Thank you for this new clip. For those of us unable to get to a dhamma teacher nearby, having these Ajahn Brahm teachings, so relevant and simple, are a special gift. Each day an hour or more spent with him is the wisest thing I can do for myself and for those around me...Victoria
Here I am, just finished university, broken up with my boyfriend of 10 years, had an abortion and still grieving, trying to get employed. Have a ton of emotions inside me, a lot of pain, fear, heartbreak and sadness, and just depressed sometimes. I need to hear this.
Pain comes with attachment and identification with it. It might sound hard to understand or act on but it is easy to understand when you lose that attachment to the feelings and habits around that person. If you chuckle on how you were absessed to something and cri d so hard after losing it when you were very young, you should be able to chuckle right now without waiting for long after to chuckle Things come and go, eventually we lose everything in this life, which means we need to learn to get used to losing things. It is actually wonderful to lose a boyfriend because you get rid of all the bad things of him that you disliked. We feel vulnerable for sure when this kind of thing happens, but it is just a nature of life or nature of seasons. No matter how much we like spring, summer comes. Just enjoy different seasons. It could be a better one as long as you don't attach to it ❤
Hugs to you from London. It takes courage and strength. You are tremendously strong. Hope you get better with each day. I hope you have happiness after so much sorrow. Hugs again dear.
I've watched this video many times over the years. Every time, I'm grappling with different decisions. Just like rereading a great book, every time I watch this, I have a different experience, learn/notice something new, make a new connection to my life. His decision to talk about decisions led to an empowering resource for so many people.
Re: 13:22 - not acting out of (1) personal desire (2) not acting out of ill will (3) not out of delusion or ignorance (4) never make a decision out of fear -most important part of decision making (some punishment from making “wrong” decision)
there's a book (which I haven't read yet) called "Incognito," where the author talks about how the brain works, and how parts of the brain are constantly working out solutions to problems beyond conscious awareness.
@@maggieward1625 Yeah, funny reading that 8-year-old comment, because I read that book so many years ago I only remember little wisps of it. But I do remember some salient points and it was absolutely fascinating. I think I still have it- it's called "Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain." Can't remember the author's name but he was on Jon Stewart or Colbert Report back in the day, which is what turned me on to the book. In fact, I think the guy did a special on Netflix about a year ago that still might be on netflix... a name just came back to me I want to say it was David or Daniel Eagleman. Anyway, I'm sure you can find it on google easily. He's some sort of brain scientist and I thought for the most part it really upheld Buddhist ideas about "self"- that basically it's a construct that's constantly in flux and has no "true" fixed nature.
Before you make a decision, think how will this effect me, the person or people I’m responsible for,and how could my decision effect the person offering this choice? Who will my choice hurt the most and benefit the most. Choose what is the most fair.
Suddenly, scenes from The Matrix came to mind where Keanu Reeves became invinsible. His opponent tried to punch him in the face but he was able to move. Probably they got the idea from Ajahn Brahm.
i almost fully understand this concept, but still have some bits to put together. If we die and re-born anyway, why worry about someone die from the over-turned truck?
belayasova because they'll be missed badly by someone. It's also the death of all the dreams they once had. And this is all just a theory anyway. If this guy died I'll bet everyone he knows will be sad, very sad. And I'm not a monk. My shrink put me onto him but I don't really like him particularly. Sorry Monks.
James D i could use a shrink ;) but i found this guy and it really helped. didn't like him at first, the jokes were kinda silly but it's like an ugly dog, so ugly, it's cute. he makes sense. thanks for the comment!
1. It needs merit to become a human, so it is always better to live well and die well as human 2.People are fearful of death and desire to live. So it is painful mentally for ppl so die and that's why we would like to help the truck driver.
Think Ajahn is talking about moral discernment(If this then that,light denoted thinking.) rather than moral judgement(emotional ,like/aversion, right/wrong, connoted thinking). Think thats how Buddhists follow the precepts. Its no way the same as Christian Punishment/Reward identified emotional morality.
I have always enjoyed your talks, but if you really believe that all men are the same and that you should "make the marriage work" regardless of the circumstances then I can only say that you are wrong.
@@vin919 Because all men are NOT the same. Some are brutal and unkind, and it is not my job to endure abuse or try to change someone else. Therefore, if I am in such a marriage, I will leave it.
Thank you for this new clip. For those of us
unable to get to a dhamma teacher nearby, having these Ajahn Brahm teachings, so relevant and simple, are a special gift.
Each day an hour or more spent with him is
the wisest thing I can do for myself and for those around me...Victoria
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Thank you and Much Love from the Philippines❤
Thank you for speaking the Dhamma Ajahn Brahm.
Here I am, just finished university, broken up with my boyfriend of 10 years, had an abortion and still grieving, trying to get employed. Have a ton of emotions inside me, a lot of pain, fear, heartbreak and sadness, and just depressed sometimes. I need to hear this.
Hey you'll get through it. Time makes everything better
Pain comes with attachment and identification with it. It might sound hard to understand or act on but it is easy to understand when you lose that attachment to the feelings and habits around that person. If you chuckle on how you were absessed to something and cri d so hard after losing it when you were very young, you should be able to chuckle right now without waiting for long after to chuckle Things come and go, eventually we lose everything in this life, which means we need to learn to get used to losing things. It is actually wonderful to lose a boyfriend because you get rid of all the bad things of him that you disliked. We feel vulnerable for sure when this kind of thing happens, but it is just a nature of life or nature of seasons. No matter how much we like spring, summer comes. Just enjoy different seasons. It could be a better one as long as you don't attach to it ❤
I send u all the love i can ❤
Hugs to you from London. It takes courage and strength. You are tremendously strong. Hope you get better with each day. I hope you have happiness after so much sorrow. Hugs again dear.
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Not out of desire, revenge (hatred), fear and making decisions blindly, the decisions must be made with a peaceful mind. Thanks for your teachings.
Thank you so much for your brilliant talk and for enlightening me how to make decisions calmly.
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Such a great talk. I am in the turning point of my life, and this talk helps ease my mind and encourage me to make a decision.
I'm a huge fan of Ajahn Brahm. I'm sure he is a noble person.
So much wisdom 🙏
Thank you ajahn....from my deepest heart
I've watched this video many times over the years. Every time, I'm grappling with different decisions. Just like rereading a great book, every time I watch this, I have a different experience, learn/notice something new, make a new connection to my life. His decision to talk about decisions led to an empowering resource for so many people.
Thank you Ajahn for the great teaching !
Re: 13:22 - not acting out of (1) personal desire (2) not acting out of ill will (3) not out of delusion or ignorance (4) never make a decision out of fear -most important part of decision making (some punishment from making “wrong” decision)
Thank you for helping me out to find my path
Incredible insights and examples to illustrate them.
Just fabulous and so helpful
Thank you for the wisdom
Yes you make your decisions.
Don't have to rush.
Excellent...totally excellent
Robert Caston will be arriving
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Excellent dhamma talk!!
How and What makes me see the right way to make a decision with wisdom.
I f*ing love this guy
really, must you talk that way even though its a positive thought?
Thank you!
sir brahm such a blessing
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there's a book (which I haven't read yet) called "Incognito," where the author talks about how the brain works, and how parts of the brain are constantly working out solutions to problems beyond conscious awareness.
@composerdoh wow that sounds super interesting, did you end up reading it?
@@maggieward1625 Yeah, funny reading that 8-year-old comment, because I read that book so many years ago I only remember little wisps of it. But I do remember some salient points and it was absolutely fascinating. I think I still have it- it's called "Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain." Can't remember the author's name but he was on Jon Stewart or Colbert Report back in the day, which is what turned me on to the book. In fact, I think the guy did a special on Netflix about a year ago that still might be on netflix... a name just came back to me I want to say it was David or Daniel Eagleman. Anyway, I'm sure you can find it on google easily. He's some sort of brain scientist and I thought for the most part it really upheld Buddhist ideas about "self"- that basically it's a construct that's constantly in flux and has no "true" fixed nature.
@@composerdoh thank you
Before you make a decision, think how will this effect me, the person or people I’m responsible for,and how could my decision effect the person offering this choice? Who will my choice hurt the most and benefit the most. Choose what is the most fair.
always delivers
Thardu Thardu Thardu 🙏🙏🙏
Ajahn yet energetic :).
Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏
Suddenly, scenes from The Matrix came to mind where Keanu Reeves became invinsible. His opponent tried to punch him in the face but he was able to move. Probably they got the idea from Ajahn Brahm.
very good
i almost fully understand this concept, but still have some bits to put together. If we die and re-born anyway, why worry about someone die from the over-turned truck?
belayasova because they'll be missed badly by someone. It's also the death of all the dreams they once had. And this is all just a theory anyway. If this guy died I'll bet everyone he knows will be sad, very sad. And I'm not a monk. My shrink put me onto him but I don't really like him particularly. Sorry Monks.
James D i could use a shrink ;) but i found this guy and it really helped. didn't like him at first, the jokes were kinda silly but it's like an ugly dog, so ugly, it's cute. he makes sense. thanks for the comment!
1. It needs merit to become a human, so it is always better to live well and die well as human 2.People are fearful of death and desire to live. So it is painful mentally for ppl so die and that's why we would like to help the truck driver.
Incredible human
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Ajahn i became sociopatic in this hospital. Help .
thank you
Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu
Great talk on making decisions. Thank you.
for a driver that is trying to find its way home but for a road that does not have any signs of directions translate iam lost
Find a good Buddhist teacher and learn to meditate. You will find your way then.
@SmallWorldFilms I think he didn't mean that literally.
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Think Ajahn is talking about moral discernment(If this then that,light denoted thinking.) rather than moral judgement(emotional ,like/aversion, right/wrong, connoted thinking). Think thats how Buddhists follow the precepts. Its no way the same as Christian Punishment/Reward identified emotional morality.
I don't feel any more
I have always enjoyed your talks, but if you really believe that all men are the same and that you should "make the marriage work" regardless of the circumstances then I can only say that you are wrong.
Why is that if I may ask?
@@vin919 Because all men are NOT the same. Some are brutal and unkind, and it is not my job to endure abuse or try to change someone else. Therefore, if I am in such a marriage, I will leave it.
Who the hell are the 30 who thumb him down? Religious nutjobs
aw which what? lol
Thank you!!!
very good