Thank you, cuz we got simps and MGTOW rising up as a result of men not having ANY standards for themselves. We need to stop being so afraid to "die alone".
This is a part of game, and really the best way to fined a good relationship that works. Both sides should be doing this. Making the other side qualify to you. Never validating them but expect with crumbs or scraps of validation when they are qualifying to the things you value. Men need to lead this. Like why would I waste my time with someone I'm going to not want to spend time with, or be fake with. It's stupid. I know to may guys that say things like oh I can't do that, or my girl doesn't know I do this. And they hide a big part of themselves and their life because they think their girl won't like it. Women do this too. Why? Why not be with someone that you can be your true self around?
Pretty much running into the same thing. Fell for it in the past , wont fall for it anymore. Most women think that their "prince" is just "waiting" somewhere for them no matter what age they are, so youre just a settlement till that happens. Kind of sad. Get used by them when youre with them, or be on the side while they use someone else till they figure out what they want. Thats the game, its always been that way, and will never change.
This is so on point! The biggest shift in your dating life comes when you stop approaching women with the mentality of "I hope she likes me" or "I'm going to impress her" or "I'm going to get this girl" and start having a long list of standards that you use to qualify and evaluate whether you want a woman in your life. Women will like you *so* much more and your relationships and interactions will be infinitely better this way. Also, the teasing is *everything*. Women love the role reversal especially because it usually takes them longer to become aroused and it really makes you standout and makes them chase. Also, if you can tease a girl for hours, her orgasms are so much stronger because the sexual desire will build and build. Also, if I really like a girl, I don't give it to her every time I see her. I tease her really badly and make her beg, but don't actually have sex sometimes. It makes them obsessed. Also, you can pretty much guarantee no man has done that to her.
Yeh, there is this girl I have a crush on and for now we are just friends and its okey for now, but we chat everyday and she asks "what are you doing.", I give an honest answer, like "listening to music", obviously I ask "what about you", then she just answers "being illigal"(an inside joke of our friend group, but that doesn't matter bc being illigal literally has no meaning whatsoever), completely avoiding the question....
Great video! When you see an attractive woman at a bar, tell her “we all know you’re good looking, but what do you have to offer besides your beauty in a relationship?” This will negate her beauty and will put the ball into her court to impress you. Make her perform. If she doesn’t let her go. She’s one of a million not one in a million.
What you do is. Tell her she's ugly in a joking way. Say this , hay! , you know your ugly(pauce) ...when a man doesn't pay for a ladies drink.!??? ( watch her reaction. Test her confidence).
The first question worked today.. This girl seemed so materialistic and fancy till she actually showed me her world and it broke down her walls and she was real...
My standards test is 2 dates and then don't spend any money on the woman for a solid 3 or 4 weeks and see what happens. Next is simply to see how often she wants to be around me without going anywhere. 3rd thing is find out her passions. If it's just sitting around and watching Netflix all day and scrolling through instagram she's out. Number 4 is having her solve a problem with me and checking her engagement. I guess that's more of my way of finding out if I even want to be with the woman or not. A lot of women find me very attractive so I don't often have to put much effort into wooing them. But I do test their standards to find out if they just wanted the sex.
@@antoniog.4821 ...Maybe she could tell it was a script and not your authentic, high value charismatic delivery. Back in the day, I would tell women if step in my house leave your clothes at the door and be comfortable as would be in your home. We would watch movies, cook dinner and talk then would tell her must cut evening short for business obligation have tomorrow. The point: I would standout from the experience, because knew it was my choice whether meet my quantification standards in a sexual sense or not.
Yes! I've asked a few women to plan the dates with whatever they want to do. I love to watch their reaction. It leaves them flustered for a moment as they realize how much a man goes through to set a date.
If a man ever told me to plan a date.. 😂😂😂 Get ready to get creative. I'll bring out my art kits, we'll spend the date drawing and painting whatever comes to mind because it's a way to see what's going on in their head too. He's be testing me and I'd be testing him. 🤣
Very misleading video; 1. You give a woman initiative To decide and plan on where to go, how much time to spend, etc on the first or second date, you will push yourself in a position where this girl takes control and leads, which instantly will ruin masculine/feminine energy flow between you and her. 2. Show me your world on the second date sounds really ridiculous, unless this woman is already over the hills in love with you, but in this case you don’t even need to do anything, she’s already sold. 3. You are in bed with a girl you recently started dating, and she’s ready to have sex with you, but you say no we will have to wait!!! That’s the most bizarre and misleading suggestion I’ve ever heard; because right at that moment your woman or girl will realize you are not able to lead, you cannot make sex happen when it’s appropriate time for that, you are hesitant and display feminine behavior when it’s time to take what’s yours and ready for you. After following these suggestions, all three of them, any man will surely lose 99% of the girls they date, or at least lose initiative and dominant/leading position in this relationship.
Greeting from Cali 🏖 - one should never settle and society doesn’t know what’s best for oneself. STOP being “sheeple”!!!!!! Thank you for all you share with the community.
I was dating a girl many years ago and I wanted to know if the girl I was dating had any long term plans after living together for a year...I said as we were laying together, "I hope that we are like this in 20 years!" her reply was, "Wow that's a long time!" I moved out a couple of days later and moved across the country ....!
Simply test for kindness, I think 🤔 that’s all that matters when searching for feminine women. This was the only test I gave my ex when we began n she failed it n that told me everything I needed to know about our future n I was spot on 🎯. Now she’s chasing me for attention after insisting on a breakup since 2015 n finally got it in 2019. I told her she don’t deserve me at all, I’m a diamond 💎 in the rough.
Nothing wrong with high standards. Problem is most of them not coming to the table with anything besides looks. Oh yeah and women don't believe in accountability for themselves.
I am surprised at myself for watching the whole video, I already had my mind made up. BUT then, I not only was surprised but hooked. Thank you @Apollonio Ponti! That's the kind of talk we (men) don't have with each other.
I like this video. I actually let people test themselves against two of my ( born ) gifts. 1- I am naturally born with patience. 2- My mind is wired to be ( consistent). A lot of people in today's society learned to be very impatient and big time bullshit artists.
Great advice, I like the tips but the last one stands out, I did this myself.. we had foreplay on our previous date and on the next date I went to pick her up, said ‘I’m going to be up tomorrow real early so let’s just go for a walk’, we went for a walk, had a good time, in the end I teased her by kissing her and letting her ‘feel’ me and then I said ‘ok bb, I got to go now’... result : after one hour she texted me saying that she wanted to thank me for the time spent, that she always has a great time with me and if I wanted we could see each other next weekend. If you tease her (and know which buttons to push) and switch programs (not like the classical first date, second date, third date stuff) it creates a rollercoaster which women enjoy, attached with lust that experience sets you apart in her mind. Men, learn to control your d€&@ and you will be leading the situation.
I'm starting to learn how important sequencing is in everything in life between business, relationships, and myself. For the last month I've started to realize what value I bring to the table and I don't want to bring women into my life that are not value-added. Very refreshing to watch this video. When I determine that she is not up to my standards I gently let her know that I need to focus on me. My question is how do you let women know you are not interested without ghosting? PS love your advise!!
i say just be transparent, let ker know what you really think in a somewhat gentle but straightforward way (maybe she has some real deficits and could use the critique to better herself)
The world reflects you. What u put out in the world, you get back. This makes "Tests" insidious. If she tests him; the world will test her. If he accepts her tests, the world will send him more tests to endure. Getting where we want to be in life is it's own test. Being who we want to be is as hard as a test. There's enough tests in the world. If you are withholding you love to test someone to see if they are worthy of love; you don't love them. You're looking to use them and willing to call it love. You're ruining the world. You're ruining love due to you seeing your "love" as something ppl have to earn. It's not. You give love. You don't make people work for it. There's enough work to do for food and shelter. Love is the strength we need to keep going when our journey is hard, man or woman. Stop letting your ego tell you your love must be earned. Give it or don't but stop ruining the world with your tests. You aren't as special as you think. You aren't some prize people must compete for. That's not love. It's so gross that ppl think of their live as something that must be earned. You will just lead yourself into hard tests from the world and you will need to compete for love because that's how you see love. Love is free. If your love comes with a test or a price tag, I promise you will always feel empty & unsatisfied with any love you give or receive. Live isn't a test. If someone test you, walk away. That's what the universe wants. Live yourself enough to never lower yourself into your worth being tested. ♡
When it came to " making her wait or deciding to wait " it worked 100% for me. And, not just in the sense of " i have her in the palm of my hand " No. I actually did it as a gentlemen gesture. We were in her room, (she still lives with her Mom. her mom wasnt home ) & we were getting intimate to where she wanted the next level. I told her no that i think we should wait. She hit me with " Isn't it ever guys fantasy to sleep with a girl in her childhood room " I said " uhh no. Maybe? Idk. But, i just want to be respectful of you & your Mom. Plus, we can do this somewhere else we & at a better time. " Ironically enough it was the same night I asked her to be my girlfriend because i just couldnt wait any longer. I had to ask. I asked her & SHE responded with " I want to say yes. But, i think we should get to know eachother better. " At first i was a bit heartbroken but after about 30 seconds i fell in love with her. It was a mature decision & she just keeps doing great things like that for us. We've been together almost 1 year & it's been rocky sometimes? Like we dont like to argue so we just get quiet. But, we are learning to voice whats bothering eachother so we can move forward. Such an amazing woman. I am extremely lucky! But, i am also learning, so is she :)
I naturally do all these things with my ex because I am genuinely interested in her. She is my best friend. I have other options but I’m not interested in them. My ex says she is scared of history repeating itself even though we’ve reconnected and it’s been going really well for months now... she loves being around me and doing things with me and I’m not rushing I’m just enjoying the moment and taking my time to learn who she is again whilst also teaching her how to treat me. We’ve even opened up emotionally again and she talk to me just as if we are together. I don’t know what to do now? Am I meant to just go with the flow because she is still scared of fully committing or am I meant to confront her because want more? The only reason I want more is because I miss our companionship in public and with family and I think that’s what she is afraid of. She’s afraid of being embarrassed if something goes wrong but we’ve been apart for almost 2 years and we’ve grown so much as individuals...
@Apollonia Ponti appreciate the nuggets of information you provided in this video. I think another way I test women at times is to see how they initiate conversation and see if they listen to me. I'll drop an interest of mine (playing basketball or cooking for examples) and see if they are engaged enough to ask me about it or say for instance offers come to your pick up game obviously pre covid of course lol.
@@ApolloniaPonti In learning from your courses that I'm in I find that may be 1 small way to gauge her interest and then to use the mirror that response.
Great video. I found myself suddenly single at 50 and it was great because I was more confident based upon my life experience vs the hubris of my youth (which is always kind of inflated because you are young). Being confident in who you are is the #1 skill. I really liked her suggestion to have the woman plan the 2nd date as it is a great binary choice filter: move forward or cut bait. Thank you for the excellent work !
Good question. That would depend on whatever he considers the man's role should be. If he wants to stay home and watch the kids, great. I'd be the working one providing for the family, but I'd like home cooked meals occasionally (way more often than bought food) and a 'somewhat' clean home. I'd also want the kids on a good schedule and my man to offer me his ears to destress myself from work. If the role was switched, then I'd be expected to do the same for him. And if we both worked, then I'd help with bills and chores and I would expect him to do the same.
Hi Apollonia, Thank you for this video. I recently had a woman tell me she was comfortable with me, interested in me, and that I made her feel safe on the first date. I was excited. I wasn't planning on getting laid that night but it ended up happening. She told me she wanted a 2nd date, but instead I proposed it and not her. I've definitely learned my lesson in terms of turning it around and putting it on her for the 2nd date and that I wanted to take it slow. 3. 2 months ago I found a woman who checked all the boxes. We agreed to take it slow, did everything in this video, then she advised me she has a STI a month and a half in. That subsequently ended it. You have helped me reinforce my mindset on how I want to be and how I want to be treated. Thank you for this.
You dropped some real bombs from a different perspective, especially the #1. I definitely will start instituting this test and others you mentioned. One test, I ask "what is her relationship with her father?"
You seem like an absolutely wonderful human being and I respect you and truly appreciate you. It's too bad that we can't really, actually, honestly and sincerely just be ourselves and be nice and get on with life and relationships without all of these techniques, rules, ploys and the such. I'm 61 yrs old and I'm sick of the bullshit from women.
Apollonia is great with her skills in advice , talkative , tentative , about goals in dating , romance and people skills to show men and women. To advance there skills and overcome hurdles and boundaries in dating and relationships. Apollonia is a great motivational speaker , in her field. God bless.
Love the energy and passion you put into your videos. You really know how to make men feel connected with you when it comes to understanding the mindset of a woman and setting us up for success. Been watching and supporting you since 2018 and will not stop. All three points are very good and very accurate. And I honestly believe I did both 1 and 2(mostly 2) at different moments in the past haha! So much gold in this eight minute video. It’s only going to get better from here!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥
It's interesting watching the various dating advice videos. The last one i watched said specifically to avoid talking about the 2nd date on the 1rst date.
First of all a Million Thanks for pointing out such an important topic, which we often forget about. The only thing mostly taught is getting things her way, just to become a people pleaser. That's really a toxic and disastrous way. We must allow her to reflect her true self.
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First today from E.Africa ,thanks a lot for being pragmatic,a good job you do.Be blessed
Thank you, cuz we got simps and MGTOW rising up as a result of men not having ANY standards for themselves. We need to stop being so afraid to "die alone".
Nice video. But the other side is in this society a lot of women are not real with themselves to even tell the truth
I WASN'T EXPECTING SO MUCH KICKS OF KNOWLEDGE. BUT I'M HAPPY U ARE WHO U ARE, I WILL APLLY WHAT U SAID.
This is a part of game, and really the best way to fined a good relationship that works. Both sides should be doing this. Making the other side qualify to you. Never validating them but expect with crumbs or scraps of validation when they are qualifying to the things you value. Men need to lead this. Like why would I waste my time with someone I'm going to not want to spend time with, or be fake with. It's stupid. I know to may guys that say things like oh I can't do that, or my girl doesn't know I do this. And they hide a big part of themselves and their life because they think their girl won't like it. Women do this too. Why? Why not be with someone that you can be your true self around?
2:49 the 3 questions start here
G.O.A.T.
Thank you pork
Not all heroes wear capes
Thanks!!
Mai Mann
The 3 tests:
1. Test their standards and interests (2:49)
2. Test their independence (4:10)
3. Test her sexual interest (5:00)
I'm too weak for #3.
#3 is for marriage only
@@nick624179 For the Christian man, or a man who believes in this standard.
She literally gave tests that are for men not women
My gf tried #1 on me lol
I always test women. The huge problem is that, so far, every woman failed.
Test a Christian women
At least your confidence should be through the roof then. After all, it's them that failed and not you.
Interesting, how so may I ask.
Pretty much running into the same thing. Fell for it in the past , wont fall for it anymore. Most women think that their "prince" is just "waiting" somewhere for them no matter what age they are, so youre just a settlement till that happens. Kind of sad. Get used by them when youre with them, or be on the side while they use someone else till they figure out what they want. Thats the game, its always been that way, and will never change.
So true!!!
This is so on point! The biggest shift in your dating life comes when you stop approaching women with the mentality of "I hope she likes me" or "I'm going to impress her" or "I'm going to get this girl" and start having a long list of standards that you use to qualify and evaluate whether you want a woman in your life. Women will like you *so* much more and your relationships and interactions will be infinitely better this way. Also, the teasing is *everything*. Women love the role reversal especially because it usually takes them longer to become aroused and it really makes you standout and makes them chase. Also, if you can tease a girl for hours, her orgasms are so much stronger because the sexual desire will build and build. Also, if I really like a girl, I don't give it to her every time I see her. I tease her really badly and make her beg, but don't actually have sex sometimes. It makes them obsessed. Also, you can pretty much guarantee no man has done that to her.
What are some ways to tease a woman?
@apollonia when a man makes me wait....you have no idea what a TURN ON that is. It builds and builds until........and I LOVE IT!!
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I have a hard time with that. Not because I'm awesome in my mind but they think I am.
True Erica....It gets the body flowing through.....ok ..... awesome thanks
The flaw in her logic. Is that women won't tell you the truth many times. You just get a kinda answer
That is because you don't hold any value to her. yet. Pretend you didn't ask the questions talk without asking questions and that return to it.
Yeh, there is this girl I have a crush on and for now we are just friends and its okey for now, but we chat everyday and she asks "what are you doing.", I give an honest answer, like "listening to music", obviously I ask "what about you", then she just answers "being illigal"(an inside joke of our friend group, but that doesn't matter bc being illigal literally has no meaning whatsoever), completely avoiding the question....
if she say yes that mean no, and when she tell no that mean yes haha
This is where the first question is important though. Because it forces her to act, and if she doesn't, things are immediately over.
There's meaning in every answer given by a woman. Whether she says she means it or not. Words are telling . Actions even louder.
I love your channel! Society has taught men wrong, & it's only getting worse. Good for you!
Yes it is getting worse and watching stuff like this makes me think like wow ok that’s why I have always messed up
Great video!
When you see an attractive woman at a bar, tell her “we all know you’re good looking, but what do you have to offer besides your beauty in a relationship?” This will negate her beauty and will put the ball into her court to impress you. Make her perform. If she doesn’t let her go. She’s one of a million not one in a million.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@copacetic21 true that
That will get you slapped. Ain't no woman go on a go for that. She is their for a reason
What you do is. Tell her she's ugly in a joking way. Say this , hay! , you know your ugly(pauce) ...when a man doesn't pay for a ladies drink.!??? ( watch her reaction. Test her confidence).
Classic routine used by Mystery
This is like using a woman’s same point of view, using a woman’s lens being selective with men. LOVE IT.
I started testing a woman I liked by asking her what her new years resolutions and goals are. She said ahhh I don't have any. Was an instant turnoff
;-)
Tell me about it... most women are FAIl when it comes to that
who needs resolutions lmao. you can't be serious. next you'll say she didn't know her astro sign
How is that a turn-off though?
@lord havmercy You really should've
The first question worked today.. This girl seemed so materialistic and fancy till she actually showed me her world and it broke down her walls and she was real...
My standards test is 2 dates and then don't spend any money on the woman for a solid 3 or 4 weeks and see what happens. Next is simply to see how often she wants to be around me without going anywhere. 3rd thing is find out her passions. If it's just sitting around and watching Netflix all day and scrolling through instagram she's out. Number 4 is having her solve a problem with me and checking her engagement. I guess that's more of my way of finding out if I even want to be with the woman or not. A lot of women find me very attractive so I don't often have to put much effort into wooing them. But I do test their standards to find out if they just wanted the sex.
Yeah I tired that didn't go so well "
Those are great standards.
@@antoniog.4821 😂🙌🏻
@@antoniog.4821 ...Maybe she could tell it was a script and not your authentic, high value charismatic delivery.
Back in the day, I would tell women if step in my house leave your clothes at the door and be comfortable as would be in your home. We would watch movies, cook dinner and talk then would tell her must cut evening short for business obligation have tomorrow. The point: I would standout from the experience, because knew it was my choice whether meet my quantification standards in a sexual sense or not.
Loved all of it❤️❤️ I was going totally wrong all this while, 2 days of watching your videos and my life has started getting absolutely better..
I agree Apollonia...I believe asking a woman questions to find out how independent she is is the right strategy.
It's the right strategy for some men who want a working woman, but for men who prefer their woman not working, it's not really necessary.
The downside is she herself may not know what she wants and just give you a made up answer.
Yes! I've asked a few women to plan the dates with whatever they want to do. I love to watch their reaction. It leaves them flustered for a moment as they realize how much a man goes through to set a date.
Stop doing that. It’s weak. Women want to see you as a leader
@@NK-nh4vo lmao your a beta. If you dont test them, then your just setting yourself up for failure
@@P.NightmareFilez your are the beta. Women get horny when they are lead on and dominated. No woman wants to plan dates, wtf is wrong with you
You do this, you better have deep pockets and expect nuthing but a it was great can we do it again.🤣🤣
If a man ever told me to plan a date.. 😂😂😂
Get ready to get creative. I'll bring out my art kits, we'll spend the date drawing and painting whatever comes to mind because it's a way to see what's going on in their head too.
He's be testing me and I'd be testing him. 🤣
Apollonia is looking out for the interests of men. : )
I'd see it more as an attention seeking stunt. C'mon dude, chicks show the slightest interest and honest guys run to them too quickly.
Very misleading video;
1. You give a woman initiative To decide and plan on where to go, how much time to spend, etc on the first or second date, you will push yourself in a position where this girl takes control and leads, which instantly will ruin masculine/feminine energy flow between you and her.
2. Show me your world on the second date sounds really ridiculous, unless this woman is already over the hills in love with you, but in this case you don’t even need to do anything, she’s already sold.
3. You are in bed with a girl you recently started dating, and she’s ready to have sex with you, but you say no we will have to wait!!! That’s the most bizarre and misleading suggestion I’ve ever heard; because right at that moment your woman or girl will realize you are not able to lead, you cannot make sex happen when it’s appropriate time for that, you are hesitant and display feminine behavior when it’s time to take what’s yours and ready for you.
After following these suggestions, all three of them, any man will surely lose 99% of the girls they date, or at least lose initiative and dominant/leading position in this relationship.
Patience and not being instant gratification based can make you go pretty far not only in relationships, but life too.
Apollonia, your content is highly evolved and soo refreshing. Relationship should always be about an emotional bond first...
I don’t agree hari. I think a relationship should be about the spiritual bond first , then the emotional bond second :)
But whose counting lol
You literally saving many relationships
Thank you.
Greeting from Cali 🏖 - one should never settle and society doesn’t know what’s best for oneself. STOP being “sheeple”!!!!!! Thank you for all you share with the community.
Wish i knew this before but glad im unmarried and its never too late. Thank u for opening my eyes what real relationships are about
Damn right!I did this at the age of 22.Pain makes you change quick.Well at least me.
No lie man . Pain can change somebody 😪
I was dating a girl many years ago and I wanted to know if the girl I was dating had any long term plans after living together for a year...I said as we were laying together, "I hope that we are like this in 20 years!" her reply was, "Wow that's a long time!" I moved out a couple of days later and moved across the country ....!
Simply test for kindness, I think 🤔 that’s all that matters when searching for feminine women. This was the only test I gave my ex when we began n she failed it n that told me everything I needed to know about our future n I was spot on 🎯. Now she’s chasing me for attention after insisting on a breakup since 2015 n finally got it in 2019. I told her she don’t deserve me at all, I’m a diamond 💎 in the rough.
Does anyone else notice that every single female dating coach NEVER holds females accountable for their high standards.
Nothing wrong with high standards. Problem is most of them not coming to the table with anything besides looks. Oh yeah and women don't believe in accountability for themselves.
No actually, check out Marni Your Personal Wing Woman. She's the best that is. There's no gender biased vibes with her. Her podcast is too funny too
Very few women are honest enough to be accountable for their actions and take responsibility for their mistakes.
Rather guys should raise their standards in general..... cos you can't tell people what they should want
It's not high standards, it's Unrealistic "standards".
I am surprised at myself for watching the whole video, I already had my mind made up. BUT then, I not only was surprised but hooked. Thank you @Apollonio Ponti! That's the kind of talk we (men) don't have with each other.
I like this video.
I actually let people test themselves against two of my ( born ) gifts.
1- I am naturally born with patience.
2- My mind is wired to be ( consistent).
A lot of people in today's society learned to be very impatient and big time bullshit artists.
Great advice, I like the tips but the last one stands out, I did this myself.. we had foreplay on our previous date and on the next date I went to pick her up, said ‘I’m going to be up tomorrow real early so let’s just go for a walk’, we went for a walk, had a good time, in the end I teased her by kissing her and letting her ‘feel’ me and then I said ‘ok bb, I got to go now’... result : after one hour she texted me saying that she wanted to thank me for the time spent, that she always has a great time with me and if I wanted we could see each other next weekend. If you tease her (and know which buttons to push) and switch programs (not like the classical first date, second date, third date stuff) it creates a rollercoaster which women enjoy, attached with lust that experience sets you apart in her mind. Men, learn to control your d€&@ and you will be leading the situation.
This is a skilled blend of education and marketing. Men gotta let women find them attractive too instead of chasing approval!
I am definitely feeling this Apollonia. Thank you for this amazing video. My baby has THANKFULLY passed these tests!
This lady is a genius, I agree the girls who have good intentions like you, thye will accept all 3 of these the same as you would for them.
Thats actually solid dating advice for men. From a woman. Im blown away - never thought Id live to see the day
Wrong... you’re NOT a man....
I wish I had started watching your videos 7 months ago. I know how to pursue women much better going forward! Thank you Apollonia.
when a man tells a woman that he wants to wait, she automatically thinks hes gay or hes currently sleeping with someone else.
Then, she is not a high value woman!
if she thinks that, then she is not worth dating
Black women say that to black men very often, when they don't get their way.
Hahaha lol
Most of the time. Hit her with that nah I am good.
I enjoy listening to you and your words of wisdom and remember you're always loved
Wow you just put in to words things I have thought and said and done but not consistently. I’m older and starting over. Thank you.
Ive Loved her videos for years. Shes dope and genuine. Good tips for Men. 💯💯💯
I needed this information years ago. However it's a blessing that I have it now thank you
Thank you.your very good at tellin us men want to dew an not to.it giving me a good sense of direction .good stuff.keep it comin
I'm starting to learn how important sequencing is in everything in life between business, relationships, and myself. For the last month I've started to realize what value I bring to the table and I don't want to bring women into my life that are not value-added. Very refreshing to watch this video. When I determine that she is not up to my standards I gently let her know that I need to focus on me. My question is how do you let women know you are not interested without ghosting? PS love your advise!!
i say just be transparent, let ker know what you really think in a somewhat gentle but straightforward way (maybe she has some real deficits and could use the critique to better herself)
The world reflects you. What u put out in the world, you get back. This makes "Tests" insidious. If she tests him; the world will test her. If he accepts her tests, the world will send him more tests to endure. Getting where we want to be in life is it's own test. Being who we want to be is as hard as a test. There's enough tests in the world. If you are withholding you love to test someone to see if they are worthy of love; you don't love them. You're looking to use them and willing to call it love. You're ruining the world. You're ruining love due to you seeing your "love" as something ppl have to earn. It's not. You give love. You don't make people work for it. There's enough work to do for food and shelter. Love is the strength we need to keep going when our journey is hard, man or woman. Stop letting your ego tell you your love must be earned. Give it or don't but stop ruining the world with your tests. You aren't as special as you think. You aren't some prize people must compete for. That's not love. It's so gross that ppl think of their live as something that must be earned. You will just lead yourself into hard tests from the world and you will need to compete for love because that's how you see love. Love is free. If your love comes with a test or a price tag, I promise you will always feel empty & unsatisfied with any love you give or receive. Live isn't a test. If someone test you, walk away. That's what the universe wants. Live yourself enough to never lower yourself into your worth being tested. ♡
I wish to find a woman like you, Appolonia. Beautiful, good smile, clever and nice like you 🥰.
Never ask a fish how to catch it
When it came to " making her wait or deciding to wait " it worked 100% for me. And, not just in the sense of " i have her in the palm of my hand "
No. I actually did it as a gentlemen gesture. We were in her room, (she still lives with her Mom. her mom wasnt home ) & we were getting intimate to where she wanted the next level. I told her no that i think we should wait. She hit me with " Isn't it ever guys fantasy to sleep with a girl in her childhood room " I said " uhh no. Maybe? Idk. But, i just want to be respectful of you & your Mom. Plus, we can do this somewhere else we & at a better time. "
Ironically enough it was the same night I asked her to be my girlfriend because i just couldnt wait any longer. I had to ask.
I asked her & SHE responded with " I want to say yes. But, i think we should get to know eachother better. " At first i was a bit heartbroken but after about 30 seconds i fell in love with her. It was a mature decision & she just keeps doing great things like that for us. We've been together almost 1 year & it's been rocky sometimes? Like we dont like to argue so we just get quiet. But, we are learning to voice whats bothering eachother so we can move forward. Such an amazing woman. I am extremely lucky! But, i am also learning, so is she :)
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Ur extremely lucky? You’re lowering yourself by saying shit like that. And you asked her? Wrong. You always want the girl to ask YOU!
Congratulations Masculine man!🧠👏
I naturally do all these things with my ex because I am genuinely interested in her. She is my best friend. I have other options but I’m not interested in them. My ex says she is scared of history repeating itself even though we’ve reconnected and it’s been going really well for months now... she loves being around me and doing things with me and I’m not rushing I’m just enjoying the moment and taking my time to learn who she is again whilst also teaching her how to treat me. We’ve even opened up emotionally again and she talk to me just as if we are together. I don’t know what to do now? Am I meant to just go with the flow because she is still scared of fully committing or am I meant to confront her because want more? The only reason I want more is because I miss our companionship in public and with family and I think that’s what she is afraid of. She’s afraid of being embarrassed if something goes wrong but we’ve been apart for almost 2 years and we’ve grown so much as individuals...
@Apollonia Ponti appreciate the nuggets of information you provided in this video. I think another way I test women at times is to see how they initiate conversation and see if they listen to me. I'll drop an interest of mine (playing basketball or cooking for examples) and see if they are engaged enough to ask me about it or say for instance offers come to your pick up game obviously pre covid of course lol.
YES YES YES!!!!! This is great!
@@ApolloniaPonti In learning from your courses that I'm in I find that may be 1 small way to gauge her interest and then to use the mirror that response.
hell ye
first 1 min of the vid and I already loved it
This is your best video. You are the gold standard! I appreciate you and this content so much.
"Approval-seeking behavior" - a term from Corey Wayne, one of the very best dating coaches for men.
Great video. I found myself suddenly single at 50 and it was great because I was more confident based upon my life experience vs the hubris of my youth (which is always kind of inflated because you are young). Being confident in who you are is the #1 skill.
I really liked her suggestion to have the woman plan the 2nd date as it is a great binary choice filter: move forward or cut bait.
Thank you for the excellent work !
Perfect. Call the shots men!👏👐🫶🙌🧠
Wholly geez, I noticed this one has many dislikes and that is not normal for Apollonia's tutorials. I like the topic so far...!
A great video one of your best. Wish I had known this 50 years ago. Kudos!
Omg…best video I’ve seen on the internet …thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you for this information you're providing to us men out here. It helps us understand women in very ways.
Love this AP!
I love your thoughts and advice…
Well done beautiful lady 👏👏👏
Apollonia we appreciate your girl, this is only to make us better men
Another great question to ask her is "what do you consider the woman's role in the relationship to be?"
Good question. That would depend on whatever he considers the man's role should be. If he wants to stay home and watch the kids, great. I'd be the working one providing for the family, but I'd like home cooked meals occasionally (way more often than bought food) and a 'somewhat' clean home. I'd also want the kids on a good schedule and my man to offer me his ears to destress myself from work.
If the role was switched, then I'd be expected to do the same for him.
And if we both worked, then I'd help with bills and chores and I would expect him to do the same.
I have viewed many of your video's, I find them a treasure of knowledge.
1st dates, 2nd dates, and standards during COVID:
Low standard = a 1st date.
Mid-grade standard = 6 feet away.
Highest standard = isolate indefinetly.
The tease. The making her anticipate. Ayye. I like that idea.
Thank You Apollonia you´re always loved too by us men who are seeking real value in relationships.
Hi Apollonia,
Thank you for this video. I recently had a woman tell me she was comfortable with me, interested in me, and that I made her feel safe on the first date. I was excited. I wasn't planning on getting laid that night but it ended up happening. She told me she wanted a 2nd date, but instead I proposed it and not her. I've definitely learned my lesson in terms of turning it around and putting it on her for the 2nd date and that I wanted to take it slow.
3. 2 months ago I found a woman who checked all the boxes. We agreed to take it slow, did everything in this video, then she advised me she has a STI a month and a half in. That subsequently ended it. You have helped me reinforce my mindset on how I want to be and how I want to be treated. Thank you for this.
THANK U APOLLONIA. HAPPYNEWYEAR.
Show the real you, if she truly loves you, she will stay no matter what.
You dropped some real bombs from a different perspective, especially the #1. I definitely will start instituting this test and others you mentioned. One test, I ask "what is her relationship with her father?"
It's great to see a woman speak like this. Keep up with your fine work.
You seem like an absolutely wonderful human being and I respect you and truly appreciate you. It's too bad that we can't really, actually, honestly and sincerely just be ourselves and be nice and get on with life and relationships without all of these techniques, rules, ploys and the such. I'm 61 yrs old and I'm sick of the bullshit from women.
“Sick and tired of women”
Wonders why he can’t get with them...
I have never approached it from this point of view. Big tnx
"I don't want to rush things" - rofl
Great information. I am going to put it to work. You have become very helpful in my life.
Miss Ponti I really like your teaching style thank you 😊
You're awesome. I love your channel.
Thank you for helping me with all these lesson and what you do. I truly appreciate it all. Real transforming
Wonderful, I tested my own wife and and she failed and guess what it has caused us a divorce
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How did u test her?
Are you serious? This is not for married men.
Found the woman of my dreams thanks to you Apollonia! Didn't settle for less and we both bring a lot to the table !
All the best in the future videos
Congrats
Apollonia is great with her skills in advice , talkative , tentative , about goals in dating , romance and people skills to show men and women. To advance there skills and overcome hurdles and boundaries in dating and relationships. Apollonia is a great motivational speaker , in her field. God bless.
I'm from South Africa ...you had helped me so much aplonia you the best
Anybody who knows their worth would know it works both ways. Everybody doesn't deserve you.
Love your video
Appolonia, you are AMAZING. Thank you.
One of the few best I've ever watched in relation to dating and relationships kudos to Aunty Apollonia!
I just love your Advises and actually its very fact . Thank you for your advices .)
Love the energy and passion you put into your videos. You really know how to make men feel connected with you when it comes to understanding the mindset of a woman and setting us up for success. Been watching and supporting you since 2018 and will not stop. All three points are very good and very accurate. And I honestly believe I did both 1 and 2(mostly 2) at different moments in the past haha! So much gold in this eight minute video. It’s only going to get better from here!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥
I needed this video today. Thank you for the important tips.
Gotta listen to this. Testing men always now the tables are turned.
You're more than enough Apollonia.
Thanks for making men souls feel safe in your arms through your powerful lessons.@):-
Her videos never disappoint ❤
It's interesting watching the various dating advice videos. The last one i watched said specifically to avoid talking about the 2nd date on the 1rst date.
Team Apollonia Ponti! 💖🔥
A survey and a Questionnaire is Always good so you know what you're Dealing with 💯
Great video!!! Having standards empowers. It is a good embrace.
That’s so good, Apollonia.
First of all a Million Thanks for pointing out such an important topic, which we often forget about.
The only thing mostly taught is getting things her way, just to become a people pleaser. That's really a toxic and disastrous way.
We must allow her to reflect her true self.
Awesome video Apollonia
Thank you Apollonia Ponti!
Happy new year🎆🎉🎊🎁🙏. I was waiting for these questions lol
Happy new year!!!
💚💚 Apollo this video is on point
That laugh at the end, oh my god. pure ecstasy.
I love you for helping us to know how women psych works. I am pleased with your coaching.
Happy New Year AP! Awesome video and grest information Apollonia
Thank you Apollonia