Wrong Mindsets Men Have | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
  • There are mindsets men have entertained over time that have not given them the best results in relationships and even marriage.
    Join Kingsley Okonkwo as he shares "Wrong Mindsets Men Have"
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Комментарии • 169

  • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
    @durbansaladyinaccra2173 3 года назад +81

    God-fearing men who actually study the Word of God and obey it, who also fast and pray are extremely attractive and this is why many of them are already married/engaged or in relationships 🙂 It isnt their looks and money that makes them irresistible but what is inside of them 🔥

    • @israelolorundare6140
      @israelolorundare6140 3 года назад

      hmm... iyen tun deep

    • @Tomiwa101
      @Tomiwa101 3 года назад +2

      👀 So God-fearing men are more attractive to women than rich men? Let's be honest, please. How it should be is different from how it is. Should women prefer God-fearing men more? Ideally, yes. But is that the case generally? Not even close. Sorry.

    • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
      @durbansaladyinaccra2173 3 года назад +14

      @@Tomiwa101 You are right, it is not the case WHEN the woman in question is not God-fearing herself. It's not even logical to expect a person who is not God-fearing to have the correct mind-set when it comes to choosing a life partner.
      Women who are serious about the things of God also receive wisdom from God and only men who are God-fearing come into question for THOSE women. "God-fearing" is not just a term to describe Christians, but it means your choices and lifestyle are in alignment with biblical principles.
      This is why the Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. That doesn't only mean that if you are a Christian then you should marry a Christian, but it means you should have the same mind-set and values cos some Christians are believers by name only and not by actions. What you see, (in behavioral patterns and not physical appearance) is what you get.

    • @kessienaodebala98
      @kessienaodebala98 3 года назад +4

      @@Tomiwa101 God fearing ladies are attracted to God fearing men, before got married, I met men who seemed attractive but the moment we got close I discovered they were not the right persons for me. Notwithstanding apart from being God fearing, there may be other features you desire because a Godfearing man may have a wrong mindset. Also ladies may be too blinded or imature to identify who they out to be attracted to... so that doesn't may God fearing men unattractive.

    • @flourishthrive8670
      @flourishthrive8670 Год назад +1

      @@durbansaladyinaccra2173 Perfect response to godless women!

  • @k.e.n.n.y_G.a.b.r.i.e.l
    @k.e.n.n.y_G.a.b.r.i.e.l 2 года назад +2

    That Zamunda thing, I said it with Pastor at the same time😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

  • @natashacampbell5765
    @natashacampbell5765 3 года назад +3

    Hello my name is Natasha Campbell. I live on the island of St.Maarten. I really love youvand your wife's ministry, so much I learned by listening. Thank you and may God continue to give you both the wisdom as you continue to teach in this area of life.

  • @ssmisscee
    @ssmisscee 3 года назад +14

    I know men who are exactly all of the above 🙄😬. M glad a man is addressing this.👏👏

  • @queenyjummy4951
    @queenyjummy4951 3 года назад +34

    This man is full of wisdom. God continue to bless & increase you sir

  • @SenaTreasureDaily
    @SenaTreasureDaily 2 года назад +1

    Pastor K, when will you come to Ghana❤

  • @tobiakinyele7287
    @tobiakinyele7287 3 года назад +25

    Pastor Kingsley always bringing it home in grand style. Thank you sir

  • @teethart9865
    @teethart9865 3 года назад +10

    I had given up listening to anything relationship/marriage. I felt I had heard too much enough and all I need is actual experience of it. In the past few days God has been dealing with me in the place of my prayers like never before. Leading me to my teachers. I’m grateful i found the Okonkwo’s messages totally relatable. God bless you two for giving.

  • @CodingToInspire
    @CodingToInspire 3 года назад +4

    Having the Holy Spirit as a man comes with all the qualities you should have. It’s like a complete package. Thank God for the Holy Spirit 😋

  • @abigailaviah6614
    @abigailaviah6614 3 года назад +8

    You and Rev Mildred are a blessing to us all. God bless your union especially then your ministry.❤

  • @ukemejameson8263
    @ukemejameson8263 3 года назад +28

    GOD evening Pastor Sir from Australia.
    We love you and your precious family and Ministry.
    GOD bless you extensively and eternally

    • @KingsleyOkonkwo
      @KingsleyOkonkwo  3 года назад +1

      Thank you

    • @catherineefeti1111
      @catherineefeti1111 3 года назад

      @@KingsleyOkonkwo Sir do u need to be married to be a counselor

    • @gloryebubechi1606
      @gloryebubechi1606 2 года назад

      @@catherineefeti1111 One time, he mentioned not necessarily, the major part is allowing God to touch lives through you.

  • @CommentReadersAssociates
    @CommentReadersAssociates 3 года назад +4

    The word should not be “under you” but “with you” because this type of communication/Narrative is what brings about “superiority complex “

  • @rachelobi8968
    @rachelobi8968 3 года назад +13

    God bless you and give you more wisdom to keep impacting the world with knowledge.knowledge is power

  • @miriamaikins1745
    @miriamaikins1745 2 года назад +2

    God bless you Pastor K. You're really pushing some buttons.

  • @preciousdavid9305
    @preciousdavid9305 Год назад

    I wish men would seek knowledge, listen and walk in it.

  • @cynosanosakhare7813
    @cynosanosakhare7813 3 года назад +5

    It's takes a man with Godly wisdom to have these qualities I mean Godly wisdom is different from Worldly wisdom, my husband is a God fearing man, a pastor by His calling,and has it all, we are be married for gud ten years now, but it's seems that we just got married today, if you are single pray for a God fearing spouse, when Jesus in the family Happy, Happy Home, a man who doesn't have fear of God cannot Love His wife has christ love the church. thank you man of God I'm always blessed through you and your wife message .

  • @ruthroland1379
    @ruthroland1379 3 года назад +4

    If they will hear,ehh na,the efforts women put into their relationship and marriage after counseling,if men will just do the same, marriage will be a better phase in an individual life.God bless you PK.

  • @KingsleyOkonkwo
    @KingsleyOkonkwo  3 года назад +2

    Please send a message to +2348077714412 on Whatsapp For Counselling or +2348077714413 or visit @t for books and other resources

  • @ajuadanielangefac411
    @ajuadanielangefac411 3 года назад +12

    I'm liking before watching! This is gonna be lit!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @victoriaogunsanya9074
    @victoriaogunsanya9074 3 года назад +2

    PASTOR you have preached oooh lol....Wow wow wow!!! Thank you for delivering men.

  • @blessed-nancymusa148
    @blessed-nancymusa148 3 года назад +4

    God increase you greatly sir🙏...Your oil no go run dry

  • @sharonabbey1208
    @sharonabbey1208 3 года назад +5

    Pastor K this your sermon came at the right time. Thank you🙏

  • @wisdomdarko2813
    @wisdomdarko2813 2 года назад +1

    Wow I'm soo blessed, God bless you richly Pastor K 🙏❤❤❤

  • @ifouzezi
    @ifouzezi 3 года назад +11

    He stressed the 'for now!' Pastor K!!!! 😭😭😭😭

  • @adelinetina6192
    @adelinetina6192 3 года назад +6

    Pastor you are an amazing gift to us.

  • @omoruyijoy7020
    @omoruyijoy7020 3 года назад +6

    Play with your wife, don't be the kind of Zamunda! 😂🤣. Thank you Pastor for the knowledge shared.

  • @k.e.n.n.y_G.a.b.r.i.e.l
    @k.e.n.n.y_G.a.b.r.i.e.l 2 года назад +1

    These are some of the problems my ex had until I got tired. I advised that we go for counseling because I knew something was not right but, he is the proud and stubborn type, he couldn't agree to listen to anyone. I use to see myself as the problem until I went for personal counseling. Thank you for this message sir, God bless you sir🙏

  • @anthonychigozie620
    @anthonychigozie620 3 года назад +3

    Many thanks Past Kingsley Okonkwo.

  • @perpetualinus7661
    @perpetualinus7661 3 года назад +2

    I wish all men will watch this ....no 7 got me

  • @oyekunleoyeyinka7470
    @oyekunleoyeyinka7470 3 года назад +3

    You are wonderful sir! You deserve the Award of Best Pastor in all d Years you have been preaching. This video is one of the best message I have listened to sir. More Wisdom Sir!

  • @tinaluyo98
    @tinaluyo98 Год назад

    Bless you sir🇰🇪

  • @simenioyinuah8532
    @simenioyinuah8532 3 года назад +2

    His emphasis on "a good woman".....
    Pastor K, that your money point no be lie o

  • @beatricechandasampa5759
    @beatricechandasampa5759 3 года назад +3

    Point number 2🔥🔥 most of the men I know, think in this way that if they don't have a lot of money they can't keep a woman! Thank you pastor Kingsley for this, I'll surely share this with all my friends and family.🤗🙏🙏

  • @preciousayawei4695
    @preciousayawei4695 3 года назад +25

    Pst K says he's based in Nigeria for now 😂🙆

  • @adenikebabalola3996
    @adenikebabalola3996 3 года назад +4

    I love that 3rd point Pastor K (and of course, all the points) 💥💫💥💯🔥🔥🔥 You are a true blessing to this generation 🥳🥳🥳 I'm sharing with ALL male contacts on my phone 📱. Could binge on your teachings all day long 🌟💫💥💯

  • @raymondamajatoja1006
    @raymondamajatoja1006 3 года назад +2

    Thank you PK. You moved my table oooh

  • @koyejongozi2777
    @koyejongozi2777 3 года назад +1

    You delivered sir! God bless you mightily!!!

  • @henrycokoli9854
    @henrycokoli9854 3 года назад +34

    1. Headship is rulership (Superiority Complex)
    2. I need a lot of money
    3. I don't need any man to tell me how to think
    4. Marriage is not Important
    5. My extended family comes before my wife
    6. Letting your ego control you
    7. Men shouldn't be in touch with your emotions

    • @IniBenjamin
      @IniBenjamin 3 года назад +4

      Many thanks for the summary Henry. This is necessary.

    • @lifestyle-uncensored
      @lifestyle-uncensored Год назад +1

      Thank you! I've been scrolling through comments to see if someone will list the points.

  • @emakebobby5176
    @emakebobby5176 3 года назад +2

    God bless you Sir for the massage

  • @sharonetem8588
    @sharonetem8588 3 года назад +2

    I am blessed thank you pastor kingsly

  • @EgbunuAngel
    @EgbunuAngel 3 года назад +1

    Have been immensely blessed
    Thank you pst K...

  • @helenaopoku3310
    @helenaopoku3310 3 года назад +4

    Very true sir, am loving your message everyday. God bless you sir

  • @theikejistv5847
    @theikejistv5847 3 года назад +1

    Chaiii i wish all men have this knowlege
    GOD Bless Sir, you are a Blessing to this generation🙌🇩🇪

  • @michaeldavid8564
    @michaeldavid8564 3 года назад +4

    I'm learning

  • @idim9248
    @idim9248 3 года назад +3

    The Lord bless you Pst Kingsley

  • @eziucheanyaegbu1280
    @eziucheanyaegbu1280 3 года назад +1

    Headship Vrs Rulership, so on point.
    This clarity is what men need to have, even as young boys and single men.
    Someone told me that Headship makes no sense because women these days challenge men in every aspect of life, at the work place, in academics etc.
    You said it, Headship is not superiority, it's not intelligence/or who's smarter.

  • @nedukammy8677
    @nedukammy8677 3 года назад +3

    Pastor, This message is off the hook. You couldn't have said it better. Thanks for sharing this divine insights from the reservoir of knowledge that God has deposited in you. Keep up the good work. God's grace in increasing measures. Love you sir!!

  • @tobiandtribe
    @tobiandtribe 3 года назад +2

    Great advice.

  • @kashammagaji2329
    @kashammagaji2329 3 года назад +2

    God bless you Sir, this is beautiful beyond understanding 🔥🔥🔥

  • @tamandanikagulula5834
    @tamandanikagulula5834 3 года назад +4

    It feels like the ones hearing this Good word of God are only the women....

    • @itsafo4shizzle
      @itsafo4shizzle 3 года назад +2

      Emphasis on feels...Don't worry, some of us are listening.

  • @lovelynglory7319
    @lovelynglory7319 3 года назад +1

    This is a great one Sir. Responsible Leadership is something that is attractive about a man.

  • @Listentomusicist
    @Listentomusicist 3 года назад +1

    So good, amen!

  • @joystitch
    @joystitch 3 года назад +2

    Well said Pastor.

  • @lizabalogun5338
    @lizabalogun5338 3 года назад +4

    slay queen.
    materialistic

  • @bluebird4815
    @bluebird4815 3 года назад

    How did i not know about this channel??? I'm busy binge watching.

  • @owoyemiabidemi4539
    @owoyemiabidemi4539 3 года назад +1

    God bless you Sir.

  • @michelle1731
    @michelle1731 3 года назад +2

    Oh thank you 🙏🏽

  • @princessserah3943
    @princessserah3943 3 года назад +2

    More wisdom sir

  • @StanleyChibu
    @StanleyChibu 3 года назад +3

    This is awesome

  • @lolaadelore8317
    @lolaadelore8317 2 года назад

    Thank you Pastor. You are so amazing with the deep truth you share all thr time. Thank you for working with God to uphold God's intention for marriage. God bless your home.

  • @glorianeche4252
    @glorianeche4252 3 года назад

    God bless you more sir. Much love

  • @peterdivine6037
    @peterdivine6037 3 года назад +1

    Thank you sir for this. KING OF ZAMUNDA😂😂

  • @danielonwuegbule8472
    @danielonwuegbule8472 3 года назад +1

    Thank you Pastor.. your words were expressly communicated

  • @franklin_chukwunenye7201
    @franklin_chukwunenye7201 3 года назад +1

    ❤❤......💯

  • @azidennis8087
    @azidennis8087 3 года назад

    This's the grammatical truth about it all and thanks alot sir. I ll put in to work about this in my family too.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @olaola3538
    @olaola3538 3 года назад +1

    Please sir, can you talk about what to do when someone is flirting with a married woman

  • @Dianadiana-zj4er
    @Dianadiana-zj4er 3 года назад

    More wisdom in Jesus Christ name Sir.

  • @favourchinaza5
    @favourchinaza5 3 года назад

    Thank you very much sir
    May God continue to bless and prosper you and your household Amen

  • @yvonnejude-okeke922
    @yvonnejude-okeke922 3 года назад

    Awesome!!!! Thank you Pastor Kingsley!!!

  • @funmilayoolatunji7361
    @funmilayoolatunji7361 3 года назад

    Quite insightful. More grace, Sir.

  • @silviaoutreachtv
    @silviaoutreachtv 3 года назад

    God bless you sir

  • @preciousglory6735
    @preciousglory6735 3 года назад

    Thanks for teaching the truth as a man...💯

  • @kessienaodebala98
    @kessienaodebala98 3 года назад +5

    I would love to be a certified counsellor of this ministry. Please how do I go about it?

  • @cletuschukwu
    @cletuschukwu 3 года назад +6

    You talked about "wrong men mindset" from the aspect of marriage but when you talked about "wrong women mindset" you mostly referenced singlehood.

  • @shynekaparis7238
    @shynekaparis7238 3 года назад

    That was so wonderful
    Have you already done one for women it would be interesting to see where we may be going wrong? I'm Improvement will always strengthen & lengthen marriages Yes Please 🙏
    Plus You made me so that's a bonus 😅

  • @onyinye25
    @onyinye25 3 года назад +1

    Well said sir

  • @reggieuniq5833
    @reggieuniq5833 3 года назад

    This is exactly so many men carry themselves around. I love your messages. Their really good. Thank u for coming through for us

  • @okoriekennethchukwuebuka9353
    @okoriekennethchukwuebuka9353 3 года назад

    I love you, sir.

  • @amiraishaq7794
    @amiraishaq7794 3 года назад

    God bless you Sir 🙏🏽

  • @BunmiAmara
    @BunmiAmara 3 года назад +3

    Pst said He is in Nigeria for now, i 😅

  • @evelynifedolapo9291
    @evelynifedolapo9291 3 года назад

    Thanks pastor Sir

  • @anthonychigozie620
    @anthonychigozie620 3 года назад

    May i never be King 👑 of Zamunda so help me oh God. Amen

  • @ayolovephat
    @ayolovephat 3 года назад

    There's one thing I keep saying when countering the "men don't cry" fallacy nonsense : "Pain doesn't care/give a frock what your gender is." That's the brutal, in-your-face-whether-you-like-it-or-not truth.

  • @daveoe7847
    @daveoe7847 3 года назад

    I am a single brother. I love to start a relationship with a God fearing sister

  • @ribaker822
    @ribaker822 3 года назад +4

    On the 3rd point. Most comments are from women. Even to like the video is hard for men. Come on men, hit the like button, drop your comments. You know you want to.

  • @godfridahkamanga9176
    @godfridahkamanga9176 3 года назад +8

    i wish my boyfriend could listen to this.

  • @zenithsublime
    @zenithsublime 3 года назад

    Are you a soldier? 😂😂🤩

  • @rebeccamiya6696
    @rebeccamiya6696 3 года назад

    Not only status employment even a woman who sell by the road side are still making mone but the problem is everything is based on status and University qualification

  • @monicadiegboh9339
    @monicadiegboh9339 3 года назад

    Am so blessed 🙌 🙏 thanks pst k I hope dey will 👂

  • @njokucephaschinedu5243
    @njokucephaschinedu5243 3 года назад

    I HV LIKED, I HV SUSCRIBED ....NICE 1 BROS

  • @ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439
    @ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439 3 года назад +1

    WHY SOME MEN CHOOSE THEIR BROTHERS :
    O nwanne g'eji aga mba. Onye aghala nwanne na.
    This mindset came up after the Nigerian civil war.

    • @ngoziobioma4784
      @ngoziobioma4784 3 года назад

      🤣🤣🤣correct.

    • @estheranaeligbo2355
      @estheranaeligbo2355 3 года назад

      I have never commented nor share marriage talks but this got me. I pray he listens, understand and make the right decision.
      Thank you Sir and God bless you 🙏

  • @JeremiahFestus2
    @JeremiahFestus2 2 года назад

    Men "it's ok to go for counseling" that got me laughing hard, it'll be a difficult step to take for any Man 🤣🤣

  • @joliebike5900
    @joliebike5900 3 года назад

    See wisdom

  • @greatswenny985
    @greatswenny985 3 года назад

    Please your website. Thank you

  • @michaelndifor9891
    @michaelndifor9891 3 года назад

    MEN DONT CRY just means it should NOT be viewed as normal if you see a man cry. It means when you see a man cry, you should know something dead serious is up. So yes, MEN DONT CRY.
    I have not cried in 15 years, and yeah terrible things have happened in that period. It is not just my first instinct to cry, but rather to figure what to do at that moment. And I strongly believe women do not benefit from men who would emotionally react to things as easily as they themselves tend to do.

  • @blazeovich
    @blazeovich 3 года назад

    Matthew 3:10
    And now also the axe is laid unto the root of the trees: therefore every tree which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.
    Galatians 5:22-23
    But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
    Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
    I would focus the teaching on these passages and trust that God will bring the man and his wife to the lessons they need for their home.

  • @faithxristos5049
    @faithxristos5049 3 года назад +1

    sir great one there...but I disagree with ur point no.3 @10:23 ...Men easily and always want to learn and hear from a fellow man....there is no shame or loss of ego in that...especially in the 21st century..what i think is Men dont want want to learn/corrected from their wives or women...there is 'shame' in that.
    there are women as men in this regard...not humble enough to learn from their husbands

    • @torokopita2763
      @torokopita2763 3 года назад +1

      Am really surprised to some of his point too and in all he said he sounds to make a man to play a feminine role in a relationship.He said a woman needs respect but I think in a relationship a woman needs love more than respect because if a man love his wife there’s no way to disrespect her and actually man are the one who need respect in a relationship because we all know about females nature they do have a problem with submission

    • @mb4635
      @mb4635 3 года назад +3

      @@torokopita2763 I disagree with you because how can you love somebody without giving them respect. You even said yourself that if a man loves his wife then he wouldn’t disrespect her therefore the opposite of disrespect is respect. Which means that a man must respect his wife the same way a woman should respect her husband. And you make it seem like men don’t want to be loved either. Which is weird.So do women not want respect in a relationship or do they want disrespect? This is part of the problem is that we see in many marriages, especially in Africa. Because this is where you see a lot of men think because they are providing material possessions that they are showing love but then they do other things like be disrespectful, commit adultery and they think it’s okay.

  • @mau1150
    @mau1150 3 года назад

    9:11- 9:45

  • @itaisaiah7264
    @itaisaiah7264 3 года назад

    Head shape is not ruler shape

  • @MAMA-ci1zw
    @MAMA-ci1zw 3 года назад +1

    I wish my igbo boyfriend can listen to this

    • @joliebike5900
      @joliebike5900 3 года назад

      He wount bcs u urself dont no anything

    • @MAMA-ci1zw
      @MAMA-ci1zw 3 года назад

      @@joliebike5900 tsuipppp

    • @franklinizuchukwu8372
      @franklinizuchukwu8372 3 года назад +1

      You yourself ...do u listen???

    • @MAMA-ci1zw
      @MAMA-ci1zw 3 года назад

      @@franklinizuchukwu8372 me i listen all the time ooo.

    • @mb4635
      @mb4635 3 года назад +1

      Once you see red flags take them seriously. Because what you see now is your dating if you get married it will become worse.