What Really Happens When You "Ghost" Someone?

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

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  • @socialneuro
    @socialneuro  Год назад +13

    Is there something I missed about ghosting in this video? Do you think ghosting is going to become more common? Have you been ghosted? So many questions!

    • @gellopudding
      @gellopudding Год назад +2

      Sounds like what you experienced was hurtful, and I'm sorry that happened to you.
      Please consider that ghosting isn't always a bad thing, and in many cases, it's necessary, such as when the person being ghosted is excessively toxic and/or violent. Whether ghosting is good, bad, or somewhere in between depends on the particular facts and circumstances.
      Additionally, ostracism is significantly different than ghosting. For example, in the ball tossing clip, 2 individuals continued tossing the ball in front of the third person, who was originally a participant but was later excluded, and this seems intentionally cruel. On the other hand, ghosting typically involves only 2 individuals, and the one who pulls the plug on the relationship often doesn't knowingly do anything in view of the person who was ghosted.

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  Год назад +4

      @@gellopudding You make some great points here! Maybe I'll do a follow-up video about when ghosting is a good idea. :) Thanks for writing and watching my video!!

    • @gellopudding
      @gellopudding Год назад

      @@socialneuro Thanks for your reply!

    • @techcdrive1702
      @techcdrive1702 Год назад

      @@socialneuro Yes Please, part 2 or maybe 3

    • @legaleagle4947
      @legaleagle4947 Год назад

      I most definitely think ghosting is going to become more common. On the surface, at least, technology, especially if it’s the primary source of communication in a relationship, makes it all too easy to click and *poof* disappear. 👻 Having been ghosted, I have been reading around this whole concept. I think what could be an interesting video would be more of the impact ghosting has upon the ghosted, and also what research says about the impact on the ghoster… I have found a few pieces on both but much I can’t gain access because it’s not available here, in the UK.

  • @robertblake9892
    @robertblake9892 8 месяцев назад +45

    One of my Great Rules of Life is that if someoone doesn't value my friendship theirs is worth even less to me.

  • @joannelauder
    @joannelauder Год назад +92

    Several years ago a very close friend ghosted me. I tried to reconnect with no result. One day I saw her walking down the street and I ran after her. I confronted her. She couldn't get away from me. She made excuses but nothing that was a clear explanation. Months later I ran into her husband. I asked him about it. He stated that one night the two of them were sharing a little pillow talk and the subject came up about who they would cheat with if they were going to cheat. Her husband named me. I was shocked. In the same breath he propositioned me. I walked away. Haven't seen either one of them since. As sad as the situation was, learning the truth gave me great piece of mind.

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  Год назад +16

      Wow! It sounds like those two had a lot of issues going on that you weren't aware of. I'm sorry you had to go through this. You must feel like you dodged a bullet in the end.

    • @joannelauder
      @joannelauder Год назад +17

      @@socialneuro Yes I dodged a bullet. I feel its more important to understand the reason for being ghosted. Just like real ghosts, being ghosted haunts you.

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 Год назад +8

      I am sorry you went through that but your friend did you a favor. Be glad you got away from them. Great on getting closure.

    • @trudieristich795
      @trudieristich795 Год назад

      ​@@joannelauderYes, because they actually did you a favor and that's the way to look at it. You don't need that s***

    • @janetkirsten6233
      @janetkirsten6233 11 месяцев назад +5

      Her loss, a trait of ghosters is low self worth and poor communication aptitude. You can now get on with life and make friends with emotionally stable people. My best friend did the same thing to me after she told me she had been ghosted her whole life that she would never do that to anyone. She ghosted me on Christmas eve. It took me a long time ,lots of tears and suffering, but I now know our relationship had no value. My advice is to never make friends with people who say they won't ghost. They will

  • @johnnyquid-xj4kk
    @johnnyquid-xj4kk 7 месяцев назад +36

    Anyone who ghosts you doesn’t belong in your life.

  • @kempboy111
    @kempboy111 4 месяца назад +12

    Ghosting can also be a way of controlling another person. No matter the purpose, it is very childish. There is a lack of accountability. Thanks for your great video and good luck finding a new best friend

  • @TimothyWiebe-v2y
    @TimothyWiebe-v2y Год назад +25

    Sorry to hear that happened to you- it’s a very painful experience for empathic people.

  • @frufrubb45
    @frufrubb45 8 месяцев назад +9

    Happend to me in 2023, reached out to person, and now its happening again being ghosted again, tired of it by now. Sorry friend we are done I guess. If they cant control me they ghosting me, really. ... how rude.

  • @jennyross5369
    @jennyross5369 Месяц назад +2

    I was recently ghosted by my best friend of 23 years- the pain is intense. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy

  • @JennsCorner0
    @JennsCorner0 9 месяцев назад +18

    I’ve been ghosted by a close friend & it recked me. I had many losses in my life & this was that one friend who was there for me since childhood. I just wanted closure. I knew she was going through her own hurts & issues but ending the friendship so insensitively broke my heart.
    It’s better to let the other know by email, letter, text a call or in person conversation.

  • @Key_Di19
    @Key_Di19 11 месяцев назад +34

    Ghosting must be a paragraph in the criminal law.

  • @amelittaberretta9109
    @amelittaberretta9109 9 месяцев назад +8

    Having been abandoned by the ghost er, he denied me to meet others,continued to ghost me, why? No one believed me the horrible residue of such ongoing Ghosting. Consequences. I have no support, lonely, OLD, woman.

  • @antygona-iq8ew
    @antygona-iq8ew 8 месяцев назад +8

    I am not sure whether I was gosthed or not as he provide me with some explanation when he broke up with me. We agreed upon 2 months no contact at that time, after that time, I have reached out 3 times in total but he never responded. Each message was very respectful, in last I asked whether he would be able to consider to allow me to say goodbye as I did not realised that over break up conversation was the last one. I considered him the closest friend. Regardless what people might think about the situation, I felt like a was ghosted. It is still so painful, especially that for whole of my childhood I suffeed social group exclusion and he knew about this aspect of my past.
    I am in therapy since break up but no once heart that regardless what and how strong his reasons were, that was very cruel act. It is so hard to put myself together.

  • @christianavina8406
    @christianavina8406 9 месяцев назад +14

    I actually got ghosted recently!. I had a friend for three years. We will talk on an off . Here an their throughout the years . This January we hit it off and she disappeared!. She told me she had an emergency and had to leave!. She never came back!. The Interesting part! The day before i got ghosted!. We had a wonderful date in super romantic!. What us amazing to me!. Is that i didn't want a relationship at first! She would say we make a perfect couple! She would say " i dont make it clear im really happy". Its reall hard at the moment!. Im hoping that shes is going to text or call ,but i know she is not!. Its so messed up ,because i would have been fine. I been wondering for close to a month. The very few last text message were a lie. She said im glad i make you happy because you deserve to be happy!. .She also texted me 10 days after she left saying that her phone broke and she doesn't know when shell be back ,but she is glad im doing well!. I last saw her 1/24/24. Dam i miss her . Im more stress because i would love talking to her as a friend. Im fucking sad.

    • @yolandasession8158
      @yolandasession8158 4 месяца назад +1

      I’m so sorry.. I feel your pain it happened to me😢

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 2 месяца назад

      It hurts so bad!! He ghosted me three weeks ago. We just got back together and had a great weekend. That makes it so fast harder. I don't think I will ever know why.

  • @jorgeromero7532
    @jorgeromero7532 Год назад +35

    I ghosted someone because she was difficult to speak to.. i was constantly gaslighted.. and the constant mind f.. forced me to just walk away quietly...

    • @anthonyr7208
      @anthonyr7208 Год назад +8

      Unfortunately, some people deserve to be ghosted

    • @eszterzsolnai9209
      @eszterzsolnai9209 11 месяцев назад +17

      Noone deserves to be ghosted... (unless its about real harm) to disappear without explanations. And being hurt by this way more than whatever uncomfortable things she did with the other person..

    • @anthonyr7208
      @anthonyr7208 11 месяцев назад +9

      @@eszterzsolnai9209 I disagree….
      Some people or situations are toxic and
      for your own sake and mental health you have to disappear…

    • @eszterzsolnai9209
      @eszterzsolnai9209 11 месяцев назад

      @@anthonyr7208 still you can say at least one sentence before you click on blocking... I was connected with toxic people many times. There was one whom I really trusted and she totally backstabbed me. Still I gave the chance to her to explain.. and as she just made it worse I said goodbye and disconnected - bot not blocked! Blocking like making someone like not exist.. its so much cruel.. and what is the sense? As you can make disconnection and saying goodbye. Why you still have to click on that blocking button with which you desrespect and humiliate them..

    • @janetkirsten6233
      @janetkirsten6233 11 месяцев назад +6

      Did you express how you felt to her ? Did you raise the concern ?

  • @izzysim9363
    @izzysim9363 4 месяца назад +6

    Ghosted by people who I thought were friends. Im very direct with people if I feel that someone is being disrespectful of me. Then boom!!! ghosted!!!! Blocked etc.... I just think people are fickle. They move on to ' the next best thing' and can't be accountable. Easier

  • @nancymeehan3874
    @nancymeehan3874 4 месяца назад +6

    I had a friend who would never plan any meetups. I decided to see what would happen if I stopped reaching out to her. I never heard from her again.

    • @leevize6045
      @leevize6045 4 месяца назад +3

      You read that right, then. She just didn’t need the relationship. 🤷‍♀️

  • @janetkirsten6233
    @janetkirsten6233 11 месяцев назад +12

    Ghosting and Caspering after having a face to face relationship is performed by the gutless. I agree that being ghosted is awful.

  • @JustwaitNwatch-w
    @JustwaitNwatch-w 11 месяцев назад +10

    How to deal with people who are breacrumbling me??

  • @claudiahill2138
    @claudiahill2138 Месяц назад +1

    I was just recently ghosted, and I can personally say that it has certainly caused an emotional and mental crisis. While it wasn't a long relationship, it meant a lot to me and this has certainly been a very hurtful experience.

  • @anapark2833
    @anapark2833 2 месяца назад +3

    Just happened to me after 9 years of friendship over a simple argument.

  • @chelseymanitta1655
    @chelseymanitta1655 8 месяцев назад +4

    Great content!! Very insightful

  • @nettiea9384
    @nettiea9384 2 месяца назад +1

    Same! Been through it. Very painful. Hard to get over and above all frustrating cuz the closure is not achieved. Also disrespectful and damages self esteem

  • @osamaexking
    @osamaexking Год назад +8

    Very insightful video, you have provided a very well-structured overview on Ghosting. It certainly made a lot of sense to me since I was ghosted few years ago. I was so confused because it happen out of the blue...I wanted to have a closure so bad but I was never given a chance. I still think about it sometimes but have moved on. I think ghosting leaves a long-term effect on the person experiencing it since your mind will keep trying to find a reason for it. I am sorry you got ghosted too, I think social media makes it too easy, that's why people do it out of convenience. If you know the person in real life and there's a chance you would run into them or have mutual friends that would find out, they wouldn't do it. But when you know the person only on social media, it is too easy for them to do it to avoid having the conversation.

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  Год назад

      Thank you very much for your comments and for sharing your own experience. Social media has its ups and downs, that’s for sure!

    • @creatureofstyle
      @creatureofstyle 8 месяцев назад +1

      Unfortunately that's not true. I got ghosted last year by someone I know in real life who there's a chance I could run into and we have friends in common. It's mind boggling but it happens 🤯
      It's so hurtful and demeaning, it changed my life. A year later I still obsess over it and cry sometimes and I now avoid going places where I might see him. I get uncomfortable anytime I have to go to his area of town

  • @wow503
    @wow503 11 месяцев назад +5

    Not sure why my comment got removed. Too much identifiable information in it? I'll try again with (much) less. I got ghosted by a close (female) friend after I "came out" as homosexual. She accompanied me through my entire coming-out. After I was certain about my sexual orientation, she was gone. My assumption is that she had feelings for me and when I was certain, all her hopes were lost so she probably felt rejected. Had I known about her feelings, I would have tried to "let her down gently", but she never told me. It's just that after I was certain, she was gone without any explanation. It hurts, especially when it happens to you while you're already in such a vulnerable phase.

  • @rdfbeauty
    @rdfbeauty 6 месяцев назад +3

    I was ghosted after a 5 year relationship with no warning , just up and completely ghosted me. Did not even love me enough to communicate with me. but instead left me with heartbreak, despair, depression and pain. Blocked me on everything , but still watched my social media.

    • @victoriavargo7995
      @victoriavargo7995 3 месяца назад +1

      Same, but 9 years together & 17 months later still a mess. Good luck on your healing journey ❤

    • @annastone5624
      @annastone5624 3 месяца назад +1

      Terrible!!! Maybe they were a bad person to be on relationship with? Maybe despite the pain you have been saved?

  • @SomethingSomething199
    @SomethingSomething199 Год назад +8

    This is such a good explanation connecting ostracization research with the experience of being ghosted. But, how can our understanding of these mechanisms help us develop better interventions for the grieving processes? As you said, there's a grieving process similar to losing a friend to death without having been able to say goodbye, but it's not the same. Have their been studies comparing the effectiveness of typical grief counseling techniques on ghost -grief? Or, more specifically: why does the thought "but that person chose this!" make emotional recovery and reframing so much more difficult? In any case, thank you so much for sharing this. It's a valuable connection between life and theory.

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  Год назад

      Thanks for your comments and very interesting questions! I don't think anyone has really looked at counseling techniques for ghost-grief yet, as we hardly found anyone even really looking at the phenomenon itself. If I do come across it, I will definitely bring it up on my channel!

  • @Zemohc
    @Zemohc 7 месяцев назад +4

    I've been ghosted numerous times. Family, jobs, relationships. It does seem like it's a normal thing to do. The last couple years I've learned that it's not ok. But the real issue is. Can other people learn the same? In my experience that answer is no. Or it's very rare.

  • @shopbrat
    @shopbrat 7 месяцев назад +6

    I was ghosted by my wife of 20+ years. She flew back to Australia while I was at work. With only a text that she said she was unhappy with her life. No discussion or a chance to work on the marriage. Just disappeared. We have 2 grown sons together that are currently in college. One in L.A. the other in Sydney, Australia.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 6 месяцев назад

      Wow...That's so shocking 😢
      I'm already devastated from being ignored after talking 4 months to someone.
      He often goes quiet 3 days but this time it feels different. I think he's gone and it hurts physically in my heart.
      His last text was that he missed affection too and missed having me near
      My energy is gone. I feel drained from wondering thinkng.
      I tested him yesterday no reply. He is starting a business abroad and is very busy.
      I understood but this is just cruel..he knows it hurts but still ignores my text.
      Idk if he is gone or not.
      It happened before and i texted him about my confusion. He replied 3 days later: I understand your doubts but im still confident we will meet soon, i didn't read your message om purpose bc I wahted to keep my positive feekihg about you".
      That last part made me wonder bc it felt manipulative but ai cared about him. Benefit of doubt.
      I can only imagine the hurt of betrayal after years of marriage. Traumatic.
      Best wishes

    • @starcatcher3691
      @starcatcher3691 5 месяцев назад +2

      Omgod so sorry

    • @jip230
      @jip230 4 месяца назад +1

      I’d just make sure that she’s ok. Sometimes people are kidnapped or murdered and the killer sends texts like that to make sure people don’t go out looking for the victim

    • @annastone5624
      @annastone5624 3 месяца назад +1

      I’m so sorry!!
      Some people just don’t have the guts to be honest. Some actually feel so bad about it, they avoid being honest. So are plain selfish and don’t care. Some go through personal crises and are so overwhelmed by that they can’t communicate. Some meet someone and they never expected that to happen and they grab the opportunity with both hands.
      Unless there’s an obvious answer
      a good question to ask can be “what else could this mean” not to give false hope, but to expand the view point.

  • @JoBrew
    @JoBrew Год назад +15

    I’ve been ghosted twice, pre-social media. One was a male friend and one was a female. In both cases I had a pretty intense friendship relationship for several months followed by no contact. It came out of the blue and to this day I have no idea why contact ceased suddenly.

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  Год назад +4

      It can be such a mystery!! I hope you have no more ghosting in your future!

  • @Marlin-mn9xe
    @Marlin-mn9xe 6 месяцев назад +11

    Because they are cowards

  • @marthajeslyn
    @marthajeslyn Год назад +6

    Wow very current content. Nice perspective!

  • @legaleagle4947
    @legaleagle4947 Год назад +4

    Thank you for your insight 🙏 I have recently been ghosted and it has left me both confused and sad.
    Ghosted by someone I have known in real life for around 30 years! I haven’t seen this friend for a good 15 years however, because I moved away but we have always stayed in touch. We weren’t communicating every day but fairly regularly.
    Our last conversation was brief and a little strange. I complimented his new profile picture, he said thank you and then said he had not seen a picture of me in a long time (which was the strange part). I responded saying I have shared the most recent ones I have some months ago but when I have a photo taken next I be sure to share it. Great, he said.
    In a previous conversation he said he would call at the weekend. He never did. I didn’t think much of it because life gets busy. A couple of weeks past and in that time I noticed that his profile picture had gone from our messages which was strange (only because he would typically have ‘a’ picture there) and so I thought I would message and see how he is …
    I was blocked.
    No reason, no rhyme… that I am aware of.
    I’m not sure how I am supposed to feel. But I do know I feel confused because I can’t figure out the why, and sad because I have seemingly lost a life friend.

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  Год назад +3

      Such a sad story! I am so sorry this person ghosted you. It’s so hard when someone doesn’t let you have some sort of closure when the relationship you had was once special. I hope the hurt eventually wears off, like it has for me in my own ghosting experience. Thank you for sharing!

    • @legaleagle4947
      @legaleagle4947 Год назад +2

      @@socialneuro Thank you, and likewise. Thank you for sharing your experience and insight. I guess it is going to be ‘time’ as the healer, because in these circumstances, what else is there 🤷🏼‍♀️ I am glad the pain has eased for you. Take care.

    • @legaleagle4947
      @legaleagle4947 Год назад +1

      @@socialneuroHi there, I wanted to drop in here to let you know that this week, I have had resolve. Communication has been made 🙏❤️

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  Год назад +2

      @@legaleagle4947 how fantastic! I hope I have similar news one day. 😎

    • @legaleagle4947
      @legaleagle4947 Год назад +1

      @@socialneuro Thank you ☺️ I really hope that you do too… there is no thought for the impact on those being ghosted… if only there were more awareness of that. Thanks again, and all the best!

  • @simpleyouth
    @simpleyouth Год назад +3

    This video speaks absolute facts

  • @tammysanford748
    @tammysanford748 7 месяцев назад +1

    I was ghosted by an ex boyfriend that had become a friend after we broke up. We were together for over 3 years.He communicated daily via text and we would meet about once a week for coffee or lunch. I really enjoyed that we were still available to each other at least at some level and this continued for about a year and a half. One day out of no where- cut off all communication with me and even my family(whom it communicated with somewhat). I cant tell you the pain i experienced. Physical, emotional, and mental pain. I wish he would have said goodbye, thats all. I never thought he would do this to me. Thank you for the video.Ghosting is awful.

    • @monikori6473
      @monikori6473 7 месяцев назад +1

      So sorry you went through this. It is horrible.

  • @spencergregory8049
    @spencergregory8049 3 месяца назад +2

    Going through this atm. Its horrible

  • @rajbthapar1880
    @rajbthapar1880 10 месяцев назад +2

    Yes it is v v hurting experience ,I am now understanding about it luckily survived encountered some compassionate caring souls who stood by me n blessing of Devine n Jesus.I have moved on in life constantly clearing my system of negativity n looking forward in faith God is good I know.

  • @DcdamonclarkTvLegend
    @DcdamonclarkTvLegend 8 месяцев назад +2

    That Very Sad How I Feel About Close Friend Ghost On They Friend 😔 Very Sad

  • @leevize6045
    @leevize6045 4 месяца назад +1

    If that happens I delete them from my contacts. They can call me, but I won’t call them anymore.

  • @veronicalloyd4906
    @veronicalloyd4906 8 месяцев назад +2

    I was ghosted 2 days ago went to dates twice a week ago.. He does not chat or call like he used to. I'm also quiet not texting at all....

  • @Candeegirl77
    @Candeegirl77 9 месяцев назад +6

    Well, if you need a volunteer for your new research, I've just been ghosted 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  9 месяцев назад +1

      So sorry to hear this! :(

    • @AmericanRX
      @AmericanRX 8 месяцев назад

      Same, 2 weeks ago.

    • @Candeegirl77
      @Candeegirl77 8 месяцев назад

      @AmericanRX I'm so sorry 😞. It's a ghosting epidemic out here. A few friends told me they were ghosted and then I got ghosted unexpectedly with no explanation and I didn't see it coming. This one really got to me. Still healing. Hope you heal. It hurts 😥.

    • @hasinapatel1233
      @hasinapatel1233 7 месяцев назад +1

      I was ghosted in 2023 still haven't healed from it and now it's affecting my health I see my therapist tomorrow she was my close friend for 5 year's. It really hurts. Don't know why I can't move on its been a year

    • @Candeegirl77
      @Candeegirl77 7 месяцев назад

      @hasinapatel1233 I totally understand. I wish you the best on your healing journey and hope you feel better soon 🙏🏾

  • @Jbutler63
    @Jbutler63 3 месяца назад +2

    Being ghosted is confusing,I was ghosted by a female.She jus stopped texting, I'm sure she found someone else.

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 2 месяца назад

      That's the worst part. If they found someone else at least tell you they did or break up with you. Not saying anything is terrible!!!

  • @ChristineTaylor-dk1wd
    @ChristineTaylor-dk1wd 6 месяцев назад +2

    I was ghosted by my sons girlfriend. Because of this I havent seen my grand daughter. I miss her so much! I am very sad since I offered my sorry if there was any misgivings but no feedback was given to me. Very sad that the other party

  • @maeveduff8932
    @maeveduff8932 6 месяцев назад +1

    My boyfriend said I don't communicate properly or listen after a conflict rather than working with me to find a resolution. Then he ghosted me and cut all communication, blocking me on all social media without explanation... Crazy making. First time I've been fully ghosted. Would like to know more about how likely it is that someone who has been ghosted will be ghosted again. I'm never online dating again.

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 2 месяца назад

      My ex boyfriend ghosted me twice. If he comes back I'm not answering!!!

  • @BeBlessedBri
    @BeBlessedBri 2 месяца назад +1

    I ghosted someone and we talked for like 4 to 6 months because they knew I liked them and decided to be my friend but I still caught feelings and they were in a relationship and a kid a whole family and I didn’t want to open up a can of worms or be string along I’m a full meal and a vacation not a 2for 3 at McDonald’s but now I have to see this person everyday I feel bad for ghosting but not for my decision at the time I was 18 and she was 28 now I’m 22 and she is 32 now the past is resurfacing and I was young at the time so I didn’t know any better and she was really up set she tried contacting me but I blew her off because I still didn’t know what to say I should of just said sorry now every time we walk past each other it’s nothing and she told some people she told me personal things and I ghosted that why she don’t mess with me but I really ghost her because she said something about a man and I just accepted reality and she still with him to this day I was right but it could of been something said before I left but that was the first person I went for so I felt a lil hurt and we never kissed or was sexual it was just straight vibes so to all the people that has been ghosted and feel some type of way I know you didn’t deserve it but some things is bigger than what it seems and apologize to all the people that has been ghosted and pray for you guys healing

  • @mitchellbuckley-b2e
    @mitchellbuckley-b2e 10 месяцев назад +2

    I had the same problem with a distant E-Mail friend [USA-Denmark] .....but the person is Bi-Polar,.....this explains it all....doesn't it

  • @KigurumiAlice
    @KigurumiAlice 6 месяцев назад +1

    Ghoster just want to die off. Illness, depression, narcissist, toxic relationships...I just want to be alone. Life of Introvert 😮

  • @yolandasession8158
    @yolandasession8158 4 месяца назад +1

    I didn’t even know this was a thing .. we were dating for two months and then I told home I was going out of and and he responded with enjoy your travel and that was it.. poof gone..sad

  • @amybrown9539
    @amybrown9539 4 месяца назад

    This is increasingly happening to parents with adult children. Totally cutting off all communication without any explanation. And will do so to other parents or siblings if those people question the behavior

  • @jae.m.a
    @jae.m.a 3 месяца назад

    I’ve been ghosted and I have ghosted. When I was younger, since I had been ghosted, I didn’t think it was necessary to tell someone you weren’t feeling them if it wasn’t longer than 3M.
    Most of the time I ghosted it was due to lack of maturity and a fear of confrontation. The past two years I’ve been ghosted twice and the pain really made me regroup ghosting. I’D rather just tell them what’s up. I actually recently was upfront about no longer being interested and no blood was shed the door closed with no issues.
    However, I did have an incident with a guy who I ghosted bc he gave me a really unnerving feeling. Like if Ted Bundy had stared into the pit of my soul. He got ghosted bc there was a previous incident where he made me uncomfortable and after I told him he did he didn’t regard it all. So this go round I felt no need to be communicative. Overall, ghosting is hurtful, but if the person has made it clear they won’t acknowledge how you feel anyway or there is an issue of safety, I think it is fair.

  • @inomascarinas9533
    @inomascarinas9533 6 месяцев назад +1

    Omg. It’s been over a month since I’ve been ghosted. It’s the worst feeling. Traumatic. I wish him well tho. 😢

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 2 месяца назад +1

      Mine has been three weeks. Not sure if I will ever know why he ghosted me. I'm not giving him another chance!!

  • @Jazz-if6gk
    @Jazz-if6gk 4 месяца назад +1

    What if a guy ghosted you more than one. And manipulated you and left for 7 months. Then decides to come back into your life. Then you ghosts them to protect your sel emotionally.

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 2 месяца назад

      My ex ghosted me twice. I will not give him the chance to do it again no matter what his excuse is. That's if he even comes back. It's been three weeks!!

  • @rafaeljp
    @rafaeljp 7 месяцев назад +3

    I started texting a girl, we went out 4 times, everything was going good, but them she ghosted me, I gave her some space, and occasionally text her about things I knew she like to see if we could restart a conversation, but it didn't went further them a few replies, so I didn't try anything anymore.
    At the beginning she still liked my instagram stories, making me think she still might be interested in me, but now she just watches.
    I really don't know if I should ask her about why she stopped texting me, or I should just move on and forget her.
    This is really painful, cuz I really like her and I thought things were going well between us.....

  • @techcdrive1702
    @techcdrive1702 Год назад +3

    Excellent video again. everything your share is just amazing. just enjoyed the whole video. thanks to RUclips's lazy algorithm to introduce this channel to me. this should have discovered way before covid times but youtube's profit system wanted something else.

  • @lisalamphier1410
    @lisalamphier1410 Год назад +10

    I recently ghosted four people in my life. It was scary to do because i don't have a lot of friends. I just got tired of people dumping their drama on me and saying hurtful things when i didn't respond the way they wanted me to. I'm too sensitive, too much anxiety, tired of having my day destroyed over THEIR drama. So why didn't i explain this to them? Why ghost? I tried. I really did. They'd behave for a while and then go right back. I am so much happier without them. I guess i should mention that these were real life friends, not online. So ghosting has involved more than not answering messages. More like not answering the door.

    • @socialneuro
      @socialneuro  Год назад +2

      I can certainly understand this! When I make another ghosting video I plan to take the POV of the person doing the ghosting.

    • @antygona-iq8ew
      @antygona-iq8ew 8 месяцев назад +2

      and I don't , especially when someone start explanation with I am to sensitive. You might have your reasons to end relationship but there is always choice to communicate someone your decision.
      I heart today a great analogy : you might have a reasons to want to ghost someone, but so do people who want kill someone yet many just not act on what they want.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@antygona-iq8ew I agreem i will only ghost when I feel really unsafe. I once talked to a guy who said he will cut ppl who cut him.
      That freaked me out and I blocked him on WhatsApp.
      I still felt guilty but I knew he would discuss and he waa intimidatung in the earlier conversation so that was an exception to block.

  • @hunterwhite6466
    @hunterwhite6466 9 месяцев назад +1

    you should add to your caption how we could cite this source or use this in an academic setting!

  • @ICA.Agent47
    @ICA.Agent47 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks for this video it really helps

  • @coolandgood1010
    @coolandgood1010 Год назад +3

    This man has wisdom. Thank you for posting this.

  • @erobinson5942
    @erobinson5942 4 месяца назад +1

    Hurt ppl hurt ppl

  • @mikesmith6594
    @mikesmith6594 3 месяца назад

    My father has done this because I question his double standards and gaslighting he doesn't like that it hurts when someone you thought loved and cared about you does not really love or care about you it's just all about them . Like a cut that just doesn't heal it's really harnful to your well being 😢.

  • @eclecticvibrations2044
    @eclecticvibrations2044 4 месяца назад

    I think we just lose interest with each other. I know I have done so many times in my life. If we can lose interest with hobbies and interests, then why not people too.

  • @latinabella72
    @latinabella72 7 месяцев назад +1

    It’s sad that ghosting exist I didn’t know all this until a couple of days that my ex boyfriend wanted to get back with me and he started doing all those crazy behavior but ghosting really hurted me so much because it has never happened to me before so to me is like something new in 2024😢 sad but yes that’s how I feel torn apart

  • @jackiebowser724
    @jackiebowser724 Год назад +3

    I was ghosted no explanation at all but a messagw came in my consciousness that itvwas a good thing and something better was on its way and i didnt need that type of person for a future mate .god had other plans for my life for the better 😊

  • @AsimaGuruBahasa
    @AsimaGuruBahasa 11 месяцев назад +1

    The real ghoster in real life is people who didn't talk to each other.

  • @Bodytheliz
    @Bodytheliz 4 месяца назад

    I don’t be caring about people ghosting me

  • @leevize6045
    @leevize6045 4 месяца назад

    If you’re “ghosted”, relax. You can send a birthday card but not ask for any reply; just write “Happy Birthday!”. Leave them to decide when they want to reach out to you.

    • @sylvia470
      @sylvia470 3 месяца назад

      Pheboe: Have some pride for the love of god.

  • @sharonvass8700
    @sharonvass8700 3 месяца назад +1

    There is no excuse it’s rude in this day and age where people can contact each other and explain so stupid

  • @imlegendcc2854
    @imlegendcc2854 9 месяцев назад +2

    Don't even bother explaining to them. Some don't even love themselves. 😂

  • @Dovelunalove
    @Dovelunalove 9 месяцев назад +2

    I’ve never been in a relationship but I ghost friends since Middle school & im 2 yrs out of college. The recent ghosting friend was from nursing school. We just graduated & she’d call me weekly. One day I randomly stopped answering. She went as far as tracking my mom to say she was worried I disappeared as I don’t have social media. Once I ghost someone it’s permanent. As a result I have literally ZERO friends. It’s weird bc I’m very kind, make friends easily, can fit in with all types of friend groups. & when I have friends they always compliment how sweet,uplifting, non judgmental I am. The problem is i have a low self worth. I really do not like myself inside & when ppl get close I have to leave before they don’t like me either.

    • @charlottepeukert9095
      @charlottepeukert9095 9 месяцев назад +5

      That's no excuse for ghosting.How can you go on with your life, finding it o.k. to hurt people?If you can't continue the relationships for any reason, tell them what's going on.That's at least fair.

    • @galaxy98765
      @galaxy98765 8 месяцев назад +3

      To Dovelunalove: Shame on you for the way you treat people. When you are old and nobody wants YOU, you will regret it.

    • @Dovelunalove
      @Dovelunalove 8 месяцев назад

      @@galaxy98765 sadly this is true.

    • @christinacreates2393
      @christinacreates2393 7 месяцев назад

      Don’t listen to these people. I ghost people ALL THE TIME. Nobody owes anyone anything. You don’t owe anyone any explanation. You don’t owe anybody friendship. You don’t owe them excuses. You don’t owe them lies. You’re free on this planet. You can do whatever you want as long as you recognize the consequences. That’s life. They will recover. I think your reason is perfectly understandable- I ghost people because I don’t lie. If I tell them the truth, it will hurt them more than being ghosted. Let them find a ghosting support group 😒 they will be fine.
      Signed,
      A marriage and family THERAPIST.
      PS
      Please go to therapy to work all this out for YOURSELF.

    • @charlottepeukert9095
      @charlottepeukert9095 7 месяцев назад

      @@christinacreates2393
      Ghosting is disrespectful.Nobody should do it. Freedom is non- existent without moral obligations. Without it,it's anarchy. You owe the world a lot. Without it, you wouldn't exist. Without healthy relationships, you're becoming a narcissistic monster. You can't violate the laws of existance.If you do, Karma will catch up with you.

  • @mcr1679
    @mcr1679 10 месяцев назад +3

    I’ve ghosted someone who was toxic because the toxic cycle was driving me insane

  • @Etorres84
    @Etorres84 10 месяцев назад +2

    I ghost relatives all the time. It goes both ways. I ghost people when I don't see interest in them in having a healthy friendship and have excuses for everything.

  • @kcw1879
    @kcw1879 5 месяцев назад

    First, my dad left us when I was 10, so ghosting has always been around in some form. Second, sense this current generation wants IMMEIDATE response from a text, it is leading to an all or nothing communication syndrome.

  • @kaiser1295
    @kaiser1295 5 месяцев назад

    I ghost people to avoid confrontation.

  • @anandanabila8439
    @anandanabila8439 6 месяцев назад

    I just said simply bye forever 😂❤ and moved on

  • @kakei773
    @kakei773 2 месяца назад

    Ppl are too soft and too needy. If someone is willing to ghost you they obviously dont belong in your life and there need be no explanation or stringing things along. There are billions of people in the world, pull the plug and move on.

  • @petes3011
    @petes3011 Год назад +8

    face it. You're no longer interesting or useful to the other person. Alternatively the "other person" may be feeling withdrawn (at best), its not all about you.

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 2 месяца назад

      Yes. Always remember it's them not you!!!

  • @morrisdennis
    @morrisdennis 8 месяцев назад +2

    I do it frequently, not sure why exactly? 🤔

    • @UnexpectedAmy
      @UnexpectedAmy 8 месяцев назад +3

      Attachment issue maybe?

    • @morrisdennis
      @morrisdennis 6 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@UnexpectedAmy
      Thx

  • @subsinsriprasert2456
    @subsinsriprasert2456 Год назад +1

    Wow

  • @ayonticabanerjee8326
    @ayonticabanerjee8326 11 месяцев назад +2

    I have been a ghostee and a ghoster. Before being a ghostee I always tried understanding people and gave them a chance. I saw the good in them. I really was close to the person who ghosted me. After being ghosted I stopped giving others chance, I ghosted anyone who annoyed me the slightest.

  • @rustymason3860
    @rustymason3860 Год назад +1

    AI is going to be so powerful.

  • @lucylu4013
    @lucylu4013 3 месяца назад

    Sometimes, it's to spare someone from degrading conversations.
    The last guy I dated earned 1/3 of what I make, I live in a better neighborhood, better automobile etc.To make matters worse. He was older, physically less attractive(other men always hit on me while I was him, which never happens when I'm with a good-looking guy)
    He asked me to move in with him, which I somewhat considered. But on a surprise last-minute visit to his house, the toilet in master bathroom was a SHIT storm. I was so disgusted, couldn't imagine living under such dissmal conditions. I'd reached my concessions limit, so I ghosted him.

    • @annastone5624
      @annastone5624 3 месяца назад

      That’s a fair point.
      ..& Omg the toilet 🙈🙈🙈

  • @atum497
    @atum497 5 месяцев назад

    444

  • @Beardedfurflinger
    @Beardedfurflinger Год назад +1

    I've ghosted a few,because they were posers,scammers,cyber stalkers or keyboard hoes,so tell me again aboit hurt feelings,granted there are times when it's not proper but a 2 edge sword for sure

    • @grunge6306
      @grunge6306 3 месяца назад

      Lol😂 What is a keyboard ho? I think I like that label!!!

  • @codystuder8548
    @codystuder8548 Год назад +2

    Are you receptive to hearing personal stories to serve as potential subject matter for future videos? If so, what is the best method of getting in touch with you?

  • @simpleyouth
    @simpleyouth Год назад +3

    This video speaks absolute facts