I don't know why but oral health seems to be the first thing that suffers when your mental health does. I know me and one of my friends struggled to brush our teeth when we went through depression (separate times)
Mine helped me during one of my mental health issues. I had panic attacks from food and anything near my mouth that could suffocate me, he was so understandable and even after 2 years he still asks if I’m okay with the stuff they do. :) Couldn’t wish for a better one. Sadly due to my problems we couldn’t/can’t use rubber bands to correct the teeth in the back but honestly I don’t care, most of my teeth are straight now.
The understanding in his voice made me tear up. Personally, I've never worn a retainer, so I didn't have to go through anything like this but the downright acknowledgement hit
@left nut what the hell is your problem you probably are so insecure about yourself so you make others feel like shit so you feel “better” about your sad life. Shut up
@@Joe-gw9wh Fr tho, I have a retainer now that’s basically like an Invisalign and braces were SO MUCH easier. I feel like the only downsides were having to take more time to brush your teeth or soreness after they get tightened
My orthodontist didn't care when the bottom retainer was made wrong from the beginning. He just kept telling me to make it fit. My mom wasn't with me for this fitting and he rushed me in and out so fast, he didn't even have me sit in a chair. 3 weeks later, my bottom teeth were getting out of line and he accused me of not wearing my retainer. Meanwhile, my mom had been calling almost every day about this retainer making my teeth crooked and it took them 3 weeks to get me in. My mom vouched for me that I wore both of them despite the bottom one not fitting until it finally fit, after making my teeth crooked. I came in with both retainers in and showed how easily I put them on. He snatched the bottom retainer from me, still blamed me, and said he would have to have the lab remake it. When mom and I both said "thank you" in a relieved voice, he responded with "well, I shouldn't have to do this. If you had done everything correctly from the beginning, you wouldn't have messed up your retainer." My mom and I were both just stunned but of course my smart ass said "well if you would've done what you were supposed to do then the retainer wouldn't have messed up my teeth" He began to argue with me, my mom won that argument. They never called back with the new retainer. My teeth started to hurt after 2 weeks because they were moving. My mom called his office non stop. Finally, after a month, she had to get me invisaline to fix my teeth... and sent him the bill. Later, we found out why he was such an asshole. My astranged dad was behind on payments. They never brought this up to me, my mom, no one. So he ruined 4 years of work because my deadbeat dad was $300 behind on payments and instead of telling my mom, he decided to take it out on a 14 year old. Yes.. he paid the invisaline bill. Moral of the story, retainers are very important and even adults can be dicks.
Damn I hope you are doing alright now. I know all to well how adults can be dicks too 🤦🏽♀️. I have had terrible experiences with adults throughout my whole childhood+teenhood. I’m glad he paid the invisiline bill although I’m sure that wouldn’t have been an easy battle.
As a mom and caring person in general, this pissed me OFF. What an asshole. I'm glad your mom had your back and that you are good now. Screw him. He should lose his dental license. No one deserves that level of petty.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that but I'm just imagining this grown ass adult being petty and then deciding to take it out on his own child's dental care...? Next level clownery right there. Hope you're doing well now boo!
I feel so bad for not brushing my teeth due to my lack of energy and my dentist always would say “taking care of your health will make you feel ten times better.” When I couldn’t physically get out of bed. Hearing that some dentists/orthodontists care makes me want to look for a good dentist like you.
Honestly that's me I can go a few days without brushing my teeth because of my lack of energy and how tired but the soon I feel something off about them I brush the living crap out of them 😭
I’m glad to find ppl that have the same feeling I have. I thought it was disgusting of me to walk around nd not do it for a few days but I’ve been so drained out , sad, lost . I just skip my hygiene routine nd think about irrelevant things that maybe don’t need to be thought about
its not really the same though, not brushing your teeth can lead to so many problems. not wearing a retainer for a while wont be detrimental to your health in most situations.
My dentist has a health form to review every checkup and there's a section that mentions mental health. I checked off "depression" and she asks how I'm doing knowing that during an episode dental hygiene isn't always a priority.
How do i find a dentist like you 😭 my dad never made me brush my teeth as a kid and as an adult with ADHD i find it extremely difficult to get into the habit, and because of my anxiety I'm deathly terrified of dentists because of the possible judgement 🥺 every time i even think about calling to set an appointment i burst into tears
i have the same issue, it took me so long to get into a routine of brushing my teeth and i’m still not perfect, i always set a reminder on my phone every night and even put post it notes on my mirror telling me to put my retainer in. stick to a routine, and carry on the search for a dentist you will find the perfect one that matches you in the end! well done for trying 💓💓
Random as fuck. But worth mentioning, cause I have seen it works for a lot of friends of mine. If you have a game task that you do daily, link that up to brushing. Or, for many if can be even better, favorite youtuber or tiktoker that posts daily'ish, and can keep you "company" when you brush.
I also have ADHD and the habit never sticked to brush twice a day. So now I try to at least brush my teeth before bed now but I went a while only doing it once a month. I first moved to fluoride mouthwash every day and then brushing once a day with occasional mouthwash. I do need to go to the dentist but haven’t had the time or mental ability to do it yet. I have a feeling that I have a cavity that needs taken care of but I do not like the pressure and sound of the dentist.
Fellow ADHDer here! I have the same problem! I just put my toothbrush on my sink (in an easily visible spot) and when i go to the bathroom before I remember to brush my teeth and wash my face! I still struggle to do it every night but I do it at least 5 times a week which is better than nothing! My toothbrush also connects to an app on my phone so it will remind me at a certain time each night and you can play games while brushing to ensure proper coverage!
I literally apologized to my dentist a few weeks ago because I knew my teeth weren’t the greatest because I’ve been really depressed lately and it’s hard for me to get up and brush and floss my teeth every single day and she actually said to me “a lot of people have a hard time getting up everyday but you should be able to at least take care of your teeth better” I started tearing up because I already beat myself up everyday for the things I can’t do better and she just looked over gave me a little “tsk” and handed me a tissue. I don’t even really get out of bed to eat everyday and it just really hurt me and I can’t stop thinking about what she said. Not all dentists care about their patients.
Can you possibly get another dentist? She sounds like an real inconsiderate uncaring bitch! I know I should take my own advice when I say this, but please try not to be to hard on yourself. . People just do not get it or even care to try, but I feel you I understand. I have found that people with depression or other disorders and such are the most beautiful people with the most beautiful hearts even when others call us crazy or other horrible things people are so wrong and so ignorant.. I have kids and I push myself to get out of bed to work for them. I have to, in my head i have no other choice. Someone has to take care of them if I don't than who will? if it was not for them I would let myself just sleep and sleep hoping and waiting to just die. Funny thing is because I am able push myself to get up even when I am struggling so badly they say I am too functional for any help or tharapy. as I sit and die inside and torture myself constantly in my head in my dreams etc. I have depression anxiety and PTSD,, but I digress this is about you not me I'm so sorry about my tangent.. I have had this inside and guess I really needed to get it out back to you though, you are an amazing and beautiful person. you are a good person worthy of love and respect. You are wonderful and you are needed and wanted in this world . You are perfectly perfect as you are. You are not the fucked up one that dentist is .. a big hug and love sent your way.
i know how you feel,i beat myself up because sometimes i don’t do proper care of myself and a lot of people at my school point it out. i haven’t been to the dentist in about 3 years and i try to atleast brush but don’t listen to her like it’s okay to not want to do anything because again making sure your okay and well is more important. sending lots of love
@Miranda Brue As someone in the medical field, she should know better...since most people who aren't even in the field acknowledge that mental health can be the biggest health issue since it impacts every single thing we do and if you're someone with an anxiety or depressive issue the self blaming is a major thing about the smallest stuff even like why am i doing this this way and not another and then at the smallest bump in the road its very hard to realize all that we have accomplished until then and instead we see one big failure...so yeah please acknowledge that youve accomplished a whole lot and that teeth hygiene was probably far on the list of priorities since it's usually : 1. wake up 2. stay up and not ignore basic human needs 3. try to do something, anything and the smallest action takes the biggest effort. So yeah...you're not alone. Keep it up. And trust me...hygiene is important but not the biggest issue when you feel like life is too hard, you're allowed to not care about that sometimes. :) Wish you the best
For a year and a half I self harmed during high school but I always took care of my teeth. As someone who has experienced my fair share of mental troubles I don’t understand how it is so hard to take care of your teeth. Even when I was at my lowest I remembered that my parents had spent a lot of money to get my teeth to where they are now, brushing your teeth is the least you can do stop making up excuses depression doesn’t hinder you from taking 2 minutes of your day to help yourself smh.
@@slowcookedrice2775 I think self harming is different than depression, and I didn’t have a rich family to fix my teeth. I left my bed maybe once or twice a day and showered once every few weeks but at the time it was the best effort I had, you don’t know what depression is like for different people so stfu. I don’t know why I’m wasting my time explaining anything to a rude person like you but your ignorance was unnecessary and pitiful.
This made me sad :/ I remember being like that. I wouldn’t brush my teeth. I could barely shower. Just stepping outside felt like walking through molasses. It gets better.
I’ve always had bad experiences with dental stuff in general because I’ve always found they don’t take the time to ask WHY you’re not taking care of your teeth and all that. I still think hygienists and dentists should have to take some sort of mental health related classes to understand people genuinely are trying to keep their head above water. Thank you for this ❤
I had an extreme depressive episode about a year ago and my dentist said if I can’t brush or care for my teeth to at least keep those travel tooth brush things next to my bed and chew on it if I can’t get up to brush my teeth. I’m always grateful when my dentist is understanding about that stuff
I've lost 2 molars and may loose a front tooth because of a severe depressive disorder. My ortho pretty much made fun of me for it and said "well you walk by the bathroom sink everyday how do you just not brush?" Which only makes me want to avoid the dentist more..
But it's like no cap how dentists and orthodontists care about your mental health. I was severely depressed for 2 years and stopped taking care of myself, including brushing my teeth, and they were rotting, chipped and just horrible. I was so embarrassed but they were all so nice to me and never made me feel bad for the condition of my teeth.
I’ve heard so many conflicting statements about this. Some people say not to wear it after a few months because it’ll damage your teeth or it will be useless as it doesn’t shift teeth back in to place.
My ortho didn’t care about my mental health. He also didn’t care that one of my teeth was misaligned from the beginning after my braces were taken out (like a tiny tiny amount that doesn’t effect my eating). Thankfully I managed to get the tooth to move for the last checkup (even after reshaping them using a hot shower by accident) and since my teeth were otherwise fine they ended my treatment
They harassed the hell out of me for not wearing my rubber bands while I was sick and depressed. Told me it takes seconds and depression shouldn't interfere.
the care you have for patients mental health is amazing. wish my previous dentists were like you. going to one who was nice to me before out of insurance, cause my last dentist fucked me up-
It is tough sometimes to do these things. I have bipolar disorder bad, I have gone through it bad. To anyone going thru it now, especially young people: 1) it will get better even if it feels impossible. 10 years ago I was a lonely homeless addict. Now I have 2 degrees, live on the other side of the earth and have a loving partner. Life is good. Don't underestimate the power of time and don't underestimate yourself. 2) if you can, pick like one or two very small tasks like eating something nutritional or brushing you teeth once a day or every other day. I know it's easier said than done but please trust me that the tiniest acts of self-service matter and can help you begin to heal. Now... Don't beat yourself up if you fail to complete a daily goal - shit happens. Just don't let it get in the way of tomorrow either. It's never too late to start. You got this.
I lost my job of 6 and a half years this summer, in a pretty dark spot for a while and barely wore my elastics after that, my orthodontist was super understanding though and we are back on track.
Thank you for talking about this. I have dermatitis and recently have gone to a new dermatologist to try to follow up my treatment, after a year of severe anxiety crises left me not being able to remember to follow through with the treatment at home I’m finally feeling better 💕 thanks to a doctor who saw beyond her own specialty
as a college student who’s taking 5 classes and helps take care of her 5 younger siblings, this means a lot. I go through periods of stress when I just stop taking care of myself because there’s more important things at hand. thank you for your transparency with us
I'm trying to get back to feeling like myself again and one of the first things I thought was "when was the last time I wore my retainer?!" Probably the last time I used whitening strips, because my retainer is my hack to keep them in place. Fingers crossed. I feel better knowing I'm not alone. If you think 15+ years after braces you don't need the retainer, trust me, you do. I know from experience that it isn't necessary every night but try not to go too long without checking the fit if you can. Mental health is always #1 but if you happen to glance at them, give the retainer a "might as well" try. We got this 💪
I just want to say thank you for this information. I got scared my teeth wouldn’t shift back because of what I read online but after wearing my retainer very diligently again. My teeth are straight and look beautful. Thanks❤
I just got my new retainers after this exact thing happening. I was so so anxious that I kept putting off making an appointment for months thinking that my Ortho may be upset with me but when I finally saw them they were understanding and just did a new scan to make new ones. This video means a lot
This video has reassured me. Haven’t worn mine for 2 months almost because my mental health has been low. Just started wearing them again the other day. Painful, yet glad to know they should be back to normal soon
I wish my orthodontist cared that much, I literally went to two funerals that week and I was super stressed out cuz my dog just died and they said that there was no excuse and I was stupid, no joke!
This is literally what has happened to me this year. THANK YOU so much for making this video. I am still too embarrassed to go to my dentist and explain what’s been happening but this makes it feel like it might be okay after all.
My dentist literally said if I don't have energy to brush my teeth, it's okay to chew chewing gum to make myself FEEL like I'm doing something. She also said she doesn't even brush hers twice a day and she's helped me get better
You care, not all dentists care. I have to threaten my dentist to not hurt me because he doesn’t understand tmj pain. Like seriously, feels like my jaw muscles are ripping in half/I’m breaking my jaw. I can’t hold it open longer than 1 minute, and it’s really sad to see my dentist and his assistant fight on me with it forcing me to open my mouth or threaten that they won’t work on my teeth. Both told me “well if you won’t open your mouth we can’t get work done and if that’s the case you need to leave” like the hell im the one paying you guys, so I said “I already told you guys I can’t hold it longer than a minute, what do you expect from me” they literally told me “to keep it open” I ended up threatening them and saying “if I do what you want my fucking jaw will be locked for weeks straight and I won’t be able to eat, I already have a eating disorder and if I lose anymore weight I’ll be hospitalized, I swear to god I will sue the shit out of you for not giving a fuck about my health at the end of the day” he shut the fuck up immediately and actually worked with my issue. A month later finally was able to get to my tmj appt and get a mouth guard. I know good dentists are out there but god damn all of mine are horrible.
Why not just wait until the tmj appointment then go to the dentist smh. Like I get it but I wouldn’t even tread in a dentist with a jaw issue like that it’s hard enough going at times when your mouth is ok…
Just wondering as someone who wears retainers, when you say wear them full time for two weeks, does that include while you eat drink etc? Or take them out to eat and put back in? Thanks!!
So you would have to take them out when you eat and drink, brush your teeth and put them back in 😅 I never do that though aha I just wear mine at night even tho I’m suppose to wear them 24 hours
@@nanaosa thank you for the clarification, honestly that’s so long tho I eat so much during the day with snacks in between imagine having to take them out brush and put them back in🥲 I usually wear them when I sleep too, but sometimes I genuinely forget
Oh I feel you there. The minimum you’re supposed to wear it full time is ~20 hours. So I try to split my free time into 2 sections that are 2 hours each. So I can eat a proper meal and then snack for the next hour.
My uncle is my dentist. I had multiple cavities and he ask if I was depressed which I was at the time why I wasn’t flossing my teeth but I lied to him I felt weird and awkward
Thank you. I did Invisalign as an adult and just found out I'll need to wear my retainers most of the time forever 😪. If I skip a day, I have to wear it all the time going forward. The cosmetic repairs I needed could have been done without straightening but I got pushed into ortho and now I'm in forever.
Going through a depressive episode with braces sucks, one time i went a whole week without brushing my teeth and it was sooo and when I finally did. But my dentist was so understanding and didn't shame me, he said he sees it a lot with his patients
I’m currently undergoing this process after stopping my meds for a month. I’m doing it one half at a time though. To make it easier on myself. I started with my top ones because they’re a bigger priority. They’re also the more painful ones based on when I had my retainers in the first time. But I’m sure my bottom teeth can afford to wait an extra week.
My ortho doesn’t give a frick AHAH about my mental health or that my night time retainer gives me nausea and doesn’t allow my tongue to have enough room in my mouth and doesn’t allow me to sleep.... when I already have sleep issues due to mental health issues. Thanks Demarco and Tinkin.
THANK YOU!! I was going through a rough time and my dentist did nothing for me when I didn’t wear my Invisalign for a few wks. I was on my 2nd to last set too. 😢
Shoutout to my fellow depression-sufferers: Even though it might feel like your friends might never understand, reach out and ask for help. If you are important to them, they will try to be there for you. I didn't reach out for a long time until my therapist urged me, to, and my buddy just went "Why the hell didn't you message me earlier?", when I asked him if he had time. And well, if they don't listen to you or at least try to understand, go ahead and cut them out of your life, because you are royalty and don't need that kind of negativity in your life.
this! years ago when i was still in the military i had to go in and get my teeth checked and the guy said my teeth weren't looking too good. I flat out said "i have severe depression and i've been having a hard time caring of myself lately" he just scoffed and rolled his eyes... i was in complete disbelief. I have no idea how some people can be so insensitive.
Then there’s my mom who cares more about me having straight teeth. Like ma’am-? I’m your kid and you’re worried about my teeth more than me wanting to be happy and not like I wanna die everyday??
Thank you. I’m sick of having to shame myself saying things like “yeah, I just lost it and then decided to be lazy and not wear it.” Truth - I was unable to function for weeks and didn’t want my teeth to rot the few times I ate b/c I was encasing them in plastic without not brushing them
thank you for this. many don’t understand the importance of mental health and how much of a toll it has on us
very inappropriate considering the video but…
why does hobi only have one sprite can left :(
I don't know why but oral health seems to be the first thing that suffers when your mental health does. I know me and one of my friends struggled to brush our teeth when we went through depression (separate times)
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he be drinking it all :(
There is such a stigma with mental illness, so let’s break that now. We ALL struggle, so give each other and yourself grace. You are never alone! ❤️
Hay braces guy imma get new colors on Friday can you show some colors for fall or anything, please
I’m glad that orthodontists care about peoples mental health. Some people just hide it.
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Just be honest with your orthodontist if you’re struggling. They are here to help, I promise!
Thanks for understanding! A lot of people don't.
Yeah, a lot of people don’t talk about it with people and it gradually gets worse. Talk about it with people you trust!
I mean I'd rather not tell and have a pissed off orthodontist because regardless if I go to a psych ward or not their gonna be pissed off at me
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Mine helped me during one of my mental health issues. I had panic attacks from food and anything near my mouth that could suffocate me, he was so understandable and even after 2 years he still asks if I’m okay with the stuff they do. :) Couldn’t wish for a better one. Sadly due to my problems we couldn’t/can’t use rubber bands to correct the teeth in the back but honestly I don’t care, most of my teeth are straight now.
The understanding in his voice made me tear up. Personally, I've never worn a retainer, so I didn't have to go through anything like this but the downright acknowledgement hit
@left nut you’re not funny 💀
@left nut Bro... you hurt my feelings...
@left nut what the hell is your problem you probably are so insecure about yourself so you make others feel like shit so you feel “better” about your sad life. Shut up
I’m really struggling with Invisalign rn I just wish I got braces and didn’t even give myself the option
@@Joe-gw9wh Fr tho, I have a retainer now that’s basically like an Invisalign and braces were SO MUCH easier. I feel like the only downsides were having to take more time to brush your teeth or soreness after they get tightened
My orthodontist didn't care when the bottom retainer was made wrong from the beginning. He just kept telling me to make it fit. My mom wasn't with me for this fitting and he rushed me in and out so fast, he didn't even have me sit in a chair.
3 weeks later, my bottom teeth were getting out of line and he accused me of not wearing my retainer.
Meanwhile, my mom had been calling almost every day about this retainer making my teeth crooked and it took them 3 weeks to get me in.
My mom vouched for me that I wore both of them despite the bottom one not fitting until it finally fit, after making my teeth crooked.
I came in with both retainers in and showed how easily I put them on.
He snatched the bottom retainer from me, still blamed me, and said he would have to have the lab remake it. When mom and I both said "thank you" in a relieved voice, he responded with "well, I shouldn't have to do this. If you had done everything correctly from the beginning, you wouldn't have messed up your retainer." My mom and I were both just stunned but of course my smart ass said "well if you would've done what you were supposed to do then the retainer wouldn't have messed up my teeth"
He began to argue with me, my mom won that argument.
They never called back with the new retainer. My teeth started to hurt after 2 weeks because they were moving. My mom called his office non stop. Finally, after a month, she had to get me invisaline to fix my teeth... and sent him the bill.
Later, we found out why he was such an asshole. My astranged dad was behind on payments. They never brought this up to me, my mom, no one. So he ruined 4 years of work because my deadbeat dad was $300 behind on payments and instead of telling my mom, he decided to take it out on a 14 year old.
Yes.. he paid the invisaline bill.
Moral of the story, retainers are very important and even adults can be dicks.
Damn I hope you are doing alright now. I know all to well how adults can be dicks too 🤦🏽♀️. I have had terrible experiences with adults throughout my whole childhood+teenhood.
I’m glad he paid the invisiline bill although I’m sure that wouldn’t have been an easy battle.
As a mom and caring person in general, this pissed me OFF. What an asshole. I'm glad your mom had your back and that you are good now. Screw him. He should lose his dental license. No one deserves that level of petty.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that but I'm just imagining this grown ass adult being petty and then deciding to take it out on his own child's dental care...? Next level clownery right there.
Hope you're doing well now boo!
You could have gone to another dentist from the beginning
that was pretty wordy
I feel so bad for not brushing my teeth due to my lack of energy and my dentist always would say “taking care of your health will make you feel ten times better.” When I couldn’t physically get out of bed. Hearing that some dentists/orthodontists care makes me want to look for a good dentist like you.
Honestly that's me I can go a few days without brushing my teeth because of my lack of energy and how tired but the soon I feel something off about them I brush the living crap out of them 😭
I’m glad to find ppl that have the same feeling I have. I thought it was disgusting of me to walk around nd not do it for a few days but I’ve been so drained out , sad, lost . I just skip my hygiene routine nd think about irrelevant things that maybe don’t need to be thought about
its not really the same though, not brushing your teeth can lead to so many problems. not wearing a retainer for a while wont be detrimental to your health in most situations.
Maybe you have CFS ?
Keep toothpicks or listerine or disposable toothbrushes by your bed! Be kind to yourself ❤
She did the right thing!! 👍🏼 End of the video gives more instructions on what to do!
If only my orthodontist was like you omg you’re the kindest human being!
My is my uncle and I wouldn’t be as open to him since he family
I mean... he's literally doing the bare minimum
@@_.-._.-. that’s rare nowadays
I mean he's on camera he isn't going to say anything that would make him seem bad, he's probably genuine but social media is full of facades
My dentist has a health form to review every checkup and there's a section that mentions mental health. I checked off "depression" and she asks how I'm doing knowing that during an episode dental hygiene isn't always a priority.
How do i find a dentist like you 😭 my dad never made me brush my teeth as a kid and as an adult with ADHD i find it extremely difficult to get into the habit, and because of my anxiety I'm deathly terrified of dentists because of the possible judgement 🥺 every time i even think about calling to set an appointment i burst into tears
i have the same issue, it took me so long to get into a routine of brushing my teeth and i’m still not perfect, i always set a reminder on my phone every night and even put post it notes on my mirror telling me to put my retainer in. stick to a routine, and carry on the search for a dentist you will find the perfect one that matches you in the end! well done for trying 💓💓
Random as fuck. But worth mentioning, cause I have seen it works for a lot of friends of mine. If you have a game task that you do daily, link that up to brushing. Or, for many if can be even better, favorite youtuber or tiktoker that posts daily'ish, and can keep you "company" when you brush.
I also have ADHD and the habit never sticked to brush twice a day. So now I try to at least brush my teeth before bed now but I went a while only doing it once a month. I first moved to fluoride mouthwash every day and then brushing once a day with occasional mouthwash. I do need to go to the dentist but haven’t had the time or mental ability to do it yet. I have a feeling that I have a cavity that needs taken care of but I do not like the pressure and sound of the dentist.
Fellow ADHDer here! I have the same problem! I just put my toothbrush on my sink (in an easily visible spot) and when i go to the bathroom before I remember to brush my teeth and wash my face! I still struggle to do it every night but I do it at least 5 times a week which is better than nothing! My toothbrush also connects to an app on my phone so it will remind me at a certain time each night and you can play games while brushing to ensure proper coverage!
I literally apologized to my dentist a few weeks ago because I knew my teeth weren’t the greatest because I’ve been really depressed lately and it’s hard for me to get up and brush and floss my teeth every single day and she actually said to me “a lot of people have a hard time getting up everyday but you should be able to at least take care of your teeth better” I started tearing up because I already beat myself up everyday for the things I can’t do better and she just looked over gave me a little “tsk” and handed me a tissue. I don’t even really get out of bed to eat everyday and it just really hurt me and I can’t stop thinking about what she said. Not all dentists care about their patients.
Can you possibly get another dentist? She sounds like an real inconsiderate uncaring bitch! I know I should take my own advice when I say this, but please try not to be to hard on yourself. . People just do not get it or even care to try, but I feel you I understand. I have found that people with depression or other disorders and such are the most beautiful people with the most beautiful hearts even when others call us crazy or other horrible things people are so wrong and so ignorant.. I have kids and I push myself to get out of bed to work for them. I have to, in my head i have no other choice. Someone has to take care of them if I don't than who will? if it was not for them I would let myself just sleep and sleep hoping and waiting to just die. Funny thing is because I am able push myself to get up even when I am struggling so badly they say I am too functional for any help or tharapy. as I sit and die inside and torture myself constantly in my head in my dreams etc. I have depression anxiety and PTSD,, but I digress this is about you not me I'm so sorry about my tangent.. I have had this inside and guess I really needed to get it out back to you though, you are an amazing and beautiful person. you are a good person worthy of love and respect. You are wonderful and you are needed and wanted in this world . You are perfectly perfect as you are. You are not the fucked up one that dentist is .. a big hug and love sent your way.
i know how you feel,i beat myself up because sometimes i don’t do proper care of myself and a lot of people at my school point it out. i haven’t been to the dentist in about 3 years and i try to atleast brush but don’t listen to her like it’s okay to not want to do anything because again making sure your okay and well is more important. sending lots of love
@Miranda Brue
As someone in the medical field, she should know better...since most people who aren't even in the field acknowledge that mental health can be the biggest health issue since it impacts every single thing we do and if you're someone with an anxiety or depressive issue the self blaming is a major thing about the smallest stuff even like why am i doing this this way and not another and then at the smallest bump in the road its very hard to realize all that we have accomplished until then and instead we see one big failure...so yeah please acknowledge that youve accomplished a whole lot and that teeth hygiene was probably far on the list of priorities since it's usually : 1. wake up 2. stay up and not ignore basic human needs 3. try to do something, anything and the smallest action takes the biggest effort. So yeah...you're not alone. Keep it up. And trust me...hygiene is important but not the biggest issue when you feel like life is too hard, you're allowed to not care about that sometimes. :) Wish you the best
For a year and a half I self harmed during high school but I always took care of my teeth. As someone who has experienced my fair share of mental troubles I don’t understand how it is so hard to take care of your teeth. Even when I was at my lowest I remembered that my parents had spent a lot of money to get my teeth to where they are now, brushing your teeth is the least you can do stop making up excuses depression doesn’t hinder you from taking 2 minutes of your day to help yourself smh.
@@slowcookedrice2775 I think self harming is different than depression, and I didn’t have a rich family to fix my teeth. I left my bed maybe once or twice a day and showered once every few weeks but at the time it was the best effort I had, you don’t know what depression is like for different people so stfu. I don’t know why I’m wasting my time explaining anything to a rude person like you but your ignorance was unnecessary and pitiful.
Thank you. I love that kids these days are growing up with support we didn't have. This is so incredibly important.
this guy always makes me smile
I had a dentist roll her eyes and sigh when I told her that I hadn't taken care of myself because of my mental health
That sound when she bites the paper towel gives me goosebumps ..
I was looking for other comments like this 😭 like this video is exactly what I needed to see but omg I’m getting chills😭💔
the amount of safeness and comfort from this. ❤️
This made me sad :/ I remember being like that. I wouldn’t brush my teeth. I could barely shower. Just stepping outside felt like walking through molasses. It gets better.
Woah. As someone who deals with depression the “walking through molasses” description just blew my mind. That is so accurate!!
Same :(
The song💀😭
Nahhh the audio made this funny 💀
There is so much care and understanding in his voice at the beginning... ❤❤
I’ve always had bad experiences with dental stuff in general because I’ve always found they don’t take the time to ask WHY you’re not taking care of your teeth and all that. I still think hygienists and dentists should have to take some sort of mental health related classes to understand people genuinely are trying to keep their head above water.
Thank you for this ❤
My dentist literally yelled at me I front of everyone because I was so depressed I couldn't even brush my teeth and my grandma just sided with him 😩✋
I was waiting for the PUHHHHHHHHH but it’s the wrong guy
I had an extreme depressive episode about a year ago and my dentist said if I can’t brush or care for my teeth to at least keep those travel tooth brush things next to my bed and chew on it if I can’t get up to brush my teeth. I’m always grateful when my dentist is understanding about that stuff
I've lost 2 molars and may loose a front tooth because of a severe depressive disorder. My ortho pretty much made fun of me for it and said "well you walk by the bathroom sink everyday how do you just not brush?" Which only makes me want to avoid the dentist more..
But it's like no cap how dentists and orthodontists care about your mental health. I was severely depressed for 2 years and stopped taking care of myself, including brushing my teeth, and they were rotting, chipped and just horrible. I was so embarrassed but they were all so nice to me and never made me feel bad for the condition of my teeth.
My dentist only cared about my teeth and shamed me for not brushing my teeth. When I felt like life was not worth living I told him that.
You are the best thank you so much! Would love to see tips for dental hygiene on rough days
Pffffff tell my dentist this. She calls mental health an "excuse to not take care of yourself"..... 🤣
I’ve heard so many conflicting statements about this. Some people say not to wear it after a few months because it’ll damage your teeth or it will be useless as it doesn’t shift teeth back in to place.
He literally had such a wonderful reaction to this. No judgement, no irritation, just pure understanding💗💗
Thank you so much for this!!
I love how he is so calm and understandings
Fuck… 😢 finally someone who understands
Depression makes everything more difficult to do that include hygiene and self care but a lot of people don’t talk about it bc it’s gross
My ortho didn’t care about my mental health. He also didn’t care that one of my teeth was misaligned from the beginning after my braces were taken out (like a tiny tiny amount that doesn’t effect my eating). Thankfully I managed to get the tooth to move for the last checkup (even after reshaping them using a hot shower by accident) and since my teeth were otherwise fine they ended my treatment
I…wasn’t expecting the reaction to be so understanding. Thank you
aw thats so kind, i dont have braces or retainers but thank you for caring
Been there. Popped a couple IB Profin, bit down hard and fast, and screamed lol
Then I only ate soft foods for 3 days 🥴
this made my heart warm up. knowing you care more about mental health then anything else during that time
I pray she feels better
They harassed the hell out of me for not wearing my rubber bands while I was sick and depressed. Told me it takes seconds and depression shouldn't interfere.
lmao it's true your depression is just an excuse
Wow! This is so beautiful to hear such understanding & sensitivity towards people struggling with mental health! So beautiful! Thank you! ♥️
i have no words to explain how caring and awesome this orthodontist is.
the care you have for patients mental health is amazing. wish my previous dentists were like you. going to one who was nice to me before out of insurance, cause my last dentist fucked me up-
It is tough sometimes to do these things. I have bipolar disorder bad, I have gone through it bad.
To anyone going thru it now, especially young people:
1) it will get better even if it feels impossible. 10 years ago I was a lonely homeless addict. Now I have 2 degrees, live on the other side of the earth and have a loving partner. Life is good. Don't underestimate the power of time and don't underestimate yourself.
2) if you can, pick like one or two very small tasks like eating something nutritional or brushing you teeth once a day or every other day. I know it's easier said than done but please trust me that the tiniest acts of self-service matter and can help you begin to heal. Now... Don't beat yourself up if you fail to complete a daily goal - shit happens. Just don't let it get in the way of tomorrow either. It's never too late to start. You got this.
I really needed this. Thank you so much for understanding the importance of mental health.❤
I lost my job of 6 and a half years this summer, in a pretty dark spot for a while and barely wore my elastics after that, my orthodontist was super understanding though and we are back on track.
Not me getting anxiety thinking the retainer won't come out
Thank you for talking about this.
I have dermatitis and recently have gone to a new dermatologist to try to follow up my treatment, after a year of severe anxiety crises left me not being able to remember to follow through with the treatment at home
I’m finally feeling better 💕 thanks to a doctor who saw beyond her own specialty
as a college student who’s taking 5 classes and helps take care of her 5 younger siblings, this means a lot. I go through periods of stress when I just stop taking care of myself because there’s more important things at hand. thank you for your transparency with us
Burst into tears when he said they care more about mental health
I'm trying to get back to feeling like myself again and one of the first things I thought was "when was the last time I wore my retainer?!" Probably the last time I used whitening strips, because my retainer is my hack to keep them in place. Fingers crossed. I feel better knowing I'm not alone.
If you think 15+ years after braces you don't need the retainer, trust me, you do. I know from experience that it isn't necessary every night but try not to go too long without checking the fit if you can. Mental health is always #1 but if you happen to glance at them, give the retainer a "might as well" try.
We got this 💪
That’s a great topic and a such a nice way to handle it and love thanks !
I didn't even know this. I wish I would have. Thank you for this info ! Very good for people currently having retainers
I just want to say thank you for this information. I got scared my teeth wouldn’t shift back because of what I read online but after wearing my retainer very diligently again. My teeth are straight and look beautful. Thanks❤
So much respect for you rn like thank you ❤
I just got my new retainers after this exact thing happening. I was so so anxious that I kept putting off making an appointment for months thinking that my Ortho may be upset with me but when I finally saw them they were understanding and just did a new scan to make new ones. This video means a lot
Thank you so much. I stress a lot about the impact my mental health has had on my teeth
Bro the original videos sound is so real 😭
This video has reassured me. Haven’t worn mine for 2 months almost because my mental health has been low. Just started wearing them again the other day. Painful, yet glad to know they should be back to normal soon
My orthodontist don’t give a fuck abt my mental health LIKE I WAS IN A LONG DEPRESSIVE EPISODE
I’m glad he understood ❤
I wish my orthodontist cared that much, I literally went to two funerals that week and I was super stressed out cuz my dog just died and they said that there was no excuse and I was stupid, no joke!
thank you so much! i came on here trying to figure out how to get my retainers back in because i havnt worn them in months and this helped alot
This is literally what has happened to me this year. THANK YOU so much for making this video. I am still too embarrassed to go to my dentist and explain what’s been happening but this makes it feel like it might be okay after all.
Thank you for your caring words ♥️ it means a lot to many people
Wish my dentist was this nice.
Thank you for this 🙏
i love this man
My dentist literally said if I don't have energy to brush my teeth, it's okay to chew chewing gum to make myself FEEL like I'm doing something. She also said she doesn't even brush hers twice a day and she's helped me get better
genuinely, thank you.
😀I can go like 2 weeks without brushing my teeth when I go through my episode
You care, not all dentists care. I have to threaten my dentist to not hurt me because he doesn’t understand tmj pain. Like seriously, feels like my jaw muscles are ripping in half/I’m breaking my jaw. I can’t hold it open longer than 1 minute, and it’s really sad to see my dentist and his assistant fight on me with it forcing me to open my mouth or threaten that they won’t work on my teeth. Both told me “well if you won’t open your mouth we can’t get work done and if that’s the case you need to leave” like the hell im the one paying you guys, so I said “I already told you guys I can’t hold it longer than a minute, what do you expect from me” they literally told me “to keep it open” I ended up threatening them and saying “if I do what you want my fucking jaw will be locked for weeks straight and I won’t be able to eat, I already have a eating disorder and if I lose anymore weight I’ll be hospitalized, I swear to god I will sue the shit out of you for not giving a fuck about my health at the end of the day” he shut the fuck up immediately and actually worked with my issue. A month later finally was able to get to my tmj appt and get a mouth guard. I know good dentists are out there but god damn all of mine are horrible.
Why not just wait until the tmj appointment then go to the dentist smh. Like I get it but I wouldn’t even tread in a dentist with a jaw issue like that it’s hard enough going at times when your mouth is ok…
The problem is that those retainers soften/weaken over time and/or start to crack. So, don’t count on being able to rely on that method.
Just wondering as someone who wears retainers, when you say wear them full time for two weeks, does that include while you eat drink etc? Or take them out to eat and put back in? Thanks!!
So you would have to take them out when you eat and drink, brush your teeth and put them back in 😅 I never do that though aha I just wear mine at night even tho I’m suppose to wear them 24 hours
@@nanaosa thank you for the clarification, honestly that’s so long tho I eat so much during the day with snacks in between imagine having to take them out brush and put them back in🥲 I usually wear them when I sleep too, but sometimes I genuinely forget
Oh I feel you there. The minimum you’re supposed to wear it full time is ~20 hours. So I try to split my free time into 2 sections that are 2 hours each. So I can eat a proper meal and then snack for the next hour.
My uncle is my dentist. I had multiple cavities and he ask if I was depressed which I was at the time why I wasn’t flossing my teeth but I lied to him I felt weird and awkward
Nice response.
Thank you. I did Invisalign as an adult and just found out I'll need to wear my retainers most of the time forever 😪. If I skip a day, I have to wear it all the time going forward. The cosmetic repairs I needed could have been done without straightening but I got pushed into ortho and now I'm in forever.
All bro basically said was “just wear your retainer”
Going through a depressive episode with braces sucks, one time i went a whole week without brushing my teeth and it was sooo and when I finally did. But my dentist was so understanding and didn't shame me, he said he sees it a lot with his patients
I did not expect to cry.
I love this man
I haven’t worn my retainer since last December and am going to finally try and get them back on. Wish me luck!
Didn’t wear my Invisalign’s for longer than I would like to admit. Thank you for giving me hope!!!!!
I’m currently undergoing this process after stopping my meds for a month. I’m doing it one half at a time though. To make it easier on myself. I started with my top ones because they’re a bigger priority. They’re also the more painful ones based on when I had my retainers in the first time. But I’m sure my bottom teeth can afford to wait an extra week.
My ortho doesn’t give a frick AHAH about my mental health or that my night time retainer gives me nausea and doesn’t allow my tongue to have enough room in my mouth and doesn’t allow me to sleep.... when I already have sleep issues due to mental health issues. Thanks Demarco and Tinkin.
THANK YOU!!
I was going through a rough time and my dentist did nothing for me when I didn’t wear my Invisalign for a few wks. I was on my 2nd to last set too. 😢
Just 2 weeks and there's already quite a significant shift
Shoutout to my fellow depression-sufferers: Even though it might feel like your friends might never understand, reach out and ask for help.
If you are important to them, they will try to be there for you. I didn't reach out for a long time until my therapist urged me, to, and my buddy just went "Why the hell didn't you message me earlier?", when I asked him if he had time.
And well, if they don't listen to you or at least try to understand, go ahead and cut them out of your life, because you are royalty and don't need that kind of negativity in your life.
this! years ago when i was still in the military i had to go in and get my teeth checked and the guy said my teeth weren't looking too good. I flat out said "i have severe depression and i've been having a hard time caring of myself lately" he just scoffed and rolled his eyes... i was in complete disbelief. I have no idea how some people can be so insensitive.
You can’t have perfect teeth if you’re dead. I’m glad this dentist understands this.
Then there’s my mom who cares more about me having straight teeth. Like ma’am-? I’m your kid and you’re worried about my teeth more than me wanting to be happy and not like I wanna die everyday??
Damn, i sympathize you, could i give you a hug?
THE PAIN SHES GOING THROUGH OMG
Thank you!!!!!!! 💜💜💜💜
It really sucks how people don’t have a clear understanding of how depression works and to be understanding…..
I’m going to need this guy. Today I’m getting Invisalign today and I’m going to need these tips.
i love when i see dentists not judging people for poor dental hygiene
Thank you. I’m sick of having to shame myself saying things like “yeah, I just lost it and then decided to be lazy and not wear it.”
Truth - I was unable to function for weeks and didn’t want my teeth to rot the few times I ate b/c I was encasing them in plastic without not brushing them
That made me subscribe immediately. That’s so sweet