it's so hard when you have this perfect idea of how you and another person could be happy together but they just don't share that idea and you have to carry on about your life because you cant change that person's heart and there's nothing you can do to make everything perfect
maybe it’s a good thing we can’t make them love us. we deserve someone who’s really interested in our happiness, that really want us. what’s the point of being with someone who doesn’t recognize you? although it hurts like hell, we will be loved by someone we don’t need to feel like an unworthy and unwanted person
but where is the guarantee that we will love them back in the right way... i mean i know what i am talking about and i feel myself so selfish bc i just kinda replace missing attention from another person (?) sorry for this
@@cat_tharsis hi!! so, when i say that we deserve to be loved, it implies that the other person also deserves it. the fact is that we should only be with someone if this someone also wants u! its reciprocity in this case
Love should be a two way street. Its impossible to love someone long term without the same love back. Eventually, you will hurt. Even if you try to brave it. You WILL hurt. Unrequited love is a bitch for sure
Damn, it's been two years since I commented here. For anyone else perusing this thread, I just want you to know that there is someone out there who will love you the way you deserve to be loved, and you will find them. It might not be tomorrow, it might not even be this year or the year after that, but they are out there. I promise you that this isn't some pseudo-inspirational jargon. Keep holding on.
Everyone on here is so different: race, religion, sex, dreams, desires, fears, orientation, careers, age, beliefs....but if you read these comments, you see a collective suffering. And if only for 5 minutes, everyone here feels each other and forgets what and who they are to share the pain. That's what music is... Bringing people together if only for the song to forget what separates us and remember what connects us all
vary true Scott now if only every in the world would get that throw they're head. the future would be so much brighter then it is now n I would not have worry about what type of future my kids will have deal with. life is short n to perishes n earth is are birth place I for one still cant see why we cant get along. we band together in times of needed why cant we just get it throw are heads that we can do so much more n make this world so much better place. maybe one day
When I listen to this song, I think about my brother. For 20 years, he tried to stay with us, battling depression every step of the way. 3 years ago, it finally took him. For the first year, I was so clouded by anger and confusion, I couldn't understand why he would leave us, especially without even saying goodbye. It wasn't until i heard this song that I truly understood how he felt. Depression has a sick way of hiding itself. He believed that hiding his pain was keeping us happy, always smiling and laughing to keep us from worrying about him, as his true emotions slowly drained his spirit. The lyrics in this song resonate with me and help me understand how he felt. No matter how hard we tried, we could never help him love himself the way we loved him. Now all I have to do is let him go, and enjoy my life like he always wanted me to. Every now and them I see him when I dream, and the only words i can ever find are, "I missed you." He never says anything, just smiles at me and hugs me, giving me reassurance that he's still with me, and is finally happy. I can't wait for the day I get to see him again, but for now, I stay looking forward and focus on living the life I wanted him to live. Miss you brother, there will never be another.
Thanks for sharing this with the world, Spencer. We are all in the middle of this journey with no real compass to guide us, and words like yours are so important for so many people who feel lonely, confused and misunderstood.
Spencer Lyons thanks for sharing your testimony. All of you touched my heart!! The reality of the situation is that even if we had a compass, would we follow it guidance. I believe more often than not, we enjoy the uncomfortableness of uncertainty buried deep inside our natural desire for adventure. Spencer, I truly am sorry for your brother loss, but I can reassure for sure, he’s in a much better place, in much better hands that anyone here could have offered him, else it wouldn’t have been part of the lesson plan, take good care you guys, it was a pleasure exchanging words in harmony as complete strangers,
So much respect for you my friend. That really moved me, take care and carry on. You're a very good man. God bless your brother. You'll see him again one day.
I first listened to this song years ago going through my first heart ache. I’m now engaged to the love of my life and the person who this song reminds me of is a distant memory. Things get better x
I fell in love with a girl 5 years ago and she didn’t want anything to do with me at the time, and I’d lay in my bed crying to this song thinking about her… Here we are in a 3 year long dating relationship and I’m proposing next month. You’re right, it does get better.
Rumi is a funny one because the translation took out his devoted Islamic faith. If you add in the overt religiosity (imo) it ruins the human message. I don't think Rumi would be as popular in the west if it'd been included. The guy who translated him (Bark) and popularised his work was a poet, I think he is the one with the gift to speak to our heart. I read some Rumi with the God bits not excluded and it's very different.
What I love about RUclips comments is that people can use this section to vent there feelings and there are strangers willing to read them and give them advice and so on. That goes to show the world has good people. To everyone reading this stay blessed God made someone for everyone because he doesn't want to see us lonely.
It's crazy how much you're willing to get yourself hurt just so the other person can be happy. You fake a smile and act as if everything's ok but it's not alright you feel miserable while they're having fun with someone else. No matter how much you try with someone else your mind only ends up thinking about them.
I tried to distract myself from her. Tried to get my mind away and be with someone else for a while, just so I could forget. So I could stop feeling for her, and try to feel for someone else. It didn't work. Everything I did with this other girl constantly reminded me of her. I always wanted to do what I was doing with her with the one I love instead. The feeling was awful. I know exactly what you mean.
I totally agree. it hurts and you can't tell anyone how you feel coz at the end of the day, they don't really care. I wish I could tell people how I really feel. the hurt of them with someone else is one of the most painful feelings you can experience.
Currently going through the hardest breakup I’ve ever had. Crying my eyes out at 6am just wishing that I was enough and that he loved me the same way I loved him but he never did, and even after him telling me that, I stayed and let him hurt me. I always come back to this song, whether I’m happy, whether I’m sad for about 4 years now. This song means so much to me, it makes me feel less alone. Reading all the comments give me some sense of peace knowing I’m not the only one going through this right now. I will be okay, one day. So will all of you. ❤️
One day you'll love so much, that you won't even remember when you didn't love. You might not forget what you're going through now, but it will definitely make you stronger. Every stage of our life, every human entering or leaving our hearts, every moment or emotion, is either blessing or a lesson. We need all of it. Take a deep breath and smile, this might be that 5 second break your heart needs right now. Smile :)
to everyone who's experiencing the hell of a heart break.. take time to be sad , to reminisce and to let go, you are strong and you will get through it, it will make you into a better stronger and wiser you i promise
to everyone that is heartbroken, don't worry it gets better. I grew up thinking love was the best feeling ever, but it can just as easily be the worst. I was so strongly in love with a girl who didn't love me back for three years, I could never get her off my mind and I just wished at the time that I would say something but I knew she didn't feel the same. I was lead on for years, I then met the woman of my dreams out of nowhere and couldn't be happier with her. The girl I spent years waiting for will always have a special place in my heart but time is the best healer. Loving someone can be hard, I hope everyone hangs on in there because I spent many nights feeling worthless and rejected and here I am today. Hang on guys
This song is obviously sad but it can also be empowering. Finally letting go of the notion that you can make someone love you, finally letting go of control and understanding that you did everything you could, finally releasing yourself from the idea that you can make them come back...that feeling can be empowering.
I feel like the one thing worse than a heartbreak is having that same person try to remain friends with you. Essentially having to watch their life go on from afar while you realize you no longer play as significant of a part as you could have. I never got to tell him I love him, but he knows. I'm just not the one.
it sucks being so close to someone and loving them a certain way, but they love you in only a friendship kind of way and you just accept it how it is because of how much you love them.
It’s almost 2 years since she left...and I still love her. She’s out there living life with someone new...and better. And I’m here. Just surviving man. Update: Its been almost 5 years. I am over her, she contacted me a few month ago. She hadn’t changed much but I have. Sometimes love is better lost, since she left I’ve become a better version of myself. I was able to love again. Though it didn’t work out. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Trust the process. Take care of yourself. Life is good.
It's a month from what would have been four years from the first time we met. She's been gone for more than three years. But we aren't just surviving, we are growing, we are learning, and we will be happy
I thought the same thing. Fast forward three more years, I’m listening to this song while doing homework. I can hear my wife in the other room singing our newborn son to sleep. It gets better.
Time heals all, took me 3 years to get over an ex. It’ll soon be a distant memory that you’ll never fully forget but it’ll no longer hold any power over your happiness. Stay strong my guy. 👑
The second verse kills me. The whole "give me till then to give up this fight" the concept of knowing what's coming but just having that one last chance to savour it. It breaks my heart because sometimes we don't realize that we are experiencing that. We don't know it's the last time we will get to hold someone. Because sometimes it comes out of nowhere. Always appreciate every second you get with someone you love because you never know if they're going to leave the next morning and anything can happen.
It really hurts knowing the only person you will always have feelings for has no interest in you. It hurts seeing them flirt with others and giving them the attention that you wish they would give to you. And what hurts more is pretending like it's not killing you inside every time they walk past you and you have no way of talking to them or getting closer. Regardless the many attempts i've made at getting over this guy and moving on, I always find myself thinking about him through the smallest things. I can't fight this feeling, but at the same time I don't want to. Though I know for sure it would never work out, I keep setting myself up for a trap that I get caught in. It feels like a never ending maze. It just won't stop.
+Lulu truth Everything stops, everyting slow down, everything turn down... Just remember that one feelings are coming and others are going, and this is the sence of life: we need to have bad times to distinguish good times. Each love is like a small life, so keep searching for your life :)
I feel you on that too. except I had him, twice. it just won't work between us though, for multiple reasons. He has a lot of growing up to do. The love is there, but it can't seem to stay. :(
My girlfriend fell out of love and left me so many times Only to come back again wasting me away, making me hurt so much. And when she finally left my life it was bittersweet, I was so glad to be free But I had just lost the love of my life for eight months And some parts of her are still in my brain, no matter how much I pry at them to get out. I'm afraid I'll never love anyone else the way I was in love with her, with all of her. I can't make her love me But a piece of me will always love her in someway no matter how much I don't want to. Thank you for listening.
My husband just told me he doesn’t love me anymore. I loved this song when I was 17 during my first big heartbreak and it’s even better (in the saddest way) at 22.
You are still so you and you will find love again. And believe it or not you have enough time to find it more than once. Hope you are okay 3 years now.
I wish I didn't have feelings. It is so painful having gotten so deeply in love with someone while you watch them lose feelings for you while still telling you that they love you.
Blake Kirkwood "if there is pain, nurse it. and if there’s a flame, don’t snuff it out. don’t be brutal with it. we rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. But to make yourself feel nothing so as to feel anything" will not be the right things my dear. you’re beautiful, and you’re loved. You matter. live ✨
Ik it’s sucks I’m moving through the same thing rn , I just wanna say I LOVE YOU ❤️ sending you much love and peace to your sweet soul you will pass this storm we all will find someone who truly appreciate us and cares about our hearts and happiness hug your feelings and love your self ❤️ pls smile even if you didn’t feel like smiling ❤️
Be happy you have feelings because while they may sometimes hurt, it hurts way worse when you realize you are unable to feel anymore to some degree (All different degrees of this). Deploying to multiple Countries and seeing the nature of humans and then doing what I was sent there to do has made me numb to most things. I can care but I don’t know I can ever love the way a person deserves to be loved and it has destroyed many relationships. Keep your emotions and never let anything take them from you.
Inside a hug you can do anything. Smile and cry. Resuscitate or die. Or you can stop the time and stay there forever, like that was the last one. Anyone related?
to: him from: me You were my first love. You showed me the beauty of the world and convinced me to stay. It was a beautiful relationship that we had. We shared so many happy moments. We laughed together. We cried together. We never fought. We always talked things through. But now you've grown complacent. While my love grew stronger everyday for you, you stayed the same. The efforts you used to make soon became less and less. You told me that you couldn't see a future with me. That you were unsure of your own future and that you didnt want to drag me down. Yet you acted as if we were a wonderful couple with no problems when we were physically together. And then when we weren't together, you were back to treating me as if I was an acquaintance. I'm tired of you playing with my heart. I'm tired of you not fighting for us. I'm tired of you not giving anymore efforts. I have to let you go, no matter how fucking painful it is. I always sacrificed myself for you. Now it's my turn to do something for myself. I gave you all of my love, but now it's my turn love myself again. I wish you all of the best, my dear. I hope you conquer your depression. I hope you reach your dreams and goals and make your family proud. Thank you for everything you've done up to this point. I hope that one day we will be genuinely happy for each other, even if we're in separate paths. So for now... this is goodbye. Goodbye to my first love.
@@iisaniis726 You too, dear. Whatever decision you make, I truly hope it brings you happiness. It will be extremely painful in the beginning, but it is the first step to healing. I wish you all the best love 🤍
@Matthew O'Neill I'm doing much better now, thank you for asking (: Never thought I'd get through the heartbreak, but here I am thriving and moving forward. Life goes on~
Saddest story behind the lyrics.. I really feel for the guy who inspired this song. "The idea for the song came to Reid while reading an article about a man arrested for getting drunk and shooting at his girlfriend's car. The judge asked him if he had learned anything, to which he replied, "I learned, Your Honor, that you can't make a woman love you if she don't."
I'm in a 4-year relationship and I feel like it's about to end. I still love him, but i can't force him to keep loving me when he has already exhausted all the love he could give. I wish, sometimes, especially at this point, while listening to this, I wish I could go back to what I was and where I was 4 years ago. I wish I hadn't met him. I wish I met someone better. But I am a mere human ; powerless. I can't change things and I can't make him love me forever.
Same here. I’m after breaking up after not so long one year and a half. It was hard and still it’s hard to cope with this. We broke up three days ago and I still can’t believe how things escalated and how things went. We were constantly arguing and he hated this relationship but I tried so hard. He said he couldn’t love me anymore as before and day by day everything faded away. I would try to get him back and things wouldn’t work I wouldn’t get him back same way as it was. We said we should give each other a break and we didn’t talk for a month. We met after a long while and he said he couldn’t commit to a relationship anymore. And he said he wants to be friend with me and we’re talking still. I want to get over this. It’s hard to cope with.
Just a reminder that things do get better. I remember lists to this song years ago, crying my heart out over a breakup with someone I loved so much, gave everything to. And he left without even really breaking up with me. I felt so alone and confused. When he returned things were not the same. He used me, and I remember feeling so disgusted with love and broken. This song helped me feel those feelings. Fast forward to now, I’m almost 6 years married to a wonderful man & have the most beautiful little girl in the world. Life isn’t perfect but I’m so thankful to have found love again. I couldn’t make the first guy love me, as much as a wanted him to. But that’s okay, I found something so much better and so much more satisfying.
When you have to watch someone you love slip away and you can't stop them because you know you're preventing fate from forming a new path. Your love sails with them....your heart aches each time you remember but you never turn away from those memories, you find comfort in the pain. 💔 the pain slowly reminds you of them and you hold that sad feeling closer than the happier times you felt, in those moments of loss you are more real and close than ever.
You guys in the comments, you are amazing! Absolutely amazing. You are confessing your loves in a way the person should see this can't see. You are all afraid to not to be loved but you don't give up on loving. You are beautiful and inspiring human beings and You think you are a coward but in the inside, you are all have courage for holding the world on your shoulders. You have only this life. Just one lifetime. Use it. It can go wrong or it can upset you but don't forget, there is always hope. You should just go for it. I love you all and all of your feelings. 💚 You hold the universe inside you 🌌
The video is just another slap on the back of my head. When I think of him I see the sea and early mornings and coffee and cigs and randomly smiling. We fucked up each other so bad and the people around us. I'll never love him the way he did and does and that's scary, I thought I'll love him forever. I seem to have no feelings for anyone. what happened to me I want the old me back
Ofelia T there are people who come around that change your whole world. Not only how you view love or whatever but who you actually are as a person. You never forget them and after an event like that happens to you, you can't possibly be the same person after. You get so wrecked that it takes so long to pick up the pieces that when you do finally get them together, you forget how they fit together to begin with. You make a new puzzle out of the same pieces. You become a new you, for better or worse. Good luck my friend, it will get better. I promise.
its really cool seeing the comments and people being supportive and all for each other and are all going through the same kind of situations relative to this song, the internet does have some good people
Such beautiful people in this comment section. What a beautiful inspiring change. You all are the kind of people I wish to be surrounded by.. music lovers, compassionate kind beings. People like all of you are what keep this world going, and help all of us keep breathing, one day at a time. It's so much easier to spread love then hate, and I'm so happy to have found people to spread the love and what is it that brings us here... music.
This is such a beautiful cover. I always find Bonnie’s version a little saccharine but this one has so much emotion. This song was made for Bon Iver to sing it. It makes me cry and feel in a way that Bonnie’s couldn’t
I remember being depressed when listening to this song and I'm amazed now by the fact that this song right now is making me feel great. I don't care if I can't make him love me as long as I love myself. Relationship will come and go, will fuck you up, will damage you but in the end you'll turn out to be a masterpiece. I know the find yourself seems to be like a bullshit tiktok/instagram trend but really you have to do this. Find your worth in the chaos, find your magic and glow in the dark. We are all amazing human beings no matter our past we have the ability to overcome so many things we can overcome this depression or being heartbroken. Keep faith people, move forward love yourself and best of luck ;)
Sometimes you just have to keep fighting for what you love, and sometimes you have to wonder where the line is drawn for when the fight just isn't worth it and it's time to walk away to get what you deserve. Walking away is so hard when they're 2 miles behind you. So close to you, but not close enough to keep you warm and make things alright, but we leave the light on anyways. For love. For them.
Known each other since we were 13&14. Finally gave him the chance when we were 17. Almost 2 years later and after having our beautiful son that just turned 4 months, I'm no longer the girl he fell in love with. He don't feel the way he used too about me, and he don't love me anymore. This hurts more than I can express and it always will. Things werent supposed to end this way, I dont want anyone else.
I'm in a similar situation. We were in love since we were 13/15 and now, with 18/20, with a marriage on the way and things got so complicated that I don't know if it's the time to say goodbye...
Same thing happened to me. Except he waited for 18 years. I finally gave him a chance and he turned out to be a psycho. Broke my heart none the less. I have a beautiful baby girl.... The epitome of love. Hope it is better for you now.
I'm speechless right now. Why does love have to hurt so bad though. I will hold my head up high knowing that one day I will love again. Only this time, I hope I can be loved back.
I pushed away a really good woman three years ago for another woman. I’m just now truly realizing how special she was and now she won’t talk to me. This song crashes right into my feels. That quote holds true: “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone”
I have never been on a second date in my whole entire life. I went on how to date and how to be good seminars but nothing happened at all yes I feel alone day by day and I can't even pretend that I'm fine anymore. It's nice to have someone in your life care about you and respect you I've never heard I love you in my whole entire life if you reading this and you still believe the relationship you were in it worth saving do whatever you can to save it coz it's not a good feeling when there is no one care about you at all. Stay safe everyone Love ya all
Sending some love to everyone on here who's feeling pain, sadness or at a loss. Life is a gift. I hope you all find strength and the ability to open your eyes and see what we have here and all the beautiful reasons to live. People come and go and we end up feeling all kinds of emotions but so long as somewhere someone loves you or you love yourself then things aren't all bad. Love and peace. x
Most of you here are suffering from heartbreak, i've been there and found music such as this touching and helpful. Beautiful. But from a different time and perspective, this hurts also. Knowing you hold feeling so strong to another not knowing if they do in return. Not knowing what's to come. Debating on opening up or keeping closed and safe while the anxiety eats you up. Not knowing if this will be an opportunity missed in either direction taken. It's hard...Loving one when you don't know how the other feels. What to do?
I started listening to this to have a good cry about my ex-boyfriend. We broke up because he needs to learn to love himself and being with me made it really hard for him to focus on himself. Usually I bawl at this song even when my love life is going well. But I feel remarkably calm. He did love me. I love him. He's going to be happier now, and he's taking all the right steps to finally accept himself. I am so proud of him. I love him so much, and I will continue to love him as a friend, and concentrate on myself. I'm really proud of us for doing the right thing.
Never really been in love nor being loved by someone. But always kinda falling for someone who i know i'll never get. Now just trying to be the best version of myself so i can let the best person to me come in the right time.
@@opalskye7079 maybe so in the case of parent child relationships, but not peer to peer relationships. It takes constant effort or it will disappear. It's like a fire - you have to nurture it or it will die, and if someone you have love for is not giving you what you need to thrive in love it is often impossible to keep that flame going on your own. Love is not a given, we're not entitled to it, and it won't just...stay there. It takes work and effort through life's difficulties.
this post is beautiful and all of the comments and everyone coming together is amazing to see. despite anyones background, we all know what heartbreak is and we can build each other up. I love this and I love all of you
Its been two months and 3 days since he broke up with me and I still catch myself crying at random times in the day and night. Everywhere I go whether its my home, the drive to work, starbucks, my job, I think of him and his smile and the memories and how much love we had. Its the worst feeling being in love with somebody that wants nothing to do with you anymore.
it's been two months since the love of my life left me. the feelings are starting to go away because I forget what its like to have her in my arms, to kiss her, make love to her. I know if I saw her again all them feelings would come rushing back.
This song hit me hard. Recently broke it off with someone who toyed with my feelings, gaslighted me the entire relationship and lead me on. What hurts the most is the fact my feelings were true and his weren’t.
I was the same with a girl, it took me about 8 months to move on but trust me, it’s worth it. I have a girlfriend and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, you’ll get through it
Babes. I know we all have a certain person we think about when we listen to this song and it kinda feels good to cry and be sad and be disappointed and all the bad emotions but it won't help. It won't fucking help. This person will never be our person. And we just have to accept it. It's time to move on and stop wasting our short and important time here on earth with being sad. On they we will meet the one. . Maby even tomorrow. So stop listening to this song now and do something productive or something that simply makes you happy. Meet a friend, do your homework, clean your room, cook something nice. It will get better belive me. Have a great day and life. Huggs and much Love ♡
+Ciara Du u must of never truly loved if you can carry on with your life and just go meet a friend. u must be the type of person to leave someone behind and carry on with your life when you were their life and they have nothing to move on to. whats a new friend gonna do when anything you do with them youve already done with the love of your life and youd rather do it with the.m
imsosorry p i don't know what you've been through but i guess if i'm honest i am still in love with *that* person. but you know sometimes you just have to try to move on cause otherwise you never will be happy again and thats definitely not the life i wanna live...
Just give me till then, to give up this fight. I said I needed to say something important to her, and she said, she did not care what I had to say, If she could only hear me, then I would give up the fight.
Heartbreak makes this song hit deeper then it would if you haven’t loved yet. They eventually leave, you grow apart, but you’ll forever wish you were enough and could keep them, but you also know it’s better if you let them go.. which makes it hurt and sting so much more.
it was july the 10th. we went on a 2 day camping trip in class. I had always been in love with you - I wan't kind of *into you* like people expect teenagers to be. You were my first real love. We playded hide or seek or something and you told me to follow you because you planned to hide in the forest. We hid behind that really big oaktree, I couldn't stop laughing but you didn't want them to hear and find us so you took my hand and we went deeper into the forest. We just sat there and I told you I was afraid you took me into your arms and told me I didn't had to. We heard them calling our names but we didn't care. I was freezing so I asked you when we'd go back to the tent. You told me after you did - and then you kissed me - It was pure perfection . some people say your first kiss is gross. some say they didn't know what to do. but mine was perfect. I felt your lips. And I stopped thinking . I don't remember anything but that perfect feeling. And I was so unbelievable happy. I just didn't want it to end ever again. Never. I don't really remember what happend next. The next thing I know is us laying in your tent and your arm around me. we were talking almost till the sunrise. I wish I could go back in time and enjoy these days more. We never were a couple we kept being friends and it seemed like you forgot it. I guess you never felt the same. I guess for you it was just an experience. But to me it meant so much. Now we're in different schools. We don't text that much anymore . that's sad. To be in love is a perfect feeling but it's also the saddest thing I ever experienced incase you're not loved back. I miss you J. I really miss you. but maybe we were really just kids in love and now your grown up. I guess I'll never stop doodeling s+j everywhere but maybe that's what your first love - your first heartbreak feels like. ♡
Bon Iver is just amazing. Having a break up with someone that I thought was my last love. Now I am the trying not to sink and swimming for my life. Loss is grief, I lost my son now my love and I am done fighting. Thank you Justin Vernon
Having your heart broken is one of the worst kinds of pain that you never recover from completely. But it's something we all risk because when you find that one person who completes you, there is no better feeling in the world. And it is worth the risk of having your heart broken. If you don't take the risk sadly, you'll never find your one true love.
at one point in time I would have listened to this and cried my eyes out based on how I felt about my ex and his betrayal..now I can listen to this and reminisce. ..remember how hurt I was back then..how sad I was day in and day out.. and now I can finally be happy that I dont feel that way anymore. It took me a long time to get over him.And there will always be a little part of me that died with "us" but now there's a brand new part in its place... moral of this story is, hang in there.. time will heal you.
hey i'm t ,, breathe. you are okay. allow yourself to consciously feel these emotions. understand them. understand yourself, fall in love with your solitude. the most beautiful part through all of this chaos? that we are all able to rise up and out of these emotions. fucking beautiful. i love you. you'll be okay. i'm sending all of my good energy to each and everyone of you. keep your head up. you are all worth so so much more than a person who could not grasp and understand your worth. we'll be okay.
Wow 11 years, I remember first hearing this song and it reminded me of a bad breakup in 2014..years later that guy is a distant memory, don't even remember his laugh, dont remember the sex (or love making at all) don't remember much of his smile or any detail. I found real love 8 years later with the love of my life and wow it gets better.
I'm gonna put my feelings out there. This song currently summarizes everything I'm going through. I try make her love me, be there for her, cheer her up, make her laugh, even spend nights just talking to her and her only. Unfortunately, that's not how things work. I do believe we are soul mates, however, we probably will never be together. I just have a connection with her I have never felt before, maybe soul mates are just people you meet who change your life for the better, and not a lover.
Dude...going through the exact same thing right now. I would do anything to have her heart, to make her love me...but it just...doesn't...work...that way...ugh...thanks for saying something. It helps me to feel less alone!
life life life life life life.............etc forever. may when i rest my head i belong in soft arms. i discovered tranquility at the margin of life. i was satisfied, upon my voyage. gambit your love, feel the power. you will find it is at the edge of mania. life life life life life life.................. im alone. punctured wound wont heal. only covert. parts skinless.the season of loving is over. counted my cards. sacrificed my hour. life life life life life life..........dependency on poison is what i filled myself with. life hurts. life is nothing unless you got something. yours truly. peace
I left you because I'm tired. Tired of doing my best for you, however I can't change the fact that you can't love me back, now I just told you that I'll leave and go. I'm strong but I'm very tired, I want to lay down and rest from these turbulent feelings. I gave you all my time and efforts and in the process, I forgot myself. I've felt everything and you didn't feel a thing. I've realized that I need to stop from this unhealthiness and feel alive again, so I need to accept that I can't make you love me. I will forget about you someday but please don't forget me who was once your friend and lover. :') (: I'll do my best to smile and be happy.
feelings felt by many, but some of us don't know how to say it... especially in such a powerful way... everything will be okay in the end... so if thing's aren't okay, just remember that it isn't the end...
This song, man this song this video the piano it just breaks me down. The fact im so heartbroken ive gotten to the points of writing youtube comments lmao. I bought a book called this is me letting you go. Its raining rn. My thoughts a lil scattered rn my fault. It just blows my mind the duality in love. How can something have the ability to make you feel better than your best but completely destroy you. Unrequited love is a pain too intense for some. I wish all you happiness, bc i know ive prayed to God that some would wish that for me
I’m 45 and going through an epic heartbreak. After he ended it on Oct 17, 2019. We were friends for 6 years prior to things changing between us. We fell madly in love at the start of July this year. It was a once in a lifetime love. We both know that. To find that and have it ripped out from under you, is soul destroying. I lost my best friend and the love of my life. We will never find what we had in another person again. Not in this lifetime. Acceptance and letting it go, is so very difficult. Then comes gratitude and forgiveness. I love that I can come here and comment and no one on my social media can see it. Much love and peace. ❤️❤️❤️✌️✌️✌️
The second time around when we got back together my guard was up. I gave you another chance when I shouldn't have, but my love for you outweighed that feeling of turning away from you. This time I let you get closer than ever. I told you I love you. You said it back, but I could tell there was an emptiness when you said it. Should have called it right then and there, but my love for you outweighed that feeling of walking away. Let my guard down. Now Im here, again just like the first time. Listening to this fucking song. I still love you princess, damn it... I'd do it all again. Goodbye Irena.
MrA1Shooter I know how you feel completely. My ex told me he loved me as a way to get me to dtay when I was leaving him after discovering he had been cheating on me, messaging his ex and other women behind my back. Here I am, 12 months later exactly, still suffering and under his control. He was given 11 chances from December until April, then in June. He kept going back to his old ways but lying to me about doing anything, and now all he does is abuse me and blame me for not telling him I loved him sooner. As if that would have changed anything. I say goodbye every few days to him, we love to hate eachother. I hate to admit that he could do it all again and I would still stick around. I love him, but it is sad love. There is nothing pleasant about feeling this way, and I hate when he tells me he loves me because what he did to me.. was not what people do if they love someone. I'm stuck, I'm grieving over something that was never really mine and every day he bullies me for not going back to him due to his past choices. It is hard, but it has to get better some day. It has to.
Tonight I have to go talk to the girl I'm completely in love with, and accept that this is the reality because she can't let people in.. greatest person I could have ever been paired with and she doesn't know how to fix herself to the point that she may have to uproot and change her life.. tonight I get to watch Christmas morning come and know that I lost what could have been the best part of my life.. I hate it so much, all I wanted was Christmas with her and it turns out I lose her for Christmas, and there may be nothing I can do to save it...
Steph Phair stay strong.... love is beautiful but very challenging.... life is your so you know better what choices you have.... keep your head up and never let anyone to hurt you..... there is light at end of tunnel. May God bless you
This is why I love the Internet. No "It's gay" comments here. just pure emotions and self expression... I found this song almost a year ago, when I was going through darkest time of my life after a break-up. I was deeply depressed. And then I stopped to read the comments and those made me smile. I read a long comment from one guy, which was full of heartbreak and atonement how he has learned to live with the pain and still values life. I found a lot of comfort from it back then. and now when I am feeling down again, I come to read the comments not only to find comfort, but to find belief, because I love when people dare to tell how they really feel. Thank you all for that. Me myself am an artist, so I am humbled to see when people dare to say what they feel, because that's what I do through my art and hope that somebody finds comfort from my creation. thank you everyone for the honesty
While reading the comments, I feel like hugging all of you and telling you that everything will be fine... You will find someone that will give you the respect you deserve, the love you deserve. Being in a relationship means enjoying every moment with the other half, preferring being with them instead of anyone else. Let me repeat it to you, one day you will find that person, but in the meantime what’s gone it’s gone, it did because it was meant to. You deserve way better than that, don’t you think!? Smile, laugh and enjoy your life and don’t let an asshole ruin it. Always do what is good for your heart and your soul. I love you.
Every time I listen this beautiful song, I cry! Not because I am sad, because I am still happy with what we shared! And It's true, you can't make them love you like you do, but you still made a difference in their lifes. We are strangers now, he doesn't say "Hi" or something, but it's okay, we are better this way. A scar hidden so well and the memory of a first love! Thank you my love! Thank you, Bon Iver for this stunning song!
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it's so hard when you have this perfect idea of how you and another person could be happy together but they just don't share that idea and you have to carry on about your life because you cant change that person's heart and there's nothing you can do to make everything perfect
wow
Molly Norris fuck, now im crying
Molly Norris so true!
So so true..living that now
That's true. I've always had a problem with that. I need to learn how to accept it and continue on with my life.
Suffering this heartbreak is better than being with the wrong person. Stay strong everyone.
you're right, thanks :)
You are so fucking right, thanks buddy.
Both of those things beat loneliness.
so true!
That comment just opened my eyes. Thanks man
maybe it’s a good thing we can’t make them love us. we deserve someone who’s really interested in our happiness, that really want us. what’s the point of being with someone who doesn’t recognize you? although it hurts like hell, we will be loved by someone we don’t need to feel like an unworthy and unwanted person
but where is the guarantee that we will love them back in the right way... i mean i know what i am talking about and i feel myself so selfish bc i just kinda replace missing attention from another person (?) sorry for this
@@cat_tharsis hi!! so, when i say that we deserve to be loved, it implies that the other person also deserves it. the fact is that we should only be with someone if this someone also wants u! its reciprocity in this case
Love should be a two way street. Its impossible to love someone long term without the same love back. Eventually, you will hurt. Even if you try to brave it. You WILL hurt. Unrequited love is a bitch for sure
Smithy 222008 for sure!!
Thats real
I sometimes come here just to read the comments. I wanna hug all of you.
🤗
😘
could use it
For real mahn😣
Damn, it's been two years since I commented here. For anyone else perusing this thread, I just want you to know that there is someone out there who will love you the way you deserve to be loved, and you will find them. It might not be tomorrow, it might not even be this year or the year after that, but they are out there. I promise you that this isn't some pseudo-inspirational jargon. Keep holding on.
Everyone on here is so different: race, religion, sex, dreams, desires, fears, orientation, careers, age, beliefs....but if you read these comments, you see a collective suffering. And if only for 5 minutes, everyone here feels each other and forgets what and who they are to share the pain. That's what music is... Bringing people together if only for the song to forget what separates us and remember what connects us all
vary true Scott now if only every in the world would get that throw they're head. the future would be so much brighter then it is now n I would not have worry about what type of future my kids will have deal with. life is short n to perishes n earth is are birth place I for one still cant see why we cant get along. we band together in times of needed why cant we just get it throw are heads that we can do so much more n make this world so much better place. maybe one day
this is perfect
you should write a book. do us all a favor. This is awesome.
Isabell Wyll I appreciate that. Ironically enough I published a book a few years ago about a girl I loved and lost.. :)
agree
When I listen to this song, I think about my brother. For 20 years, he tried to stay with us, battling depression every step of the way. 3 years ago, it finally took him. For the first year, I was so clouded by anger and confusion, I couldn't understand why he would leave us, especially without even saying goodbye. It wasn't until i heard this song that I truly understood how he felt. Depression has a sick way of hiding itself. He believed that hiding his pain was keeping us happy, always smiling and laughing to keep us from worrying about him, as his true emotions slowly drained his spirit. The lyrics in this song resonate with me and help me understand how he felt. No matter how hard we tried, we could never help him love himself the way we loved him. Now all I have to do is let him go, and enjoy my life like he always wanted me to. Every now and them I see him when I dream, and the only words i can ever find are, "I missed you." He never says anything, just smiles at me and hugs me, giving me reassurance that he's still with me, and is finally happy. I can't wait for the day I get to see him again, but for now, I stay looking forward and focus on living the life I wanted him to live. Miss you brother, there will never be another.
❤
I lost my brother too...this pain will never go away 💔
Thanks for sharing this with the world, Spencer. We are all in the middle of this journey with no real compass to guide us, and words like yours are so important for so many people who feel lonely, confused and misunderstood.
Spencer Lyons thanks for sharing your testimony. All of you touched my heart!! The reality of the situation is that even if we had a compass, would we follow it guidance. I believe more often than not, we enjoy the uncomfortableness of uncertainty buried deep inside our natural desire for adventure. Spencer, I truly am sorry for your brother loss, but I can reassure for sure, he’s in a much better place, in much better hands that anyone here could have offered him, else it wouldn’t have been part of the lesson plan, take good care you guys, it was a pleasure exchanging words in harmony as complete strangers,
So much respect for you my friend. That really moved me, take care and carry on. You're a very good man. God bless your brother. You'll see him again one day.
I first listened to this song years ago going through my first heart ache.
I’m now engaged to the love of my life and the person who this song reminds me of is a distant memory. Things get better x
💜
I fell in love with a girl 5 years ago and she didn’t want anything to do with me at the time, and I’d lay in my bed crying to this song thinking about her… Here we are in a 3 year long dating relationship and I’m proposing next month. You’re right, it does get better.
Love in the knick of time
So far away as you made this comment : [
"You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens."
- Rumi
Needed that.
Damn thats deep. Thats true
wow.
Nice one..
Rumi is a funny one because the translation took out his devoted Islamic faith. If you add in the overt religiosity (imo) it ruins the human message. I don't think Rumi would be as popular in the west if it'd been included.
The guy who translated him (Bark) and popularised his work was a poet, I think he is the one with the gift to speak to our heart.
I read some Rumi with the God bits not excluded and it's very different.
What I love about RUclips comments is that people can use this section to vent there feelings and there are strangers willing to read them and give them advice and so on. That goes to show the world has good people. To everyone reading this stay blessed God made someone for everyone because he doesn't want to see us lonely.
thank you for this
yes!!!! ❤💞💕 sml
Chelly Quamie thank you!that is really sweet of you
Fuck you
It’s so crazy when you realize it doesn’t even matter if they love you back, you feel the same anyway
"May your heart remain breakable, but never by the same hand twice"
I remember this line from taylor swift
and then there is me who fell back on it again
@@graceadan4496 Yes it is!
From her "I Knew You Were Trouble" music video.
what a great quote ❤❤
The hardest part of being strong is that no one asks if you're okay.. you just hold it in inside, all alone :/
yeah...
+Ck Cangmah true
Are you okay?
Thats why i started lifting so i can carry all these feels
that's true :/
It's crazy how much you're willing to get yourself hurt just so the other person can be happy. You fake a smile and act as if everything's ok but it's not alright you feel miserable while they're having fun with someone else. No matter how much you try with someone else your mind only ends up thinking about them.
I tried to distract myself from her. Tried to get my mind away and be with someone else for a while, just so I could forget. So I could stop feeling for her, and try to feel for someone else. It didn't work. Everything I did with this other girl constantly reminded me of her. I always wanted to do what I was doing with her with the one I love instead. The feeling was awful. I know exactly what you mean.
shit happend 💯
but...being loved by someone and not being able to love him/her back....is just as painful
+Daisy Jane is it?
I totally agree. it hurts and you can't tell anyone how you feel coz at the end of the day, they don't really care. I wish I could tell people how I really feel. the hurt of them with someone else is one of the most painful feelings you can experience.
Currently going through the hardest breakup I’ve ever had. Crying my eyes out at 6am just wishing that I was enough and that he loved me the same way I loved him but he never did, and even after him telling me that, I stayed and let him hurt me. I always come back to this song, whether I’m happy, whether I’m sad for about 4 years now. This song means so much to me, it makes me feel less alone. Reading all the comments give me some sense of peace knowing I’m not the only one going through this right now. I will be okay, one day. So will all of you. ❤️
One day you'll love so much, that you won't even remember when you didn't love. You might not forget what you're going through now, but it will definitely make you stronger. Every stage of our life, every human entering or leaving our hearts, every moment or emotion, is either blessing or a lesson. We need all of it. Take a deep breath and smile, this might be that 5 second break your heart needs right now. Smile :)
So sad 😥
@@sniegaremeikaite Thank you!
I hope you are better now!
I hope you’re doing much better now.
I've spent 4 years trying to forget someone I gave everything to. Some days I don't think of her, but today I did. Today I did.
What a boy today?
@@narakaren2571 not today, at least not until I read my comment again lol
I know how you feel
Today...i did too
to everyone who's experiencing the hell of a heart break.. take time to be sad , to reminisce and to let go, you are strong and you will get through it, it will make you into a better stronger and wiser you i promise
to everyone that is heartbroken, don't worry it gets better. I grew up thinking love was the best feeling ever, but it can just as easily be the worst. I was so strongly in love with a girl who didn't love me back for three years, I could never get her off my mind and I just wished at the time that I would say something but I knew she didn't feel the same. I was lead on for years, I then met the woman of my dreams out of nowhere and couldn't be happier with her. The girl I spent years waiting for will always have a special place in my heart but time is the best healer. Loving someone can be hard, I hope everyone hangs on in there because I spent many nights feeling worthless and rejected and here I am today. Hang on guys
jay 😌😌😌
Hey, Jay. you will find the one, who loves you back. dont worry, your time will come :)))
Didn't ask for your life story you muppet.
LOL! What a tosser he is - Sad act with nothing better to do xD
glad you found someone man everyone deserves to love
This song is obviously sad but it can also be empowering. Finally letting go of the notion that you can make someone love you, finally letting go of control and understanding that you did everything you could, finally releasing yourself from the idea that you can make them come back...that feeling can be empowering.
I feel like the one thing worse than a heartbreak is having that same person try to remain friends with you. Essentially having to watch their life go on from afar while you realize you no longer play as significant of a part as you could have. I never got to tell him I love him, but he knows. I'm just not the one.
Yeah, going through that, after 2 years I just had to walk away… I hope she understands one day
I didn't sign the permission slip for this feels trip.
yeah niether did I
+Yung Barce This comment is legendary!
your comment brought a smile to my face lol
AMAZING 😆😆😆
Yung Barce lmao
it sucks being so close to someone and loving them a certain way, but they love you in only a friendship kind of way and you just accept it how it is because of how much you love them.
oh lord. same ):
realest comment here
it really sucks!
the pain of love..
+Miranduhh 17
I feel you. :(
Why am I here every time in the middle of the night
My queen I’m so shook to see you here
You're not alone
girl i knew i liked you for a reason
It’s almost 2 years since she left...and I still love her.
She’s out there living life with someone new...and better. And I’m here. Just surviving man.
Update: Its been almost 5 years. I am over her, she contacted me a few month ago. She hadn’t changed much but I have. Sometimes love is better lost, since she left I’ve become a better version of myself. I was able to love again. Though it didn’t work out. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Trust the process. Take care of yourself. Life is good.
It's a month from what would have been four years from the first time we met. She's been gone for more than three years. But we aren't just surviving, we are growing, we are learning, and we will be happy
I thought the same thing. Fast forward three more years, I’m listening to this song while doing homework. I can hear my wife in the other room singing our newborn son to sleep. It gets better.
Time heals all, took me 3 years to get over an ex. It’ll soon be a distant memory that you’ll never fully forget but it’ll no longer hold any power over your happiness. Stay strong my guy. 👑
The second verse kills me. The whole "give me till then to give up this fight" the concept of knowing what's coming but just having that one last chance to savour it. It breaks my heart because sometimes we don't realize that we are experiencing that. We don't know it's the last time we will get to hold someone. Because sometimes it comes out of nowhere. Always appreciate every second you get with someone you love because you never know if they're going to leave the next morning and anything can happen.
Yeah that’s what I went through, got absolutely blindsided, wish I could go back to that last night and never let her go
a broken heart will never be the same again
Sebo Gejus KellerGmbH yeah fuck that bitch
and it’s unfair to those who try so desperately to fix it. im sick of falling for people who refuse to fall for me just as deeply. sigh
Aurora oh I feel you!
Alexi Karppi It’s never the same
Sebo Gejus KellerGmbH yes if you're a weakling.
Glad to know I'm not the only one who comes back to this video in my moments of suffering. Sending you all love
Love back to you! I hope your in a better place in your life now! ❤
sometimes you think the heartbreak goes away with time but when you know it is your soulmate the pain truly never goes away
It really hurts knowing the only person you will always have feelings for has no interest in you. It hurts seeing them flirt with others and giving them the attention that you wish they would give to you. And what hurts more is pretending like it's not killing you inside every time they walk past you and you have no way of talking to them or getting closer. Regardless the many attempts i've made at getting over this guy and moving on, I always find myself thinking about him through the smallest things. I can't fight this feeling, but at the same time I don't want to. Though I know for sure it would never work out, I keep setting myself up for a trap that I get caught in. It feels like a never ending maze. It just won't stop.
i feel you😢😢😢
+Lulu truth Everything stops, everyting slow down, everything turn down... Just remember that one feelings are coming and others are going, and this is the sence of life: we need to have bad times to distinguish good times. Each love is like a small life, so keep searching for your life :)
I feel you on that too. except I had him, twice. it just won't work between us though, for multiple reasons. He has a lot of growing up to do. The love is there, but it can't seem to stay. :(
You speak to me. I feel what you are saying. This is one of the toughest things life has to offer. Keep it up, one of them are going to work
I hope so... one day.
My girlfriend fell out of love and left me so many times Only to come back again wasting me away, making me hurt so much. And when she finally left my life it was bittersweet, I was so glad to be free
But I had just lost the love of my life for eight months
And some parts of her are still in my brain, no matter how much I pry at them to get out.
I'm afraid I'll never love anyone else the way I was in love with her, with all of her.
I can't make her love me
But a piece of me will always love her in someway
no matter how much I don't want to.
Thank you for listening.
❤
❤️
I feel you bro💔
Time always heals your pain remember that
❤ Please come back to say u r ok
My husband just told me he doesn’t love me anymore. I loved this song when I was 17 during my first big heartbreak and it’s even better (in the saddest way) at 22.
I'm so sorry to hear. I hope you are okay ♥️
Stay strong
sending love
Sending love as well...
You are still so you and you will find love again. And believe it or not you have enough time to find it more than once. Hope you are okay 3 years now.
I wish I didn't have feelings. It is so painful having gotten so deeply in love with someone while you watch them lose feelings for you while still telling you that they love you.
Blake Kirkwood "if there is pain, nurse it. and if there’s a flame, don’t snuff it out. don’t be brutal with it. we rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. But to make yourself feel nothing so as to feel anything" will not be the right things my dear. you’re beautiful, and you’re loved. You matter. live ✨
Believe me, when a right person comes, you will be grateful to have feelings because you will love her like nobody else, keep your head up my friend.
Ik it’s sucks I’m moving through the same thing rn , I just wanna say I LOVE YOU ❤️ sending you much love and peace to your sweet soul you will pass this storm we all will find someone who truly appreciate us and cares about our hearts and happiness hug your feelings and love your self ❤️ pls smile even if you didn’t feel like smiling ❤️
I feel this.
Be happy you have feelings because while they may sometimes hurt, it hurts way worse when you realize you are unable to feel anymore to some degree (All different degrees of this). Deploying to multiple Countries and seeing the nature of humans and then doing what I was sent there to do has made me numb to most things. I can care but I don’t know I can ever love the way a person deserves to be loved and it has destroyed many relationships. Keep your emotions and never let anything take them from you.
We accept the love we think we deserve.
the perks of being a wallflower
Yes, the most beautiful book/movie ever :)
have you read 'the fault in our stars'? It's breathtaking
lini- Bikini you're a carrot fan aren't you?
Carrot? :D
Yes, it's a awesome vegetable :D
lini- Bikini THE FAULT IN OUR STARS IS BEAUTIFUL AND AUGUSTUS WATERS IS SO PERF!!!
"You gave me a forever within the numbered days, and I’m grateful."
bon iver sings with his soul, and that's beautiful
Sad that after all this time, you are still my first thought in the morning....
@JOE TM beautifully written. I'm right there with you!!
Inside a hug you can do anything. Smile and cry. Resuscitate or die. Or you can stop the time and stay there forever, like that was the last one. Anyone related?
Yes. Yes it is
That was poetry
Daisy Pollini when i read this,suddenly,i miss my daughters.and i start to cry like a baby.
sweet words.may your life as sweet as your words. :)
Daisy Pollini I love you
"Never trust a hug - it's just a way to hide your face..."
having the ability to express a feeling so perfectly and powerfully through a piano like that is truly amazing
Even Fox Mulder loves Bon Iver
to: him
from: me
You were my first love. You showed me the beauty of the world and convinced me to stay. It was a beautiful relationship that we had. We shared so many happy moments. We laughed together. We cried together. We never fought. We always talked things through. But now you've grown complacent. While my love grew stronger everyday for you, you stayed the same. The efforts you used to make soon became less and less. You told me that you couldn't see a future with me. That you were unsure of your own future and that you didnt want to drag me down. Yet you acted as if we were a wonderful couple with no problems when we were physically together. And then when we weren't together, you were back to treating me as if I was an acquaintance. I'm tired of you playing with my heart. I'm tired of you not fighting for us. I'm tired of you not giving anymore efforts. I have to let you go, no matter how fucking painful it is. I always sacrificed myself for you. Now it's my turn to do something for myself. I gave you all of my love, but now it's my turn love myself again. I wish you all of the best, my dear. I hope you conquer your depression. I hope you reach your dreams and goals and make your family proud. Thank you for everything you've done up to this point. I hope that one day we will be genuinely happy for each other, even if we're in separate paths.
So for now... this is goodbye.
Goodbye to my first love.
Coming from someone who’s been thinking of doing the same thing, I felt this so deeply. It’ll all be okay soon 🤍 I promise
@@iisaniis726 You too, dear. Whatever decision you make, I truly hope it brings you happiness. It will be extremely painful in the beginning, but it is the first step to healing. I wish you all the best love 🤍
@Matthew O'Neill I'm doing much better now, thank you for asking (: Never thought I'd get through the heartbreak, but here I am thriving and moving forward. Life goes on~
Can I ask how old you are? I’m 32 and facing something similar. It’s hard after so many years.
I'm so sorry to hear that @@oneperson2person ): How are you dear? I'm in my mid 20s.
Its crazy that he showed me this song, now I’m feeling every lyric in my heart as it’s breaking the hardest it’s ever in my life.
Saddest story behind the lyrics.. I really feel for the guy who inspired this song.
"The idea for the song came to Reid while reading an article about a man arrested for getting drunk and shooting at his girlfriend's car. The judge asked him if he had learned anything, to which he replied, "I learned, Your Honor, that you can't make a woman love you if she don't."
I'd be willing to move heaven and earth for you, achieve the impossible for you... But I could never force you, I can't make you Love me...
I'm in a 4-year relationship and I feel like it's about to end. I still love him, but i can't force him to keep loving me when he has already exhausted all the love he could give. I wish, sometimes, especially at this point, while listening to this, I wish I could go back to what I was and where I was 4 years ago. I wish I hadn't met him. I wish I met someone better.
But I am a mere human ; powerless. I can't change things and I can't make him love me forever.
He will love you forever.love never dies
Jamie Sullivan what happened in the end?
Same here. I’m after breaking up after not so long one year and a half. It was hard and still it’s hard to cope with this. We broke up three days ago and I still can’t believe how things escalated and how things went. We were constantly arguing and he hated this relationship but I tried so hard. He said he couldn’t love me anymore as before and day by day everything faded away. I would try to get him back and things wouldn’t work I wouldn’t get him back same way as it was. We said we should give each other a break and we didn’t talk for a month. We met after a long while and he said he couldn’t commit to a relationship anymore. And he said he wants to be friend with me and we’re talking still. I want to get over this. It’s hard to cope with.
@@cristinalarosa9389 i hope youre doing better ❤ talking still must make things harder
Just a reminder that things do get better. I remember lists to this song years ago, crying my heart out over a breakup with someone I loved so much, gave everything to. And he left without even really breaking up with me. I felt so alone and confused. When he returned things were not the same. He used me, and I remember feeling so disgusted with love and broken. This song helped me feel those feelings.
Fast forward to now, I’m almost 6 years married to a wonderful man & have the most beautiful little girl in the world. Life isn’t perfect but I’m so thankful to have found love again.
I couldn’t make the first guy love me, as much as a wanted him to. But that’s okay, I found something so much better and so much more satisfying.
When you have to watch someone you love slip away and you can't stop them because you know you're preventing fate from forming a new path. Your love sails with them....your heart aches each time you remember but you never turn away from those memories, you find comfort in the pain. 💔 the pain slowly reminds you of them and you hold that sad feeling closer than the happier times you felt, in those moments of loss you are more real and close than ever.
Constance Wright you made me sad
Wow
Constance Wright amen.
You guys in the comments, you are amazing! Absolutely amazing. You are confessing your loves in a way the person should see this can't see. You are all afraid to not to be loved but you don't give up on loving. You are beautiful and inspiring human beings and You think you are a coward but in the inside, you are all have courage for holding the world on your shoulders. You have only this life. Just one lifetime. Use it. It can go wrong or it can upset you but don't forget, there is always hope. You should just go for it. I love you all and all of your feelings. 💚 You hold the universe inside you 🌌
Thank you.
Ayça Asude Şahin you are so inspiring you truly are 😄
Thank you. I needed this
There’s a way I feel when I listen to Bon Iver that I can’t explain. And even as I grow older it hasn’t changed. Love it.
Who's cutting onions in the room damn
in the chat*
The video is just another slap on the back of my head. When I think of him I see the sea and early mornings and coffee and cigs and randomly smiling. We fucked up each other so bad and the people around us. I'll never love him the way he did and does and that's scary, I thought I'll love him forever. I seem to have no feelings for anyone. what happened to me I want the old me back
Ofelia T there are people who come around that change your whole world. Not only how you view love or whatever but who you actually are as a person. You never forget them and after an event like that happens to you, you can't possibly be the same person after. You get so wrecked that it takes so long to pick up the pieces that when you do finally get them together, you forget how they fit together to begin with. You make a new puzzle out of the same pieces. You become a new you, for better or worse. Good luck my friend, it will get better. I promise.
Ofelia T Yeah, the scariest thing ever. 💍
Never related to someone so much...
Ofelia T you're still you..
I just love how everyone is so open here ❤❤❤ and not judging each and sharing their stories.
yeah the same,read some of them
There's more power and emotion in this 6 minutes of music than in any other song I've ever heard in my life..... thank you for this wonderful song!
For anyone interested, I think this is the breakwater at the Hook of Holland (De Pier Hoek van Holland)
I thought it was. Glad someone confirmed it. My dad and I would always visit Hoek van Holland together. I miss him.
its really cool seeing the comments and people being supportive and all for each other and are all going through the same kind of situations relative to this song, the internet does have some good people
Gay
Thats so true
Malice people respect and are supportive cause all of them do know how it hurts
Such beautiful people in this comment section. What a beautiful inspiring change. You all are the kind of people I wish to be surrounded by.. music lovers, compassionate kind beings. People like all of you are what keep this world going, and help all of us keep breathing, one day at a time. It's so much easier to spread love then hate, and I'm so happy to have found people to spread the love and what is it that brings us here... music.
This is such a beautiful cover. I always find Bonnie’s version a little saccharine but this one has so much emotion. This song was made for Bon Iver to sing it. It makes me cry and feel in a way that Bonnie’s couldn’t
I remember being depressed when listening to this song and I'm amazed now by the fact that this song right now is making me feel great. I don't care if I can't make him love me as long as I love myself. Relationship will come and go, will fuck you up, will damage you but in the end you'll turn out to be a masterpiece. I know the find yourself seems to be like a bullshit tiktok/instagram trend but really you have to do this. Find your worth in the chaos, find your magic and glow in the dark. We are all amazing human beings no matter our past we have the ability to overcome so many things we can overcome this depression or being heartbroken. Keep faith people, move forward love yourself and best of luck ;)
It's been 2 years, still think of the same thing when I listen to this song.
Music creates associations..
Sometimes you just have to keep fighting for what you love, and sometimes you have to wonder where the line is drawn for when the fight just isn't worth it and it's time to walk away to get what you deserve. Walking away is so hard when they're 2 miles behind you. So close to you, but not close enough to keep you warm and make things alright, but we leave the light on anyways. For love. For them.
Savannah Boyd dam ):
yeah agreed... damn. Fine words...
I found this song years ago and I’ve just come across it again. Honestly one of the most beautiful songs I’ve ever heard.
it’s 5am
i always listen to this before going to sleep, hoping that i wake up in the morning not wanting you to love me back.
Known each other since we were 13&14. Finally gave him the chance when we were 17. Almost 2 years later and after having our beautiful son that just turned 4 months, I'm no longer the girl he fell in love with. He don't feel the way he used too about me, and he don't love me anymore. This hurts more than I can express and it always will. Things werent supposed to end this way, I dont want anyone else.
anjelica vallejo I know how you feel
anjelica vallejo I'm in the same exact situation 😔
Keep your head up, we had to fall apart to come back stronger than ever.
I'm in a similar situation. We were in love since we were 13/15 and now, with 18/20, with a marriage on the way and things got so complicated that I don't know if it's the time to say goodbye...
Same thing happened to me. Except he waited for 18 years. I finally gave him a chance and he turned out to be a psycho. Broke my heart none the less. I have a beautiful baby girl.... The epitome of love. Hope it is better for you now.
I'm speechless right now. Why does love have to hurt so bad though. I will hold my head up high knowing that one day I will love again. Only this time, I hope I can be loved back.
James Madison i feel ya id rather have physical torture done to me than the psychological ware fare I go through because of love
This hit me so so hard, I just couldn't hold my tears....
Me 2
James Madison amen🙏🙏🙏
James Madison i understand exactly What you feel
I pushed away a really good woman three years ago for another woman. I’m just now truly realizing how special she was and now she won’t talk to me. This song crashes right into my feels. That quote holds true: “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone”
I have never been on a second date in my whole entire life. I went on how to date and how to be good seminars but nothing happened at all yes I feel alone day by day and I can't even pretend that I'm fine anymore. It's nice to have someone in your life care about you and respect you I've never heard I love you in my whole entire life if you reading this and you still believe the relationship you were in it worth saving do whatever you can to save it coz it's not a good feeling when there is no one care about you at all.
Stay safe everyone
Love ya all
Sending some love to everyone on here who's feeling pain, sadness or at a loss.
Life is a gift. I hope you all find strength and the ability to open your eyes and see what we have here and all the beautiful reasons to live. People come and go and we end up feeling all kinds of emotions but so long as somewhere someone loves you or you love yourself then things aren't all bad. Love and peace. x
thank you
reminder: you are worthy enough to be loved.
Yeah. Just not worthy enough to be loved by the one i want to be loved by
I listened to this when i was 13. Now at 22 im still here… still waiting for life to get better
Most of you here are suffering from heartbreak, i've been there and found music such as this touching and helpful. Beautiful. But from a different time and perspective, this hurts also. Knowing you hold feeling so strong to another not knowing if they do in return. Not knowing what's to come. Debating on opening up or keeping closed and safe while the anxiety eats you up. Not knowing if this will be an opportunity missed in either direction taken. It's hard...Loving one when you don't know how the other feels. What to do?
I loved you, but to you, I was just a girl. I thought it was real, but in the end, it was all a joke to you. I love you still, but you love her...
Same :(
+Roxanne boo 😔✌
relatable :(
I'm so sorry
same here ...
I started listening to this to have a good cry about my ex-boyfriend. We broke up because he needs to learn to love himself and being with me made it really hard for him to focus on himself. Usually I bawl at this song even when my love life is going well. But I feel remarkably calm. He did love me. I love him. He's going to be happier now, and he's taking all the right steps to finally accept himself. I am so proud of him. I love him so much, and I will continue to love him as a friend, and concentrate on myself. I'm really proud of us for doing the right thing.
girlfriend did the same to me, and I am really not happy about it..........
Never really been in love nor being loved by someone. But always kinda falling for someone who i know i'll never get.
Now just trying to be the best version of myself so i can let the best person to me come in the right time.
This song hits different when you're the one who is running out of love.
It is not love if it runs out. Love is forever constant and rare. I’m sorry I don’t mean this in a rude way.
@@opalskye7079 maybe so in the case of parent child relationships, but not peer to peer relationships. It takes constant effort or it will disappear. It's like a fire - you have to nurture it or it will die, and if someone you have love for is not giving you what you need to thrive in love it is often impossible to keep that flame going on your own.
Love is not a given, we're not entitled to it, and it won't just...stay there. It takes work and effort through life's difficulties.
@@opalskye7079you must be young
this post is beautiful and all of the comments and everyone coming together is amazing to see. despite anyones background, we all know what heartbreak is and we can build each other up. I love this and I love all of you
Its been two months and 3 days since he broke up with me and I still catch myself crying at random times in the day and night. Everywhere I go whether its my home, the drive to work, starbucks, my job, I think of him and his smile and the memories and how much love we had. Its the worst feeling being in love with somebody that wants nothing to do with you anymore.
I've been through that but I've learnt not to beat myself up about it
it's been two months since the love of my life left me. the feelings are starting to go away because I forget what its like to have her in my arms, to kiss her, make love to her. I know if I saw her again all them feelings would come rushing back.
its just as hard falling out of love with someone very painful to slowly loss the feelings u once had
+Alexandra Labrada Had that for 9 months. I feel you.
This song hit me hard. Recently broke it off with someone who toyed with my feelings, gaslighted me the entire relationship and lead me on. What hurts the most is the fact my feelings were true and his weren’t.
I was the same with a girl, it took me about 8 months to move on but trust me, it’s worth it. I have a girlfriend and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, you’ll get through it
Scary how RUclips always recommends videos and songs just at the exact moment you need them.
Babes. I know we all have a certain person we think about when we listen to this song and it kinda feels good to cry and be sad and be disappointed and all the bad emotions but it won't help. It won't fucking help. This person will never be our person. And we just have to accept it. It's time to move on and stop wasting our short and important time here on earth with being sad. On they we will meet the one. . Maby even tomorrow. So stop listening to this song now and do something productive or something that simply makes you happy. Meet a friend, do your homework, clean your room, cook something nice. It will get better belive me. Have a great day and life. Huggs and much Love ♡
Thank you.. This comment helped.
you're welcome. i'm glad if i can help anyone :)
I'm agree with you! 😊
+Ciara Du u must of never truly loved if you can carry on with your life and just go meet a friend. u must be the type of person to leave someone behind and carry on with your life when you were their life and they have nothing to move on to. whats a new friend gonna do when anything you do with them youve already done with the love of your life and youd rather do it with the.m
imsosorry p i don't know what you've been through but i guess if i'm honest i am still in love with *that* person. but you know sometimes you just have to try to move on cause otherwise you never will be happy again and thats definitely not the life i wanna live...
i'll close my eyes, and then i won't see the love you don't feel when you're holding me.
Just give me till then, to give up this fight.
I said I needed to say something important to her, and she said, she did not care what I had to say, If she could only hear me, then I would give up the fight.
You will never have to convince the one for you to love you. *They just will.*
Because you *deserve* to be loved. Inherently.
Heartbreak makes this song hit deeper then it would if you haven’t loved yet. They eventually leave, you grow apart, but you’ll forever wish you were enough and could keep them, but you also know it’s better if you let them go.. which makes it hurt and sting so much more.
it was july the 10th.
we went on a 2 day camping trip in class.
I had always been in love with you - I wan't kind of *into you* like people expect teenagers to be.
You were my first real love.
We playded hide or seek or something and you told me to follow you because you planned to hide in the forest.
We hid behind that really big oaktree, I couldn't stop laughing but you didn't want them to hear and find us so you took my hand and we went deeper into the forest.
We just sat there and I told you I was afraid you took me into your arms and told me I didn't had to.
We heard them calling our names but we didn't care.
I was freezing so I asked you when we'd go back to the tent.
You told me after you did -
and then you kissed me -
It was pure perfection .
some people say your first kiss is gross.
some say they didn't know what to do.
but mine was perfect.
I felt your lips. And I stopped thinking .
I don't remember anything but that perfect feeling. And I was so unbelievable happy. I just didn't want it to end ever again. Never.
I don't really remember what happend next. The next thing I know is us laying in your tent and your arm around me. we were talking almost till the sunrise.
I wish I could go back in time and enjoy these days more.
We never were a couple we kept being friends and it seemed like you forgot it. I guess you never felt the same. I guess for you it was just an experience. But to me it meant so much.
Now we're in different schools.
We don't text that much anymore .
that's sad.
To be in love is a perfect feeling but it's also the saddest thing I ever experienced incase you're not loved back.
I miss you J.
I really miss you.
but maybe we were really just kids in love and now your grown up.
I guess I'll never stop doodeling s+j everywhere
but maybe that's what your first love - your first heartbreak feels like.
♡
Crying
+Alii En me too :'(
girl! publish that shit!
I cri :'(
Yeah.. it's a very sad story :( i followed you, Eoghan!
this is the most beautiful song I've ever heard
me too
Bon Iver is just amazing. Having a break up with someone that I thought was my last love. Now I am the trying not to sink and swimming for my life. Loss is grief, I lost my son now my love and I am done fighting. Thank you Justin Vernon
this song makes me realize that life will be more BEAUTIFULL no matter how many Times you Will shock
Bon Ivers an incredible musician, he knows exactly where and how he wants to accentuate the instrument hes playing to suit the flow of the song.
I miss you.
who are you. . . ?
Who are you?
I'm not certain.
+savanah rose my name jeff
go away jeff
Having your heart broken is one of the worst kinds of pain that you never recover from completely. But it's something we all risk because when you find that one person who completes you, there is no better feeling in the world. And it is worth the risk of having your heart broken. If you don't take the risk sadly, you'll never find your one true love.
Takes my breath away. Light a candle.
Literally these comments and these songs make me cry
at one point in time I would have listened to this and cried my eyes out based on how I felt about my ex and his betrayal..now I can listen to this and reminisce. ..remember how hurt I was back then..how sad I was day in and day out.. and now I can finally be happy that I dont feel that way anymore. It took me a long time to get over him.And there will always be a little part of me that died with "us" but now there's a brand new part in its place... moral of this story is, hang in there.. time will heal you.
hey i'm t ,, breathe. you are okay. allow yourself to consciously feel these emotions. understand them. understand yourself, fall in love with your solitude. the most beautiful part through all of this chaos? that we are all able to rise up and out of these emotions. fucking beautiful. i love you. you'll be okay. i'm sending all of my good energy to each and everyone of you. keep your head up. you are all worth so so much more than a person who could not grasp and understand your worth. we'll be okay.
Wow 11 years, I remember first hearing this song and it reminded me of a bad breakup in 2014..years later that guy is a distant memory, don't even remember his laugh, dont remember the sex (or love making at all) don't remember much of his smile or any detail. I found real love 8 years later with the love of my life and wow it gets better.
I'm gonna put my feelings out there. This song currently summarizes everything I'm going through.
I try make her love me, be there for her, cheer her up, make her laugh, even spend nights just talking to her and her only. Unfortunately, that's not how things work. I do believe we are soul mates, however, we probably will never be together. I just have a connection with her I have never felt before, maybe soul mates are just people you meet who change your life for the better, and not a lover.
Hang in there bud! Hopefully things are moving along for ya
I'm in the same situation too! It's exactly the same as yours! :(
Awwwwee..my heart goes to you:( i can feel that pain..
Dude...going through the exact same thing right now. I would do anything to have her heart, to make her love me...but it just...doesn't...work...that way...ugh...thanks for saying something. It helps me to feel less alone!
life life life life life life.............etc forever. may when i rest my head i belong in soft arms. i discovered tranquility at the margin of life. i was satisfied, upon my voyage. gambit your love, feel the power. you will find it is at the edge of mania. life life life life life life.................. im alone. punctured wound wont heal. only covert. parts skinless.the season of loving is over. counted my cards. sacrificed my hour. life life life life life life..........dependency on poison is what i filled myself with. life hurts. life is nothing unless you got something. yours truly. peace
I left you because I'm tired. Tired of doing my best for you, however I can't change the fact that you can't love me back, now I just told you that I'll leave and go. I'm strong but I'm very tired, I want to lay down and rest from these turbulent feelings. I gave you all my time and efforts and in the process, I forgot myself. I've felt everything and you didn't feel a thing. I've realized that I need to stop from this unhealthiness and feel alive again, so I need to accept that I can't make you love me. I will forget about you someday but please don't forget me who was once your friend and lover. :') (: I'll do my best to smile and be happy.
Gosh that was poetic and sad, yet somehow beautifully said. Is it just me thinking that about this comment? But anyways.. good for you! :)
feelings felt by many, but some of us don't know how to say it... especially in such a powerful way...
everything will be okay in the end... so if thing's aren't okay, just remember that it isn't the end...
Very, very intense. And also very true.
so accurate these words
so true yet so sad
Feel you.
This song, man this song this video the piano it just breaks me down. The fact im so heartbroken ive gotten to the points of writing youtube comments lmao. I bought a book called this is me letting you go. Its raining rn. My thoughts a lil scattered rn my fault. It just blows my mind the duality in love. How can something have the ability to make you feel better than your best but completely destroy you. Unrequited love is a pain too intense for some. I wish all you happiness, bc i know ive prayed to God that some would wish that for me
I’m 45 and going through an epic heartbreak. After he ended it on Oct 17, 2019. We were friends for 6 years prior to things changing between us. We fell madly in love at the start of July this year. It was a once in a lifetime love. We both know that. To find that and have it ripped out from under you, is soul destroying. I lost my best friend and the love of my life. We will never find what we had in another person again. Not in this lifetime. Acceptance and letting it go, is so very difficult. Then comes gratitude and forgiveness. I love that I can come here and comment and no one on my social media can see it. Much love and peace. ❤️❤️❤️✌️✌️✌️
The second time around when we got back together my guard was up. I gave you another chance when I shouldn't have, but my love for you outweighed that feeling of turning away from you. This time I let you get closer than ever. I told you I love you. You said it back, but I could tell there was an emptiness when you said it. Should have called it right then and there, but my love for you outweighed that feeling of walking away. Let my guard down. Now Im here, again just like the first time. Listening to this fucking song. I still love you princess, damn it... I'd do it all again. Goodbye Irena.
same :(
MrA1Shooter oh my god.. that is the saddest thing i ve ever seen. be strong please. oh god.. :( made me cry . :(
MrA1Shooter I know how you feel completely. My ex told me he loved me as a way to get me to dtay when I was leaving him after discovering he had been cheating on me, messaging his ex and other women behind my back. Here I am, 12 months later exactly, still suffering and under his control. He was given 11 chances from December until April, then in June. He kept going back to his old ways but lying to me about doing anything, and now all he does is abuse me and blame me for not telling him I loved him sooner. As if that would have changed anything. I say goodbye every few days to him, we love to hate eachother. I hate to admit that he could do it all again and I would still stick around. I love him, but it is sad love. There is nothing pleasant about feeling this way, and I hate when he tells me he loves me because what he did to me.. was not what people do if they love someone. I'm stuck, I'm grieving over something that was never really mine and every day he bullies me for not going back to him due to his past choices. It is hard, but it has to get better some day. It has to.
Tonight I have to go talk to the girl I'm completely in love with, and accept that this is the reality because she can't let people in.. greatest person I could have ever been paired with and she doesn't know how to fix herself to the point that she may have to uproot and change her life.. tonight I get to watch Christmas morning come and know that I lost what could have been the best part of my life.. I hate it so much, all I wanted was Christmas with her and it turns out I lose her for Christmas, and there may be nothing I can do to save it...
Steph Phair stay strong.... love is beautiful but very challenging.... life is your so you know better what choices you have.... keep your head up and never let anyone to hurt you..... there is light at end of tunnel. May God bless you
This is why I love the Internet. No "It's gay" comments here. just pure emotions and self expression... I found this song almost a year ago, when I was going through darkest time of my life after a break-up. I was deeply depressed. And then I stopped to read the comments and those made me smile. I read a long comment from one guy, which was full of heartbreak and atonement how he has learned to live with the pain and still values life. I found a lot of comfort from it back then. and now when I am feeling down again, I come to read the comments not only to find comfort, but to find belief, because I love when people dare to tell how they really feel. Thank you all for that. Me myself am an artist, so I am humbled to see when people dare to say what they feel, because that's what I do through my art and hope that somebody finds comfort from my creation. thank you everyone for the honesty
While reading the comments, I feel like hugging all of you and telling you that everything will be fine...
You will find someone that will give you the respect you deserve, the love you deserve.
Being in a relationship means enjoying every moment with the other half, preferring being with them instead of anyone else.
Let me repeat it to you, one day you will find that person, but in the meantime what’s gone it’s gone, it did because it was meant to. You deserve way better than that, don’t you think!?
Smile, laugh and enjoy your life and don’t let an asshole ruin it.
Always do what is good for your heart and your soul.
I love you.
Clemente Metaj Aww, it made me feel better
How is it possible that someone becomes a part of you forever but never again will be a part of your life.
Every time I listen this beautiful song, I cry! Not because I am sad, because I am still happy with what we shared! And It's true, you can't make them love you like you do, but you still made a difference in their lifes.
We are strangers now, he doesn't say "Hi" or something, but it's okay, we are better this way.
A scar hidden so well and the memory of a first love!
Thank you my love!
Thank you, Bon Iver for this stunning song!