How To Manage Differences In Relationships | Kingsley Okonkwo

[@damiflexsolutions]

Summary
Three (3) Stages in Relationship/Marriage 12:39
1. Opposite Attracts 12:42
2. Opposite Frustrate 14:35
3. Opposite Exchange 17:56
What to do when opposite attracts 25:04
1. Awareness/Perspective 25:16
2. Acceptance 28:24
3. Appreciate 33:18
4. Adjustment 39:34
Men and Women Nature 42:04
1. Goal Orientated - Men (aka Hunter Killer Mode) 43:43
2. Organizers - Women 45:38
3. Organizers - Women (aka Drama Queen Mode) 47:28
Three Phases of Emotions
1. Emotional High
2. Emotional Low
3. Intentional Emotional High

[@AllThingsLindo]

Lovely summary Damilola, appreciate the time you took typing this🙏🏽

[@damiflexsolutions]

@@AllThingsLindo My pleasure. I am glad it helped.

[@praizprah1389]

Woow...this is amazing and helpful. Thank you sir

[@_ifydaniels]

Thanks for this bro

[@solagbotosho164]

😃😘

[@adigunolaide2940]

I spent my entire day listening to your counselling while at work today the funny part is that I am a Muslim by religion & I can relate very well to all the messages passed without any religious barrier. وقوَّك الله بكل ما فيك آمين

[@ThyKingdomCome5]

Also look for Apostle Joshua Selman's messages.

[@ThyKingdomCome5]

They will also help you greatly. Thank you very much.

[@88niteowl88]

Hi, dear. I hope you are doing well. To everyone reading this, Jesus loves you.

[@musasalami6179]

This is encouraging... God bless u

[@peaceokon9425]

Yes apostle Joshua selman is gifted just pst Kingsley okonkwo ,they re so powerful 💪 anointed by God

[@josephaketu8609]

We need all kinds of churches. the sober, the jovial, the freestyled, the strict. Pastor Kingsley is a rare breed. Keep up the good work sir

[@mudasherifa]

I was at the stage of frustration and I thought I made a mistake marrying my husband. Thank you, pastor, for saving my marriage

[@bashiratsosanwo1227]

Hmmmm. I wish I was single... I never had these kinds of teachings and now I'm in for it. God please help me through it all... It's really hard being married.

[@kathleenibeh6309]

See...this is probably one of the REALEST messages I've ever watched. Marriage is not easy, but its definitely not difficult if you understand certain concepts like these. This is a universal, biblically sound teaching that can be applied to any and every couple any and every where! We need more of this, especially for young people preparing for and those just starting out in marriage.

[@aunenuuyoma5353]

Thank u so much Apostle for ur teaching it realy teach some of us that we need to get married one day by the grace of God thanks alot 👏👏

[@nkatekomachumele2261]

Singleness is a gift. Marriage was never designed to make you happy but better

[@supermolaj7992]

Relationship Steps
1. Awareness
2. Acceptance
3. Appreciation
4. Adjustment

[@diplomatdiplomat2800]

What about no 3? Did you forget it? Ok the third is to build a relationship with Jesus. We can't really love others without experiencing unconditional love that is only available in God. Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Please consider inviting Jesus into your life as your Lord and personal Savior ❤️♥️

[@dashelledisna6239]

I never say I'm tired because this is a beautiful stage to be in. No kids to take care of, no husband to please. Growing in thesp6irit. Whenever it happens happens. My husband/marriage I leave on the altar of the Lord.🙌🏽

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

Amen sis....those who know, know 🙌💯✝️👑

[@liz9664]

Hallelujah!

[@umutonimichelline8976]

Amen

[@asmalig]

Best time to be so close to God. To find your purpose. To position yourself before God so he can position you in the nation to serve him. Best time to invest and create businesses. To learn new skills and set a prayer routine. ❤️

[@Dhammilicious]

Hmmmm!Deep!

[@supermolaj7992]

1. Opposite attraction
2. Opposite Frustrate
3. Opposite Exchange

[@russelllevers9513]

I have found the best wife. We are opposites!!!! But we feel deeply in love with each other!!!! To God be the glory.

[@maxineadderley5378]

I have embraced where I am, because the Lord has revealed my husband to me and yes, he is my opposite. And due to that, our family is delayed, however, I have noticed that in the delay, I am being prepared. For example: I am not domesticated. I was a nurse and that’s the only thing I enjoyed. I never learned to cook and would pay people to clean my house etc. He is like pastor, he likes his rice to be steamily hot, I am the opposite. He hates microwave food, I as a single person, cook my chicken and rice in the microwave. I now do not like microwave and is now enjoying cooking and cleaning. I hated cooking so much that the lingering scent of food in the kitchen, made me feel nauseous. I am now the opposite of what I was and is much more like he is in this regard. It amazes me, every day of how much I have evolved into the things that he likes. So like the man of God said, singleness is a blessing. And through the Holy Spirit, if we are sensitive to him, we can grow as we are being prepared for God’s plans for our life.

[@mulongojohnathan8963]

Beautiful word of encouragement

[@mulongojohnathan8963]

God bless you.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

I love being single, it is indeed a gift containing so much peace and freedom to do so much with my time. I have no problem with remaining single forever if it suits Gods plan for my life.

[@blessing1702]

I had to learn how to be a happy single girl and now am nervous about all the freedom I will lost when I get married.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

@@blessing1702 I dey feel you.

[@real_nwogu]

Go and get married my dear.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

@@real_nwogu If it is part of Gods plan for my life then I have no problem with it, but if it is not, I still have no problem. Happiness, contentment and peace does not revolve around marriage, it comes from God, so the most important thing is to have Him in my life.

[@christabeleboh3948]

@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 go girl ❤️❤️

[@lyliesasakwa562]

This is the sermon someone shared with me that led me to Pastor Kingsley and his wife. I listened to this particular one multiple times while single and today, I am listening as a married woman. I’m calling it a revision session 😆

[@olatundeolabanji2397]

I think Pastor Kingsley should acknowledge that this message is the best message for the year....its Loaded..welldone and God bless you sir

[@maryotitolaye4772]

I agree so much to learn here, especially for singles, it's loaded

[@BubbasJuice2145]

Ladies pastor has never lied
if we can just control our desires for ourselves we can embrace the singleness we’re in what in Gods time at this point know your purpose know your passion learn who you are and embrace the time by yourself. Once you give it up it’s no longer your time it becomes our time. Good luck.

[@a.a1175]

I thank God I found this video today I guess I’m at the frustrating stage and have been thinking about divorce.God bless u pastor for this message 💯🔥

[@tobyzillions]

Recieve strength and wisdom to know what to do... Everything will be alright

[@musasalami6179]

Ur marriage will experience a turnaround. Stay blessed!

[@Relationshipdose1]

Thank God you found the message at the right time..

[@chigoziechiamaka7485]

Try playing this message where ur partner is, u don't need to ask him to listen he will. Pray too everything will be fine

[@mrokoro7237]

The first Sunday I worship at pastor Kingsley's church in 2019,I said to my self, that I'm not going to attend any other church in Lagos except his church.

[@oritsegee]

Honestly, being single is so much fun and I have embraced it almost too much LOL. I enjoy the solitude and ability to live my life on my own terms. I really enjoy living alone and I'm never bored, I like my routines and I am always looking forward to returning home regardless of how much fun I'm having outside. I want to get married and have kids so I often wonder how I would cope because I love my space and time so much. I already know that marriage would require a major behavioral adjustment from me. May God help me.

[@NanaEkua593]

Saaaaaaaaame

[@c-gracemusic]

Exactly my case

[@loveedetmendie]

This is the story of my life

[@nabbloom8513]

We are in this together

[@akpewevivian1812]

Pastor Kingsley your sense of humor is huge but I like the subtilty behind the delivery of your message. God bless you and your family

[@AllThingsLindo]

Sooo true how the things that attracted you becomes the things that frustrate you about each other. My husband is very quiet😂 took me a while to get used to this once the ball dropped. I can safely say we have reached the stage of exchange❤️

[@olufunkeyetunde6744]

I am married for 9 years. I am now tired mostimes. Sometimes frustrated. All you have said is true. Like you are referring to me. Sometimes, I want a break from the marriage.

[@ntsakomavunda9018]

Yeiyiii Jeso🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️. Just when I was telling God yesterday In my honest conversation with Him that, "Lord I'm tired of this stage"
I'm truly one who advocate for single days to be used fruitfully and I'm truly so grateful that I happened not to marry anytime prior to my 30., but at this time, you do feel that you have enjoyed the "gift ' fully and would love the experience of the next stage ...#Two is better than one -oo🧐 we now desire that #Betterness

[@clarisendifor3452]

Exactly 💯 after marriage your life will never be the same again

[@ashabablesnchelsy9418]

I can relate but.. I something can be organized and some days scattered 😁. I'm a spender not a saver, on the other hand I can be a talkative and I can be introverted aswell

[@nahakere2967]

Pst Mildred is my kinda mama. I love her and I love the way her hubby loves her

[@jesussbff811]

My husband made me angry and after listening to this message, all became well. 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you my newest found pastor.
You and your wife are my “social media vibes.”
Y’all go listen to pastor Mildred’s S .O .A .P message. 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@nklynworld1612]

Yes, you are true, people think going into marriage ends their problems and that's why they're feel frustrated when they see the responsibilites

[@tojuirone1997]

So true

[@Debbie_obasi]

Opposite attracts this is very true sir
I am a complete introvert and I'm naturally attracted to extroverted men

[@shetumuhammed7436]

Very true 👍my guy is very quiet but me talkative and he is a good listener

[@ezekaekwucynthia2002]

Lovely ooo
I learn something

[@tobyzillions]

I can totally relate... what attracts can end up being the reason why two people want to break apart..

[@joanneclarke4226]

Awareness Acceptance Appreciation Adjustment; move from emotional love to intentional love

[@nthabilu]

This guy is so good. I'm currently at the second stage where opposites frustrate 😫. I'm learning to manoeuvre through it and hopefully get to the 3rd stage

[@norithatabi7887]

True ooo 😂😂😂

[@preciousaikusoe5024]

Thank you sir this really helped me , my relationship almost never survive the frustration stage and I almost began to think something was wrong with me. I understand better now thank you sir God bless you abundantly

[@ellajones83]

Pastor K, always a blessing, God bless you sir. You must also laugh out loud. Watching your teachings in a public place would make your neighbors ask if all is well! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jessicamufudza2647]

😂😂😂...i agree..i was just laughing throughout

[@thelivingwoman-tlw372]

Its so true that man judges, woman brings mercy. I smile at this because of such experience in my own marriage. But it is so beautiful to see that God is both mercy and judge and the children need need both, and the exchange part of it and complement one another.

[@emmanueluwe4107]

I’m so glad I watched this as a single. I was truly blessed. God bless you Sir.

[@liz9664]

Living my best life as a single lady. My happiest days yet. Thank you, Jesus! 🙏

[@dashelledisna6239]

Amen Sister, me too.

[@lashugazbeauty]

Nice one Pastor🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@AllThingsLindo]

We need all churches, because if the ones where you wear earrings were not that, some people wouldn't see heaven. So powerful.
There is beauty in our differences, this is how God can love each and every one of us despite how different we are from each other.

[@sarahwanacel3487]

Am happy that God is still remembering my marriage through this message. God Bless You pastor, you will not understand what God has imparted in my life through this message.

[@queenyjummy4951]

Haha Pst. Kingsley is too funny Lol, nothing but the truth was covered in this message. God sure did anoint u for this sir. When you live in your purpose, you will sure shine with God's grace.

[@judeenblair9619]

I'm thankful to God,I'm finally embracing my singleness.
I'm loving it.

[@Fourportionsandmore]

This noon I did not plan listening to a message I came online to see a movie to distract my emotion... Nothing fascinated me... So I choose to listen to a message! This message was what I needed at the moment in my life! It resonate with me so deeply. God Bless More and More Pastor K

[@lizmagezi8876]

Great anointed Man of God for our generation.

[@cecebrown7695]

Thank you pastor for the teaching. We beed such teachings in churches these days. People are left believing that marriage is all about sex and two people living together. They forgwt the nitty gritty in the background before these two parties can enjoy living together in unity ( differencies). Finding joy in differences. God bless you pastor K.
Greetings from uganda.

[@abimifoluwaagbede3427]

Pastor Kingsley don't kill us with laughter now, which one is scattered people are you here with me? LMAO. Indeed blessed. Thank you sir.

[@tetsimau]

Embracing my singleness, thank you pastorK

[@ivykepsin7052]

Felt like you were just mentioning my name and narrating my story. Thanks for the wisdom. Hopefully, things will get better and we'll learn to manage our relationships better. God bless you!

[@BubbasJuice2145]

God brings our messages surely through others👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾

[@BubbasJuice2145]

I need you to make sure you understand what the pastor is telling us opposites attract, and it works

[@thepreciousomah]

This is so insightful. I'm 20 and I'm glad I just got to listen to this

[@jessicamufudza2647]

Wow..this was a powerful sermon...And i love the way you teach with humor...indeed this is so true, i was now having some AHA moments from my marriage too...i am the spender 😂 whilst my husband is the saver but i have realised that indeed over the years I'm adjusting 😂 but still some way to go...thank you so much Pastor K for your wise teaching

[@mulongojohnathan8963]

Glory be to God.

[@chidinmauche1330]

It's amazing how this could also apply to Platonic Relationships too🔥

[@toluwanimiogbonmide]

2:10 is an iconic moment. Ocholi Okutekpa is now a force to be reckoned with in the area of relationships. This was roughly one year ago.

[@akubaparkos1857]

Great message very very true …l am in the frustration stage and it’s not easy but l pray God gives me the strength forge through..Amen!!

[@shebahdebrah6076]

I love this.. pastor Kay always great at his work.
Love from Accra, Ghana 🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭

[@judeenblair9619]

Pastor your teachings also contribute to my development and maturity.

[@amarachimosesakuchinyere3362]

This is the best message l have ever heard. God please help to apply it in my marriage in Jesus Name 🙏.

[@ifouzezi]

This is hitting home! I've never really gone passed the opposite frustrate stage. It is well.

[@KingsleyOkonkwo]

You have to become intentional o

[@nkutaizyanamwingachindo4368]

Opposite frustrate stage, I understand now what happened to me. Wow, thank you

[@maryotitolaye4772]

As in ehn I always Break up at the furstrate stage.. it is well o

[@mulongojohnathan8963]

@@KingsleyOkonkwo praise the Lord pastor, am blessed with this message, can I have your number please, and Gmail account, I have questions to ask, from Uganda.

[@Suzzyabibamohammed]

​@@KingsleyOkonkwo21:36 pastor me God bless you more grace I tapped on ur married I God to bless me with that married so pastor I need ur help in prayer

[@godismyhelp6359]

God bless you Pastor
I have experienced all this stages in my relationship alone ,not yet married
And he's a man of God so it was even tougher
But love and grace has kept us
God bless you
You and your wife is loved
Long life in good health

[@bukolafatile5645]

I'm totally blessed by your ministration Sir. 🙌🏾 Now more than ever when we need unity in our nation, in marriages and the body of Christ, this sermon is an eye-opener that can help us harness and optimise the power of differences.

[@estheresther8275]

I wish l heard all this before l married. I do not know why l did not see all your preaching God help me

[@sharonetem8588]

Never a dull moment with you pastor K

[@mwaka.damali]

Timely message to be heard on a beautiful morning like this one.
Aaaaàaaaw, thank you God!

[@michaeldavid8564]

This is the best message I've heard from my pastor. So many things embedded in one sermon

[@abime123]

Marriage is like a school where we come out better 😅😅😅🙌🙌🙌✍️✍️✍️ noted papaa 😁😁😁

[@vanessamofor1102]

PK you are a blessing to our generation. May God continue to empower you so that you will keep blessing us like this.

[@namakularebecah4299]

I swear pastor K has experience in this life. Am so blessed

[@kukuaparker5291]

I stumbled upon this video while brooding and hurting over my date's sudden change in behavior towards me, and suddenly felt God's touch. I have been so inspired by your teachings, I subscribed to your channel immediately, and started to digest your videos bit by bit. I find that each time I listen to you, I derive divine strength to do me and focus on me, instead of fretting over a man who's trying so hard to walk out of my life. I would really love to learn more by reading your books. Where in Ghana can I buy them from please??

[@harrietenanga7939]

I love love this message @ Pastor Kingsley you're a great teacher .Eversince I started watching your videos and listening to you my life and most especially my mentality has changed for the better . Thank you for allowing God use you to bless us

[@IdoworshipBru10]

Woooow. This is Rhema upon rhema upon rhema!!!!!
The revelations are just too much.
Pastor K, God bless you. Honestly' thanks for yielding. Both yourself and your wife pastor mildred. There is no time i dont learb something new with every single video out here' whether yours or hers. Honestly this particular one is just ..😲😲😲😲😲too much rhema. Secondly how u share this deep insight as if you re simply discussing with us as if we re ur siblings ( and we are, in Christ jesus) just all chilling in the living room' cracking jokes and deep revelations just pouring out. Ahh this is an art. It takes Grace. Greater Grace on you and your ministry . God bless you.

[@vimilchar]

I am so thankful for these teachings. I finally am understanding men better.
I don't get so angry at them anymore because I literally understand why they do and say the things they do and say.
I respond to these things differently now.
Life around them is not so stressful anymore.
Thank you so much for teaching us.

[@lilianlubanga4010]

Thank you so much Papa for this powerful message. From today l will never complain again for being single!!!!!! More Grace to you .

[@naomimaina9210]

Blessed by all your videos.Have learnt alot. Am better and wiser. God bless you immensely man of God. From Kenya, more grace

[@mrdeecroft3114]

when you are single oh, not even in a relationship...singleness is a blessing

[@amakatheglobalforce]

Challenges don’t go but your attitude changes

[@thetaniart]

Thank you sir. You are and (by God's grace & mercy) still one of my top marriage councillors. I'm a Muslim and I have never met you but you have impacted my life with your practical teachings. May God help us all in our marriages because indeed it starts with the God of all gods, our Creator and King of all kings. God bless you good, Pastor Kingsley and extending the greeting to your incredible wife as well 😇.

[@debbieidiabana3385]

After watching this video, i appreciated the difference between myself and hubby. I pray God helps us to put a good use to it. Our difference has almost wrecked the relationship !!

[@farmersgirlfriendzambia333]

Powerful message for my being and in my singleness.
God bless Zambia 🇿🇲

[@keyross1676]

Ah this message is too Sweet. God bless you pastor k

[@faithukusare]

My pastor and his wisdom and realness

[@princechime8754]

This is great therapy... Thank you so much Pastor King

[@mosadikobe4110]

The okonkwo couple are a blessing. They are my number one in this season.
Thank you for this pastor. You have saved alot that I could've lost

[@girlstalkwithsu]

I really needed this message.. Thank God it came in time..
More grace Pastor.

[@phosilemusuku6898]

Me too🤣 really, Thank God for this.

[@kateofmanycolours]

I was so blessed by this message. God bless you, Sir. You always make it relatable

[@classicalretroback]

Well said sir. You are a rare gift to this generation and I like your humor when passing your message across.🎯

[@chituruwoke451]

Pst Kingsley you're a comedian and teacher. Enjoying your teaching. More grace and anointing.

[@nancychibuye1456]

Eziokwu daalu Nna🙏💞.

[@AllThingsLindo]

Always learning so much from you Pastor 🙌🏽 you are a great teacher

[@hloniphilengcobo8967]

Pastor K you are a blessing Sir to our generation...we appreciate God for your life ❤🙌

[@loislois9143]

Amazing message
For clarity purpose, there’s a huge difference between being scattered and down right dirty 👌🏾

[@abinaisoken2646]

You are such an intelligent inspiratory speaker..your analogy makes too much sense. You just keep soaring Pst.Kingsley Okonkwo🎉

[@ndipleromavictorine1550]

Thanks so much pastor Sir for this message. In this message have really understood who I am and why I behave the way I do. From this message am learning how to accept those around without having an attitude towards them Thanks so much Sir.

[@adjahovincent3583]

One realistic preacher ❤❤.
God richly bless you

[@adamaadmiresechyi5225]

That was a deep teaching thank you sir i pray men should be bold to tell us all this.

[@zayasnaturalhairhaven3451]

Thank God for my singleness. I will achieve so much before my husband comes

[@angiegrace1028]

May God bless you abundantly Pastor K. I’ve learned at lot about myself, singleness and marriage through your teachings and your wife’s Pastor M. When my future husband will find me, by the time appointed by God, I will definitely would love to have the priviledge of attending pre-marital counselling with Pastor M and yourself. You both are truly gifts for the body of Christ. Hugs from Montreal, Canada

[@nancychibuye1456]

Well spoken, God bless you daddy Kingsley

[@ezekielirewole5977]

Powerful message. Thanks for sharing. 👏

[@joyodedele3986]

I am glad to be watching this now.

[@abime123]

Oh my God so powerful and deep Amen amennn please you are welcome in india🇮🇳🇮🇳 Papaaa..I am so inspired by your word 😁😅😅😅thank you so much for teaching us the real life

[@amakatheglobalforce]

Focus on the reason why God put you there ✅✅✅✅

[@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439]

Acceptance is difficult due to societal norms
An organized man who thinks woman should NATURALLY be organized finds it difficult to accept his wife who is unorganized because he doesn't understand that personality differences often have nothing to do with gender.

[@chisomajuruonu9596]

Beautiful teaching, very entertaining and impactful