No Guilt - No Punishment
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- Опубликовано: 9 мар 2012
- Ajahn Brahm is one of the most insightful, unpredictable, and popular Dhamma teachers in Australia and internationally. This is a teaching he gave in Sydney at the Roselea Community Centre on 3rd May 2010.
Honestly before I heard his teaching, my life was kind of over because of the guilt for what I've done. When I heard teaching about two bricks, I cried and forgave myself.
This put me in tears. Love his teachings.
The container and the content. Wonderful simile provides so much to digest,
Ajahn Brahm you are such a gift to this world . thank you for being so kind
Thank you for a wonderful speech Ajahn Brahm.
Ajahn is so wise, love his teachings!
What would you do if somebody would flush a buddhist holy book down the toilet? Asked the journalist.
So Ajahn Brahm answered: I would call a plummer. Because I need this toilet afterwards.
You can flush as many books down the toilett, but it will not flush down peace, compassion and kindness.
This is the distinction between containers and content.
(love the answer!!!)
i feel high from this speech
Wisdom that makes me laugh and smile ... we need more humans like you, Ajahn Brahm ... I think I'll start with the human who is typing this ... ;-) :-)
I agree that Ajahn is a briljant speaker. Most of all I think his thoughts are briljant.
A Brilliant, Witty and highly Intelligent Buddhist.
Feel so guilt-free after watching :)
Thank you sou much for the talk !! i am a Spanish guy that recently loose the vision in one eye, i was 15 dyas in the hospital listen the dharma talk, Was very inspired !!.
Great insights combined with great humor :)
Ajahn Brahm is such a wise, down-to-earth, laid-back and funny spiritual teacher. His lectures offer a perfect introduction to Buddhism.
I love you all
Ajahn Brahm is a brilliant speaker. Thank you. Blessings and Love.
... Very good teaching technique 🙏 I never forgot the sentence "... No need for revenge, karma will take care of it...". Thinking about it, I actually feel sorry for the poor sods... 😅🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Ajahn! You and all the monastics behind you are AWESOME!!
Thanks!!!!!!!
It makes you realize when you label a person, that is all you see. You do not see the person. The thing is, you often become the person others believe you are and not the person you know you are. It is a double headed sword. You often become what you think and others think of you which may be far from the truth. To look at someone and just think of them as a person and not find a label is very hard. We are taught that. Forgiveness is another hard thing to do. Many people don't ever forgive the person who has given them grief. Some don't realize when they don't forgive someone it can cause lasting heartache for that person. Especially if the person has apologized for their wrong doing, why should they still be punished. A person wouldn't waste the effort to say they are sorry if they could care less about hurting the other person. So many things in this video rings true. The main thing is, you are the only one who can decide for yourself how to be.
Clarity in Thought, Reality in content Ajahn Brahm brings us the present reality and truth while teaching Buddhism. When one labels another negatively in time that may be what they will believe the label they are given, likewise when labelled positively that is what we often Become..... Bliss :)
Honesty is simply amnesty, to oneself.
Own up to your mistakes…
Not in seek of forgiveness from others, but forgiveness from oneself in order to move on.
"Never allow knowledge to stand in the way of truth."
"AFL code" (Acknowledge, Forgive and Learn)
"Pain in your heart is coming out as sickness in your body." (Wow! so true..)
I wonder if every "steeping stone" is always necessary.
He said this is a stepping stone to say "I seek your forgiveness" but I wonder how necessary that stepping stone is. Sometimes I take different steps when stepping on stones... hmm
"My dealings and relations with people, with loved ones, with friends would be so much easier if they all thought the way I do." Or I'd say, "we wouldn't have this argument or disagreement if you thought the way I do." This is what I usually would say to someone or to myself. So I guess, deep down, I don't want anyone to think for themselves because I want them all to think like me. (LOL). We say things like, "he's exactly like his father, or she's so much like her mother." If I were God, I'd make people exactly the way I want. Then there wouldn't be any excuse for misbehaving. I'm simply reflecting on a few things I've said in the past.
+Lord Byron Excellent my dear Byron,wouldn't it be great if we lived on a planet populated only with clones of ourselves?Yours truly Percy B.Shelley
forgive yourself _/\_
What does one do if we harm someone?
BioStuff415 forgive yourself . If practical, apologize to them.
BioStuff415 and learn that you didn't like doing it
"Acknowledge, forgive, and learn" no punishment is fine for those who hold the values. But what to do about, e.g., shoddy dental work a doctor refuses to acknowledge, even when other doctors in the same profession say it needs to be redone and you already are in debt for the first work? And the shoddy work puts your teeth in jeopardy?
+splashcat I'm not a wise man of any kind, mind you.
But here goes: Shoddy dental work really, really sucks. My mom suffered from this a LOT. I feel with you.
My advice would be to pursue your goal to get the dental work redone at the original doctor's expense by all legally available means - while trying not to get too emotionally involved in the issue. Maybe better have a lawyer handle the issue if you've got insurance covering this, as a lawyer usually won't be involved emotionally. (They can be very pushy, though, which may exacerbate conflicts. Maybe better pick a nice one.)
"No punishment" doesn't mean the doc won't have to bear the consequences of working badly and harming you. The guys in jail in Brahm's talk had to bear them as well.
But don't take it personally, don't hate the doctor. You don't know the motives driving him/her to deny responsibility.
Don't blame yourself either for picking a shoddy doctor, either. How could you have known. Don't waste your energy on sustaining bad feelings. Don't hurt yourself with hate or massive indignation.
While sorting it out, try to live with the shoddy work as well as possible - it's your only option anyways.
Admittedly - this all is MUCH easier said than done, I'd probably fail EPICALLY at putting this into practice if MY teeth were concerned and so on, but I reckon it'd be the wise way of handling this.
One aside: In my experience, some people will fix stuff they screwed up out of "goodwill" if that means they don't have to acknowledge they screwed it up.
Have you tried persuading your doc that way yet?
My dental journey is a saga. If I want to keep my teeth the crowns must be redone or there are great chances to lose them to decay and perio disease from poor crown fit, and bone loss from bite trauma.
After getting two 2nd opinions that the restoration must be redone I was able over the last 7 months to work with the banks to charge back some of the work of one dental clinic. A couple charges still in arbitration should resolve in my favor soon, too. And if I can find a prothodontist who can and will adjust the bite enough to eat without pain and at least slow the bone loss so I can focus I'm thinking about legal recourse against a dentist or 2 for earlier work despite the time gap being more than 2 years. Because I sure don't have funds to pay for undoing and redoing a FMR!
No guilt, no punishment , ok nice in many occasions. But what to do with child rapists, abusers, murderers etc. Just let them roam feel? Well if everyone else is totally Buddhist it would be fine, cause everyone would have unconditional peace
Sorry unfinished, or see all events as.something to be able to derive unconditional happiness from/grow from. But it's not the case. So everyone in prison should be released and nobody should ever be locked up???