Esther Perel on Workplace Dynamics | SXSW 2019
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- Опубликовано: 2 июн 2024
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Navigating relationships and cultivating relational fluency is key- both personally and professionally. Each of us carries specific narratives which guide our needs and expectations - how we connect to others, how we define trust, and how we engage or avoid conflict. Most importantly, these inner stories determine how we communicate and elicit curiosity and collaboration.
We don't magically become different people when we walk into our office. Once considered a “soft skill” in the workplace, relational intelligence is now one of the top currencies of business success.
Famed couples therapist Esther Perel has spent more than 35 years helping people articulate their aspirations, explore boundaries between self and others, and repair trust that is broken. Now she’s applying her extensive knowledge of relationships to help us master the art of modern leadership.
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Everything that comes out of her mouth is pure gold!!!
If you're gay.
No it really isn't.
i'm hypnotized by her necklace flipping direction each time she turns her neck/body
Woooww! A revolutionary view of work and relationships. *Relational* intelligence... emotional capitalism... romantic consumerism... subtle narcissism - profound concepts that she is revealing. Her explanation of trust and the shattering of trust rocked my world.
"start by changing myself" because all about how you perceive it, and the how you mind it, and so how you emote it. The way you think is the way you emote. The way you emote is the way you think, different people have different degree of importance of emotion and thinking. Nobody can upset you, as any emotion is generated within you , you see withing yourself, you hear within yourself. No matter whats happening, if it happens to you that means it is your responsibility , now you have ability to respond.
Such an amazing conversation with Esther Perel at SxSW on our relationships at work! "All relationships rest on 3 main pillars: autonomy & interdependence, managing conflict & communication, & self-awareness & accountability. We all carry beliefs based on our childhoods about what we can expect from people. These form the lens through which we look at our relationships. What messages did you grow up with? That relationships are central and safe, or peripheral and harmful? Never before have we expected so much from our romantic partners and our work. We want our work to give us an enormous amount of flexibility so it will adapt to the particularities of our life, to be attentive to our physical and emotional well-being, and to give us a sense of purpose and meaning. In our intimate relationships, we want all of this for the long haul... and the long haul keeps getting longer." ☺️
For LGBT people
Thanks for notes.
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So accurate and with such high degree of honesty. Some principles to live by.
She is such a genius !!
She is so amazing.
Such an incredible look into what happens between people at work
Powerful as usual
Self Awareness and Accountability - this could change a LOT!
Great speech
I love her podcast and Esther's wisdom.
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I stupidly lost my account password. I would love any help you can give me
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Great presentation, so true
"If you want to change the others I start by changing myself" and it starts with "The only thing you can change in a person is the way you see it"
Great speech Esther. I would like to know who is your mentor? :)
Probably more than one person, they say the most skillful teachers learn from their students.
After hearing the whole presentation I understand your question more clearly. Sorry for jumping in.
first!!! ❤️ Esther Perel ❤️SXSW!!!
Esther Perel dresses like the wise woman heroine in a Bond movie (whatever that means, I'm getting Judie Dench vibes, mostly) and it makes me very happy.
That smart woman always wears that one necklace. I would love to know what it means to her.
It also intrigues me ;) As someone who attaches meaning to some personal possessions/jewellery..
Probably lgbtq
@@thehill8353 what makes you think that?
It's a ladder, that's how relationships and life are built... step by step.
I 2nd that!
I found some goodies for the kids for Christmas,:faired good with the podiatrist/cardiologist, will finish up with the PPO for this year, and follow up with the New HMO after New Years Visits!
I’m aware of everything
It’s life.
This is an excellent review. A similar book I read steered my life in a new direction. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Gold
Is there an intentional edit at 12:24? Ive been over it three times and the sound is cut/chopped.
Turn on captions
❤️ ❤️ ❤️
This content is awe-inspiring. A book I read recently was equally magnificent. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
amazing im just interested why some people immediately are aloof and rude to people whom they just met ?
❤
.. I hera the word parter family... and those that are alone where do they fit in?
Me the same
Don’t worry
I will do the job
What does she say 12:23 ???
Something like "If somebody let you know that your work is done"
xFILIPINOx C ‘stand up if you have let others take credit for the work that you’ve done?’
_“And stand up if you have ever let somebody take credit for something you’ve done.”_
Do u ever what???....12:25
_“And stand up if you have ever let somebody take credit for something you’ve done.”_
Thank you for asking & thank you to the person that knew the answer :)
She is way too unpopular I love her
Seriously??? She's all over YT.
Mahdi means = leader
Even god’s himself , comes to earth, human being, forced him to running back to universes
25:00
Not “soft” skills. Interpersonal skills.
I knew, that she reads Eva Illouz' books ruclips.net/video/0PqWQl2AJpQ/видео.html, great to see these reference, i like them both very much, they are so smart and passionate about relationships and love
Most of us are still straight. Can you make a video for us?
And that changes things how?
@@Pholy00 We love the opposite sex and their traits on them. We want compliments not mirror images.
You realise, or realize, that if survival is the decision and it is rational, then, that sort of debunks the intention bit ... ? ... anarchic ... love has no borders, hey ... conventions sort of go out the window ...when you are with the one ... it's no holds barred ... using a poetic licence ...
... caveat ... scale seems relevant, like in physics ... behaviour of objects ...
... yeah, I might be in trouble ... you still seem beautiful ...
... belonging?
... "foolish things"? ... is it their region? ... perhaps if it were in part, their region, then maybe they would do less foolish things? ... How many foolish things though, do they do in their own region? They might be just as foolish if not more so, in their own region? Sometimes people do foolish things when they are trying to impress other people - especially if they don't quite realise that is what they are doing ... it's ok, you can look at me on that point ... but not in a prolonged creepy way please ... just saying ... hehehe
... "almost".
How come they can't all sit down and say, things have got out of control, let's start again, let's start from here, in theory, put aside agreements which aren't actually working, and say, yes "we" had agreements and things aren't working, times have changed, so rather than waste time trying to force things to stick and stay stuck, what do "we", as in all sides, need to do for where the world is now, what agreement do "we" need to make, now?
... is it impossible to trust, again?
I myself don't know the answer to that question. The solution phases in and out of phase. At present, it is illusory, simultaneously impossible and possible, difficult to see how, and in a writhing, yet not so much twisted way, not difficult to see that it might not always be, difficult to see how, even if, right now, it isn't clear how, it might be otherwise. Would comparing it to being like a non-conscripted and non-volunteering human guinea pig or piggy in the middle, feeling and thinking, outside the box (ha ha, but, not hehehe, no pun intended) inverse version of Schroedinger's cat, be more coocoo or more kooky? ... ok, now, a chuckle ... the absurdity of the reality of it ... it's surrealistic and cubist and neither ... a twilight zone it is ...
One year later: Coronavirus...!
Remember you Jezebel's, men don't bear children, you do!., so think very carefully about your desires, because regret is a bitter pill to swallow, and time is fleeting...If you know what I mean. Lol.
The wacky scene curiously transport because lyocell sequentially point qua a brave salesman. yellow, victorious interest
For LGBT people and feminists not for hetrosexual people.
I wish I would be in a better work environment. The team has emotional manipulators, disgusting lustful married man and bullies. The softer hardworking team members are resigning on by one.
The department see EQ as friendship game instead of relationship building. The quality of work suffered greatly for speed and promotion of managers and heads who cares more for money and prestige. The company is prestigious but surprisingly many are rotten tomatoes and bad eggs. They're just all about money and superficial "position" power. I wanna leave but I don't want to have a quitter habit. It's my third time to move to a company and each managers and their heads are the same conceptually. Integrity, conscentiousness and putting equivalent work to their earning is so imbalanced. They just want easy money and leverage on us. And they make the quality employees feel we are wrong so they can continue to manipulate and leverage on us. How can I find the right competitive and healthy company? It seems this types are very unique as many people enjoy immaturity, irresponsibility and toxicity.
Not worth trying. Relationships are doomed from the start.
shw talks about everything and at the same time she speacks about nothing. All of ......without any substance.