Dealing with Loss, Change & Not Having All the Answers
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- Опубликовано: 3 мар 2023
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Please don't stop what you're doing. Watching your videos... even the older ones where you're just having cozy vibes in your younger years... it brought me out of a rut this past year.That might sound insane... but I wish I could tell you how it sparked the simplest light in me after a full year of having the hardest time just getting out of bed. I started experiencing the simple joys of fall... baking cookies alone in my apartment and cuddling my dog... embracing my life for what it was. Your inner joy is contagious, and I am so grateful.
I lost my grandfather this year. On 8th of January, precicely. He was a huge part of my personal developement as a human being. I grew up with him. I thought this year was going to get better but it only got worst. My grandfather was not the only one I lost this year.
I am honestly sorry you both had to go through such hard times but I am truly happy that you became a mother in the meantime. It has been a lot since I last watched and listened to you. We are also the same age and believe me, we have a lot in common. We might never even meet each other nor talk to each other but I am glad I got to know you. You are a very strong person. Keep it that way.
May she rest in peace. Atleast she was able to see her grandson and spend time with you and him. One of the saddest part of grief is realising you also lost your future with them.
kalyn we missed you🥲 so sorry for what you and ryan are going through, sending so much love❤ i just want to say, nothing about your existence on the internet was narcissistic. you helped me a lot in my early 20s. i moved to a foreign country by myself having no idea how to take care of myself and your videos were there for me the whole time and i know i wouldn't be the same person i am today without having you by my side. just wanted to share❤
I lost my mom 7 years ago to cancer and my dad last year to dementia and severe chest infection and it's SO HARD. I totally understand everything you are saying that you are feeling and thinking. Grief is a B* but I feel like we are strong and we will get better at it. Lots of love
I lost my grandmother to cancer on November 2022 and it is still really hard, she was 65 years old and raised me. I feel represented by the part where you say your heart has a lot of scars, I feel the same and it´s hard not knowing if it will ever recover, I feel like I go through life healing a lot and being broken a lot. Thank you for putting this out, I feel seen and your words really help. We’ll be here for all kinds of content from you.
Thank you so much.
I can’t imagine how difficult that must be I’m really sorry for your loss
Ryan’s mom sounds like she was so lovely and it’s clear you two shared an incredible bond. My ex-boyfriends mom is still close with me despite her son no longer being in my life, and I absolutely view her somewhat of a mother figure. Found family is absolutely still family, and grief is never something you can put a timeline on. And is sure as hell isn’t linear. In the meantime take all the time you need, we will always be here for you no matter how you choose to show up online. Wishing you lots of love and healing Kalyn!❤
Sending you and everyone who is reading this the best vibes. Life is hard sometimes, it really is, but I hope you all can focus on the good. Love you guys ❤️
I lost both of my cats suddenly (I had them for over 15 years) at the end of 2022 and have accepted that the grieving process will last as long as I'm alive. I miss them every single day and always will. It's just a hole in your heart that can never heal and that you learn to live with. I think whenever we lose someone that we're very close to, it chips away at our heart a bit more. I will be forever grateful for the memories we shared though and would do it all again knowing how painful it is after they're gone. Sending you lots of love and hugs. ❤️ I know how extremely painful it can be. Keep holding space for yourself. 💕
i think you are one of the loveliest human beings on the planet. Sending you so much love and support to you and your family to grieve. well done for staying strong despite it all. xxx
I hope you are doing much better ma'am! I wish you the best and many blessings for your family.....It's been more than a year I have been working on myself....I was watching my old videos and all of a sudden...., it's funny but I remembered how much yours helped me in the very beginning when I first started on my journey for self improvement. Your videos were the very first ones I found on this topic, they were like an awesome ''welcome to the self improvement side of RUclips'' or something, and with a red carpet.....I just had to tell you that,.....once again, many blessings for you and stay awesome, forever! :)
I think you never over share like hear me out first I follow you from almost 2016 now and now when I need to deal with something like I recently had a heartbreak and then it was hard for me to get back to routine I go back to your vedios that documented raw life of yours definitely it's not raw but you know like you being frnd and just sharing everything like a best friend would do helps me out in every situation and so many times it happend like I had no one to share but seeing you feeling same and it's intensity that matters sometimes that yess exactly this is how deep I feel it gave me so much strength and even a map of what possibly could happen or if I do this then this can also happen so I think you are my guardian angel who gave me a map for every stitution by sharing your life as it was ❤
I lost my mother in law two years ago, to kidney failure brought upon treatments for her cancer (complications). I was also very close to her.
Sending lots of love to Ryan, Easton and you ❤.
Kalyn, my condolences to you and your family, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss Ryan’s mom. 💔
Lots of love and blessings for you and your family. Glad to see you. Take care of you.
I lost my dad recently, unexpectedly. Grief is impossible. I’m so sorry for the pain you and your family are going through. Thanks for being here ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief is just…unexplainably hard
Sorry for your loss. It’s so hard to process. You feel like a zombie after trying to navigate the world again. Miss my dad every day!
I’m so sorry to hear that
I missed you so much! I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this difficult time.
I would like to say here, when you inquire about your online presence helping someone, I can say with certainty that your vlogs helped me a lot, in the darkest and loneliest moments of my life, being able to spend the day watching you doing simple and mundane things of your day to day life, brought and still bring a lot of peace to me. It makes me feel close to you as a friend, sister, someone I look up to.
As much as I love the topics you bring up here at Coffee Talk, it's watching how you put your values and ideals into practice that really resonates with me.
Please don't be afraid to change, to be who you are, to take time away to breath, because I'm sure that all of us who follow you are changing too and we want to see the real you, because in a strange way, many of us feel that we are part of your life even in a small way. I hope the dark corners of the internet don't overlap and distance you from so many of us who are here wishing only light for you.
I'm sorry if I sounded selfish, these are things I wish I had written to you from previous conversations where you question your online presence.
Anyway, I'm sending you all my love and I can't wait for you to come back.
My sincere condolences to all who are grieving the loss of such a wonderful person in your lives
You have been an older sister to me through the years and any time you share (or overshare) your heart with us I feel seen and heard and trusted. Thank you for showing up here and I am so sorry for your loss, take all the time off you need to heal and I wish love to your family ✨
So sorry for your loss. Grief is never an easy thing to navigate and there is no right or wrong to doing it. You are so strong girl. You got this. You are woman. You are POWERFUL. Sending all my love!
I am so sorry for your loss. Never apologize or feel badly for taking the time you need. Self-care is #1 and family next.
Sending your family so much love 💛 my condolences. Ryan’s mom sounds like a wonderful soul. May it be her favourite season always, wherever she is now. Just broke up with my boyfriend of 4.5 years this weekend. Going through a version of grief too.
Wow Kalyn, sending your family so much love and healing ❤️🩹 ❤️❤️❤️
Wish I could give you a hug sweet Kayln. All the love to your sweet sweet family ❤
Every single one of your videos that I’ve watched (which is almost all of them), has brought something positive to my life. Wether it’s a video where I’m learning something, being entertained or where you bring me in a better mood, there’s always something in your videos that makes a positive impact for me.
Thank you for making me feel less lonely and inspiring me to live a healthier and happier life.
I also wanted to let you know another way that you have changed my life for the better :
I have scoliosis and I’m in constant pain. I have been following along to a video you made a few years ago where you do yoga to Cinnamon Girl by Lana Del Rey. I’ve done it at least 50 times, and on those days I’m in less pain, and that’s all because of you and your video. So thank you ❤️
I lost my dad 2 months ago and it still feels like a bad dream that I will eventually wake up from.. It's unbelievable how much you can miss someone. I'm very sorry for your loss, sending you and Ryan lots of love
There is no time frame for grief. My best friend died unexpectedly back in 2021, followed by my gran who had a short battle with cancer, two of the most important women in my life gone within a few months of each other 😢. You hit the nail on the head when you said that life keeps moving forward and you take them with you, in memories, energy and in how you honour them 🙏🏻 you're doing so well and I hope Easton knows how much of a badass mama he has 🥰 sending love and healing vibes to you and your family ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss, Kalyn ❤I lost my dad 5 years ago when I was 22 to liver cancer. You are absolutely right that seeing someone you love suffer leaves you feeling so powerless and heartbroken. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through. My fiancé at the time, now husband was incredibly close with my dad and he didn’t have a great relationship with his dad. Similar to your situation with your mom and Ryan’s mom- so my heart almost broke even more for my husband to lose my dad as a father in law. He meant so much to both of us, we found out my dad had cancer 4 months after we got engaged and we got married right away so he could be there and walk me down the aisle. 6 weeks later he passed. Fast forward to now 5 years later- I just found out I’M PREGNANT! It breaks my heart that my dad won’t be here for it but I’m still so excited to become a mom and I know my husband and I will make an amazing team throughout parenthood. I’m incredibly grateful to have a good relationship with my mom and to see her become a grandmother will be amazing to see. Sending you love, btw I am drinking water with lime.
Sending you so much love. I’m so so sorry for your loss.
I lost my dad when I was 19 and my mom has been in a nursing home since I was 18. Over the years, you have brought me so much happiness and reassurance. I remember after my dad passing, I sat down and just binged your videos because your presence and energy is so positive and golden that even during the darkest time in my life, you made it a bit better.
Please don’t push yourself to make content or do absolutely anything that you don’t feel is right.
There are no words that can make any of this better or make any of this make sense, but I am sincerely sorry for both of your loss.
Your story is so similar to mine, I just had to comment. I lost my dad when I was 19 too, very suddenly. My mother has been severely chronically ill since I was 16. It is extremely tough, and the pain never really leaves - you just learn to live with it and have good and bad days. I also binged Kalyn's videos ever since. Hope you're doing well ❤️
Every piece of this conversation was so beautiful. As someone who is also navigating through the depths of grief, I cannot tell you how much this resonated. Thank you for being you. I am sending so much love to you and your family.
Kalyn, thank you for sharing that.
It has been quite difficult for me to listen inward throughout these past few months, and watching you being in touch with your feeling helped me to see myself.
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Sending love and light to you and your family Kalyn. I recently lost my niece and I never expected to have the grief hit me in waves nearly as hard as it has. My sister has always reminded me of you and you both have such an incredible gift of strength. Much love 💛
I simply cannot express enough gratitude for you being in my life even if it is just in this form, online. I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope that this incredibly beautiful community you've built over the years is able to bring some warmth towards you. We all love you Kalyn and we'll stick around, forever and always. It's beautiful to see you evolve, transform, grow and become the woman you are, with each passing year I can see you become wiser, more and more graceful and the way you guide us all as a big sister with all your wisdom and grace. Thank you so much for being here and sharing your life with us. Much love💕
I am sorry for you and your family’s loss!
Sending love and light to you ❤️✨️🙏
Grief and suffering can feel so lonely, videos like this and the people who comment really show that no one is going through anything by themselves. So many out there see this and feel seen, they can encourage each other, and I think you’re wonderful for creating a space on the internet where people can come to be motivated and uplifted. I don’t see it as narcissistic at all when your videos make people feel better, and they always do.
Sorry for your loss, my deepest condolences ❤
thank you for always being so honest and open! Grief is tough for everyone in their own way...sending you love and positive energy! 💜😀
I’m so sorry for your loss, Kalyn. Sending you and your family lots of love. ❤
sending you so much much love ❤ thank you so much.
I am so sorry for your loss Kayln. I lost my mom suddenly to a bacterial infection that went septic just over a year ago.
She was my rock, and seeing you cry and hold back the tears made me realize how important mothers are, and the grief I still hold.
So I’m crying with you. If my tears can alleviate you in some fashion, know that you and your family aren’t alone in mourning.
Much love to you during this time. Grief is hard to navigate and isn’t the same for everyone or every time.
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No explanation is needed. You share what you want to. We love you for who you are. I am sorry for your loss. Virtual hug.
This hit me because my husbands mother unexpectedly passed from a terrible accident and it has been hard. She was a single mother and an inspiration , she was a mother to so many people to ones who had a strained relationship with their own or they didn’t have a mom earthside anymore. Like you and your mother.. I’ll just say I relate. My mother in law was a mother to me too. I hate she won’t get to meet any potential babies from me and my husband but she was a wonderful memaw to her 6 grandkids.
We lost my Mamaw in September and still getting over that
Lost a very sweet senior cat in November he had adopted us on the first posthumous birthday of my sweet cat Angel who had passed unexpectedly at the age of 3 in 2020
So can relate and so sorry for your loss.. it is hard but we do carry their memory and love with us until we meet again
I feel for you deeply 🤍 its a complicated emotion, i lost my father in law this past September to cancer and had my first son that November 2022.
He taught me what a real father figure looks like and loved me like a daughter. We’ll never fully understand why they where taken when we felt like we needed them most 💔
And Its hard to grieve when you know your partner also lost one of there parents.
I’m so sorry to hear. Loss is so hard. I lost my sister 4 years ago due to a chronic illness. The grief is still here so let it come and realize it comes in waves. Ryan is lucky to have you by his side during this tough time.
Kalyn, I am crying with you. I am so sorry for yours and Ryan’s loss.
No one can take her place in y’all’s life. I can’t imagine not having my own mother to walk me through my journey of motherhood. How beautiful is it that she got to walk along side you although it was sadly for a short time. Sending you an enormous amount of love and healing. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. I lost my aunt unexpectedly, who I used to see as my mom. Grief is extremely hard, we just have to learn how to navigate life without them & honor what that they taught us. Sending you love & light, been here since the beginning & you've grown so much. Thank you again.
I‘m so sorry for your loss 🤍 i’m sending you love and light ✨
I don't know if you'll see this but I hope you do. I'm thanking you from the bottom of my heart for sharing. Because cit sounds like you have some hesitation. And that your wondering if your helping any one. But today you helped me. I lost some one close to me a few years back. And I haven't seen loss put in to this kind of wording before. It reminds me that we all go through it. And my advice is to not apologize for your time away. To take as much time as you need. And to not share more than what you want to. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. 13:57
I also lost a relative in early 2023. I feel like this year has started out with a strong sense of collective grief for myself and a lot of friends and family of mine. At the same time, my saturn return is ending on Tuesday, so I'm excited to look back on the past couple years of transformation!
Kalyn, so lovely to see you & my heart aches for the loss your family is going through
Thank you for being so vulnerable. You have been a staple in my journey for 3 years know you ARE helping!!!
You did amazing. I’m so sorry for your loss. We are here for you and will always welcome you back with arms wide open. ❤
I’m sat here with tonsillitis wanting to feel your calm voice and hopes and I hear about Ryan’s mum and I’m so sorry hear about your loss absolutely heartbreaking. My condolences to you all hopefully this will help you a little whilst you through this difficult time sending all of the love to the moon and back 🧡😘 Lu xxx
You’re always so authentic and honest. I’m so sorry for your loss and glad you took the time you needed. 💙💙
Very sorry for your loss ❤ I’m sending you all the love of the world
13:57 hit me hard because feeling powerless is the worst possible feeling. I have really bad health anxiety. I try my hardest to eat healthy and work out, but I know at some point we all will face the end. Lately I've really been trying to use that knowledge for good, enjoying the small moments and telling those closest to me that I love them. It's a lot easier said than done and I still get panicky sometimes. But I've been following you since 2016 and your channel has always been a place of comfort. Even talking about these hard topics, you just have a comforting aura about you that I will always appreciate. Take whatever time you need, we will be waiting patiently❤
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. During times of grief it's important to take a step back, focus on your loved ones and spend time taking care of yourself also 💕
I'm sorry for everyones loss. I also unexpectedly just lost my dad a couple of weeks ago and it has been hard. I share the sadness of not being able to experience a lot of things, I thought I would still experience with him. I always thought he would be here when I eventually have children. But now he won't. At the same time I find a lot of comfort when thinking about the time we had together and the experiences we had.
Grieving takes time. Sadness comes and goes, as well as memories.
I am sorry for your loss Kaylin. A big hug to you and your family
I have been following and watching your videos for so long, you have inspired me in so many ways to keep going and try to make my dreams happen. The things I have in common with you are crazy in many ways, I lost my mom at 20 to cancer and went through all of high school dealing with her illness. I understand that motherly bond connection being missing in life and it's one of the most challenging thing to go through. I just try to look around and recognize all the special moments of motherly people that will come in and out of life and always cherish them. ❤ all my love to you and your family.. loss is hard on so many levels and the only way to truly understand it is going through it. But know that you are not alone and this community is still here collectively giving you a giant hug. 💗
It is perfectly ok to put yourself first. I am sorry about your loss and give yourself time, grace and space to grief. Love you your video's. One never really has all the answers. Its ok to be not ok-that is something that I have learned this year. Sending Hugs and love your way.
Sending you the biggest virtual hug I possibly can! 🤍 thank you for sharing such a vulnerable chat with us. Hope your hearts heal soon ✨️
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending lots strength and love to you and your family 🤍🤍🤍
You are not alone, she is guiding you through the other side❤ much love and support to you and your family❤
I'm just drinking water. Gotta stay hydrated. You are so open about things and it really helps other people as well. Grief isn't something that you can rush. It lasts at different intervals for everyone. When someone leaves this world that we've been connected to it impacts us. After so many things happen in a year or months, it changes things. Changes are scary. So is uncertainty. Navigating what can and can't be shared is completely up to an individual. There's no need to feel obligated to share situations or details that you don't want to share, or don't feel comfortable sharing.
I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss 💜 I’m glad for you that you could take that time to be present and process too
I appreciate you take your time and came back whenever you feel like it ♥️ so sorry for your loss
This is so raw and that exactly why I've been here since day dot. You are an incredible human being and should be proud of all the milestones you have accomplished! Sending all the love and hugs!❤️
You are such a beautiful soul! Hugs through this process for your family❤
I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you and Ryan are taking care of yourselves. I just lost my oldest sister 5 weeks ago, she was only 32 and it has been really hard for everyone in my family. You just have to take it one decision/step at a time.
It was so nice to see you show up on my feed Kalyn; I've missed your wisdom. I had a loss recently as well and this was so comforting to hear your take on losing a loved one from your perspective!
Kalyn I’m so sorry for the loss of Ryan’s mom. It sounds like she was such a wonderful person.
I am seriously in awe of your strength. You are such an inspiration and such a positive light in this world 🫶
Also I laughed waaaaay too hard at the nanny Carrie comment 😂😂
My heart goes out to you Kalyn. ❤ sending love and healing to your and your beautiful family.
I just lost my dog this week after finding out he had internal bleeding from a 4 inch tumor on his kidney. I’ve learned that the quote “grief is just love with no place to go” is so accurate. My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope that you all find peace and remember the beautiful times that you had. You are not alone!
LONG time listener here. You have always been someone I enjoy watching, look up to and learn from. Thank you for being you 🤍 I am so sorry for your loss and will be praying for you and Ryan.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is a mofo. Good that you're taking time. Keep doing that. I'm getting over the flu at the moment and feeling overwhelmed with being behind. Thanks for putting things into perspective ❤️
The beauty of your love and strength is so inspiring. Sending light to you all.
Aww this made me cry! I experienced this with my Father-In-law who passed away going on 6 years ago now and I had a one year old. Watching them go through cancer and deteriorating and not being able to do anything except be their for them. I feel for you
I lost my aunt, cousin, mother and grandmother all in a year last year. I understand the need to be in your feels and grieve in the way that fits you.
So sorry for your loss. We all love you and are here for you.
So great to see YOU again, just being you :) because that's why we are here ❤
Sending you a lot of good vibes ☺️
Thank you so much for this honest talk, Kalyn. I have watched your content ever since my senior year of high school and you have helped me to navigate through many rough times and even helped me get into therapy to work on my ptsd, autism, adhd and bipolar disorder. I would never have had the guts to see my (then OCD and panic disorder) as worthy of treatment if I hadn’t see you do it. Besides that, when my mom died almost 2 years ago, your content was the only thing that helped me through the day. I was rewatching your videos and somehow got the strength to be on my own. You have helped me (and probably others) tremendously and I want to thank you for it. I wish you all the strength to get through your loss.
I'm really new to your channel but wanted to say I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm not close to my mother either, and some of the feelings you expressed in relation to your loss really resonated as I'm sure they will for many others. Look after yourself and sending lots of love x
So good to see you back Kalyn🌻
when you said you’re in awe of what you’re about to withstand now, i felt that. motherhood changes you in ways you can’t even fathom until you enter it. i’ve had to let go of routines and everything being tidy and embrace the constant change and mess. it can be hard. please try and be kind and gentle to yourself, you are loved ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss 😔 I can only imagine how tough it must be 😭
Kalyn, I am deeply sorry for your loss. I’ll be keeping you, Ryan, and his family in my prayers. I unexpectedly lost my mom last year and to say my world is upside down would be an understatement.
And I’m seeing so many comments of others grieving, I’m so sorry to you as well for whoever you lost. Keep your loved ones in your heart. Talk about them. Say their name. Keep them alive in you 💜
Kalyn, you are incredible. Sending love from Australia. Wishing your family grace during this hard time. It's beautiful hearing how grateful you are for the time you had with her.
I am so sorry for your loss girl… I lost my dad unexpectedly when my daughter was 1, I love overseas from my family but I am so glad I got to travel back home and bringing my baby girl to meet him…I’ll forever cherish that time. I could relate so much! Sending lots of love your way! ❤
❤all my love. Thank you for being open and I always feel like you’re a bigger sister. Support you as always
I'm so sorry for you & your families loss. ❤
I lost my friend and coworker this year on 2/8 and before I could even fully process his passing my grandmother also passed a couple of days later on 02/20; I had to mentally check myself out for a couple of days to find firm ground when everything was crumbling around me. My condolences go to you and your family; sending lots of love and peace, now more than ever I understand your pain of losing people you love.
Sending you lots of love and support. Your evolution since I started watching your channel back in 2016 is so inspiring. I am just so glad to count you amongst my biggest inspirations. Another round of love and support your way, take care 💛
Sending you and your family love during this difficult time. ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss
I’m gonna be honest, when you talk about the things you go through it has always helped me when I was going though the same things. I’ve been a long time viewer of yours and have loved your personality and your values that you hold. I have learned a lot from you these several years and I couldn’t be more grateful for you.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ thinking of you all xxx much love always
Sending so much love from one mother to another🤍
Thank you sooo much for speaking on this, I’m going throught a similar thing with my mom in law fighting against a very bad cancer and you have no idea how much you’re video felt heavenly sent 🫶🏼😔 sorry for your loss