I stay single most of the time. That is because when I fall in love, it's BAD.....! I have been super hurt before and don't like putting myself in harm's way.
Any person who gets an INFJ's commitment, love and knows how to value it will be the luckiest, he/she will experience the purist and deepest love unlike any other. Some of my exes say I basically 'ruined' them.
Dating has been so hard. I tend to see the end of the relationship from pretty much the get go. I feel like I’m waiting to meet the right person and I also feel I’ll know when I do meet the person. I’m learning to slow down now with new people and getting comfortable being single for long stretches of time.
I feel exactly the same way!! I kind of just liked the person from a distance if I see someone cute I do end up falling for them fast but at the same time I need to know them and investigate a little before I decide to actually go for it.
My late husband shared with me his knowledge of MBTI which he had learned in college. (He was an elementary teacher in a Christian school.) We found each other later in life and were totally in love. Often we would think and say the same things at the same time. We found each other’s different personality facets very interesting. He was an ENTP. I am INFJ. I really appreciate your Christian perspectives on your show. After all it is a loving Creator Who made us the unique people we are . I love that He loves variety :-)
Wonder what’s the age gap between you and your late ENTP husband? I might be in a possible similar situation as a male infj with female ENTP (possibly)
@@jeanettemchenry505 sorry to hear of your loss. For me, age gap is wider and dunno how she feels. Possibly she’s an INTP or ENTP. I’m an INFJ ... took the test back in 2015. Just praying and hoping and trusting like in Ecc 9:11
I’m an INFJ and I haven’t been in a romantic relationship. I’ve had “almost there” ones, but these people who’ve shown “interest” in me would just suddenly turn cold towards me whenever we reach a point where the relationship is to be cleared up (whenever we get to the point where we need to clarify our romantic relationship). It’s hard for me to find someone whom I can connect to in this aspect. Just sharing. :,)
Finding out my personality and finding your Channel makes me feel understood for the first time in my entire life. I am so happy that you are married. There could be hope for me after all.
What!?!? A brother in Christ who also gets the MBTI? OH YEEEEAAAHHHHH!!! Im an INFP and we dominate the internet lol. ENTP INFP and INFJ everywhere here. Appreciate the video.
Infjs break a lot of hearts, that's for sure. I dated an infj who was first interested in me, and it was great for a couple weeks and then he felt too uncomfortable to keep going. Hopefully I meet someone like him in the future!
What is your personality type? I know it’s hard for us to stay in uncomfortable states, however it may be that he was overwhelmed by some actions that took place.
Very true. My INFP husband has worked with me on adjusting to my alone time is NOT a reflection on my feelings for him and vice versa. It has helped me remember that there is someone else in the relationship. He has also come to understand my need to be great at my job.
It's hard to find balance in relationships in general. I think if infjs develop any kind of sense of what they really want and find a good way to explain that to others it would be much easier. The problem is that infjs can be very confused if they are spending too much time with others and they need some time to go back to things and thoughts that recharge their energy. This is very important 'cause it is very likely that people around them don't really undestand their needs and all people that are being in tune with their nature around others not really thinking how it would affect others. Infjs think and feel a lot about other people feelings and can feel very hurt if they do or say something to someone that has negative feedback. Its exhausting . In relationships infjs are very giving and try to improve their partners to be the best they can be. There is also a tendency to be in love with broken person 'cause infjs like to fix problems and like psychological complexity of people problems. Also not many people know how infjs can feel connected to their partners even when relationship is over. Bonding that infjs are making is very deep and that explain how is hard for infjs to leave toxic partner and it is hard for infjs to be self serving for a long period of time. The best thing that infjs can develop in their character is their inferior functions. Ti is better at decision making than Fe. Also living in the moment and wanting sensory life experience can be something that infjs are dreaming in their minds but never really do it. It can be really cool if infj meet someone who like to see new places and is easy going person. That would help a lot for development and understanding of themself.
Everything is true. I'm a healthy INFJ and still learn to co op with it and your videos really help me understand myself. I fall in love once per 10 years and I'm doing everything I can to make my current relationship work.
Dating either an INFJ or an INFP (or INTJ even) and I love her a lot. I hope I can be much, much better at controlling my habit of overanalysing (I'm an INFJ so I hope I don't do it too much)
So far, I love ENTPs, ENFPs, INTPs, and INFPs! I hope I get to meet someone of one of these that I like and will like me back! ❤️ I mostly love INTPs, but it must be because they don't ever reciprocate with me 😞🌸
Ideally in a healthy world, however, i was married once, once. Did not go well. Firey hot at first then ended horribly. So yeah im all set. Ill do my part to help heal others. Recently, ive met someone and shes awesome but that is as far as i can go. Knowing awesome people. Ok stay weird!
Intuition - when you meet a person who has no interest in you (who won't wear a mask) - you will see their raw selves - you have to take note of those habits or past experiences - there is a pattern
What sucks is, I completely understand men through and through. But they never know me that way. It’s always a relationship where i will make sure he’s happy, but he doesn’t bother with what makes me happy. Every relationship I’ve been in, it’s always so one-sided....where I’m absorbent and he’s ignorant.
When INFJs Spend Time With Their Person: 2 hours in: Totally Cool. Blissful, even. Connected *deeply*. Souls intertwined. This is truly meant to be. NEVER EVER want this to end! 2 hours & 1 minute in: I've had enough of this sh*t and I need to get the f*ck out of here. I will spend the rest of our time together silently plotting how to make that happen as quickly as f*cking possible. 🤣🤷🏻♀️💯
Im a true infj to the t. Lolol. Ive been in 2 relationships, long term , in 32 years of life.. and the one of the 2 i am with... is supposed my match... however, he is very inconsiderate and extroverted with weird ideas and needs ..that are more materialistic etc.. and doesnt think about things even 5 secondsun future, drives ne insane and he doesnt understand why i expect so much from him.. but he made promoses and i know he is very capable..so, im always doubting he qctually loves me at all and perhaps just using me.. but im scared to ve alone. I basically just have myself.. and i def love him.. but theres no one i actually hate.. and i could find almost anyone and see the potential and be patient and loyal enough to ever see it. So i just dont know if im wasting time, because its my biggest petnpeeve and sorrow of life ( wasted time ) ... idk.
I found this extremely helpful Bo. I am 3 months into a relationship with a gorgeous ESTJ - he is steady, patient, kind, caring, fun, very loving AND certainly "gets things done", haha. However, I am finding that there is a disconnect between us sometimes communication-wise (especially via text) - I will ask a question or say something in a humorous way (I love words) and although he often responds virtually straight away he wont respond to that specifically - it's like I never wrote it and that leaves me feeling not heard or my "funny" not appreciated and as a result I become very frustrated. Then, because I spend time thinking through each "non-connect" from different perspectives, trying to make sense of it, I end up feeling drained and depleted. This is deeply upsetting to me; I'm sacrificing other important stuff because I'm processing and putting effort into analyzing our relationship and trying to work out whether it's a viable one in the long-term and what should be done about it. Meanwhile, he is just getting on with his life as per usual. Like tw said, it's uncomfortable in the beginning - but I've pushed through this (not wanting to make a wrong judgement and "abandon ship" too early), but it's just not getting easier when it comes to connecting when we are apart (w phone calls and texts); then again, when we are together we ALWAYS enjoy each other's company - I feel really comfortable around him and we have become very close - I can see that he would be "my rock" if I let him. However, it also worries me that I am not what he needs - although he's said that he loves me and really loves the person I am - I can see he gets hurt and frustrated when I'm inconsistent about things - we may have arranged to do something - and at the last minute I change my mind BECAUSE I am mentally and emotionally overwhelmed and exhausted (due to unexpected things coming up that I need to deal with or I've been ruminating on what I see are the problems between us or lack of sleep). We don't seem to be good with dealing with conflict - although I'm doing my best to be up-front when stuff arises - so I'm thinking of suggesting couple counselling as a way to sort through our issues (there honestly aren't many), but the communication thing is pretty significant for me ... blah, blah blah :-D
Im 25 and everbody says iam attractive. but i never date in my whole life. i though iam asexual or even pan until i watch this kind of video ans take the test. guess what. iam INFJ. and now its mooorrreee hard to find someone to understand me the way i understand myself. can INFJ date another INFJ is it work? where i can find my future husband?
Contradiction I get that, the other day I found a trytophobia inducing horror vid, absolutely repulsive at first, I've watched it like 5 times by now, I really dont understand y I'm attracted to something that makes my skin itch n crawl, its Disgusting but I cant look away... I'm so confused
I stay single most of the time. That is because when I fall in love, it's BAD.....! I have been super hurt before and don't like putting myself in harm's way.
T Lee I definitely understand that
totally
Exactly!
I have been hurt too. But I have taken on the philosophy that , the other person did not deserve me. More fool them .
Any person who gets an INFJ's commitment, love and knows how to value it will be the luckiest, he/she will experience the purist and deepest love unlike any other. Some of my exes say I basically 'ruined' them.
Thank you for saying I am INFJ as well.
Then how come people can’t appreciate it !
@@rickhollis6896it’s too intense.
Dating has been so hard. I tend to see the end of the relationship from pretty much the get go. I feel like I’m waiting to meet the right person and I also feel I’ll know when I do meet the person. I’m learning to slow down now with new people and getting comfortable being single for long stretches of time.
Good for you, Angel. That's very wise!
Your words, my mouth.
Me too!
I'm like that too ,wow
I feel exactly the same way!! I kind of just liked the person from a distance if I see someone cute I do end up falling for them fast but at the same time I need to know them and investigate a little before I decide to actually go for it.
Hahahaaaa I never been in a relationship, I haven’t met someone who understands me yet and I’m weird so yeah..🤷🏻♀️
Feel ya
Same...
You've never met an ENTP then.
I feel ya
Omg me 2
My late husband shared with me his knowledge of MBTI which he had learned in college. (He was an elementary teacher in a Christian school.) We found each other later in life and were totally in love. Often we would think and say the same things at the same time. We found each other’s different personality facets very interesting. He was an ENTP. I am INFJ. I really appreciate your Christian perspectives on your show. After all it is a loving Creator Who made us the unique people we are . I love that He loves variety :-)
lol im an infj, and my person is an entp too!
Wonder what’s the age gap between you and your late ENTP husband? I might be in a possible similar situation as a male infj with female ENTP (possibly)
@@shengyi1701 He was 10 1/2 years older. When we married I was pushing 50 & he 60. We both looked and acted much younger.
@@jeanettemchenry505 sorry to hear of your loss. For me, age gap is wider and dunno how she feels. Possibly she’s an INTP or ENTP. I’m an INFJ ... took the test back in 2015. Just praying and hoping and trusting like in Ecc 9:11
I’m an INFJ and I haven’t been in a romantic relationship. I’ve had “almost there” ones, but these people who’ve shown “interest” in me would just suddenly turn cold towards me whenever we reach a point where the relationship is to be cleared up (whenever we get to the point where we need to clarify our romantic relationship). It’s hard for me to find someone whom I can connect to in this aspect. Just sharing. :,)
You will of course find someone ! ~ Many all over RUclips claim that they want an INFJ, so goodluck ! ~
@@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013 Yes please! Hahaha! I actually managed to find a quaranfling... I'm just enjoying it. :)
soo relate to this.
I can also relate...:(
I do have someone on my radar
Finding out my personality and finding your Channel makes me feel understood for the first time in my entire life. I am so happy that you are married. There could be hope for me after all.
Abbrielle House of course there is hope for you.🙂🗡👽🛡🦄🐉
The most charismatic person in the room will be an INFJ in love!!
What!?!? A brother in Christ who also gets the MBTI? OH YEEEEAAAHHHHH!!! Im an INFP and we dominate the internet lol. ENTP INFP and INFJ everywhere here. Appreciate the video.
Yep 100% I find that open communication is a must.
💯
Infjs break a lot of hearts, that's for sure. I dated an infj who was first interested in me, and it was great for a couple weeks and then he felt too uncomfortable to keep going. Hopefully I meet someone like him in the future!
Infjs see far into the future , so he must have seen something in your personality
What is your personality type? I know it’s hard for us to stay in uncomfortable states, however it may be that he was overwhelmed by some actions that took place.
You seem like a nice person. Even if he wasn't the one for you... I hope you find someone more compatible :) All the best!
~A random INFJ.
Everything about us is a contradiction, lol, but that's ok.
i can tell he is an INFJ just from his gaze.
Helpful to anyone, but dearly to AN INFJ! Hugs
dlynn
I really needed this, thanks .
Hugs back.
Thats right we want to dig deep and look too far into the future that's why we withdraw too quickly sometimes
Very true. My INFP husband has worked with me on adjusting to my alone time is NOT a reflection on my feelings for him and vice versa. It has helped me remember that there is someone else in the relationship. He has also come to understand my need to be great at my job.
The over analyzing words it's so true
I've been a single Mum for over 20 years, that's how hard it is to find the 'ONE'.
It's hard to find balance in relationships in general. I think if infjs develop any kind of sense of what they really want and find a good way to explain that to others it would be much easier. The problem is that infjs can be very confused if they are spending too much time with others and they need some time to go back to things and thoughts that recharge their energy. This is very important 'cause it is very likely that people around them don't really undestand their needs and all people that are being in tune with their nature around others not really thinking how it would affect others. Infjs think and feel a lot about other people feelings and can feel very hurt if they do or say something to someone that has negative feedback. Its exhausting . In relationships infjs are very giving and try to improve their partners to be the best they can be. There is also a tendency to be in love with broken person 'cause infjs like to fix problems and like psychological complexity of people problems. Also not many people know how infjs can feel connected to their partners even when relationship is over. Bonding that infjs are making is very deep and that explain how is hard for infjs to leave toxic partner and it is hard for infjs to be self serving for a long period of time. The best thing that infjs can develop in their character is their inferior functions. Ti is better at decision making than Fe. Also living in the moment and wanting sensory life experience can be something that infjs are dreaming in their minds but never really do it. It can be really cool if infj meet someone who like to see new places and is easy going person. That would help a lot for development and understanding of themself.
This is trueeee!!!! Sad.
Love is a private n personal matter. Time helps. Experience helps. I m an old hag....
Everything is true. I'm a healthy INFJ and still learn to co op with it and your videos really help me understand myself. I fall in love once per 10 years and I'm doing everything I can to make my current relationship work.
I like time alone but I love spending a lot of time with my guy 💖 I hate dating 😒
Dating either an INFJ or an INFP (or INTJ even) and I love her a lot. I hope I can be much, much better at controlling my habit of overanalysing (I'm an INFJ so I hope I don't do it too much)
I have been accused of over analyzing. 👽
We ate loyal but we expect loyalty back . If we dont get it we go . There is more fish in the sea and we never feel lonely .
This hit me Yo tears in my eyes I cant believe this a real thing
How's it going now?
So far, I love ENTPs, ENFPs, INTPs, and INFPs! I hope I get to meet someone of one of these that I like and will like me back! ❤️ I mostly love INTPs, but it must be because they don't ever reciprocate with me 😞🌸
Love my INFP‘s, ENFP‘s, ENTP‘s and INTP‘s. 😛
Yep! Same lol
Thank you for helping me to understand more clearly the info person.
Ideally in a healthy world, however, i was married once, once. Did not go well. Firey hot at first then ended horribly. So yeah im all set. Ill do my part to help heal others. Recently, ive met someone and shes awesome but that is as far as i can go. Knowing awesome people. Ok stay weird!
This is so me. No wonder I'm single! Lol
Intuition - when you meet a person who has no interest in you (who won't wear a mask) - you will see their raw selves - you have to take note of those habits or past experiences - there is a pattern
What sucks is, I completely understand men through and through. But they never know me that way. It’s always a relationship where i will make sure he’s happy, but he doesn’t bother with what makes me happy. Every relationship I’ve been in, it’s always so one-sided....where I’m absorbent and he’s ignorant.
Excellent Bo!!!! I love this video.
I just wanna stop thinking
Spot ON Bo!💜
I'm infj and I took 5.5 years to figure out am I really in love or not.
When INFJs Spend Time With Their Person:
2 hours in:
Totally Cool.
Blissful, even.
Connected *deeply*.
Souls intertwined.
This is truly meant to be.
NEVER EVER want this to end!
2 hours & 1 minute in:
I've had enough of this sh*t and I need to get the f*ck out of here. I will spend the rest of our time together silently plotting how to make that happen as quickly as f*cking possible.
🤣🤷🏻♀️💯
Im a true infj to the t. Lolol. Ive been in 2 relationships, long term , in 32 years of life.. and the one of the 2 i am with... is supposed my match... however, he is very inconsiderate and extroverted with weird ideas and needs ..that are more materialistic etc.. and doesnt think about things even 5 secondsun future, drives ne insane and he doesnt understand why i expect so much from him.. but he made promoses and i know he is very capable..so, im always doubting he qctually loves me at all and perhaps just using me.. but im scared to ve alone. I basically just have myself.. and i def love him.. but theres no one i actually hate.. and i could find almost anyone and see the potential and be patient and loyal enough to ever see it. So i just dont know if im wasting time, because its my biggest petnpeeve and sorrow of life ( wasted time ) ... idk.
I found this extremely helpful Bo. I am 3 months into a relationship with a gorgeous ESTJ - he is steady, patient, kind, caring, fun, very loving AND certainly "gets things done", haha. However, I am finding that there is a disconnect between us sometimes communication-wise (especially via text) - I will ask a question or say something in a humorous way (I love words) and although he often responds virtually straight away he wont respond to that specifically - it's like I never wrote it and that leaves me feeling not heard or my "funny" not appreciated and as a result I become very frustrated. Then, because I spend time thinking through each "non-connect" from different perspectives, trying to make sense of it, I end up feeling drained and depleted. This is deeply upsetting to me; I'm sacrificing other important stuff because I'm processing and putting effort into analyzing our relationship and trying to work out whether it's a viable one in the long-term and what should be done about it. Meanwhile, he is just getting on with his life as per usual.
Like tw said, it's uncomfortable in the beginning - but I've pushed through this (not wanting to make a wrong judgement and "abandon ship" too early), but it's just not getting easier when it comes to connecting when we are apart (w phone calls and texts); then again, when we are together we ALWAYS enjoy each other's company - I feel really comfortable around him and we have become very close - I can see that he would be "my rock" if I let him.
However, it also worries me that I am not what he needs - although he's said that he loves me and really loves the person I am - I can see he gets hurt and frustrated when I'm inconsistent about things - we may have arranged to do something - and at the last minute I change my mind BECAUSE I am mentally and emotionally overwhelmed and exhausted (due to unexpected things coming up that I need to deal with or I've been ruminating on what I see are the problems between us or lack of sleep).
We don't seem to be good with dealing with conflict - although I'm doing my best to be up-front when stuff arises - so I'm thinking of suggesting couple counselling as a way to sort through our issues (there honestly aren't many), but the communication thing is pretty significant for me ... blah, blah blah :-D
Its very difficult being with a sensor. Most intuitive people never feel understood or seen or heard.
Thanks Alecia
Infj with another infj... sparks fly.
Matrix humms..nothing like it...
Im 25 and everbody says iam attractive. but i never date in my whole life. i though iam asexual or even pan until i watch this kind of video ans take the test. guess what. iam INFJ. and now its mooorrreee hard to find someone to understand me the way i understand myself. can INFJ date another INFJ is it work?
where i can find my future husband?
I'm an INFJ and I'm aromantic asexual so I understand
Thank you!
Lol 😂 yes I am lucky sec man I meet at my live he was my boyfriend I now it’s take long and so much fights but I am happy now haha
#DominantIntuitive resonates with me 🙂
You look like the Erratas guy.
A lot of this applies to me and I thought I was ISFJ.. are they quite similar? What distinguishes them
Contradiction I get that, the other day I found a trytophobia inducing horror vid, absolutely repulsive at first, I've watched it like 5 times by now, I really dont understand y I'm attracted to something that makes my skin itch n crawl, its Disgusting but I cant look away... I'm so confused
if that ain't me lmao
me: *finds a gross thing on yt
also me: *click
💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️
fear doto
... damn ... I thought this was going to be a comedy.
🖒❤❤