I found myself recently obsessing over the lives of people I sort of knew in university and then abusing myself for not being successful enough. I am doing my dream job, my family loves me, I am financially secure for the first time in my life and yet I am jealous of others. It felt so toxic...so toxic that I really wanted to throw up. This video was really important for me. Because I have realised as long as I don’t work on healing my soul no material comforts is going to be enough to make me happy.
Wow. I have done similar. Wondering about people I'd gone to school with and comparing myself to them...and picking out the differences between our lives and almost feeling this need to punish myself for not somehow "measuring up." It's so interesting to think that some of my former classmates surely were doing the very same, but with me. That is how humans are. We do this. And it is toxic; you're absolutely right. Healing inside, going within and getting to intimately know who YOU ARE and what your purpose is, THAT is the key to being grounded, sane, and -- a bonus -- happy.
Thank you, xxx xxx. I really appreciate that; nice to get a male's perspective as I'm certain the majority of my viewership is comprised of females (which is not to say that anything is wrong about that, obviously, but it's refreshing is all I meant).
@@JenniferMyers Thank you for responding. Jennifer, can you do a video on all your natural items that you use as beauty treatments ? For example, rice water or steam baths or Ice cold face washes etc
There’s a lot of scars that comes from going through an immense amount of trauma, which leads to an unconventional life, and that leads to feeling even more alienated on top of the trauma you’ve already faced :/ I always find myself comparing to those who live a more conventional life/with more conventional situations and it really does tear me apart. I want to feel more confident and secure in myself but when I find that I can’t relate to others it makes me feel even more isolated. I also realize that I shouldn’t seek external validation from anything or anyone else. Naturally we all do that to a certain extent.
Absolutely. We all do it as it's human nature to compare and also look to others for validation. If it weren't the case, none of us would bother combing our hair or getting dressed in non-pajama clothes to leave the house, for example. So these things do matter. But in the grand scheme of things, it's obviously a deeper issue than whatever we see on the surface. That feeling of not following the herd and wondering "what's wrong with me?" is so common. I think we all feel these things.
Perfect timing, I was struggling with comparing myself to another yesterday and I was trying to remind myself I can only be ME so might as well be the best version of ME possible, thank you for the video!
If you treat a person with "sir" or similar, if they treat you back by using "you" then he disrespected you and you now have no respect for them. Someone who didnt respect you, deserves no respect.
That’s one of problem that I don’t think I’m good enough I think but listen to you this will help me inside to feel better about myself . Thank you Jennifer
Jennifer’s videos are easy to watch and take in. She knows how to be her own person and not with all the extra stuff. The enjoy her calm personality and it helps with my anxiety as some videos can just be irritating to it tbh
I've just stumbled across this video now. Honestly it almost made me cry , as you are extremely right about everything you have said. I will 're watch this until it sinks in and I can practice the technique you've offered. Thank you so much for sharing and thank you for being real
It is very dangerous. I catch myself doing this over and over... Because of that I’m loosing love and respect for myself. It’s so hard to act on this and stop... Very important video 👍
You speak from a place of being spiritually awakened. I admire you for being real and logical in a world where most people are not. I wish there were more people like you in this world. You are appreciated ☺️.
What I find so fascinating about you Jen is your self love and how well you are able to listen to your body and your inner voice or feelings. I feel like I was ignoring myself all these years it makes me sad… So many problems that come with this.. relationshipwise, healthwise … i am now really working on this and it’s still so difficult for me.. Thank you for being an example for me.
Another thing i love about you is your talking. A lot people dont understand english so well, ( me too ) and you make it more understandable for us, slower and relaxing talking are the best. :) thanks
Please make a video showing all the books that you have read and that have helped you in some way. 🙏🏻 I have already read the books that you recommended in a q&a video.
Dear Jennifer, how nice that your Mum reminds you that you are strong. And you are. I am truly grateful that you share your path and advice and remind us how we should treat ourselves. Your words speak to me into deep. I am now at my 39 learning to love and like myself despite all my flaws and mistakes I made. Your videos are very inspirational. Thank you.
Hello Josephine, I wish you all the best on your way. I have come quite a long way myself since I post this comment. But the journey never ends :) My actual name is Renata but I like Josephine very much :)
Hello Josephine, I wish you all the best on your way. I have come quite a long way myself since I post this comment. But the journey never ends :) My actual name is Renata but I like Josephine very much :)
Hello Josephine, I wish you all the best on your way. I have come quite a long way myself since I post this comment. But the journey never ends :) My actual name is Renata but I like Josephine very much :)
I absolutely love listening to you, looking at your heavenly face, and hope to see you in another video soooooon! Your beauty is captivating, and I am a straight woman!
Don’t stop sharing your experience and showing us how we can work through the difficult times. You make us feel not alone. You have become the light in our hearts 🙏
Your words are so encouraging. Reminded me of the importance of loving myself again💓It is sad that some parts of social media make us to forget that. Especially for youth, I hope people do not forget how special and unique each of them is and do not use too much time to compare themselves to others. Time is precious✨
Hy Jennifer ..just came by again to ur video to thankyou .i cannot thank you enough ...the way yu inspired me and i got some tips about skincare about life about health from You .....lets start first of all thankyou for being urself on this platform it is a gift for people to watch someone so honest secondly i thankyou for ur tretinoin advice i am not a makeup lover though i adore makeup experts giving me time to skincare made me look into myself more examine myself little details about me more it makes me more confident and risen up .. i am using it for last 5 months though results are slow but i can see difference which is a bliss Thirdly castor oil 💗i hav been using it too for last 5 months i always wanted to have my own beautiful eyelashes but didn't know how to have them naturally as i also had medium eyelashes but after seeing small very smalll but a difference a growth in my eyelashes makes me jump🤗😍gives me so much of happiness At last but never so least Thankyou so much I pray you slay in ur personality ..a heartly thankyou to you 💗
M in very criticl condition . M alone m broken. Diprssn just kill me . M crying whole day. Everyone hates me bcz i hv no.patience nd m crying on small things bt its nt my fault. I saw ur videos nd feel positv😪
It's always a pleasure to watch your videos with all the beautiful meaningful & powerful messages carried by you in such a graceful loving way ❤️ & I absolutely agree, I admire you, & like you said, I always aspire to be me, hopefully fully & completely myself! With love & appreciation all the way ❤️🙏
Thank you so much for another beautiful video xx you are so inspiring and amongst all this gloom right now with the coronovirus, you bring light to my life xxx
You're the reason why im currently consuming all my skincare first now. And sticking with just retin a, gentle cleanser, sunscreen and moisturizer and patience patience patience. Do you have Instagram?
Keep doin videos more often I love watching u videos..m watchin u video midnight 2clock ..I am from India..m obsessed about your video ..it’s so fresh calming and so real
Hi Jennifer. New subscriber here. :) I just wanted to thank you for your quality channel - I was beginning to wonder if anyone like you was on social media offering sensible advice. (or was it only people pushing bad news and products we do not need, making people scared and neurotic) You give great skin health and navigating life advice. Looking forward to hearing more from you… and your mom! :)
Lol I’m 36 and I have never carried a purse. It makes me feel free not having to lug around extra things . I have a small hand wallet with my I.d and other cards that I need and that’s enough for me
This was beautifully said. I love how you put the focus back on one's self vs what comparison does which is focus on others. I too have benefited immensely from JP's 12 Rules for Life and strongly agree that the best way we can help others is to focus on bettering ourselves as much as we can. I love your advice from your mother. I was wondering, are you an only child? If so, can you talk about your experience growing up as an only child? Thank you.
I had the immense pleasure of attending Dr. Peterson's lecture series when he went on tour for his book, and it was a spectacular evening. I will forever be grateful to him for that book. I am not an only child, no. I have an older sister!
Thank you so much Jennifer. You really teach me a lot with every video you post. I know this is random but can i know if you are a stomach, side or back sleeper? 😅
Not rude at all! I have shorter lashes at the moment simply due to the natural growth cycle of eyelashes (as any other hair on the body). Lashes are constantly shedding and regrowing, and they each (individually) grow and shed at varying rates, so there are definitely times when my lashes are crazy long and dense, and there are other times when they lack length and thickness. I'm consistent with my castor oil usage, regardless. I enjoy the benefits for not only my lashes but also my undereye skin, too. I hope that helps to answer your question!
Nice thought provoking video.... Jennifer i have a quiry... Are sardines in olive oil healthy... I heard in someone else s video that always go for fish in water or brine... What are your thoughts......
I personally only buy and consume those packed in spring water, and nothing else. This is simply because I don't know the quality of the oil being used, and often when packaging tinned fish in this way, the olive oil can also be subject to oxidation. I prefer adding my own extra virgin olive oil to my foods. I don't think anything is bad or wrong particularly with olive oil packaged sardines. But I myself purchase the spring water variety!
I have both AM and PM skincare routine videos on my channel! Morning here: ruclips.net/video/XwYhS_YEFrc/видео.html Evening here: ruclips.net/video/H0PtRpKraDE/видео.html
@@JenniferMyers ohh i see japanese nd koreans girls have fantastic skin their genes are just faboulous...mam u belongs from??...really i wish i could meet u live face to face..im ur subscriber from Pakistan...love u man.im in my 20z nd i started tretinoin just bcoz of u..u r a great inspiration..love u mam💞💞💋💋
I came for the Tretinoin advice, I stayed for the life advice :3 Thanks
That makes me smile so wide ;-)
Poppy Popper same!!!
Same here, beautiful "mind,body and soul" , just like Billie holiday used to sing.....
SaAaAaaqmmmmMmmeree
Same ♡
beauty with brain and everything that comes our of her mouth is a gold.
Oh, my, thank you
I found myself recently obsessing over the lives of people I sort of knew in university and then abusing myself for not being successful enough. I am doing my dream job, my family loves me, I am financially secure for the first time in my life and yet I am jealous of others. It felt so toxic...so toxic that I really wanted to throw up. This video was really important for me. Because I have realised as long as I don’t work on healing my soul no material comforts is going to be enough to make me happy.
Wow. I have done similar. Wondering about people I'd gone to school with and comparing myself to them...and picking out the differences between our lives and almost feeling this need to punish myself for not somehow "measuring up." It's so interesting to think that some of my former classmates surely were doing the very same, but with me. That is how humans are. We do this. And it is toxic; you're absolutely right. Healing inside, going within and getting to intimately know who YOU ARE and what your purpose is, THAT is the key to being grounded, sane, and -- a bonus -- happy.
2:45 “Celebrating my unique awkward self.“ ❤️
It’s a very good idea to celebrate ones “unique awkward self.”
You're such a role model not just for women to us men as well. God bless you.
Your message was so heart touching.
I wish everyone stays happen within.
Thank you, xxx xxx. I really appreciate that; nice to get a male's perspective as I'm certain the majority of my viewership is comprised of females (which is not to say that anything is wrong about that, obviously, but it's refreshing is all I meant).
@@JenniferMyers Thank you for responding. Jennifer, can you do a video on all your natural items that you use as beauty treatments ? For example, rice water or steam baths or Ice cold face washes etc
@@abc_cba I do none of these things! I'm a very simple woman lol
There’s a lot of scars that comes from going through an immense amount of trauma, which leads to an unconventional life, and that leads to feeling even more alienated on top of the trauma you’ve already faced :/ I always find myself comparing to those who live a more conventional life/with more conventional situations and it really does tear me apart. I want to feel more confident and secure in myself but when I find that I can’t relate to others it makes me feel even more isolated. I also realize that I shouldn’t seek external validation from anything or anyone else. Naturally we all do that to a certain extent.
Absolutely. We all do it as it's human nature to compare and also look to others for validation. If it weren't the case, none of us would bother combing our hair or getting dressed in non-pajama clothes to leave the house, for example. So these things do matter. But in the grand scheme of things, it's obviously a deeper issue than whatever we see on the surface. That feeling of not following the herd and wondering "what's wrong with me?" is so common. I think we all feel these things.
Perfect timing, I was struggling with comparing myself to another yesterday and I was trying to remind myself I can only be ME so might as well be the best version of ME possible, thank you for the video!
Rinoa, be your best self and be proud.
I'm so glad I found your channel. You are such a beautiful person inside and out.
Thank you so much!
For me , being authentic, means being clear on what I like and don't like and make it known without shame and with respect !
Unapologetically being oneself is truly the greatest gift of life.
If you treat a person with "sir" or similar, if they treat you back by using "you" then he disrespected you and you now have no respect for them. Someone who didnt respect you, deserves no respect.
That’s one of problem that I don’t think I’m good enough I think but listen to you this will help me inside to feel better about myself . Thank you Jennifer
I would love more RUclipsrs to be as thoughtful about their content as you, thanks for those kind words
I aspire to be like u when I'm in my late thirties not just when it comes to retinoids and skin but everything lifestyle wellness mindfulness..
My love & admiration for you is unwavering Jennifer. You are such a beautiful, self aware soul. You are such a light in this world.✨✨✨✨
Jennifer’s videos are easy to watch and take in. She knows how to be her own person and not with all the extra stuff. The enjoy her calm personality and it helps with my anxiety as some videos can just be irritating to it tbh
This is probably one of the best advice on how not to compare yourself to others.
I've just stumbled across this video now. Honestly it almost made me cry , as you are extremely right about everything you have said. I will 're watch this until it sinks in and I can practice the technique you've offered. Thank you so much for sharing and thank you for being real
It is very dangerous.
I catch myself doing this over and over...
Because of that I’m loosing love and respect for myself.
It’s so hard to act on this and stop...
Very important video 👍
You speak from a place of being spiritually awakened. I admire you for being real and logical in a world where most people are not. I wish there were more people like you in this world. You are appreciated ☺️.
What I find so fascinating about you Jen is your self love and how well you are able to listen to your body and your inner voice or feelings.
I feel like I was ignoring myself all these years it makes me sad…
So many problems that come with this.. relationshipwise, healthwise … i am now really working on this and it’s still so difficult for me..
Thank you for being an example for me.
thank you for your words, you’ve really helped me a lot.❤
Hey, you're seriously a blessing.
I love listening to your life advice.
ty for being who you are.
I just stumbled on your channel, greetings from England. Justin
Another thing i love about you is your talking. A lot people dont understand english so well, ( me too ) and you make it more understandable for us, slower and relaxing talking are the best. :) thanks
Please make a video showing all the books that you have read and that have helped you in some way. 🙏🏻 I have already read the books that you recommended in a q&a video.
Jennifer please write a book !!
You have a beautiful spirit! And you are very lucky to have a mom, who reminds you of your worth 💕
Thank you
Dear Jennifer, how nice that your Mum reminds you that you are strong. And you are. I am truly grateful that you share your path and advice and remind us how we should treat ourselves. Your words speak to me into deep. I am now at my 39 learning to love and like myself despite all my flaws and mistakes I made. Your videos are very inspirational. Thank you.
Yeah, I can totally relate to this. Coincidentally, my name is also Josephine 🙂
Hello Josephine, I wish you all the best on your way. I have come quite a long way myself since I post this comment. But the journey never ends :) My actual name is Renata but I like Josephine very much :)
Hello Josephine, I wish you all the best on your way. I have come quite a long way myself since I post this comment. But the journey never ends :) My actual name is Renata but I like Josephine very much :)
Hello Josephine, I wish you all the best on your way. I have come quite a long way myself since I post this comment. But the journey never ends :) My actual name is Renata but I like Josephine very much :)
Thank you for sharing your knowledge with the public I appreciate it .
I absolutely love listening to you, looking at your heavenly face, and hope to see you in another video soooooon!
Your beauty is captivating, and I am a straight woman!
Don’t stop sharing your experience and showing us how we can work through the difficult times. You make us feel not alone. You have become the light in our hearts 🙏
That means so much, for me to read this today.
Your words are so encouraging. Reminded me of the importance of loving myself again💓It is sad that some parts of social media make us to forget that. Especially for youth, I hope people do not forget how special and unique each of them is and do not use too much time to compare themselves to others. Time is precious✨
'THANKS SO MUCH for your words of wisdom, Gob bless you:)
i think she'd be a great mom.
Hy Jennifer ..just came by again to ur video to thankyou .i cannot thank you enough ...the way yu inspired me and i got some tips about skincare about life about health from You .....lets start first of all thankyou for being urself on this platform it is a gift for people to watch someone so honest secondly i thankyou for ur tretinoin advice i am not a makeup lover though i adore makeup experts giving me time to skincare made me look into myself more examine myself little details about me more it makes me more confident and risen up .. i am using it for last 5 months though results are slow but i can see difference which is a bliss
Thirdly castor oil 💗i hav been using it too for last 5 months i always wanted to have my own beautiful eyelashes but didn't know how to have them naturally as i also had medium eyelashes but after seeing small very smalll but a difference a growth in my eyelashes makes me jump🤗😍gives me so much of happiness
At last but never so least Thankyou so much I pray you slay in ur personality ..a heartly thankyou to you 💗
This is Gold 🙏🏻💗⭐
Your words are always so full of wisdom
Thank you, Lilith
M in very criticl condition . M alone m broken. Diprssn just kill me . M crying whole day. Everyone hates me bcz i hv no.patience nd m crying on small things bt its nt my fault. I saw ur videos nd feel positv😪
Thank you for this beautiful reminder. ❤️
It's always a pleasure to watch your videos with all the beautiful meaningful & powerful messages carried by you in such a graceful loving way ❤️
& I absolutely agree, I admire you, & like you said, I always aspire to be me, hopefully fully & completely myself!
With love & appreciation all the way ❤️🙏
Love to you, Fairouz. Thank you for your words.
@@JenniferMyers ❤️💝❤️
Thank you so much for another beautiful video xx you are so inspiring and amongst all this gloom right now with the coronovirus, you bring light to my life xxx
I'm so pleased to know that, Jessica. I am doing my best to stay positive in the midst of all this, too!
Thanks again love you 🥰🥰🥰💖
Why would anyone dislike this? Really??
Ahhh I just love your videos. Your videos are so calming and informative. Love you ❤️❤️
You're the reason why im currently consuming all my skincare first now. And sticking with just retin a, gentle cleanser, sunscreen and moisturizer and patience patience patience. Do you have Instagram?
I am also planning to do the same😊
@@ashleshamohapatra4943 I've tried it for the month of January and step back. Now I need to consume what I have first.
Hi! I'm sorry but, no, I don't have Instagram.
So glad I found your channel, you know what you’re talking about! ❤️
Thank you
wooow, you’re my youtube therapist! thank you for this video ❤️
A very good word.
Beautiful wise words. Thank you for sharing.
Keep doin videos more often I love watching u videos..m watchin u video midnight 2clock ..I am from India..m obsessed about your video ..it’s so fresh calming and so real
Thank you Jennifer, much love your way ❤
🙏💓🌍🍀
Love back to you, aumpo. Be well and love yourself today and every day.
I simply adore you... u seem like such a wonderful person
Hi Jennifer. New subscriber here. :) I just wanted to thank you for your quality channel - I was beginning to wonder if anyone like you was on social media offering sensible advice. (or was it only people pushing bad news and products we do not need, making people scared and neurotic) You give great skin health and navigating life advice. Looking forward to hearing more from you… and your mom! :)
Jennifer could you please tell me where did u get that beautiful pendant necklace from?
I shouldn’t compare myself to you 😄 but I wish I could be as articulate as you! 🤓
Hi @Jennifer. You look so lovely in this. Could you tell me what make up you were likely wearing in this?
Well said, thank you for sharing ♥️
You are just amazing Jennifer ! I love your energy 🌺🌸
Really needed this after my therapy session today ❤️ Thanks Jen
Please please make videos on natural highlighter and dewy skin for body
Thank you for this video!
I really like your hairstyle!!
Hey jennifer.. Can u please do a "whats in my bag " video ..
I'm afraid I don't carry much; just the bare necessities. But I can write it on my list and see what I can come up with.
@@JenniferMyers thank u 😊
Lol I’m 36 and I have never carried a purse. It makes me feel free not having to lug around extra things . I have a small hand wallet with my I.d and other cards that I need and that’s enough for me
Really inspiring me 🤗
I needed to hear this ❤
Thanks, Tammy
Thank you for this 🖤 ps, that hairstyle is so cute on you
thank you 😊
Thanks for the reminder ❤️
Hey there, Tango
This was beautifully said. I love how you put the focus back on one's self vs what comparison does which is focus on others. I too have benefited immensely from JP's 12 Rules for Life and strongly agree that the best way we can help others is to focus on bettering ourselves as much as we can. I love your advice from your mother. I was wondering, are you an only child? If so, can you talk about your experience growing up as an only child? Thank you.
I had the immense pleasure of attending Dr. Peterson's lecture series when he went on tour for his book, and it was a spectacular evening. I will forever be grateful to him for that book. I am not an only child, no. I have an older sister!
Can you please make video on natural skin highlighters
not me comparing myself to her as I watched this video 🤦🏽♀️
I actually correlate you to Tretinoin everytime I see a new videos.😝
Great words❤️
Thank you so much Jennifer. You really teach me a lot with every video you post. I know this is random but can i know if you are a stomach, side or back sleeper? 😅
Thank you ma'am♥️
Thank you for watching
❤❤
We are all God's children
Please mentor me 😭😭
I have good skin but I have undereyes problm can u suggest me some good under eye cream I am 24year old
Hi, can you please make a video how you cook liver. Thank you.
U skin looks so dewy n beautiful😍is it u natural skin or any moisturiser u have applied??
I want my body to glow please do som video about that
Have you done Myers Briggs !
❤️
May i ask you A question
Excuse my rudeness
But why your lashes get shorter
Because i am using castor oil right now
She doesn't curl her eyelashes , that's is the reason it might look shorter .
Not rude at all! I have shorter lashes at the moment simply due to the natural growth cycle of eyelashes (as any other hair on the body). Lashes are constantly shedding and regrowing, and they each (individually) grow and shed at varying rates, so there are definitely times when my lashes are crazy long and dense, and there are other times when they lack length and thickness. I'm consistent with my castor oil usage, regardless. I enjoy the benefits for not only my lashes but also my undereye skin, too. I hope that helps to answer your question!
Jennifer Myers thank you very much 🤍✨
Nice thought provoking video.... Jennifer i have a quiry... Are sardines in olive oil healthy... I heard in someone else s video that always go for fish in water or brine... What are your thoughts......
I personally only buy and consume those packed in spring water, and nothing else. This is simply because I don't know the quality of the oil being used, and often when packaging tinned fish in this way, the olive oil can also be subject to oxidation. I prefer adding my own extra virgin olive oil to my foods. I don't think anything is bad or wrong particularly with olive oil packaged sardines. But I myself purchase the spring water variety!
@@JenniferMyers thankyou jennifer always so good feelings talking to you.... May you prosper in every way.. 😘
did you shorten your eyelashes? they look short than usual.
They're in their shedding cycle. Like any hair on the rest of the body, it grows in cycles.
Mam ur current skin care routine plz..
I have both AM and PM skincare routine videos on my channel! Morning here: ruclips.net/video/XwYhS_YEFrc/видео.html Evening here: ruclips.net/video/H0PtRpKraDE/видео.html
You look so cute today thank you 🤗
Thank you
Amor fati
i think every 5-8 years everyone should take LSD, or DMT, or some similar psychedelic.
Relax man. Not everyone needs to take drugs
Mam u belongs from korea??..ur skin omg💞💞💞💋💋💋
I am half, yes! Mommy's from Korea. Thank you
@@JenniferMyers ohh i see japanese nd koreans girls have fantastic skin their genes are just faboulous...mam u belongs from??...really i wish i could meet u live face to face..im ur subscriber from Pakistan...love u man.im in my 20z nd i started tretinoin just bcoz of u..u r a great inspiration..love u mam💞💞💋💋
Please be my therapist 😭
Please Jennifer
Hai beautiful face
Oh thank you, AMU RAJ.