Garrett drops so many good points throughout this video. There is a lot of media that portrays mental health hospitals as scary and like just a dastardly place that no one would want to go to. We register that as children especially and then hide our mental illnesses if we have any for this reason. The media needs to change that. He also made a great point about just needing to let go and be goofy with people. That is really how you have fun and then bleed that into deeper more comfortable conversation cause if they can accept that side of you, they can accept other sides. I also like what Dan said about people saying “I know how you feel.” It’s tricky. Sometimes it is very helpful to not feel alone and have someone that understands. But I can also see even with some of my own experiences that are VERY specific that most likely not one person knows how I feel. They can only imagine and even then it’ll pale in in comparison. That can then invalidate the person and make them feel as if they’re not really going through something as heavy as it really is cause the other person is making it seem as if it’s a smaller issue and has an easier fix than it may really have. And yes! What Mike said! “It’ll be okay!” I HATE when people say and promise that in TV shows cause I always know that they don’t know that for sure and they’re just comforting with a lie and their intent is hope but false hope is not a good thing!! And then it once again can invalidate situations. I like what Brent said about just being there. Not trying to fix, offer advice, anything. But just listening. Sitting in the waiting room of therapy session and all that. That would be nice. And I started doing that “Do you want me to listen or respond?” At the beginning of conversations shortly before I got married and it was quite the game changer. Especially when talking to women apparently because most of the time many of them do not want a fix, but just an ear. Of course this can apply to men as well but yeah, it’s really helpful. Phenomenal video. I spewed a lot of thought here, but that’s essentially all I’m saying. Great video and I’m glad you put it together, Anna. Hoping it helps everyone it’s destined to help out and more. Will be sharing around.
I already had messaged you, but I realized I never responded to your comment here! Thank YOU for doing this with me and for all your encouraging words! 😊
This is such a good conversation. I'm still working through little by little, but the talk about "real friends" is resonating with me. I'm lucky to have a few guy friends that I can open up genuinely with, but I do have many others that don't really fit that mold. They're more "people with mutual interests" that I've spent a lot of time with. EDIT: I've been taking some notes and hearing about some of the things I do unintentionally in my own relationships that are hindering. I'm very guilty of being the "It'll be okay" guy and it's something I need to work on, focusing more on being there in that moment rather than simply providing some empty hope or having the person feel like I'm dismissing them.
Garrett drops so many good points throughout this video. There is a lot of media that portrays mental health hospitals as scary and like just a dastardly place that no one would want to go to. We register that as children especially and then hide our mental illnesses if we have any for this reason. The media needs to change that.
He also made a great point about just needing to let go and be goofy with people. That is really how you have fun and then bleed that into deeper more comfortable conversation cause if they can accept that side of you, they can accept other sides.
I also like what Dan said about people saying “I know how you feel.” It’s tricky. Sometimes it is very helpful to not feel alone and have someone that understands. But I can also see even with some of my own experiences that are VERY specific that most likely not one person knows how I feel. They can only imagine and even then it’ll pale in in comparison. That can then invalidate the person and make them feel as if they’re not really going through something as heavy as it really is cause the other person is making it seem as if it’s a smaller issue and has an easier fix than it may really have. And yes! What Mike said! “It’ll be okay!” I HATE when people say and promise that in TV shows cause I always know that they don’t know that for sure and they’re just comforting with a lie and their intent is hope but false hope is not a good thing!! And then it once again can invalidate situations.
I like what Brent said about just being there. Not trying to fix, offer advice, anything. But just listening. Sitting in the waiting room of therapy session and all that. That would be nice. And I started doing that “Do you want me to listen or respond?” At the beginning of conversations shortly before I got married and it was quite the game changer. Especially when talking to women apparently because most of the time many of them do not want a fix, but just an ear. Of course this can apply to men as well but yeah, it’s really helpful.
Phenomenal video. I spewed a lot of thought here, but that’s essentially all I’m saying. Great video and I’m glad you put it together, Anna. Hoping it helps everyone it’s destined to help out and more. Will be sharing around.
Thank you so much for having me on, great job editing the video and thank you for being such a gracious and welcoming host!
I already had messaged you, but I realized I never responded to your comment here! Thank YOU for doing this with me and for all your encouraging words! 😊
excellent discussion, these four men are amazing to listen to their points of view, very proud of you garrett p.s yup i am his mom
This is the sweetest! Thank you for your encouraging words and supporting these guys by checking out the video! :) They did so great!
This is such a good conversation. I'm still working through little by little, but the talk about "real friends" is resonating with me. I'm lucky to have a few guy friends that I can open up genuinely with, but I do have many others that don't really fit that mold. They're more "people with mutual interests" that I've spent a lot of time with.
EDIT: I've been taking some notes and hearing about some of the things I do unintentionally in my own relationships that are hindering. I'm very guilty of being the "It'll be okay" guy and it's something I need to work on, focusing more on being there in that moment rather than simply providing some empty hope or having the person feel like I'm dismissing them.
Thank you so much for watching, friend, and I'm so happy that the discussion benefitted you! 😊
I like your videos you focus on helping others and they have positive messages ❤
Thank you so much! 😊💜