
Absolutely be true to yourself. I'm 54 and I wear shorts and mini skirts because I want to! I've got a great pair of legs and nobody is going to stop me!
You should wear what makes you feel good and not what you're "expected" to wear.
Fashion very rarely suits everyone. We all have different shapes so realistically something that might be the height of fashion might not look good on you.
Good for you Lesley!! You know if I thought I had a great pair of legs I'd absolutely be doing the same! And I totally agree, trends come and go and all of them will not suit everyone each season. This Autumn Winter for example I've totally discounted fringing from my wardrobe, it might have been all over the catwalk but I look a bit of a plonker in the trend! Always, unapologetically wear what you love and what you believe suits you:) x
What a wonderful video, Jess. Your beautiful self shines through!
I liked what you said about the women who seem to disappear in expensive, ‘labels’ clothing. When I was young, my mum and I used to love to watch the Oscar Awards. The fashion was so much fun - everyone chose their own outfits, and revealed something about their true selves in doing so. There were glorious moments, and jaw-dropping disasters! Breath-taking ensembles and ‘oh dear’ ones. We loved it! You never knew what you’d see next! Now it’s so homogenous, with big labels, stylists, and such competition to outshine. So unimaginative and disappointing. Your advice to be yourself resonates deeply in these times. That’s what fashion should be all about! Thanks so much ❤️
WOW! Just what I needed today. Am about to turn 63 and was worried about the 'mutton' thing. Your insightful words (and the way you said them) has really helped. Thanks Jess xx
That is so nice to hear Marie:) I'm genuinely so chuffed you liked it x
I think that body shape and size dictate the fashion you can wear more than age.
I once had a friend 20 years older who could wear "younger" styles than me because she was a size 2.
I turned 63 earlier this year and and I realized it's a crucial time in life. Not yet 65 but no longer 60. Meaning time to take stock of who you've been and who you want to be in that last third of life. It can actually be fun reinventing yourself. :). Cheers!
@@seriouslyinsanediva I couldn't agree more lovely:) x
@@noolie62 Haha absolutely! And you know what, if you love wearing skinny jeans then go ahead and wear them! I actually think it's old fashioned when people say things like that. 'Oh not at your age' was a thing possibly in the 80s but these days thankfully we've all realised that's just a silly and outdated idea. Why would anyone, with a love of fashion, not want to follow the trends a little because of the age a birthday card reads?! x
Great advice Jess. For 20 years, I dutifully wore the local California Boho style. When I turned 60, I thought, why? I’ve since returned to my classic roots and feel much more like myself.
I had just watched a "style" video and was feeling uneducated and confused about all the "rules." THANK YOU. I love your attitude and kindness and you put it all in a new perspective for me. I do know who I am but (as a Gemini) I often feel different on different days and so go in different directions. I guess that's ok? I also have a horse so have my western barn style as well. Love the look of the English dressage equestrian but that's not me. You are a gem.
That's absolutely okay Susan:) We are all a bit like that I think, especially Women. And I think that's an important point to just flow with your mood. I filmed a new video the other day and one item is a lovely red dress, a little bit sexy but understated. And on that day if felt nice wearing it but it'll be one of those dresses you have to be in the mood for! Happy Sunday lovely x
Hi hope your building work is going well for you. Mine starts tomorrow !. Your entirely right about giving another women a compliment i often give others a compliment. It makes another person feel good and also makes me happy that I've done something good. The other day I bought myself 2 bunches of roses in sainburys as I walked back to my car a elderly lady was getting into her car and said oh arent they pretty so i gave her a bunch (my fav colour as well)! Lol but omg she was so pleased and that made my day. Sorry I do ramble on dont i. ! Enjoy your week. X
Hello lovely, please accept my apologies taking so long to get back to you:/ I often reply in the back end of youtube and I've just realised some of them haven't gone through:( Sorry. Anyhow, love that little moment you had with the elderly lady, I bet you made her week! I'm a firm believer in karma so I'm hoping you're surrounded in that kindness too:) Hows your building work going? Ours is very nearly finished...a few straggly bits to do but then ill film a house tour so i can see what you all think. Happy Sunday lovely x
Thanks so much for the reminder Jess! I've always been a "individual" or "quirky" dresser and as I face turning 50 very soon I'm trying not to lose that sense of "me" yet be a little more age appropriate. After working in the music, tv and film industries for years I was just seen as the quirky "arty" type. Now I'm very much a soccer Mum etc it's harder to strike the balance. I'm never wearing the same as any of the other Mums which used to give me confidence because it was me. Now I'm not sure. Anyway, the point is, I really enjoyed this video, so many sensible things said and all were appreciated. Hope you've had a lovely weekend with your family! Cheers x
I love quirky, it always makes me smile in a really positive way:) I see people like you and truly think 'you go girl' it's inspiring. I really wouldn't worry about fitting in with the whole "soccer Mum' thing, it sounds like you have that true individual style which is enviable, never a negative:) x
A very inspiring session. Full of truth, wisdom and strength. I often compliment other women of all ages of how great they look.....it costs nothing and if you are inspired by the moment the compliment will lift not only the person you admire but also yourself.
I totally agree Mary-Anne:) Something that is free, accessible for all and makes us and other people feel so good has got to be a good thing. Thanks so much for watching lovely, I hope you're having a wonderful week x
I love it! I love that you aren't a "brand pusher". There are soooo many luxury brands out there that are making really ugly and unflattering clothes. People fall all over this stuff. I dont get it. I think the absurdity of couture and luxury fashion is almost mocking to those who have money but no sense of style. I don't fall for it. One of my favorite shops often has sales of $10 for tops, but its really cute stuff! I try not to buy it unless i really intend to wear it, so as not to be wasteful, but i have no problem buying cheaper items if the fabric feels good and i really do like the piece. You can be in fashion at any price point, you just need to stay true to what you like and what flatters you best.
Haha so true! And they stick a big fancy label on it and people think that's 'style'? Not for me I'm afraid. I do see the quality in lots of designers, and often pieces can be like works of art, but I'd never buy something 'because' of what the label reads:/ Totally agree with you lovely, true style is not what you spend but how you wear it that counts. Happy Sunday lovely x
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First you look absolutely stunning! The white blouse, gold jewelry and your eye makeup, love it all. Secondly, thank you for this talk, I needed to hear it. I lost my job beginning of this year, first time ever and it was a shock. At first I took care of myself, but as the months got on, less so. I’ve been making my self small and invisible and of course guarantee had helped staying away from everything. I’m slowly turning my situation better financially, but my emotional side needs to strengthen. I have wonderful supporting family, so I have nothing to worry about, but still I’ve stumbled. It’s time to be me again. ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Eija, thanks for watching lovely. So sorry to hear you lost your job, that can really knock your confidence I know. And I'm sure there's lots of people in the same boat at the minute. Please don't hide yourself away, you have the strength to pull yourself back. No job is worth losing that little bit of you for and it's sounds like with a wonderful family having your back your on the right track:) I know when my Mum died I literally wanted to hide under the duvet and make the world just fizzle away but at some point I just forced myself up, into the bath, put some nice clothes on and essentially pretended to be okay. A bit like my 'fake it till you make it' theory from when I was younger. Eventually I realised I wasn't pretending anymore, I was okay. Getting 'you' back will feel wonderful and I promise you it's totally within your grasp. Sometimes we just have to fight a little to get it back. Sending you big hugs my lovely and oodles of strength x
Thank you so much❣️I actually ordered the blouse and pants from Mango that you had on the video, because I just loved the look of them on you. This was my first clothing purchase this year, so I’m so happy to break this lack mentality. I’m home alone for few days so it’s a perfect time to concentrate on self care and happiness. 💕much love, Eija
This is brilliant Jess, I couldn't agree more with everything you said. Learning and loving your own style is a journey and there are times in your life when your wardrobe calls for a little adjustments here and there. I've just turned 48 this week and I'm at that junction again. I love clothes but want them to be a reflection of me rather than just fitting into the current trend and in my opinion what a great time to be a woman of any age - we should have the confidence to dress how we want to dress and wear what we feel comfortable! Xx
What a spot-on message! I can relate to so many of these. As a teenager I had very little confidence. As a 50+ I have a core group of smart, funny and supportive women who seek out my companionship. Complimenting people is the best way to brighten someone’s day AND make yourself smile.
Couldn't agree more lovely:) Teenage years can be tough can't they, but thank goodness for great friends finding each other along the way:) Happy Sunday gorgeous x
Such a beautiful and inspiring video ❤️there were many points that you made that brought happy tears to my eyes. I’ve lacked confidence in myself for years. I’m now remarried to a gem of a man who allows me to be my quirky self and shine. As I rediscover myself and my style, a world of possibilities has opened. I am trying new silhouettes and choosing colours that bring me joy 🌻🌸🌺
Hi Cristina, thank you so much for watching and letting me know you liked it:) It sounds like you've got your mojo back with a good partner who builds you up, which is fantastic to hear. You found your Mr Darcy:) Discovering your own personal style should be fun and I'm so pleased it sounds like that's where you're at with it:) Happy Sunday my lovely x
It amazes me how something that happened to you in your teens can resonate in that a few years back I was going through certain time of my life that shook my confidence that I only just started to come into and it was someone I held very dear to my heart and looked up to as the sister I did not have,they was encouraging me for a long time see what they saw that I am good looking women I only came to that conclusion 4 years ago I'm in my late 40s it's been a journey of self discovery but when it did finally click that person turned on me it felt like a rug was pulled right from under me but in so doing I have learned that you have to learn to love and rely on that inner voice that we tend to ignore most of our lives that is for me my confidence telling you are doing fine yes you are looking stunning today I like how you are rocking that dress that colour looks awesome on you I now don't need someone else validation to feel good in my own skin if I want to dress as if I'm going to a garden party for instance on the rare occasions we have good weather in the UK 😌 and I'm just going to Tesco then I do so it is a part of me I love fashion I have all my life and I will continue to thank you for your honesty words they did resonate stay blessed because you are 🙏😊
Hello Leahcar thanks so much for getting in touch and sharing your thoughts:) It sounds like you finally realised the true issue at the heart of that situation and used it to build yourself back up. I know how that feels, more than I can say on here but I'm so glad you got there. Love the idea of you dressing up for Tesco, and why not if that makes you happy! Love it:) Have a fab week lovely and thanks again for watching x
Thank you i will be honest i have relapses now and again doubts but I think shaking it off each time just makes me stronger 💪 🤗 and reinforcing that I am rocking it🤗 stay blessed because we are all blessed 🙏🏼
Hi Jess. I've followed you for some time but never commented before. I've just turned 67. I thought I must be your oldest subscriber but happily see that's not the case. Your video is so genuine and heartfelt and true. Thank you so much for you.
Hello, thank you so much for following my channel and I'm so pleased you like the videos I create on here:) x
Your just so uplifting. I to have the same attitude about complimenting females, some feel very surprised by the compliment, I just smile.
Isn't it lovely:) Genuinely passing on the love so to speak can really make someone feel good. It's infectious! Hope you're having a lovely Sunday Deborah, the sun is finally out here so we're off out to celebrate! x
So so much to address and unpack if this was a IRL relationship. Suffice it to say that you are a one the luckier ladies I’ve met. Truly...you are blessed and you are aware of it and are grateful for it. That’s the trick, isn’t it? Thanks for such an uplifting video. Much needed right now considering the world we all now live in. Hugs from an unlucky lady in Florida. 🌴✨😎🚀🙏🏼💖
Bravo Jess 👌... loved that, I can relate so much, when we moved from Scotland ( age 18) I was so nervous, because of my accent I was constantly teased ( put politely).. it took me ages to at least fake confidence but it does work, even now , I tend to talk constantly when nervous. Having a child with autism has made me more confident as I fight so hard for him and forget my own shyness. I now have my own style, I think, and love your videos and styling tips, your confidence is wonderful, you are quite inspiring. Hope you’re having a great weekend. Love Pauline ps.. still have a Scottish 😉
Hi Pauline, hope you're well lovely and thanks for watching:) That must have been hard moving at 18 and upping and leaving friends but thank goodness you had that 'fake confidence' tactic in your back pocket too. It really works! I'm totally with you on fighting hard for your kids. It's amazing what parents can overcome once little ones come along isn't it. And baby groups can be harder to walk into than any high flying meeting! Haha! Big hugs lovely, love that you fight away the shyness for your boy, that will have such a positive effect on him:) x
Wow, this video is good for women to see and hear. I’m 51 and I’m trying to experiment with fashion more than I used to. My friends are very casual. Sometimes I feel like I’m trying too hard or I think others will think I am or that I’m trying to get attention which I’m really not trying to do. I’ve always been very into clothes ever since I was a child. I’m still trying to reconcile this in my head. Now that I’m a little older, I definitely have more confidence than ever before, so I’m just trying to enjoy the process. I totally agree that women should try to build each other up. I find some women always have something critical to say about everybody. This makes me feel very sad. Thank you for your kind words and your candor. I always look forward to your videos. You have such beautiful style! Stay safe Jess! ❤️😊
Hello lovely, I think that's often the problem, we women tend to think too much! Did we say/do/wear the right thing, we could often drive ourselves potty with it all! If you love fashion that's something to be celebrated not hidden away and all the right women around you will love you for it:) Have a fab week Kristin, I'm off shopping today to go celebrate my own love of fashion! x
How lovely and well said Jess... I moved overseas to follow my husband and after 15 years and two children we got divorced and he moved away. I had to start from zero, with no family around and my confidence crushed. My girlfriends came to my rescue by lifting me up and helping carry me until I could walk on my own again. Today I feel peaceful and much prettier than ever.
That's so lovely to hear you now feel in your happy place:) Great girlfriends always come to the rescue don't they! You don't even have to ask, the 'right' people are there when you need them. I actually think the second part of our life has to be the best, we know all the mistakes and feel so much more comfortable in our own skin:) Have a wonderful week lovely and thanks again for watching x
A lot of warm and fuzzy packed into this video Jess! Thanks so much for reminding us of what is real and that life is not a series of Instagram photos and videos. Cheers, Tiina xx
Aww thanks Tiina:) A lot of Instagram is smoke and mirrors, I can't believe anyone's life is that perfect! Haha, the state of my house right now would shock the home bloggers that's for sure! Hope you're well gorgeous. Are you in lockdown again I hear? x
@@FashionStyleEdit Luckily your state of disarray is short-lived and the payoff will be worth it! The state of Victoria is in lockdown, yes. My sister-in-law + her husband have been stranded there since March (assisting my 95 year old mother-in-law). The borders have been shut and we are praying that the virus doesn't make it's way back into South Australia.
Such lovely words of fashion wisdom, so encouraging, thank you Jess!
Loved these words from you Jess.
Being confident in who we are is so difficult for many women.
Spent years trying to work out my style and not there yet after 50 odd years... Others comments and looks haven't always helped... But I realise now it is my opinion that matters and feeling good in my own skin..
Thank you. X
Absolutely Julianne. There's so many other things at work when we receive mean comments. It could be as simple as someone having a bad day to them just not being very nice! But ultimately it's truly 'their' issue not yours at all. It sounds like you're on the right track now feeling good in your own skin which is absolutely the best place to be:) x
Just stopped by to say how much I loved this. Almost every single piece you linked was something I would love to wear. I am going for a job interview with a tech startup and had lots of good ideas now. ❤️
Hi Biki, thanks so much for watching and apologies I'm so late replying:/ I hope the job interview went well and I gave you a little spring in your step with my waffling! Happy Sunday lovely x
Beautifully done Jess! Completely agree with your statement about women supporting women. I've moved to UK years ago and started from the bottom. I was studying to finish my PhD and I remember no one could believe it, because...hey, your English is not perfect and you are a foreigner. But I pretty much found my voice after countless of negative comments. With so many bloggers out there, is so great to see someone original, refreshing and humble. Thank you :)
The best comeback is your huge success! Good for you lovely:) I hate it when people tell me something is impossible, just makes me want to prove them wrong! I am not fluent in any other language, just little bits here and there so I have great admiration for anyone who can speak another language fluently let alone write perfectly in it too:) Have a wonderful week Zeni and thanks again for watching x
The best video I’ve been seen on RUclips from very long time . Thank you 🙏🏼 for that honest words this a great message for all of us .
Thank you so much Barbara, I truly meant every word:) x
We loved this video Jess. So glad you eventually made it. Knowing our personal style, definitely helps to build confidence. And there’s nothing better than a small tribe of women who completely have each other’s backs. Beautifully said. Xox
By far the best and most humble RUclipsr. Another great video Jess xx
Aww bless you for saying that Sophie, thank you. I'm so glad you liked the video:) x
Lovely video Jess and such inspirational words. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Aww it's my pleasure Paola:) It's something I'd really wanted to talk about for a while but couldn't find the right words so I'm glad it's come across as I meant:) Have a wonderful week lovely x
Great video!! Really enjoyed it. You spoke my truth, too. It's always good to be reminded! Easy to fall back into that old belief. The universe amazes me. It sends us messengers if our mind is open to them. Thank you. I needed to hear that today!
I really needed to hear #3 the “Fake it to you make it” story. Thank you!
Haha my pleasure hun😘 I still use the tactic from time to time if I’m feeling nervous, always works! x
Jess what is so lovely about you is you are stunning but a lovely person also 🥰
This video was very helpful and I agree with everything you said , thank you xxx
Aww that's kind of you to say Alex, thank you:) I'm so glad you liked it x
A truly inspirational woman. Beautiful inside and out 👌🙌
That's such a kind thing to say thank you Susan:) x
This is the best video I've ever watched on RUclips. Well done!
Oh wow that is so kind of you to say:) Thank you Susan that is really lovely of you and I do appreciate it. Have a wonderful week, fingers crossed the suns coming back now:) x
SusanAfter60 i so agree with you!
I love how honest and real you are about the importance of allowing yourself to show your true personality. It's so important to bear in mind but so easy to forget. Thank you so much for your awesome and inspiring content, Jess!
Aww it's my pleasure Emma, thank you so much for letting me know you liked it. Have a fab week lovely x
This was by far my favorite video I just had a conversation with my daughter who was crying because she’s about to go off to college she is shy and insecure and that fake to you make it saying is spot on and I had fallen into the trap of not getting dressed during the lockdown and have felt horrible and unattractive Jess you have inspired me to turn that around I will play this video for my daughter we women need to be supportive of one another and God Bless you for giving us the kick start to be ourselves and express it with fashion bravo Jess
Oh no, I'm sorry to hear your daughter is upset. It's a big thing going off to Uni especially if she's a little more shy and insecure. Things are never as tough as we make out they'll be but I know in the moment it's very hard to see that. I've really found my 'fake confidence' really helps, tell her it's like acting. She could pretend she's more confident at college and then eventually something just clicks and you realise you're not pretending anymore, you just feel fine. Sending big hugs Ann, I have all this to come with my boys I'm sure:) x
Fashion and Style Edit thank you so much your so gracious much love sent your way
Wear something lovely for yourself every day, it makes such a difference and a bit like money you can't take it with you, so wear it now and don't keep stuff for best x
Beautifully said ❤️
Thank you 💛
This is one of the best you tube videos I've seen in a while.
Aww that's so kind of you to say Jill, thank you so much:) x
What a lovely vlog, Jess, Thank you. I understand that quiet, a little different, not quite fitting in feeling. now I am in my 50s, I embrace it. It really is ok to be different. I am all for lifting up other woman and never understood why some woman are just horrible to each other.
Me too, it seems such a negative way to live life doesn't it? Well I'm all for a little individuality and quirkiness, it keeps life exciting:) Have a wonderful week Lynne and thanks so much for watching x
Beautiful video, thank you so much for the motivation
It's honestly my pleasure Yvonne:) Thank you so much for watching x
Thanks! I passes this on to my gal pals here in Canada. 🌏🌹🌹
Yes! Spread the word, everyone is gorgeous just the way they are:) That's the hippy in me I know!! Haha, hope you're well lovely x
Thanks, loved it. Fashion with compassion❣️🌹👏
Thank you so much Lesley:) Have a great week lovely x
Thanks. Great advice. I love the blue and white shirt. Classy and casual.
This just re emphasized exactly why I fell in love with your channel the moment I first saw it. I couldn’t agree more, true beauty really radiates from within and just emphasizes the beauty outside. Please know that you are such an inspiration to us all! Thank you from the bottom of my heart all the way from Seattle!
Hi Lillian, what a lovely heartfelt comment, thank you so much for writing that. I do really appreciate it. Have a wonderful week lovely x
Hello Jess. This video is actually so important and relevant. Thank you for posting this. I've been a subscriber for about a year now and love your style and content. I've been in a similar situation as yourself with an older group of people surrounding me. I think I knew who I was but was afraid of being missunderstood or belittled just by virtue of being the youngest and prettiest. Other women are often mean to pretty girls. I found my voice and use it fearlessly! lol.
Haha thank goodness you found your voice eventually my lovely:) It's liberating isn't it x
Jess, such good advice about everything! You certainly are a gem. Thank you for taking the time to share this with us. Such beautiful fashion as well. I love that cream shirt you are wearing. Thank you again!
Thank you so much Wanda, I truly meant every word and I really hope the message came across:) Happy Sunday lovely x
Love your style!! Personal and fashion!!🌸🌺🌹🌷💐
Thank you Martha, I'm so glad you enjoy what I DO ON HERE X
You are amazing and thanks for this. My daughter must watch this.
Aww that’s so kind thank you😊 I truly wish more women could get that sprinkle of confidence back we often had in our 20s. Happy weekend lovely and thanks again for watching x
Bravo Jess. 👏👏👏 What a great start to the new week.
Aww that's lovely to hear, thanks Janette:) x
BRAVO! What a nice uplifting video.....Thank you so much......love your parprika coloured ensemble :) so lovely....Love from Canada xxxx
Thank you so much Line, I'm so glad you liked it:) And I love you naming the shade Paprika!! I need some more of that! happy Sunday lovely x
Thanks for your honesty!
Thank you so much Alessandra x
You are amazing and did a wonderful job on this. You brought attention to a nice reminder about how women should be and I love how positive you are.
you nailed it Jess! in every word, it was exactly what I needed to hear! thank you!
That is so nice to hear Angelita, thank you so much:) Here's to a wonderful, positive week lovely:) x
@@FashionStyleEdit thanks😊
This is why I love your channel so much Jess - your kind and lovely values speak to me as much as your style ❤
Aww that's lovely to hear, thank you Paula:) I really do appreciate that x
You are amazing, Jess. Best life advice. All your points resonated so very much with me. You nailed it!
Aww Karen thank you so much my lovely:) I'm genuinely so chuffed you liked it x
Fashion and Style Edit 🤔had to google chuffed! 🤣
I’ve been there, so many times. This is a fabulous message. 🙏🏼
Aww thanks hun, glad you liked it:) Thank god I don't have to sit through those dinners anymore!! x
Mornin jess. Awww your so lovely and genuine and your words are inspiring. Sat here in baggy Jean's n shirt not feeling my best. So I am now going to shower and get spruced up to visit my sis. Your a breath of fresh air.xx
Aww thank you:) Well here's to a lovely catch up with your Sis Lorraine, enjoy lovely:) x
We so need to hear these messages. How lovely to have them in the context of a fashion video. Your videos are always original and honest. Debra x
Thank you so much Debra, I really appreciate you saying that:) And I truly meant every word. I just hope it's helped inspire a little confidence for everyone x
Great video, enjoyed so much Jess! My grandmother had that same motto. 🙌🏻🇺🇸😊💛
Thank you so much Pam x
Beautiful advice! Thank you for sharing 💖
I'm so glad you liked it, thank you so much for watching x
Wonderful style and advice. Such a classy lady. Bravo!
Thank you so much x
Thank you for this wonderful video, I enjoyed it much! Excellent choices.
Thank you so much Rita, I really appreciate that:) x
Lovely. I’m senior leader in a corporate role that hates the TMLewin (pencil skirt, jacket and shirt) look that woman think they have to subscribe to. I’ve made beautiful dresses work for me in the corporate world.
That sounds perfect Hailey and good for you:) I hate conforming to what people 'think' I should be, or wear, or behave. Life is way too short for any of that nonsense! x
Very touching, very honest, a great video! Congratulations and thanks!
Thank you so much Silvia:) x
Thank You for these really wonderful and wise tips. They are so true to feeling good about yourself and having more confidence. I tend to worry about getting older, but I love what you said about not worrying about age and just wear what makes you feel good inside. Thank You so much, Jess. Your advice has helped me a lot.
I'm so pleased you liked the video Stephanie, and hopefully it's given you a little spring in your step now:) Have a great week lovely x
Wonderful video Jess but it also brought a tear to my eye. I've always struggled with my self image, spent my whole life feeling self conscious and have never really found my style. I pick up clothes in shops that I love but put them back cos I don't think I could wear them and buy something more conservative. Strangely I think the lockdown had helped a little as its put things into perspective but I wonder if I can keep the mindset going when things are more normal and life takes over again. Your lovely words are in my head and I shall keep thinking of them and take little steps to change my attitude. You're a star Jess xx
Hey Jo, I'm so sorry hun I seem to have missed your reply:/ I really hope my words are still in your head hun since this video! If in doubt try and look at it as a game. Dare yourself to stand out from the shadows just once and wear something you truly love but usually would say no in fear. What's the worst that can happen? And hopefully when you realise nothing bad happens you'll do it again and again! Even if you do get a snarky comment, does it matter? I really try to not let things like that effect my day and I so wish everyone could too. I heard a really interesting quote the other day that most people are fundamentally so self absorbed they barely notice what everyone else is doing let alone wearing! It made me laugh and I do think there's some truth to it. Everyone's worried what everyone thinks of them, a group of women could all being stood together worrying about the same thing! So try it Jo, throw caution to the wind and just have a go, I promise you once you get used to it stepping out from the shadows will be the most liberating feeling:) x
Lovely Jess, you have to be the most conscientious RUclipsr out there, thank you for responding to this even though you don't have to. I will try, I will, I will, I will 😁 😘 x
@@JoR00ke Never give up trying my lovely, one day it'll all just click into place:) x
Boy oh boy do I understand you in this episode. Who knew loose baggy clothes would be in style now, when I used them to hide myself when I was younger. Not because I was oversized but because people in my circle then thought I had a ‘Barbie’ shape. To me Barbie was sexy and I didn’t see myself as that so I hid. Then got to college with a boost of self confidence and never looked back.
What a fantastic video thank you so much.....you are glowing today too xx
Aww thanks lovely:) Hope you're having a fab weekend so far Sallyann x
What a lovely video. You put together a collection of inspiring points for us all to consider and put into action. Thank you. You always brighten my day. 🥰