It's what happens when you remove the societal/cultural boogyman of sexual stuff and just let it be what it is. But i agree this was a super cute depiction of the stuff
@@amysita_ Tienes un chico en primer lugar, eso es impresionante... Pero sí, completamente lo comprendo. Me parece que es un deseo conocido que alguien nos dice algo romántico, por ejemplo "solo eres mio" o también "te quiero" ... (disculpe si he hecho errores, podéis corregirme si queréis, español no es mi lengua materna)
Whether or not the other person is a victim/ it's not consensual / if they're hurt by it. And if they're comfortable with it or if they only agreed to it because it was asked and they felt like they should say yes, so they said, "ok..." not, "yes!" You know, like when we're told we should hug our family goodbye, and we don't really want to, but our parents make us do it against our consent anyway "because they expect it," and teach us conflicting things about consent. Consent applies to everyday things, too, not just sex. That's probably a good start.
For example, I forget the term for it, but non-consensual removal of a condom/birth control is a type of assault. With your partner, you could "pretend" that it was like that, but it really wasn't, but, you know, actually doing that is a whole different thing. It's one possible example of acting out, but there are probably other, better ones. "Acting out" as a phrase commonly describes behavior used to get attention, control, help, or relief from something, usually trauma or pain.
@@Psych2go Respectfully, you missed my point. You are doing a disservice to a lot of young people by trying to boil down adolescent sexual behavior. But what you already know is that trauma/abuse manifests itself in acting out. Tired of the narrative that 16 year olds know what they want for the rest of their life. Please be respectful of your platform.
Foreal, don't be afraid to share your fantasies with your partner. I have an obscure one, but the majority of the very few partners I've had were understanding and even went with it. Only one was uncomfortable, but they understood what it meant.
A lot of partners are ashamed of their darker or less acceptable fantasies, getting anyone to admit to what they secretly fantasize about requires a deep level of trust that a permanent relationship provides.
It just sucks when you try to talk with your partner about it,but they don't want to do it. Nothing like having another partner or threesome. I remember that a part of me died that day, and the relationship just died. When I met my bf today, man oh man.. I never knew that things could be that fun in the bedroom. All I had to do was go from someone my age to someone 7 years my senior.
1-2% of the population have BPD, for the rest it works as the video mentioned. I can be depressed or very anxious is sex is so helpful it is beyond words.
One thing I've learned about fantasies is that they dont always translate well in reality. Like in my head I can find things very hot but when given the opportunity to experience them in person they didn't make me feel the same way. However afterwards in my head the fantasy was still hot as crazy. Kinda weird I guess :p
Personally i think its ideation that the dream is so nice bc its something unreachable, like a dream and mang would rather keep it as a personal fantasy
I fantasized about mine for years, mentioned it to my gf and originally she was 100% against it until we did a RP on it then did a little photoshoot with a little bit of my fantasy but and since that shoot she has been into it like crazy and one night she was drinking she explored slightly more
I experienced the same thing, but as time went by, I figured it’s because I was with the wrong person. I didn’t trust them and they also didn’t know I was nonbinary. The same experience but with different person, whom I trust, felt alot better. It’s different for everyone, sending love ❤️
This is also why you find erotic roleplay in online places. It allows you to explore the mental fantasy without the problems of real life intruding upon it.
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@@Psych2go i prefer alot of the light hearted sillier stuff like personalities and what not but I actually went into a depression spiral from a few, June 1st is the first day I can see a psychology for a bunch of stuff I discovered through here
Flipside: If your partner opens up and shares their fantasies with you, and it's something you absolutely don't want to do or that you find skeevy or gross, *don't shame them or ridicule them over it*. Be as firm as you need to be in saying "No" but shaming them only discourages them from talking to you in the future.
@@Denmanisbetter if they’re pressuring you, then the relationship is not healthy and should end there because that’s stepping into the lines of sexual assault. No one, and I mean NO ONE, should be pressured into doing something sexual that they don’t want to do
@@kaded_cat yeah i meant to say no if they ask normally and you don’t wanna, but get out of the relationship if they are pressuring you. I forgot to add that last part sorry
It's also important to mention that whatever you might fantasize about is not the same as a need to live it out necessarily. Some women (falling into the 'rough sex' group) fantasize about 'being subjected to forceful sex by a random stranger' (it has another more common name that I won't write out). But, by talking about it, it can be relieving and may even prompt ones partner(s) to also open up, potentially opening up to fulfill those fantasies in a safe consensual manner.
Well said. Consent and communication are very important in practicing safe and enjoyable sex. In your opinion, what is the best way to have this conversation, especially when someone is afraid of opening up to their partner because they're afraid that they might be judged?
@@Psych2go As someone with severe anxiety, I found out that sharing fantasies can be a lot easier if you are in the mood, but not in the same room. The first time I shared a fantasy with my partner was in a late night text conversation about how we were missing each other. It felt safer cus I wouldn't need too see their facial expression if it all went wrong, I would also be able to peacefully freak out under my blanket instead of dealing with weird silence. It all went well tho. We ended up sharing fantasies, our understanding and expectations about sex. Even tough we are both shy virgin nerds, it all felt really wholesome and safe hehe ^^ Ily ouroboros >.
@@Psych2go That is a really good question and I don't think there is one answer to it that suits everyone. I am by no means an expert though one of my former partners had this particular fantasy. We were both very open minded, so as we got to know each other she felt comfortable to tell me. So I think that opening up slowly as you gain trust and confidence with each other is the key. Maybe float the idea of liking rough sex and see what they think, and then take it from there? Disclaimer: We never played out her fantasy as I don't like the idea personally.
As a Guy who constantly fantasizes about being dominated by a Woman, it's nice to know I'm not weird and that a lot a other Guys fantasize about being dominated too.
Fantasies are definitely part of human nature so you're definitely not weird! However, they do have some stigmas so people may not feel comfortable talking about them in the open. In your opinion, do you think fantasies should be discussed openly so that we can normalize them?
Believe me, you are absolutely not weird and theres nothing to be ashamed of. It's much much better when you embrace your fantasies as a cool trait of your personality and get carried away with it. If you want to feel less weird or "alone" I reccomend you search for Leopold von Sacher-Masoch and you will discover this is a classic fantasy of humans and there's nothing bad at it. His book, Venus in Furs, is just a masterpiece about the topic, I strongly reccomend it. And when you finally meet a woman that likes to live the exact same fantasy but from the other side... oh man oh man, it's just heaven in earth
@@gerlat8245 i fantasize about having a house and wife but when i remember i have bipolar disorder and one of my episodes start i start thinking about death and killing myself for months and then one day i feel normal and i fantasize about having a house and wife
Yeah don't worry, you are not the only one who want to be dominated by a woman. If someone still gonna say something like "you are not normal" or "you are not a alpha" just don't care about them and do what you really love.
the only thing I'm really against in a relationship is multi partner stuff. I think it's really only going to lead to mistrust and jealousy, I'd rather be committed to one partner at a time. this may be bc I'm the kind of person who really values commitment and loyalty but I don't judge anyone else for their choices in their relationships.
This was me until my husband let me experience it on my own first, because I told him I knew I would get jealous if he was doing it. So he encouraged me to experience s*x with others before I gave an ok. And if I didn't like it, he would have been ok with that too. It can still cause jealousy here and there. But as long as you two communicate and validate eachother regularly, it's all stuff easily worked out imo. Some people also get turned on from feeling jealous (thats how my husband is lol, he likes me making him jealous). It's also made me much more confident in more things than just in bed. But obviously there should still be a time and place for things, and clear boundaries that are not to be crossed. Such as not engaging with coworkers, or having sexual relations that werent predetermined/consensus beforehand. My husband and i made it strictly s*x, compared to having multiple partners (polyamorous).
@@anyadarlingg I'm glad that works for you, I just know for myself that I need what's mine to be mine only, it would honestly break my heart if my boyfriend wanted to do something like that because to me that would mean that I'm not enough for him.
@@Ann_Harlow that's how I felt but men typically separate sex from that sorta thing. Plus it makes you learn a lot about eachother and yall can improve your own sex life and appreciate eachother more. But I definitely don't think it's for everyone either. Some get too jealous, or other things
Im grateful that my GF wasnt judgemental when i told her about stuff i want to do. Surprisingly she even suggested more ideas and is open to wayyy more stuff then i couldve dreamed of!
@@Psych2go we were bored and looked up deep talk conversation starters for couples and when questions about intemecy came up it spiraled. Tho we also talked about a lot of personal stuff beforehand and we both came with trust issues...so when the trust issue barrier was broken it was smooth sailing ^^
I struggle with aversion despite having fantasies. My experience with sexual abuse made intimacy or even casual encounters really difficult, even anxiety inducing. I know some of my coping mechanisms aren't healthy, but it's my comfort zone while I'm alone and try to take care of myself.
No shame in talking to a professional about this. It's also important to remember that just as there are crummy people out there that use sex as a way to dominate and assert power and control, there are also those that use sex because they genuinely love and care about their partners, and want to fulfill whatever their wants and needs are. I just hope that you can eventually find such a person.
@@serpentmongrel I'll do whatever it takes to protect the ones I care about. When the day comes that I get a significant other, I'll make sure that I'll give them the warm love and respect they deserve, whether it will be a guy or a girl. All I want is for them to feel happy and safe, something that I didn't feel when I was younger.
My husband and I have always been very open and communicative with each other. Specially recently, we’ve started to experiment a bit more in the bedroom and trying new things. But we also talk about and agree how some sexual fantasies are just that, fantasies. There might be some stuff like 3somes that sound amazing theoretically, but in practice is a whole different thing, plus, possible feelings of jealousy and so on could sprout so we don’t even consider it an option in real life, at least for us. I mean, we do definitely talk and fantasize about it together, but only between the both of us, I don’t think we’ll ever actually do it.
Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us. It's so refreshing to hear that you have such an open communication with your husband. For others who may have a hard time with this, do you have any tips on how couples can get to have such an open communication with their spouses? How can we get to a place where we can talk openly, honestly, and respectfully with one another without fear of judgment?
@@Psych2go Well, it’s hard to say, there’s not one formula fits all. For us, even though we’re pretty introverted at times, we’ve always been very naturally open about taboo topics and such. Just trust your spouse and also show them that they can trust you as well. Create with each other a safe space where you can openly talk about anything with no judgment at all. I see how it can be a bit uncomfortable at first, but try to push each other out of that confort zone and explore all these topics and ideas. It definitely helps to build and strengthen your bond with your spouse! Plus, feeling more happy and confident in yourself! 😌❤️
Although I have never had a 3some, I would like to try it once. The jealousy issue is only a problem if you think you are missing out on something or you think your partner will be swept away from you. If it happens it means that they never were truly yours. Tread it like putting your partner on a roller coaster, they will be gone for few minutes and then they will be back again.
Agree, fantasies are just that, winning the power ball, being a pro athlete, going to Mars, being able to fly. I, like everyone else have my sexual fantasies and want to keep them there. I wouldn't want to be with a woman into BDSM, is it a fantasty I have, yep but I wouldn't want to carry it out. Threesomes yep, that is one I could do but not involving my wife and since it can't involve my wife of 28 years it's off the table. "Living" my fantasies through certain websites is enough for me.
It has come to my attention along the way of having A LOT of fantasies that I am hypersexual. I would also like to thank Wattpad for helping me figure that out, cause Wattpad also gave me a lot of kinks.
It's great that you've been able to learn more about yourself and your sexuality through exploring your fantasies and interests. Fantasies and kinks are a natural part of human sexuality.
There is a lot of taboo sexual fantasies out there, some that obviously shouldn't be acted on - but where it is okay to have the *fantasy* and nothing more. I'm happy that you spread stuff like this, thanks for the video.
Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, you do point out something very important which is that not all fantasies should be acted on. In your opinion, what makes a fantasy okay to act on as opposed to others that shouldn't be acted on?
@@Psych2go Let's take what you talked about; roleplaying. Roleplaying in the bedroom can be a good tool to use if you have certain taboo desires. Let's say you want to be called Daddy or Mommy - it is a tool that lets you *act out* a taboo fantasy but probably shouldn't act on for real. I can imagine there is more ways to go around this, to help you achieve something close to your sexual taboo fantasy, because if you have it, the likelihood that someone else has it too, is high. What about you @Psych2Go? what is your opinion on what is okay and what is not?
I disagree. I think intentionally having the fantasy is acting on it, because it strengthens and reinforces the sexualization of whatever is being immorally sexualized, which increases the chances of the act actually physically taking place. For example, you said the mommy and daddy thing. I didn't even know that came from a legitimate parent/child fantasy until you said that. That's wild and intentionally indulging in these acts, especially if everybody were to, undoubtedly increases the chances of it happening. Of course not all sexual indulgence is bad, but think of this. Two societies, exactly the same, one has totally normalized daddy/mommy/daughter/son kinks and the other hasn't at all. Which one do you think has higher rates of child abuse?
My goodness... Thank you for showing that sexual conversation and discussion, can be genuinely safe and wholesome. I'm really tired of all the sensationalism around sexuality! It is literally a major component of LIFE! It really is a topic we should be more open about, because sexual development and understanding, is really not simple, while ending up in a relationship or situation you can regret, is far TOO easy...
Yes! Sexuality isn't something that should be hidden or mystified but rather normalized! In your opinion, do you think we, as people, are heading toward normalizing sexuality?
@@Psych2go Hmmm, yes... But in some ways, we might be rushing it. I understand and appreciate the need for videos and just general discussions around it, because sometimes it's hard to find the words ourselves, you know? Plus, it's nice to know you're not alone and are indeed... Normal... ...But, there are some people who are still stuck in their more, rigid ways. I personally can respect it, although I think the ideas can be a bit dated. They shouldn't be "forced" to change, but likewise, they shouldn't "force" others to be silent either. Unfortunately, the real problem I believe, is when a few get too, publicly sexual and extreme. Which leads some of the more rigid people to cast sweeping statements about sexuality in general. I think, showing and demonstrating a respectful alternative (like this video has), helps to counter the more extreme ways of moving us to a more sexually normalized, respectful and stable, future... Well, that's what I believe and hope!😅 Edited: I corrected my mistake of saying *should*, instead of *shouldn't* "force".
When I was in college about 20 years ago, I once dated a woman who was really into BDSM, especially being a submissive in petplay. Which was fine, because I enjoy aspects of BDSM as well. The problem is that she wanted to do it _all the time._ That's the thing about it (and any fetish, really); if you indulge in it too much, it gets old very quickly. And it may not work well with reality, either. Back then, I was working 3 jobs to put myself through college without student loans. No, I don't have money to spare for that fancy collar you found online. I'm in the middle of studying for midterms; I don't have the time or energy to learn suspension techniques. No, I'm not going to keep you in a cage overnight; do you have any idea what that'll do to your back? I want to sleep _with you in a bed._ No, I'm not going to keep you on a leash and walk you in the park; I don't feel comfortable with doing public play, and there could easily be personal and professional consequences for it. When I come home from a long day, I'd rather spend time eating dinner with you and find out how your day went, not have you eating out of a bowl at my feet. I'm dating you because I'm interested in _you,_ not your kinks. And if I wanted a dog, _I'd get an actual dog._ If this had been done with more moderation, I probably would have enjoyed it more. It requires lots of trust, communication, and knowledge of each other and what you're doing. That's actually what appeals to me the most; the idea that you can take control or give yourself over to someone else, and you know you'll be safe. Same goes with the logistics and planning. But just rushing into it headlong can be disastrous. Being the dominant can be fun, but it can also be incredibly stressful; someone has put their life and safety in your hands, and if you make a mistake, it can go bad _very_ quickly. I'm not there just to be an automatic pain and humiliation dispenser, either. If I could do it again with someone else, I'd want to be a switch; being able to just give up control, fears, and life's worries for a little while would be wonderful. But of course that would require a level of trust that I don't think is possible for me. Anyone I'd willingly give myself over to - even temporarily - would seriously have to earn it. Also, I've attended the Folsom Street Fair (the largest fetish festival in the world) here in San Francisco twice as a photographer. It's actually really fun; think of it like Comic Con, except it's for every fetish you can possibly think of, complete with demonstrations and booths. The energy is positive and inviting; everyone there has different interests, and there's no judgment. There's also tons of creativity when it comes to costumes, techniques, etc. Someone getting led around on a leash is relatively mundane there. But I look at some of those people who do it 24/7 and wonder how they can possibly keep it up. It must be exhausting.
We're so glad that you feel this way. Sexual fantasies are a very normal part of human sexuality and while not all sexual fantasies should be acted on, some sexual fantasies can be opportunities to grow closer to your partner!
I DONT KNOW WHY but the presentation of this content on this channel is soOOOooo calming I’ve been doing and sharing things with people since I started being sexual but I think still have much internalized shame . and seeing it in this cutesy style along with the context of this channel mostly covering DSM and relationship topics that have nothing to do with kink feels like getting encouragement in a totally different way than seeking out media from spaces that are primarily about sex or bdsm or polyamory. Thank you!!!
Having a woman voice this makes it so much more comfortable because you never expect women to be able to talk about these sorts of subjects. It really reinforces for men (especially myself, who is trying to beat my own misogyny) that both genders get...well, horny.
Me personally i dislike bdsm. I don't have any trauma (that i know of) but the thought of my senses being taken away spikes my anxiety. I do however, absolutely love being vanilla. Something about soft sweet passionate intercourse gives me butterflies and I can't stop blushing every time i daydream my fantasies. It really saddens me that many people judge vanilla saying things like "that's weak" or "you're not doing it right" (heard that one all too often). I'm very open discussing these topics but i feel like it's the sole reason why the many few relationships i had ended falling out. Sexual incompatibility is definitely a subject that this channel should look into. I'm very curious
Omg same! I feel like what was normal before is being labeled as boring now whereas what was considered abnormal before is becoming the new norm… I’m not letting myself be discouraged by it, I want a healthy sex life honestly with a partner that doesn’t have weird (according to my preferences) kinks like these in the vid
I really love this channel. Other than the fact it freely educates us on interesting topics - so we can always learn more and expand our knowledge - it also has a way of teaching us about topics that are "taboo" without feeling judged for it! I'm still exploring my own sexuality, so it's fun to listen to topics such as this, especially in the sense of what's more common and uncommon. I didn't know that multi-partner and roleplay was a pretty common fantasy, and in a way, it does kind of relieve me of the fear of feeling strange.
I’m not what you’d call “sex oriented,” identifying as somewhere in the grey area, and quite possibly demisexual (a hypothetical speculation until Mr. Right and I cross paths into each others’ lives). Having said that, I do have kinky fantasies on a regular basis as part of my ongoing routine of self-care and personal therapy, which has also been a huge contribution in building and identifying new traits and interests. The most important boost I’ve found is a positive “inner critic,” as my tendency to blame and/or shame myself for even the most socially taboo thoughts and/or weird ideas is practically nonexistent nowadays. My headspace is and always will be a personal safe space, and if/when I find a partner who shares a similar perspective, I trust that his presence will also be a personally safe (and confidential) space for me, as my presence will always be for him. 💞
@@utternonsenseproductions2415 Flowers are actually very sexual. Biologically speaking, they're the genitals of the plant. If you want asexual reproduction, Aphids are a great example. Most of the time, they're reproducing asexually.
I'm a very open person and I have told my SO many things that I will not disclose but it has allowed both of us to feel comfortable though I'm still very shy talking to her because this is my very first relationship I want to be very open and intimate and watching these videos help me approach certain topics and in turn have a healthier relationship
Healthy relationships are ones where there are good levels of communication, trust and safety as well as mutual respect. And you are ready to share your sexual fantasies together🎯💟
Exactly. Just as there are people out there that use sex to abuse and assert control, there are also those that use sex as a way to connect with their loved one even more deeply. And as the video describes, sometimes that is shown by being dominant during intercourse! In this context, it's not the thoughts that matter, but how people go ABOUT those thoughts.
Very true. No one should feel forced to try out sexual fantasies. In your opinion, how can we get to a place where we feel comfortable enough to share our sexual fantasies with one another? How do we open up the conversation about sexual fantasies and overcome the fear of judgment?
@@Psych2go In my view, sexual fantasies need to be talked about more and learned about more. That is step number one towards helping people overcome the fear of judgment and stigmatism. Secondly, even with education, some people feel shy about expressing their sexual fantasies, because admittedly it does come from a very deep place inside someone. It represents someone's most intense and ferocious/primal desires. Not to say that its a bad thing, but that is an aspect to consider. Nevertheless, if you have a partner that is open, calm, and non-judgemental, then one should feel safe in opening up about these topics, and better yet, the relationship may actually improve dramatically as a result. Of course, that's not guaranteed, but you never know until you try.
@@Psych2go No one is a mind reader. If you are feeling a certain way about sex, you need to be direct and tell your partner how you feel. But one thing you really need to remember is to be positive and not critical - especially if you are discussing something about your sex life that is bothering you. Discuss things both of you enjoy, and take baby steps into the world of exploring sexual fantasies and sensual ideas together. Do you like play games? Use question 'What if?' and talk about your alterego.
The biggest truth about fantasies which a lot of relationships have taught me, the majority are never admitted to. Most will only admit to the vanilla ones, out of social pressure to adhere to acceptable norms. It’s only after years of being with somebody will they let their guards down and admit to the more ‘less socially acceptable fantasies’.
69% were interested about different sensations. As an adult, this is comforting for me to hear. As for my mind of a child, that's a hilarious statistic
This video makes me feel so much better about some strange thoughts I have been having. I occasionally fantasize about things like this and I suppose it's because I'm transitioning into adulthood. To know I'm not the only one having these thoughts is comforting. As long as it doesn't harm yourself or others is really isn't that bad of a thing.
Thank you for clarifying that cosplay & role play are NOT the same. As a cosplayer I find it really annoying that so many males automatically assume I’ll “dress up for them” if we date. It weirds me out when guys say that, soon as they find out I cosplay. Automatic cut off😂
As a guy, myself... down to my core... The TRUTH is that I've never hoped a woman would dress UP... I've always been hoping (regardless of how I spoke or acted outwardly) that she'd UNDRESS!!! haha... I doubt most other guys are all that serious about the dressing UP deal... we're guys, and after about half-way through high school, not much really changes about us... ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 You’re not a woman nor a cosplayer, so you can’t speak on this issue. Youre not the one getting the “oh can you dress up as cat woman for me” messages from complete strangers. Only men that also cosplay understand, it’s a hobby not some sexual fantasy.
It just sounds the modern definition of social skill - nil. I get it from both sides, ( no I'm not bi), people in general think that dating is like making a selection from a drink machine, they want - they pay - they get. No. Women do it too. "I'm think I'm hot so I'm entitled..." The fantasy thing, I believe is something that happens when you have a firm connection. What do you think?
I know you guys have done so in the past, but could you make a video on feeling disassociated with life. Either how to help someone who is feeling that way or common symptoms or causes?
Could you specify what you mean? Do you mean feeling dissociated from reality or detached from feelings? Maybe numbness? What do you mean by dissociation with life? If you're talking about numbness, we have a video on that so maybe you can check this one out in the meanwhile! ruclips.net/video/1FqGH7xZlhA/видео.html
@@Psych2go Feelings mostly, and the feeling of not being able to fully comprehend the world. And I'm not sure if this qualifies, but a feeling of not being able to fully react to things and not being able to create whole thoughts and feelins, if that makes any sense.
When I look back at some of the older cartoons like from the 80s and 90s, I get the feeling the writers definitely had some kind of BDSM in the brain. Especially when the episode or scene involved a male character getting captured by female villains.
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Really interesting video! Never thought some kinks and fantasies were as common as they are. Of course there are a lot of fantasies that should just be fantasies and never acted on in real life, due to various factors, however, if you really wanna play out a fantasy, i've found that looking around on internet forums for sexual Roleplay can be really fun, no matter the medium. Be it through video chatting, only sound or simply just through text, it's a great way to play out those fantasies consensually in a way without actually harming anyone in real life. I do these kinds of text roleplays mostly because i'm Aegosexual (Basically i have no interest in actual relationships but i still experience sexual arousal), but another factor is that some of my fantasies just wouldn't work in real life, so having a medium for it is nice.
As silly as it sounds, cosplay is sort of a repressed one for me. I feel bad asking my partner to cosplay as her favorite character because it takes so much effort just for the fun of the explicit variety, and I am perfectly happy with how she is normally. For me, though, it's an opportunity for her to bare more of her soul during those times, and that's what I'm really into. I guess I'm into whatever makes me feel more connected with my partner, and I know I put my soul into it when having those moments.
This would be interesting to see statistic of what ages were surveyed and how the topics relate to these age groups. Also how does their belief systems play roles in what goes on.
it's really great work u r doing....by talking about taboo, like the thing is most people have fantasies or even like the concept of such things but bcoz of the taboo they will hide it inside n never try it out......even when these things are common they r still the hush hush topic and many people call the others freak or bad things which is why they need to understand that"if something or someone is different that doesnt mean its abnormal but that means u urself are narrow-minded "...i like u r trying to normalize things.... GOOD work!!!
What I love about this channel is that you guys are not afraid to talk or bring up subjects like this! These are really good to talk about and they're interesting :D Thank you for making others feel comfortable to talk about subjects like these and be curious about them :D
Didn’t know these sexual fantasies are that common to have, I’ve heard of some of these different fantasies but I don’t know how to feel about them, not that I judge of course we all love different types of stuff, as long as you and your partner love each other, are comfortable and are respecting each other. ❤️
I'll never say these videos are wrong, they're more helpful than anything else on the internet. But...that was only 3 wasn't it? You said 4, and the title is 5.
My ocd noticed that too, had to check to see if anyone else saw or if I was just being picky😅 Regardless, I still found it very informative! (And I'm also glad I wasnt alone in spotting that)
I love when people talk about normal people things without stigmatizing it or letting the stigma follow it. We're all human. We all have these fantasies and even weirder ones.
I enjoyed this video. Are you going to talk about the niche side of sexual fantasies, like certain fetishes? I'd love to see this topic discussed further!
@@Psych2go That I was attempting to suppress my sexual desires/kinks because I thought they were unhealthy. Assuming this is within the realm of your team's expertise, a video detailing the line between healthy and unhealthy sexual desires would be very helpful! Thank you for beginning to normalize these kinds of conversations and for making such information accessible!! (:
I've predicted you would talk about this topic and OMG I KNEW IT !!!! Anyway, thanks for the juicy topic ;) P/s: sorry for the late reply, just saw this in my recommend
Honesly, when i was younger like, early teen I thought I was so wrong for liking the idea of my future man tieing me up or me tieing him up, I thought something was wrong with me until now, so thank you for putting my brain at ease. Also, does anyone else love the idea of there partner acting one way but as soon at it gets spicy his personality switches? Like, for example, lets say when things are not spicey everyone including his bros think he wold be dom and stuff because of how he acts outside of woohoo time, but as soon as it gets spicy he becomes flustered, hes your big or little sub (-sandwich), your the one being the dom... Anyone? Please i must know! Am. I. The. Only. One. (I really hope not)
FemDoms in the chat [Edit: thanks for sharing that y'all exist even if rare, helps curb the stereotypical male sexual expectation to HAVE to be dominant / excessively masculine to be sexually attractive]
That's the plot of many popular adult one-shots (stories with 1 chapter), so many people like it 🤭 Mild people being dominant in bed or people with strong character being shy during intimacy There's a lot of stories that have softer versions of that plot in romances: people showing a different personality with their loved one, so I think it trascends sex preferences.
Theres alot of fantasies people have out there. Shouldn't feel shamed for them because everyone has something in their minds. Would only say to keep a sane healthy mind in the process.
That was a VERY important thing to talk about. Since I am into cosplay and role play topics. And some of other things mentioned here I would like too. so thank you for making me feel normal x3
You're welcome! It's great to hear that discussing these topics made you feel more comfortable and validated in your interests. Embracing your passions and hobbies is important, and it's always nice to find others who share similar interests. Don't be afraid to explore and continue to delve into the things that bring you joy! By the way, what other topics would you like us to cover next?
@@Psych2go Yes, some of the episodes on the chanel are priceless! They can really make us feel better about ourselves. I'm really thankful. And the topics? I'm happy you ask me directly! :D I wish you guys could make a new version of an old video about stages of a friendship falling apart. And more about warning signs about relationships falling apart. Also more about dealing with anxiety and how to built meaningful relations. It would be totally the best if Amanda Silvera would be the voice for those. So far the best psych2go voice very well understandable for a foreigner like I.
Sexual fantasies. I can't remember who said this, and exactly how they said it, but essentially what they said was along the lines of "as long as you understand the difference between fantasy and reality, there's nothing wrong with having these fantasies play out". There shouldn't be any shame for having these thoughts play out. It's how you ACT upon those thoughts that displays your character.
I've had lots of run ins with various BDSM homies, in my life. Some of them are good friends. One trait I always caught on is how they express their day-to-day life, and how damn creative it is. They don't even need to do BDSM or sexual things to have the most active, and fascinating days. They're always so creative.
@@Psych2go how they do their makeup, to the clothes they wear, or what they plan to do in their free time. I actually got inspired by a friend of mine who has an exceptional taste in fashion. They rlly are a different breed of human, and not in a bad context either. They're genuinely fasscinating and I love hanging out with them.
Can we talk about how much love and attention every one of these videos gets? I mean... Look at 0:40, they went out of their way to draw this just for a transition. That's some real dedication for a vid that may never break 1M views.
I'm open with my husband, and he is with me. It makes for an amazing love life. Even if we're uncomfortable with the other's ideas, we can generally find something that satisfies that feeling and makes the other comfortable at the same time. My best advice to anyone is open and healthy communication always done in love and not in anger.
I wasn’t expecting to feel uncomfortable with the discussion of multi-partner sex, it could be that I’m demisexual or that it plays into my self-doubt to my worth, but I enjoyed the video overall
Difficult being in a situation where you and your SO have very opposite sexual needs and ones needs/desires are only triggers for the others anger/discomfort/bad feelings. Sexual Incompatibility perhaps?
I know nowadays it’s normal the threesomes and orgies things but, is it just me that feels really uncomfortable and thinks it’s wrong doing it with your partner? I’m asking because I really want to know other’s thoughts. It just feels very wrong and it kinda worries me if my partner is into that…
im kind of weird that i never found multi-partner sex much of a turn on. 1 on 1 sex is a lot more intimate. also it kind of feels like cheating, or an excuse to cheat and get away with it, or at the very least leave someone in the lurch, or that it becomes some kind of competition. relationships are hard enough without throwing that monkey wrench into the works.
I think it depends on the intention. There are some people who may take advantage of multi-partner sex to cheat and that is a huge red flag to look out for. However, if it is communicated clearly with your partner and you express your feelings and concerns, then you both can decide how to best approach the topic. It can hopefully open up a discussion about how to best fit you and your partner's needs. What is it about multi-partner sex that is appealing to them? What is it that feels wrong to you? What could be done to accommodate for both of your needs in a safe, consensual way? As long as the communication is there with ALL consenting parties, I don't see an issue. This is coming from someone who is in a polyamorous relationship with 2 partners but is really only sexually intimate with 1 of those partners. I'm more platonic with my girlfriend and we communicated that clearly and we're both sexually intimate with our boyfriend. I don't personally consider it cheating in my case because we are only dating each other and our relationship is just exclusive to the three of us for the time being. But yeah, communication is absolutely important and there are varying types of relationships to keep in mind. Don't be afraid to discuss your concerns and hopefully your partner has an open mind to take your needs into consideration.
I had this very freaking wack dream once and I will never forget that magical moment: I imagined that I was a normal human that was adopted into a mushroom-people/fairy garden world, and my friends were all gonna go out for the evening and I asked my mushroom grandpa if I could go and he said yea and to be careful at nighttime (cuz nighttime is when a lot of people really get crazy) Anyway, my mushroom/fairy friends and I (simple human) went out and about, shopping and stuff, then came across this cool circus-like tent that had this very popular band of guys that do trapeze art… It was NOT clear to any of us that THIS WAS A STRIP SHOW. And yes, THEY INVOLVED THEIR AUDIENCE AT RANDOM. In any case, my group and myself got picked up, tossed around, pleased, and absolutely had a blast of a show, the main lead of the band of artists taking a severe interest in me. This was the coolest thing ever and I could not stop thinking about it for a week or two. I still remember it crystal clear. Good stuff 😚👌
I...don't even know how , I mean HOW DID YOU MAKE A TOPIC LIKE THIS ACTUALLY SEEM WHOLESOME , I think this channel has some secret superheros or something cause I don't even know how you did this
I've found that sexual fantasy (not to go into too much detail on my part) is mostly a way of blowing off steam, and working out anxiety over an idea that makes me uncomfortable; it's been pushed on me too much, I've been shocked by it, or so on. Quite honestly, some fantasies have revolved around things I wouldn't even consider in real life . . . whcih is also why they get tiresome and stop working after a while.
i find therapists tend to go out of their way to avoid talking about sex. i think this is seriously a mistake. how can one discuss their sexual trauma with someone who does not even want to discuss their more positive sexual experiences?
As someone who enjoys consensual non-consent this is a very awkward topic for many people. As long as everyone enjoys what's happening and these people can give consent/have no chance of permanent physical/psychological damage everything you want to do is okay to do :)
Videos like this really go to show that sex isn’t something to be afraid or ashamed of. It’s to be respected, surely, but not feared or obscured. Obscurity and ignorance are hazardous pitfalls. Good sex education goes so far beyond those awkward and uncomfortable times in the classroom during the most uncomfortable times of our young lives.
If you have covered something like I'm gonna explain it would be helpful to link it. It's weird to me that for some reason I'm more Intune with my emotions when I use substances such as alcohol and marijuana. I want to feel my emotions because I believe they can help me make better decisions when it comes to family and friends but I find it difficult to connect to them when I'm sober. I've been described as cold and "heartless" when it comes to my personal relationships and I've been told it's easier to be with my intoxicated self because I am more "human" when I'm that state.
@@Psych2go initially i thought the percentage of people who like it rough was huge but i realized it's just normal and it made sense 😮💨 sometimes i think the human race is just freaky n kinky
How does this channel manage to make topics like this seem so wholesome? It's witchcraft
It's what happens when you remove the societal/cultural boogyman of sexual stuff and just let it be what it is. But i agree this was a super cute depiction of the stuff
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YEH, KNOWLEDGE!!
It’s not.
@@bibule yes it is
Guy: 'Here's the pizza you ordered, miss.'
Girl: 'Oh, I don't have any money. 😉'
Guy: 'Why did you order then?'
Girl: 👁️👄👁️
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah 😂
Wait I don't understand the joke. Am I too young at being here?
More like 👁🫦👁
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My sexual fantasy is being hugged and calmly being told “ I love you “ with having the relationship last for the rest of my life.
Dude... That's beautiful
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You need more likes bro!
@@amysita_ Tienes un chico en primer lugar, eso es impresionante... Pero sí, completamente lo comprendo. Me parece que es un deseo conocido que alguien nos dice algo romántico, por ejemplo "solo eres mio" o también "te quiero" ...
(disculpe si he hecho errores, podéis corregirme si queréis, español no es mi lengua materna)
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You need to do a video on the difference between sexual fantasies in a healthy context versus sexual acting out as an attempt to manage trauma.
Interesting topic. In your opinion, what would you say is the main difference between healthy and unhealthy sexual fantasies?
Whether or not the other person is a victim/ it's not consensual / if they're hurt by it. And if they're comfortable with it or if they only agreed to it because it was asked and they felt like they should say yes, so they said, "ok..." not, "yes!"
You know, like when we're told we should hug our family goodbye, and we don't really want to, but our parents make us do it against our consent anyway "because they expect it," and teach us conflicting things about consent. Consent applies to everyday things, too, not just sex.
That's probably a good start.
For example, I forget the term for it, but non-consensual removal of a condom/birth control is a type of assault.
With your partner, you could "pretend" that it was like that, but it really wasn't, but, you know, actually doing that is a whole different thing. It's one possible example of acting out, but there are probably other, better ones.
"Acting out" as a phrase commonly describes behavior used to get attention, control, help, or relief from something, usually trauma or pain.
@@Psych2go Respectfully, you missed my point. You are doing a disservice to a lot of young people by trying to boil down adolescent sexual behavior. But what you already know is that trauma/abuse manifests itself in acting out. Tired of the narrative that 16 year olds know what they want for the rest of their life. Please be respectful of your platform.
See and THIS is where it would get interesting.
Foreal, don't be afraid to share your fantasies with your partner. I have an obscure one, but the majority of the very few partners I've had were understanding and even went with it. Only one was uncomfortable, but they understood what it meant.
Unfortunately my partners has made me self conscious
@@Shortkonner im sorry to hear that. If you wanna talk about it I’m here. :)
A lot of partners are ashamed of their darker or less acceptable fantasies, getting anyone to admit to what they secretly fantasize about requires a deep level of trust that a permanent relationship provides.
i 💕 you. Who are you?
It just sucks when you try to talk with your partner about it,but they don't want to do it. Nothing like having another partner or threesome. I remember that a part of me died that day, and the relationship just died. When I met my bf today, man oh man.. I never knew that things could be that fun in the bedroom. All I had to do was go from someone my age to someone 7 years my senior.
“Less anxiety”
People with BPD: hormy, anxious, and depressified
1-2% of the population have BPD, for the rest it works as the video mentioned. I can be depressed or very anxious is sex is so helpful it is beyond words.
I was gonna say "less anxiety?? Well why doesn't that work for me??" ..
And then I remembered
And of course its the weirdest thing that turned you on and now you feel gross and weird. Or am i the only one to experience this?
@@Aliviacase no 😭😭😭 like lemme be kinky in peace
@@Aliviacaseyeah except I don’t feel gross bc it’s not like anyone can read my mind
when psych2go makes sussy topics more innocent bcs of the art 💀
Ey no wait she also has art on R34 bro 💀💀💀💀
@@trungkiennguyenhuu2072 omg what 👁️
We're sneaky like that 🤫
@@Psych2go love it
@@trungkiennguyenhuu2072 link? asking for research
One thing I've learned about fantasies is that they dont always translate well in reality.
Like in my head I can find things very hot but when given the opportunity to experience them in person they didn't make me feel the same way.
However afterwards in my head the fantasy was still hot as crazy.
Kinda weird I guess :p
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Personally i think its ideation that the dream is so nice bc its something unreachable, like a dream and mang would rather keep it as a personal fantasy
I fantasized about mine for years, mentioned it to my gf and originally she was 100% against it until we did a RP on it then did a little photoshoot with a little bit of my fantasy but and since that shoot she has been into it like crazy and one night she was drinking she explored slightly more
I experienced the same thing, but as time went by, I figured it’s because I was with the wrong person. I didn’t trust them and they also didn’t know I was nonbinary. The same experience but with different person, whom I trust, felt alot better. It’s different for everyone, sending love ❤️
This is also why you find erotic roleplay in online places. It allows you to explore the mental fantasy without the problems of real life intruding upon it.
Step 1: Get a partner (Boyfriend/Girlfriend).
99% of everyone fails this step.
And the other 1% say they go to a different school😂
@@denifnaf5874 I have this one guy in my class that claims to have a partner (he is barely 13) and always says that they go to a different school.
No? Not everybody wants to have a partner,like me
You can also just hook up lol
@@Im.a.joke_01 most people (atleast i hope most) dont want to do that
0:00 intro
0:57 rough sex
1:42 cosplay and role play
3:11 multi-partner sex
5:01 outro
Quick with the timestamps! Thank you!
it looks like a timestamps for some not psychology but porn video, lol)
@@axathearcticfox5514 indeed (◠‿◕)
You missed some
@@Psych2go I only found 3 points instead of 5 mentioned in topic😂
this channel has the absolute largest range of content. from suicide help to personalities to sexual interests to therapy tips to adventures with psi.
Thank you for noticing! We want to make sure to extend as much as possible in terms of content! Do you have any favorite type of content from our channel?
@@Psych2go i prefer alot of the light hearted sillier stuff like personalities and what not but I actually went into a depression spiral from a few, June 1st is the first day I can see a psychology for a bunch of stuff I discovered through here
Flipside: If your partner opens up and shares their fantasies with you, and it's something you absolutely don't want to do or that you find skeevy or gross, *don't shame them or ridicule them over it*. Be as firm as you need to be in saying "No" but shaming them only discourages them from talking to you in the future.
Yeah if you don’t wanna do smt, don’t shame, just say no unless they are pressuring you
@@Denmanisbetter if they’re pressuring you, then the relationship is not healthy and should end there because that’s stepping into the lines of sexual assault. No one, and I mean NO ONE, should be pressured into doing something sexual that they don’t want to do
@@kaded_cat yeah i meant to say no if they ask normally and you don’t wanna, but get out of the relationship if they are pressuring you. I forgot to add that last part sorry
It's so easily said but every no will make lost people ashamed and wishing they didn't say it.
Psychology is so interesting, thank you for making it more accessible to everyone!!
Thank you for watching! Did you enjoy the video?
@@Psych2go I'm sure that I did?
@@Psych2go yes i loved it
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@@Psych2go I did thank you!!
It's also important to mention that whatever you might fantasize about is not the same as a need to live it out necessarily. Some women (falling into the 'rough sex' group) fantasize about 'being subjected to forceful sex by a random stranger' (it has another more common name that I won't write out). But, by talking about it, it can be relieving and may even prompt ones partner(s) to also open up, potentially opening up to fulfill those fantasies in a safe consensual manner.
Well said. Consent and communication are very important in practicing safe and enjoyable sex. In your opinion, what is the best way to have this conversation, especially when someone is afraid of opening up to their partner because they're afraid that they might be judged?
@@Psych2go As someone with severe anxiety, I found out that sharing fantasies can be a lot easier if you are in the mood, but not in the same room. The first time I shared a fantasy with my partner was in a late night text conversation about how we were missing each other. It felt safer cus I wouldn't need too see their facial expression if it all went wrong, I would also be able to peacefully freak out under my blanket instead of dealing with weird silence.
It all went well tho. We ended up sharing fantasies, our understanding and expectations about sex. Even tough we are both shy virgin nerds, it all felt really wholesome and safe hehe ^^
Ily ouroboros >.
@@Aspenashh finally someone else who calls cycles that strengthen itself Ouroboros!
@@Psych2go That is a really good question and I don't think there is one answer to it that suits everyone. I am by no means an expert though one of my former partners had this particular fantasy. We were both very open minded, so as we got to know each other she felt comfortable to tell me. So I think that opening up slowly as you gain trust and confidence with each other is the key. Maybe float the idea of liking rough sex and see what they think, and then take it from there?
Disclaimer: We never played out her fantasy as I don't like the idea personally.
So basically a CNC kink?
The art style can make literally any topic wholesome
It’s honestly really comforting. 🤧
My new kink is actually being loved and cared for.
Same
@@Mister_Pilotglad to see that adolf has taken the right path
@@LLNotReal Yeah lol
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Yep.
As a Guy who constantly fantasizes about being dominated by a Woman, it's nice to know I'm not weird and that a lot a other Guys fantasize about being dominated too.
yeah but to be fair thats in usa only not in the resy of the world maybe alot of us are weird
Fantasies are definitely part of human nature so you're definitely not weird! However, they do have some stigmas so people may not feel comfortable talking about them in the open. In your opinion, do you think fantasies should be discussed openly so that we can normalize them?
Believe me, you are absolutely not weird and theres nothing to be ashamed of. It's much much better when you embrace your fantasies as a cool trait of your personality and get carried away with it. If you want to feel less weird or "alone" I reccomend you search for Leopold von Sacher-Masoch and you will discover this is a classic fantasy of humans and there's nothing bad at it. His book, Venus in Furs, is just a masterpiece about the topic, I strongly reccomend it. And when you finally meet a woman that likes to live the exact same fantasy but from the other side... oh man oh man, it's just heaven in earth
@@gerlat8245 i fantasize about having a house and wife but when i remember i have bipolar disorder and one of my episodes start i start thinking about death and killing myself for months and then one day i feel normal and i fantasize about having a house and wife
Yeah don't worry, you are not the only one who want to be dominated by a woman. If someone still gonna say something like "you are not normal" or "you are not a alpha" just don't care about them and do what you really love.
the only thing I'm really against in a relationship is multi partner stuff. I think it's really only going to lead to mistrust and jealousy, I'd rather be committed to one partner at a time. this may be bc I'm the kind of person who really values commitment and loyalty but I don't judge anyone else for their choices in their relationships.
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Same
This was me until my husband let me experience it on my own first, because I told him I knew I would get jealous if he was doing it. So he encouraged me to experience s*x with others before I gave an ok. And if I didn't like it, he would have been ok with that too. It can still cause jealousy here and there. But as long as you two communicate and validate eachother regularly, it's all stuff easily worked out imo. Some people also get turned on from feeling jealous (thats how my husband is lol, he likes me making him jealous). It's also made me much more confident in more things than just in bed. But obviously there should still be a time and place for things, and clear boundaries that are not to be crossed. Such as not engaging with coworkers, or having sexual relations that werent predetermined/consensus beforehand. My husband and i made it strictly s*x, compared to having multiple partners (polyamorous).
@@anyadarlingg I'm glad that works for you, I just know for myself that I need what's mine to be mine only, it would honestly break my heart if my boyfriend wanted to do something like that because to me that would mean that I'm not enough for him.
@@Ann_Harlow that's how I felt but men typically separate sex from that sorta thing. Plus it makes you learn a lot about eachother and yall can improve your own sex life and appreciate eachother more. But I definitely don't think it's for everyone either. Some get too jealous, or other things
Im grateful that my GF wasnt judgemental when i told her about stuff i want to do. Surprisingly she even suggested more ideas and is open to wayyy more stuff then i couldve dreamed of!
That's awesome that you can talk to your girlfriend openly about sexual fantasies without feeling judged. How did you bring up this subject to her?
@@Psych2go we were bored and looked up deep talk conversation starters for couples and when questions about intemecy came up it spiraled. Tho we also talked about a lot of personal stuff beforehand and we both came with trust issues...so when the trust issue barrier was broken it was smooth sailing ^^
First of all, first get one to have to talk to, second of all, YT +13, sorry ;)
@@ria_sanwhat do you gain from saying that?
@@ria_sanam i wrong or are you saying this guy has no girlfriend while you are literally using an anime pfp?
I struggle with aversion despite having fantasies. My experience with sexual abuse made intimacy or even casual encounters really difficult, even anxiety inducing. I know some of my coping mechanisms aren't healthy, but it's my comfort zone while I'm alone and try to take care of myself.
No shame in talking to a professional about this. It's also important to remember that just as there are crummy people out there that use sex as a way to dominate and assert power and control, there are also those that use sex because they genuinely love and care about their partners, and want to fulfill whatever their wants and needs are. I just hope that you can eventually find such a person.
@@justalpha9138 thank you. Hopefully I'll someone one day. Hope you do good as well
@@serpentmongrel I'll do whatever it takes to protect the ones I care about. When the day comes that I get a significant other, I'll make sure that I'll give them the warm love and respect they deserve, whether it will be a guy or a girl. All I want is for them to feel happy and safe, something that I didn't feel when I was younger.
Same....
I hope you will be able to take down this trauma you have stay strong
Meanwhile I'm so starved for intimacy that I fantasize about holding hands.
Frrrrr
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The crazy thing is, is that I've never held hands or even touched someone else's hand before
Sadly i can relate.
Man I just want a hug
same here
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Yup same same bro
You are delusional
Me too bruh
My husband and I have always been very open and communicative with each other. Specially recently, we’ve started to experiment a bit more in the bedroom and trying new things.
But we also talk about and agree how some sexual fantasies are just that, fantasies. There might be some stuff like 3somes that sound amazing theoretically, but in practice is a whole different thing, plus, possible feelings of jealousy and so on could sprout so we don’t even consider it an option in real life, at least for us. I mean, we do definitely talk and fantasize about it together, but only between the both of us, I don’t think we’ll ever actually do it.
Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us. It's so refreshing to hear that you have such an open communication with your husband. For others who may have a hard time with this, do you have any tips on how couples can get to have such an open communication with their spouses? How can we get to a place where we can talk openly, honestly, and respectfully with one another without fear of judgment?
@@Psych2go Well, it’s hard to say, there’s not one formula fits all. For us, even though we’re pretty introverted at times, we’ve always been very naturally open about taboo topics and such. Just trust your spouse and also show them that they can trust you as well. Create with each other a safe space where you can openly talk about anything with no judgment at all. I see how it can be a bit uncomfortable at first, but try to push each other out of that confort zone and explore all these topics and ideas. It definitely helps to build and strengthen your bond with your spouse! Plus, feeling more happy and confident in yourself! 😌❤️
Although I have never had a 3some, I would like to try it once. The jealousy issue is only a problem if you think you are missing out on something or you think your partner will be swept away from you. If it happens it means that they never were truly yours. Tread it like putting your partner on a roller coaster, they will be gone for few minutes and then they will be back again.
Agree, fantasies are just that, winning the power ball, being a pro athlete, going to Mars, being able to fly. I, like everyone else have my sexual fantasies and want to keep them there. I wouldn't want to be with a woman into BDSM, is it a fantasty I have, yep but I wouldn't want to carry it out. Threesomes yep, that is one I could do but not involving my wife and since it can't involve my wife of 28 years it's off the table. "Living" my fantasies through certain websites is enough for me.
if three people COMPLETELY agree to a threesome then it LITERALLY never has or will count as cheating AT ALL
It’s so good that you guys talk about this so openly!
It has come to my attention along the way of having A LOT of fantasies that I am hypersexual. I would also like to thank Wattpad for helping me figure that out, cause Wattpad also gave me a lot of kinks.
Girl same
It's great that you've been able to learn more about yourself and your sexuality through exploring your fantasies and interests. Fantasies and kinks are a natural part of human sexuality.
What's that
@@Zeni-th. a platform where you can write or read stories in fiction or based on real events.
idk
There is a lot of taboo sexual fantasies out there, some that obviously shouldn't be acted on - but where it is okay to have the *fantasy* and nothing more. I'm happy that you spread stuff like this, thanks for the video.
its human nature as long you fight it and try to stop think about it it's ok
Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, you do point out something very important which is that not all fantasies should be acted on. In your opinion, what makes a fantasy okay to act on as opposed to others that shouldn't be acted on?
@@Psych2go Let's take what you talked about; roleplaying. Roleplaying in the bedroom can be a good tool to use if you have certain taboo desires. Let's say you want to be called Daddy or Mommy - it is a tool that lets you *act out* a taboo fantasy but probably shouldn't act on for real. I can imagine there is more ways to go around this, to help you achieve something close to your sexual taboo fantasy, because if you have it, the likelihood that someone else has it too, is high. What about you @Psych2Go? what is your opinion on what is okay and what is not?
@@Vezaiho my buddy showed up to a tinder hookup. The girl was dressed as a baby. He turned around and walked out.
I disagree. I think intentionally having the fantasy is acting on it, because it strengthens and reinforces the sexualization of whatever is being immorally sexualized, which increases the chances of the act actually physically taking place.
For example, you said the mommy and daddy thing. I didn't even know that came from a legitimate parent/child fantasy until you said that. That's wild and intentionally indulging in these acts, especially if everybody were to, undoubtedly increases the chances of it happening.
Of course not all sexual indulgence is bad, but think of this. Two societies, exactly the same, one has totally normalized daddy/mommy/daughter/son kinks and the other hasn't at all. Which one do you think has higher rates of child abuse?
I am in awe of your ability to make literally any topic sound wholesome.
My goodness... Thank you for showing that sexual conversation and discussion, can be genuinely safe and wholesome. I'm really tired of all the sensationalism around sexuality! It is literally a major component of LIFE! It really is a topic we should be more open about, because sexual development and understanding, is really not simple, while ending up in a relationship or situation you can regret, is far TOO easy...
Yes! Sexuality isn't something that should be hidden or mystified but rather normalized! In your opinion, do you think we, as people, are heading toward normalizing sexuality?
@@Psych2go Hmmm, yes... But in some ways, we might be rushing it. I understand and appreciate the need for videos and just general discussions around it, because sometimes it's hard to find the words ourselves, you know? Plus, it's nice to know you're not alone and are indeed...
Normal...
...But, there are some people who are still stuck in their more, rigid ways. I personally can respect it, although I think the ideas can be a bit dated. They shouldn't be "forced" to change, but likewise, they shouldn't "force" others to be silent either.
Unfortunately, the real problem I believe, is when a few get too, publicly sexual and extreme. Which leads some of the more rigid people to cast sweeping statements about sexuality in general.
I think, showing and demonstrating a respectful alternative (like this video has), helps to counter the more extreme ways of moving us to a more sexually normalized, respectful and stable, future...
Well, that's what I believe and hope!😅
Edited: I corrected my mistake of saying *should*, instead of *shouldn't* "force".
NAH, PSYCH2GO READING MY MIND 💀
they be watchin me or sum 💀 i got called out at this point 💀💀💀💀
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Nah, it's because our horni is just too much lmfao 😂😂
Same bro, same
FR ✋😭😳
The fact that the narrator was just able to so easily compose herself during this vid is amazing, kudos! 👍
When I was in college about 20 years ago, I once dated a woman who was really into BDSM, especially being a submissive in petplay. Which was fine, because I enjoy aspects of BDSM as well. The problem is that she wanted to do it _all the time._ That's the thing about it (and any fetish, really); if you indulge in it too much, it gets old very quickly. And it may not work well with reality, either. Back then, I was working 3 jobs to put myself through college without student loans. No, I don't have money to spare for that fancy collar you found online. I'm in the middle of studying for midterms; I don't have the time or energy to learn suspension techniques. No, I'm not going to keep you in a cage overnight; do you have any idea what that'll do to your back? I want to sleep _with you in a bed._ No, I'm not going to keep you on a leash and walk you in the park; I don't feel comfortable with doing public play, and there could easily be personal and professional consequences for it. When I come home from a long day, I'd rather spend time eating dinner with you and find out how your day went, not have you eating out of a bowl at my feet. I'm dating you because I'm interested in _you,_ not your kinks. And if I wanted a dog, _I'd get an actual dog._
If this had been done with more moderation, I probably would have enjoyed it more. It requires lots of trust, communication, and knowledge of each other and what you're doing. That's actually what appeals to me the most; the idea that you can take control or give yourself over to someone else, and you know you'll be safe. Same goes with the logistics and planning. But just rushing into it headlong can be disastrous. Being the dominant can be fun, but it can also be incredibly stressful; someone has put their life and safety in your hands, and if you make a mistake, it can go bad _very_ quickly. I'm not there just to be an automatic pain and humiliation dispenser, either. If I could do it again with someone else, I'd want to be a switch; being able to just give up control, fears, and life's worries for a little while would be wonderful. But of course that would require a level of trust that I don't think is possible for me. Anyone I'd willingly give myself over to - even temporarily - would seriously have to earn it.
Also, I've attended the Folsom Street Fair (the largest fetish festival in the world) here in San Francisco twice as a photographer. It's actually really fun; think of it like Comic Con, except it's for every fetish you can possibly think of, complete with demonstrations and booths. The energy is positive and inviting; everyone there has different interests, and there's no judgment. There's also tons of creativity when it comes to costumes, techniques, etc. Someone getting led around on a leash is relatively mundane there. But I look at some of those people who do it 24/7 and wonder how they can possibly keep it up. It must be exhausting.
What does demonstration mean? They were throwing peaches at eggplants on the street?
sounds like she was mentally ill, thats could be a sing of borderline symdrome
wild college life you had there
Ok
Least kinky woman in SF:
This was nice to hear because any time I have any fantasies I feel ashamed and guilty and gross 😭
We're so glad that you feel this way. Sexual fantasies are a very normal part of human sexuality and while not all sexual fantasies should be acted on, some sexual fantasies can be opportunities to grow closer to your partner!
I DONT KNOW WHY but the presentation of this content on this channel is soOOOooo calming
I’ve been doing and sharing things with people since I started being sexual but I think still have much internalized shame .
and seeing it in this cutesy style along with the context of this channel mostly covering DSM and relationship topics that have nothing to do with kink feels like getting encouragement in a totally different way than seeking out media from spaces that are primarily about sex or bdsm or polyamory.
Thank you!!!
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@@pe3oxide?
Having a woman voice this makes it so much more comfortable because you never expect women to be able to talk about these sorts of subjects. It really reinforces for men (especially myself, who is trying to beat my own misogyny) that both genders get...well, horny.
Yes, we very definitely do.
Very
Very very horny…
Yes, women definitely get horny too. Absolutely! (female speaking here.)
Of course we do! Very lol
and good for you trying to overcome your internalized misogyny. I'm trying to do that too as a woman.
Me personally i dislike bdsm. I don't have any trauma (that i know of) but the thought of my senses being taken away spikes my anxiety. I do however, absolutely love being vanilla. Something about soft sweet passionate intercourse gives me butterflies and I can't stop blushing every time i daydream my fantasies. It really saddens me that many people judge vanilla saying things like "that's weak" or "you're not doing it right" (heard that one all too often). I'm very open discussing these topics but i feel like it's the sole reason why the many few relationships i had ended falling out. Sexual incompatibility is definitely a subject that this channel should look into. I'm very curious
Same here!
Omg same! I feel like what was normal before is being labeled as boring now whereas what was considered abnormal before is becoming the new norm… I’m not letting myself be discouraged by it, I want a healthy sex life honestly with a partner that doesn’t have weird (according to my preferences) kinks like these in the vid
me too and its actually cute and wholesome that you blush at your fantasies hahaa
I don’t like no whips and chains-
I really love this channel. Other than the fact it freely educates us on interesting topics - so we can always learn more and expand our knowledge - it also has a way of teaching us about topics that are "taboo" without feeling judged for it! I'm still exploring my own sexuality, so it's fun to listen to topics such as this, especially in the sense of what's more common and uncommon. I didn't know that multi-partner and roleplay was a pretty common fantasy, and in a way, it does kind of relieve me of the fear of feeling strange.
I’m not what you’d call “sex oriented,” identifying as somewhere in the grey area, and quite possibly demisexual (a hypothetical speculation until Mr. Right and I cross paths into each others’ lives).
Having said that, I do have kinky fantasies on a regular basis as part of my ongoing routine of self-care and personal therapy, which has also been a huge contribution in building and identifying new traits and interests.
The most important boost I’ve found is a positive “inner critic,” as my tendency to blame and/or shame myself for even the most socially taboo thoughts and/or weird ideas is practically nonexistent nowadays.
My headspace is and always will be a personal safe space, and if/when I find a partner who shares a similar perspective, I trust that his presence will also be a personally safe (and confidential) space for me, as my presence will always be for him. 💞
As an asexual, this definitely caught me off guard.
But as someone who loves psychology, I knew it'd be educational to watch anyway.
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You a flower?
@@utternonsenseproductions2415
Flowers are actually very sexual. Biologically speaking, they're the genitals of the plant. If you want asexual reproduction, Aphids are a great example. Most of the time, they're reproducing asexually.
@@utternonsenseproductions2415 A very beautiful one.
-A Queer Aroace
@@OmGoshStudios same, I hope I'm a foxglove
I'm a very open person and I have told my SO many things that I will not disclose but it has allowed both of us to feel comfortable though I'm still very shy talking to her because this is my very first relationship I want to be very open and intimate and watching these videos help me approach certain topics and in turn have a healthier relationship
Just having sex is enough of a fantasy for me.
Damn right, especially with a women who loves me and I love her
@@5ashll303 love is the fantasy. thats the thing nobody seems to want anymore.
@@LordOfNihil people don’t want love?
@@5ashll303 that would be my experience.
Lucky
Healthy relationships are ones where there are good levels of communication, trust and safety as well as mutual respect. And you are ready to share your sexual fantasies together🎯💟
Exactly. Just as there are people out there that use sex to abuse and assert control, there are also those that use sex as a way to connect with their loved one even more deeply. And as the video describes, sometimes that is shown by being dominant during intercourse! In this context, it's not the thoughts that matter, but how people go ABOUT those thoughts.
Very true. No one should feel forced to try out sexual fantasies. In your opinion, how can we get to a place where we feel comfortable enough to share our sexual fantasies with one another? How do we open up the conversation about sexual fantasies and overcome the fear of judgment?
@@Psych2go In my view, sexual fantasies need to be talked about more and learned about more. That is step number one towards helping people overcome the fear of judgment and stigmatism. Secondly, even with education, some people feel shy about expressing their sexual fantasies, because admittedly it does come from a very deep place inside someone. It represents someone's most intense and ferocious/primal desires. Not to say that its a bad thing, but that is an aspect to consider. Nevertheless, if you have a partner that is open, calm, and non-judgemental, then one should feel safe in opening up about these topics, and better yet, the relationship may actually improve dramatically as a result. Of course, that's not guaranteed, but you never know until you try.
@@Psych2go No one is a mind reader. If you are feeling a certain way about sex, you need to be direct and tell your partner how you feel. But one thing you really need to remember is to be positive and not critical - especially if you are discussing something about your sex life that is bothering you.
Discuss things both of you enjoy, and take baby steps into the world of exploring sexual fantasies and sensual ideas together.
Do you like play games? Use question 'What if?' and talk about your alterego.
it's nice to meet you and you LITERALLY always have and will be COMPLETELY right
I can’t believe how wholesome you make this sound
The biggest truth about fantasies which a lot of relationships have taught me, the majority are never admitted to. Most will only admit to the vanilla ones, out of social pressure to adhere to acceptable norms. It’s only after years of being with somebody will they let their guards down and admit to the more ‘less socially acceptable fantasies’.
69% were interested about different sensations. As an adult, this is comforting for me to hear. As for my mind of a child, that's a hilarious statistic
This video makes me feel so much better about some strange thoughts I have been having. I occasionally fantasize about things like this and I suppose it's because I'm transitioning into adulthood. To know I'm not the only one having these thoughts is comforting. As long as it doesn't harm yourself or others is really isn't that bad of a thing.
Thank you for clarifying that cosplay & role play are NOT the same. As a cosplayer I find it really annoying that so many males automatically assume I’ll “dress up for them” if we date. It weirds me out when guys say that, soon as they find out I cosplay. Automatic cut off😂
As a guy, myself... down to my core... The TRUTH is that I've never hoped a woman would dress UP... I've always been hoping (regardless of how I spoke or acted outwardly) that she'd UNDRESS!!! haha... I doubt most other guys are all that serious about the dressing UP deal... we're guys, and after about half-way through high school, not much really changes about us... ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 You’re not a woman nor a cosplayer, so you can’t speak on this issue. Youre not the one getting the “oh can you dress up as cat woman for me” messages from complete strangers. Only men that also cosplay understand, it’s a hobby not some sexual fantasy.
It just sounds the modern definition of social skill - nil. I get it from both sides, ( no I'm not bi), people in general think that dating is like making a selection from a drink machine, they want - they pay - they get. No. Women do it too. "I'm think I'm hot so I'm entitled..."
The fantasy thing, I believe is something that happens when you have a firm connection. What do you think?
I know you guys have done so in the past, but could you make a video on feeling disassociated with life. Either how to help someone who is feeling that way or common symptoms or causes?
Could you specify what you mean? Do you mean feeling dissociated from reality or detached from feelings? Maybe numbness? What do you mean by dissociation with life?
If you're talking about numbness, we have a video on that so maybe you can check this one out in the meanwhile! ruclips.net/video/1FqGH7xZlhA/видео.html
@@Psych2go Feelings mostly, and the feeling of not being able to fully comprehend the world. And I'm not sure if this qualifies, but a feeling of not being able to fully react to things and not being able to create whole thoughts and feelins, if that makes any sense.
Ur videos no matter what ur talking about I’ll watch because of ur calming voice animation and the way u explain
For me there is a big difference between what i fantasize about and what i actual like.
Some things are better in theory 😅
When I look back at some of the older cartoons like from the 80s and 90s, I get the feeling the writers definitely had some kind of BDSM in the brain. Especially when the episode or scene involved a male character getting captured by female villains.
And yet they expected us not to grow up with some kinks
@SometimeInMy30swasnt wonderwomans weakness being tied up by a man at some point
You can really explain it beautifully. And you have a calm voice. 😊
Off topic but i love that you guys included the Sims 3 on the computer! Also excellent video as always
my fantasy is being hugged
Kinky
Damn, too extreme for me 😔
Why are so many people starved of hugs (including me)
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Agree
Really interesting video! Never thought some kinks and fantasies were as common as they are. Of course there are a lot of fantasies that should just be fantasies and never acted on in real life, due to various factors, however, if you really wanna play out a fantasy, i've found that looking around on internet forums for sexual Roleplay can be really fun, no matter the medium. Be it through video chatting, only sound or simply just through text, it's a great way to play out those fantasies consensually in a way without actually harming anyone in real life. I do these kinds of text roleplays mostly because i'm Aegosexual (Basically i have no interest in actual relationships but i still experience sexual arousal), but another factor is that some of my fantasies just wouldn't work in real life, so having a medium for it is nice.
As silly as it sounds, cosplay is sort of a repressed one for me. I feel bad asking my partner to cosplay as her favorite character because it takes so much effort just for the fun of the explicit variety, and I am perfectly happy with how she is normally. For me, though, it's an opportunity for her to bare more of her soul during those times, and that's what I'm really into. I guess I'm into whatever makes me feel more connected with my partner, and I know I put my soul into it when having those moments.
I would be waaay too embarrassed to suggest cosplay. Plus I'd be afraid they would think I'm into that character and not into them.
This would be interesting to see statistic of what ages were surveyed and how the topics relate to these age groups. Also how does their belief systems play roles in what goes on.
from 9yo to 90 yo grandma like it rough baby
it's really great work u r doing....by talking about taboo, like the thing is most people have fantasies or even like the concept of such things but bcoz of the taboo they will hide it inside n never try it out......even when these things are common they r still the hush hush topic and many people call the others freak or bad things which is why they need to understand that"if something or someone is different that doesnt mean its abnormal but that means u urself are narrow-minded "...i like u r trying to normalize things.... GOOD work!!!
What I love about this channel is that you guys are not afraid to talk or bring up subjects like this! These are really good to talk about and they're interesting :D Thank you for making others feel comfortable to talk about subjects like these and be curious about them :D
Didn’t know these sexual fantasies are that common to have, I’ve heard of some of these different fantasies but I don’t know how to feel about them, not that I judge of course we all love different types of stuff, as long as you and your partner love each other, are comfortable and are respecting each other. ❤️
~2:00 I'm very impressed with that costume
I'll never say these videos are wrong, they're more helpful than anything else on the internet. But...that was only 3 wasn't it? You said 4, and the title is 5.
My ocd noticed that too, had to check to see if anyone else saw or if I was just being picky😅
Regardless, I still found it very informative! (And I'm also glad I wasnt alone in spotting that)
@@ImKloan Stop using mental illness to describe petty quirks. Noticing a wrong number in the video isn’t fucking OCD
Omg I new something was off, I was like, "huh, that went faster the there usele 4 to 5 fact stuff." I'm glad I'm not loosing my mind lol
Your voice is very soothing and elegant. It's pleasant for my ears
I love when people talk about normal people things without stigmatizing it or letting the stigma follow it. We're all human. We all have these fantasies and even weirder ones.
Yes, we are all capable of being murderers.
I enjoyed this video. Are you going to talk about the niche side of sexual fantasies, like certain fetishes? I'd love to see this topic discussed further!
you can find that in any porn website
Interesting idea. Could you tell us more about the kind of fetishes you would like to see us address?
@@Psych2go i would like a video about foot fetish. Its such a common fetish
@@KRANKFRIED16 ...
@@niisigh5478 what's your problem? I don't have a foot fetish but it's still interesting to know why certain ppl have them
I needed to hear that such desires were normal and healthy. Thank you.
Me as well
You're welcome! Did you learn anything new from the video?
@@Psych2go That I was attempting to suppress my sexual desires/kinks because I thought they were unhealthy. Assuming this is within the realm of your team's expertise, a video detailing the line between healthy and unhealthy sexual desires would be very helpful! Thank you for beginning to normalize these kinds of conversations and for making such information accessible!! (:
I've predicted you would talk about this topic and OMG I KNEW IT !!!! Anyway, thanks for the juicy topic ;)
P/s: sorry for the late reply, just saw this in my recommend
Honesly, when i was younger like, early teen I thought I was so wrong for liking the idea of my future man tieing me up or me tieing him up, I thought something was wrong with me until now, so thank you for putting my brain at ease. Also, does anyone else love the idea of there partner acting one way but as soon at it gets spicy his personality switches? Like, for example, lets say when things are not spicey everyone including his bros think he wold be dom and stuff because of how he acts outside of woohoo time, but as soon as it gets spicy he becomes flustered, hes your big or little sub (-sandwich), your the one being the dom... Anyone? Please i must know! Am. I. The. Only. One. (I really hope not)
YES I KNOW WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT-
bahahahahah thats me.
FemDoms in the chat
[Edit: thanks for sharing that y'all exist even if rare, helps curb the stereotypical male sexual expectation to HAVE to be dominant / excessively masculine to be sexually attractive]
That's the plot of many popular adult one-shots (stories with 1 chapter), so many people like it 🤭
Mild people being dominant in bed or people with strong character being shy during intimacy
There's a lot of stories that have softer versions of that plot in romances: people showing a different personality with their loved one, so I think it trascends sex preferences.
You are into insecure people that aren't ready to tell the world who they really are. Strange kink.
Theres alot of fantasies people have out there. Shouldn't feel shamed for them because everyone has something in their minds. Would only say to keep a sane healthy mind in the process.
Off topic but as an amateur artist, I absolutely love your artstyle in your videos
That was a VERY important thing to talk about. Since I am into cosplay and role play topics. And some of other things mentioned here I would like too. so thank you for making me feel normal x3
You're welcome! It's great to hear that discussing these topics made you feel more comfortable and validated in your interests. Embracing your passions and hobbies is important, and it's always nice to find others who share similar interests. Don't be afraid to explore and continue to delve into the things that bring you joy! By the way, what other topics would you like us to cover next?
@@Psych2go Yes, some of the episodes on the chanel are priceless! They can really make us feel better about ourselves. I'm really thankful. And the topics? I'm happy you ask me directly! :D I wish you guys could make a new version of an old video about stages of a friendship falling apart. And more about warning signs about relationships falling apart. Also more about dealing with anxiety and how to built meaningful relations. It would be totally the best if Amanda Silvera would be the voice for those. So far the best psych2go voice very well understandable for a foreigner like I.
guko and vigita cosplay
I was literally **just** thinking about my weird kinks how does psych2go read my mind like this i am.........
RIBS NEEDS TO WATCH ALL OF YOUR VIDS bc it helps so much and this video popped up and felt the urge to say Rivs needs this channel
Sexual fantasies. I can't remember who said this, and exactly how they said it, but essentially what they said was along the lines of "as long as you understand the difference between fantasy and reality, there's nothing wrong with having these fantasies play out". There shouldn't be any shame for having these thoughts play out. It's how you ACT upon those thoughts that displays your character.
I've had lots of run ins with various BDSM homies, in my life. Some of them are good friends.
One trait I always caught on is how they express their day-to-day life, and how damn creative it is.
They don't even need to do BDSM or sexual things to have the most active, and fascinating days.
They're always so creative.
freaks are always good in sex
That's fascinating. What are some things that you found to be creative in people who do BDSM? How is it shown in their day to day life?
@@Psych2go how they do their makeup, to the clothes they wear, or what they plan to do in their free time. I actually got inspired by a friend of mine who has an exceptional taste in fashion.
They rlly are a different breed of human, and not in a bad context either. They're genuinely fasscinating and I love hanging out with them.
Can we talk about how much love and attention every one of these videos gets?
I mean... Look at 0:40, they went out of their way to draw this just for a transition.
That's some real dedication for a vid that may never break 1M views.
That's some underestimating a vid that beat 1,6M
They know what they do
@@mekhanya think for a second how many views this had when I posted this.
The way I fangirled at the Sims 3 logo at 0:11 :'|
2:27 that’s an amazing job name
It's so dumb!
Jean Milburne if you know her
I'm open with my husband, and he is with me. It makes for an amazing love life. Even if we're uncomfortable with the other's ideas, we can generally find something that satisfies that feeling and makes the other comfortable at the same time. My best advice to anyone is open and healthy communication always done in love and not in anger.
I wasn’t expecting to feel uncomfortable with the discussion of multi-partner sex, it could be that I’m demisexual or that it plays into my self-doubt to my worth, but I enjoyed the video overall
Difficult being in a situation where you and your SO have very opposite sexual needs and ones needs/desires are only triggers for the others anger/discomfort/bad feelings. Sexual Incompatibility perhaps?
I'd love to see a video from Psych2Go on this topic. I also experience these similar feelings.
You make the most butt tickling topics look so aesthetically pleasing and the chibi artstyle makes it look so cute what😭😭😭
Thanks for making me feel normal :)
Their voice is so calming, yet the topic is so lewd. My brain just keeeps switching
It's a great reminder of how wrong and manipulative this is.
Watching this on the bus on the way to school
Most important fact about fantasies, most are best kept private and never lived out, that's what makes it a fantasy
full respect just to the ability to talk about this stuff with so much confidence. just curious, how many takes did you need to get everything right?
I know nowadays it’s normal the threesomes and orgies things but, is it just me that feels really uncomfortable and thinks it’s wrong doing it with your partner? I’m asking because I really want to know other’s thoughts. It just feels very wrong and it kinda worries me if my partner is into that…
im kind of weird that i never found multi-partner sex much of a turn on. 1 on 1 sex is a lot more intimate. also it kind of feels like cheating, or an excuse to cheat and get away with it, or at the very least leave someone in the lurch, or that it becomes some kind of competition. relationships are hard enough without throwing that monkey wrench into the works.
@@LordOfNihil exactly how i feel and this worries me alot because it’s becoming so normalized…
I think it depends on the intention. There are some people who may take advantage of multi-partner sex to cheat and that is a huge red flag to look out for. However, if it is communicated clearly with your partner and you express your feelings and concerns, then you both can decide how to best approach the topic. It can hopefully open up a discussion about how to best fit you and your partner's needs. What is it about multi-partner sex that is appealing to them? What is it that feels wrong to you? What could be done to accommodate for both of your needs in a safe, consensual way? As long as the communication is there with ALL consenting parties, I don't see an issue.
This is coming from someone who is in a polyamorous relationship with 2 partners but is really only sexually intimate with 1 of those partners. I'm more platonic with my girlfriend and we communicated that clearly and we're both sexually intimate with our boyfriend. I don't personally consider it cheating in my case because we are only dating each other and our relationship is just exclusive to the three of us for the time being.
But yeah, communication is absolutely important and there are varying types of relationships to keep in mind. Don't be afraid to discuss your concerns and hopefully your partner has an open mind to take your needs into consideration.
Base your standards on yourself and what you want, not on what other people like
You probably think that because of religious beliefs. Religion is the main reason most people are monogamous relationships/sex.
I had this very freaking wack dream once and I will never forget that magical moment:
I imagined that I was a normal human that was adopted into a mushroom-people/fairy garden world, and my friends were all gonna go out for the evening and I asked my mushroom grandpa if I could go and he said yea and to be careful at nighttime (cuz nighttime is when a lot of people really get crazy)
Anyway, my mushroom/fairy friends and I (simple human) went out and about, shopping and stuff, then came across this cool circus-like tent that had this very popular band of guys that do trapeze art…
It was NOT clear to any of us that THIS WAS A STRIP SHOW. And yes, THEY INVOLVED THEIR AUDIENCE AT RANDOM.
In any case, my group and myself got picked up, tossed around, pleased, and absolutely had a blast of a show, the main lead of the band of artists taking a severe interest in me.
This was the coolest thing ever and I could not stop thinking about it for a week or two. I still remember it crystal clear.
Good stuff 😚👌
@@Psycho_Badass that’s an amazing dream. Hope it comes true for ya man.
I...don't even know how , I mean HOW DID YOU MAKE A TOPIC LIKE THIS ACTUALLY SEEM WHOLESOME , I think this channel has some secret superheros or something cause I don't even know how you did this
I've found that sexual fantasy (not to go into too much detail on my part) is mostly a way of blowing off steam, and working out anxiety over an idea that makes me uncomfortable; it's been pushed on me too much, I've been shocked by it, or so on. Quite honestly, some fantasies have revolved around things I wouldn't even consider in real life . . . whcih is also why they get tiresome and stop working after a while.
Definitely didn't expect a video like this 😳
We love the element of surprise! Did you learn anything new from the video?
@@Psych2go Yes it was actually really helpful in helping me to express myself 😇
i find therapists tend to go out of their way to avoid talking about sex. i think this is seriously a mistake. how can one discuss their sexual trauma with someone who does not even want to discuss their more positive sexual experiences?
I love that she is talking about this so calmly like it's normal
As someone who enjoys consensual non-consent this is a very awkward topic for many people. As long as everyone enjoys what's happening and these people can give consent/have no chance of permanent physical/psychological damage everything you want to do is okay to do :)
Videos like this really go to show that sex isn’t something to be afraid or ashamed of. It’s to be respected, surely, but not feared or obscured.
Obscurity and ignorance are hazardous pitfalls.
Good sex education goes so far beyond those awkward and uncomfortable times in the classroom during the most uncomfortable times of our young lives.
this clears everything, thank you kind person.
If you have covered something like I'm gonna explain it would be helpful to link it.
It's weird to me that for some reason I'm more Intune with my emotions when I use substances such as alcohol and marijuana. I want to feel my emotions because I believe they can help me make better decisions when it comes to family and friends but I find it difficult to connect to them when I'm sober.
I've been described as cold and "heartless" when it comes to my personal relationships and I've been told it's easier to be with my intoxicated self because I am more "human" when I'm that state.
The way my eyes went wide at the first one on the list but then i reeled myself back because why was i even surprised 😂
😂 Why was the first one surprising for you?
ive been having bsdm fantasies since i was 6. unfortunately never found a partner i could explore that with.
@@Psych2go initially i thought the percentage of people who like it rough was huge but i realized it's just normal and it made sense 😮💨 sometimes i think the human race is just freaky n kinky
this channel does better things to my mental health than my family and i love it
I often fantasize about a loving relationship
I am here! Also good vid! Sometimes psychology is so interesting :D