Esther Perel: The routines, rituals and boundaries we need in stressful times | TED

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  • How do you effectively regulate stress? Therapist Esther Perel discusses the importance of creating routines, rituals and boundaries to deal with pandemic-related loss and uncertainty -- both at home and at work -- and offers some practical tools and techniques to help you regain your sense of self. (This conversation, hosted by TED's Helen Walters, was recorded February 2021.)
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Комментарии • 76

  • @JoeZerit0
    @JoeZerit0 3 года назад +57

    What a joy to find a new TED Talk by Esther today.

    • @RamSadeh
      @RamSadeh 2 года назад

      Though her earlier talks were less woke and in my view- so much deeper

  • @anschiver
    @anschiver 3 года назад +36

    She might have a strong accent but by god she uses words that might be considered difficult by some with such ease, it's a delight to listen to her.

    • @gwho
      @gwho 3 года назад +3

      Right??? I just said that to my Russian friend. She has a heavy accent, but her command of English is masterful

    • @carolmcbrideonline
      @carolmcbrideonline 10 месяцев назад

      Esther speaks more than 5 languages.

  • @birgulalizada6831
    @birgulalizada6831 3 года назад +32

    and I'm watching this video for improving my listening skills in English , I've already lost my psychology thanks to the quarantine ( who else watches for getting better English?

    • @Noukz37
      @Noukz37 3 года назад +1

      @@GabrielCazorlaPersson1 That's a really good advice! Once you reach a certain level, or watch something simple (like a family-friendly animated movie) be brave and turn off the subtitles. That'll take you to the next level and onwards :-)

  • @in4tividade_583
    @in4tividade_583 3 года назад +17

    Eager for the times after pandemic, dreaming about the parties and travels and the general life!!!

  • @vamonarch4740
    @vamonarch4740 3 года назад +18

    I love the piece about loss of serendipity due to over-emphasis on safety. Interesting observation.

  • @CherylMuir
    @CherylMuir 3 года назад +18

    "The pendulum that swings between freedom and security has snapped off its hinge."

  • @jeddak
    @jeddak 3 года назад +7

    great point about the merging of work and home enabling people to bring their whole selves to both areas of our lives; the partial breakdown of the artificial compartments which can feel so threatening has a silver lining

  • @yukonfarnsworth1688
    @yukonfarnsworth1688 3 года назад +35

    I just stop watching the news boom! Anxiety gone.

  • @mars1783
    @mars1783 3 года назад +4

    Thanks, that was beautiful! I'm glad that people like Esther are guiding us through this era. It seems a lot of companies are having to revamp their ecosystems, and we needed this! My mother and I were laid off.... THANK GOD!!! Haha Because it woke me up to how I can help others cope with mental health issues, n become our best versions of ourselves.

  • @xavi1960
    @xavi1960 3 года назад +4

    Very wise way to explain the actual situation.

  • @happinessyogateacher
    @happinessyogateacher Год назад

    Loss of EROS, yes, ambiguous loss. Constant extreme emphasis on safety is squashing EROS, that would otherwise create a sense of aliveness in our lives. YIKES, so insightful!

  • @cherrykindstedt7051
    @cherrykindstedt7051 Год назад

    Love Esther. Have done for years!!

  • @mkflanagan1
    @mkflanagan1 2 года назад +1

    She is so very wise!

  • @Larry21924
    @Larry21924 3 месяца назад

    This is absolutely outstanding. I read a book with similar content, and it was absolutely outstanding. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn

  • @AndrejsBoka
    @AndrejsBoka 3 года назад +8

    yes "muting button" as the only way to change the world between work, home, friend, other environment it's a very very correct.

  • @alsadekalkhayer7007
    @alsadekalkhayer7007 3 года назад +5

    ok, first three minutes, she made me panic. on the other hand, the interviewer has got a comforting aura.

  • @elmo2you
    @elmo2you 3 года назад

    Thank you Esther

  • @pateole1951
    @pateole1951 3 года назад +1

    Very insightful, thank you 🙏!

  • @rohan7486
    @rohan7486 3 года назад

    Thanks this helped a lot in reassuring my ideas right now!

  • @stariy207
    @stariy207 3 года назад +8

    the ending is just perfect!

    • @eightiesboy
      @eightiesboy 3 года назад +1

      Going to work has always been about a sense of belonging.

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  • @DrinkmoWater.
    @DrinkmoWater. 3 года назад +8

    Tedtalks and books helped shaped my view during pandemic. Books helped were: Extreme ownership, Think Sharp by Dr Sunjay Gupta

  • @thuylinhnguyen607
    @thuylinhnguyen607 2 года назад +1

    That a great video that I have seen. Thank you

  • @marshalie2976
    @marshalie2976 3 года назад +4

    Hello from Uzbekistan!

  • @barbarabukovssek7062
    @barbarabukovssek7062 2 года назад +1

    Interesting in the whole comment of Mrs. Perell is that she refers herself to Zygmund Baumann. His famous book "Modern times and Holocaust reflects one very unique experience of the influence of The modern Era on the holocaust and the very experience of many who survived holocaust or the shoah and their experiences nearly similar to the experiences of many nowadays coping with the uncertainty on several fields of private and social life. Yes that the constant threat of the epidemic and forced isolation but also uncertainty and collective and individual peril of the pandemic that created unlimited uncertainty also changed the individual and social perception of very being. Boundaries of whom Mrs. Perell is discussing, are disappearing.

  • @poiisondn
    @poiisondn 3 года назад +68

    This video came too late. I've already lost it.

  • @jacysteven921
    @jacysteven921 3 года назад +1

    Nice man

  • @MarionPaulBaylado
    @MarionPaulBaylado 3 года назад +1

    kinahanglan jud makadungog among manager ani!

  • @wahid666
    @wahid666 3 года назад

    Nice

  • @kingabaddonmusic
    @kingabaddonmusic 3 года назад

    Good afternoon

  • @mariposa12345
    @mariposa12345 3 года назад +2

    🤗

  • @eminebulbul602
    @eminebulbul602 2 года назад

    Can you add english subtitles please 🤗

  • @UncutEssay
    @UncutEssay 3 года назад

  • @soberseven
    @soberseven 2 года назад

    Is Esther saying "eros" is the essence of ambiguity in our experience (2.22minute & repeated) ?
    Eros is sensual love.

  • @barbarabukovssek7062
    @barbarabukovssek7062 2 года назад

    The peril is turning to new normality and at the end of the pandemic we will get out very as very different option of ourself, those who will survive. Probably more resilient but different, probably not so spoiled as before. But absolutely different. The values are already turning or changing. What is for sure, we, the people who survived will not be comparable wit past self never again. The experience is dramatic in itself, but in the future the survivors will be tougher and even stronger to resist stress and much more. It it imantent to human nature. Once is for sure, we will be different. The question is only if better than before.

  • @angela-lauradinu1265
    @angela-lauradinu1265 4 месяца назад

    bassors!

  • @TS-cy3vw
    @TS-cy3vw 3 года назад +1

    Refer to Sucharit Bhakdi MD...

  • @laus-thecurious4120
    @laus-thecurious4120 3 года назад +1

    Vedio has a great topic, but vedio has not methods to cope

  • @TheLivirus
    @TheLivirus 3 года назад +4

    I love Esther, but Jesus Christ I'm so sick of talks forcing Covid into the title.

  • @ItsJoKeZ
    @ItsJoKeZ 3 года назад +1

    bit late huh

  • @thesaladbowl2821
    @thesaladbowl2821 3 года назад +1

    I thought it was Angela from the office before clicking on the video.

  • @DrawRedLion
    @DrawRedLion 3 года назад +1

    Channel dedicated to drawing......
    "Drawing is my passion, not a gift"

  • @daunted2322
    @daunted2322 3 года назад +1

    And if you are spiritual, do the opposite.

  • @BrianMcInnis87
    @BrianMcInnis87 3 года назад +8

    Opinion: If your sense of self can be even mildly threatened by having to keep some distance from most people for a year or so, you never had one.

    • @tbrowniscool
      @tbrowniscool 3 года назад +1

      I agree!

    • @drdrew3
      @drdrew3 3 года назад +7

      False narrative. Social distancing was never the main source of stress. You are negating the true feelings that many others are dealing with. It’s a rather complex topic that you choose to ignore (or you are just trolling. Or didn’t actually watch the video)

  • @SamYTB26
    @SamYTB26 3 года назад

    French accent ?

    • @leonore3349
      @leonore3349 2 года назад

      Yeah, she's Belgian.

    • @McAuliflower
      @McAuliflower 2 года назад

      She's local to Belgium 😉 (her discussion on where are you local is a great one to look up!)

  • @GillAmbrose
    @GillAmbrose 3 года назад

    Gill Ambrose podcast is better than Tan Talks

  • @julianshepherd2038
    @julianshepherd2038 3 года назад +3

    Could be worse.
    Could be doing 25 years in jail or fighting a war.

  • @markschweitzer
    @markschweitzer 3 года назад

    our politicans are making to forever. so no thats not helping

  • @tatiekbokings7930
    @tatiekbokings7930 2 года назад

    Pandemic was a Big Distraction

  • @OnGodsErrand
    @OnGodsErrand 3 года назад +2

    The Gospel of Jesus Christ, the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints Jesus Christ’s gospel incorporates so much truth but only truths that withstand every storm in life, find out for yourself

  • @alejandro1979x
    @alejandro1979x 3 года назад +2

    Not going back to the past? Where we used to connect with people face to face is not something to come back?
    This woman works for corporations, her advice is bias.
    So, no thank you!

  • @Naveenkumarmadheri
    @Naveenkumarmadheri 3 года назад

    Is this talk only for women....? Is itt....

  • @Aco747lyte
    @Aco747lyte 3 года назад

    The vocals on this video are awful!

  • @oliviafranklin4627
    @oliviafranklin4627 2 года назад

    Did she get botox? I prefer her face that moves and full of expression.

  • @BigWoollyMammoth
    @BigWoollyMammoth 3 года назад

    Blah, blah, blah. You’ve said nothing.

  • @tbrowniscool
    @tbrowniscool 3 года назад

    I tink the botox on the right is so hard done by.... Bless her

  • @waleedpeer6115
    @waleedpeer6115 3 года назад +1

    Nice