Oh my god Elizabeth! Finding people who have Anxiety + ADHD + Trauma of having had neglectful parents always felt like a 1% in the world cohort. I never thought I'd find anyone I'd share these experiences with. Thank you for creating this community and sharing these experiences that are so difficult to untangle!
Having ADHD is quite enough i suppose, anxiety disorder will easily follow due to lack of knowledge and coping mechanisms, also there is a high chance of our family members having ADHD so neglect is also probable, I once heard a story from my grandma when my mother accidentally forgot where she left me, and was searching for the baby who had not yet learned to walk, they used to laugh it off as a joke. I don't think it's such a rare combo. That's how it worked out in my case anyway.
From the bottom of my heart, a big thank you to you! I am so much younger than you, and I consider myself to be so lucky to have found you on RUclips! I cannot even begin to describe the impact you have on my life ☺😃thank you big sis!
Best of luck through your journey self discovery in life my fellow hoomann!! All the best wishes and never be too hard on yourself. Just remember your life has just started and one setback gives you no right to give up on anything at all ❤
I'm exactly on the same boat. I'm turning 19 and haven't really 'woken up' till recently, the beginning of this year. I cannot express through the letters and spaces on this screen how much I look up to this lady, and how lucky I am to have all of this knowledge on basic life stuff I've been missing out on. ------- I relate so much to you Liz and I wish you the best in every aspect of growth you decide to take on. MUAH!
I nonchalantly asked myself, "what do I need?" Right after you mentioned it. I simultaneously felt this deep sinking feeling and also incredible relief and burst into tears for like 5 full minutes😂🤦🏻♀️. I can't remember when I was last (if EVER) asked that, and I don't think I ever realized I could ask myself. You just changed my life with that simple question. There was a tsunami of replies waiting behind it, and it's good it found a way to get through.
The part you talked about at the end, when you've been in an anxiety state for two weeks, and you go out on a walk with a friend, and you hate that that makes you feel better. I just wanted to say, I feel this on such a deep level. I am so glad to have found your channel because it has made me feel so much less alone in my feelings.
Perpetually astonished with your immaculate grasp of metaphysics-both abstract theoretical conceptualizations, and material self-introspective applications-with which you distill the wealth of wisdom in any area you’re conveying seemingly effortlessly. First time ever actually commenting on a video, but I just watched your Second Brain video and was thoroughly inspired! Keep up the great work; the videos you’re producing are impeccable resources!
This might not sound ground breaking advice esp for the self help gurus out there. What sets Elizabeth apart is that she talks about her struggle. The fact that you don't show us this perfect version of yourself and give out advice is SO refreshing. Thank you Elizabeth for this
I have never made the connection between my rising baseline anxiety and neglecting my needs. Thank you so much for this insight! This really made a difference!
I have no idea if you'd read this message, but I'm so grateful for you. Your content is soo relatable, when you describe yourself and your struggles and your thinking style- is literally me! Thank you so much for all that you do!
❤ U r very lucky u hv deep sense of awareness of your conditions and get the therapy and help needed at a young age! It took me many years to get through self doubts and anxiety attacks due to childhood upbringing style and our school system using “corporal punishment” in discipline children at school. Watching your sharing reflections and where you’re now…. Brings happiness and confidence in me too 🙏🏻. Thank you.
As a second-year medical student, I completely relate to you on such a deep level haha. Apart from healthier daily implemented practices such as meditation, mindfulness, and journaling to process thoughts and feelings, one of the most surprising factors that helped me with my anxiety to a significant degree was actually magnesium supplementation. Though I am still a novice with the current landscape of medical literature, there seems to be a growing medical interest aimed at exploring the brain-gut axis, namely the effect that diet plays in cognitive conditions like depression, anxiety, etc. From what I understand, magnesium levels are especially depleted during episodes of sympathetic activity, hence why repeated stressful events tend to exacerbate both anxiety driven thoughts and feelings. Obviously, consultation with one's own primary care physician is advised, but certain supplementations like Magnesium might just help with quelling to a significant extent the effects of anxiety symptoms on the day to day.
You're so smart, you have no idea how much you're helping me navigate mental turmoil. Never thought of anxiety in such a way that it is actually habitual because that'st he only way I've found to get myself to do things! Oh my gosh, so eye opening. I've been struggling with getting things done for a few years now as I've noticed I haven't got a way to get myself to do things without making myself feel like crap. Will check out the recommended book! thank you so much 🙏
Seriously. You are such a gift to us. Thank you for your vulnerability, your wisdom, your creativity and your willingness to generously share yourself. I shared this (and several others) with family so that we can discuss together.
I will save this video and will re-watch it every year of my twenties. thank you for sharing your perspective on the anxiety 💜 everything resonated so much with me
First, thank you for the free SkillShare month - don't know what I'll use it for yet but you certainly make video editing sound like an appealing option! Second, your advice and insight is terrific as ever. I feel perhaps extending the definition of "hygiene" as you have may make it too vague (does "health" not already cover this ground?) but a reminder to consider exercise and social contact as part of overall wellbeing is always welcome. I think your points on children needing to reconcile good and bad sides of their parents, and many adults failing to reconcile good and bad sides of people, are important too. Third, I absolutely thought you were more like 6'3" or something ludicrous. I think it's the long wavy hair that gives the illusion of height! Thanks for this video, and for all the rest - please do keep doing what you do so well 😊
I am amazed at how this exactly captures what I have been doing since my early teens. Now being in my early twenties I notice my energy running out and finding my anxiety does not make me better. I have been forcing those EXACT things increasinv my own anziety. I have rarely felt more seen in any video thank you. You are an inspiration
Can I just say, your videos and recommendations changes my life, honestly, I have never been motivated and I never finished anything I started, you have set me on the right track, I know now how to start setting goals based in my personality and how to motivate myself, thanks for sharing everything ❤❤❤
It's pretty amazing that you have figured all this out and been able to implement it while you're still in your twenties. It took me twice as long to really understand how I was sabotaging myself and l'm still figuring out how to act on what I've learned.
Thanks for sharing. It give me a bit more perspective. I'm at this stage where I don't even care to be happy. I just want to be at peace, enough to be able to function properly. At least I hope to find a way to keep up the appearance of normalcy to avoid another hospitalisation.
Elizabeth, As I was listening to you talk about neglect. I thought of myself as a young child not being able to have my own inner life, because I was trying to navigate my mothers moods and demands. And I realized that now I have a hard time understanding where people are coming from, because I default to that little child and put others in the role of my mother. Then I get burned out and resentful toward them. I realized that I have a hard time paying attention to my own needs and navigating the needs of others. What’s really their responsibility, and what is mine? And I get so triggered it’s hard to communicate and process what’s happening in a way that is effective. I feel compassion for the child me that didn’t get to develop a healthy sense of separation and boundaries. I can see how that experience arrested my development. Thanks for putting this out there.
I related so hard to the part about using anxiety to motivate yourself and then realizing that it's completely unnecessary and counterproductive. It's just a straight shot to burnout.
Wonderful video! In terms of thinking someone is “all bad” in a conflict, the more likely childhood explanation IMO is that a parent treated us as “all bad” in a conflict. Simple as that. On talking about feelings in a relationship rather than making accusations, this is right but requires skills like identifying your emotions, and regulating them enough, and also your partner has to respond in a constructive way to talking about emotions; a lot of people reflexively dismiss or invalidate emotions or don’t understand the purpose of talking about emotions, again because their parent dismissed or invalidated their emotions and they found there was no useful purpose in talking about feelings.
Thank you for making this video! The timing could not have been more perfect. I am currently prepping for my qualifying exam (grad school) and the process has brought out so much anxiety in me. Your videos have been such a calming reminder to prioritize personal mental hygiene and so much more. I appreciate you, Elizabeth!
Thank you for another great video :) I think it‘s amazing that you‘re opening up about these things and even going so far as to make informative videos that can help other people in similar situations. I myself was a very anxious person with hella trash self-esteem, so I‘d never seriously talk to anyone about my struggles, thinking that it was only going to be a bother / moodkiller anyway. But to the right people, they will appreciate you opening up. And I think most of us here definitely do. So thank you for being so transparent and open with us Elizabeth! Much love.
Thank you very much for the effort you put into this long and detailed video💗What you said was so in line with me. I am a 5th year medical student and I'm considering getting psychotherapy soon. I have been cruel to myself in both my personal and educational life. I will listen to this video over and over again, you light up my mind 🙏🏻💫
Personally for me i hate the feeling of anxiety more then i love life. A video telling how to determine what i need would be helpful. It sounds stupid that i don't know but i simply have no idea what in life i am denying myself.
your videos help me very much, because you are very relatable for me and you don't know how thankful I am that you make such content they really help and workout for me, I tear up most of the time because you make my struggles feel seen like no other videos. I just want to say thank you for making such content and I will always support you.
didn't come here to talk, about myself, but rather to echo how amazing your advice is. I have a similar background to you, and journaling helped me so much to change my negative anxious mindset! Love your videos xx
everything you have talked about in this video, is exactly what I have been experiencing lately and I'm so grateful you're talking about this. really needed this video
I'm never sick of your voice!!!! I love you thank you for sharing these experiences and valuable piece of advices, I've never been able to relate with someone so deeply as much as i do with you. And seeing you gives me hope that I'll get there too, I'll be lot less anxious one day and I'll be able to do things without working myself up for not being perfect. I'm working on it and i know i can do it! Again Thank you so much liz, love ya.
Hi Elizabeth! I just want you to know your content means so much to me, and I really appreciate you pouring your heart and brain into videos like this one!! Thank you for being you!!
Today I realised I'm not happy with what I'm doing. I'm on two weeks break with one gone. I have exams early may but reading feels painful, I'm not ready to face the work of my teachers, and I still want to partake in my own hobbies. Your video (and others) help me deconstruct life and settle myself down before I blow up with stress. Thank you for what you do ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Elizabeth: "If you made it this far, you are definitely, absolutely sick of my voice, so please leave.." Me: * proceeds to watch another one of her videos * I am genuinely very grateful to have found your channel and really enjoy hearing your perspective on things, especially productivity and mental health. Even though I can't relate to everything, bc my personality and circumstances obviously differ from yours, it still inspires me a lot and makes me think of my own situation more deeply. Thank you for being such a kind and open minded person and for sharing this content with us 🤍
This is profoundly helpful, Elizabeth, thank you! I've come to a few of these conclusions myself, and it's validating to hear you talk on them, too. Thank you! ❤
This popped up in my recommendations lol, I definitely can relate to all of this, I did grow up in a high expectations type of enviornment where things had to be good and perfect, and it made me develop anxiety from it. Decided to make a sub, nice to meet you!
I, too, am a questioner. If I feel there is no point, or I'm struggling to find a point, I likely simply won't do the thing. Thank you for this video. ❤❤
Calm mindset if you are generally anxious. My attempt at a synopsis of a video by Elizabeth Filips. Anxiety could be a good thing because it could be a motivator for getting things done. For example, if one wants to prove one's intelligence to the world, or one's competence, etc. But, anxiety is after all a negative emotion, how can we replace anxiety so that we are still motivated to do things without anxiety but with calmness. She said, "being worked up is not necessary to work". Too much anxiety can be paralyzing. One thing that I did not see being mentioned explicitly in this video is not to be controlled externally, but internally. For example, if one can, don't do actions only to please or be accepted by others, but to be at peace with oneself. Try and be a better version of oneself in one's own eyes, not necessarily for others. Of course, at one's job, one has to showcase their relevant abilities and competencies. Coming back to the video, one tip it mentions is maintaining personal hygiene to not only looking good and smelling great, but also what the others don't see. It seems this is similar to being guided internally. Another aspect alluded to was breaking a long term goal into subs goals and celebrating/rewarding yourself for accomplishing a sub goal. This is brilliantly brought out by describing an experiment to train pigeons to kick a (tiny) ball. Another aspect indicated was not blaming someone by saying things like why did you ignore me, or similar because they may become defensive, but by saying that I felt you ignored me. More specifically, one can say one felt sad, or some similar feelings. Nobody can argue about one's feelings. Another aspect mentioned was to check if your anxiety was because you did not understand why should you do a particular task, and/or in a certain way. She thinks through it in her head like a calm parent, and decides okay she has to do it (or takes action if she does not want to do it). Another aspect she mentions is at times she does not know why is she feeling anxious. At that time, she finds that if she takes care of herself by taking a break, getting something to eat, going to bed, etc. has been helpful. Another aspect she mentions is looking at what is good in ones partner, rather than being fixated at what is not. That could help in trying to reduce anxiety and improve one relationship with the partner. Please excuse if you feel that this synopsis is inaccurate.
It’s a lot to take in, for the rest of your life but definitely helpful for immediate action. There’s something about being insecure, as the mind is always trying to make sense of the world, and if you’ve read about the concept of optimal level of stimulation for enhanced productivity it makes much more sense. Behavioral conditioning is another great reference, although I remember a hypothesis that the reinforcements are prone to regression - check the experiment on completely satisfying pairs of rats. Sometimes I wonder if it’s easier to understand things or forget them. The latter part of the video about relationships, I had this thought of learning by doing in the context that improving lifestyles with what the world has to offer, generally comes to us when we have seen people do it or how we have been raised. This could just be as important as language and how we have to learn it, so very thankful that you are bringing this to light. So is expression of emotions, which I guess is an important part when we try to improve our lives. I’ve read the book - ‘Don’t believe everything you think’, actually listened to it but it did wonders just like this video, so thank you and power to you.
Another brilliantly helpful video about navigating anxiety! You teach me so much. Very grateful thank you Elizabeth. Side note: because of our history and awareness around not being nurtured it is all too easy to fall in to the trap of over compensating with our own kids (when/if we have are fortunate enough to have them). Yes, self care feels impossible when we have mini humans to love and care for but it's necessary otherwise we fall in to the good/bad parent dichotomy x
A breath of fresh air! This is the second video that I'm watching in sequence. I must say that I'm extremely impressed! Elizabeth, is sharing invaluable information and some more of her experience that really works! Theory has its role but personal experience is compelling! I like her videos which are very unique. They arm with the individual with the tools they may need to resolve their personal conflicts. Also, she gives reference to the persona who have conducted the scientific work that may have proven or disapproved a concept. Lovely! I must subscribe! Note: I think that she's quite beautiful and intelligent. However, she's obviously not a woman who believes that she deserves or has earned anything because of her beauty and intelligence. Instead of being or porporting to be a victim she's has embraced whatever her situation may have been as her responsibility to resolve! I can truly love a woman like that. (Not saying that I love her, a person whom I have never seen!)
If you can make more videos related to how anxiety, perhaps about what things you did? techniques you learn't from the therapist? Thanks very much for these wonderful videos!
This is so helpful! Thank you. Could you talk more about black and white thinking/ canvas 3? Honestly all of these topics deserve their own videos. They are so interesting. (I’m a questioner and it’s clearly my method for self-help too!)
And I am sure she takes calculated risks for publicly sharing her experiences. Her videos are generally very helpful. But please take care of yourself first before helping others. Wear your oxygen mask first before helping the person next to you to wear their oxygen mask.
The details, research, and sophistication you exude in your videos is excellent. Everything you are struggling with and the way your mind dissects and creates strategies to mitigate and circumnavigate the different obstacles is so relatable and admirable. One thing I would advise is don't become an editor. Obviously increase your skills for yourself and hire help if need be. But that career is rather diluted with how many people are entering the field and will soon be obsolete. Now that we will be entering the AI era quite quickly I might add, many jobs; especially one as highly demanded as this will be dead in 5-10 years. Just a heads up I would hate to see you get invested into this turning down other opportunities only to have your editorial career be cut short.
I wish I had this kind of positive anxiety. But if you search anxiety Vs performance on graphics, there's a state of anxiety where the performance is much lower. Low anxiety is too bad at the same time, and anxiety should be at a medium level, but I wouldn't say true and patological anxiety helps anyone
The way to speak to a toddler side of yourself is incredibly useful also during the tasks one does. Much like you'd encourage a puppy or a cat. It feels stupid ans infantile at the start but remember, being an adult is just an illusion.
I keep thinking I've got Witcher music playing in the background and it's driving me nuts.... I can't express how thankfull I am for your video's, so I'm not going to I can't know how much your brain works like mine(I'd guess a lot), so I won't contemplate I can't put into words how much you are helping me, so I'm not going to I'm uncomfortable with saying how beautifull you are, your looks, your personality(at least what can be seen on camara) your drawings or your hair, so I can't The least I can do is say Thank you, Thank you Elizbeth p.s. that's really nervewreaking to write, but I always say what I think
Oh my god Elizabeth! Finding people who have Anxiety + ADHD + Trauma of having had neglectful parents always felt like a 1% in the world cohort. I never thought I'd find anyone I'd share these experiences with. Thank you for creating this community and sharing these experiences that are so difficult to untangle!
I think there are „many” more.
Having ADHD is quite enough i suppose, anxiety disorder will easily follow due to lack of knowledge and coping mechanisms, also there is a high chance of our family members having ADHD so neglect is also probable, I once heard a story from my grandma when my mother accidentally forgot where she left me, and was searching for the baby who had not yet learned to walk, they used to laugh it off as a joke. I don't think it's such a rare combo. That's how it worked out in my case anyway.
Wow, you have describe my childhood and diagnosis
You’ve got me. I have the same history ❤
You're not alone!
From the bottom of my heart, a big thank you to you! I am so much younger than you, and I consider myself to be so lucky to have found you on RUclips! I cannot even begin to describe the impact you have on my life ☺😃thank you big sis!
Best of luck through your journey self discovery in life my fellow hoomann!! All the best wishes and never be too hard on yourself. Just remember your life has just started and one setback gives you no right to give up on anything at all ❤
The sooner you learn about these things the better for you!!! 😊
I'm exactly on the same boat. I'm turning 19 and haven't really 'woken up' till recently, the beginning of this year. I cannot express through the letters and spaces on this screen how much I look up to this lady, and how lucky I am to have all of this knowledge on basic life stuff I've been missing out on. ------- I relate so much to you Liz and I wish you the best in every aspect of growth you decide to take on. MUAH!
This is HUGE!!
I nonchalantly asked myself, "what do I need?" Right after you mentioned it. I simultaneously felt this deep sinking feeling and also incredible relief and burst into tears for like 5 full minutes😂🤦🏻♀️. I can't remember when I was last (if EVER) asked that, and I don't think I ever realized I could ask myself. You just changed my life with that simple question. There was a tsunami of replies waiting behind it, and it's good it found a way to get through.
The part you talked about at the end, when you've been in an anxiety state for two weeks, and you go out on a walk with a friend, and you hate that that makes you feel better. I just wanted to say, I feel this on such a deep level. I am so glad to have found your channel because it has made me feel so much less alone in my feelings.
Perpetually astonished with your immaculate grasp of metaphysics-both abstract theoretical conceptualizations, and material self-introspective applications-with which you distill the wealth of wisdom in any area you’re conveying seemingly effortlessly. First time ever actually commenting on a video, but I just watched your Second Brain video and was thoroughly inspired! Keep up the great work; the videos you’re producing are impeccable resources!
overly verbose to the point of inelegance
the only RUclipsr I religiously wait for uploading 😂😂😂 I love you Elizabeth, you make me feel so calm💗💗
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This might not sound ground breaking advice esp for the self help gurus out there.
What sets Elizabeth apart is that she talks about her struggle.
The fact that you don't show us this perfect version of yourself and give out advice is SO refreshing. Thank you Elizabeth for this
I have never made the connection between my rising baseline anxiety and neglecting my needs. Thank you so much for this insight! This really made a difference!
I have no idea if you'd read this message, but I'm so grateful for you. Your content is soo relatable, when you describe yourself and your struggles and your thinking style- is literally me! Thank you so much for all that you do!
❤ U r very lucky u hv deep sense of awareness of your conditions and get the therapy and help needed at a young age! It took me many years to get through self doubts and anxiety attacks due to childhood upbringing style and our school system using “corporal punishment” in discipline children at school. Watching your sharing reflections and where you’re now…. Brings happiness and confidence in me too 🙏🏻. Thank you.
As a second-year medical student, I completely relate to you on such a deep level haha. Apart from healthier daily implemented practices such as meditation, mindfulness, and journaling to process thoughts and feelings, one of the most surprising factors that helped me with my anxiety to a significant degree was actually magnesium supplementation. Though I am still a novice with the current landscape of medical literature, there seems to be a growing medical interest aimed at exploring the brain-gut axis, namely the effect that diet plays in cognitive conditions like depression, anxiety, etc. From what I understand, magnesium levels are especially depleted during episodes of sympathetic activity, hence why repeated stressful events tend to exacerbate both anxiety driven thoughts and feelings. Obviously, consultation with one's own primary care physician is advised, but certain supplementations like Magnesium might just help with quelling to a significant extent the effects of anxiety symptoms on the day to day.
This book I read called magnesium as the unsung hero. It truly helps a lot!
You're so smart, you have no idea how much you're helping me navigate mental turmoil. Never thought of anxiety in such a way that it is actually habitual because that'st he only way I've found to get myself to do things! Oh my gosh, so eye opening. I've been struggling with getting things done for a few years now as I've noticed I haven't got a way to get myself to do things without making myself feel like crap. Will check out the recommended book! thank you so much 🙏
Seriously. You are such a gift to us. Thank you for your vulnerability, your wisdom, your creativity and your willingness to generously share yourself. I shared this (and several others) with family so that we can discuss together.
Loving the unique artsy imagery you’ve created! Missing the skeletons though. You‘re simply brilliant. 🧡
I will save this video and will re-watch it every year of my twenties. thank you for sharing your perspective on the anxiety 💜 everything resonated so much with me
First, thank you for the free SkillShare month - don't know what I'll use it for yet but you certainly make video editing sound like an appealing option!
Second, your advice and insight is terrific as ever. I feel perhaps extending the definition of "hygiene" as you have may make it too vague (does "health" not already cover this ground?) but a reminder to consider exercise and social contact as part of overall wellbeing is always welcome. I think your points on children needing to reconcile good and bad sides of their parents, and many adults failing to reconcile good and bad sides of people, are important too.
Third, I absolutely thought you were more like 6'3" or something ludicrous. I think it's the long wavy hair that gives the illusion of height! Thanks for this video, and for all the rest - please do keep doing what you do so well 😊
I am amazed at how this exactly captures what I have been doing since my early teens. Now being in my early twenties I notice my energy running out and finding my anxiety does not make me better. I have been forcing those EXACT things increasinv my own anziety. I have rarely felt more seen in any video thank you. You are an inspiration
Can I just say, your videos and recommendations changes my life, honestly, I have never been motivated and I never finished anything I started, you have set me on the right track, I know now how to start setting goals based in my personality and how to motivate myself, thanks for sharing everything ❤❤❤
It's pretty amazing that you have figured all this out and been able to implement it while you're still in your twenties. It took me twice as long to really understand how I was sabotaging myself and l'm still figuring out how to act on what I've learned.
Thanks for sharing. It give me a bit more perspective. I'm at this stage where I don't even care to be happy. I just want to be at peace, enough to be able to function properly. At least I hope to find a way to keep up the appearance of normalcy to avoid another hospitalisation.
Elizabeth, As I was listening to you talk about neglect. I thought of myself as a young child not being able to have my own inner life, because I was trying to navigate my mothers moods and demands. And I realized that now I have a hard time understanding where people are coming from, because I default to that little child and put others in the role of my mother. Then I get burned out and resentful toward them. I realized that I have a hard time paying attention to my own needs and navigating the needs of others. What’s really their responsibility, and what is mine? And I get so triggered it’s hard to communicate and process what’s happening in a way that is effective. I feel compassion for the child me that didn’t get to develop a healthy sense of separation and boundaries. I can see how that experience arrested my development. Thanks for putting this out there.
I related so hard to the part about using anxiety to motivate yourself and then realizing that it's completely unnecessary and counterproductive. It's just a straight shot to burnout.
Wonderful video! In terms of thinking someone is “all bad” in a conflict, the more likely childhood explanation IMO is that a parent treated us as “all bad” in a conflict. Simple as that. On talking about feelings in a relationship rather than making accusations, this is right but requires skills like identifying your emotions, and regulating them enough, and also your partner has to respond in a constructive way to talking about emotions; a lot of people reflexively dismiss or invalidate emotions or don’t understand the purpose of talking about emotions, again because their parent dismissed or invalidated their emotions and they found there was no useful purpose in talking about feelings.
Thank you for making this video! The timing could not have been more perfect. I am currently prepping for my qualifying exam (grad school) and the process has brought out so much anxiety in me. Your videos have been such a calming reminder to prioritize personal mental hygiene and so much more. I appreciate you, Elizabeth!
Thank you for another great video :) I think it‘s amazing that you‘re opening up about these things and even going so far as to make informative videos that can help other people in similar situations. I myself was a very anxious person with hella trash self-esteem, so I‘d never seriously talk to anyone about my struggles, thinking that it was only going to be a bother / moodkiller anyway.
But to the right people, they will appreciate you opening up. And I think most of us here definitely do. So thank you for being so transparent and open with us Elizabeth! Much love.
Hi Elizabeth, you have shaped my thoughts and my mindset in a way that life will be easier and more blossom to me. Thank you so much!🌸💗🙏🏻
When she is an art in every meaning 🖤
I wanted to tell you that I adore your work and wish for you to take confidence in it.
Thank you very much for the effort you put into this long and detailed video💗What you said was so in line with me. I am a 5th year medical student and I'm considering getting psychotherapy soon. I have been cruel to myself in both my personal and educational life. I will listen to this video over and over again, you light up my mind 🙏🏻💫
Personally for me i hate the feeling of anxiety more then i love life. A video telling how to determine what i need would be helpful. It sounds stupid that i don't know but i simply have no idea what in life i am denying myself.
...certainly not sick of the sound of your voice but I did get a lot of takeaways from this. Thank you.
your videos help me very much, because you are very relatable for me and you don't know how thankful I am that you make such content they really help and workout for me, I tear up most of the time because you make my struggles feel seen like no other videos. I just want to say thank you for making such content and I will always support you.
didn't come here to talk, about myself, but rather to echo how amazing your advice is. I have a similar background to you, and journaling helped me so much to change my negative anxious mindset! Love your videos xx
everything you have talked about in this video, is exactly what I have been experiencing lately and I'm so grateful you're talking about this. really needed this video
Where did you find all the red heads? Congratulations! You're a boss and always inspire.
I'm never sick of your voice!!!! I love you thank you for sharing these experiences and valuable piece of advices, I've never been able to relate with someone so deeply as much as i do with you. And seeing you gives me hope that I'll get there too, I'll be lot less anxious one day and I'll be able to do things without working myself up for not being perfect. I'm working on it and i know i can do it! Again Thank you so much liz, love ya.
Love this. Also loving the visuals and the Victorian-version of Elizabeth demoing the point. Kudos!
Hey you mentioned Singer, Iv just learned about him and classification during my psycology class. Cool.
Hi Elizabeth! I just want you to know your content means so much to me, and I really appreciate you pouring your heart and brain into videos like this one!! Thank you for being you!!
Reward myself for the tiny steps towards the bigger unknown goal
Today I realised I'm not happy with what I'm doing. I'm on two weeks break with one gone. I have exams early may but reading feels painful, I'm not ready to face the work of my teachers, and I still want to partake in my own hobbies. Your video (and others) help me deconstruct life and settle myself down before I blow up with stress. Thank you for what you do ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
You're content is so inspiring
Thank you so much for making this
Your voice is adorable!🌸🙏
Elizabeth: "If you made it this far, you are definitely, absolutely sick of my voice, so please leave.."
Me: * proceeds to watch another one of her videos *
I am genuinely very grateful to have found your channel and really enjoy hearing your perspective on things, especially productivity and mental health. Even though I can't relate to everything, bc my personality and circumstances obviously differ from yours, it still inspires me a lot and makes me think of my own situation more deeply. Thank you for being such a kind and open minded person and for sharing this content with us 🤍
It looks like we have very similar thoughts and hunches. Good job on diagnosing 👏
Speachless, thank you Beth.
This is profoundly helpful, Elizabeth, thank you! I've come to a few of these conclusions myself, and it's validating to hear you talk on them, too. Thank you! ❤
Girl, i think you're my soulmate! The similiarites i see in us are insane! You give us such good energy, keep up the good work. Love from Greece
This popped up in my recommendations lol, I definitely can relate to all of this, I did grow up in a high expectations type of enviornment where things had to be good and perfect, and it made me develop anxiety from it.
Decided to make a sub, nice to meet you!
I, too, am a questioner. If I feel there is no point, or I'm struggling to find a point, I likely simply won't do the thing.
Thank you for this video. ❤❤
Exactly what I needed today!! Thank you !! One more reason to love your channel!
The video was extremely helpful 🥺
Calm mindset if you are generally anxious.
My attempt at a synopsis of a video by Elizabeth Filips.
Anxiety could be a good thing because it could be a motivator for getting things done. For example, if one wants to prove one's intelligence to the world, or one's competence, etc. But, anxiety is after all a negative emotion, how can we replace anxiety so that we are still motivated to do things without anxiety but with calmness. She said, "being worked up is not necessary to work". Too much anxiety can be paralyzing.
One thing that I did not see being mentioned explicitly in this video is not to be controlled externally, but internally. For example, if one can, don't do actions only to please or be accepted by others, but to be at peace with oneself. Try and be a better version of oneself in one's own eyes, not necessarily for others. Of course, at one's job, one has to showcase their relevant abilities and competencies.
Coming back to the video, one tip it mentions is maintaining personal hygiene to not only looking good and smelling great, but also what the others don't see. It seems this is similar to being guided internally. Another aspect alluded to was breaking a long term goal into subs goals and celebrating/rewarding yourself for accomplishing a sub goal. This is brilliantly brought out by describing an experiment to train pigeons to kick a (tiny) ball.
Another aspect indicated was not blaming someone by saying things like why did you ignore me, or similar because they may become defensive, but by saying that I felt you ignored me. More specifically, one can say one felt sad, or some similar feelings. Nobody can argue about one's feelings.
Another aspect mentioned was to check if your anxiety was because you did not understand why should you do a particular task, and/or in a certain way. She thinks through it in her head like a calm parent, and decides okay she has to do it (or takes action if she does not want to do it).
Another aspect she mentions is at times she does not know why is she feeling anxious. At that time, she finds that if she takes care of herself by taking a break, getting something to eat, going to bed, etc. has been helpful.
Another aspect she mentions is looking at what is good in ones partner, rather than being fixated at what is not. That could help in trying to reduce anxiety and improve one relationship with the partner.
Please excuse if you feel that this synopsis is inaccurate.
Oh my gosh... you just described my mind!😲
It’s a lot to take in, for the rest of your life but definitely helpful for immediate action. There’s something about being insecure, as the mind is always trying to make sense of the world, and if you’ve read about the concept of optimal level of stimulation for enhanced productivity it makes much more sense. Behavioral conditioning is another great reference, although I remember a hypothesis that the reinforcements are prone to regression - check the experiment on completely satisfying pairs of rats. Sometimes I wonder if it’s easier to understand things or forget them.
The latter part of the video about relationships, I had this thought of learning by doing in the context that improving lifestyles with what the world has to offer, generally comes to us when we have seen people do it or how we have been raised. This could just be as important as language and how we have to learn it, so very thankful that you are bringing this to light. So is expression of emotions, which I guess is an important part when we try to improve our lives. I’ve read the book - ‘Don’t believe everything you think’, actually listened to it but it did wonders just like this video, so thank you and power to you.
Another brilliantly helpful video about navigating anxiety! You teach me so much. Very grateful thank you Elizabeth. Side note: because of our history and awareness around not being nurtured it is all too easy to fall in to the trap of over compensating with our own kids (when/if we have are fortunate enough to have them). Yes, self care feels impossible when we have mini humans to love and care for but it's necessary otherwise we fall in to the good/bad parent dichotomy x
Привет! Hello, thanks to you I started learning English.
I definitely don't get tired of your voice ❤❤❤
I would say this is a piece of art ✨💞💐 thank you very much for sharing it
A breath of fresh air!
This is the second video that I'm watching in sequence.
I must say that I'm extremely impressed!
Elizabeth, is sharing invaluable information and some more of her experience that really works!
Theory has its role but personal experience is compelling!
I like her videos which are very unique. They arm with the individual with the tools they may need to resolve their personal conflicts.
Also, she gives reference to the persona who have conducted the scientific work that may have proven or disapproved a concept.
Lovely! I must subscribe!
Note: I think that she's quite beautiful and intelligent.
However, she's obviously not a woman who believes that she deserves or has earned anything because of her beauty and intelligence.
Instead of being or porporting to be a victim she's has embraced whatever her situation may have been as her responsibility to resolve!
I can truly love a woman like that.
(Not saying that I love her, a person whom I have never seen!)
Oh my Gooood. This video was sooooo useful! Thank you Elizabeth!! ❤❤❤
Thank you, Elizabeth! ❤
Wow. This was SO informative and helpful. I didn't even realize I have been making myself anxious to be productive for years!
This is my favorite video of yours yet
Not the guidance I want but guidance I need
I love your videos Elizabeth! You probably don’t remember me, but we went to the same high school together! It’s so cool to see what you’re up to now
My parents are telling me, that I should be anxious about your life and future. So I guess I am an extremely calm person 😅.
If you can make more videos related to how anxiety, perhaps about what things you did? techniques you learn't from the therapist? Thanks very much for these wonderful videos!
i absolutely love your voice ♡
Tiny vocal fries
Amazing video, and very very useful, thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is such a helpful and good video
This is so helpful! Thank you. Could you talk more about black and white thinking/ canvas 3? Honestly all of these topics deserve their own videos. They are so interesting.
(I’m a questioner and it’s clearly my method for self-help too!)
Truly enjoyed this video - I even took notes. Thank you
I love and enjoy your channel, thank you for all that you do!
LOVE YOU!!! Thank you so much!
Is it normal that i keep imagining discussions between you and me in m'y mind ?
Thank you so much. I don't think I realised how much I needed this video lol
Thank you Elizabeth! Pleasant video
Definitely THE video I needed today, thanks you so much ! 🙏🏽
Gottman's "predictors" of relationship success were overfit retrospective measures. They don't generalize or replicate well.
Such helpful and insightful content! you deserve the growth!
The self- curse of awareness
You teach so well! I've never learned soo much about myself and others. Thank youu!
..now to implement it😂😅🖤
Amazing content, Elizabeth, thank you!!❤
We need more videos like this
A big hug to you Elizabeth 🫂 It takes a lot of bravery to be emotionally vulnerable. Thank you for doing this ❤
And I am sure she takes calculated risks for publicly sharing her experiences. Her videos are generally very helpful. But please take care of yourself first before helping others. Wear your oxygen mask first before helping the person next to you to wear their oxygen mask.
The details, research, and sophistication you exude in your videos is excellent. Everything you are struggling with and the way your mind dissects and creates strategies to mitigate and circumnavigate the different obstacles is so relatable and admirable.
One thing I would advise is don't become an editor. Obviously increase your skills for yourself and hire help if need be. But that career is rather diluted with how many people are entering the field and will soon be obsolete.
Now that we will be entering the AI era quite quickly I might add, many jobs; especially one as highly demanded as this will be dead in 5-10 years. Just a heads up I would hate to see you get invested into this turning down other opportunities only to have your editorial career be cut short.
Just turned 30, so it'll be neat to reflect on my 20s w this video
I wish I had this kind of positive anxiety. But if you search anxiety Vs performance on graphics, there's a state of anxiety where the performance is much lower. Low anxiety is too bad at the same time, and anxiety should be at a medium level, but I wouldn't say true and patological anxiety helps anyone
thank you so much for this video
Thanks!
The way to speak to a toddler side of yourself is incredibly useful also during the tasks one does. Much like you'd encourage a puppy or a cat. It feels stupid ans infantile at the start but remember, being an adult is just an illusion.
Wow!!! What a wonderful videos💜👍👌
Amazing video! You're the best.
I saw the video and though that "Actual research" was the name of the other channel you collabbed with and though that was fun xD
A QUAFF OF JOY!!
I keep thinking I've got Witcher music playing in the background and it's driving me nuts....
I can't express how thankfull I am for your video's, so I'm not going to
I can't know how much your brain works like mine(I'd guess a lot), so I won't contemplate
I can't put into words how much you are helping me, so I'm not going to
I'm uncomfortable with saying how beautifull you are, your looks, your personality(at least what can be seen on camara) your drawings or your hair, so I can't
The least I can do is say Thank you,
Thank you Elizbeth
p.s. that's really nervewreaking to write, but I always say what I think
I see you are using the aging filter like Ali did in his recent video. Man, those results are so freakishly realistic.
I love you. Thank you.