3 CLEAR Signs It's Time to Cut Someone Out of Your Life

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  • 3 CLEAR Signs It's Time to Cut Someone Out of Your Life
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    3 Signs You Need to Kick Someone Out Of Your Life (For Good This Time)
    In this video I wanted to talk about - when do you know it's time to cut someone out of your life? For me, there are 3 clear signals to pay attention to in your relationships - whether they are extremely toxic abusive, manipulative, untrustworthy and make you feel not good, OR
    their habits or lifestyle are not in line with your values, or your highest good.
    Ask yourself, what does your most optimal ascension look like? Who do you need to be around to fan your flames? If being around them makes you regress (based on your goals & standards) then you need to release yourself from these relationships so you can move further forwards.
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  • @keshavbx
    @keshavbx  5 лет назад +197

    If you got some value from this video, PLEASE support me by sharing this on YOUR social media! It helps me a lot!!
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    • @engiikramcherkdodaaoui9536
      @engiikramcherkdodaaoui9536 5 лет назад +7

      You are doing such an amazing job literally... I appreciate so much your work ethic, as much as I love your way of thinking and how much you are supportive through your words, even if fortunately I don't give my time to negative people in general, it is still amazing to listen to you man!!

    • @keshavbx
      @keshavbx  5 лет назад +5

      @@engiikramcherkdodaaoui9536 Thanks so much for listening, watching, commenting, supporting - and all else. Most of all though, I'm pleased to hear you're giving negative people 0 time/attention. As always, you know I got you!

    • @pixsagmoonbluntsisters9928
      @pixsagmoonbluntsisters9928 4 года назад +1

      I was sharing something VERY POSITIVE and MEANT TO UPLIFT PEOPLE in an old Markiplier Video comment(I DO NOT EVEN REMEMBER WHICH ONE, BUT IS IS RELATED TO THE VIDEO) AND I WAS NOT EXPECTING PEOPLE TO CALL ME NAMES AND TAKE THOSE WORDS OFFENSIVELY I FELT SO DOWN FOR A YEAR SINCE THAT ISSUE, I COULD NO LONGER THINK AS QUICK AND GREAT AS I USED TOO SINCE THAT DAY, but IT ALL CAME BACK AGAIN WHEN I JOINED A CERTAIN BELIEF (NOT CHRISTIANITY OR ANY FAMOUS RELIGION) I ENDED UP BEING WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE TOO After gaining back my powers :) THIS VIDEO IS 999MILLION% True for me ♡♡♡

    • @doitbiatchx2961
      @doitbiatchx2961 4 года назад

      How do I tell him with out hurting him ?

    • @DarkWizardPrince
      @DarkWizardPrince 4 года назад

      This is such good advice.

  • @kclords1852
    @kclords1852 3 года назад +472

    Cutting toxic people out of your life doesn't mean you hate them. It means you LOVE YOURSELF enough to not go through the misery of their crap. I really needed this today.

    • @luxurylifestyle2510
      @luxurylifestyle2510 2 года назад +4

      When I was a teenager I was surrounded by frenemies that sabotaged and undermined me constantly behind my back. I wised you and expelled them out of my life. They weren’t friends! I don’t have any friends anymore but it’s better than having backstabbers in my life. Any advice on making solid, good friends?

    • @Meg-ws8ly
      @Meg-ws8ly Год назад

      ❤️👏👏👏👏

  • @davidpiedra7708
    @davidpiedra7708 4 года назад +498

    Glad I got rid of the majority of my friends. Kinda lonely but much healthier mentally and physically

    • @Lexiannasam
      @Lexiannasam 3 года назад +56

      Quality over quantity my friend.

    • @sweetgirl3901
      @sweetgirl3901 3 года назад +9

      Same pinch

    • @jamesthebond0072
      @jamesthebond0072 2 года назад +2

      Nice man I've never even had friends and I'm 23 thought this guy was my best mate when I was a teenager we use to all together but he use go around talking Nasyy horrible stuff behind my back legit and I would go around telling people what amazing Matt this guy was and how good he was ect and yeah I just went thsts enough and got rid off him but I have other mate that I've kinda stop hanging out with but I wouldn't really call them my friends as I'm known them since we'll since I was like 15 and he was likw 13 and he's 20 now so yeah I really only had like free friends in my whole life and these people would never do stuff with me like riding dirt bikes building cool projects like normal mates do and I live with narcissist right now that is kinda helped push my family and friends away haven't even had a root in 3 years 😭🤣 and I don't talk to anyone the only time I get to talk as when I whinge about my problems on youtube comments 🤣🤣 or talk to people on fb market legit talk about your problems hahaha trying living my nightmare

    • @lordbaylish3187
      @lordbaylish3187 2 года назад +4

      o Small circles are stronger o

    • @ElegantDzn
      @ElegantDzn 2 года назад +5

      I've made a complete 360 in my life from drugs and I was homeless for a short stint in my life, now I'm working for the government in an education setting helping troubled youth all while being 100% clean.
      I keep telling myself, after cutting everyone out to flop my life, "It can be lonely at the top; but if you're not on top of your own world - then whose world are you living in?"
      Much love to everyone.

  • @AstroMartine
    @AstroMartine 4 года назад +568

    It's hard to cut the toxic people out when those are the only ones around you.

  • @vangiekuparlyngdoh5112
    @vangiekuparlyngdoh5112 4 года назад +722

    Never in my life was I expecting me to search this 💔

    • @LeGoat_James23
      @LeGoat_James23 4 года назад +14

      Same dawg

    • @topflight6024
      @topflight6024 4 года назад +16

      Yeah man same here as well especially now thats its 2020 , i have to change my life around for the good because in the 2010's just seemed like i was a dog chasing my own tail.

    • @jessicaemilia101
      @jessicaemilia101 4 года назад +3

      Me too, I never saw it coming.

    • @Phaminator525
      @Phaminator525 4 года назад +16

      Same bro. Some people just don't give a shit about you no matter what so it's for the best.

    • @visa1090
      @visa1090 4 года назад

      Yup

  • @marvmoney9453
    @marvmoney9453 4 года назад +332

    Love when people who are toxic also cut themselves out of my life, it’s like thanks for doing the job without me doing it for you

    • @feelingoffbalance
      @feelingoffbalance 4 года назад +21

      It happened to me recently and it was such a blessing lol

    • @samanthajane11.11
      @samanthajane11.11 4 года назад +27

      The trash taking itself out 🤣

    • @miguelrobb5719
      @miguelrobb5719 4 года назад +22

      Samantha Jane hell yeah. I use to be bothered when I get unfriended from Facebook by people who I actually attempted to keep communication going on with. Now I’m at the point where I’m like “if you wanna step out of my life, there’s the door”. That goes for both real life and social media. Life is way too short to be dealing with this high school crap.

    • @clorrissiaperry6484
      @clorrissiaperry6484 4 года назад +8

      I had that happen to me they did me a favor.

    • @RC_17
      @RC_17 3 года назад +3

      👏🏻👏🏻yes!

  • @Josh-ct6ue
    @Josh-ct6ue 4 года назад +405

    It’s part of life I guess but it’s so draining constantly having to get rid of people like if only people would act right and just be good is that too much to ask for ?

    • @keshavbx
      @keshavbx  4 года назад +96

      We can't control what other people do or say, nor are we responsible for that. Just focus on doing right in your thoughts, words & behaviours & leave the rest alone.

    • @achik0457
      @achik0457 4 года назад +3

      @Nessas Nerditorium Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. 😊 I feel that I'm not the only one.

    • @kassiev5308
      @kassiev5308 4 года назад +12

      Nessas Nerditorium
      Nessas Nerditorium THANK YOU. I needed this. “Be your own best friend” , I’m trying that. I have this resentment towards myself for not being able to find a person (even at least one friend) who share the same values, interests as me that I’d started to think that maybe I am who I’m surrounded with (weekend/party friends) But something in me knows, that Im not shallow, manipulative and negative like them. I’ve started to minimize my interactions with them, and I’m trying to do this new thing where I talk to myself whenever I get upset, angry or feel troubled, and give myself advice as if I were talking to a friend. And so far, it’s better than when I converse with my so called friends. I pray to God, that one day he leads me to meeting a best friend who I can confide to, share my dreams with, be my true self around, and overall have a positive and reciprocal friendship with. Until then, I will love myself and be my own best friend.

    • @Feber2001
      @Feber2001 4 года назад +2

      @Nessas Nerditorium YES!

    • @Josh-ct6ue
      @Josh-ct6ue 4 года назад

      Nessas Nerditorium honestly you wrote allot if you would like send me an email would love to speak to you more about this and have discussions jj_osborne@outlook.com but what you said is right only a few of us who are deep and in touch with the world and care and want to spread love there’s many people out there from friends/ family who will use us betray us and play all sorts of games, take care of your son he needs you and keep winning and stay strong because dealing with disgusting people who hurt us and do all sorts can be very overwhelming we just have to be strong and be wise and understand the person who we are dealing with smoke drink they don’t care about you or anything and just hold yourself and respect yourself enough to cut them off and make room for great and good people

  • @LetsHangOutWithPrarthi
    @LetsHangOutWithPrarthi 4 года назад +389

    I am going to cut out all the toxic people from my life , and I won't tolerate abusive behavior from anyone.

    • @brandoncreighton775
      @brandoncreighton775 4 года назад +10

      Prarthi Balaji Hell yeah!! I believe in you!

    • @LetsHangOutWithPrarthi
      @LetsHangOutWithPrarthi 4 года назад +1

      @@brandoncreighton775 ^_^

    • @Enacaus
      @Enacaus 3 года назад

      it's been 5 years, have you finally removed them?

    • @LetsHangOutWithPrarthi
      @LetsHangOutWithPrarthi 3 года назад +4

      @@Enacaus Yes, It's been 5 months and I already have cut out many toxic people

    • @Enacaus
      @Enacaus 3 года назад

      @@LetsHangOutWithPrarthi
      how many?

  • @destinysparks6965
    @destinysparks6965 4 года назад +155

    It’s really hard when it’s family and they always look at you like you owe them something.

    • @REV-ux6ph
      @REV-ux6ph 3 года назад +4

      yep,Have a Friend i have helped when no one else has,i called her 1 day ,She did not know she hit talk,And she had company,and was talking about me like a Dog
      I have took her food when sick, Loaned her money,for propane,yet nothing never enough.about done with her

    • @shelbywilkerson235
      @shelbywilkerson235 3 года назад +6

      I struggled with that fact for many many years until my husband suddenly passed away...that changed my whole life and I did cut some family out! Just because you share the same DNA does not mean they are your family. Family are those you can count on and listens, they dont make you feel on the defense whenever they are around. You leave them feeling emotionally drained...its not healthy even Jesus Christ didnt tolerate betrayl. If you cannot trust them and know they speak badly of you...then they got to go, a sense of family is what you make of it..not the DNA!

    • @shelbywilkerson235
      @shelbywilkerson235 2 года назад +2

      @@REV-ux6ph Life is too short to tolerate that type of betrayl. No true friend tries to play in both circles( your circle) and ( the circle that talks badly of you) it never works and you are forced to make a choice but dont feel bad or shed tears over someone who pretended to care. bye bye to those who do this stuff you have to value yourself more and she crossed a boundry ..as I said even The man above does not tolerate it why should you?

    • @shelbywilkerson235
      @shelbywilkerson235 2 года назад

      @Mocha 777 TV yep the death of the love of my life opened my eyes to fake people and some were blood but truth is water is thicker than blood and "Family" should not ever involve betrayl in anyway. Family are those who are true to you not halfassed! I have dealt with life so much better when I cut them out!

    • @erniemarin1682
      @erniemarin1682 Год назад

      That's the problem. That's mental abuse towards us. Don't fall for it. It won't ever change.

  • @fighter500mx3
    @fighter500mx3 2 года назад +49

    I recently cut out some toxic friends out of my life but what still bothers me about it is i’ve been nearly friends with the wrong friends for nearly a decade and im kinda disappointed about myself for not realizing it before and i feel like i wasted good years with them. But now i feel more lonely but inleast i feel more healthy mentally and physically:)

    • @proleaguereplays8390
      @proleaguereplays8390 Год назад +1

      I m so dumb, wasted 21 years even after they have shown signs in the first few months.

    • @deltahomicide9300
      @deltahomicide9300 11 месяцев назад +1

      ​@THE MR MEN SHOW 1 31 year friendship here. They even owe me money but that's okay. If someone can live with such betrayal to save a few hundred bucks then good riddance.

    • @casval-pj5tb
      @casval-pj5tb 7 месяцев назад

      I had what I considered a good friend group for about 10 years. Some of it was my fault, I seen the warning signs, but like the old saying goes wish I knew now what I knew then.
      I wouldnt say you were stupid, thats one of the first things I said to myself, but you were naive as was I.
      There is also good memories. The bad ones might feel like they have more wieght but that's because it took something more to make a good memory than a mistake, therefore the betrayal hits harder.
      Now I have almost no one, except a few folks I've met recently, they are very kind and loving. But I still feel like a stray at times, where I really don't want to come too close.
      I've also done alot of self reflection, like was it actually just me and not an entire group of individuals. I'm still looking inward, the net is kinda scary. The I've got a splitnter in my finger Google medical search equivalent of asking psychological advice online basically says I've got mental cancer.
      Idk, I really don't. I just know that one day, I had to leave all of that behind and never go back. I've never felt so degraded.

  • @jordanmitchell9742
    @jordanmitchell9742 2 года назад +6

    It’s ashame it can be the very people who have been watching you for years that lowkey don’t want to see you do good. They can lie all they want but energy does NOT LIE. Remember that.

  • @jamarehire2011
    @jamarehire2011 3 года назад +62

    After a full year of loss, cutting ties with toxic people, and overcoming, I have finally found a friend that is supportive, encouraging, and we help each other to better ourselves. Trust, honesty, and unconditional love-what friendship is built on.

  • @2legit2Kwit
    @2legit2Kwit 4 года назад +105

    Constant negativity, feeling drained they repeat the same mistakes regardless of your advice.... cutting her off. Also, when I say I can’t hang out they guilt trip me. I guess I will just have to stop replying to their texts. That’s their only way in. I have been lying saying I’m out of town because I don’t want to hang out. My God....it’s going grey walk

    • @nalubowamaureenjoy9456
      @nalubowamaureenjoy9456 4 года назад +9

      Oh darling I stopped minding them and they texted saying how so mad they are and that I should respect them🤣🤯boy am not your wife and I thank the Good lord

    • @mrs0rochester
      @mrs0rochester 3 года назад +11

      Just ignore them and don’t look back.

  • @Byzantios1
    @Byzantios1 4 года назад +220

    For those living with toxic people/family: its next to impossible to remove them from you mind and for them to influence you. They won't respect your boundaries. They will recruit other family members and friends against you. The slander and gossip will be relentless. There is no choice, you have to get out and get away.

    • @Astro80s
      @Astro80s 4 года назад +8

      Or start over, move out etc, or just commit suicide. Thats my two choices

    • @danashaw8463
      @danashaw8463 4 года назад +4

      True FACTS!

    • @shanad4975
      @shanad4975 3 года назад +12

      Oh my god I can’t agree more it’s a living hell

    • @LunaticLuni
      @LunaticLuni 3 года назад +3

      100 subscriber's with video what-

    • @davinadel8450
      @davinadel8450 3 года назад +12

      Once you leave your toxic family your chosen family is around the corner a healthy family

  • @warriora7245
    @warriora7245 4 года назад +80

    bro ive never really had a friend that stuck around in a true and genuine manor, most people i allow myself to be surrounded by basically try to control me and my feelings/thoughts. Its to a point where i almost became submitted to living that way: being told what to do in the smallest ways. But recently i cut off all of those types of relationships and im feeling much better, like i did almost 3 years ago and its WEIRD. But just wanted to say thank you for this ENTIRE video, the more i watched this the more i realized that ive allowed myself to become exactly what your describing. Its an ugly realization, but one that frees you to not only make healthy relationships again, but believe in yourself because the parasite is gone.

    • @kclords1852
      @kclords1852 3 года назад +3

      Good for you! Defend your boundaries s
      man.. and if anybody crosses that line cut them off immediately- cuz if not, they'll continue doing it to see what they can get away with in the future.

    • @Gematrinator
      @Gematrinator 2 года назад

      Stop being a beta male then

  • @jennysheets
    @jennysheets 4 года назад +32

    I've cut friends out when they've gossiped, not been through major health issues, there was no reciprocity.

  • @xavieramador9134
    @xavieramador9134 2 года назад +9

    “You are the average of the 5 people you hang around with”
    That part right there really hit hard. I needed that.

  • @taralangton2417
    @taralangton2417 3 года назад +24

    I'm going through this now. I already started stepping away weeks ago and standing up for myself. The person is noticing. I will keep moving forward. Great things ahead. Anybody going through this, keeping moving forward for yourself. Love yourself enough to walk away from
    toxicity.

    • @rachaelbluee3222
      @rachaelbluee3222 3 года назад +3

      The person is a narcissist who needs to be blocked from ur life.

    • @Butterflyyyy9
      @Butterflyyyy9 2 года назад +3

      Yes my life has been sooo peaceful ever since i cut any toxic people out!

  • @Waveripper868
    @Waveripper868 4 года назад +24

    I never wanted to search this either but this person in my life makes me feel like a piece of shit everytime I talk to them and im just sick of it. This video really through some insight at me. Thank you for making this

    • @keshavbx
      @keshavbx  4 года назад +1

      Glad it helped. And sending you my best wishes ❤

  • @coachevy2851
    @coachevy2851 3 года назад +14

    I'm starting 2021 by cutting off passive aggressive friends. ☺😁😎

  • @vadamadsen292
    @vadamadsen292 4 года назад +46

    I needed to hear something like this. I just recently cut someone out. It hurt like hell cause I believed they were really there for me and I opened up to her about things I’ve never explained to anyone, things that barely come out with out tears or pain. I feel like she she was listening and she gave me a different vibe from everybody else. We did everything together even though she would bring me down about my body, the things I like, the way I talked, Etc. But I was so blinded by the thought of someone understanding me, who would also have fun with me , I couldn’t see the harm her words were doing to me, I just thought she was joking and would never do anything to hurt me because she was someone I was so vulnerable towards. They broke me down little by little. I never thought too hard into it till the people around me pointed it out and I realized they were right. I was hurt by so many things she said pointing out my insecurities And when I was at my lowest she was thriving off me being less than. And when I started to get to my highest place in life I’ve ever been, suddenly everything I did was wrong and wasn’t okay with her. I couldn’t not understand what was going through her head cause I was happy and it felt like she didn’t want me to be. I tried everything I thought of to fix things, and see what was going on. I got so tired of it one day I even asked her if she had a problem. I decided I was done feeling put down and taken advantage of. I’m not living my life by her rules or what’s not perfect about me. We all have flaws and I’ve just came to a place in my life where I am okay with not being perfect and not doing everything by the book. And I never want to hit rock bottom like that again so I will do anything I can to help myself keep going up and keep a clear head. And if that toxic relationship was something that was holding me back from that, then I was gonna have to let it go. It was so hard for me and it hurt me so much to have lost the one person I could tell everything to without feeling judged or ashamed, the one who I thought really wanted the best for me but I didn’t need the little things she said anymore, the things she would blame me for, or her making me feel bad about my mistakes. We learn from the past, not let it beat up our future. And I would tell her and let her know how it made me feel. She acted like she was sorry but then it would happen again. Eventually a person hits there limits and I decided ima fill my life with people who bring me up, who I can have fun with and make me be a better me. I am starting to love myself and like who I am. When u like yourself it makes it easier to like everyone else and have more good days. I have to be nicer to myself and not beat myself about everything she pointed out about me. It’s okay to not be Barbie or be everyone’s favorite person, cause everyone has already see that. Be something new and something you are proud of and hope everyone else can love it just as much. With out all the toxic words and comments flooding into your mind. The fog was lifted and everything got clearer when I put this person outside of my box. Even though it hurts, Sometimes that’s just what it takes to be in a good okay place in life and get the toxic out of your life so that you can grow into the best version of whoever you wanna be and reach everything you are looking for to make your life successful and meaningful. Hardest thing I’ve learned so far.

    • @clairelopez7092
      @clairelopez7092 2 года назад

      I'm literally speechless :) the whole time I was reading your comment it felt like it literally came out of my mind... I can't believe how your situation was similar to me because I have exactly the same kind of person in my life and after two years and a half I think I'm finally capable of letting her go even though I thought could die without her but I know she's only bringing me down and I deserve better... Honestly I only wanna keep good memories and just respect the relationship we had. thank you so much for sharing your experience💙

  • @jackistrang2566
    @jackistrang2566 4 года назад +62

    I needed this video. I have finally decided to let go of old time friend. Toxicity holds no place in my life :) im smiling and happy whilst typing this. Releif and weight off my shoulders.

    • @lizalane5745
      @lizalane5745 2 года назад +1

      How will you do it? Will you talk to them about it or will you just keep saying you’re busy?

  • @dianamaurer613
    @dianamaurer613 4 года назад +103

    This certainly applies to my twin sister. And my mother. I have cut my sister completely out of my life. And cut my mother out of my life too.

    • @dianamaurer613
      @dianamaurer613 4 года назад +9

      True Blue I’ve been rid of my sister since April this year my life is so much better with out her. I also 14 years ago cut my mother out. It can be done and I encourage you to do this. I’m alone in this world but at least I’m living my own life. So go for it and kick her to the curb.

    • @AlkoWasAlreadyTaken
      @AlkoWasAlreadyTaken 4 года назад +1

      True Blue I just had to cut my bipolar ex out of my life. It was making my anxiety and depression much worse and even though we agreed to be friends, she just was there for others way more than she was for me. It sucks, but I think it was the right thing to do.

    • @AlkoWasAlreadyTaken
      @AlkoWasAlreadyTaken 4 года назад

      True Blue I really struggled with it but in the end, you have to put yourself first. Always.

    • @AlkoWasAlreadyTaken
      @AlkoWasAlreadyTaken 4 года назад

      True Blue For sure. It definitely makes it more difficult since I still have to see her here and there due to being co-workers, but life goes on.

    • @yeshalloween
      @yeshalloween 4 года назад +5

      I also cut out my sister and mom from my life. It’s very hard. Not because I miss them, because I don’t. I don’t at all. But because I want a mother and sister so badly. Kind and loving relationships. I’m lonely but I’m not constantly feeling the pain that I felt in their presence

  • @bella7789
    @bella7789 4 года назад +13

    my “bestfriend” is so manipulative, unsupportive, controlling, etc. like i remember i got into a really good school and she didn’t even congratulate me all she said was how to pronounce the name of the school like girl what?!?! aren’t you supposed to be happy for me and i just found that so crazy and when i said i wanted to join the track team she was like “oh” . also she always asks me for stuff and not that i care abt money but like she spends my money and is like “i’ll pay you back” or “i feel bad for spending your money” like if you really did then you wouldn’t spend it?!?! it’s partly my fault i’m to nice to people i’m done being walked all over and also she is controlling like if i don’t do something for her she’ll get mad at me and give me attitude like she says she loves me but she doesn’t act like it. and whenever i act like myself around her she looks at me and is like “girl🤨” like that’s why i’m so insecure to be myself around people. and also ALL SHE DOES IS GOSSIP. literally she talks about everyone and about their flaws but who is she to judge?!?! she isn’t God. and to think she claims to be christian. her actions don’t show it. and let’s say we also hang out with someone else she totally forgets about me. she only hits me up when she needs something and i’m tired. i thank the Lord that we aren’t going to the same highschool. she emotionally drains me and i think i’m starting to become like her bc now i complain more then i usually did and i got it from her. i do NOT want to become like her. she is very toxic and manipulative. and she only is nice to me when i give her the stuff she wants. also when i try to vent and talk about my issues somehow the conversation goes to her? and her issues? it’s like i can’t get 2 sentences out without her saying “same” or “facts” or just changing the convo onto her issues. i’m so tired of her i’m done i really am. i am cutting her off for good. my old bestfriend warned me about her and i should have listened.

  • @leoniabrahams5586
    @leoniabrahams5586 3 года назад +8

    When you shared that "these people are not aligned with my highest optimal living" those words just hit a cord in my heart. I stopped myself from crying, but the truth can cut like a knife. Especially when those ties are blood! 🙏 I am extremely greatful for your input and efforts made to produce this video.

  • @hmm8761
    @hmm8761 4 года назад +11

    I never thought I'll have so many toxic frnds around but i do noww sooo.....
    Cutting them out

  • @elisa48092
    @elisa48092 4 года назад +5

    When you see them and you are afraid. This is a sign.

  • @emiliamariaturnescu9685
    @emiliamariaturnescu9685 4 года назад +48

    I wanted to cut a relative from my life a long time ago, the most toxic , manipulative , always wanted to make me feel like garbage , but i kept giving her chances , there where a lot of them , too much , i gave her too much credit , trusted her , and she always kept braking it , until yesterday when i finally decided to block her forever and in real life too , if i am obliged to see her i'll just pretend i dont know who she is .

    • @amit_patel654
      @amit_patel654 4 года назад +8

      I feel you. My older sibling is like that. Always has been. I'm planning on cutting contact permanently with her. I'm just working towards getting a job in another state before I do it. That's the only way I'll feel free.

    • @emiliamariaturnescu9685
      @emiliamariaturnescu9685 4 года назад +2

      @@amit_patel654 i wish you luck !

    • @adu1991
      @adu1991 4 года назад +6

      I've done this too with a few people who I knew were bad for me....but, later on, I also realized that continuing to give them a chance isn't doing me any good, and constantly forgiving them could be enabling their bad behavior.

  • @erikmunoz55
    @erikmunoz55 2 года назад +7

    I cut people out of my life who are afraid of confrontation. Some people who I thought were close to, didn’t tell me my ex was cheating on me with someone within the social circle. I don’t respect people who won’t confront people when wrong doing is being committed right in front of them. Morals and principles matter.

  • @lovearttherapyalways
    @lovearttherapyalways 2 года назад +5

    what if you have no friends because you keep getting back stabbed, used and bread-crumbed? I choose alone over fake ass friends who end up hurting you. Many of us have learned to tolerate crap from childhood and predatory fake friends smell this. I am no longer accepting crap fakeness... as I said I prefer my own company. Thanks for your video! God bless!

  • @ATouchofGod
    @ATouchofGod 2 года назад +4

    My life has changed since watching your videos. I have cut out every toxic person in my life. Now I’m flourishing! Thank you so much!

  • @joannacb5901
    @joannacb5901 3 года назад +5

    I never thought I'm gonna do this in my life. I'm emotionally and mentally became so drain for almost 2 years and now I have a courage to cut those people off in my life who've done this to me. They don't deserve me and I deserve better :")

  • @DecxmberDxrnell.
    @DecxmberDxrnell. 4 года назад +56

    I’m aaaaaaaaalways justifying myself. I don’t know why but 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @alphyzqrw7222
    @alphyzqrw7222 4 года назад +15

    The only way is to lend them money and let them get away with it. Works perfect 💯💯💯

  • @St.petersEye
    @St.petersEye 3 года назад +1

    I'm such a fool, I seen and ignored the signs....
    And hanged around to hear the hurtful words.

  • @bellanies.4726
    @bellanies.4726 4 года назад +4

    I’m having a hard time because this person has done good things before.. but when it’s bad it’s so bad. They make me feel terrible about myself. I am always super anxious around them. I walk on eggshells. They’ve done kind things for me.

    • @dominickfloyd8091
      @dominickfloyd8091 3 года назад

      If they make u feel like that then they are not your friends myG 💯

  • @baileyminton3562
    @baileyminton3562 4 года назад +65

    Yea the guy I used to like is really toxic. EVERY TIME I text him he “has to go”. I’m gonna cut him out

    • @oldvirgin4668
      @oldvirgin4668 4 года назад +7

      staywickedlyfrosty !!!!!!!
      That's mean he doesn't treasure you.

    • @CedroEscarlate
      @CedroEscarlate 4 года назад

      Same

    • @hellogoodbye11923
      @hellogoodbye11923 3 года назад +5

      Naturally. He just wasn't into you but he didnt have the heart to cut you out first :(

    • @voncohen
      @voncohen 2 года назад +1

      He is a coward and is toxic. You deserve better and I hope you find someone special and wonderful who fills you with love and not doubt or pain. 💗

  • @JJ_876
    @JJ_876 3 года назад +6

    Doing this to have a GREAT 2021. Thanks brother🙏🏿

  • @kalkieshwar6902
    @kalkieshwar6902 5 лет назад +12

    You are simply great Keshav... you are indeed an exceptional and dedicated person... Hard to find men like you... Thanks a lot for the video

  • @emusedone
    @emusedone 5 лет назад +54

    Another EXCELLENT video talk. I learned these exact lessons you speak so wisely about years ago (I’m old lol) You are spot on, and I share this with my adult daughter and others because it is so important. We are social beings, and my life became a brighter, more hopeful life when the constant negative people I kindly moved on from were gone. I always thought but I won’t have any friends? I’ll be alone. I trusted my decision though, and into my life appeared positive, loving, kind and wise people out of nowhere!

    • @Butterflyyyy9
      @Butterflyyyy9 2 года назад

      There is nothing wrong being alone you made the best decision for yourself is to protect your well-being. Instead of dealing with any toxic people who will drain the life out of you and it can also effect your mental health, emotional and physical well being you made the right decision for yourself ❤

  • @facksvillain2296
    @facksvillain2296 4 года назад +24

    I needed this my brother, I feel better now✌✌

  • @greengracie2006
    @greengracie2006 4 года назад +10

    You deserve so much love omg

  • @eyebaqz
    @eyebaqz 5 лет назад +9

    This is very detailed and helpful thank you!

  • @BabeBee.
    @BabeBee. 2 года назад +3

    Thank you I really needed this right now. I'm always scared of being lonely but it is way overdue for me to do this.

  • @danfloros4267
    @danfloros4267 4 года назад +1

    Keshav - concise, incisive, inspirational. Keep up the great work.

  • @paulettemcwaters8557
    @paulettemcwaters8557 Год назад +1

    It is my daughter, she has 4 almost grown children and has convinced them I am not worth knowing. This has happened just in the last 3 years, I am not a good enough...she insists we have an unhealthy relationship. This started in 2019 when I told her I was leaving the family home to her sister...

  • @prashantduse8406
    @prashantduse8406 4 года назад +3

    I needed this... I don't want negativity anymore

  • @leonarddecaprio8872
    @leonarddecaprio8872 4 года назад +6

    Keep it real man, honestly some impactful content.

  • @lebradavis8447
    @lebradavis8447 3 года назад +1

    Thank you so much. You said it best... " they will aggrivate their feelings towards you because of their own insecurities and jealousy.

  • @rhiannanivens3219
    @rhiannanivens3219 3 года назад +2

    Absolutely amazing! Thank you for your wonderful truth and insight, to reach my highest good! 😊

  • @anouschkachirmoti6104
    @anouschkachirmoti6104 5 лет назад +5

    Thank you so much for this valuable video support

  • @anakovalova2915
    @anakovalova2915 Год назад

    Ahh, Thank you so much! Made it so much clearer and less difficult for me 😊 Sometimes you just need to hear some words of wisdom which you already know but are afraid to face.

  • @sometimes935
    @sometimes935 3 года назад +1

    I'm literally at the point that I'm wearing headphones all day.

  • @amit_patel654
    @amit_patel654 4 года назад +3

    Thanks for this video man. I really needed to hear this.

  • @draylontraylor9421
    @draylontraylor9421 5 лет назад +9

    Thank you so much for your videos . Your videos helped me get through a tragic heartbreak but by actually listening to what you say u help me day by day and just thank you for being an amazing and inspirational person 💯

    • @keshavbx
      @keshavbx  4 года назад

      A pleasure to be that voice & guide at this time for you man. Keep going

  • @nicoletteanderson594
    @nicoletteanderson594 3 года назад

    Your message is on point. I’m going to start shutting the door on some folks!

  • @destinyariahburris6850
    @destinyariahburris6850 4 года назад +1

    This is the first video of yours I've seen and I can see the passion you have! I definitely am invested thank you for being positive and down to earth!!

  • @Sunflowers739
    @Sunflowers739 3 года назад +3

    Thank you so much for your videos it’s very helpful. This is exactly what I needed during this time in my life

  • @staceyjohnson2929
    @staceyjohnson2929 2 года назад +1

    So glad I found you. I kept saying, "Yes!" as you spoke. Thankfully, I've already cut ties with this person in my life. But your video just proves to me that I did the right thing.

  • @gabrieldelacruz9015
    @gabrieldelacruz9015 4 года назад +8

    My cousins ask me to drink with them everyday, i say no and they keep calling and texting and in person they nag and nag!!! I have my own business and i cant get to work on time bc i end up giving in and i havent had a full weeks pay bc i have them around to manipulate me, they are my roommates!!!! Im fed up of i have to ill sleep in my truck

    • @keshavbx
      @keshavbx  4 года назад +2

      Do what you gotta to do to unlock your full greatness bruh

  • @elizapansoy
    @elizapansoy 4 года назад +3

    Never expect myself to search about such topic but I know I really need this 💔! Thank you for sharing this! It’s a big help 💕

    • @summer-sk1xn
      @summer-sk1xn 4 года назад

      Did you cut that person off?....

  • @abdul-raheemmuhammad6409
    @abdul-raheemmuhammad6409 2 года назад +1

    Thanks. The first "sign" hit hard, and that is what I'm going through with this so-called 'home health aid' who is causing me a great deal of hopelessness, anger, and distrust with her manipulative and controlling behavior.

  • @linadiaz7101
    @linadiaz7101 3 года назад

    Time to do this. Thank you. This is the year I clean up.

  • @thanvijitendra
    @thanvijitendra 4 года назад +4

    This is the first self help video I watched on repeat and probably I'll again 😅 you said exactly what was in my mind but in a much clearer way which boosted me confidence.

    • @keshavbx
      @keshavbx  4 года назад +1

      Thank you. I'm glad it's helped so much!

  • @RawTruthRealFreedom
    @RawTruthRealFreedom 3 года назад +1

    I’ve been searching for this very information/affirmation-You nailed it, presenting all of my research to this end in the best way and adding invaluable insight. THANK YOU SO MUCH. May God bless you.

  • @jerseyrocrarebreed1825
    @jerseyrocrarebreed1825 4 года назад +3

    Perfection Bro!!!!thank u💯💯👍

  • @Dil.Careem
    @Dil.Careem 3 года назад +1

    Wowww, thanks for a great video. 2020 has been a year of dropping toxic people for me & I'm just going to to keep the momentum going in 2021. Who else experienced the same?

  • @xstyreyes1983
    @xstyreyes1983 4 года назад +7

    Luv this video feel sad needed hear this!

  • @ixchel3993
    @ixchel3993 2 года назад +1

    You came into my life at the correct moment. Thank you for your time and teachings Keshav♥️

    • @keshavbx
      @keshavbx  2 года назад +1

      My pleasure :)

  • @sidajith
    @sidajith 2 года назад

    Thanks for this video Keshav. Really powerful idea and thought.

  • @Iamsimplyfree
    @Iamsimplyfree Год назад

    Wow, listening to this I'm realizing how thankful I am for the people in my life and for my inner wisdom. Thank you.

  • @hc2435
    @hc2435 4 года назад +1

    Wow I love your spiritual sprinklings in your advice

  • @TheRaveenaPatel
    @TheRaveenaPatel 3 года назад +4

    This is the best advice I have received in a while ❤️ thank you for creating the video🔥

  • @iiiiiiigggg
    @iiiiiiigggg Год назад

    Aweee that is so sweet to say don’t like and share this video , basically take care of yourself first

  • @rowan4799
    @rowan4799 3 года назад +1

    Thanks! The person I’m cutting out is really fading away, thank god! 😅

  • @Dutchenter
    @Dutchenter 3 года назад +2

    Thanks for sharing this helpfull information. ❤️🍀

  • @_gacha_karis_1047
    @_gacha_karis_1047 3 года назад +1

    Thanks for your work on this video!!!!

  • @tjebbour
    @tjebbour 3 года назад +3

    I never commented on RUclips. 39 M here, very manly and you made me drop some tears man. What a great video. It touched my core. Thank you

    • @keshavbx
      @keshavbx  3 года назад +1

      Thank you 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💛

  • @motivationalvideosbybhawan5579
    @motivationalvideosbybhawan5579 4 года назад

    Thank you for this wonderful video, I really needed it.

  • @letgooftherope
    @letgooftherope Год назад

    Always feeling that I need to be prepared "just in case" my family "might" visit..... no more. I want to thrive. 🌻

  • @Omuffin
    @Omuffin 2 года назад

    Thank you, thank you, and thank you again. I really needed to hear this video.

  • @clairewalsh5306
    @clairewalsh5306 3 года назад

    Yes, good, supportive. Thank you.

  • @Youngprincess05
    @Youngprincess05 Год назад

    Applying the good advice in videos on RUclips is so satisfying ❤ You feel like you’re on the right way. 🔥

  • @ayoomotayo3006
    @ayoomotayo3006 2 года назад

    Thanks for letting me know this

  • @jakekiddle6659
    @jakekiddle6659 3 года назад

    Your video really is helping me through a tough situation. I had to do this to the person I love. But you speak so much truth. Thank you!!! ♥️

  • @virgomoons
    @virgomoons 3 года назад

    So thankful I found this video and channel. was getting pretty desperate for answers on what to do I definitely need to cut a few toxic ppl out of my life. Thank u so much for the help 🙏 God bless

  • @ironliterature4908
    @ironliterature4908 4 года назад +2

    blocking a bunch of old friends, lets goooo

  • @sebastianechegaray9622
    @sebastianechegaray9622 3 года назад

    You kept it real man, made me realize so much stuff. Keep it up!!!

  • @venusianscorp
    @venusianscorp 4 года назад

    Just what I needed to hear, thank you 🙏

  • @rakhisaha9654
    @rakhisaha9654 Год назад

    This is an amazing job thank you so much helped me a lot

  • @stacyjaye6350
    @stacyjaye6350 2 года назад +1

    "Better to be alone, then in bad company." - some random dude.

  • @sandypersaud4248
    @sandypersaud4248 3 года назад

    Thank you for all your advice I have so much peace looking at your videos .

  • @jackary850
    @jackary850 5 лет назад +2

    Good stuff man

  • @mysongs2723
    @mysongs2723 2 года назад +2

    Thanks a million for the advice. I have a sister that loves to control my life. I have to cut ties. It's hard but she is making my life unbearable to live. I have to let her go.

  • @SthairyaGowda
    @SthairyaGowda 3 года назад

    thanks for this I had a family friend who kept on making me think twice about my choices when they are my choices and he manipulated my other friends he had met online this helped a lot thank you so much

  • @42Laj
    @42Laj 3 года назад

    This was excellent! Thank you.

  • @erniemarin1682
    @erniemarin1682 Год назад

    Thank you.
    I tried to cope with toxic & negative family members and friends. for nearly 20 plus years. I'm done with them. I made a decision and I feel mentally healthier than I ever have.

  • @dacaraj3658
    @dacaraj3658 4 года назад +1

    Well said, keep up great job ....

  • @Shaun49ers
    @Shaun49ers 3 года назад

    This was very helpful. Thank you.

  • @samiaislam5684
    @samiaislam5684 3 года назад

    This was so helpful. Thanks a lott!!