For every decision we've to make in our marriage, my husband has to involve his mum! Am sick of it!

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  • Опубликовано: 17 окт 2022
  • I feel like his mother makes all the decisions in our marriage! How do i tell her to stop without hurting her? How do I make him understand that his mother is slowly killing our marriage?
    #themarriagecoach
    #methayakagoni
    #wanjirukiama

Комментарии • 106

  • @BK-qz8cm
    @BK-qz8cm Год назад +17

    I fear topics of MIL coz they trigger some emotions that I would rather keep canned. If I were to do it all over again, I would let the in laws be. I would only seek to protect my peace and empower myself spiritually, emotionally and financially.

  • @stellakahakinjuguna2974
    @stellakahakinjuguna2974 Год назад +11

    If you imagine your in-laws are thorns in your flesh, I tend to disagree. They just do what is natural, taking advantage of relative who do not value you. If he has any respect for you, he would protect you from them.

  • @eunicesolomon4863
    @eunicesolomon4863 Год назад +7

    I thank God tunaishi ulaya. .
    You have to pay 200+k to visit. Vile waliniingilia kabla tupate mtoto 😢😢😢😢😢. Kama ningekuwa Kenya wangekuja kunifukuza

  • @rozzycate5239
    @rozzycate5239 Год назад +4

    I have the best mother in law.. if I'm financially down she comes through .. yaani she supports us, she's our therapist.. I wonna be like her to my future daughter in law

  • @bashlyn4545
    @bashlyn4545 Год назад +3

    I also think some of these mothers lived a very humble life in their youth and did not get money from the fathers of their children as regularly as they would have wanted. Subconsciously, they start living the life they desired through their sons...

  • @estheralice3842
    @estheralice3842 Год назад +4

    I thank God for my mum in love she's been good to me since day one, I've been married for nine years now.

  • @peninahnduta9776
    @peninahnduta9776 Год назад +1

    Well said. Mother-in-law’s have killed many marriages especially Kikuyu mothers. Leave your sons alone you had your marriage. Thank you for this talk. Mothers should never be counselors to their children marital problems!!!!

  • @monicakihara1076
    @monicakihara1076 Год назад +12

    Monica my namesake please bring this woman twice a week...I love what you are doing

  • @marymugwe7150
    @marymugwe7150 Год назад +4

    Wakiama is so real. I like her and her advice 💕💕

  • @wambuinjuguna1431
    @wambuinjuguna1431 Год назад +1

    Kangoni you looking amazing ♥️♥️♥️hiyo topic iko sawa kabisaa

  • @marymuthie5844
    @marymuthie5844 Год назад

    Great topic Kagoni. Indeed many MIL have become a thorn in the flesh. Wonderful advice to all ladies who are finding themselves in such situations. To Wa Kiama keep up the good work...

  • @happymindhappylife-sheilakamau
    @happymindhappylife-sheilakamau Год назад +1

    Prayers to mother in law who put assunder what God has joined together 😊

  • @salomewanjikuwoi7637
    @salomewanjikuwoi7637 Год назад +3

    Amen mum be bless that's my prayer iam a mother of four boys

  • @gracewairimu937
    @gracewairimu937 Год назад +3

    Women who behave like that had no say in their wedding or no say at home

  • @missparker2645
    @missparker2645 Год назад +1

    Kwiragwo Guciara kahii nita gucirira murume . Mwanake wakwa knows I am number 1 .
    Eeee nainywi. And the way I have gone through , to educate & raise him.
    MUCIARI NI NGAI YA KERI.
    My son has to consult me

  • @monicahmbugua2451
    @monicahmbugua2451 Год назад +2

    The dependency is sickening sometimes especially when you are naturally independent as a woman! Mine doesn't like me anymore after I took my stand and decided to live my life love myself and freely raise my kids the way I want! But I respect her but Kila mtu na maisha yake.

  • @mwauramartha4223
    @mwauramartha4223 Год назад +14

    My mum in love is the best , she hasn't been a thorn to me for the past 7 years I've been married by his son. Always allow us to make our own decisions... Big up mum. Much love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @alicewanjiku2271
      @alicewanjiku2271 Год назад +3

      There are still good mum in law wangu tuliachana but my r/ship is still intact

    • @wambuinjuguna1431
      @wambuinjuguna1431 Год назад +2

      Glory be to God 🙏abarikiwe sana

    • @mwauramartha4223
      @mwauramartha4223 Год назад

      Amen Amen Amen

    • @mamamagu4549
      @mamamagu4549 Год назад

      @@alicewanjiku2271
      J.And

    • @wambuimachari1783
      @wambuimachari1783 Год назад +1

      Always thanks God,wat I know God's love peace n marriage.mi huwa napingwa vita na mother inlaw niende...may God have mercy

  • @Wanjamburu.23
    @Wanjamburu.23 Год назад +1

    I understand this. Perfectly.

  • @stellasyomau4492
    @stellasyomau4492 11 месяцев назад

    Can't miss to watch u helping a lot.

  • @marynjambi
    @marynjambi Год назад

    I'm enjoying this topic alafu monicah uko v smart

  • @miriammugo5459
    @miriammugo5459 Год назад +3

    she was a thorn even after her lstill feel the pain

  • @MissT292
    @MissT292 Год назад

    This lady Mrs kiama is full of life,,,the true definition of life is for the living,,,bless u both

  • @rebeccaetter1104
    @rebeccaetter1104 Год назад +4

    Monica uko smart

  • @marymaina4799
    @marymaina4799 Год назад

    Thank you, God bless you, ladies.
    The truth must be told ❤, so many of us are suffering from the in-laws hand

  • @mungaimary3263
    @mungaimary3263 Год назад +2

    I think my ex was boy's mum .his mum used to tel me kama "nimekula sana nikashiba nitoka niende" plus she used to tel me that even when" he had not married alikuwa anakula na kunywa."

  • @laciekui3347
    @laciekui3347 Год назад +1

    From experience,he was like mum ,mum everything thing better I had to kujikata out of that relationship

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 Год назад +1

    Wakiama you are soo blessed with wisdom.........I miss you with the short hair 😉

  • @essienonino7163
    @essienonino7163 3 месяца назад

    My mother in law died the other day, she was asking what she can see my children, she never check them I left when my son is 18 months now he's 30 and I was pregnant of 2 months, she was this kind of a woman that could not do anything without the mother, when he come home me I would not know coz he will enter his mother's house till 1.00 at night I never regret there the ones who hav been checking for me, my son now married and am OK with the girl and friends, I hv to free my son and remain tough coz my son hav mama's boy inside but I don't let him to be and am out side Kenya, happily working, wakiama we love you

  • @carolinewairimu8842
    @carolinewairimu8842 Год назад +2

    That was my shosh weeeeh alionyesha my mum moto but mum stood strong shosh gave up

  • @monicahmbugua2451
    @monicahmbugua2451 Год назад +3

    There is a mistake I made early and naive in marriage I asked for mil help after the son hurt me,the answer I got am yet to heal! Aliniuliza ulimfanyia nini? So I was the cause of his mistakes not him 😂 hapo ndio nilijua she's not my mum.

  • @teresiawairimu1938
    @teresiawairimu1938 Год назад

    Wololo!!!may God have mercy!!!tondu maaa........

  • @teresiahmumbi6651
    @teresiahmumbi6651 Год назад +1

    I really really really love my mum in love, may Almighty God bless her always

  • @janeirungu5888
    @janeirungu5888 Год назад

    This topic very important..I can relate this..am very wise kila MTU na maisha yake keep distance and respect more

  • @MONICAKABUI-tn2dd
    @MONICAKABUI-tn2dd 2 месяца назад

    My mom in love killed my marriage completely , that is the whole story she is giving , that what I have been going through, I wish she would hear this

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 Год назад +2

    Monicah you are soo gorgeous 😍

  • @leahgatebi2578
    @leahgatebi2578 Год назад

    She is still funny as she was, this is a talent she has .She was like this at school no beating about the bushes she says as it is 🤣🤣

  • @mwangikibe8672
    @mwangikibe8672 Год назад +1

    Aki it's true coz Kuna jirani hapa an hafanyi job. he's like 35yrs....
    mom yake humtumia ndoo ya kutumia an he's very comfortable.........aki our boys I pity them coz their future is doomed

  • @withsusangitahi196
    @withsusangitahi196 Год назад

    I rest my case hear,

  • @leahgatebi2578
    @leahgatebi2578 Год назад

    Waa msalimie sana B.kiama I knew it was her she was my swahili teacher in muruguru, tell her it's Gatebi from muruguru girls high school. She was one of a kind love you mama😘

  • @georginamacharia5482
    @georginamacharia5482 Год назад

    Very true

  • @teresiakibe7134
    @teresiakibe7134 Год назад

    Aki this is me she must know whatever came with him but i will one time be muminlaw i will never revage

  • @gideongathekiamkoloni5043
    @gideongathekiamkoloni5043 Год назад +1

    Waiting

  • @carolnyambura7747
    @carolnyambura7747 7 месяцев назад

    Ati Jimmy Rogers...ma wa kiama😂😂😂😂

  • @ngugirahab6733
    @ngugirahab6733 Год назад

    Sometimes mother in laws get bashed unfairly Daughters in law should realize that mother /son bonds are very strong. She is not an enemy. Treat her respectfully and make an effort to be her friend right from the beggining.Most mother in law/ daughter inlaw fights impact negatively on their sons marriages .

  • @peterwanyoike2546
    @peterwanyoike2546 Год назад +3

    Tuned in from Dallas Texas USA 🇺🇸

    • @sherrysmiley
      @sherrysmiley Год назад

      can i get work over there like caregiver

    • @peterwanyoike2546
      @peterwanyoike2546 Год назад

      @@sherrysmiley are you here or kenya

    • @sherrysmiley
      @sherrysmiley Год назад

      im in kenya

    • @peterwanyoike2546
      @peterwanyoike2546 Год назад

      @@sherrysmiley ok can try your luck by applying for green card now the process is going on and passport is not a requirement only form 4 certificate

  • @christinemburu2120
    @christinemburu2120 Год назад

    Haria horu piu ni aria maikaraga hau thutha wa nyina...arokoruo niwe kihinga nda.. we wathira. Nice topic though

  • @emilywangui
    @emilywangui Год назад +2

    I love ❤ wakiama so much, she is a full life ❤..thanks kwa advice...pia sisi single mothers tunataka yetu

  • @MuigaSNjoki02
    @MuigaSNjoki02 Год назад

    Mom wakiama always speak the truth. 💔 hawa mama's boy wako wengi sana.

  • @naominjeri4414
    @naominjeri4414 Год назад +5

    Wat about their brothers or siz, it comes to appoint that wanaingilia kazi yangu,I will never forget Oct 2021 I had a miscarriage on 9/9 the same year,kuenda kwao kuvisit instead niheal kidonda waliniongeza ingine ju after the miscarriage nilipata depression na walisema mtoto wao awezi Kaa na mwendawazimu walitaka kuninyaganya watoto but nikakataa,since that day sitakangi ata kuwaona.

  • @queenezzywanjiru3582
    @queenezzywanjiru3582 Год назад +5

    That was my mum in law those old day 2017 gatuti Monica yes gaturi hapo kagara was a hell everything mum in law even money was to divide it , nikieda job I will change till I made my decision 1and half later 😭😭😭😭😭 so desperate, told I thank God 🙏 am well

    • @Pauline77203
      @Pauline77203 Год назад

      Ilibidi mm nijitoe juu ataa kaxi nikienda naabiwa niwache

  • @carol_j
    @carol_j Год назад

    niko ndani

  • @Pauline77203
    @Pauline77203 Год назад +2

    I passed through this ..ata kikombe huwezi nunua b4mil hajasema ...waliniyangaya mtoto nakumwitisha niliambiwaa mama amesema mtoto asitoke huku ..kukaa kaa mum aliniambia alinia ...nikijifungua Hadi kweda kununua nguo za mtoto nanipesa zangu laxima mil aseme ...two yrs now since nitoke bt walikatalia mtoto

  • @marthakiarie3712
    @marthakiarie3712 Год назад

    🤕

  • @shiksshiksshiksshiks1412
    @shiksshiksshiksshiks1412 Год назад +3

    Tinii mwega nimwathani kau nikanjoya🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @wambuinjuguna1431
      @wambuinjuguna1431 Год назад

      Araruta wiira muraihu ni gwo ndakorio nikii atarainuka🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @rachaelmwaniki7487
    @rachaelmwaniki7487 Год назад

    Lebanon turned

    • @pauline2604
      @pauline2604 Год назад

      Hello Rachael ,how can I get to Lebanon job wise?. Thank you

    • @rachaelmwaniki7487
      @rachaelmwaniki7487 Год назад +1

      @@pauline2604 come inbox

    • @pauline2604
      @pauline2604 Год назад +1

      @@rachaelmwaniki7487 how, imenishinda 😀

    • @rachaelmwaniki7487
      @rachaelmwaniki7487 Год назад +1

      @@pauline2604 hiyo ndio njina yangu fb,,kuja uko ungie messenger

    • @pauline2604
      @pauline2604 Год назад

      Sawa running there

  • @franciskamau9575
    @franciskamau9575 Год назад

    Was the nyeri accent really necessary?🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @evakoi2104
      @evakoi2104 Год назад +1

      My grandmother who was a terrible Mother in law to my mother used to say the same thing with the same accent she was from Gatitu Nyeri

    • @franciskamau9575
      @franciskamau9575 Год назад

      @@evakoi2104 🤣🤣🤣🤣I can imagine

  • @wambuiflo4606
    @wambuiflo4606 Год назад +4

    What about hawa sister in law's wakujanga kukatalia kwako na watoto wao,,wanaingia Hadi Kwa bedroom yako kama umelala

    • @mercymunina9164
      @mercymunina9164 Год назад

      soo shameful of them. have no manners, kwanza wanakuanga single mums

    • @josephinekamau2521
      @josephinekamau2521 Год назад +1

      Especially kaa kijana wao ako na pesa weee na brother ake n msoft utakua na stress 24/7

    • @wambuimachari1783
      @wambuimachari1783 Год назад +1

      Have sister in-law like that,hana heshima ata kidogo

    • @mercymunina9164
      @mercymunina9164 Год назад

      @@josephinekamau2521 true aki

    • @mercymunina9164
      @mercymunina9164 Год назад

      @@wambuimachari1783 they can also be controlling. hawa watu wabaya sana.

  • @kimwacilia8007
    @kimwacilia8007 Год назад +1

    Please I beg pardon, kindly as bible say respect your Mother and Father as your second God, am Man and I really respect my Mother there is no one can take my Mom position only God can, wife can divorce and leave you but Mom DNA be with you till death part, kindly respect all Mother's in the world

    • @violetwangui5957
      @violetwangui5957 Год назад +3

      Bure kabisa marry your mother nkt

    • @prisca25ngugi74
      @prisca25ngugi74 Год назад +4

      Same bible says you will leave your mother and father to go and make you family,and you and your wife will be one.

    • @alicemwangi555
      @alicemwangi555 Год назад +3

      You are right by respecting your mother but you must protect your wife from your relatives including your mother if you're wise. Otherwise you will never make a home for yourself. Maybe you make a home with your mother which is not possible.

    • @Pauline77203
      @Pauline77203 Год назад +1

      Nyenje 😅😅mummy boy hikia nyukwa

    • @maggymaggiez_magdah4786
      @maggymaggiez_magdah4786 Год назад

      You are the kind wakiama is taking Abt Mai maya

  • @Justmurayah
    @Justmurayah Год назад +1

    Waiting

  • @janewambui1919
    @janewambui1919 Год назад

    waiting

  • @proudgakware7799
    @proudgakware7799 Год назад

    waiting

    • @leahwanjiku3566
      @leahwanjiku3566 Год назад

      That true mum late ower children stay safe and free I used to love my daughter inlow