I don’t usually comment but I am with you. For some people it isn’t as easy. You can do all the right things and your body can say no. It’s genetics and hormones. Don’t blame yourself. The diet techniques I have relied on in my younger days no longer work for me and I also struggle trying to find what will work. Don’t let anyone say you are doing it wrong because you are not. That’s how I found you. I felt crazy and was glad to see I wasn’t alone.
I am always amazed to see how fast people can gobble down food. It is like they are just trying to get it over with. But isn't eating suppose to be an experience we enjoy? If it is then why in the world rush through it! Especially if it is very tasty, make it last... Savor it!
I need to tell you something too, in my humble opinion, you are making this so much harder than it needs to be, and yes I know what its like to be overweight. Work with Neily and focus on the good that she is teaching you. Did you seriously ask, "can I eat Fruit Loops all day long"???? Food is not your enemy, its just way way too important to you. And here is the part that will probably make you block me but I would rather have that happen than to not say this, and that is your family needs to help and support you. I know your husband does and I love that exercises with you, but your adult children should eat what you eat, or go out and get what they want. Your daughter is precious but baking pumpkin bread with chocolate chips in your kitchen while you are trying to loose weight, that is not very thoughtful. And eating one small slice of that will probably make your want more because those kinds of carbs kick start that craving that makes you want more and more. Don't eat those kinds of carbs while to are trying to loose weight and until you are in a better place with food. I'm sorry to be so blunt and I truly don't mean to offend you. I love your skin care and make up videos. Please don't block me.
She may block me too and I pray she doesn’t. I agree with you. I love you Bobbie and I know you are putting yourself out there for all of us to watch and probably none of our business to comment but here I go…. I think you are way too focused on food. When you are going to eat next and what you are going to eat. Just eat healthy foods when hungry and don’t eat when not hungry. Stop when slightly full. I think you put alot of energy and thought into eating and food. And I agree I would stay away from sugar and carbs for now. That will only trigger more carb cravings. Eat as many veggies as you want. They are healthy and low calorie and full of fiber. Eat protein. Eat some fruit but stay away from those bad things. I don’t care what diet you are on certain things are just poison to your body (bread, rice, pasta, white flour, sugar) and should be avoided or eaten in moderation. I mean did you really need the honey on the toast? You are very addicted to sugar. I know it must be hard. Why aren’t you eating eggs for breakfast with toast. Avocados? Why not eat a healthy sandwich for lunch. Lunch meat and lettuce and olives etc. Pickles. Veggies. Salad with tuna or salmon or chicken. Rotisserie chicken. Dinners can be anything. Chicken, pork chop, tacos on lettuce, steak, stew with veggies. Why should there even be pasta or dessert. Have a frozen fruit popsicle. The more you eat of protein and veggies the less you will crave sugar. Drink a hot tea at night in place of a piece of cake. Some cheese. You have so many options. And I also agree family needs to stop making desserts and food that could be hard for you to resist More support is needed. 😊 Sorry. Just my two cents. From another Theresa. Love you and sorry if this comes across harsh. Its not meant to. It’s hard for all of us. We are all learning as we go. The Theresa’s must feel the need to speak.
I agree with both of you and my name isn’t even Theresa, lol. One thing I have to add is I’ve never lost weight eating rice and pasta. I feel like she is just chasing her tail round and round without addressing that refined carbs and sugars are addictive. I’ve been there myself and once I eliminated them by eating anti inflammatory they don’t tempt me. I’m focusing more on eating healthy and nutritious foods. There’s no good nutrition in bread, pasta or rice, but a rainbow of nutrition in colorful all natural whole unprocessed foods.
@@pagerus SOUTH BEACH diet phase one, Protein and veggies. It totally gets rid of sugar and carb craving. There is a book you can get from the library The list of foods is SIMPLE The results are dramatic in just two weeks. Also, sorry Bobbie, but you need to cut out the cream in the coffee
I totally agree with you! I also like her channel much more when it was more about skincare and makeup. I'm not very interested in weight loss content. Just my humble opinion as well.
Oh my heavens Bobbie, I could never be annoyed with you! I can't thank you enough for sharing all the ups and downs. Find what's right for you. Big hugs!
You and your video really helped me out today! It's afternoon and I needed a snack (yes, I was hungry). Instead of looking for some empty caloried snacky something...I got an apple from the fridge, cored and cut it into several slices and ate it while I read the comments. I can hold off 'til dinner now. Thank you!
Thrills me to see you doing this. I used to watch your old Weight Watchers videos, and while I never officially did weight watchers, I used to have my own modified version of it that I followed and successfully lost weight however, like you, just put it right back on as soon as I stopped. I did this off and on for about 15 years and finally when I turned 49 I decided enough was enough and it was time to change my entire way of thinking about food and moving my body. I started lifting weights a couple days a week and walking more. Nothing was off-limits, and I started just listening to my brain and my body and trusting it. There were a few bumps along the road and a few pounds gained and then lost And then gained and then lost but now I am settled at a really comfortable body weight and I am in the best physical shape of my life AND I’m no longer a prisoner to food! Eating is a relaxed and joyful experience now. I am now 52. This is something that will stick because I took the time to develop healthy lasting habits along the way, instead of just restricting myself to a set of rules. I found the easiest way to do this was to focus on one habit for a month and at the end of the month if it felt effortless then I would move on and add a second habit, and if it didn’t feel effortless, I would continue to focus on it for an additional month until it did feel effortless. Habits such as eating one salad per day, building half of my plate with fruit or vegetables first (then adding the other Whole Foods to the other half) taking my B12 each day, adding fermented foods daily, etc.. when you focus on one habit at a time until it’s effortless, it takes time to really develop a fully healthy lifestyle, but you can’t get there if you don’t start… good luck on your journey.
I have an idea Bobbie - I think you have dieted for so long and focused on what you CAN’T have, now you can change your thought pattern to now I CAN have anything I want. Like she said, nothing is a NO, just be careful of how much you say YES to the treats. That’s what I am trying to do myself, I also got so tired of counting points and obsessing on every bite I put in my mouth. I hope this helps you ! I know we can do this !
I can completely understand your mental burnout on tracking every bite. It's so laborious. I used to track everything on My Fitness Pal but I just dreaded (and resented!) the whole process pretty quickly. I now eat mostly eggs, beef, salmon, chicken, bacon, and a small amount of greens such as romaine and celery. I also eat dairy sparingly - half and half in my coffee, and some cottage cheese and regular cheese once in a while. I feel very satisfied and don't have the sugar/carb crashes I used to have. I hope that you will enjoy this new journey and I wish you the best!
I love this new approach. I did the "watching every bite I put in my mouth and counting every calorie" method also. Eating and food consumed my thoughts. Which for me had the opposite effect of how I wanted to live. I hated it! When you said you were going to start a plan again, I thought I just can't do it again. Your words about mindful eating instead of focusing on calorie counting made sense to me. I am going to look up the Mediterranean approach and see how it goes. If you find a meal you love let us know! Sharing your struggles is very meaningful to many of us. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.
I found your channel today and boy did I enjoy this video. Laughed a lot. Calling things the wrong names, forgetting what you were talking about …. Almost like listening to myself (58). I love watching the younger girls doing make up, but this channel is seriously going to be my jam!
It’s hard to know when your full sometimes BUT if you look for the “sigh” you will know. It may be very small until you recognize it but your body will sigh when you have eaten enough. Then put the fork down. Good luck with the journey.
Mediterranean meals include a protein (meat or beans) and lots and lots of vegetables with just a little bit of carbs (pasta or rice or dense bread). They use very little to no processed foods.
I totally understand what you’re feeling. I believe every person must figure out for themselves which eating lifestyle works for them. It’s a lot of trial and error and everyone is different. I wish you great health and you deserve to enjoy your life and be happy while you are determining what works best for you.
I think you’re right. Diets intensify a negative focus on food. It’s tough to achieve, but finding a balance is what keeps us sane, and it’s the only thing that works in the long run. Just do what’s best for you.
In my experience planning meals for the week makes all the difference. My husband and I plan our week on Friday or Saturday, build our grocery list, and grocery shop. We pretty much stick to Whole Foods, nothing processed, and whole grains. It’s been a process to build those habits, but it does become a way of life if you stick to it. Good luck!
Hi Bobbie, Up until about three years ago I was always focussing on my weight, food, fad diets etc. and trying to get to a certain weight. Like you hit the menopause and even though I would starve myself and be pretty miserable and very hungry the weight would not shift. I wasn't massively overweight but being short any weight gain showed even it was just a few pounds. As soon as I put a food category on the banned list I would crave it and think of nothing else resulting in a binge followed by guilt. I decided life was too short and I stopped "dieting". I follow a guy called Joe Wicks (not sure if you have head of him). This changed by relationship with food. I can't say that I have lost a huge amount of weight but I have come to accept that I will never be the weight I was in my twenties. I now eat a good healthy balanced diet with very little "junk" or processed food and over the past three years I don't really miss or think about cake, biscuits, crisps, etc. I do still have them but only very occasionally and very rarely have deserts. My one vice is I do like a drink or two at the weekend. The other thing that has helped is I changed my exercise routine to include more weight training and less aerobic activity. This has reduced my body fat and increased my muscle. Please give yourself time as it has taken me three years to have a "normal" relationship with food and now love nourishing my body. All the best xx
I am so happy to see you hitting this new method of eating full force! You can do this. It is also very interesting and I will follow your journey and wish you much success. You are encouraging us all to figure out what works for us and to pursue it.
Bobby good for you. You realized what you didnt want to do like counting calories for the rest of your life & you were willing to try something new. I give you alot of credit. It is a journey just like life, sometimes we have bumps but we move on. Keep up the good work for yourself, you deserve it.
❤ I’m so glad you are working with Neilly. It looks like she is helping you change your mindset about food. I have to say that I tried weight watchers last year just for maintaining my weight. The point system allowed me to eat way too much!! Portion control and mindful eating are definitely going to help you! Good job!!!
Love that your videos are so real ! I love your skincare and makeup reviews but struggled with the videos on carb cycling (?) and points. The Mediterranean diet is really a lifestyle change that is so sustainable. Much more achievable. Good luck, you won’t look back!
No one can deny you are persistent!! Way to go! When I think of the Mediterranean diet (diet meaning food consumption) I think of a plate full of vegetables roasted or stir fried with olive oil and garlic, a protein and carb - variety to keep it interesting but simple. Weight loss diets make us obsessed thinking and planning our food, it's exhausting for sure. Here is all you need to think about, the Japanese Confucius saying 'Hari hachi bu" - which means eat until you are 80% full. Walk away with the thought that if you are still hungry in 20 minutes you will have something more - more often than not, given that 20 minutes, your brain will figure out that you are full. Wishing you the very best!
Good for you trying new things! This is a hard journey that we’re all on. It’s good to try a different avenue. I’m like you, I’m so tired of counting Calories, carbs, points, etc. that eventually will drive you crazy!! Good luck and I commend you on trying new things. You’re not alone here.
This is so sweet. You inspire me to return to an approach I got, sometimes I'll tell you the story if you like, that works so well it was almost scary. I was dropping white like crazy. I haven't been able to pick it up again because I don't know why. But you inspire me. The only two rules I had was, only eat clean food and that was at my discretion. Mine would probably be different than yours because of my body type probably, and don't snack. Those are the only two. I had baked goods and all sorts of goodies. But they had to be very clean. I got to where I was dropping about 10 lb a week. And I didn't gain it back until covid when we couldn't go outside. You do inspire me
When you have had so many years to condition your mind to what is good, what is bad your mind won’t allow you to accept everything is not bad. We have all done this to ourselves. However, your nutritionist is right about eating when hungry and stopping when full. I feel this will really change things for you and bring success sooner then later. I hope you get to the place where you aren’t thinking of food, I’m not a good cook and I get overwhelmed with recipes that require different spices I don’t have on hand. That would be hard for me. If someone else would cook it all for me I would eat it.🤷♀️walking through your journey with you and it’s going to be so much better!
This. This resonated with me on many levels. So much so that I stepped out of my comfort zone and set up a call with Jennifer Neilly. It is a journey and I continue to take the dead end routes. I want to find a way that allows me to continue on to my destination of healthy living. I am sure I'll take a few more of the scenic routes along the way, but I want to avoid the dead ends. Thank you for continuing to share so honestly and openly.
I know for us older women it's so hard to loose weight. Right there with ya. Last year I was diagnosed with IBS and starting taking meds from GI doc. I use my fitness pal app and yes it is a lot of work. However because of my condition I see a nutritionist every few months. I had to give up certain foods for my health. I don't track on weekends and sometimes skip an entire week. Bobby I can honestly say the nutritionist has been wonderful you want some support especially if you aren't sure of bout what you are able to eat that can get overwhelming and depressing. My nutritionist doesn't ask me my weight or put me on a scale. I have learned soooo much bout my body and food. I highly recommend seeing a nutritionist. ITS GREAT SUPPORT. Any questions or thoughts let me know. Rooting for u.
I am going to bring up something that I haven't seen or heard anyone talk about. We concentrate on what goes in our bodies but do we ever think about what comes out of our bodies. I was once told by a doctor that a person can hold up to 20 pounds of waste. Do we give thought to how regular we are? If our body is holding onto waste and not regularly getting rid of it, that can hold up our process. We need to look at the whole journey of our food and not just what goes in. I have lost over 60 pounds and it wasn't until I gave this some thought that I was able to not only lose weight but feel much better.
Thank you for your video!! I’ve been skinny my entire life but then I turned 50. I’ve now gained 30+ pounds in 4 years and have no idea how to diet. I’m normally quite active but tore my rotator cuff a year ago, and had surgery 2 weeks ago, so I’m currently a sloth. I appreciate your like/dislike for certain foods as I have the palate of a toddler. I also now see a dietitian but don’t feel supported. Your videos have given me hope that I can lose this weight.❤
Diets never work. I have come to realize that I do better by not depriving myself of any food group. I eat what I want and if I over eat at one meal, I will eat lighter the next meal. I honestly have to say that I never feel completely full. I usually eat my first meal of the day around 1pm. Then dinner around 6 and maybe a snack after. I drink lots of water and don't exercise like I should, but working on that! Best of luck to you!
I love this, Bobbie. We are all on our own journey and you are just brave enough to share with us. I believe you are on to something here, with Neily, and it gives us all something to think about, or at least me. I am here for it! You are beautiful!
The second someone tells me something is off limits I want to eat as much as I can. So I’ve learned cutting things out I enjoy is a no for me. So I’m trying to eat healthier and in better portions.
I feel ya Bobbie. I hate tracking and counting. I was eating anti-inflammatory for awhile about 2 years ago and felt better. I was not losing weight, but if I’m honest I was not moving enough or drinking enough water. About the time you announced you were going to try Med, I told my friend I was done with WW and will go back to anti-inflammatory. I will be walking daily and will really try to up my water. I say slow and steady wins the race. You do you! But I think all the diets tend to focus on the good & bad, we get the wrong association with food. I was very successful a few years ago by just eating half of everything I would normally. Nothing was off limits. It was very freeing.
I just want to say that I am right there with you. I'm almost 46... Overweight or extremely obese my entire life. Up to 400 lb at one time. Have tried every diet. Have lost 200 lb only to gain half back. I yo-yo like crazy. I'm addicted to food. I think about it wayyyy too much. When I am not eating I think about eating or what I will be making for the next meal. I crave sugar and sweets. I'm all the things. I'm trying to change my relationship with food. I'm reading Intuitive Eating and it's helping me quite a bit! I've read it once and am referring to the workbook to help me change bad habits. Nothing is restricted, we just have to pay attention to why we are eating and learn to enjoy and be Mindful of each bite. I'm really trying to make changes in my relationship with food and I know that you are as well. I really enjoy your videos and being so transparent with us. I am struggling along with you and rooting for you! I know you'll get the right things for you lined out and find a healthy lifestyle! Best of luck to you!
Friend, I LOVE the Mediterranean foods. There is no processed foods. When I go grocery shopping I stick to the outer perimeter and choosing the lean meats no ted meat for me but fish, center cut pork, , chicken , and turkey. I don’t do any white pasta but I do eat lentil, brown rice, whole wheat and garbanzo pasta. The ingredients have to be 1 but no more than 5 I love to eat something sweet every day so I have whole wheat toast with honey and almond butter or 3 dates with a handful of walnuts. I had lots of time on my hands that all it did was give my mind time to think of a snack. So I started a veggie in ground garden and a Greenhouse garden for the coming winter. I started working out legs in the morning and if I ran out of things to do and I start thinking food I turn on the jams and I work out my arms or my buns then I shower and if I still want a snack I’ll eat a fruit. Bobbi remember lol fruit loops are not natural and Mediterranean eating is fresh . The way I see it is the food needs to be as close to what God made as possible. I like your channel and I love your honesty sister. We GOT THIS!!! P.s. your family benefits from eating fresh as well. Good luck we are with you!!!
Bobbie the best thing about your journey, is your not giving up. I admire your resilience. If something isn't working you admit it and try something else. That's why you're gonna succeed. I personally like a lot of foods overly cooked, such as bacon. But I'm gonna guess toast is what you like burnt? Or I saw someone else mentioned popcorn? Good luck Bobbie🤗
1. Got home from work. 2. Watched your video. 3. Ran to the library. 4. Now looking through four books on the Mediterranean diet. My husband and I lost lots of weight on Keto but slid this past year to gaining back most of the weight. I want to eat fruit, all the vegetables (not just certain ones), grains and pasta. Will be doing more research but excited so far. Thanks for the video and wish you the best.
good for you! I struggled with weight loss until I hired a trainer who was also a nutritional coach. changed my life. I've been maintaining for 5 years. my life changed after I turned 50. looking forward to your journey. by the way, that peanut butter mashed up with a little bit of banana taste like butter! at least I think so. you've got this!
I loved this video. Your previous videos with the counting and obsessing (sorry - I don't mean this in a judgmental way) made me so anxious. I tried WW with friends at work and it's a great program, but I don't do well always THINKING about food or people around me constantly talking about food. How many points? What am I eating next? I was watching you do this and it seemed to suck the joy out of your life. I believe I speak for your fans/subscribers in saying we want the very best for you and want you to be happy at every stage of your journey. 💕💕💕
You are very brave to put yourself out there in front of us. I think that you are putting that internal dialog, that we all have (dialog that can be about anything), into words spoken. I have been classified as obese (when we lived in Italy) and malnourished at the same time! I since have lost weight, in part to health issues and in part by listening to my body for signs of hunger. I have also been underweight and malnourished. I went from a size 16, on my 5'2" small frame body, to a zero. I tried unsuccessfully to gain 10 lbs for each of my children's wedding. I understand the relationship of being a slave to food. My husband is doing keto, his first time ever needing to loose weight. He understands, finally, the mindset of the power that food holds on a person. I hope that this new approach helps you identify how you can best navigate the healthiest way of eating for you and your family. I also need to say that for me I think there is merit to some of the comments about support from your family. Support looks different to everyone, everyone needs support. Maybe an honest family "sit down" where you can explain to them how they can support you. Don't give up! I can't do the bike rides or walks. I am so happy that you commit to that and can share the time with your hubby. This is your channel. Follow your heart on its content. Don't let public opinion sway your thought and creativity. Have a wonderful day 💖
Hi Bobbie, I’ve been on this journey with you. However, I’m diabetic and recently diagnosed with NASH from doing Keto for 3 years. Regardless, I’ve found that these meal ideas have helped. Chicken fajitas with grilled chicken breast and sautéed peppers and onions on a low carb wrap. I also make fish taco’s with the cod and add some fresh salsa and a little mashed avocado. I also eat a lot of grilled chicken salad with a balsamic vinaigrette and add a veggie soup if I’m extra hungry. Pasta fagioli is also a go to lunch or dinner with a side salad. These are just a few that have helped me. Hope sharing these give you some ideas! You’ve got this. ❤
@@junkiesunset Hi Erica, it’s basically a fatty liver that has gotten worse. I’d have to google for the exact name that the abbreviation is for. Doctors can’t say 100% that Keto made my fatty liver get worse but they said eating any fat clearly didn’t help. I followed a doctor supervised keto program with a daily coach. So I was doing clean keto. Just be careful.?
I am hoping that this works for you! I know the struggle to well, I had WLS a few months back which has been incredible, but i know that’s not the choice for everyone. Don’t listen to us commenters here, do what you need to do for yourself, working with a nutritionist is a great idea! You may want to buy the book ‘Intuitive Eating’ it may help you on your journey!
Thanks for sharing your journey. I wish you well. I have to cover every inch on a slice of bread, there's just no other way. I appreciate you being here !
Me too! I’ve done all diets over 25 plus years. I’ve been thinking about Mediterranean diet. But I do worry I’ll get lost and eat too much. Needed to lose 25 pounds and have made it halfway give or take. I’ve been keto plus for 2+ years. I don’t want to cook anymore and I’m single and 72. I’m not obese and I am going to eat pasta.
Team spread it until covered !!! Natural peanut butter is the best ♥ once I switched I can't eat PB with icing sugar ingredients, just find it so gross. Now I love celery and PB in the morning (not everyday or course), not for everyone but so delicious for me 🙂 I believe baby steps help modify our taste buds too. I think I'm lucky as I love to cook so I'm thrilled with a Mediterranean way of eating as there are numerous countries, spices, herbs to change things up for me. I've come to realize food is my friend not my enemy and my motto is picking foods that I enjoy and no longer omit a food group. It's no longer a diet, or tracking it's a way of life and I it ♥ I still menu plan and make sure I have a variety of food groups. Neily is 100% correct on what goes on the plate 1/2 is veggies, 1/4 is protein, 1/4 carb focus on real food, that's it. Bobbie you got this, no more tracking, eat whole foods, continue with the outdoor activity or indoor but live you life to the fullest. 🎉✨🎊🥇
Yay! This program sounds so much like the No BS Weight Loss Plan I commented about previously, without the med diet portion. I too have a hard time trying to determine if I'm full and should stop eating. What the no BS Weight Loss Plan suggests is trying to leave behind 2 bites of food on your plate. Some people even scoop those 2 bites and put them and save in a freezer bag so they can see how much food they didn't eat during the week. That part grosses me out 😂 so I'm not doing that but I am trying to leave those 2 bites behind, at least until I can figure out if I've had enough.
Very thoughtful video- I do the WW deal, which has worked for me. I’m maintaining my goal weight. But- the downside is, you do mentally count your points, you continue to be so aware. Which is good, but also tiresome. It’s mentally a drag. Food becomes judgmental
Have you tested your blood sugar? I lost weight when I stabilized my blood sugar. I found out I had a genetic condition where my pancreas does not produce enough insulin. I lost almost forty pounds and I eat the foods that allow me to control my glucose levels. I eat foods I enjoy but I keep my weight at a healthy level. No more dieting just managing glucose.
If you store that type of peanut butter in the refrigerator it won't be so gloppy. Also, I take a new jar and stir in Jordan's or Skinny Girl peanut butter flavored sweetener to sweeten it up. Good luck!
I think working with Neily is a great choice. You mentioned that you wanted to stop dieting but it sounds like you might still be dieting if you are trying to follow the "Mediterranean Diet"? Just do you and let Neily help you with the mental shift. I give you a lot of credit for sharing this with us and thank you for actually sharing some of your conversation with Neily!! Wishing you the best because this is so so hard!!🤗
Hi Danielle - I've loved working with Bobbie and helping her with this shift. Diet culture is so pervasive and damaging. Changing our ways is a huge - but life-changing - shift for many people. And the "diet" in the Mediterranean diet is really a misnomer - it's more of an eating style/eating plan/way of eating. Bobbie is pursuing a plant-based approach and figuring out what works best. There is NO one perfect way to find good health.
Hi! I am so happy for you! No, seriously, I am so happy for you. For the last 2 years I have been struggling. Parents, family, pandemic - I am in my 50s so this the season. Well, 6 months ago my a1c soared to an 8.1 and my liver numbers were extremely high. I asked my doc about keto, ww, and IF and she said no. She told me I needed to heal my relationship with food. Quit the diet this and sugar free that - eat real whole foods and look into Mediterranean. Well, I did live in Italy for 4 years and I know the life style so sure. It has been challenging, but in 3 months my a1c went from 8.1 down to 6.2. My liver numbers are perfect. The biggest thing I got from it is that I feel better. It wasn't just about eating Mediterranean, but about changing my lifestyle so I could have a life. Yes, I have lost weight, but feeling this good and my lab numbers means more to me than the number on the scale. I am sorry this is so long, but I wish someone would have told me about this when I was younger. I love your channel and I hope you have a blessed day! 🌻
Dawn - we need MORE MDs like yours! "I asked my doc about keto, ww, and IF and she said no. She told me I needed to heal my relationship with food." Yes!
For quick meals, I wi cut up boneless/skinless chicken breast i to small prices. I will brown/cook them in a little olive oil with onion, garlic, salt, pepper. Then I can throw it on a salad or make some pasta and broccoli then throw some of the chicken in.
Bobby, watch Six Miles To Supper channel. I’m your age and have had the same struggles as you. One meal a day has been my saving grace. Slow but steady weight loss that is sustainable. I eat anything I want and never think twice, measure, or deprive myself of anything.
So Bobs, I feel that you think about food all the time! The Med diet is really good and there are some lovely recipes. Keep going, so pleased you are not counting calories, carb amounts etc etc! I am watching with interest, I didn't lose weight on this regime, but I am a lot older and not nearly as active as I once was, but I really enjoy the whole mediterranean philosophy and I do enjoy good health. Much love Cindy
I I agree with you Bobbie about counting points etc. I think you’ve made the right decision to try something else. I go to Silver Sneakers three mornings each week and still am not able to lose weight. I also find meal planning a challenge since I am a widow and don’t have creative ideas for one serving. If I make recipes with more servings I don’t like to eat the same thing for days. Lemon chicken sounds great.
Hi, I totally understand not wanting to track your food. I swear I have been on a diet my entire life. 52yrs old and really want to stop doing this. I have to remember what works for one person doesn't always want for you or me. I am the same way...focusing on food. I think trying to do low carb works best or keto without tracking. Protein seems so important and eating less meat...eeekkk! Eating mindfully is hard for people who struggle with weight. If l could do that i would probably be thin! Its so hard. Wish you the best of luck! Want to add...I can't eat a slice of something without thinking..I want more! Better off not eating it. Lok
I haven’t listened to all your video today but I would so recommend whole food plant based eating. Especially look for books by Chef AJ and John McDougall with Maximum WEight Loss and the Starch Solution. Lots of You Tube people like Plantiful Kiki, Tami at Nutmeg Notebook, etc., etc. It’s not really a diet….it’s how we should all eat for the rest of our lives…..and you lose weight while you’re at it.
I agree with Whole Foods plant based way of life. I follow all these people. The main person I follow is Dr. Joel Fuhrman. Plus the "Starch Solution" no counting calories.
I gained weight over the last several years..tried lots of things and learned that it doesn't matter what diet or way of eating you choose you have to stay within a certain amount of calories to lose weight. 1200 a day is what works for me.
It is not about the food! It's about your relationship with it and your "why" for wanting to eat better and lose weight. When you shift your mindset, the food becomes only for nutrition. Your coach is on to something, I'm hoping you stick with it.
For me, it is easier to have 2 breakfast and lunch menus and work on dinner meals that everyone enjoys. My dinner is usually a larger salad with a side of meat (more often fish). And I quit eating at 7PM, wish I could shutter the kitchen until morning 😄
toast with almond butter (fewer calories than peanut and more magnesium), a tablespoon of seeds (chia, linseed or whatever) and a sliced banana on top - best breakfast ever!
I support you in your journey, but it's hard to listen to this. I know what I've learned from Dr Berry and other experts, from monitoring myself, etc. The breakfast you showed was all sugar and carbs...and you're reducing protein and adding grains? For my body, this would end very poorly, but I'm a T2 diabetic.. I'm not perfect, I'm trying to do fasting and high protein, and low carb. I do appreciate your openness and wish you all the best!
Great video! If dieting was easy we would all be thin. My husband keeps his snacks in a different cabinet that I don’t go into. It makes it easier. Good luck!
I am so happy for you!!! I have watch you go up and down on your journey. You are so inspiring today, and your face looks very glowing.... I know you know that we have the information we need to lose weight, the info is so easily accessible, so glad you found a solution.....I will look into it also. I lost 10lbs 2years ago, and have basically kept it off, I eat so-so, alot of sugar, and stay the same weight . I am not happy with my weight and need to desparately lose weight.....
I got tired too.. I ultimately, with the help of a chiropractor in my area, used Chirothin.. I started in August of last year.. within a few months I lost 40 pounds. I pretty much still eat the way I did then and have maintained between 40-45 down..
Speaking of the amount of meat you eat, if you’ll remember, meat (unless it was chicken or fish) was high in “point” and was supposed to be eaten in smaller portions. Just eat whole foods and not processed. You can do this Bobbie. I get from these videos that food is a stressor for you (as it is with millions of us). I eat because it’s there. I’m not hungry most of the times I eat. You are so correct by saying it’s in our head. When we can get our heads wrapped around changing our lives (eating habits) for the better it becomes easier. Not effortless, but easier. I worked with a man who always told us that eating was a habit. He was right.
Just my two cents….. it seems important for you to eat with your family. Would it be possible for you to meal prep for yourself and just eat your meal with your family? I moved in with my sister when the pandemic started and I regained all the weight I lost because I cooked for the family. I just started WW a few weeks ago and came to the conclusion that I have to meal prep my own meals. I had a conversation with my sister about not cooking for everyone on a daily basis. Putting myself first does not come easy but I had to….. I also find it helpful to keep it simple, I stick to meals that are easy and I tend to repeat them throughout the week.
Hi Bobbie, I sympathise with how your feeling , changing how you eat is almost like a grieving process, at least that’s how it has felt for me, but I am trying to stay with it because I want a healthy retirement and I have worked too hard for it as we all do. I am in the uk and BBCFOOD is a good recipe resource for Mediterranean recipes. If you click on cuisines it will list ideas from all the Mediterranean country’s for great inspiration. Know you are not alone in the struggle, take care
Suggestion: Get rid of the Coffee Maker Machine, bring in a Juicer and Vitamix. This is the only was to loose weight and the acidity in your body creating Arthritis.
Bobbie you do you girl! It is hard and as we age it only gets harder and we are all told this, I know you have been told! And I think it is great to change things up! So just keep posting and letting us all know how it is going. I did enjoy the video and hearing yours and Nelly’s conversations, thanks for sharing! Now I am definitely team spread corner to corner. I prefer jif reduced fat peanut butter not as greasy also store the pnb upside down the oil will go to the bottom of the jar then when you turn it up to get some out the oil is at the bottom. I like the jif natural as well. Popcorn burn’t yuck, but almost burn’t yum! 😊 Edited part: I also wanted to say I have read thru the comments and as I do agree with some things some people are saying I say again you do you, you have to be happy for your self, your grown children can cook for them selves and you and hubby cook for y’all and cook what you want to eat! Also I like the ending it was perfect!
My father was from Italy. It's simple .... lots of seafood, salad (Romaine with olive oil and lemon) chicken, Vegetables and fruit. Healthy fats and get your sugar fix from nature.
I am thrilled to be on this journey with you! You were ready to make a change and try something different and here you are. Amazing! (And pb must cover every corner of toast or maybe just eat it off the spoon😂)
God bless you Bobbie! I am praying you find what you are looking for in the battle of the bulge! I know myself it is a constant battle and daily battle! I am here to support you in anyway I can. Only thing I suggest is look to God for guidance, keep things simple… not complicated! Hang in their kiddo!
Yes, chicken Parmesan is fine to eat on a diet! You just have to eat the proper portion! This took me forever to figure out…. I would look up what a “ proper “ portion of a dish or meal would be and eat that. Then I would tell myself, “Okay, this is what I should be able to eat for this meal and now I have to go away, maybe make a cup of tea or something now” ( I spend A LOT of time talking to myself😂). I found that even if I really wanted more at first, if I waited those few minutes i would forget about it. About your daughter’s baking…my solution was to make something really yummy that I could sub for that snack and keep these things around all the time… ( or just eat a small amount of her’s but usually I like my treat because it would be more satisfying). If you want some good recipes, nothing off the table, she doesn’t use” fake foods” look at Sweet Savory and Steph’s website. She has tons of good thing that aren’t hard to make, your family will like them too and calories are reasonable. I will add that THIS TAKES TIME to find dishes that you and your family love, keep you filled up and you look forward to cooking. Also, I concentrate on protein first. It keeps me full.
When you said, "I made this; it was gross," I laughed so hard that I had to rewind the video to hear what you said after that! Too funny. I don't know if you've tried Banza pasta, but I have found that I actually prefer that over whole wheat past. Oh, I just remembered you said you don't like chickpeas, so most likely you wouldn't like it. But, as you said, if you don't like the whole wheat pasta, you can just stick with regular. I really admire your perseverance, Bobbie!
I think the problem is you following it like a diet. My dad's side of the family is Italian(my dad is first gen born American) with some Greek and a Spanish grandmother. Italians don't eat whole wheat pasta. Pasta isn't bad it's what you put on it that matters. Go get yourself an authentic southern Italian cookbook and a Greek cookbook( if you are drawn to those foods). You will find plenty of recipes you will like and many aren't complicated. I think this might be easier for your meal planning. Maybe you don't like all types of mediterranean food? Just focus on what types you like and make those instead of worrying about what the diet says. Just my 2 cents, good luck!
I like this way of eating but have learnt that having boiled eggs or zucchini egg and mushroom slice in the fridge is a great hunger buster for snacking. Good Luck hun, how much did you loose u didn’t say?
Bless your heart, nothing you try seems to work or be long term. Definitely keep up with the bike riding and the exercise from that will help. It is not easy to lose weight, if it were we would not have so many overweight people in this world. There just is no easy, magic way. If you keep saying to yourself that what you want to eat is okay and "move on" I can't see anyone losing weight. Maybe I am missing something in the ladies rationale. It makes no sense to me if you want to lose weight. You are just dwelling on it all the time. I just could not function that way but best of luck to you.
Dr Ken Berry. Dr Robert Cywes. Dr Annette Bosworth. Dr. Becky Gillaspy. All 4 have many youtube videos. It works.
I don’t usually comment but I am with you. For some people it isn’t as easy. You can do all the right things and your body can say no. It’s genetics and hormones. Don’t blame yourself. The diet techniques I have relied on in my younger days no longer work for me and I also struggle trying to find what will work. Don’t let anyone say you are doing it wrong because you are not. That’s how I found you. I felt crazy and was glad to see I wasn’t alone.
I am always amazed to see how fast people can gobble down food. It is like they are just trying to get it over with. But isn't eating suppose to be an experience we enjoy? If it is then why in the world rush through it! Especially if it is very tasty, make it last... Savor it!
I need to tell you something too, in my humble opinion, you are making this so much harder than it needs to be, and yes I know what its like to be overweight. Work with Neily and focus on the good that she is teaching you. Did you seriously ask, "can I eat Fruit Loops all day long"???? Food is not your enemy, its just way way too important to you. And here is the part that will probably make you block me but I would rather have that happen than to not say this, and that is your family needs to help and support you. I know your husband does and I love that exercises with you, but your adult children should eat what you eat, or go out and get what they want. Your daughter is precious but baking pumpkin bread with chocolate chips in your kitchen while you are trying to loose weight, that is not very thoughtful. And eating one small slice of that will probably make your want more because those kinds of carbs kick start that craving that makes you want more and more. Don't eat those kinds of carbs while to are trying to loose weight and until you are in a better place with food. I'm sorry to be so blunt and I truly don't mean to offend you. I love your skin care and make up videos. Please don't block me.
She may block me too and I pray she doesn’t. I agree with you. I love you Bobbie and I know you are putting yourself out there for all of us to watch and probably none of our business to comment but here I go…. I think you are way too focused on food. When you are going to eat next and what you are going to eat. Just eat healthy foods when hungry and don’t eat when not hungry. Stop when slightly full. I think you put alot of energy and thought into eating and food. And I agree I would stay away from sugar and carbs for now. That will only trigger more carb cravings. Eat as many veggies as you want. They are healthy and low calorie and full of fiber. Eat protein. Eat some fruit but stay away from those bad things. I don’t care what diet you are on certain things are just poison to your body (bread, rice, pasta, white flour, sugar) and should be avoided or eaten in moderation. I mean did you really need the honey on the toast? You are very addicted to sugar. I know it must be hard. Why aren’t you eating eggs for breakfast with toast. Avocados? Why not eat a healthy sandwich for lunch. Lunch meat and lettuce and olives etc. Pickles. Veggies. Salad with tuna or salmon or chicken. Rotisserie chicken. Dinners can be anything. Chicken, pork chop, tacos on lettuce, steak, stew with veggies. Why should there even be pasta or dessert. Have a frozen fruit popsicle. The more you eat of protein and veggies the less you will crave sugar. Drink a hot tea at night in place of a piece of cake. Some cheese. You have so many options. And I also agree family needs to stop making desserts and food that could be hard for you to resist More support is needed. 😊
Sorry. Just my two cents. From another Theresa.
Love you and sorry if this comes across harsh. Its not meant to. It’s hard for all of us. We are all learning as we go.
The Theresa’s must feel the need to speak.
I agree with both of you and my name isn’t even Theresa, lol. One thing I have to add is I’ve never lost weight eating rice and pasta. I feel like she is just chasing her tail round and round without addressing that refined carbs and sugars are addictive. I’ve been there myself and once I eliminated them by eating anti inflammatory they don’t tempt me. I’m focusing more on eating healthy and nutritious foods. There’s no good nutrition in bread, pasta or rice, but a rainbow of nutrition in colorful all natural whole unprocessed foods.
@@pagerus SOUTH BEACH diet phase one, Protein and veggies.
It totally gets rid of sugar and carb craving.
There is a book you can get from the library
The list of foods is SIMPLE
The results are dramatic in just two weeks.
Also, sorry Bobbie, but you need to cut out the cream in the coffee
I totally agree with you! I also like her channel much more when it was more about skincare and makeup. I'm not very interested in weight loss content. Just my humble opinion as well.
@@stephaniek8141 she can have cream if no sugar. Heavy cream or half and half are okay just not the sugar based creamers.
Oh my heavens Bobbie, I could never be annoyed with you! I can't thank you enough for sharing all the ups and downs. Find what's right for you. Big hugs!
You and your video really helped me out today! It's afternoon and I needed a snack (yes, I was hungry). Instead of looking for some empty caloried snacky something...I got an apple from the fridge, cored and cut it into several slices and ate it while I read the comments. I can hold off 'til dinner now. Thank you!
Thrills me to see you doing this. I used to watch your old Weight Watchers videos, and while I never officially did weight watchers, I used to have my own modified version of it that I followed and successfully lost weight however, like you, just put it right back on as soon as I stopped. I did this off and on for about 15 years and finally when I turned 49 I decided enough was enough and it was time to change my entire way of thinking about food and moving my body. I started lifting weights a couple days a week and walking more. Nothing was off-limits, and I started just listening to my brain and my body and trusting it. There were a few bumps along the road and a few pounds gained and then lost And then gained and then lost but now I am settled at a really comfortable body weight and I am in the best physical shape of my life AND I’m no longer a prisoner to food! Eating is a relaxed and joyful experience now. I am now 52. This is something that will stick because I took the time to develop healthy lasting habits along the way, instead of just restricting myself to a set of rules. I found the easiest way to do this was to focus on one habit for a month and at the end of the month if it felt effortless then I would move on and add a second habit, and if it didn’t feel effortless, I would continue to focus on it for an additional month until it did feel effortless. Habits such as eating one salad per day, building half of my plate with fruit or vegetables first (then adding the other Whole Foods to the other half) taking my B12 each day, adding fermented foods daily, etc.. when you focus on one habit at a time until it’s effortless, it takes time to really develop a fully healthy lifestyle, but you can’t get there if you don’t start… good luck on your journey.
I have an idea Bobbie - I think you have dieted for so long and focused on what you CAN’T have, now you can change your thought pattern to now I CAN have anything I want. Like she said, nothing is a NO, just be careful of how much you say YES to the treats. That’s what I am trying to do myself, I also got so tired of counting points and obsessing on every bite I put in my mouth. I hope this helps you ! I know we can do this !
I can completely understand your mental burnout on tracking every bite. It's so laborious. I used to track everything on My Fitness Pal but I just dreaded (and resented!) the whole process pretty quickly. I now eat mostly eggs, beef, salmon, chicken, bacon, and a small amount of greens such as romaine and celery. I also eat dairy sparingly - half and half in my coffee, and some cottage cheese and regular cheese once in a while. I feel very satisfied and don't have the sugar/carb crashes I used to have. I hope that you will enjoy this new journey and I wish you the best!
I love this new approach. I did the "watching every bite I put in my mouth and counting every calorie" method also. Eating and food consumed my thoughts. Which for me had the opposite effect of how I wanted to live. I hated it! When you said you were going to start a plan again, I thought I just can't do it again. Your words about mindful eating instead of focusing on calorie counting made sense to me. I am going to look up the Mediterranean approach and see how it goes. If you find a meal you love let us know! Sharing your struggles is very meaningful to many of us. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.
I found your channel today and boy did I enjoy this video. Laughed a lot. Calling things the wrong names, forgetting what you were talking about …. Almost like listening to myself (58). I love watching the younger girls doing make up, but this channel is seriously going to be my jam!
It’s hard to know when your full sometimes BUT if you look for the “sigh” you will know. It may be very small until you recognize it but your body will sigh when you have eaten enough. Then put the fork down. Good luck with the journey.
Mediterranean meals include a protein (meat or beans) and lots and lots of vegetables with just a little bit of carbs (pasta or rice or dense bread). They use very little to no processed foods.
I totally understand what you’re feeling. I believe every person must figure out for themselves which eating lifestyle works for them. It’s a lot of trial and error and everyone is different. I wish you great health and you deserve to enjoy your life and be happy while you are determining what works best for you.
I think you’re right. Diets intensify a negative focus on food. It’s tough to achieve, but finding a balance is what keeps us sane, and it’s the only thing that works in the long run. Just do what’s best for you.
In my experience planning meals for the week makes all the difference. My husband and I plan our week on Friday or Saturday, build our grocery list, and grocery shop. We pretty much stick to Whole Foods, nothing processed, and whole grains. It’s been a process to build those habits, but it does become a way of life if you stick to it. Good luck!
Hi Bobbie, Up until about three years ago I was always focussing on my weight, food, fad diets etc. and trying to get to a certain weight. Like you hit the menopause and even though I would starve myself and be pretty miserable and very hungry the weight would not shift. I wasn't massively overweight but being short any weight gain showed even it was just a few pounds. As soon as I put a food category on the banned list I would crave it and think of nothing else resulting in a binge followed by guilt. I decided life was too short and I stopped "dieting". I follow a guy called Joe Wicks (not sure if you have head of him). This changed by relationship with food. I can't say that I have lost a huge amount of weight but I have come to accept that I will never be the weight I was in my twenties. I now eat a good healthy balanced diet with very little "junk" or processed food and over the past three years I don't really miss or think about cake, biscuits, crisps, etc. I do still have them but only very occasionally and very rarely have deserts. My one vice is I do like a drink or two at the weekend. The other thing that has helped is I changed my exercise routine to include more weight training and less aerobic activity. This has reduced my body fat and increased my muscle. Please give yourself time as it has taken me three years to have a "normal" relationship with food and now love nourishing my body. All the best xx
I am so happy to see you hitting this new method of eating full force! You can do this. It is also very interesting and I will follow your journey and wish you much success. You are encouraging us all to figure out what works for us and to pursue it.
Bobby good for you. You realized what you didnt want to do like counting calories for the rest of your life & you were willing to try something new. I give you alot of credit. It is a journey just like life, sometimes we have bumps but we move on. Keep up the good work for yourself, you deserve it.
❤ I’m so glad you are working with Neilly. It looks like she is helping you change your mindset about food. I have to say that I tried weight watchers last year just for maintaining my weight. The point system allowed me to eat way too much!! Portion control and mindful eating are definitely going to help you! Good job!!!
Love that your videos are so real ! I love your skincare and makeup reviews but struggled with the videos on carb cycling (?) and points. The Mediterranean diet is really a lifestyle change that is so sustainable. Much more achievable. Good luck, you won’t look back!
Thanks so much Karen!
No one can deny you are persistent!! Way to go! When I think of the Mediterranean diet (diet meaning food consumption) I think of a plate full of vegetables roasted or stir fried with olive oil and garlic, a protein and carb - variety to keep it interesting but simple. Weight loss diets make us obsessed thinking and planning our food, it's exhausting for sure. Here is all you need to think about, the Japanese Confucius saying 'Hari hachi bu" - which means eat until you are 80% full. Walk away with the thought that if you are still hungry in 20 minutes you will have something more - more often than not, given that 20 minutes, your brain will figure out that you are full. Wishing you the very best!
Bobbie, I have loved seeing you with very little makeup. So natural and makes you look fresh and so much younger. 😊
Good for you trying new things! This is a hard journey that we’re all on. It’s good to try a different avenue. I’m like you, I’m so tired of counting Calories, carbs, points, etc. that eventually will drive you crazy!! Good luck and I commend you on trying new things. You’re not alone here.
This is so sweet. You inspire me to return to an approach I got, sometimes I'll tell you the story if you like, that works so well it was almost scary. I was dropping white like crazy. I haven't been able to pick it up again because I don't know why. But you inspire me. The only two rules I had was, only eat clean food and that was at my discretion. Mine would probably be different than yours because of my body type probably, and don't snack. Those are the only two. I had baked goods and all sorts of goodies. But they had to be very clean. I got to where I was dropping about 10 lb a week. And I didn't gain it back until covid when we couldn't go outside. You do inspire me
When you have had so many years to condition your mind to what is good, what is bad your mind won’t allow you to accept everything is not bad. We have all done this to ourselves. However, your nutritionist is right about eating when hungry and stopping when full. I feel this will really change things for you and bring success sooner then later. I hope you get to the place where you aren’t thinking of food, I’m not a good cook and I get overwhelmed with recipes that require different spices I don’t have on hand. That would be hard for me. If someone else would cook it all for me I would eat it.🤷♀️walking through your journey with you and it’s going to be so much better!
You gotta do what's best for you! I'm with you.
Great video, btw, I’m loving the longer hair on you, it looks very youthful.
This. This resonated with me on many levels. So much so that I stepped out of my comfort zone and set up a call with Jennifer Neilly. It is a journey and I continue to take the dead end routes. I want to find a way that allows me to continue on to my destination of healthy living. I am sure I'll take a few more of the scenic routes along the way, but I want to avoid the dead ends. Thank you for continuing to share so honestly and openly.
Yay! I had to step out of my comfort zone as well, but I'm glad I did! Cheering for you Tambur!
I look forward to connecting! 😊
I take a scoop of nut butters almond peanut or cashew when I’m in between meals maybe put it on half an apple
I know for us older women it's so hard to loose weight. Right there with ya. Last year I was diagnosed with IBS and starting taking meds from GI doc. I use my fitness pal app and yes it is a lot of work. However because of my condition I see a nutritionist every few months. I had to give up certain foods for my health. I don't track on weekends and sometimes skip an entire week. Bobby I can honestly say the nutritionist has been wonderful you want some support especially if you aren't sure of bout what you are able to eat that can get overwhelming and depressing. My nutritionist doesn't ask me my weight or put me on a scale. I have learned soooo much bout my body and food. I highly recommend seeing a nutritionist. ITS GREAT SUPPORT. Any questions or thoughts let me know. Rooting for u.
Thank you I am so excited
I just texted you.
Look forward to hearing from you soon.
I am going to bring up something that I haven't seen or heard anyone talk about. We concentrate on what goes in our bodies but do we ever think about what comes out of our bodies. I was once told by a doctor that a person can hold up to 20 pounds of waste. Do we give thought to how regular we are? If our body is holding onto waste and not regularly getting rid of it, that can hold up our process. We need to look at the whole journey of our food and not just what goes in. I have lost over 60 pounds and it wasn't until I gave this some thought that I was able to not only lose weight but feel much better.
Thank you for your video!! I’ve been skinny my entire life but then I turned 50. I’ve now gained 30+ pounds in 4 years and have no idea how to diet. I’m normally quite active but tore my rotator cuff a year ago, and had surgery 2 weeks ago, so I’m currently a sloth. I appreciate your like/dislike for certain foods as I have the palate of a toddler. I also now see a dietitian but don’t feel supported. Your videos have given me hope that I can lose this weight.❤
Diets never work. I have come to realize that I do better by not depriving myself of any food group. I eat what I want and if I over eat at one meal, I will eat lighter the next meal. I honestly have to say that I never feel completely full. I usually eat my first meal of the day around 1pm. Then dinner around 6 and maybe a snack after. I drink lots of water and don't exercise like I should, but working on that! Best of luck to you!
just started watching your channel. Thanks for sharing. Crispy cauliflower and broccoli yum!
I love this, Bobbie. We are all on our own journey and you are just brave enough to share with us. I believe you are on to something here, with Neily, and it gives us all something to think about, or at least me. I am here for it! You are beautiful!
The second someone tells me something is off limits I want to eat as much as I can. So I’ve learned cutting things out I enjoy is a no for me. So I’m trying to eat healthier and in better portions.
I feel ya Bobbie. I hate tracking and counting. I was eating anti-inflammatory for awhile about 2 years ago and felt better. I was not losing weight, but if I’m honest I was not moving enough or drinking enough water. About the time you announced you were going to try Med, I told my friend I was done with WW and will go back to anti-inflammatory. I will be walking daily and will really try to up my water. I say slow and steady wins the race. You do you! But I think all the diets tend to focus on the good & bad, we get the wrong association with food. I was very successful a few years ago by just eating half of everything I would normally. Nothing was off limits. It was very freeing.
I just want to say that I am right there with you. I'm almost 46... Overweight or extremely obese my entire life. Up to 400 lb at one time. Have tried every diet. Have lost 200 lb only to gain half back. I yo-yo like crazy. I'm addicted to food. I think about it wayyyy too much. When I am not eating I think about eating or what I will be making for the next meal. I crave sugar and sweets. I'm all the things. I'm trying to change my relationship with food. I'm reading Intuitive Eating and it's helping me quite a bit! I've read it once and am referring to the workbook to help me change bad habits. Nothing is restricted, we just have to pay attention to why we are eating and learn to enjoy and be Mindful of each bite. I'm really trying to make changes in my relationship with food and I know that you are as well. I really enjoy your videos and being so transparent with us. I am struggling along with you and rooting for you! I know you'll get the right things for you lined out and find a healthy lifestyle! Best of luck to you!
Good for you Bobbie! You do you! Thank you for sharing this.
Friend, I LOVE the Mediterranean foods. There is no processed foods. When I go grocery shopping I stick to the outer perimeter and choosing the lean meats no ted meat for me but fish, center cut pork, , chicken , and turkey. I don’t do any white pasta but I do eat lentil, brown rice, whole wheat and garbanzo pasta. The ingredients have to be 1 but no more than 5 I love to eat something sweet every day so I have whole wheat toast with honey and almond butter or 3 dates with a handful of walnuts. I had lots of time on my hands that all it did was give my mind time to think of a snack. So I started a veggie in ground garden and a
Greenhouse garden for the coming winter. I started working out legs in the morning and if I ran out of things to do and I start thinking food I turn on the jams and I work out my arms or my buns then I shower and if I still want a snack I’ll eat a fruit. Bobbi remember lol fruit loops are not natural and Mediterranean eating is fresh . The way I see it is the food needs to be as close to what God made as possible. I like your channel and I love your honesty sister. We GOT THIS!!! P.s. your family benefits from eating fresh as well. Good luck we are with you!!!
Lentil and garbanzo pastas are delicious!! Spiralized zucchini is a great substitute for noodles too!
Bobbie the best thing about your journey, is your not giving up. I admire your resilience. If something isn't working you admit it and try something else. That's why you're gonna succeed. I personally like a lot of foods overly cooked, such as bacon. But I'm gonna guess toast is what you like burnt? Or I saw someone else mentioned popcorn? Good luck Bobbie🤗
Hey Sharon! I also love bacon done very crispy (not burnt). I don't like burnt toast, but popcorn is the answer - so yummy! 😘
1. Got home from work.
2. Watched your video.
3. Ran to the library.
4. Now looking through four books on the Mediterranean diet.
My husband and I lost lots of weight on Keto but slid this past year to gaining back most of the weight. I want to eat fruit, all the vegetables (not just certain ones), grains and pasta. Will be doing more research but excited so far. Thanks for the video and wish you the best.
good for you! I struggled with weight loss until I hired a trainer who was also a nutritional coach. changed my life. I've been maintaining for 5 years. my life changed after I turned 50. looking forward to your journey. by the way, that peanut butter mashed up with a little bit of banana taste like butter! at least I think so. you've got this!
I loved this video. Your previous videos with the counting and obsessing (sorry - I don't mean this in a judgmental way) made me so anxious. I tried WW with friends at work and it's a great program, but I don't do well always THINKING about food or people around me constantly talking about food. How many points? What am I eating next? I was watching you do this and it seemed to suck the joy out of your life. I believe I speak for your fans/subscribers in saying we want the very best for you and want you to be happy at every stage of your journey. 💕💕💕
You are very brave to put yourself out there in front of us. I think that you are putting that internal dialog, that we all have (dialog that can be about anything), into words spoken. I have been classified as obese (when we lived in Italy) and malnourished at the same time! I since have lost weight, in part to health issues and in part by listening to my body for signs of hunger. I have also been underweight and malnourished. I went from a size 16, on my 5'2" small frame body, to a zero. I tried unsuccessfully to gain 10 lbs for each of my children's wedding. I understand the relationship of being a slave to food. My husband is doing keto, his first time ever needing to loose weight. He understands, finally, the mindset of the power that food holds on a person. I hope that this new approach helps you identify how you can best navigate the healthiest way of eating for you and your family. I also need to say that for me I think there is merit to some of the comments about support from your family. Support looks different to everyone, everyone needs support. Maybe an honest family "sit down" where you can explain to them how they can support you. Don't give up! I can't do the bike rides or walks. I am so happy that you commit to that and can share the time with your hubby. This is your channel. Follow your heart on its content. Don't let public opinion sway your thought and creativity. Have a wonderful day 💖
Hi Bobbie, I’ve been on this journey with you. However, I’m diabetic and recently diagnosed with NASH from doing Keto for 3 years. Regardless, I’ve found that these meal ideas have helped. Chicken fajitas with grilled chicken breast and sautéed peppers and onions on a low carb wrap. I also make fish taco’s with the cod and add some fresh salsa and a little mashed avocado. I also eat a lot of grilled chicken salad with a balsamic vinaigrette and add a veggie soup if I’m extra hungry. Pasta fagioli is also a go to lunch or dinner with a side salad. These are just a few that have helped me. Hope sharing these give you some ideas! You’ve got this. ❤
What is Nash? I’ve been doing keto and have never heard of this
@@junkiesunset Hi Erica, it’s basically a fatty liver that has gotten worse. I’d have to google for the exact name that the abbreviation is for. Doctors can’t say 100% that Keto made my fatty liver get worse but they said eating any fat clearly didn’t help. I followed a doctor supervised keto program with a daily coach. So I was doing clean keto. Just be careful.?
@@junkiesunset NASH stands for Non-Alcoholic SteatoHepatitis. It's a dangerous condition.
I am hoping that this works for you! I know the struggle to well, I had WLS a few months back which has been incredible, but i know that’s not the choice for everyone. Don’t listen to us commenters here, do what you need to do for yourself, working with a nutritionist is a great idea! You may want to buy the book ‘Intuitive Eating’ it may help you on your journey!
I really enjoyed this video. I struggle with stopping when full. I'm tired of tracking too. Thanks for sharing.
It’s such a common issue! It’s a constant struggle for me.
Ditto and Amen sister! Merry Christmas!
I’m for team spread. I also like burnt popcorn and toast. Im learning a lot from you. Good luck on this journey and thank you for sharing it.
Thanks for sharing your journey. I wish you well. I have to cover every inch on a slice of bread, there's just no other way.
I appreciate you being here !
I’d love to see a new video update in August 2023! Looking forward to seeing it!
Me too! I’ve done all diets over 25 plus years. I’ve been thinking about Mediterranean diet. But I do worry I’ll get lost and eat too much. Needed to lose 25 pounds and have made it halfway give or take. I’ve been keto plus for 2+ years. I don’t want to cook anymore and I’m single and 72. I’m not obese and I am going to eat pasta.
Barilla Plus in a yellow box. Plus is protein and flax seeds. I can’t tell the difference between it and regular pasta.
Thanks Val, I'll give it a try!
Team spread it until covered !!! Natural peanut butter is the best ♥ once I switched I can't eat PB with icing sugar ingredients, just find it so gross. Now I love celery and PB in the morning (not everyday or course), not for everyone but so delicious for me 🙂 I believe baby steps help modify our taste buds too. I think I'm lucky as I love to cook so I'm thrilled with a Mediterranean way of eating as there are numerous countries, spices, herbs to change things up for me.
I've come to realize food is my friend not my enemy and my motto is picking foods that I enjoy and no longer omit a food group. It's no longer a diet, or tracking it's a way of life and I it ♥ I still menu plan and make sure I have a variety of food groups. Neily is 100% correct on what goes on the plate 1/2 is veggies, 1/4 is protein, 1/4 carb focus on real food, that's it.
Bobbie you got this, no more tracking, eat whole foods, continue with the outdoor activity or indoor but live you life to the fullest. 🎉✨🎊🥇
Yay! This program sounds so much like the No BS Weight Loss Plan I commented about previously, without the med diet portion. I too have a hard time trying to determine if I'm full and should stop eating. What the no BS Weight Loss Plan suggests is trying to leave behind 2 bites of food on your plate. Some people even scoop those 2 bites and put them and save in a freezer bag so they can see how much food they didn't eat during the week. That part grosses me out 😂 so I'm not doing that but I am trying to leave those 2 bites behind, at least until I can figure out if I've had enough.
I think it would good for Bobbie to listen to her podcasts!
Yes!! I am a NoBS woman and what a difference
Very thoughtful video- I do the WW deal, which has worked for me. I’m maintaining my goal weight. But- the downside is, you do mentally count your points, you continue to be so aware. Which is good, but also tiresome. It’s mentally a drag. Food becomes judgmental
Have you tested your blood sugar? I lost weight when I stabilized my blood sugar. I found out I had a genetic condition where my pancreas does not produce enough insulin. I lost almost forty pounds and I eat the foods that allow me to control my glucose levels. I eat foods I enjoy but I keep my weight at a healthy level. No more dieting just managing glucose.
If you store that type of peanut butter in the refrigerator it won't be so gloppy. Also, I take a new jar and stir in Jordan's or Skinny Girl peanut butter flavored sweetener to sweeten it up. Good luck!
I think working with Neily is a great choice. You mentioned that you wanted to stop dieting but it sounds like you might still be dieting if you are trying to follow the "Mediterranean Diet"? Just do you and let Neily help you with the mental shift. I give you a lot of credit for sharing this with us and thank you for actually sharing some of your conversation with Neily!! Wishing you the best because this is so so hard!!🤗
Hi Danielle - I've loved working with Bobbie and helping her with this shift.
Diet culture is so pervasive and damaging. Changing our ways is a huge - but life-changing - shift for many people.
And the "diet" in the Mediterranean diet is really a misnomer - it's more of an eating style/eating plan/way of eating. Bobbie is pursuing a plant-based approach and figuring out what works best. There is NO one perfect way to find good health.
Hi! I am so happy for you! No, seriously, I am so happy for you. For the last 2 years I have been struggling. Parents, family, pandemic - I am in my 50s so this the season. Well, 6 months ago my a1c soared to an 8.1 and my liver numbers were extremely high. I asked my doc about keto, ww, and IF and she said no. She told me I needed to heal my relationship with food. Quit the diet this and sugar free that - eat real whole foods and look into Mediterranean. Well, I did live in Italy for 4 years and I know the life style so sure. It has been challenging, but in 3 months my a1c went from 8.1 down to 6.2. My liver numbers are perfect. The biggest thing I got from it is that I feel better. It wasn't just about eating Mediterranean, but about changing my lifestyle so I could have a life. Yes, I have lost weight, but feeling this good and my lab numbers means more to me than the number on the scale. I am sorry this is so long, but I wish someone would have told me about this when I was younger. I love your channel and I hope you have a blessed day! 🌻
How wonderful that you are getting healthy. It’s such a mind-shift and I’m still working on it. It’s going to take a while to change my thinking.
Dawn - we need MORE MDs like yours!
"I asked my doc about keto, ww, and IF and she said no. She told me I needed to heal my relationship with food."
Yes!
@@NeilyonNutrition yes we do.
For quick meals, I wi cut up boneless/skinless chicken breast i to small prices. I will brown/cook them in a little olive oil with onion, garlic, salt, pepper. Then I can throw it on a salad or make some pasta and broccoli then throw some of the chicken in.
Bobby, watch Six Miles To Supper channel. I’m your age and have had the same struggles as you. One meal a day has been my saving grace. Slow but steady weight loss that is sustainable. I eat anything I want and never think twice, measure, or deprive myself of anything.
So Bobs, I feel that you think about food all the time! The Med diet is really good and there are some lovely recipes. Keep going, so pleased you are not counting calories, carb amounts etc etc! I am watching with interest, I didn't lose weight on this regime, but I am a lot older and not nearly as active as I once was, but I really enjoy the whole mediterranean philosophy and I do enjoy good health. Much love Cindy
Thanks Cindy!!!
When I diet I think about food 24/7. Deciding what to eat and if it’s healthy
I I agree with you Bobbie about counting points etc. I think you’ve made the right decision to try something else. I go to Silver Sneakers three mornings each week and still am not able to lose weight. I also find meal planning a challenge since I am a widow and don’t have creative ideas for one serving. If I make recipes with more servings I don’t like to eat the same thing for days. Lemon chicken sounds great.
Ugh, I forgot to link it in the video. Here's the video where I did the lemon chicken: ruclips.net/video/x9G6IQ3xhUY/видео.html
Hi, I totally understand not wanting to track your food. I swear I have been on a diet my entire life. 52yrs old and really want to stop doing this. I have to remember what works for one person doesn't always want for you or me. I am the same way...focusing on food. I think trying to do low carb works best or keto without tracking. Protein seems so important and eating less meat...eeekkk! Eating mindfully is hard for people who struggle with weight. If l could do that i would probably be thin!
Its so hard. Wish you the best of luck! Want to add...I can't eat a slice of something without thinking..I want more! Better off not eating it. Lok
I haven’t listened to all your video today but I would so recommend whole food plant based eating. Especially look for books by Chef AJ and John McDougall with Maximum WEight Loss and the Starch Solution. Lots of You Tube people like Plantiful Kiki, Tami at Nutmeg Notebook, etc., etc. It’s not really a diet….it’s how we should all eat for the rest of our lives…..and you lose weight while you’re at it.
I agree with Whole Foods plant based way of life. I follow all these people. The main person I follow is Dr. Joel Fuhrman. Plus the "Starch Solution" no counting calories.
I gained weight over the last several years..tried lots of things and learned that it doesn't matter what diet or way of eating you choose you have to stay within a certain amount of calories to lose weight. 1200 a day is what works for me.
It is not about the food! It's about your relationship with it and your "why" for wanting to eat better and lose weight. When you shift your mindset, the food becomes only for nutrition. Your coach is on to something, I'm hoping you stick with it.
For me, it is easier to have 2 breakfast and lunch menus and work on dinner meals that everyone enjoys. My dinner is usually a larger salad with a side of meat (more often fish). And I quit eating at 7PM, wish I could shutter the kitchen until morning 😄
toast with almond butter (fewer calories than peanut and more magnesium), a tablespoon of seeds (chia, linseed or whatever) and a sliced banana on top - best breakfast ever!
I support you in your journey, but it's hard to listen to this. I know what I've learned from Dr Berry and other experts, from monitoring myself, etc. The breakfast you showed was all sugar and carbs...and you're reducing protein and adding grains?
For my body, this would end very poorly, but I'm a T2 diabetic.. I'm not perfect, I'm trying to do fasting and high protein, and low carb.
I do appreciate your openness and wish you all the best!
The Mediterranean way of eating is the best! I love it and lost weight very quickly! I hope you love it as much as I do!
Great video! If dieting was easy we would all be thin. My husband keeps his snacks in a different cabinet that I don’t go into. It makes it easier. Good luck!
Team spread it here!
I am so happy for you!!! I have watch you go up and down on your journey. You are so inspiring today, and your face looks very glowing.... I know you know that we have the information we need to lose weight, the info is so easily accessible, so glad you found a solution.....I will look into it also. I lost 10lbs 2years ago, and have basically kept it off, I eat so-so, alot of sugar, and stay the same weight . I am not happy with my weight and need to desparately lose weight.....
I got tired too.. I ultimately, with the help of a chiropractor in my area, used Chirothin.. I started in August of last year.. within a few months I lost 40 pounds. I pretty much still eat the way I did then and have maintained between 40-45 down..
Speaking of the amount of meat you eat, if you’ll remember, meat (unless it was chicken or fish) was high in “point” and was supposed to be eaten in smaller portions. Just eat whole foods and not processed. You can do this Bobbie. I get from these videos that food is a stressor for you (as it is with millions of us). I eat because it’s there. I’m not hungry most of the times I eat. You are so correct by saying it’s in our head. When we can get our heads wrapped around changing our lives (eating habits) for the better it becomes easier. Not effortless, but easier. I worked with a man who always told us that eating was a habit. He was right.
He is right!! It’s a habit that is ingrained in our minds!!! I’m on a journey to change my habits. Thanks Tammy!!
Just my two cents….. it seems important for you to eat with your family. Would it be possible for you to meal prep for yourself and just eat your meal with your family? I moved in with my sister when the pandemic started and I regained all the weight I lost because I cooked for the family. I just started WW a few weeks ago and came to the conclusion that I have to meal prep my own meals. I had a conversation with my sister about not cooking for everyone on a daily basis. Putting myself first does not come easy but I had to….. I also find it helpful to keep it simple, I stick to meals that are easy and I tend to repeat them throughout the week.
Proud of you, Bobbie!
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I am so proud of you. I have the same thoughts when I diet. I have all these questions. I also think this diet may work for me. Keep up the good work.
Hi Bobbie, I sympathise with how your feeling , changing how you eat is almost like a grieving process, at least that’s how it has felt for me, but I am trying to stay with it because I want a healthy retirement and I have worked too hard for it as we all do. I am in the uk and BBCFOOD is a good recipe resource for Mediterranean recipes. If you click on cuisines it will list ideas from all the Mediterranean country’s for great inspiration. Know you are not alone in the struggle, take care
Thank you Joanne!
Suggestion: Get rid of the Coffee Maker Machine, bring in a Juicer and Vitamix. This is the only was to loose weight and the acidity in your body creating Arthritis.
Bobbie you do you girl! It is hard and as we age it only gets harder and we are all told this, I know you have been told! And I think it is great to change things up! So just keep posting and letting us all know how it is going. I did enjoy the video and hearing yours and Nelly’s conversations, thanks for sharing! Now I am definitely team spread corner to corner. I prefer jif reduced fat peanut butter not as greasy also store the pnb upside down the oil will go to the bottom of the jar then when you turn it up to get some out the oil is at the bottom. I like the jif natural as well. Popcorn burn’t yuck, but almost burn’t yum! 😊 Edited part: I also wanted to say I have read thru the comments and as I do agree with some things some people are saying I say again you do you, you have to be happy for your self, your grown children can cook for them selves and you and hubby cook for y’all and cook what you want to eat! Also I like the ending it was perfect!
My father was from Italy. It's simple .... lots of seafood, salad (Romaine with olive oil and lemon) chicken, Vegetables and fruit. Healthy fats and get your sugar fix from nature.
Oh I hope theist Ives you freedom and health! I’m so proud of you!
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Don’t let ppl get you down. Do what’s best for you. If you let the comments get to you depressed and could lead to over eating.
Thanks Melissa! I am developing thicker skin doing this series!
@@MindfulMidlife I’m glad. Just remember to take care o& you first and tell the trolls to stomp rocks 😂
I am thrilled to be on this journey with you! You were ready to make a change and try something different and here you are. Amazing!
(And pb must cover every corner of toast or maybe just eat it off the spoon😂)
Ok, I’ll continue to work with you since you are on the RIGHT TEAM 😂. Thanks my friend!!
I want to work with Neily!
God bless you Bobbie! I am praying you find what you are looking for in the battle of the bulge! I know myself it is a constant battle and daily battle! I am here to support you in anyway I can. Only thing I suggest is look to God for guidance, keep things simple… not complicated! Hang in their kiddo!
Yes, chicken Parmesan is fine to eat on a diet! You just have to eat the proper portion! This took me forever to figure out…. I would look up what a “ proper “ portion of a dish or meal would be and eat that. Then I would tell myself, “Okay, this is what I should be able to eat for this meal and now I have to go away, maybe make a cup of tea or something now” ( I spend A LOT of time talking to myself😂). I found that even if I really wanted more at first, if I waited those few minutes i would forget about it. About your daughter’s baking…my solution was to make something really yummy that I could sub for that snack and keep these things around all the time… ( or just eat a small amount of her’s but usually I like my treat because it would be more satisfying). If you want some good recipes, nothing off the table, she doesn’t use” fake foods” look at Sweet Savory and Steph’s website. She has tons of good thing that aren’t hard to make, your family will like them too and calories are reasonable. I will add that THIS TAKES TIME to find dishes that you and your family love, keep you filled up and you look forward to cooking. Also, I concentrate on protein first. It keeps me full.
When you said, "I made this; it was gross," I laughed so hard that I had to rewind the video to hear what you said after that! Too funny. I don't know if you've tried Banza pasta, but I have found that I actually prefer that over whole wheat past. Oh, I just remembered you said you don't like chickpeas, so most likely you wouldn't like it. But, as you said, if you don't like the whole wheat pasta, you can just stick with regular. I really admire your perseverance, Bobbie!
Thanks Mary! I think I may have found a whole wheat pasta I like. I'm not sure of the name of it, but I'm sure it will be in a video coming up.
I make Gweneith Paltrow's It's all Easy Granola recipe and it's amazing and easy! Taste great with Plain Greek Yogurt
I think the problem is you following it like a diet. My dad's side of the family is Italian(my dad is first gen born American) with some Greek and a Spanish grandmother. Italians don't eat whole wheat pasta. Pasta isn't bad it's what you put on it that matters. Go get yourself an authentic southern Italian cookbook and a Greek cookbook( if you are drawn to those foods). You will find plenty of recipes you will like and many aren't complicated. I think this might be easier for your meal planning. Maybe you don't like all types of mediterranean food? Just focus on what types you like and make those instead of worrying about what the diet says. Just my 2 cents, good luck!
I like this way of eating but have learnt that having boiled eggs or zucchini egg and mushroom slice in the fridge is a great hunger buster for snacking. Good Luck hun, how much did you loose u didn’t say?
I think this is a good move for you. I know you can do this.
The book Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison, is a game changer!!
Bless your heart, nothing you try seems to work or be long term. Definitely keep up with the bike riding and the exercise from that will help. It is not easy to lose weight, if it were we would not have so many overweight people in this world. There just is no easy, magic way. If you keep saying to yourself that what you want to eat is okay and "move on" I can't see anyone losing weight. Maybe I am missing something in the ladies rationale. It makes no sense to me if you want to lose weight. You are just dwelling on it all the time. I just could not function that way but best of luck to you.
God bless you lovely lady
Whatever works for you!💗