This song is about her best friend, who committed due to mental health struggles. This is best referred in the line “I think I’ll miss you forever, like the stars miss the sun on a morning sky” which is truly heartbreaking.
as much as this is a beautiful sentiment, this is untrue and is a rumor. she’s done several interviews in which she’s explained what inspired her to create the song, and her best friend’s suicide is not one.
@@hectordied hi.. I don't know Lana's songs and stories very well (probably cause I refuse to explore due to my heart being broken every time I hear her voice), could you tell what she said it's inspired from? Please?
@@jeannefostergoriot6804 “I was staying in Santa Monica, California with my composer and best friend, Dan Heath. I would sit under the telephone wires and listen to them sizzle in the warm air while he went to work. I wanted to take the electricity and absorb it so it would make me feel alive and electric again. I felt happy in the warm weather and started writing about how sad and gorgeous the summertime felt to me."
Also, a little side fact most aren’t privy to, but Jaime King’s husband is the director of the music video, and initially they were going to cast a male lead, but Lana wanted a female lead. I know her and have met her several times over the years because my Dad is in a band and they played a lot of the same festivals. She’s amazing to converse with, and she actually told me this. She wanted a female lead to reflect a side of her she rarely shows to the public. Sure, her preference is older men, but she also appreciates a woman in a deeper, more meaningful way than what is traditionally known of her. So, that’s how Jaime being cast as the female lead came to be. 😊
Thank you so much for sharing this! It's still so wild to me that you've had these convos with her, it's so special. Love that she wanted to show this side, it is very needed.
Omg you are soo lucky ❤ it’s my dream to meet her one day! Also she looks like such an making person 😊 Do you have any more stories to share they are really appreciated ❤
@@Ocean-3000 She’s an incredible human being. Like me, she’s a deep thinker and loves learning. We’ve talked about everything from music and songwriting, to family and different types of trauma and how it manifests in our lives, to addiction, to girls and guys, to the question, “Why am I here?” Idk what kind of story you wanted…Just a general overview like I did or specifics. I am a fiercely loyal friend and I’m guarded with what I say in relation to her. She’s been dragged through the mud so many times, and she didn’t/doesn’t deserve it at all. So, I can tell you things that are public knowledge or stories like the one I commented on above that doesn’t give away anything very personal. If you’re looking for gossip, you won’t find that here. I don’t think that’s what you meant anyways though.😊 Did that help?
@@pele_the_phoenix oh no no I’m really not looking for gossip I just want to learn more about her and her story because I really admire her ❤️ I’m sorry I didn’t want you to think I want personal information 🥰 thank you soo much for spending time writing this I really appreciate it and you are so lucky to get to call her a friend😊 thank you again for all your help❤️❤️❤️
I didn't believe that music or an artist could have the power to touch someone so much until I met Lana. I know that many lay people who have never bothered to get to know her music say that her songs are sad and that they can encourage negative things. I understand that certain topics can trigger some people, but for me, listening to her was what gave me strength. I have never felt so lost in my life, but hearing about how she managed to move on and how she continues to fight her own demons gives me hope that I can too. I am grateful to have met Lana.
Also, while this video is obviously about ending one's life, i find it inspirng in the scope that Lana has openly admitted she "doesn't want to be here" and said she wishes she was dead in interviews but she "keeps going." I find that inspring as someone who has been feeling that way at times in my life for prolonged periods. 🥺
The fact that I never knew what this song was about... But as someone who has dealt with those thoughts and impulses my whole life, I do appreciate what you had to say.
what i’m about to say is not exactly triggering, but it is pretty dark (but the second part is really important), because i can speak from experience of someone who tried to end it and survived. a lot of the times we do it because we don’t really feel loved by others, and 99% of the time when you ask for help people won’t listen, say they’re busy but they love you, people don’t take it seriously or worse: drop you off at the hospital and then you’re treated like shit by professionals. people with BPD find it very difficult to find a professional that will take their case just because their unreliable, so how can you ask for help when there’s no one to ask to, not even professionals? but there’s the other side of this, when you do it and you realize you will die, it feels like all your problems have solutions, you feel the love of your close ones, you fear how they will feel, you fear you won’t see them again, and now all you worry about is your survival, because everything else is manageable. so if you’re reading this, don’t let yourself get close to that edge, you don’t need to harm yourself in order to get a solution, and even if people seem busy they probably are just busy, and you’re far from being a burden, you’re a human for god sake, your tiredness will pass if you give yourself space to rest bc you have time to fix your problems, and all that love and care you desperately want from others, why don’t you give that to yourself? what would happen if instead of harming yourself you ran a nice cozy bath, watch a cozy movie, watched the moon above the dark sky? if you give yourself some space like a journal or a canvas to put it all out with no judgement words, and let things just be? what if you let life embrace you, even with hardships, you can chose to carry the good things, even the really little ones, in your heart.
Loved this comment. I too have bpd and tried and survived. Not many know how close I was to succeeding as I had distanced myself from everyone. At my worst I remember suddently getting like a primal instinct to survive, with this you are describing with thinking about other people and such. I was lucky and managed to call an ambulance on myself. Shortly after this episode I could start to actually feel benefit from my treatment and today 3 years later I am SO thankful I survived. Life didn't stop throwing hardships my way, and I still have BPD and PTSD but I am close to building a life for myself that truly feels worth living and I can co-exist with my emotions in a way I haven't been able to before. I can find joy in small things and look to the future with excitement most of the time. I never thought it could be possible for me.
What you wrote in the description almost made me cry. Thank you so much. I have been battling severe clinical depression and anxiety for around three years. I've been in hospital for a week before, due to attempted suicide. Nowadays, I struggle with fighting off self-harm and substance use cravings. I've failed therapy repeatedly. My anti-depressants aren't doing anything. I have stage 1 autism, and I'm burnt out from it. I have severe trust issues, because I was bullied and physically beaten up in primary school by my "friend". Teachers did nothing to help when I told them I had no friends - repeatedly. My BFF for 9 years (since I was about 4 years old) turned out to be a gaslighter and manipulative. We haven't been in contact for over a year... and I still have nightmares about her. Every friend I've had since turned out to be fake. They've ganged up against me for being Christian, others have spread rumours about me, some have talked badly about me behind my back, whilst they're nice to my face. Others have ghosted me and cut me out. Now, I isolate myself and refuse to have friends. I don't trust them. Thank you so much for your description.
Hot take: so this song she wrote about a friend that killed herself I'm pretty sure, but i think the song is about going on with your life and living after someone you know kills themselves. Thats why she tells the saddness to kiss her before it goes, she feels bad about moving forward. She wants to feel really sad again for her friend before she moves on
I feel the timing of things serve a purpose and I can’t help but think this came at this time for you to react to for the purpose of one or all of us potentially relating to this is some way at this very time and don’t have somewhere else for hear these words from: “to stay”. Thank you for all you do to promote mental health awareness, hope, and wellness, to include addressing those of us who may experience times of struggle. I never saw this imagery coming to accompany these lyrics and found it equally upsetting ; and, it honestly has tainted the otherwise upbeat relaxing-ish nature of the song for me. I do appreciate her bringing awareness to the topic and feel she did that thing Taylor does where she has the upbeat music and the lyrics with such heavy/sad meaning behind it. I appreciate that you go to uncomfortable places in your channel because often you may be the video who helps someone on any given day with your messages of worth, hope, and beauty in and to be had in this life. Sending so much love to you and all of us who have been affected by these delicate and such important topics. ❤️🩹🤍
Also, your message reminds me of “Please stay” by Lucy Dacus. When I lost my friend last year due to neglected health issues this song was pure pain, I wish I could have hugged him and begged him to stay…
It's so painful to lose them. It's haunting. Sending you love and sorry you have to experience this horrible pain. I will absolutely check out that song.
As a person who experienced this team song in my own skin and lost dear person, I know exactly how that feels. For all of you who lost hope, PLEASE stay for yourself, I promise better days will come. You are LOVED.
I appreciate your words so much, Mere. Having suffered losing the greatest loves of my life, first, my bf back in 2011 and my best friend in 2020, both listed as suicides, both known by their loved ones to not be the case, has been such a devastating blow to my life, it's been so difficult at times, but this too shall pass, right ?? 🙂 Huge hugs. Thank you for this !! And thank you for Lana's artistry. Without it, i truly don't believe I'd be here today. THIS TOO SHALL PASS !! 💞💞💞
i'm from the northeast of Brasil, in a town called Olinda. we have a shopping mall built in 2017/8, and since then, more than 7 people killed themselves there, like you said, when a person do that, others may try too
That message is what I needed, this video is what I needed. Especially with the way I’m feeling, I am a single mom to twins and this whole video healed me in a way
I suffer from suicidal ideation, mostly passive, but I also have suffered the effects of losing someone I cared for to it. I was 12 years old when I was called that one of my best friends, who was only 10 at the time, had done it. It is such a hard thing at any point in someone's life to understand, I think, but man, as a 12 year old, I really thought somehow maybe it was my fault and I should have been able to do something. That was 33 years ago and it still haunts me and I still miss him and look at his picture. I carried his funeral slip with me for years after in my purse. And honestly, sometimes, the fact that I went through it with losing him has been one of the only things that has kept me from doing it myself because I didn't want to leave anyone else in those same feelings so by ending his, he may have saved mine.
Hi Mere, thank you so much for this! There were always a theory this was about a friend of her who committed. After her song Fingertips, we now know what's this about: Aaron Greene, who used to be her boyfriend, ended up dead. He died by a car crash. The visuals of this video, the car, the road... In Dark Paradise she said "I wish I was de@d, like you". She struggled about his dead for so many years.. 💔
“Please stay”, your words reminded me so much of the message Twenty Øne Piløts try to pass on, it’s a thing already for them to say “stay alive” or something like that since most or their songs are about dealing with mental health issues, they even created a whole world and built a story that kinda explains how it feels like having thoughts taking control of your life, trying to recover, relapsing etc They’re incredibly creative and so important for many people for speaking about it, some songs that I find extremely important and beautiful even about a sensitive topic like that are “Friend, please”, “Truce”, “Neon Gravestones” and “Redecorate”
This is a hard one to watch. It seems suicide is a thing in my world of family and friends. My partner of almost 10 years ended it on March 24th 2010. Then both my cousins in 2018. They were brothers. My nephew in August of last year. His mother found him and now this month on the 6th of June, my oldest brother ended it, he was 61. I feel that no matter what I do it surrounds me. They just don't get how much hurt it causes the people left behind. I am gutted. Don't know how much more I have to endure.
That is absolutely devastating to read and let alone live. The impact on you is so great. I really hope you are letting yourself live, grieve, feel anger, whatever you need given this. The rates are increasing and the contagion effect is so real and fucking awful. I’m so sorry. Please do whatever you can to support yourself. Sending ❤️
@@mendwithmere, thank you. I do, actually. I am an artist. I turn Taylor Swift up or whatever I am feeling on that day and play it loud. It drowns out all the noise in my head. If I didn't have that I don't know what I'd do. I have a painting family on FB with just a couple of really good friends from Australia that I talk to on the reg. It helps me tremendously as does your channel. The LDR today was tough and I was not expecting it. I finished it but then went and mixed paint with Taylor on for a couple hours.
her best friend committed suicide and this video is about that, she talks about it also in fingertips when she says "I was in Monaco, I couldn't hear what they said on the telephone, I had to sing for the prince in two hours, I gave my self two seconds to cry" (if I ain't wrong, maybe that's another experience that she had, but I knew summertime sadness was about that)
Found your video randomly and wanted to thank you for this. Not long ago I heard a slowed down w/ more reverb version of this song and it just gutted me. It hit me right in that place I know all too well. I'm a musician and did my own version of this song, but it took me a while because I found it difficult to do it in a way that felt right. I think this song captures the helpless, passionate and tragic nature of the human condition. It's hard to keep going when you fave that void.
I've waited for this reaction so long...and it came. Awww! So happy 😊 One of my favorite songs by Lana, even though is so sad, I see such "lost Hollywood" cinematic vibes, love the video.
I adore you. Thank you for everything you do and your vulnerability. As a person who very recently has had thoughts of suicide, your words warm my heart. ♥️
I just wanted to say, heartly, Thank you. For your words, sharing your thoughts and experience about this topic. I have been really bad lately, and sometimes The world and Life itself are way too much to endure. And dark thoughts take place. And then, your words, besides making me cry, gave me Hope. Things can get better, and time can give wisdom and purpose. Thanks you, for speaking about this Ps: Love your videos and reflections Ps2: Lana 💕
This song hits so deep, it’s like an anthem for the kind of sadness that lingers in your bones. Summertime Sadness feels like a cry from the soul, capturing the weight of loss, the ache of missing someone, and the emptiness that follows. Every lyric echoes that pain of knowing you can never get them back, yet the memories haunt you like shadows. It’s more than just a song-it’s like Lana has put into words and music the feelings I can’t fully express. The line, ‘I just wanted you to know, that baby, you’re the best,’ is such a heartbreaking reminder of how we sometimes lose the people we love most, and all we’re left with are those memories. As I listen, I feel the heaviness in my chest, and it’s like I’m reliving my own sadness and loss through her voice. As they say, ‘Some scars are felt, not seen’… and this song is a reminder of the scars that stay with us forever.😔
Really appreciate and enjoy your channel... Love the Lana content, i enjoy hearing your take on things. Your energy is calming as well. Anyways, just wanted you to know how much i enjoy your channel and that i appreciate you speaking about this sensitive but relevant topic. It really shows how much you care and that's a beautiful thing these days. Have a beautiful day 🌫️🌬️✨
Thank you for posting this, this is very important. I’m going through a lot at the moment but knowing that everything happens for a reason and I just don’t know the reason yet helps a lot.
Wow, I had never heard this song in this way before either. I think this video should have a clearer trigger warning, especially for the graphic images. A few years ago someone in my community died in this way. I never knew the person, (and I don't want to make this all about me) but I was amazed to see how many people felt the loss so deeply and were grieving. People who were usually completely focused on work/school dropped everything to take care of one another. This just shows how important people are, and how much they matter to everyone. It made me realize how much people truly cared about me, even when it didn't feel like it. I was really struggling, but I promised I wouldn't become another tragedy. It gave me the strength to get the support I needed and take time off to prioritize myself. Things were shitty for a long time, and I'm not going to downplay how painful it was. I used to wonder if it was worth even trying, but now I know that it is. I'll still be working on stuff for a while, but it's so much easier now. I didn't think I would ever be in the place I am today. I'm doing really well now, and am happier than I have ever been. I can do the things I want to do and actually enjoy my life. I'm really proud of who I've become. I've been able to share my story and encourage others to take care of their mental health. I've even had someone thank me, saying I helped them greatly. It really did get better and I'm so glad I'm still here. To anyone reading my random youtube comment, please stay. I hope this isn't too cheesy, but healing is always possible if you're still here.
Don't know if anyone else has said it yet, but this song is about a dear friend of Lana's who killed herself in the summertime via jumping off a bridge. Every time summer comes by, she's depressed cause it makes her remember that. Hence the name of the song, Summertime Sadness
as much as this is a beautiful sentiment, this is untrue and is a rumor. she’s done several interviews in which she’s explained what inspired her to create the song, and her best friend’s suicide is not one.
@@alicebenotto6998 “I was staying in Santa Monica, California with my composer and best friend, Dan Heath. I would sit under the telephone wires and listen to them sizzle in the warm air while he went to work. I wanted to take the electricity and absorb it so it would make me feel alive and electric again. I felt happy in the warm weather and started writing about how sad and gorgeous the summertime felt to me."
Im a 50yr old woman. 6 yrs ago my 18yr old son unalived himself. It did make me feel inadequate that I couldn't save him. I know now it wasn't my fault. His suicide took years off my life. I just barely rejoined life.
Very obviously about a sapphic relationship in the music video, I don't understand why her fans try to hard to steer from it or that it possibly can't. Even the director said so. Love this reaction!! Its such a nostalgic and beautiful music video..
pls, that'll be such a pleasure to watch your reaction to Off to the Races, by Lana. there's so much goin' on there. the literary thing's not missing. lyrically it's insane. the production never gives up either!
That song hits so hard! I came across it when it piqued my curiousity that it had the same producer by the name Patrik Berger who featured as a co-producer on TAY's The Anthology song, I Look In People's Windows. He also produced Icona Pop's biggest hit, I Love It.
I think this is one of her penultimate songs. I know it’s also probably her most popular, but I think it encapsulates everything about her that people fell in love with. This includes the way she calls out themes like in this song in a way that make people really uncomfortable.
I believe that this video represents the “pointlessness” of suicide. In the end, after her friend/partner commits suicide, they both end up in a dark, misty, empty space but are separated from eachother; each trapped by the mistake they made and only able to look across from eachother, not actually able to still be with eachother which was her hope after thinking about the memories they had of being together while alive. In the end they realized they permanently sealed their fate separated and apart from one another.
So glad to see you do something besides Taylor. Having said that, Taylor is what brought me to your channel, and I've been obsessed, but there's so many I want to recommend for you, especially as a therapist I think would be so great coming from you and help your channel. Taylor loves Lana too, and Taylor is the reason I even know who Lana is, so I now love Lana as well, but on a way, different level than Taylor. I have more suggestions for you but don't know how to get them to you 😊
I didn't realise that the people who recommended it before didn't give a warning, or I would have said something 💜 I know you have a long list of recs already, but if you need a lighter song after this, you could try the music video for "Love". Thank you for sharing this even though it was hard, and take care of yourself. 💜✨
Everything you said here is why the club/radio remix that always gets played always bothers me so much. This is a serious, beautiful piece of art that should be appreciated for what it is. Lana got a lot of flack over the years for idealizing suicide but it's not her fault the general masses chose to mindlessly listen to the upbeat, dance remix.
Your reaction is very justified because the subject is so sensitive in itself. I had a friend who died by suicide last summer. I read a comment that said that this is about one of Lana's friends who ended her life during a summer and hence, the name because now, every summer she thinks of it. I would know :') I think about some frames of the music video, that are repeated multiple times and it makes me think of how it feels to lose someone. Some memories, more than others, keep replaying in your head during the aftermath and you just can't seem to get them out of your head. It's very disturbing, to say the least. I hope you're feeling better, much love.
Hi Mere! I really wish you would react to Hollywood Bowl, Lost at Sea and Sweet Carolina, these songs always bring me to tears but on a very positive and wholesome way. These are collaborations of Lana with her Dad (playing the piano) and they are so incredibly beautiful! Sweet Carolina is for her sister, they are very close and as someone who doesn’t have much of a relationship with my own sister I find their deep love for one another extremely touching. ❤
I watched your video for Ride & hearing your take on the line "I was born to be the other woman, who belonged to noone, who belonged to everyone" makes me think (if you're up for it) you should react to the song The Other Woman it's SUCH an interesting song
Not the reason I really don't like summer, but it's thirty summers since I lost a friend to suicide, and a dear friend who saved my life lost a brother to suicide this summer. First time in I can't recall how long that I've been able to listen to this while it's still technically summer; already feels like Autumn here, which may have made a difference; certainly I've never been able to seek out reactions before. kerk
What if you’re someone who doesn’t have anyone in your life who cares about you? Genuinely asking. How does one cope? My family has abused me my whole life. I have no friends because I realized the ones I had were toxic too, so I removed them from my life. The only living thing I would worry about leaving behind is my cat. She’s the only reason I’ve hung on. I just can’t leave her. But what happens when she passes?
What a beautiful lady, Lana Del Ray (her real name is Elizabeth Grant, and yes, her ancestry is Scottish; the Red Hair is a giveaway)! She has great drama and a great voice!
Lana is prone to these types of videos and lyrics, talking about self destructive feelings and relationships... But summertime sadness is the most painful one in my opinion!!!
YESSSSS BACK TO LANA LFG😭😭💜💜💜💜 you NEED to do Sportscruiser from her poetry book, there’s a recorded track you need it and I need your thoughts cause I think you will see it as I do💜
I don't know if you have yet, but if you haven't, listen to "Breathe" by Forest Blakk. It is a poem about suicidal ideation. In it, he beautifully narrates the thought behind suidide, at the same time that he counterpoints how unkind it is for other people. And the struggle within the individual who has these thoughts.
this morning i went through my suicide note once again, have been depressed for more than ten years now. i don't seem to get better, and i'm completely missing life as a breathing corpse. my siblings have great lives, and my one and only fear is my sister hurting herself if i do something. anyway, long story short you made me cry
You stay here. Your sister needs you. The Earth needs you. I know with every ounce of my being that you will see a change, it may take longer, but just stay ❤️
You know what’s wild Mere As a long time Lana fan and watching this at the time it came out…it didn’t feel like it was about eyl. It felt about a breakup, and wallowing in the summer.
Weird question but working with disturbed people are you armed or have a panic button in your office i could imagine people get pretty worked up talking sometimes.
Hi! I am work with clients virtually at the moment. I’m licensed in NY but currently live in Ohio. When working in person in college counseling centers, we had a panic button and secret code words to alert our coworkers without anyone knowing. When I worked alone in an office with my private practice before Covid, I didn’t have any of that and it did concern me. Everything has changed so much now. Thank you for the question and concern 🤍
Mere!! I love your content and would LOVE to see you react to "Coffee" by Chapell Roan, is a gorgeous song and so full of meaning. Hope you can, love your videos!! ❤
This song is about her best friend, who committed due to mental health struggles. This is best referred in the line “I think I’ll miss you forever, like the stars miss the sun on a morning sky” which is truly heartbreaking.
It really is so heartbreaking
as much as this is a beautiful sentiment, this is untrue and is a rumor. she’s done several interviews in which she’s explained what inspired her to create the song, and her best friend’s suicide is not one.
(not to say that the video isn’t about such topic at all, though! i’m just expressing the fact of the matter)
@@hectordied hi.. I don't know Lana's songs and stories very well (probably cause I refuse to explore due to my heart being broken every time I hear her voice), could you tell what she said it's inspired from? Please?
@@jeannefostergoriot6804 “I was staying in Santa Monica, California with my composer and best friend, Dan Heath. I would sit under the telephone wires and listen to them sizzle in the warm air while he went to work. I wanted to take the electricity and absorb it so it would make me feel alive and electric again. I felt happy in the warm weather and started writing about how sad and gorgeous the summertime felt to me."
Also, a little side fact most aren’t privy to, but Jaime King’s husband is the director of the music video, and initially they were going to cast a male lead, but Lana wanted a female lead. I know her and have met her several times over the years because my Dad is in a band and they played a lot of the same festivals. She’s amazing to converse with, and she actually told me this. She wanted a female lead to reflect a side of her she rarely shows to the public. Sure, her preference is older men, but she also appreciates a woman in a deeper, more meaningful way than what is traditionally known of her. So, that’s how Jaime being cast as the female lead came to be. 😊
Thank you so much for sharing this! It's still so wild to me that you've had these convos with her, it's so special. Love that she wanted to show this side, it is very needed.
@@mendwithmereI’m beyond blessed to call her a friend. I think I have a pretty damn good friend “picker” antenna! 😉
Omg you are soo lucky ❤ it’s my dream to meet her one day!
Also she looks like such an making person 😊
Do you have any more stories to share they are really appreciated ❤
@@Ocean-3000 She’s an incredible human being. Like me, she’s a deep thinker and loves learning. We’ve talked about everything from music and songwriting, to family and different types of trauma and how it manifests in our lives, to addiction, to girls and guys, to the question, “Why am I here?” Idk what kind of story you wanted…Just a general overview like I did or specifics. I am a fiercely loyal friend and I’m guarded with what I say in relation to her. She’s been dragged through the mud so many times, and she didn’t/doesn’t deserve it at all. So, I can tell you things that are public knowledge or stories like the one I commented on above that doesn’t give away anything very personal. If you’re looking for gossip, you won’t find that here. I don’t think that’s what you meant anyways though.😊 Did that help?
@@pele_the_phoenix oh no no I’m really not looking for gossip I just want to learn more about her and her story because I really admire her ❤️ I’m sorry I didn’t want you to think I want personal information 🥰 thank you soo much for spending time writing this I really appreciate it and you are so lucky to get to call her a friend😊 thank you again for all your help❤️❤️❤️
I didn't believe that music or an artist could have the power to touch someone so much until I met Lana. I know that many lay people who have never bothered to get to know her music say that her songs are sad and that they can encourage negative things. I understand that certain topics can trigger some people, but for me, listening to her was what gave me strength. I have never felt so lost in my life, but hearing about how she managed to move on and how she continues to fight her own demons gives me hope that I can too. I am grateful to have met Lana.
Yes, she’s amazing. She talks about the things people don’t want to look at and I think it’s incredible and needed.
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Also, while this video is obviously about ending one's life, i find it inspirng in the scope that Lana has openly admitted she "doesn't want to be here" and said she wishes she was dead in interviews but she "keeps going." I find that inspring as someone who has been feeling that way at times in my life for prolonged periods. 🥺
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Same
Maybe she will be happy since she got married.
The fact that I never knew what this song was about... But as someone who has dealt with those thoughts and impulses my whole life, I do appreciate what you had to say.
I hope you know you are loved!!
@@justus8828 wow, that's really sweet and caring of you 😭 I appreciate it ❤️
Thanks for posting, Mere. You have no idea how much your words, “Just…Stay here” meant to me. I really needed this. Love you BIG. 🫶🏼
love you big time!!!
FINALLY! I love the ending where she's walking down the country road at night with her ghost. Chills!
what i’m about to say is not exactly triggering, but it is pretty dark (but the second part is really important), because i can speak from experience of someone who tried to end it and survived. a lot of the times we do it because we don’t really feel loved by others, and 99% of the time when you ask for help people won’t listen, say they’re busy but they love you, people don’t take it seriously or worse: drop you off at the hospital and then you’re treated like shit by professionals. people with BPD find it very difficult to find a professional that will take their case just because their unreliable, so how can you ask for help when there’s no one to ask to, not even professionals? but there’s the other side of this, when you do it and you realize you will die, it feels like all your problems have solutions, you feel the love of your close ones, you fear how they will feel, you fear you won’t see them again, and now all you worry about is your survival, because everything else is manageable. so if you’re reading this, don’t let yourself get close to that edge, you don’t need to harm yourself in order to get a solution, and even if people seem busy they probably are just busy, and you’re far from being a burden, you’re a human for god sake, your tiredness will pass if you give yourself space to rest bc you have time to fix your problems, and all that love and care you desperately want from others, why don’t you give that to yourself? what would happen if instead of harming yourself you ran a nice cozy bath, watch a cozy movie, watched the moon above the dark sky? if you give yourself some space like a journal or a canvas to put it all out with no judgement words, and let things just be? what if you let life embrace you, even with hardships, you can chose to carry the good things, even the really little ones, in your heart.
THANK YOU FOR THESE WORDS
Well-said❤
Loved this comment. I too have bpd and tried and survived. Not many know how close I was to succeeding as I had distanced myself from everyone. At my worst I remember suddently getting like a primal instinct to survive, with this you are describing with thinking about other people and such. I was lucky and managed to call an ambulance on myself. Shortly after this episode I could start to actually feel benefit from my treatment and today 3 years later I am SO thankful I survived. Life didn't stop throwing hardships my way, and I still have BPD and PTSD but I am close to building a life for myself that truly feels worth living and I can co-exist with my emotions in a way I haven't been able to before. I can find joy in small things and look to the future with excitement most of the time. I never thought it could be possible for me.
Summer is also the time everyone else is seemingly happy hence people with depression feel even more alone sometimes
Ghost Lana is such an eerie painfully beautiful visual for this video, thank you for covering it.
What you wrote in the description almost made me cry. Thank you so much.
I have been battling severe clinical depression and anxiety for around three years. I've been in hospital for a week before, due to attempted suicide. Nowadays, I struggle with fighting off self-harm and substance use cravings. I've failed therapy repeatedly. My anti-depressants aren't doing anything. I have stage 1 autism, and I'm burnt out from it. I have severe trust issues, because I was bullied and physically beaten up in primary school by my "friend". Teachers did nothing to help when I told them I had no friends - repeatedly. My BFF for 9 years (since I was about 4 years old) turned out to be a gaslighter and manipulative. We haven't been in contact for over a year... and I still have nightmares about her. Every friend I've had since turned out to be fake. They've ganged up against me for being Christian, others have spread rumours about me, some have talked badly about me behind my back, whilst they're nice to my face. Others have ghosted me and cut me out.
Now, I isolate myself and refuse to have friends. I don't trust them.
Thank you so much for your description.
My heart goes out to you, I'm so sorry you are hurting so badly ❤
Thank you for always being so kind in the videos
Hot take: so this song she wrote about a friend that killed herself I'm pretty sure, but i think the song is about going on with your life and living after someone you know kills themselves. Thats why she tells the saddness to kiss her before it goes, she feels bad about moving forward. She wants to feel really sad again for her friend before she moves on
I feel the timing of things serve a purpose and I can’t help but think this came at this time for you to react to for the purpose of one or all of us potentially relating to this is some way at this very time and don’t have somewhere else for hear these words from: “to stay”. Thank you for all you do to promote mental health awareness, hope, and wellness, to include addressing those of us who may experience times of struggle. I never saw this imagery coming to accompany these lyrics and found it equally upsetting ; and, it honestly has tainted the otherwise upbeat relaxing-ish nature of the song for me. I do appreciate her bringing awareness to the topic and feel she did that thing Taylor does where she has the upbeat music and the lyrics with such heavy/sad meaning behind it. I appreciate that you go to uncomfortable places in your channel because often you may be the video who helps someone on any given day with your messages of worth, hope, and beauty in and to be had in this life. Sending so much love to you and all of us who have been affected by these delicate and such important topics. ❤️🩹🤍
Love you so much!!!!
Well stated, Alex!
@@mendwithmere love you back🤍
Also, your message reminds me of “Please stay” by Lucy Dacus. When I lost my friend last year due to neglected health issues this song was pure pain, I wish I could have hugged him and begged him to stay…
It's so painful to lose them. It's haunting. Sending you love and sorry you have to experience this horrible pain. I will absolutely check out that song.
@@mendwithmere oh mere that song is really intense, i really think you will be able to get a really good conversation with it
As a person who experienced this team song in my own skin and lost dear person, I know exactly how that feels. For all of you who lost hope, PLEASE stay for yourself, I promise better days will come. You are LOVED.
I will save this video to listen to your message as many times as necessary. Thank you, Mere!
Please do!!!! 🤍
I appreciate your words so much, Mere. Having suffered losing the greatest loves of my life, first, my bf back in 2011 and my best friend in 2020, both listed as suicides, both known by their loved ones to not be the case, has been such a devastating blow to my life, it's been so difficult at times, but this too shall pass, right ?? 🙂
Huge hugs. Thank you for this !! And thank you for Lana's artistry. Without it, i truly don't believe I'd be here today. THIS TOO SHALL PASS !! 💞💞💞
I have been waiting for this reaction this video has such a tragic message on suicide awareness
So sad :( so vibey, this song never ever gets old. Lana is so much deeper than people know.
i'm from the northeast of Brasil, in a town called Olinda. we have a shopping mall built in 2017/8, and since then, more than 7 people killed themselves there, like you said, when a person do that, others may try too
That message is what I needed, this video is what I needed. Especially with the way I’m feeling, I am a single mom to twins and this whole video healed me in a way
I suffer from suicidal ideation, mostly passive, but I also have suffered the effects of losing someone I cared for to it. I was 12 years old when I was called that one of my best friends, who was only 10 at the time, had done it. It is such a hard thing at any point in someone's life to understand, I think, but man, as a 12 year old, I really thought somehow maybe it was my fault and I should have been able to do something. That was 33 years ago and it still haunts me and I still miss him and look at his picture. I carried his funeral slip with me for years after in my purse. And honestly, sometimes, the fact that I went through it with losing him has been one of the only things that has kept me from doing it myself because I didn't want to leave anyone else in those same feelings so by ending his, he may have saved mine.
Hi Mere, thank you so much for this! There were always a theory this was about a friend of her who committed. After her song Fingertips, we now know what's this about: Aaron Greene, who used to be her boyfriend, ended up dead. He died by a car crash. The visuals of this video, the car, the road... In Dark Paradise she said "I wish I was de@d, like you". She struggled about his dead for so many years.. 💔
Wow. Thank you for sharing this.
I recommend giving 'is this happiness?' a listen. It's so gorgeous and there's so much to unpack.
Well i must be the slowest person on earth to learn this song was about what you said why i didn't see it before is very frightening to me !
“Please stay”, your words reminded me so much of the message Twenty Øne Piløts try to pass on, it’s a thing already for them to say “stay alive” or something like that since most or their songs are about dealing with mental health issues, they even created a whole world and built a story that kinda explains how it feels like having thoughts taking control of your life, trying to recover, relapsing etc They’re incredibly creative and so important for many people for speaking about it, some songs that I find extremely important and beautiful even about a sensitive topic like that are “Friend, please”, “Truce”, “Neon Gravestones” and “Redecorate”
I needed to hear this. Thank you, Mere.
This is a hard one to watch. It seems suicide is a thing in my world of family and friends. My partner of almost 10 years ended it on March 24th 2010. Then both my cousins in 2018. They were brothers. My nephew in August of last year. His mother found him and now this month on the 6th of June, my oldest brother ended it, he was 61. I feel that no matter what I do it surrounds me. They just don't get how much hurt it causes the people left behind. I am gutted. Don't know how much more I have to endure.
That is absolutely devastating to read and let alone live. The impact on you is so great. I really hope you are letting yourself live, grieve, feel anger, whatever you need given this. The rates are increasing and the contagion effect is so real and fucking awful. I’m so sorry. Please do whatever you can to support yourself. Sending ❤️
@@mendwithmere, thank you. I do, actually. I am an artist. I turn Taylor Swift up or whatever I am feeling on that day and play it loud. It drowns out all the noise in my head. If I didn't have that I don't know what I'd do. I have a painting family on FB with just a couple of really good friends from Australia that I talk to on the reg. It helps me tremendously as does your channel. The LDR today was tough and I was not expecting it. I finished it but then went and mixed paint with Taylor on for a couple hours.
her best friend committed suicide and this video is about that, she talks about it also in fingertips when she says "I was in Monaco, I couldn't hear what they said on the telephone, I had to sing for the prince in two hours, I gave my self two seconds to cry" (if I ain't wrong, maybe that's another experience that she had, but I knew summertime sadness was about that)
the line in fingertips is about her uncle
Found your video randomly and wanted to thank you for this. Not long ago I heard a slowed down w/ more reverb version of this song and it just gutted me. It hit me right in that place I know all too well. I'm a musician and did my own version of this song, but it took me a while because I found it difficult to do it in a way that felt right. I think this song captures the helpless, passionate and tragic nature of the human condition. It's hard to keep going when you fave that void.
I've waited for this reaction so long...and it came. Awww! So happy 😊 One of my favorite songs by Lana, even though is so sad, I see such "lost Hollywood" cinematic vibes, love the video.
I adore you. Thank you for everything you do and your vulnerability. As a person who very recently has had thoughts of suicide, your words warm my heart. ♥️
I just wanted to say, heartly, Thank you. For your words, sharing your thoughts and experience about this topic. I have been really bad lately, and sometimes The world and Life itself are way too much to endure. And dark thoughts take place.
And then, your words, besides making me cry, gave me Hope. Things can get better, and time can give wisdom and purpose.
Thanks you, for speaking about this
Ps: Love your videos and reflections
Ps2: Lana 💕
This song hits so deep, it’s like an anthem for the kind of sadness that lingers in your bones. Summertime Sadness feels like a cry from the soul, capturing the weight of loss, the ache of missing someone, and the emptiness that follows. Every lyric echoes that pain of knowing you can never get them back, yet the memories haunt you like shadows.
It’s more than just a song-it’s like Lana has put into words and music the feelings I can’t fully express. The line, ‘I just wanted you to know, that baby, you’re the best,’ is such a heartbreaking reminder of how we sometimes lose the people we love most, and all we’re left with are those memories.
As I listen, I feel the heaviness in my chest, and it’s like I’m reliving my own sadness and loss through her voice. As they say, ‘Some scars are felt, not seen’… and this song is a reminder of the scars that stay with us forever.😔
I missed so much your lana reactionssss!!! Sending u love from Brazil 💞🇧🇷
I have known this song forever, but never saw the video until your video. Thank you. Powerful words and messaging here from you.
Really appreciate and enjoy your channel... Love the Lana content, i enjoy hearing your take on things. Your energy is calming as well. Anyways, just wanted you to know how much i enjoy your channel and that i appreciate you speaking about this sensitive but relevant topic. It really shows how much you care and that's a beautiful thing these days. Have a beautiful day 🌫️🌬️✨
I just needed to comment how much I love your vibe ❤
Thank you for posting this.
it’s so funny that i just commented asking for more lana content lol; thanks mere.
Thank you for posting this, this is very important.
I’m going through a lot at the moment but knowing that everything happens for a reason and I just don’t know the reason yet helps a lot.
yes, it's okay not to know yet. i'm sorry that it feels dark at the moment. just wait it out, you are needed.
LOVE YOUR NAILS. Short excellent painting. well done.
Wow, I had never heard this song in this way before either. I think this video should have a clearer trigger warning, especially for the graphic images.
A few years ago someone in my community died in this way. I never knew the person, (and I don't want to make this all about me) but I was amazed to see how many people felt the loss so deeply and were grieving. People who were usually completely focused on work/school dropped everything to take care of one another. This just shows how important people are, and how much they matter to everyone.
It made me realize how much people truly cared about me, even when it didn't feel like it. I was really struggling, but I promised I wouldn't become another tragedy. It gave me the strength to get the support I needed and take time off to prioritize myself. Things were shitty for a long time, and I'm not going to downplay how painful it was. I used to wonder if it was worth even trying, but now I know that it is. I'll still be working on stuff for a while, but it's so much easier now.
I didn't think I would ever be in the place I am today. I'm doing really well now, and am happier than I have ever been. I can do the things I want to do and actually enjoy my life. I'm really proud of who I've become. I've been able to share my story and encourage others to take care of their mental health. I've even had someone thank me, saying I helped them greatly. It really did get better and I'm so glad I'm still here.
To anyone reading my random youtube comment, please stay. I hope this isn't too cheesy, but healing is always possible if you're still here.
Thank you for sharing this!
Don't know if anyone else has said it yet, but this song is about a dear friend of Lana's who killed herself in the summertime via jumping off a bridge. Every time summer comes by, she's depressed cause it makes her remember that. Hence the name of the song, Summertime Sadness
as much as this is a beautiful sentiment, this is untrue and is a rumor. she’s done several interviews in which she’s explained what inspired her to create the song, and her best friend’s suicide is not one.
@@hectordiedso what is it?
@@alicebenotto6998 “I was staying in Santa Monica, California with my composer and best friend, Dan Heath. I would sit under the telephone wires and listen to them sizzle in the warm air while he went to work. I wanted to take the electricity and absorb it so it would make me feel alive and electric again. I felt happy in the warm weather and started writing about how sad and gorgeous the summertime felt to me."
@@hectordied tyy
Your face is so empathetic, and so soulful!!
Im a 50yr old woman. 6 yrs ago my 18yr old son unalived himself. It did make me feel inadequate that I couldn't save him. I know now it wasn't my fault. His suicide took years off my life. I just barely rejoined life.
I really aprecciate you! Its sweet to know a love like yours exists, kind hearts are alive and well!
Very obviously about a sapphic relationship in the music video, I don't understand why her fans try to hard to steer from it or that it possibly can't. Even the director said so. Love this reaction!! Its such a nostalgic and beautiful music video..
out if topic but GIRLLL I LOVE UR NAILSSS
She hits me in a way I can't explain. It's like she is peering into my soul.
pls, that'll be such a pleasure to watch your reaction to Off to the Races, by Lana. there's so much goin' on there. the literary thing's not missing.
lyrically it's insane. the production never gives up either!
That song hits so hard! I came across it when it piqued my curiousity that it had the same producer by the name Patrik Berger who featured as a co-producer on TAY's The Anthology song, I Look In People's Windows. He also produced Icona Pop's biggest hit, I Love It.
I think this is one of her penultimate songs. I know it’s also probably her most popular, but I think it encapsulates everything about her that people fell in love with. This includes the way she calls out themes like in this song in a way that make people really uncomfortable.
If I’m not wrong it was about a friend of hers who committed in summer and she always gets reminded of her every summer
Her best friend 😢
that's just a rumor, she never confirmed that
I love your Lana Del Rey reactions so much! I was wondering if you could do cruel world next, please 🙏
I believe that this video represents the “pointlessness” of suicide. In the end, after her friend/partner commits suicide, they both end up in a dark, misty, empty space but are separated from eachother; each trapped by the mistake they made and only able to look across from eachother, not actually able to still be with eachother which was her hope after thinking about the memories they had of being together while alive. In the end they realized they permanently sealed their fate separated and apart from one another.
This made me love summertime sadness again
Lana saved me.
So glad to see you do something besides Taylor. Having said that, Taylor is what brought me to your channel, and I've been obsessed, but there's so many I want to recommend for you, especially as a therapist I think would be so great coming from you and help your channel. Taylor loves Lana too, and Taylor is the reason I even know who Lana is, so I now love Lana as well, but on a way, different level than Taylor. I have more suggestions for you but don't know how to get them to you 😊
You can always leave them in the comments or on a post. Multiple ones get my attention, haha. Thank you for watching and sharing this!
This video also has echoes of the movie The Virgin Suicides by Sofia Coppola.
This is the first time I see the videoclip and it’s shocking and the history back of it of Lana losing a friend for that is so heartbreaking
My husband named his band Sad Summer and passed away like this so this is a hard one
HII! I really love your videos, I hope you will react more to Lana ❤❤
Those who r gone, nothing has gone for them but,
Those who are left, are left with nothing......
I didn't realise that the people who recommended it before didn't give a warning, or I would have said something 💜 I know you have a long list of recs already, but if you need a lighter song after this, you could try the music video for "Love".
Thank you for sharing this even though it was hard, and take care of yourself. 💜✨
It's a little story, a little movie. I love Lana but I agree with you. Stay. And try again and again. You are not alone.
Everything you said here is why the club/radio remix that always gets played always bothers me so much. This is a serious, beautiful piece of art that should be appreciated for what it is. Lana got a lot of flack over the years for idealizing suicide but it's not her fault the general masses chose to mindlessly listen to the upbeat, dance remix.
Your reaction is very justified because the subject is so sensitive in itself.
I had a friend who died by suicide last summer. I read a comment that said that this is about one of Lana's friends who ended her life during a summer and hence, the name because now, every summer she thinks of it. I would know :') I think about some frames of the music video, that are repeated multiple times and it makes me think of how it feels to lose someone. Some memories, more than others, keep replaying in your head during the aftermath and you just can't seem to get them out of your head. It's very disturbing, to say the least.
I hope you're feeling better, much love.
Saddest door in the house, Emergency Exit. Guilt and shame yes and an unfathomable emptiness. That's love for you.
Hi Mere! I really wish you would react to Hollywood Bowl, Lost at Sea and Sweet Carolina, these songs always bring me to tears but on a very positive and wholesome way. These are collaborations of Lana with her Dad (playing the piano) and they are so incredibly beautiful! Sweet Carolina is for her sister, they are very close and as someone who doesn’t have much of a relationship with my own sister I find their deep love for one another extremely touching. ❤
lana fans are about to make this woman go insane (me included)
I watched your video for Ride & hearing your take on the line "I was born to be the other woman, who belonged to noone, who belonged to everyone" makes me think (if you're up for it) you should react to the song The Other Woman it's SUCH an interesting song
Well great, now I'm crying. Living can be so damn hard sometimes.
Yessss we missed u
Not the reason I really don't like summer, but it's thirty summers since I lost a friend to suicide, and a dear friend who saved my life lost a brother to suicide this summer. First time in I can't recall how long that I've been able to listen to this while it's still technically summer; already feels like Autumn here, which may have made a difference; certainly I've never been able to seek out reactions before. kerk
What if you’re someone who doesn’t have anyone in your life who cares about you? Genuinely asking. How does one cope? My family has abused me my whole life. I have no friends because I realized the ones I had were toxic too, so I removed them from my life. The only living thing I would worry about leaving behind is my cat. She’s the only reason I’ve hung on. I just can’t leave her. But what happens when she passes?
Please Stay. love u all
What a beautiful lady, Lana Del Ray (her real name is Elizabeth Grant, and yes, her ancestry is Scottish; the Red Hair is a giveaway)! She has great drama and a great voice!
You’re the best. ❤
Lana is prone to these types of videos and lyrics, talking about self destructive feelings and relationships... But summertime sadness is the most painful one in my opinion!!!
For the next song can we do pawn shop blues?
IM BEGGING YOU TO REACT TO WILD AT HEART it’s gorgeous and not too sad but the lyrics to me are amazing
Amo sus reacciones a Lana ❤
this is random, but you have such a beautiful eye shape!
Me personally always associated with song with my drug addiction in how the slowly killing me until I finally got sober
Best reaction ever
YESSSSS BACK TO LANA LFG😭😭💜💜💜💜 you NEED to do Sportscruiser from her poetry book, there’s a recorded track you need it and I need your thoughts cause I think you will see it as I do💜
YEEESS FINALLLYYUUUU
I feel u spoke about me at the start😂😂😂
React to ‘Please Stay’ by Lucy Dacus ! i think you’d love the message behind it. She wrote it about her friend/gf. It’s so beautiful
I don't know if you have yet, but if you haven't, listen to "Breathe" by Forest Blakk. It is a poem about suicidal ideation. In it, he beautifully narrates the thought behind suidide, at the same time that he counterpoints how unkind it is for other people. And the struggle within the individual who has these thoughts.
Hi, I am 50 years old. What does it means when I have these thoughts since I was a teenager?
Silence as usuall, I guess. Makes sense
this morning i went through my suicide note once again, have been depressed for more than ten years now. i don't seem to get better, and i'm completely missing life as a breathing corpse. my siblings have great lives, and my one and only fear is my sister hurting herself if i do something. anyway, long story short you made me cry
You stay here. Your sister needs you. The Earth needs you. I know with every ounce of my being that you will see a change, it may take longer, but just stay ❤️
how old are you? It could be hormones. xoxo
@@mendwithmere you're so kind, thank you 💌
@@brightwithspirit i wish, i'm 25 i feel like it's time to accept well this is who i am i guess instead of trying to heal
You know what’s wild Mere As a long time Lana fan and watching this at the time it came out…it didn’t feel like it was about eyl. It felt about a breakup, and wallowing in the summer.
Weird question but working with disturbed people are you armed or have a panic button in your office i could imagine people get pretty worked up talking sometimes.
Hi! I am work with clients virtually at the moment. I’m licensed in NY but currently live in Ohio. When working in person in college counseling centers, we had a panic button and secret code words to alert our coworkers without anyone knowing. When I worked alone in an office with my private practice before Covid, I didn’t have any of that and it did concern me. Everything has changed so much now. Thank you for the question and concern 🤍
Lana is a genius
Please please do Living Legend!
Plz do In my feelings next 🙏❤️
Mere!! I love your content and would LOVE to see you react to "Coffee" by Chapell Roan, is a gorgeous song and so full of meaning. Hope you can, love your videos!! ❤
Please react to Tropico by Lana. I love your channel ❤