@@andynieuwenhuis7833 Someone said there's an update. Op is now staying with her mother and spending every other weekend at her dad's. She'll sleep on the couch while she's there.
Ah so "wants her family to blend" is code for 'use the 16 yo for free babysitting' now? Cool. Wonder what other BS Hanna's going to try while crying to get her way.
Its that or stepmom is basically rationalizing it as "you're not here much, why should we have to make sacrifices for you?" Then she gets all shocked pikachu face when OP tells her the logical outcome of this thought process. OP didn't chose any of this and yet stepmom is trying to use it for why she should get less. I was basically told the same thing after I got shipped off to boarding high school when I turned 14 by my mom - my parents were divorced and she had custody. When I came back for the summer, my dad had taken away my room and turned it into a work room for house projects. I was told well, you had chosen not to live here. Same thing. Why should I get a room when I wasn't there much? Except its a 9 bedroom house, it wasn't needed as in this case. But I didn't have a choice for going to school - my dad had sued and lost. Now when I try to tell them how messed up this was, they're still try to defend it by saying I was still always welcome to stay in one of the many "guest rooms". Its been difficult explaining to them it doesn't work that way.
OP needs to move to her mum's, get child support & cut contact. I can guarantee EVERY visit to her sperm donor will have her babysitting ALL the kids whilst the two losers go on a 'date night', 'run errands'- together or apart (aka see friends) - etc. Plus he WILL choose the kids of the woman giving him sex, over his own kid, because he's clearly a deadbeat who only thinks with the tiny brain below his waist. When the Evil Step dumps him, he'll come crawling back because that single braincell rattling around in his skull will realise he's alone & broke, so will finally ignore tiny brain. So better to cut contact now and save dealing with the drama llamas.
@@michaelplunkett8059 how soon do you think dad and Hanna will non stop pestering OP to return? They need their sitter cough cough I mean they love and miss OP
If this were malicious compliance, OP would let the toddlers move in. Do homework until midnight, play music all night as you need to have music on to sleep. After a few days of this, three whining crabby toddlers will have their own room.
I love the way Dad and new step mom claim OP "isn't at Dad's house very much" when she spends all but 4 days a month there. She only stays at her mom's house every other weekend, so she spends 87% of her time at Dad's house and only 13% of her time at Mom's house. How is *that* "not very much time?"
Story 1: If I was the 16 yo in that room, every time the kids fussed and cried and needed to be tended to, I would march over to parent's room and pound on that door as hard as I can until little miss Hannah got her happy ass out of bed and took care of her own kids. I'm not a nanny, but make me sleep with three toddlers, I'll be the loudest damn baby monitor you ever met. Makes me so mad, Hannah putting on the waterworks and dad banning(?!) his daughter from talking to his new bedwarmer, I'm sorry, wife until she was ready? Girl, go to the courts and move your butt to your mom's place. Your new step-monster already told you where you stood in the new family.
At least OP has a way out. I like your thought. Personnally,I would simply take all three kids to Dads bedroom. Open the door(not knock), shove the kids in and shut the door. If Dads door was locked,stand out side the door,sound off an air horn.
Not just pound on their door, learn to beat it like she's the police serving a warrant. Bang it so hard that it wakes up not just Hanna and her dad, but the other kids as well. That way, if she can't sleep, NOBODY in that house sleeps.
Story 3: NTA. You didn’t “Saddle her with guilt”, you listened to her and were honest with her. She sounds like a nice girl but she needs to take some accountability for herself.
@@sharmaineipvaiching9826I have this same pet peeve. I have never behaved this way & I've raised both my daughters to not behave this way either. Men & women have enough issues communicating with each other so there is no need to add to those issues by expecting dudes (or women if you're a dude) to be mind readers. Contrary to popular belief, nobody is good at doing that. So we all need to let that idea that our partner will just know what we're thinking go. Every last one of my relationships went well for me (outside of my very 1st one I had before I realized that ignoring disrespect early on only led to worse disrespect later & you can't change anyone because you might see potential. Which, for my 15 year old self, basically meant that all rom-coms are lies. If that crap actually happened to you irl, it'd be creepy af, not romantic at all.) because I was extremely straightforward, I don't people please if I'm not into it, I don't ignore red flags & I don't need to try everything before I end a relationship that isn't working for one or both of the people in it. Idk, I think everyone would be a whole lot better off if we all ignored those damaging messages we're fed through our entertainment & took them as if they're fictional in every single way instead of using them as a barometer for what to look for in relationships. That's my 2 cents anyway lol.
She doesn't sound like a nice girl at all, she sounds incredibly manipulative and self-absorbed. Basically he not only has to bend over backwards and give up on things important to him to work around her insecurities, but he isn't even allowed to mention what he intended or be sad about it because she doesn't want to have to face up to the way her selfish actions affect him. This is not a partnership.
I think OP is a bit of an idiot. He knew her insecurity, but he doesn't take it that serious. He is downplaying it quite a bit. The he realized the complications for his plan, he should have slowed down and at that day he should have stopped it completely. He says he loves her and wants to marry her, but to me it seems he lacks a good bit of compassion for her. He cares more about himself in all of that. Not a good sign. Yes she has the insecurities and she needs to work on it, but disregarding it like he does, is not the solution.
Don’t you just love step parents who try to take over families expect their step child to be loving and caring? Yeah that’s always the best method for blending families isn’t it?
It has nothing to do with blending and everything to do with turning OP into an unpaid nanny. I wonder if since OP has been living pretty much full-time with her father if her mother isn't paying HIM child support. If she moves out, the stepmother won't be able to get her hands on that cash. No wonder the witch is crying.
Last story hits pretty hard. My mother enabled my younger brother his entire life. Paid his fines and court costs (he's a drug addicted criminal), child support, numerous attempts at treatment and "going back to school," etc. She foreclosed on our childhood home by throwing money at him, and had to move into a run-down apartment a town over (he followed her). He's never held a job for longer than two weeks because he knew that Mommy would support him, no matter what. My mother died four months ago. I cut my brother a check for the ENTIRETY of her life insurance proceeds (I was the executor, her will made it clear that he got everything), and let him know in no uncertain terms that the gravy train was over. He promptly bought a new car for cash (like the big shot he thinks he is), then totaled it drunk driving without any insurance on it. He blew the rest of his money on drugs and playing Santa Claus for his loser friends in less than three months. My mom's landlord was willing to allow my brother to stay as long as he paid the rent, but so far he hasn't paid a single nickel, so he's getting tossed into the street on August 1st. Parents, if you're enabling your adult children, STOP. Just simply STOP. Husbands/fathers, if it's your wives doing the enabling, you need to grow a spine and put your foot down. You are not doing your kids any favors. Sorry for the novel. That was cathartic.
You're absolutely correct about parents not coddling a kid. It was almost the same in my family situation when my Mom passed. Except the entitled kid was my oldest brother. He made it very difficult for my other brother and I to settle the estate. We nearly ended up doing an eviction. We just stopped paying for anything. No internet, no electricity, no lawn care and we wouldn't fix anything that was broke. We told him that until things were settled, he had to pay for these things, if he wanted them. He eventually gave up, after a year, realizing that he couldn't afford it. He still made things hard every day, until the house was sold. 😒
@@2Cambell I never thought I'd be grateful that my mother foreclosed on our childhood home, but thank goodness I didn't have to deal with that nightmare. In terms of housing, it's completely been the landlord's headache.
Same thing in my family. Youngest-check. Jail-check. Child support and free childcare-check. Enabling mother-check. No contact with the rest of us-check. He doesn’t know where I live or have my phone number-thank the goddess.
It's not always the mother that does the enabling. At times it's the father. Don't know how many times my late husband paid our son's rent, don't know about other bills. Nothing I said made the slightest difference. I'm a widow now, and if it was truly an emergency, I will help him. But he also knows that I can't really afford it.
@@gannicusfinch7068 Yes, that probably made things more simple! My mom's will complicated things incredibly. Although she had dictated that she wanted everything split 3 ways, she made several accommodations for our brother that we had to deal with. It cost us, ultimately all 3 of us, but our older brother is always the case of cutting your nose off to spite your face. He lived off my parents, particularly Mom, his whole life. I think the only reason that Mom even split things 3 ways, was due to generosity and work of our Dad and both sets of our Grandparents. Who never approved of what was going on with our older brother... But now, I'm getting back to better, with being able to grieve, without unfinished business. I don't talk to him. There are general family texts, but that's it. My other next older brother does call me and visits, as does his wife and daughters. ☺️ We have one Uncle and Auntie left. They call every week, they live 2 states away.😍 But they cut contact with our brother.
I just can't see how this is more practical? Being saddled with a bunch of toddlers seems way more impractical and more like a punishment for seeing her mom a couple times a month. The older two of her kids aren't that far away in age; they don't need their own room. OP does. Stepmom can stay in her own place with her kids, too. I find that just as practical.
Story 2: I’m not gonna blame op for trying to help her. Even though putting the address down was overkill and not a great idea, why tf is this girl constantly losing her keys so damn much?
Story 2: It seems common sense is severely lacking in OP and her sister. It is ridiculous the amount of times the sister has lost her keys. Agree with other posters, a visit to the doctor is in order.
I moaned when OP said she added the address 😅 But sis didn't have to use the label 😂 ( I had a period where I lost my keys a few times. I used a name tag too. But I put my friend's contact information there.)
S1: NTA. First comment has it nailed: Stepmom just wants a free nanny for her broodlings, and daddy just wants to get laid. And not pay more child-support. They're not going to respect OP's wishes, so hope she is prepared to make good on her threat, and move back with mom full-time.
Story 1: no way did the thought of you ending up taking care of the 3 2 year-old did not cross their minds. They're trying to turn you into the nanny and it would probably be a lot less work to move your stuff from one room to the other than it would be to cram in all of their stuff in with yours. And I don't believe though crocodile tears for one second, I mean starting to cry because you don't want to share a room with three small kids? Your dad and stepmom suck, and this is how you're going to be treated you should get out now.
1. Family is not "blending nicely" if you are ignoring the person saying they don't want to be stuck in a room with triplets. Soinds loke just staying with mom and having dad pay child support is the way to go.
With immature people, yes. He should take the time to see if there's a common denominator in her behavior, or if this is a deep insecurity that she struggles with. No human is flawless; and it could be something she's simultaneously insecure and chagrined at herself about. However, if the deflection/blame is a repeating factor, well....
The guy needs to LEAVE. As a 38 f here; that adult girl child-toddler is immature and if he has any self respect for himself; he needs to leave her like his bum was on fire. No man deserves to be strung along or manipulated or have games played on them. OP needed to leave her yesterday; last thing he should do is propose.
I agree that girl is WAY too immature to get married to. Few pimples so you cannot propose to me? Something which can be photoshopped like op sais inhad pimples photoshopped feommmy confirmation photos over 20 years ago. I had my arma photoahoppee because i am white as snow white, wedding was August and i wear t-shirts during summer so contrast was real. Will she cancel the wedding it she gets few stress pimples a day before?
Story 3: Dude, NTA, but look at the red flags, because she let her vanity destroy your romantic trip and proposal as well as now she is shifting guilt on you for her ruining things. Just walk away. She has growing up to do.
She let her insecurities ruin her proposal. Now she’s guilting him because of her own bs. She let him waste all that time money and effort because of her own hang ups… she should feel guilty.
@@nancyomalley6286 what I wonder is why not taking the birth control pill a little longer or stop earlier so the cycle comes before the trip assuming she is on birthcontrol
Story 2: When I was a kid, I kept losing my keys and getting locked out of the house. Since I couldn't keep my keys in my pocket (it would fall out while changing for P.E.), I instead grabbed every single key chain I could scrounge up and hooked them together to make a roughly softball-sized key chain for the house key. It was pretty darned hard to miss something that big, so I mostly stopped locking myself out of the house. I did have our phone number listed on one of the key chains. However, I would _never_ have been stupid enough to put the house address on them - and I was *twelve.*
Story 2 makes me sad that we live in a world where out of everyone who could have found the sister's keys, it was someone so scummy as to steal the car. If I had found someone's keys with a name and address, I would have returned them. :(
OPs only mistake was putting the address. Name and ph# would be OK. However OPs sis either has memory issues or the attention span of a gnat. Let's keep doing the same dumb thing over and over again.
Agreed that it’s sad someone untrustworthy found the keys, but at the same time, this is the 50th time it happened. She was really lucky that nothing bad had happened before now, that luck was unlikely to last forever and only honest people were going to find her keys.
There are home or key insurance options that provide keyrings with personal codes and postal address for lost keys that allow found keys to be returned to the keyholders. Also there was the much more common and up-to-date options OP could have gone with of an Airtag etc.....
Story 1 Your Dad's brain moved to his pants. Hannah sounds like a nightmare drama queen and it will not get better. Might as well get it over with and move to your Moms. No one in their right mind would think a 16 year old could share a room with 3 toddlers. Where are you supposed to study? Do projects for school? Ever have a friend over to hang out much less spend the night? The comments saying she wants nanny service got it right. And Dad of course loves this idea because they will not get interrupted at night if you are having to share the room and you better believe their care at night. Also toddlers and teens do not have compatible sleep patterns. Let her cry I would not apologize or worry about talking to her. She sounds very manipulitive
yea they wanna put them with the 16-year-old so she can nanny while they work on the next baby, dad should not have married a woman with some many kids or waited until op was out of the house but they would not have a free nanny would they
First story: Hanna has her eyes on a built-in babysitter. If she didn't then there would be no argument against OP moving to the smallest room. She knows that OP would have to deal with the triplets if they were in the same room with her. And dad is the typical douche parent that can't see beyond his own wants, which sadly equates to throwing his child under the bus.
Story 3: Her “how dare he put this on me” reaction feels awful. He went out of his way to give her a memorable experience, but adapted to her wishes immediately and with no resentment. Was he supposed to not care or to lie to her about it, to spare her feelings? Who would want that from their SO?
With her dad she is there weekdays and some weekends. She is at her moms other weekends, holidays, or whenever. So you’re correct but Hanna had a lot of nerve to try to pass that off as justification for a teen to share a room with toddler triplets.
Girl idk, but sounds like insanity in the making. Hate to say it but any man or woman with that many kids should be waiting until half of them are out of the house before focusing on dating anybody.
Story #1: NTA, don't stay with your father and his new family at all. Your father has given up on you and just wants to use you until you are old enough to not have to come by ever again. Don't even ask for CS, just leave and never come back
I agree with everything, except for the not getting the child support. If OP is going to live primarily with mom, then dad should pay for the permanent addition to that house hold because he's too cowardly to stand up to his new soon-to-be wife. But, I become petty when I get disrespected. (Three effing toddlers!? Seriously!!!!)
@@m.bautista4060 baby momma probably does not want that either because then al the extra money they have now and spending on the other kids will go to op's mom lol
@velvety2006 That's why it's such a great move. She'll hit 2 birds (not having to share rooms with kids; screwing over the stepmom) with one stone. LOL.
@@lorilancaster5917honestly, I wasn't sure if he drove or not because he mentioned "carrying around bags," but thats the only clue I could find. If he was driving, why would he have the bags in the other store, and if he were walking why didn't he mention that? He also didn't mention if the two stores were walking or driving distance 15 min away. Either way, he should have his ID with him and sounds like someone who has never worked customer service before.
@@Kruhee as someone who doesn't drive my ID doesn't live in my wallet as it's too big. However, I'm enough of a planner that if I don't tend to run out of anything and if I was running out of beer I'd make sure I have my ID on me.
S3- Did the poor girl forget that photographers can erase any number of blemishes if asked to, it's amazing what we can do with modern-day technology. I had to ask though did she figure out that was your intention on her own or did she get tipped off by someone? Little bit of a shame that her insecurities spoilt the atmosphere of your trip though. S5- Little brother needs to accept that Mummy isn't there anymore to shelter, provide for him or baby him anymore. Time to wake up to reality, he's a grown man now and needs to learn how to take care of himself, get a job, and keep it. And that falling back into the same old routine is going to work anymore. This is Entitled behaviour, it needs to be stamped out.
@@Spore9996 not arguing with you there and she did tell him not to propose and then gets upset when he tells her that the planned to after the fact. She needs therapy and perhaps she should get on the pill to help with regulating her periods and limit her pimples.
The story about the keys : NTA. The only AH in this story is your sister who CLEARLY doesn't need a set of keys or a car if she can't keep up with her stuff. OP tried to do something that would ensure the keys would be returned if her idiot sister lost them AGAIN!!! Why is no one blaming the sister? If she kept up with her keys it wouldn't be a problem. Maybe having her car stolen and the threat of her house being broken into, it to mention her work, will get her to straighten up and act right. Shes lost her keys 50 TIMES!! FIFTY!!!!! Unless she has dementia or something, theres no excuse, hell if she does have something like that, she doesn't need to be driving anyway. OP, not the idiot. Tell your sister to get her crap together. 🙄🙄
Because apparently women are children and cannot be held responsible for themselves or their possessions apparently. She thought the address was a good idea herself, she could have said no if she didn't. She lost her keys. I'll never understand how some people just waft through life with the awareness and mental capacity of a thimble.
When I was a teenager I would lose my keys, it was no big deal the trusted next door neighbor had a copy. As an adult I couldn't find my keys. Called work sick. About 2 hours later found keys in my vortex pocketbook. Now I keep keys on a hook near door problem solved. Before leaving make sure everything is off and have keys. My Keychain is chunky and so is my son's.
@@lorrainelomotan1366 it is utterly, irresponsible to lose your keys Op describes her sister losing hers. The blame does not fall back on Op at all, why? Because her sister agreed to it, knew the tag was on her keys, and still went to Six Flags. This person who knew they had a habit of losing their keys took their keys out to a public amusement park with her address on it and saw nothing wrong with that. Op didn't realize her sister was do incompetent she couldn't keep up with them ever
@PickleRicks keys can fall out of pockets w/o realizing it. That's why it's best to be aware of your surroundings. Check if have keys after leaving vehicle and leaving place. Never put personal information on keychain. My friend left her cellphone at Walmart entrance w/o knowing it. She got her phone back when a stranger called her. My sister in law said that it costs $800 to replace smart key. No excuse to continue loosing keys.
Story 1: Translation, Hanna expects OP to be full time babysitter to her sex trophies. No ID, No Beer Story: If this is in the US, the store has very likely been hit with the same "Check All ID's" wave that the stores around me have been. NOWHERE around me will wave someone off just because they "look old enough" now, and if you don't have your ID? Tough shit.
@@christinebenson518 Same. I'm 39, and while I don't buy alcohol for myself, people always card me (and then get super shocked when they see my age, lol.) I think in most places even outside of the US you'd be expected to carry your ID with you if you're an adult. I remember turning 21 and carding someone at my retail job that I thought looked to be at least 40, if not older, because we were told to check all IDs... he was also 21. 😨 Yeah, you really can't tell how old someone is by looks alone.
OP is self absorbed, carding is becoming required for all sales in more places. My 60yo father got carded when we bought beers at the party store; the poor cashier lamented that people are SO mean to her just for doing her job :\ she HAS to card but that really offends some people. The only places we don't get carded are local dives where they KNOW me 🙄
Lol Stepmom wanted a full time babysitter at night (and probably during the day too). It’s very rare 2-year old sleep throughout the night (and three of them even less so) so stepmom was rubbing her hands with glee thinking she’d found the perfect way to palm her kids off on someone else at night. I’d laugh in her face!
I'm just shaking my head at the beer story. How were you getting your groceries and beer home? A vehicle? If so you need your ID to drive. In our state any alcohol purchase requires the ID regardless of your age, lol, and you physically have to hand it to them to key information from it.
So the triplets have siblings but they deserve their own room but OP who grew up there has to share …My first thought child care ….The dad is a simp btw
OPs solution to let her have her own room, the older kids share, and the triplets share was the best solution. However as everyone called it, she wants OP to be her free sitter and what better way to get a good nights sleep than pawn the responsibility on to a teen who will have to endure them in order to get any sleep.
@@lorilancaster5917 And she even offered to move to the smallest of the three. She gets the smallest, the toddlers get the next size up, and the two older share the largest. It was a perfect compromise.
100!!! That's what I would have done. In fact, it's what I did do and haven't seen my dad since 1999. He passed away in 2011 and when mom told me all I did was *shrug* and say 'well, it happens to all of us.' - parents don't realize that if they want to keep their children close, then they should treat them with the same kindness and love that the child shows them. OP sounds like a good teenager and she needs to tell mom ASAP what's going on. I feel so sorry for her. She def needs to let mom know what's up. Best of luck to her for sure. I'd def say she needs to go no contact with daddy dearest because he's not treating her as a good parent would. His mind is currently devoid of the live giving red stuff as it is all currently in his pants.
STORY 1: OP NTA & the sooner you move in with your mom FULL TIME the better off you’ll be. Just out of curiosity, are they planning on you getting PAID for being the FULL TIME NANNY or do they expect to absolutely torpedo your life & you just do it for free? TALK TO YOUR MOM & MOVE OUT! Your dad doesn’t give a rip about you if he’s pulling this crap. MAKE SURE YOU TELL THE COURTS THIS LITTLE PLAN OF THEIRS. ANY JUDGE WORTH THEIR SALT WILL MAKE SURE THAT THIS ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT HAPPEN!!!!
Story 1: NTA. OP’s dad chose to marry a woman with five kids that she couldn’t care for on her own. Op should go ahead and call her mom, move, and force that child support.
Agreed! OP doesn't need to be around a manipulative d-bag and a C U Next Tuesday. OP needs to move to a place where she can have her space. She's not a free nanny service and I hope she goes no contact with her 'life-giving donor' because a father - a REAL father wouldn't do that to their sixteen yr old teenager. He's a piece of excrement And that 'wahman' is a manipulative C U Next Tuesday who needs to keep her legs firmly shut or at the very least be forcefully put in a chastity belt or make it so it's mandatory to stop her from making anymore kids that she can't afford. Five kids? Yeah - not OP's circus, not OP's monkeys. That's my favorite saying. 'Not my circus, not my monkeys' - I'd of told daddy dearest that one and the wicked witch of the West as well. Get that child support, move in with mom as she seems to be the better parent by far. Go no contact with the dad and the evil step monster. I stopped contact with my father because he was not a good person. OP needs to do the same because he's taking step monster's feelings over OP's and as a FATHER, his child's feelings come first. If it's not something he agrees with, discussion should at least be considered and nothing was considered other than evil step mom and what SHE wants and what HER feelings are. Nothing towards OP and that's not being a good parent. She needs to go to her moms where it sounds less chaotic.
@@NODE1975 Taking care and taking care properly is not the same thing. There is physically no way you can take care of five kids and actually give them all the time, attention, love and support they need. I bet there was a lot of parentified kiss in every one of those cases.
First story if your mother wanted to take him back to court for custody issues, the court would tell him that teenagers do not share rooms with small children. there a guidelines in some states
@@Emeraldwitch30 Correction the courts only care in cases of foster families and parental custody disputes. If OP's mom wasn't around there would be nothing OP could do and as you say "They could cram them all in one and it wouldn't change nothing" but Mom is around so the provided accommodation for the child is a major factor in which parent gets primary custody
I know right? There's more solutions to that problem, mine was just putting a carabiner on it so it's clipped to my person when not in use and when in the house it's on the key hook.
why can't a 21-year-old keep track of her keys to begin with though, i pat myself down3 times before I leave the house to make sure I have the keys lol
I mean, not everyone has the right tech or money to spend on something. Especially if it gets lost frequently. That being said, a phone number would have been a far better option than an address.
@@lizziefirkey6385 A single airtag is $30, which is a bit on the pricey side but probably costs less than getting the actual key replaced in the long run.
Story 1: So, Hannah thought that moving her three two year old toddlers into OP’s bedroom was going to make the family blend nicely? Oh, and good move, dad and stepmom, for reminding OP that she’s not at the house all that much anyway, making her feel like a guest and not really part of the family. You are NTA. Don’t let these awful adults guilt you. If they won’t change their mind, move in with your mother😠 Story 2: Yes, putting her address on the key was foolish, but OP’s sister really needs to work on not losing her keys🙁 Story 3: You two are the cutest! I wish the best for the both of you🙂 Story 4: Your girlfriend was right, what you did was wrong. You should have put the groceries back yourself! What a AH😒 Story 5: Boy, your brother is a real piece of work. He has gotten a free ride for most of his life and doesn’t want the gravy train to come to a halt, which is why he fought against the sale of the house. I don’t think that the money from his share of the house will last long. He was never taught how to be a responsible human being and will squander the money. Then he’ll look to his siblings to bail him out, just like dear old mom did😒
With story one I'm torn. I disagree that the poster should share with the 3 toddlers, but 3 kids can share a room. When my cousins were little they shared a room, since they were 13 months apart. Eventually, the girl moved into her older sisters' room. They were typically there every other weekend. So they had a bunk bed and loft bed. It was cramped but they did it for 5(?) years. She should just move in with her mom though.
@@christinebenson518 Not sure I understand you take. OP isn't arguing about sharing the room. She is against the age differential. How would it make sense for a 16 yo to be stuck full time with a toddler set of triplets when they aren't related and there are other options. Remember, OP offered to move to the smallest room. That would allow the triplets to take her room, the 9 and 7 yo to share a room, and for OP, how is years older than all of the kids, to have her own room. And let's be real. The stepmom and dad are sneakily trying to make OP a caretaker for these triplets. Forcing OP into the same room would mean there would be someone older able to "watch" the toddlers all the time, which isn't even her responsibility.
The OP said she lives with her dad most of the time and only visits her mom every other weekend, so for four days a month, and the entitled step mom calls the other 90% of the month "part-time" because it suits her interests. OP would actually be spending every school night in a room with three toddlers, an age group known for waking in the middle of the night and either screaming from nightmares, crying from wetting the bed, or just getting up and playing because they just had a good nap. Also, these small humans usually struggle with boundaries and respect for personal property, and would have access to all of her stuff, her electrics, her school supplies, her school projects, everything. I have no idea how they can think this would work out. OP was perfectly reasonable suggesting same take the smallest room, but step mom wants to waste no time establishing her kids as first class citizens and OP as an afterthought. Moving in with mom can't happen fast enough.
@@christinebenson518 OK what story where you listening to. No one literally no one said 3 kids can't share. For starters the story was not about being upset about 3 kids sharing a room. It was about being upset that 4 kids with a fourteen year age gap being stuffed into one room while two others get they're single Rooms. Even OP's simple fair solution had the triplets still sharing so I really don't get were your comment is coming from.
S1 - Hannah found her sugar daddy and doesn’t give a damn about blending families but she sure knows how to work OP’s father. OP should move to her mother’s and never step foot in Dad’s house again, ensuring he pays all the child support to OP’s mom. Hannah will then find out that she’s not going to get everything she wants since a good chunk of her sugar daddy’s salary will be paid to his ex.
The stepmother either wanted to: A. Force the OP to be her unpaid nanny, thereby parentifying the OP Or B. Make the living situation so bad for the OP that they'll leave and never come back while being able to pretend they're not the bad guy, because she doesn't like the reminder that her new hubby had children of his own/ wants to monopolize his time and resources for her own children Her unwillingness to compromise with the very reasonable alternative the OP presented only affirms for me it's one of these two.
That or he doesn’t care. He has access to lady parts once again and his ex has remarried so should he. Don’t know what lead to the first divorce but I’m guessing it’s due to his poor choices since he thinks it’s a great idea to marry a recent widow with 5 kids. I foresee another divorce by the time OP graduates high school
Even if OP wasn’t there, all the time it is very selfish to tell someone you’re going to be sharing a room with three toddlers, does OP’s dad want OP around at all?
For the beer story, I didn't see any mention of driving? Unless he states that he drove and I missed it which in that case please inform me. I don't think he was necessarily wrong if he didn't drive there and the only other thing I think he could have done was politely say "sorry I didn't drive here in a car so I can't take everything and will need to get beer and other groceries from a different store". I know people who walk 15-20 minutes to the grocery store. I am also taking some context clues in his wording such as he didn't want to carry bags from one store around the second store (meaning he didn't have a car to place the bags in while he went shopping)
The first OP should start packing now and have Mom come over with a moving truck to get her things. Dad's going to support all those kids so he can pay child support just fine. If I was OP I'd tell Hanna to watch her kids while I get my suitcases out. Bye! 😁
Along with not having a forced nanny I bet Hanna would be freaking out that less money will go towards her babies. I’m also betting she was hoping to be a SAHM
@@blackofeliathere are official IDs that you can use to be carded or even if they need to scan your card that aren’t drivers licenses. No drivers test or car needed. This is going by American standards, don’t know about other countries.
If Hanna pulls that crap, just wake up screaming from a nightmare every night about 2 a.m. it would be especially helpful if your nightmares were about Santa not being real.
Story one: I think Hanna needs to focus on being a mother to her kids, instead of getting into a new relationship so she can get a daddy for her fatherless kids.
Watch Tales from the Crypt with the volume on blast and make the toddlers watch!!! Evil laugh! Toss kids to mommy dearest and tel her they asked for her
story 1= Normally, it's the teens usually get their own room and kids young as 9 & 7 share a room then toddlers get their own room. The only reason why they would give a 9 & 7 yr olds their own room but make 16 yro room with triplet 2 yros is that they want free babysitting. Hannah wants to triplets with the 16 yro so she can parentify the teen and get a break herself.
BTW in Canada at least, TB Vets has a program where you affix a tag to your keychain and then if they're lost, someone can dump them in a mailbox and they'll get your keys back to you. They do not include putting your name or address on the tag.
I have one 1yo and we share a room. I can confirm, whoever sleeps in the same room as a small child absolutely *will* be woken up whenever that child wakes up needing something, and if you're not going to bed at the same time as the kid, you will have to be cautious about doing noisy things in your room. Also, I have the biggest room in the house, and it still feels small because of the crib. I have to climb over my bed to get to the other side of the room. I don't mind, I signed up for this and I'm happy with our sleeping arrangements, but I definitely wouldn't force this on a teenager. TBH I probably wouldn't even consider putting a teen in that bedroom unless she was the kids' mom.
Story #1: Hannah doesn't want her family to blend, she wants a free babysitter!! They aren't your kids!! Squeeze dad's wallet untill you hear Lincoln cry!
Story 1: OP is NTA. HANNAH is a pushy, manipulative slattern, and OP would be absolutely right to skip completely out of that house and make her father pay the child support for her to her mother until she goes off to live on her own or to college/university.
Nta I’m 33 and if someone told me to show ID it would be weird. Anyone on their 30s won’t look under 18 . Cashier was ridiculous and I would walk out too if I couldn’t buy all stuff I want in one store.
It's the law in the US that you get carded. It's not just age, but if you have a restricted license. This matters. I'm nearly 35 and always have my ID on me.
@@nannettepolcastro4799 but he's shopped there without id for many years so that's not the case. In the uk you don't need id on you all the time for instance.
"Why aren't men open with us?" Dude reads the room, does the right thing, then is open and honest.... becomes the bad guy. Apparently he should have never told her that he had understood and did what she wanted. This is why we aren't open and honest with you, there's no winning. If we can't win we aren't interested in playing. Oh, and for the sake of the video, don't propose to her OP. Time to move on, that one is done. Unless you want to deal with these $hitty little games where you always end up the bad guy for the rest of your life (or until she decides she can do better) this relationship was over yesterday.
Agreed. I'm a 38 f and I think it's quite ridiculous what these 'wahmen' do to men. If they play games, time to tell them to grow up and leave them. My brother is moving in with a group of guys and the girl that was staying there (rent free) was a friend of his ex-girlfriend who tried to...well...she chased the guy around with a sharp object trying to slice off an important member of his family. She was arrested but this girl continued to live rent free in the house and drove the electric bill up to over four hundred. On purpose. Women like that give the rest of us who aren't crazy a bad name. I don't know how we're supposed to control the behavior of other f's but...if it were me, I'd change the locks on the door (which is legal here in Florida) and withhold her stuff until she pays what she owes (also legal to do.) Games are for children and no man unless he is one of those men that think with his downward brain will put up with infantile games when the chase isn't worth the price of her 'kitty'. Rational discussions and not manipulating partners; having trust and being there through hard times is how you maintain a successful relationship. Any wahmen that play those games...time for them to be given a pacifier and shoved into the corner and then afterwards, the best thing the guy can do is get the hey out of there because any man going through that deserves better and should not put up with that nonsense from an adult. Sadly, my gende are overgrown toddlers who throws tantrums and breaks things when they hear the word no. 🙄
This is a not a woman thing. I'm a woman and I think this girl is an manipulative a-hole. Some people are just entitled jerks; it happens equally with both genders. Men get really upset ("not all men") when women think of all men as violent because some men hit their partners or commit sexual assaults. Maybe don't do the same to women; look at one horrible woman and go "yeah that's what women are like".
Story 2: NTA. Look, I get putting things like that on your keys isn’t the smartest thing, but that sounds like an exasperating issue she has and you tried for a solution THAT SHE KNEW WAS THERE.
I was listening and was like name: ok, number: great, address: audible gasp of horror. What's wrong with adding an airtag or something similar? Are the days gone where you return lost (important) property to the police? It is simply not needed to have the full residential address, maybe a pic of them or heck, say where the local police station is if you're hoping for something to drop it off near the home...
Hannah wants a live in maid/nanny. You were generous to offer to take the smaller room. One of Hannah’s older children can room with the three toddlers. Move in with your mom.
If sister had any sense she would’ve seen this as a wake up call to get help figuring out why she keeps forgetting her keys. At the end of the day, keychain or not, this is on her.
I think it might be a very major insecurity for her to feel that way. I know I’ve seen hormonal acne that basically leaves temp craters in your face when they cluster (I’m planning to go into derm), so who knows how bad it really is/seems to her.
@@christinebenson518 It’s horrible, really. I feel so bad for people with hormonal/cystic acne because it can be so hard to get rid of and just about everything you do inflames the skin.
story about the sister constantly losing keys: The sister should ALWAYS keep her keys in her pocket. NOT lay them down somewhere. I know people who do this stupid laying-keys-down instead of in purse/pocket, and in one instance it resulted in someone snatching them and running off with them. OP should get sister a proper purse or tell her to keep her damn keys in her POCKET (a good deep pocket) and NEVER lay them down ANYWHERE.
S1: .....It starts off as the OP just sharing the room with the toddlers but i'm sure it'd quickly turn into Hanna starting to "ask" the op to do things for her regarding the toddlers until eventually the OP either jumps ship and lives with her mother full-time or is fully roped into caring for those kids until leaving at age 18 and going no-contact with the spineless father and the bedwarmer he married
Sharing a room with triplets who are two years old no way they can stay in the parents room the nine and seven-year-old could share a room and then the triplets have one room to themselves.
Story 1: Man…the amount of gaslighting and crocodile tears Op must have had to endure in order to think theres ANYWAY she’s the badguy here is insane. Op let’s break this down: HER boys get their own room while YOU have to share with 3 toddlers and you will 10000% be the unpaid babysitter. Step mom isnt crying because her family isn’t blending, she spouting those crocodile tears because you actually have a backbone and won’t be her unpaid nanny. NTA and go live with your Mom, i guarantee after a month or 2 they will be singing a different tune.
@@lamwen03Right. Just take the card out, let them look at his date of birth for five seconds, and then everybody's happy. He was being terribly petty.
"Hmm, she's lost her keys several times what can I do to help .... I know, it's genius, i'll write her name and address on them nothing could possibly go wrong"
So in other words, I guess it's safe to assume she (Hanna) no longer wanted to live in his house once she realized she definitely wouldn't be getting the free babysitter that was supposed to come with it? Yeah, this woman was definitely on the prowl for a man with a teenage daughter.
However I also wonder about Hanna’s living situation prior to marrying OPs dad? Did she have a place of her own or was she renting? I’m betting though if she had a place it was smaller than OPs dad’s house. I bring this up because I wouldn’t be surprised if this was another factor for her marrying him
You might be conflating this one with the story about the dad trying to make his kid give up her dog because stepson to be was scared of dogs, and stepmom to be dipped when she found out there wasn't going to be a built in babysitter at home.
1:Being a live-in nanny is not your job. 2: Grocery store carding everyone under 65 for alcohol. I'd have left the groceries too. Your ridiculous policy inconveniencing me? Well mine will now inconvenience you. I'd say we're even.
THREE 2-YEAR OLD toddlers in a teen’s room? Uh… hard pass. In what world does it “make sense” to give a 9 and 7 year old their own rooms, but place three toddlers in the 16 year old’s room? It only makes sense if you care nothing at all for the teen. Hell, call CPS. That can’t be acceptable.
Toddlers???!
I would NOT come back.
Yeah, like they're going to sleep thru the night. OP would be on the hook big time. Why was her dad dumb enough to marry someone with 5 small kids?
Op definitely NEEDS to move in WITH MOM, so Dad MUST PAY Child support.
Hannah is crying because she wants to to parentify OP, wanting her to take care of the toddlers.
@@andynieuwenhuis7833 Someone said there's an update.
Op is now staying with her mother and spending every other weekend at her dad's. She'll sleep on the couch while she's there.
Ah so "wants her family to blend" is code for 'use the 16 yo for free babysitting' now? Cool. Wonder what other BS Hanna's going to try while crying to get her way.
I hope OP informs the court because this could possibly viewed as abuse
Yes!
Its that or stepmom is basically rationalizing it as "you're not here much, why should we have to make sacrifices for you?" Then she gets all shocked pikachu face when OP tells her the logical outcome of this thought process. OP didn't chose any of this and yet stepmom is trying to use it for why she should get less. I was basically told the same thing after I got shipped off to boarding high school when I turned 14 by my mom - my parents were divorced and she had custody. When I came back for the summer, my dad had taken away my room and turned it into a work room for house projects. I was told well, you had chosen not to live here. Same thing. Why should I get a room when I wasn't there much? Except its a 9 bedroom house, it wasn't needed as in this case. But I didn't have a choice for going to school - my dad had sued and lost. Now when I try to tell them how messed up this was, they're still try to defend it by saying I was still always welcome to stay in one of the many "guest rooms". Its been difficult explaining to them it doesn't work that way.
OP needs to move to her mum's, get child support & cut contact. I can guarantee EVERY visit to her sperm donor will have her babysitting ALL the kids whilst the two losers go on a 'date night', 'run errands'- together or apart (aka see friends) - etc.
Plus he WILL choose the kids of the woman giving him sex, over his own kid, because he's clearly a deadbeat who only thinks with the tiny brain below his waist.
When the Evil Step dumps him, he'll come crawling back because that single braincell rattling around in his skull will realise he's alone & broke, so will finally ignore tiny brain. So better to cut contact now and save dealing with the drama llamas.
And her father is a m$r$on simp
Story 1: NTA. Pleasing his Wife is not your job. And your right, that is the more logical solution.
@@michaelplunkett8059 how soon do you think dad and Hanna will non stop pestering OP to return? They need their sitter cough cough I mean they love and miss OP
If this were malicious compliance, OP would let the toddlers move in. Do homework until midnight, play music all night as you need to have music on to sleep. After a few days of this, three whining crabby toddlers will have their own room.
@@Sherwoody Lol.
@@lorilancaster5917😊 THAT would be some Genghis Khan-level ruthlessness if OP did that. 😂
@@diarradunlap9337I think you replied under the wrong person. I mention Hanna’s actions not OPs.
I love the way Dad and new step mom claim OP "isn't at Dad's house very much" when she spends all but 4 days a month there. She only stays at her mom's house every other weekend, so she spends 87% of her time at Dad's house and only 13% of her time at Mom's house. How is *that* "not very much time?"
Makes you wonder if part of the proposal was 'i will make my 16 yeard old daughter look after your kids if you marry me'
Well. It's not anymore!
Op updated and said she's staying with her mom now and will spend every other weekend at her dad's. She'll sleep on the couch while she's there.
Story 1: If I was the 16 yo in that room, every time the kids fussed and cried and needed to be tended to, I would march over to parent's room and pound on that door as hard as I can until little miss Hannah got her happy ass out of bed and took care of her own kids. I'm not a nanny, but make me sleep with three toddlers, I'll be the loudest damn baby monitor you ever met.
Makes me so mad, Hannah putting on the waterworks and dad banning(?!) his daughter from talking to his new bedwarmer, I'm sorry, wife until she was ready? Girl, go to the courts and move your butt to your mom's place. Your new step-monster already told you where you stood in the new family.
At least OP has a way out. I like your thought. Personnally,I would simply take all three kids to Dads bedroom. Open the door(not knock), shove the kids in and shut the door. If Dads door was locked,stand out side the door,sound off an air horn.
"Come get your fuck trophy! I didn't shit it out, so I'm not taking care of it!"
Not just pound on their door, learn to beat it like she's the police serving a warrant. Bang it so hard that it wakes up not just Hanna and her dad, but the other kids as well. That way, if she can't sleep, NOBODY in that house sleeps.
@@thedorkone1516"fuck trophy" Holy shit!!! LMAO!!!
Story 3: NTA. You didn’t “Saddle her with guilt”, you listened to her and were honest with her. She sounds like a nice girl but she needs to take some accountability for herself.
OP was in a no win situation
As a woman, I hate it that women say one thing but mean something else🙄🙄 I don't think she is ready for marriage
@@sharmaineipvaiching9826I have this same pet peeve. I have never behaved this way & I've raised both my daughters to not behave this way either. Men & women have enough issues communicating with each other so there is no need to add to those issues by expecting dudes (or women if you're a dude) to be mind readers. Contrary to popular belief, nobody is good at doing that. So we all need to let that idea that our partner will just know what we're thinking go.
Every last one of my relationships went well for me (outside of my very 1st one I had before I realized that ignoring disrespect early on only led to worse disrespect later & you can't change anyone because you might see potential. Which, for my 15 year old self, basically meant that all rom-coms are lies. If that crap actually happened to you irl, it'd be creepy af, not romantic at all.) because I was extremely straightforward, I don't people please if I'm not into it, I don't ignore red flags & I don't need to try everything before I end a relationship that isn't working for one or both of the people in it.
Idk, I think everyone would be a whole lot better off if we all ignored those damaging messages we're fed through our entertainment & took them as if they're fictional in every single way instead of using them as a barometer for what to look for in relationships. That's my 2 cents anyway lol.
She doesn't sound like a nice girl at all, she sounds incredibly manipulative and self-absorbed. Basically he not only has to bend over backwards and give up on things important to him to work around her insecurities, but he isn't even allowed to mention what he intended or be sad about it because she doesn't want to have to face up to the way her selfish actions affect him. This is not a partnership.
I think OP is a bit of an idiot. He knew her insecurity, but he doesn't take it that serious. He is downplaying it quite a bit. The he realized the complications for his plan, he should have slowed down and at that day he should have stopped it completely. He says he loves her and wants to marry her, but to me it seems he lacks a good bit of compassion for her. He cares more about himself in all of that. Not a good sign.
Yes she has the insecurities and she needs to work on it, but disregarding it like he does, is not the solution.
Don’t you just love step parents who try to take over families expect their step child to be loving and caring? Yeah that’s always the best method for blending families isn’t it?
It has nothing to do with blending and everything to do with turning OP into an unpaid nanny. I wonder if since OP has been living pretty much full-time with her father if her mother isn't paying HIM child support. If she moves out, the stepmother won't be able to get her hands on that cash. No wonder the witch is crying.
I’m curious about something. Hanna is a widow and her youngest are 2. Sounds like she moved on before her late spouse was even buried
@@lorilancaster5917Given her behavior, I’m not surprised😒
@@lorilancaster5917 Possible but also possible it's been almost three years since her husband died.
@@Vipre- still very quick time frame for Hanna to move on; date, and marry OPs dad
Last story hits pretty hard. My mother enabled my younger brother his entire life. Paid his fines and court costs (he's a drug addicted criminal), child support, numerous attempts at treatment and "going back to school," etc. She foreclosed on our childhood home by throwing money at him, and had to move into a run-down apartment a town over (he followed her). He's never held a job for longer than two weeks because he knew that Mommy would support him, no matter what.
My mother died four months ago. I cut my brother a check for the ENTIRETY of her life insurance proceeds (I was the executor, her will made it clear that he got everything), and let him know in no uncertain terms that the gravy train was over. He promptly bought a new car for cash (like the big shot he thinks he is), then totaled it drunk driving without any insurance on it. He blew the rest of his money on drugs and playing Santa Claus for his loser friends in less than three months.
My mom's landlord was willing to allow my brother to stay as long as he paid the rent, but so far he hasn't paid a single nickel, so he's getting tossed into the street on August 1st.
Parents, if you're enabling your adult children, STOP. Just simply STOP. Husbands/fathers, if it's your wives doing the enabling, you need to grow a spine and put your foot down. You are not doing your kids any favors.
Sorry for the novel. That was cathartic.
You're absolutely correct about parents not coddling a kid. It was almost the same in my family situation when my Mom passed. Except the entitled kid was my oldest brother. He made it very difficult for my other brother and I to settle the estate. We nearly ended up doing an eviction. We just stopped paying for anything. No internet, no electricity, no lawn care and we wouldn't fix anything that was broke. We told him that until things were settled, he had to pay for these things, if he wanted them. He eventually gave up, after a year, realizing that he couldn't afford it. He still made things hard every day, until the house was sold. 😒
@@2Cambell I never thought I'd be grateful that my mother foreclosed on our childhood home, but thank goodness I didn't have to deal with that nightmare. In terms of housing, it's completely been the landlord's headache.
Same thing in my family. Youngest-check. Jail-check. Child support and free childcare-check. Enabling mother-check. No contact with the rest of us-check. He doesn’t know where I live or have my phone number-thank the goddess.
It's not always the mother that does the enabling. At times it's the father.
Don't know how many times my late husband paid our son's rent, don't know about other bills. Nothing I said made the slightest difference.
I'm a widow now, and if it was truly an emergency, I will help him. But he also knows that I can't really afford it.
@@gannicusfinch7068 Yes, that probably made things more simple! My mom's will complicated things incredibly. Although she had dictated that she wanted everything split 3 ways, she made several accommodations for our brother that we had to deal with. It cost us, ultimately all 3 of us, but our older brother is always the case of cutting your nose off to spite your face. He lived off my parents, particularly Mom, his whole life. I think the only reason that Mom even split things 3 ways, was due to generosity and work of our Dad and both sets of our Grandparents. Who never approved of what was going on with our older brother... But now, I'm getting back to better, with being able to grieve, without unfinished business. I don't talk to him. There are general family texts, but that's it. My other next older brother does call me and visits, as does his wife and daughters. ☺️ We have one Uncle and Auntie left. They call every week, they live 2 states away.😍 But they cut contact with our brother.
Story 1: "I'm not allowed to talk to Hannah until she forgives me."
I love how that's framed like it's a punishment. XD
And OP never apologized because she’s not at fault and has no problems letting them know
Don't threaten me with a good time!
I just can't see how this is more practical? Being saddled with a bunch of toddlers seems way more impractical and more like a punishment for seeing her mom a couple times a month. The older two of her kids aren't that far away in age; they don't need their own room. OP does. Stepmom can stay in her own place with her kids, too. I find that just as practical.
Story 2: I’m not gonna blame op for trying to help her. Even though putting the address down was overkill and not a great idea, why tf is this girl constantly losing her keys so damn much?
Yeah OP was naive and maybe a little dumb but not an AH.
Story 2: It seems common sense is severely lacking in OP and her sister. It is ridiculous the amount of times the sister has lost her keys. Agree with other posters, a visit to the doctor is in order.
I moaned when OP said she added the address 😅
But sis didn't have to use the label 😂
( I had a period where I lost my keys a few times.
I used a name tag too. But I put my friend's contact information there.)
It's no different than that info on ur luggage card
S1: NTA. First comment has it nailed: Stepmom just wants a free nanny for her broodlings, and daddy just wants to get laid. And not pay more child-support. They're not going to respect OP's wishes, so hope she is prepared to make good on her threat, and move back with mom full-time.
It sounds like she will and I can imagine the lashing OPs mom will give her dad for the stunt he and Hanna tried to pull
Story 1: no way did the thought of you ending up taking care of the 3 2 year-old did not cross their minds. They're trying to turn you into the nanny and it would probably be a lot less work to move your stuff from one room to the other than it would be to cram in all of their stuff in with yours. And I don't believe though crocodile tears for one second, I mean starting to cry because you don't want to share a room with three small kids? Your dad and stepmom suck, and this is how you're going to be treated you should get out now.
why don't they give op their room and they bunk with the tods :P
1. Family is not "blending nicely" if you are ignoring the person saying they don't want to be stuck in a room with triplets. Soinds loke just staying with mom and having dad pay child support is the way to go.
Proposal story. Dude, you'll be wrong no matter what you do. That's how it goes
With immature people, yes. He should take the time to see if there's a common denominator in her behavior, or if this is a deep insecurity that she struggles with. No human is flawless; and it could be something she's simultaneously insecure and chagrined at herself about. However, if the deflection/blame is a repeating factor, well....
The guy needs to LEAVE. As a 38 f here; that adult girl child-toddler is immature and if he has any self respect for himself; he needs to leave her like his bum was on fire. No man deserves to be strung along or manipulated or have games played on them. OP needed to leave her yesterday; last thing he should do is propose.
I agree that girl is WAY too immature to get married to.
Few pimples so you cannot propose to me? Something which can be photoshopped like op sais inhad pimples photoshopped feommmy confirmation photos over 20 years ago. I had my arma photoahoppee because i am white as snow white, wedding was August and i wear t-shirts during summer so contrast was real.
Will she cancel the wedding it she gets few stress pimples a day before?
@@analyticmoviereviews101I'm with you on this one.
Story 3: Dude, NTA, but look at the red flags, because she let her vanity destroy your romantic trip and proposal as well as now she is shifting guilt on you for her ruining things. Just walk away. She has growing up to do.
She let her insecurities ruin her proposal. Now she’s guilting him because of her own bs. She let him waste all that time money and effort because of her own hang ups… she should feel guilty.
Has she not heard of concealer makeup?
@nancyomalley6286 eh, not everyone wants to wear makeup, nor should they have to.
Better to address the roots of the problems.
@@nancyomalley6286 what I wonder is why not taking the birth control pill a little longer or stop earlier so the cycle comes before the trip assuming she is on birthcontrol
Exactly. It also sounds like her period isn't regular, so how does she expect to plan a wedding if she'll cancel for a couple zits?
He threw a tantrum by leaving the store without further conversation when he knew that he could get his groceries elsewhere…?? How 😂
Story 2: When I was a kid, I kept losing my keys and getting locked out of the house. Since I couldn't keep my keys in my pocket (it would fall out while changing for P.E.), I instead grabbed every single key chain I could scrounge up and hooked them together to make a roughly softball-sized key chain for the house key. It was pretty darned hard to miss something that big, so I mostly stopped locking myself out of the house. I did have our phone number listed on one of the key chains. However, I would _never_ have been stupid enough to put the house address on them - and I was *twelve.*
I admit I have lost my car keys somewhere in my purse. To the point where they are now part of my purse. At least I can't lose them anymore.
Story 2 makes me sad that we live in a world where out of everyone who could have found the sister's keys, it was someone so scummy as to steal the car. If I had found someone's keys with a name and address, I would have returned them. :(
OPs only mistake was putting the address. Name and ph# would be OK. However OPs sis either has memory issues or the attention span of a gnat. Let's keep doing the same dumb thing over and over again.
same like the address was so if some one found them they could be mailed back.
Same here. OP tried to do something nice only for it to drastically backfire. Sister should be tested to see why she keeps forgetting things though
Agreed that it’s sad someone untrustworthy found the keys, but at the same time, this is the 50th time it happened. She was really lucky that nothing bad had happened before now, that luck was unlikely to last forever and only honest people were going to find her keys.
There are home or key insurance options that provide keyrings with personal codes and postal address for lost keys that allow found keys to be returned to the keyholders.
Also there was the much more common and up-to-date options OP could have gone with of an Airtag etc.....
Story 1 Your Dad's brain moved to his pants. Hannah sounds like a nightmare drama queen and it will not get better. Might as well get it over with and move to your Moms. No one in their right mind would think a 16 year old could share a room with 3 toddlers. Where are you supposed to study? Do projects for school? Ever have a friend over to hang out much less spend the night? The comments saying she wants nanny service got it right. And Dad of course loves this idea because they will not get interrupted at night if you are having to share the room and you better believe their care at night. Also toddlers and teens do not have compatible sleep patterns. Let her cry I would not apologize or worry about talking to her. She sounds very manipulitive
yea they wanna put them with the 16-year-old so she can nanny while they work on the next baby, dad should not have married a woman with some many kids or waited until op was out of the house but they would not have a free nanny would they
"Can't talk to her until she forgives me" Oh no!😂
Good! That means she can never ask me to babysit!!
First story: Hanna has her eyes on a built-in babysitter. If she didn't then there would be no argument against OP moving to the smallest room. She knows that OP would have to deal with the triplets if they were in the same room with her. And dad is the typical douche parent that can't see beyond his own wants, which sadly equates to throwing his child under the bus.
Story 3: Her “how dare he put this on me” reaction feels awful. He went out of his way to give her a memorable experience, but adapted to her wishes immediately and with no resentment. Was he supposed to not care or to lie to her about it, to spare her feelings? Who would want that from their SO?
That trip story she is emotionally manipulative as hell. He’s going to have to put up with that crap for his life. NTA!
When they said “you aren’t here full time” I thought she was only there for school breaks not every day except for four days a month
With her dad she is there weekdays and some weekends. She is at her moms other weekends, holidays, or whenever. So you’re correct but Hanna had a lot of nerve to try to pass that off as justification for a teen to share a room with toddler triplets.
One question I never see anyone ask: why would anyone willingly marry a single parent with *five kids?!*
Probably just to get laid
Girl idk, but sounds like insanity in the making. Hate to say it but any man or woman with that many kids should be waiting until half of them are out of the house before focusing on dating anybody.
Hannah must have some great skills in the bedroom for dad to take on her five kids😏
@@madlie2452A man or woman with 5 kids is definitely going to try to find a mate. They want the help with the kids.
She obviously puts out, duh.
Story number one how the heck are you supposed to do homework? Of course you shouldn’t be in a room with three toddlers.
She's not. She's supposed to be full time nanny to dad's new fuckbuddy's previous fucktrophies.
Story #1: NTA, don't stay with your father and his new family at all. Your father has given up on you and just wants to use you until you are old enough to not have to come by ever again. Don't even ask for CS, just leave and never come back
I agree with everything, except for the not getting the child support. If OP is going to live primarily with mom, then dad should pay for the permanent addition to that house hold because he's too cowardly to stand up to his new soon-to-be wife. But, I become petty when I get disrespected.
(Three effing toddlers!? Seriously!!!!)
@@m.bautista4060 baby momma probably does not want that either because then al the extra money they have now and spending on the other kids will go to op's mom lol
@velvety2006 That's why it's such a great move. She'll hit 2 birds (not having to share rooms with kids; screwing over the stepmom) with one stone. LOL.
My ID lives in my wallet, with my money... Where does OP keep his where he wouldn't have it when at the store? 😂
Exactly! It also sounded like he drove so who in their right mind goes driving without their ID?
@@lorilancaster5917honestly, I wasn't sure if he drove or not because he mentioned "carrying around bags," but thats the only clue I could find. If he was driving, why would he have the bags in the other store, and if he were walking why didn't he mention that? He also didn't mention if the two stores were walking or driving distance 15 min away. Either way, he should have his ID with him and sounds like someone who has never worked customer service before.
@@Kruhee as someone who doesn't drive my ID doesn't live in my wallet as it's too big. However, I'm enough of a planner that if I don't tend to run out of anything and if I was running out of beer I'd make sure I have my ID on me.
Oww i laughed too hard when he said about the social security number. I hurt myself!!!!
S3- Did the poor girl forget that photographers can erase any number of blemishes if asked to, it's amazing what we can do with modern-day technology. I had to ask though did she figure out that was your intention on her own or did she get tipped off by someone? Little bit of a shame that her insecurities spoilt the atmosphere of your trip though.
S5- Little brother needs to accept that Mummy isn't there anymore to shelter, provide for him or baby him anymore. Time to wake up to reality, he's a grown man now and needs to learn how to take care of himself, get a job, and keep it. And that falling back into the same old routine is going to work anymore. This is Entitled behaviour, it needs to be stamped out.
Keep in mind she didn’t know about the proposal until after the trip and likely didn’t know about the photographer
@@lorilancaster5917 She should've suspected it when he asked about what she said, though.
@@Spore9996 not arguing with you there and she did tell him not to propose and then gets upset when he tells her that the planned to after the fact. She needs therapy and perhaps she should get on the pill to help with regulating her periods and limit her pimples.
The story about the keys : NTA. The only AH in this story is your sister who CLEARLY doesn't need a set of keys or a car if she can't keep up with her stuff. OP tried to do something that would ensure the keys would be returned if her idiot sister lost them AGAIN!!! Why is no one blaming the sister? If she kept up with her keys it wouldn't be a problem. Maybe having her car stolen and the threat of her house being broken into, it to mention her work, will get her to straighten up and act right. Shes lost her keys 50 TIMES!! FIFTY!!!!! Unless she has dementia or something, theres no excuse, hell if she does have something like that, she doesn't need to be driving anyway. OP, not the idiot. Tell your sister to get her crap together. 🙄🙄
I agree OP wasn't AH but...idiot. sister isn't any better.
Because apparently women are children and cannot be held responsible for themselves or their possessions apparently. She thought the address was a good idea herself, she could have said no if she didn't. She lost her keys. I'll never understand how some people just waft through life with the awareness and mental capacity of a thimble.
When I was a teenager I would lose my keys, it was no big deal the trusted next door neighbor had a copy.
As an adult I couldn't find my keys. Called work sick. About 2 hours later found keys in my vortex pocketbook.
Now I keep keys on a hook near door problem solved.
Before leaving make sure everything is off and have keys.
My Keychain is chunky and so is my son's.
@@lorrainelomotan1366 it is utterly, irresponsible to lose your keys Op describes her sister losing hers. The blame does not fall back on Op at all, why? Because her sister agreed to it, knew the tag was on her keys, and still went to Six Flags. This person who knew they had a habit of losing their keys took their keys out to a public amusement park with her address on it and saw nothing wrong with that. Op didn't realize her sister was do incompetent she couldn't keep up with them ever
@PickleRicks keys can fall out of pockets w/o realizing it. That's why it's best to be aware of your surroundings. Check if have keys after leaving vehicle and leaving place.
Never put personal information on keychain.
My friend left her cellphone at Walmart entrance w/o knowing it. She got her phone back when a stranger called her.
My sister in law said that it costs $800 to replace smart key. No excuse to continue loosing keys.
Story 1: Translation, Hanna expects OP to be full time babysitter to her sex trophies.
No ID, No Beer Story: If this is in the US, the store has very likely been hit with the same "Check All ID's" wave that the stores around me have been. NOWHERE around me will wave someone off just because they "look old enough" now, and if you don't have your ID? Tough shit.
I'm nearly 35 and if I'm buying alcohol or drinking out I always have my ID ready. I look young for my age, so I'm used to it. No issue.
@@christinebenson518 Same. I'm 39, and while I don't buy alcohol for myself, people always card me (and then get super shocked when they see my age, lol.) I think in most places even outside of the US you'd be expected to carry your ID with you if you're an adult.
I remember turning 21 and carding someone at my retail job that I thought looked to be at least 40, if not older, because we were told to check all IDs... he was also 21. 😨 Yeah, you really can't tell how old someone is by looks alone.
OP is self absorbed, carding is becoming required for all sales in more places. My 60yo father got carded when we bought beers at the party store; the poor cashier lamented that people are SO mean to her just for doing her job :\ she HAS to card but that really offends some people.
The only places we don't get carded are local dives where they KNOW me 🙄
Lol Stepmom wanted a full time babysitter at night (and probably during the day too). It’s very rare 2-year old sleep throughout the night (and three of them even less so) so stepmom was rubbing her hands with glee thinking she’d found the perfect way to palm her kids off on someone else at night. I’d laugh in her face!
Beer.
How did you buy beer at the other store without your ID? Stores dont do this for fun, it is generally the law. YTI.
I'm just shaking my head at the beer story. How were you getting your groceries and beer home? A vehicle? If so you need your ID to drive. In our state any alcohol purchase requires the ID regardless of your age, lol, and you physically have to hand it to them to key information from it.
One child keeps losing the keys and the other one puts the address on the keys. It's amazing either hit adulthood.
So the triplets have siblings but they deserve their own room but OP who grew up there has to share …My first thought child care ….The dad is a simp btw
Story 1 Ya I bet that first replay hit the nail right on the head, they want OP to be an unpaid nanny
Why not put toddlers with their brother or sister if it such a great idea? Op could keep her own room . Never even considered that.
OPs solution to let her have her own room, the older kids share, and the triplets share was the best solution. However as everyone called it, she wants OP to be her free sitter and what better way to get a good nights sleep than pawn the responsibility on to a teen who will have to endure them in order to get any sleep.
@@lorilancaster5917 And she even offered to move to the smallest of the three. She gets the smallest, the toddlers get the next size up, and the two older share the largest. It was a perfect compromise.
@@Vipre-I thought the triplets got the largest room? Regardless there were better options than what Hanna and her father provided.
@@lorilancaster5917 Could be, I might've mixed up which room was which.
@@Vipre-likewise but we get the gist. They have better options but choose to be AHs
Story 1 I think OP's best bet would be to call MOM and tell her what is going on and let HER deal with Dad and Hanna and if necessary move in with mom
100!!! That's what I would have done. In fact, it's what I did do and haven't seen my dad since 1999. He passed away in 2011 and when mom told me all I did was *shrug* and say 'well, it happens to all of us.' - parents don't realize that if they want to keep their children close, then they should treat them with the same kindness and love that the child shows them. OP sounds like a good teenager and she needs to tell mom ASAP what's going on. I feel so sorry for her. She def needs to let mom know what's up. Best of luck to her for sure. I'd def say she needs to go no contact with daddy dearest because he's not treating her as a good parent would. His mind is currently devoid of the live giving red stuff as it is all currently in his pants.
Grocery guy if NTA! I've never seen any store throw returns away. Pretty much call for someone's to do it immediately
STORY 1: OP NTA & the sooner you move in with your mom FULL TIME the better off you’ll be. Just out of curiosity, are they planning on you getting PAID for being the FULL TIME NANNY or do they expect to absolutely torpedo your life & you just do it for free? TALK TO YOUR MOM & MOVE OUT! Your dad doesn’t give a rip about you if he’s pulling this crap. MAKE SURE YOU TELL THE COURTS THIS LITTLE PLAN OF THEIRS. ANY JUDGE WORTH THEIR SALT WILL MAKE SURE THAT THIS ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT HAPPEN!!!!
Story 1: NTA. OP’s dad chose to marry a woman with five kids that she couldn’t care for on her own. Op should go ahead and call her mom, move, and force that child support.
Agreed! OP doesn't need to be around a manipulative d-bag and a C U Next Tuesday. OP needs to move to a place where she can have her space. She's not a free nanny service and I hope she goes no contact with her 'life-giving donor' because a father - a REAL father wouldn't do that to their sixteen yr old teenager. He's a piece of excrement And that 'wahman' is a manipulative C U Next Tuesday who needs to keep her legs firmly shut or at the very least be forcefully put in a chastity belt or make it so it's mandatory to stop her from making anymore kids that she can't afford. Five kids? Yeah - not OP's circus, not OP's monkeys. That's my favorite saying. 'Not my circus, not my monkeys' - I'd of told daddy dearest that one and the wicked witch of the West as well. Get that child support, move in with mom as she seems to be the better parent by far. Go no contact with the dad and the evil step monster. I stopped contact with my father because he was not a good person. OP needs to do the same because he's taking step monster's feelings over OP's and as a FATHER, his child's feelings come first. If it's not something he agrees with, discussion should at least be considered and nothing was considered other than evil step mom and what SHE wants and what HER feelings are. Nothing towards OP and that's not being a good parent. She needs to go to her moms where it sounds less chaotic.
Are you assuming that she can't care for her children on her own? Did I miss that part in the story?
@@NODE1975 It's not an assumption, a person not being able to care about five kids is a fact.
@@NJ-kp3wu a person or the OP? I know plenty of people who took care of 5 or more children. Again, I ask is it an assumption
@@NODE1975 Taking care and taking care properly is not the same thing. There is physically no way you can take care of five kids and actually give them all the time, attention, love and support they need. I bet there was a lot of parentified kiss in every one of those cases.
First story if your mother wanted to take him back to court for custody issues, the court would tell him that teenagers do not share rooms with small children. there a guidelines in some states
I was wondering that myself. Isn’t it illegal?
Only in foster situations. For private families they do not step in.
They could cram them all in one and it wouldn't change nothing
@@Emeraldwitch30 Correction the courts only care in cases of foster families and parental custody disputes.
If OP's mom wasn't around there would be nothing OP could do and as you say "They could cram them all in one and it wouldn't change nothing"
but Mom is around so the provided accommodation for the child is a major factor in which parent gets primary custody
Question for story 2: Why would you put her address on the keys instead of an AIR TAG or other tracker?!
I know right? There's more solutions to that problem, mine was just putting a carabiner on it so it's clipped to my person when not in use and when in the house it's on the key hook.
Probably because OP is naive. And the sister needs help.
why can't a 21-year-old keep track of her keys to begin with though, i pat myself down3 times before I leave the house to make sure I have the keys lol
I mean, not everyone has the right tech or money to spend on something. Especially if it gets lost frequently.
That being said, a phone number would have been a far better option than an address.
@@lizziefirkey6385 A single airtag is $30, which is a bit on the pricey side but probably costs less than getting the actual key replaced in the long run.
Went to the store without his I.D. Did he walk or did he drive? "Cuz if he was driving...
Story 1: So, Hannah thought that moving her three two year old toddlers into OP’s bedroom was going to make the family blend nicely? Oh, and good move, dad and stepmom, for reminding OP that she’s not at the house all that much anyway, making her feel like a guest and not really part of the family. You are NTA. Don’t let these awful adults guilt you. If they won’t change their mind, move in with your mother😠
Story 2: Yes, putting her address on the key was foolish, but OP’s sister really needs to work on not losing her keys🙁
Story 3: You two are the cutest! I wish the best for the both of you🙂
Story 4: Your girlfriend was right, what you did was wrong. You should have put the groceries back yourself! What a AH😒
Story 5: Boy, your brother is a real piece of work. He has gotten a free ride for most of his life and doesn’t want the gravy train to come to a halt, which is why he fought against the sale of the house. I don’t think that the money from his share of the house will last long. He was never taught how to be a responsible human being and will squander the money. Then he’ll look to his siblings to bail him out, just like dear old mom did😒
With story one I'm torn. I disagree that the poster should share with the 3 toddlers, but 3 kids can share a room.
When my cousins were little they shared a room, since they were 13 months apart. Eventually, the girl moved into her older sisters' room. They were typically there every other weekend. So they had a bunk bed and loft bed. It was cramped but they did it for 5(?) years.
She should just move in with her mom though.
@@christinebenson518 Not sure I understand you take. OP isn't arguing about sharing the room. She is against the age differential. How would it make sense for a 16 yo to be stuck full time with a toddler set of triplets when they aren't related and there are other options. Remember, OP offered to move to the smallest room. That would allow the triplets to take her room, the 9 and 7 yo to share a room, and for OP, how is years older than all of the kids, to have her own room.
And let's be real. The stepmom and dad are sneakily trying to make OP a caretaker for these triplets. Forcing OP into the same room would mean there would be someone older able to "watch" the toddlers all the time, which isn't even her responsibility.
The OP said she lives with her dad most of the time and only visits her mom every other weekend, so for four days a month, and the entitled step mom calls the other 90% of the month "part-time" because it suits her interests. OP would actually be spending every school night in a room with three toddlers, an age group known for waking in the middle of the night and either screaming from nightmares, crying from wetting the bed, or just getting up and playing because they just had a good nap. Also, these small humans usually struggle with boundaries and respect for personal property, and would have access to all of her stuff, her electrics, her school supplies, her school projects, everything.
I have no idea how they can think this would work out. OP was perfectly reasonable suggesting same take the smallest room, but step mom wants to waste no time establishing her kids as first class citizens and OP as an afterthought. Moving in with mom can't happen fast enough.
@@christinebenson518 OK what story where you listening to.
No one literally no one said 3 kids can't share.
For starters the story was not about being upset about 3 kids sharing a room.
It was about being upset that 4 kids with a fourteen year age gap being stuffed into one room while two others get they're single Rooms.
Even OP's simple fair solution had the triplets still sharing so I really don't get were your comment is coming from.
@@annana6098 The moment that the stepmother made that suggestion, with dad backing her up, I would have immediately started packing my bags😯
S1 - Hannah found her sugar daddy and doesn’t give a damn about blending families but she sure knows how to work OP’s father. OP should move to her mother’s and never step foot in Dad’s house again, ensuring he pays all the child support to OP’s mom. Hannah will then find out that she’s not going to get everything she wants since a good chunk of her sugar daddy’s salary will be paid to his ex.
The stepmother either wanted to:
A. Force the OP to be her unpaid nanny, thereby parentifying the OP
Or
B. Make the living situation so bad for the OP that they'll leave and never come back while being able to pretend they're not the bad guy, because she doesn't like the reminder that her new hubby had children of his own/ wants to monopolize his time and resources for her own children
Her unwillingness to compromise with the very reasonable alternative the OP presented only affirms for me it's one of these two.
1. Blending sibling is her tricks to manipulate OP. OP is smart to reject it.The farther is blind or denying that his new wive is a manipulator.
That or he doesn’t care. He has access to lady parts once again and his ex has remarried so should he. Don’t know what lead to the first divorce but I’m guessing it’s due to his poor choices since he thinks it’s a great idea to marry a recent widow with 5 kids. I foresee another divorce by the time OP graduates high school
Even if OP wasn’t there, all the time it is very selfish to tell someone you’re going to be sharing a room with three toddlers, does OP’s dad want OP around at all?
For the beer story, I didn't see any mention of driving? Unless he states that he drove and I missed it which in that case please inform me. I don't think he was necessarily wrong if he didn't drive there and the only other thing I think he could have done was politely say "sorry I didn't drive here in a car so I can't take everything and will need to get beer and other groceries from a different store". I know people who walk 15-20 minutes to the grocery store. I am also taking some context clues in his wording such as he didn't want to carry bags from one store around the second store (meaning he didn't have a car to place the bags in while he went shopping)
The first OP should start packing now and have Mom come over with a moving truck to get her things. Dad's going to support all those kids so he can pay child support just fine. If I was OP I'd tell Hanna to watch her kids while I get my suitcases out. Bye! 😁
Along with not having a forced nanny I bet Hanna would be freaking out that less money will go towards her babies. I’m also betting she was hoping to be a SAHM
Nevermind an expensive trip, get the girlfriend some therapy.
And some good acne medicine. She’s been getting her periods for about 15 years she should know more about what to expect and when it will come
Move the triplets in, you'll be giving me my own smaller room when you figure out how much I can mess around with that set up.
The beer story. In some states the cashier need to scan the drivers license.
And at OPs age he should live by the adage of never assume anything
What if you are in age and don’t have drivers license?
@@blackofeliathere are official IDs that you can use to be carded or even if they need to scan your card that aren’t drivers licenses. No drivers test or car needed. This is going by American standards, don’t know about other countries.
@@blackofelia Normal ids, my mom has one while i use my drivers license
There are too many undercover who look old enough to buy alcohol, that was a dick move on his part. People can be fired for not carding!!
If Hanna pulls that crap, just wake up screaming from a nightmare every night about 2 a.m. it would be especially helpful if your nightmares were about Santa not being real.
They want free child care. Move to moms. Let your dads bs treatment of you, be paid by child support. Solution solved op.
Story one: I think Hanna needs to focus on being a mother to her kids, instead of getting into a new relationship so she can get a daddy for her fatherless kids.
No id, no beer! It's not that hard and YES they had to throw away the food. It's called food safety. People are such jerks.
Teenager? We’ll play loud music
Give the toddlers sugar and energy drinks
Watch the world burn
Watch Tales from the Crypt with the volume on blast and make the toddlers watch!!! Evil laugh! Toss kids to mommy dearest and tel her they asked for her
The OP didn't say if the triplets were boys, but if they are, I'm picturing them as the triplets from "Brave"
Play a lot of music with a lot of profanities: rap, heavy metal etc. Give those toddlers a really broad vocabulary
Story one. Ops dad and stepmom want op do all the night work that comes with toddlers. That's the only reason i can think of.
I think of another one ... stepmom want op out and fast , like that she dont have to blend just make hubby the new daddy of only HER 5 kids .
story 1= Normally, it's the teens usually get their own room and kids young as 9 & 7 share a room then toddlers get their own room. The only reason why they would give a 9 & 7 yr olds their own room but make 16 yro room with triplet 2 yros is that they want free babysitting. Hannah wants to triplets with the 16 yro so she can parentify the teen and get a break herself.
Wow! These were some seriously entitled people!
OP4: YTA. Their policies are theirs but leaving that stuff on the belt was a dick move.
oh nooo i can't have my beer waah waah waah, geez just drop of the groceries at home and go to the other store
BTW in Canada at least, TB Vets has a program where you affix a tag to your keychain and then if they're lost, someone can dump them in a mailbox and they'll get your keys back to you. They do not include putting your name or address on the tag.
I have one 1yo and we share a room. I can confirm, whoever sleeps in the same room as a small child absolutely *will* be woken up whenever that child wakes up needing something, and if you're not going to bed at the same time as the kid, you will have to be cautious about doing noisy things in your room. Also, I have the biggest room in the house, and it still feels small because of the crib. I have to climb over my bed to get to the other side of the room. I don't mind, I signed up for this and I'm happy with our sleeping arrangements, but I definitely wouldn't force this on a teenager. TBH I probably wouldn't even consider putting a teen in that bedroom unless she was the kids' mom.
Story #1: Hannah doesn't want her family to blend, she wants a free babysitter!! They aren't your kids!! Squeeze dad's wallet untill you hear Lincoln cry!
IDK how Hannah managed to have time and energy to date and get engaged while taking care of 5 kids, including a set of toddler triplets🤔
Story 1: OP is NTA. HANNAH is a pushy, manipulative slattern, and OP would be absolutely right to skip completely out of that house and make her father pay the child support for her to her mother until she goes off to live on her own or to college/university.
Nta I’m 33 and if someone told me to show ID it would be weird. Anyone on their 30s won’t look under 18 . Cashier was ridiculous and I would walk out too if I couldn’t buy all stuff I want in one store.
It's the law in the US that you get carded. It's not just age, but if you have a restricted license. This matters.
I'm nearly 35 and always have my ID on me.
Some stores have cash registers that wont continue the sale without the birth date entered in.
@@nannettepolcastro4799 but he's shopped there without id for many years so that's not the case. In the uk you don't need id on you all the time for instance.
"Bless your heart" ooof called out the big guns for that one in response to the guy well, being a child.
I've always thought it's a relief nobody would know where to use my keys if I lost them, and here those people come😂😂😂
"Why aren't men open with us?"
Dude reads the room, does the right thing, then is open and honest.... becomes the bad guy. Apparently he should have never told her that he had understood and did what she wanted. This is why we aren't open and honest with you, there's no winning. If we can't win we aren't interested in playing.
Oh, and for the sake of the video, don't propose to her OP. Time to move on, that one is done. Unless you want to deal with these $hitty little games where you always end up the bad guy for the rest of your life (or until she decides she can do better) this relationship was over yesterday.
Agreed. I'm a 38 f and I think it's quite ridiculous what these 'wahmen' do to men. If they play games, time to tell them to grow up and leave them. My brother is moving in with a group of guys and the girl that was staying there (rent free) was a friend of his ex-girlfriend who tried to...well...she chased the guy around with a sharp object trying to slice off an important member of his family. She was arrested but this girl continued to live rent free in the house and drove the electric bill up to over four hundred. On purpose. Women like that give the rest of us who aren't crazy a bad name. I don't know how we're supposed to control the behavior of other f's but...if it were me, I'd change the locks on the door (which is legal here in Florida) and withhold her stuff until she pays what she owes (also legal to do.) Games are for children and no man unless he is one of those men that think with his downward brain will put up with infantile games when the chase isn't worth the price of her 'kitty'. Rational discussions and not manipulating partners; having trust and being there through hard times is how you maintain a successful relationship. Any wahmen that play those games...time for them to be given a pacifier and shoved into the corner and then afterwards, the best thing the guy can do is get the hey out of there because any man going through that deserves better and should not put up with that nonsense from an adult. Sadly, my gende are overgrown toddlers who throws tantrums and breaks things when they hear the word no. 🙄
There comes a point in a man’s life where he stops caring because he knows no matter what he does, it will be wrong somehow.
This is a not a woman thing. I'm a woman and I think this girl is an manipulative a-hole. Some people are just entitled jerks; it happens equally with both genders. Men get really upset ("not all men") when women think of all men as violent because some men hit their partners or commit sexual assaults. Maybe don't do the same to women; look at one horrible woman and go "yeah that's what women are like".
Beer story: I think he was lying about something, maybe his age or on why he doesn’t have a license
How did he get to the store?
@@nancyomalley6286tfw you realize walking exists.
@@vincentlucario5450It does, but what man doesn't have his ID in his wallet?
@@christinebenson518 you would be surprised.
Story 2: NTA. Look, I get putting things like that on your keys isn’t the smartest thing, but that sounds like an exasperating issue she has and you tried for a solution THAT SHE KNEW WAS THERE.
I was listening and was like name: ok, number: great, address: audible gasp of horror. What's wrong with adding an airtag or something similar? Are the days gone where you return lost (important) property to the police? It is simply not needed to have the full residential address, maybe a pic of them or heck, say where the local police station is if you're hoping for something to drop it off near the home...
The number was the only thing that needed to be on the tag.
@@Tearsofblood25 I'd include a first name only as well but agreed, might as well throw in mother's maiden name while she was at it.
Don't marry her. She'll run out on your wedding because of 2 pimples. She clearly believes she is much more important thsn you.
They wanted OP to provide childcare for the toddlers...period.
Hanna's trying to make you do night shift with her kids. What a nightmare.
Hannah wants a live in maid/nanny. You were generous to offer to take the smaller room. One of Hannah’s older children can room with the three toddlers. Move in with your mom.
Just because someone gives you a tag with your name and address on it, doesnt mean you have to use it. NTA OP.
If sister had any sense she would’ve seen this as a wake up call to get help figuring out why she keeps forgetting her keys. At the end of the day, keychain or not, this is on her.
You wanna marry someone who is that concerned about a pimple it would ruin a proposal?
I think it might be a very major insecurity for her to feel that way. I know I’ve seen hormonal acne that basically leaves temp craters in your face when they cluster (I’m planning to go into derm), so who knows how bad it really is/seems to her.
@@madlie2452After her first child, my cousin had horrible acne. I've always had acne, but she was covered. It looked like it would be painful.
@@christinebenson518 It’s horrible, really. I feel so bad for people with hormonal/cystic acne because it can be so hard to get rid of and just about everything you do inflames the skin.
The key story: Does the girl not own a tote, purse or pockets?
I’m beginning to think she doesn’t even own a brain
story about the sister constantly losing keys: The sister should ALWAYS keep her keys in her pocket. NOT lay them down somewhere. I know people who do this stupid laying-keys-down instead of in purse/pocket, and in one instance it resulted in someone snatching them and running off with them. OP should get sister a proper purse or tell her to keep her damn keys in her POCKET (a good deep pocket) and NEVER lay them down ANYWHERE.
one of those key necklaces lol
@@velvety2006 that could work too
S1: .....It starts off as the OP just sharing the room with the toddlers but i'm sure it'd quickly turn into Hanna starting to "ask" the op to do things for her regarding the toddlers until eventually the OP either jumps ship and lives with her mother full-time or is fully roped into caring for those kids until leaving at age 18 and going no-contact with the spineless father and the bedwarmer he married
Sharing a room with triplets who are two years old no way they can stay in the parents room the nine and seven-year-old could share a room and then the triplets have one room to themselves.
Amazing work as always
She should be happy to have a man that would propose to her regardless if she had pimples or was dressed to the nines and not a blemish in sight.
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Story 1: Man…the amount of gaslighting and crocodile tears Op must have had to endure in order to think theres ANYWAY she’s the badguy here is insane.
Op let’s break this down: HER boys get their own room while YOU have to share with 3 toddlers and you will 10000% be the unpaid babysitter.
Step mom isnt crying because her family isn’t blending, she spouting those crocodile tears because you actually have a backbone and won’t be her unpaid nanny.
NTA and go live with your Mom, i guarantee after a month or 2 they will be singing a different tune.
ID Story: Implies the dude takes his ID out of his wallet, which I do not understand at all, but also that he likely did it deliberately.
To me it implies that he did indeed have his ID ( he was driving ) and was being a prick because they carded him.
@@lamwen03Right. Just take the card out, let them look at his date of birth for five seconds, and then everybody's happy. He was being terribly petty.
@@lamwen03 Nowhere does he say he was driving. He even implied he'd have to carry around shopping meaning no car to store the stuff in.
@@AsakuraYukiko "Both stores 20 minutes away from me, and 15 from each other." Since he sounds American, I really, really doubt he walked. 🤣
In some states they scan the drivers license.
Story 2 needs to put her keys on a lanyard and apple air tag
Story 2: have they never heard of an air tag?
"Hmm, she's lost her keys several times what can I do to help .... I know, it's genius, i'll write her name and address on them nothing could possibly go wrong"
Squatting brother.
I was about to say you should have deducted for repainting but you did that so good job. NTI.
I'm pretty sure there's an update to story 1 and hanna breaks up with the father because the daughter moves out
So in other words, I guess it's safe to assume she (Hanna) no longer wanted to live in his house once she realized she definitely wouldn't be getting the free babysitter that was supposed to come with it? Yeah, this woman was definitely on the prowl for a man with a teenage daughter.
However I also wonder about Hanna’s living situation prior to marrying OPs dad? Did she have a place of her own or was she renting? I’m betting though if she had a place it was smaller than OPs dad’s house. I bring this up because I wouldn’t be surprised if this was another factor for her marrying him
You might be conflating this one with the story about the dad trying to make his kid give up her dog because stepson to be was scared of dogs, and stepmom to be dipped when she found out there wasn't going to be a built in babysitter at home.
1:Being a live-in nanny is not your job.
2: Grocery store carding everyone under 65 for alcohol. I'd have left the groceries too. Your ridiculous policy inconveniencing me? Well mine will now inconvenience you. I'd say we're even.
THREE 2-YEAR OLD toddlers in a teen’s room? Uh… hard pass. In what world does it “make sense” to give a 9 and 7 year old their own rooms, but place three toddlers in the 16 year old’s room? It only makes sense if you care nothing at all for the teen. Hell, call CPS. That can’t be acceptable.
I bet the lost keys lady also writes her pin on the back of her keycard.