I don't agree with this. You can DEFINITELY be with an awful person for x amount of years because of a trauma bond. People who get abused have a hard time breaking free and stay stuck for many years. It takes about an average attempt of 7 times before someone can break free from a toxic/abusive relationship. This advice might be for the general relationships that ended badly but people who have been abused might start wondering if their partner isn't so bad after all when they are.
A lot of times they didn't change, that was their whole plan! And yes it's extremely possible that it is a narc aka awful person cause of unhealed deeply embedded trauma, plus love bombing /trauma bonding! Yes trauma makes more poor decision making processes.
Maybe he was an awful person. I was with awful people for years. I stayed because I wanted it to work out, I wanted to give them a chance to change, I forgave them and I had nowhere to go.
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I don't agree with this. You can DEFINITELY be with an awful person for x amount of years because of a trauma bond. People who get abused have a hard time breaking free and stay stuck for many years. It takes about an average attempt of 7 times before someone can break free from a toxic/abusive relationship. This advice might be for the general relationships that ended badly but people who have been abused might start wondering if their partner isn't so bad after all when they are.
Because I didn't love myself enough to not be with him.
A lot of times they didn't change, that was their whole plan! And yes it's extremely possible that it is a narc aka awful person cause of unhealed deeply embedded trauma, plus love bombing /trauma bonding! Yes trauma makes more poor decision making processes.
I didn't see it at the time but I do now.
Thanks. Needed this to process everything right now clearly
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Maybe he was an awful person. I was with awful people for years. I stayed because I wanted it to work out, I wanted to give them a chance to change, I forgave them and I had nowhere to go.