Both husband and wife must be on the same page to begin resolving even the smallest conflict. One spouse working alone to save the marriage will not have good long term results. Allah knows best
May Allah Help all of us in our marriages to get along with each other! If you can't do it for yourselves! Do it for the PLEASURE OF ALLAH! It's 2022 ya'll! STOP IT ALREADY! We're leaving this world soon, Don't ya'll see what's going on around the world today! We're "NOT" promised tomorrow! Anything can happen in the blink of an eye! Ameen 💙🤍
Thank you brother! I appreciate your talk, my husband is a very good guy but has depression and gets angry at me for no reason at all sometimes and isnt expressive or appreciative of me. I have told him lots of times to get help speak to a doctor but he never does… i am getting very tired of this relationship feel stuck
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajiun. Allahumma ujruni min shayrihi wa akhlifnee khayran minha. You may benefit from this dhikr. May Almighty Allaah ease your journey together and bring about peaceful resolution.
Duas..ur opinion pls ... living in separate parts of the house to reduce arguments ... or even separate houses or ur own parents house.. if u can afford it
Can you please tell me what is the solution if the spouse already said to the another spouse very clearly and openly the problems and expectations inspite of knowing the spouse doesn't change or notice over it
SalamAleykoum Chieck , I am going through a very hard time , i need your help , in fact i'm in very dilemma situation , first of all , years ago my mother forced me to mary a woman that i had never met and even seen her before , at that time i was 19 year old , accepte it because it was my mother choice i said to myself yeah my mother never ganna wish me nothing but Good , obviously since the begenning i found out that this woman isn't for me spritualy and even physically , conflecting everyday but still my mother want to keep her , i demanded divorce she went to her parent's house but my mother don't wanna got it , she only think about herself.. I need your advice!!
Parents don't always know what's good for their grown children! You're a young man and can make your own decisions with Allah's help! Next time, make dua to Allah to help you find a wife that pleases you and make you happy! Your mom will eventually get over it! Just don't disrespect her! Pray for her! ❣
This lecture sounded vague, yet is designed to alter men's behavior, as most, if not all, of YQ's examples, scenarios etc, are from the woman's perspective. Yes, we've been advised this for years, and we are treating Muslim women with love, care, and respect. Just wish Muslim women would get the same advice, to treat us like men, and show respect. They are meant to be our backbones, but instead are the disease that slowly emasculates us through this false female self-worship. Although I love and respect Omar Suleiman, MM, Yasir Qadhi, etc, I'm a bit over the 'men are simple oafs who must treat their wives like queens' pandering, and want to hear something realistic that holds Muslim women accountable. Let's be specific about roles, let's set examples. We want families, and righteous women who hold onto their Deen while upholding their responsibilities, as we are forced to do, happily. In my humble opinion, we could really benefit from some lectures that taught Muslim women what respect, patience, and consideration means.
Assalamu alaikum you sound like a brother scorned! All relationships and women are not like your situation! Everyone is different! Pray to Allah to help you out! HE hears everything! You sound really bitter! Beware of the whispers of Shaytan! He loves to turn families upside down! May Allah help us all! Ameen ❣
That's a very good perspective and you are right our sisters who are not doing so good need to be reminded respectfully so that the family unit is strong and our brothers know the reality and definitely they need always to step up and improve. Much blessings all, salaam
@@aisham1057 You epitomise the kind of women the brother was talking about. Why do women have such an incredibly difficult time taking responsibiity for their actions or even the slightest bit of criticism? There's always a deflection towards men whether it's "you must be a man scorned" or "you're just bitter". How about the fact that there are untold amounts of toxic women ruining relationships and the lives of good men who are solely responsible for turning families upside down with their satanic behaviour? Why is that so hard for you to accept?
This is a very good observation. Unfortunately a lot of these imams are deathly afraid of being cancelled or abused by feminists who have created a toxic atmosphere wherein any criticism of women is seen as misogyny. This cancerous behaviour which has infantilised Muslim women and pushed them towards liberal feminism away from orthodox Islam is one that needs to be countered. I have no doubt this "marriage conference" YQ speaks about will be more of the same talking down to men while ignoring or even glorifying toxic femininity as they almost always do.
Although I disagree with some of your characterization of our sisters, I do have to agree that most celebrity Shuyookh approach this subject from a woman’s perspective. Look up any lecture on divorce, the examples given are also “if a man leaves…” while it’s a fact that vast majority of divorces are filed by women. Lectures are centered on equal give and take and equal everything. That hasn’t worked for the West, which is clear. Gender roles need to be more defined as highlighted by the Quran and the authority of the man needs to be reiterated and reaffirmed. Now the men also need to act like men. Stop playing video games. Be serious about your job and maximizing your wealth to help your family and the community primarily, not to buy the biggest houses and latest cars. I know this is hardly going to change anything because the imaams themselves don’t have their houses in order. I am not talking about YQ here but a bunch of Dallas imaams have serious family issues themselves, so why would they preach something to the contrary?
Both husband and wife must be on the same page to begin resolving even the smallest conflict. One spouse working alone to save the marriage will not have good long term results. Allah knows best
Thanks!
JazakaAllahu kheyran
It’s all about Makkah Al haram vibes and waking ❤
May Allah bless you all... yaa Allah make this jam'a the symbol of good American Muslim.
JazakAllahu Khairan shaykh..
May ALLAH bless you.
Extremely relevant
Assalamualaikum ya sheikh, i plead with you to continue ask YQ and giving longer lecture in youtube such as Propjets series , salam
Mashaa Allah, a very clear cut message sheikh Baraka Llah feekum
Masha Allahu may almighty Allah make it easy for us all ameen 🙏 ya wadood provide my husband with a very good job ameen
Aameen
I really like this sheikh. I wish i am a resident of his area masjid
Allah ❤
May Allah Help all of us in our marriages to get along with each other! If you can't do it for yourselves! Do it for the PLEASURE OF ALLAH! It's 2022 ya'll! STOP IT ALREADY! We're leaving this world soon, Don't ya'll see what's going on around the world today! We're "NOT" promised tomorrow! Anything can happen in the blink of an eye! Ameen 💙🤍
Thank you brother! I appreciate your talk, my husband is a very good guy but has depression and gets angry at me for no reason at all sometimes and isnt expressive or appreciative of me. I have told him lots of times to get help speak to a doctor but he never does… i am getting very tired of this relationship feel stuck
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajiun. Allahumma ujruni min shayrihi wa akhlifnee khayran minha. You may benefit from this dhikr. May Almighty Allaah ease your journey together and bring about peaceful resolution.
@@blackolives7264 surce
Does he pray?
@@blackolives7264 jazak’allah!
How does someone register for the matrimonial event? Where is the link?
Money! If you overcome this issue in your marriage , everything else will become easy.
Duas..ur opinion pls ... living in separate parts of the house to reduce arguments
... or even separate houses or ur own parents house.. if u can afford it
Can you please tell me what is the solution if the spouse already said to the another spouse very clearly and openly the problems and expectations inspite of knowing the spouse doesn't change or notice over it
SalamAleykoum Chieck ,
I am going through a very hard time , i need your help , in fact i'm in very dilemma situation , first of all , years ago my mother forced me to mary a woman that i had never met and even seen her before , at that time i was 19 year old , accepte it because it was my mother choice i said to myself yeah my mother never ganna wish me nothing but Good , obviously since the begenning i found out that this woman isn't for me spritualy and even physically , conflecting everyday but still my mother want to keep her , i demanded divorce she went to her parent's house but my mother don't wanna got it , she only think about herself..
I need your advice!!
Make a lot of dua's and if you have to marry her don't respect/listining to your mom
Parents don't always know what's good for their grown children! You're a young man and can make your own decisions with Allah's help! Next time, make dua to Allah to help you find a wife that pleases you and make you happy! Your mom will eventually get over it! Just don't disrespect her! Pray for her! ❣
Do you have children?
@@agle3324 yeah..for sure..
@@younoussgassama4608 Then you might consider the option of a second wife.
This lecture sounded vague, yet is designed to alter men's behavior, as most, if not all, of YQ's examples, scenarios etc, are from the woman's perspective.
Yes, we've been advised this for years, and we are treating Muslim women with love, care, and respect. Just wish Muslim women would get the same advice, to treat us like men, and show respect. They are meant to be our backbones, but instead are the disease that slowly emasculates us through this false female self-worship. Although I love and respect Omar Suleiman, MM, Yasir Qadhi, etc, I'm a bit over the 'men are simple oafs who must treat their wives like queens' pandering, and want to hear something realistic that holds Muslim women accountable. Let's be specific about roles, let's set examples. We want families, and righteous women who hold onto their Deen while upholding their responsibilities, as we are forced to do, happily. In my humble opinion, we could really benefit from some lectures that taught Muslim women what respect, patience, and consideration means.
Assalamu alaikum you sound like a brother scorned! All relationships and women are not like your situation! Everyone is different! Pray to Allah to help you out! HE hears everything! You sound really bitter! Beware of the whispers of Shaytan! He loves to turn families upside down! May Allah help us all! Ameen ❣
That's a very good perspective and you are right our sisters who are not doing so good need to be reminded respectfully so that the family unit is strong and our brothers know the reality and definitely they need always to step up and improve.
Much blessings all, salaam
@@aisham1057 You epitomise the kind of women the brother was talking about. Why do women have such an incredibly difficult time taking responsibiity for their actions or even the slightest bit of criticism? There's always a deflection towards men whether it's "you must be a man scorned" or "you're just bitter". How about the fact that there are untold amounts of toxic women ruining relationships and the lives of good men who are solely responsible for turning families upside down with their satanic behaviour? Why is that so hard for you to accept?
This is a very good observation. Unfortunately a lot of these imams are deathly afraid of being cancelled or abused by feminists who have created a toxic atmosphere wherein any criticism of women is seen as misogyny. This cancerous behaviour which has infantilised Muslim women and pushed them towards liberal feminism away from orthodox Islam is one that needs to be countered. I have no doubt this "marriage conference" YQ speaks about will be more of the same talking down to men while ignoring or even glorifying toxic femininity as they almost always do.
Although I disagree with some of your characterization of our sisters, I do have to agree that most celebrity Shuyookh approach this subject from a woman’s perspective. Look up any lecture on divorce, the examples given are also “if a man leaves…” while it’s a fact that vast majority of divorces are filed by women. Lectures are centered on equal give and take and equal everything. That hasn’t worked for the West, which is clear. Gender roles need to be more defined as highlighted by the Quran and the authority of the man needs to be reiterated and reaffirmed. Now the men also need to act like men. Stop playing video games. Be serious about your job and maximizing your wealth to help your family and the community primarily, not to buy the biggest houses and latest cars.
I know this is hardly going to change anything because the imaams themselves don’t have their houses in order. I am not talking about YQ here but a bunch of Dallas imaams have serious family issues themselves, so why would they preach something to the contrary?