The Challenges Of Dating As A Black Woman
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"It's hard to be a black woman dating black men, it's hard to be a black woman dating white men...it's hard to be a black woman."
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Daysha Edewi
Never knowing if he really likes you or he's just curious.....
Only the real ones will get it!
Right 😖 this is the most hurtful. Realizing you were a new flavor to try.
@@ImpressDivinity so freaking true.
Fam, I felt this on a molecular level
Bbrrruuhhh, I'm in a situation right now.
Bless this comment
I hate it when people say you’re pretty for a black girl or when people think you’re mixed race because you don’t fit the criteria of a full black women. Just say we’re beautiful. Stop with the backhanded compliments! 😡
Yes! Everyone thinks I'm mixed it's so frustrating. Or when I wear weave they say ignorant things like "That looks like it could be your real hair because your light skin "😠 I have witnessed my darker skin sisters told such horrible things about themselves it pisses me off. And also we as black people are the most diverse we come in so many different beautiful shades it's really a blessing but some want of to feel like it's a curse.
Yess. People think I’m mixed ALL THE TIME. When I tell people I’m actually full black they really try to TELL me I’m mixed. Like no just cuz I’m light skin doesn’t mean I’m white stfu
I'm mixed and people often say I have the 'right perfect' shade of black. Like dark skin,light skin,mixed, non mixed black women are all beautiful and isn't a skin color that makes a person uglier or less desirable
Maryam Dramé I get that all the time because I have “mix girl hair”
You’re beautiful 😊
Other people trying to flirt : Does he like me ?
Me : Does he like black women ?
Do you think that when you are thinking about black men too?
Stop asking that question.
And.... Take the"S" off of like.
It's Does he like me?
It's NOT Does he likes me.
literally!
Felt that
amina traoré 😭😭😭
"They see my blackness before they see me as a person" I don't know how to react to that, can someone tell me ?
Matthieu Wise We can’t tell you how to react 🤷🏾♀️
Matthieu Wise you don’t. It’s nonsense from colorism crybabies.
That's like wearing a neon yellow shirt and expecting no one to notice you in the morning.
@@itsmob4life I can't even respond to the ignorance
Mary Am of course, colorism crybabies are ignorant
Black women: says anything
Everyone else: BUT WHAT ABOUT MEEEEEE?
BLACK FOLKS CANT HAVE NOTHIN
Very true
Everytime!
lmaooooo
This is so true! Damn people dont let us have a moment where we express ourselves our struggles without them even saying a thing. I think no one will understand the struggle, they will compare their struggle as bigger than ours!
Being told you’re pretty for a black girl, or having so called friends being surprised guys find you attractive because of being black says a lot on what people think.
Bre Shawntae yes!!!
Girl! I've been getting ALOT more play since I moved to NYC and lemme tell you these girls are thown for a loop.
Never date someone who says
“I am not sure if I want to date right now, though I’m curious how it would feel like to date a black woman/dark skinned/light skinned.”
TURN THEN and never
NEVER
LOOK BACK.
Uh yeah...sort of obvious, but thank you for saying that in defense of people who have suffered that indignity.
Who even says that 😂 that’s not normal
@@BoniLdn You'd be shocked. My friend had an incident with this one guy she went on a date with, and it went similarly to this.
J-HOPPPPEEEEE
@@random1477 God you're so immature
Dating while black is already hard but dating while young and disabled and black is even harder
How disabled are we talking? Wheelchair? Tourettes? Feminist?
@@gracefire9067 I didn't ask you. Disabled people aren't all the same. I'm only interested in the person above. Not you.
@@JohnDoe-jt5lb Feminist 😂😂😂
@@udaykhanna1 I 😠
Being young is good for dating. It only gets worse with time.
I find it interesting that people who aren’t black women , are saying it’s no different dating as a black woman . Lol , I understand every situation each girl explained in this video . It is different dating as a black woman , don’t make a ignorant comment and try to tell me someone you’ve walked in their shoes . It’s different for everyone out here
It's odd how people just don't like to even try to understand someone else's experience.. I'm pretty white and I completely understand what they mean and I feel sorry that there's a bunch of negativety for something as simple as dating... I hope in the future things will be better...
Right it's just like me being a light skin black woman I have no idea what dark skin women go through they are treated the worst. Not only for outside of our race but inside. ( The Wille Lynch letter)
There are problems dating no matter what race but as a white women I do hear more dating stereotypes about black women then I do about Asian or white women. Everyone has struggles the other races or even people of the same race don't understand. It's crazy that people try to make it all about them a the time.
What you are saying is something a person would have to experience day in and day out......Non Black women interpretations is limited without the experience
This is the best thread in this joint. Stay woke and awesome you guys
It's very disappointing that we're in 2018 going to 2019 soon and this still exists
It does and it's sad
and it will get worse sadly
Its cuz the media is actively advocating for white supremacy and anyhting thats against black women
Its called life!
I would date a black woman actually, they look beautiful, but because I am in a relationship I just draw them whenever I feel like it:>
Me: *not talking, just been quiet*
Everyone: OMG black women are sooo loud,why are they always shouting?????
Me: seriously?!
Hi miriam seye,can we be friends
@@jeffperreras8529 how old are u?
33,how about you
where you from,
@@jeffperreras8529 AHAHA you are joking then,please I don't want your friendship thanks
Honestly i'm just over the whole dating scene. I have no desire to be on dating apps anymore nor do I feel the need to go out just for the purpose of getting a man. I would love to be with my own but a lot of us have self hate issues..I'm enjoying being single and child free and I ask God to give me discernment. God will lead my husband to me and that's that. In the meanwhile I work on myself. Black women being single without a child in your 30s is ok..and darkskin women you guys are beautiful don't let anyone bring you down
Yes. Girl I think we should step away from this stupid matrix of privilege and heartache.
@@stanfatou2002 what are you talking about
@La La are you condoning games?
ousmane barry Your opinion is not wanted or needed
WAT A LADY. GROW A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD THERES MUCH LIGHT TO SHARE FROM YOU
It is not an issue to have a preference but if your reasons to not date black women are based off of stereotypes (oh they are loud, oh they have “nappy” hair .. etc) then thats an issue!
Yes, date women of other races if that's what you want. However, don't put me down in the process. There are white men who date interracial, however I have yet to see a white man speak negatively of his woman. We're human beings not stereotypes.
Linda Flores Exactly!
Stereotyping is the worst thing to do judging a book by its cover before reading the contents black lady's are no louder than any other woman fact.
I agree with this so much! That's where the whole "are preferences racist?" Debate comes in. No preferences are not racist. However
"I prefer to date people who are (insert race here)" is a preference. Not racist, not harmful.
"I don't like black women because their hair is dirty and distracting and they are all too loud and aggressive so I like other races more" is not a preference. Its ignorance.
YES!!!
When she said "the non black and the black guys didn't want to date black girls " I felllltttt thatttttt!!!! It's so true! There's this "angry black woman thing"....I dunno...it's tough 🤷🏽♀️
Yup and it’s especially painful to hear from people who look just like you, may have had the same stereotypes cause they’re a part of your ethnic groups and they watch you and say ... ‘black women are too loud/have an attitude/ always angry or my personal favorite that you’re too dark to date” I’ve been told I’m pretty for a dark person so many times, I think I’d become that angry black woman they keep telling me I am and slap someone the next time I hear it. And I also hear this from women. I have tried to explain that ‘for’ does not make it a compliment and I do not accept it as one, in fact it’s completely disrespectful and I am not an exception to any made up ridiculous rule. Sometimes ignorance is just too tiring to confront
Selena Ray aye you watch fairy tail frfr?
PRIME Yh I do actually!!
SweetScienceAPA I don't know if she's stereotyping, I can only speak to what I see in the community I'm in, and what I see is that honestly black lady's always seem like less of a choice for some guys🤷🏽♀️ maybe I'm not putting it correctly but yh🤷🏽♀️
SweetScienceAPA I'm including light skinned women
When Daysha said "people need to be okay with being uncomfortable by the truth of other people experiences" that hit a nerve! You can't change what other people have been through, you can only control YOUR own decisions and how you decide to react.
As a black woman. When people look at me, I want them to see my blackness. I want them to look at me and say, "Wow. She's so pretty." I don't want you not to acknowledge my color, but I just don't want you to see my color in a negative light. That's why the phrase, "I don't see color." is so stupid to me. I want you to see my dark skin, but don't hate me for it.
R You looking for a relationship with a good man I am LOOKING for a good woman💋💭💌💌
Well, no human is the color black. It's your ethnicity people notice... Not skin complexion.
So you want people to 24/7 call you a black girl? “You’re a beautiful black girl”, “You smell nice today black girl”. Gets kinda redundant doesn’t it?
So if a white guy says he likes black girls you don't take offense? If so awesome lol
Rather than be seen as someone of color they should just see you as a woman first.
Try doing this with Asian dudes next, I’d love to hear their stories.
Buzzfeed did a similar video with Eugene but it was regarding how Asian men are perceived in movies. Really interesting you should watch. And yes they definitely need to do Asian men next.
This would be really interesting to see
David Soundara Same sis
I don’t really think asian guys have a problem, but that’s probably because almost half my school is asian
Sumire Cat I only say this because I know Asian guys have a problem trying to date other Asians because reasons. Usually one being that Asian girls say “oh he looks like my brother”
I never understood this ive dated African American and African women all my life, can't get enough 😭 they hold you down like no other, many can dance, bomb cooking, great hairstyles (natural or not), relate and discuss race/cultural issues, and so on. Like why wouldn't a black man want a black woman it's crazy to me. Nothing wrong with dating outside your race but actually putting down black women because you like other types of women is unnecessary.
Kevin A. Kevin, you’re a gem ✨
Love you brother. Have an amazing day.
Thank you 🙌🏿
So if I can't dance, don't cook, and can't hold it down, then I won't meet your criteria for a black woman 🙄
That's what we've been saying, Kevin.
The media has been putting these negative stereotype about black women and unfortunately there those who buys into that stereotype.
American media you mean..lets get to the root of the problem..america is a cesspool
House of Zuma true but shows like love and hip hop are extremely popular
@@nmessai215 it is but it's still premote negative stereotypes on black women
Peedi Piper the media with the 100% approval of black women. This video is another example of how black women love all of the negative stereotypes.
Trust me, it took me a lot of a time to get creepy guy vibe off. It was like for a half of the year for the girl I loved : that creep is just likes me cause I'm AA, that creep loves any AA woman, that creep now is stalking me, okay he seriously wants to date me and I was very wrong for the half of the year.
My black sisters.. We Asian men feel some of your pain. 😪😥
Asian men date out at a high rate even in spite of being the last desired race of men, our problems are not even close to being identical.
@@norashouldknow7091 Hey I was just trying to empathize with the dating troubles of black women. If you'd like to keep the gold trophy for least desirable dating category, be my guest. 🤷♂️ I'm not here to take it from ya. Though I'm unsure where you find all these Asian men dating outside their race. Just because you see a handful, does not mean it happens everywhere. That's called generalizing.
No, we don't
@Mocha Princess No we don't, Asian men have it good. What are you talking about?
@@lovablevietboy nowadays yes, asian men and women have an easier time dating, but a few decades back there were a lot of negative stereotypes cast upon asian men. Luckily, the majority have moved past such stereotypes and are seen as much more desirable now. Sadly enough, black women, despite centuries of presence in America have not yet moved past such things. But I'm glad you're having a good time!
I just watched a video called “what nationality would you date.” Not one person interviewed said black women. They all listed European, South American and Russian. I was fascinated and watched another video called “what nationality would you NOT date.” Only one person said black women....he happened to be a black man. A lot people said middle eastern. This world can wreck havoc on our self esteem. We should not take this to heart and learn to love ourselves/others without the validation of society. There are people out there that love how we look. It can be hard but we can do it! ✊🏾
But you can be European and be black, you can South American and be black as I am of one those people(?!) So...
Raísa I think they meant ethnicity or race
That's sad having dated black ladys all my life my preference by the way , I could never see myself being with other woman from any other race just my preference though I don't hate my own race nor others.
I think nationality and race are getting mixed up tbf. I'm black (race) and Scottish. (Nationality) Not mixed. Black x
Why even subject yourself to that? I feel like this narrative has played out enough times to know what most people are going to say
I‘m from Germany and it’s really weird in school because we are only 15 black/mixed people in the whole school and I HATE when my friends try to tell me that it’s hard to find a boyfriend if you’re tan and they try to compare their tan with my blackness. It’s a difference to be tan and have those ”nice“ curls that are “pretty“ or to be black and have an Afro. Like, it’s not the same so don’t try to tell me that we have the same chances because we don’t.
Lmao 15? We're like 5 in my school😂😂😂😂
Try being the only black girl in your whole college
@@matildaodametey6458 Wow, what college do you go to?
Rachael S. it’s in the UK...i don’t live in America so college here is like the last 2 years of high school. I’ve been the only black girl in my entire school for a long time
Scheiß einfach auf alle in der Schule. Du bist eine Königin. :-*
"I think I'm the right type of black woman" 🤔 didn't know there is a right and wrong type 😑
No matter the shape or color in a person, the important thing is his spirit, morals and discipline
Wow. This hits home. And why is strong the only adjective used to describe black women? Black women can be and are soft, feminine, flirty, dainty, affectionate, vibrant, lovable and so many words other than strong. Dating is hard when you're actively seeking and those around you have met someone. It's hard when you're the last of your childhood, high school and college friends (of all ethnicities) who is single. You open yourself up only to be told you're undesirable and not worthy of love. That's awful.
Honestly, yeah. In the video they were talking about black women being too aggressive, but only use one adjective to describe us. Like, yes SOME of us our strong, but we are women, regardless of race, other women can be strong and independent too. They're talking about stereotypes, then fitting themselves into one. I am more sensitive, fragile, and caring more than I am strong.
Yall think yall have dating struggles.. Lol yeah right... Us clean cut black men have it the worst.. We seek out black women but the only ones that want us are women of other races
@Liin Deshea It's Joseph Martin's loss. If you just focus on one guy that's very limiting.
You look very beautiful in your RUclips photo. I'm sorry it's been so difficult for you.
Liin Deshea You should have told him first.Anyways, dont feel bad.There are plenty of fish in the sea.And be happy that you live in a culture and country where you are free to date whomever you want.Think about the millions of women in those countries where arranged marriages are the norm.
I love when people who can't possibly understand your struggles, try to dimiss them😒🙄
Bijou You're probably no different
IKR...who wants to hear people that disagree with them?
Because they should be the only ones to listen?
I'm a black woman and I find all this totally stupid. I mean if dating was so hard for black women, most of us would be single, unmarried and don't have children. But we all know that it's not true.
Hummingbird
Having kids has nothing to do with dating. The marriage stats are low for black American women though.
The amount of times people have said to me "you're pretty for a dark skinned girl" is unreal like it's a compliment or something, it's really sad that there's all these stereotypes about us, we are human too with feelings. Just get to know us and make judgements on our character individually that's all we ask.
But you all do the same
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Jessina
God made you sooo 🌹🌹beautyfil
0:36 woooow did she go to my school?? Lol! NONE of the black dudes dated any of the black girls at my school, same thing at my college except for like ONE black couple and that was it! 🤣
I had a hispanic GF. She was easier to talk to and showed me she cared. Black women are difficult to talk to. They have to talk over you
@@EnclaviousFiraga ok but you're grouping all black women into one big stereotype that you dont like. Not all black women are like that, I don't speak over people. Just because you had a bad experience with some black women does not mean that all of them would do that
@@ksm13706 Lol. No black women are difficult. Period. I'm black so you know there's a problem if all the black girls act the same to a certain degree
@@EnclaviousFiraga LOL. If you say so
@@ksm13706 I have yet to meet one that doesn't scare me off after the first day. Lol. Sorry for being insensitive or whatever but I must live in a bad area because the girls here have NO individuality.
What she said was true about intimidation and the portrayal of black women In the media
Willow L. Death but that's how you guys act?
ddd ddd “You guys”? I’m white
Everything in the video was true. It happened to me countless times
@@alexc797 indeed
sym that's how black women act I've been around them my whole life
I could never get a date in middle school and high school bc of my skin. Guys thought I was cute but they couldn’t see themselves with a black girl.
lol @ dating in middle school. No wonder millennial are so wayward in their way of thinking
Bide love how you assume my generation... also yes dating in middle school aka silly school dances where you take a boy, in a silly middle school way but you can’t find someone brave enough to take the little black girl who’s the only dateless one out of your friends. It’s silly but don’t belittle my experience
@@koolklub not trying to "belittle" your experience, but I take it you're in the age group of 21-35 yes?...Nevertheless the term "dating" can be interpreted in a variety of ways. SO I commend you for your explanation.
@@MrBenji1059 stfu
Yeah I am feeling that right now. The worst part is when they would flirt or text with you in private, but not even give you the time of day in public. I just keep telling myself that college boys will be better.
The comments on this video make me wanna get into spaceship and fly far away from earth as I possibly can 🤣🤣
Go ahead
Can I come with u
Dont go anywhere 😂 in my opnion black woman are most beautiful woman in earth
Taking any passengers?
Cuié na net
I am a black women I have never had a issue dating black or white however what i did notice from watching this video is most of the women on here do not look feminine or well maintained that might be the problem.
thank you for saying that. And least one woman looks like straight up guy and another one just looks like a large somewhat effeminate guy.
The woman at 3:30 is the best looking out of all of them. For the majority of them their appearance is holding them back
@@XavielRUclips WORD LIFE!!!!!
I have a huge crush on this darkskinned black girl, it's not BECAUSE she's dark skin and black and not in a fetishizing way, I like her so much becuase of her personality, her being darkskin and black is a plus because I love our hair and I prefer black girls in general. And I swear I really have connection with this girl and I'm tryna wife her, dont let anyone tell you you arent attractive because of your heritage, attractiveness is subjective. But wish me luck y'all lol
LS Kwuake best of luck. Everyone deserves love
@@tinasnow2006 thank you 🙏🏽
Aww good luck to you!
good luck
Good luck
If a man tells you they are not attracted to a dark skin black woman .You are a lot better off with out them !!!!!!
What do you mean?
Do black girls like white boys.
@@paulcooper5748 Do you think every black woman is the same?
@@rainandpetalsss6244 Of course not.
maduro169 that’s one way to make the feel better huh
I am a mestiza from
Colombia, but gotta recognize ... There’s nothing like a Black Queen. My respect to those beautiful souls out there.
cowgirl boots thank you very much for those kind words ❤️
@Emanyole Cole she said she is mestiza ,NOT black
you can't compare a FULL black african girl with a pretty mixed mestiza lol. Mestiza are pretty. I am 6'4 , i am aleman/german , blue/grey eyes , cabello/hair dark blonde/rubio ocuro , 1'92 estatura " Ich liebe dich"
Emanyole Cole there are Afro latinos in Colombia, Brazil, Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, Cuba ... etc no just in Mexico, actually Mexico has more roots of indigenous communities. Just to make sure you know that there’s a phenotype and genotype aspects....wait a min what a about Black Indians ? Are they black to you? They don’t have wooly hair.
Either way, I understand your comment... I’m just showing respect to the Black Queens. It’s just FACTS they deserve it. I’m not claiming to be them in order to show respect.
@@IBroLLyISePhIrOtH you Germans you think that to be tall is to be beautiful. That scale you use is different from that of other races
someone please help Daysha....sis I love you but the hair is a no
Oh my lord...
I know that you weren’t trying to bully here but that came off as harsh.
So much for sisterhood. Form bonds with sisters in previous post then less than a few minutes later, or shall I say a few comments later, throw shade to a fellow struggling sister you're in agreement with for something as simple as her hairdo? Talk about pettiness? SMH!
Now you see why people keep their distance? If you can't have the sista you were just riding with back, then how are suppose to hold down your man's back when times get rough? Who wants disloyalty from their woman?
@@ascotthumphrey I wasn't shading her, I believe Queens fix other Queens crowns. She's brilliant, beautiful and funny, if it was instagram I'd dm her but its RUclips dude. Still totally supportive. I can support someone and not ride their dicks. If I made a video and had lipstick on my teeth or something, I would be so thankful for someone calling me out. But that's me. And if you doubt it when I used to make instagram videos and someone called out the fact that my brows were two different people, I liked the comment, laughed and found a way to fix it.
@@c.m.b.7567 I said what I said
before you type your ignorant comments remember, listen to understand not to respond. thank you.
Yess!
It's quite ignorant of you to say such a thing but alright
It's quite ignorant of you to say such a thing but alright
It's quite ignorant of you to say such a thing but alright
#believewomen...............lol
I’m a black girl and I have always been in a white school and I have never been asked out it does make me really sad and I develop depression because I was always left out. I loved the video it does really help. Thank you
I've been in black schools, white schools, diverse schools and at 26 have never been asked out.
I developed depression at a very young age and struggle with it still till this day. I feel lonely, left out and not attractive. I'm very passive yet out spoken..I don't let people walk over me..very strong black woman but no man has ever approached me..
It's very hard...so hard
Same! I'm a 27 y/o black woman never dated and never been asked out lol. Live your life and at some point we'll meet the right person.
Im white in a white school and don't even have friends, let alone have been asked out.
BOOGuh BOOGuh I’m so sorry that you had to go through that❤️💋
Natty Xlv I like the positivity in you 💋❤️❤️❤️
4:50 as a black brownskin girl i agree with this whole statement she said. its so easy for a white girl, latina, asian girl to mock us black women when they act boujie, bad, can "rap" or twerk character traits but when its a black girl who likes to be natural herself (me) and have some fun we always get labeled as loud, unatteactive etc & it's irritating.
Because yall go too far
@@alecgurney9305 did i ask for your response? no i did not. ain't nothing wrong with us black girls expressing ourselves bc its called having fun! i just don't like the hypocrisy but i could care less.
@@its.alacia Nah, y'all too loud and disrespectful. Blah blah blah
@@seekersudarshan2078 I’m black and not like that. I’m literally asked to speak up at school…
I'm a dark skinned black women who is educated, can cook clean, work hard and have fun and I've never had a problem dating black or any other race. I've dated black, white, Spanish, and Arabic men and I'm married to an Indian man. I think its truly about you and your personality and how you carry yourself not race.
@Deborah Singh
You married one of us Indians? I want to see wedding pictures! What's your favorite Indian dish? Did you convert religions?
@@MistahUnknown mutton and rice is my favorite dish. No I haven't converted I'm still a Christian and he's still Sikh. I can't upload any photo at this time. Sorry
@@deborahsingh2011 Do you mean Lamb Biryani? Does everyone on both sides of the family get along? I have to ask because us Indians are very picky. Haha.
@@MistahUnknown yes lamb biryani. And yes indians can be very very discriminatory against darker skin people even there own.
@@deborahsingh2011 So why marry one? We know why you did.
I usually don't comment on videos but I just want to say I'm so glad that this video is made. I've lived my whole life in Europe as a black woman with white people (who I very much love), but when it came to dating I was always like am I treated different because of my color? And I had nobody to really talk about it because I had nobody to relate so it's nice to see I'm not the only one who experience this.
To my fellow black women, y'all beautiful! All women are beautiful!✨👑
Im in the same situation!
L A that’s unfortunate. I would’ve thought Europeans were more evolved than that.
L A im sorry to hear that cause me being European (German) I feel bad that that is what people make you feel like! Just ignore them cause no queen can be treated like that.
Samee! In which country are you living?
L A Dating AS black woman in Europe is not easy. I'm a african woman living in Germany. I've heard from people that I should say I'm African-American instead of African because it's more attractive. Or that I'm lucky that I'm not dark skined - don't try to compliment me while insulting other people.
But for me the hardest part is not knowing if the other person is really interested or if they're just curious about beeing with a black person like some kind of fetish.
i love being a black girl...even though we go through struggles we’re so strong...i love all my fellow black girls , too 🤧💕
👸🏾👏🏾
Aye, cringe. I really hope your under 18 referring to yourself as a girl. Otherwise, yea!
Yes gurl same and Joon stans united anywhere as well😂
hm. i didn't think it was so cringe. yikess.
@@pornesianparapiojoon9657 yesss, joon stanss 😂
The comments are not good,my dear.If you scroll down searching for hope and community .Here I am :
You are a beatiful black women and or femme and you deserve someone who loves you like you need it.
Take your time,build friendships, your worth is not determined by someone else but you.I know it hurts ,I know you want to be the heroine of your own little romance.
That day will come💐
Eli Buledi you sound like you live with your mom beta boy.
I’m 20 about to be 21 and I’ve never been in a relationship and I’ve never had my first kiss 🙃 #literallymylife
same but i'm 22
Thats most men in life
You need to get on that.. And fast! Only gets harder and more awkward as you get older. Put yourself out there. Worst they can say is no. Don't let life pass you by
Anthony Berg lol I’m tryin
Anthony Berg omg stop you’re scaring me lol.
“They were the first ones to get dance with even though they couldn’t dance.” WHEW CHILE, THE SHADE💀
Wurmin' i laughed
My exact thoughts when I heard her say that lol 😂
Wurmin' Men dont pick women for their dancing abilities😜
Can we retire "the strong black woman" phrase? I'm done being compared to a stereotype. I have no problem in social settings. I chose to take a break but when I am ready, I'm jumping back in the dating pool..
Yes especially since people will instantly make the connection to the violent, loud sterotype aswell. No other race tries to push this stereotypical ideal and that may just be part of the reason we have this issue
Honestly, yeah. In the video they were talking about black women being too aggressive, but only use one adjective to describe us. Like, yes SOME of us our strong, but we are women, regardless of race, other women can be strong and independent too. They're talking about stereotypes, then fitting themselves into one. I am more sensitive, fragile, and caring more than I am strong.
Good luck...
About a few years ago I started a new position and we were talking about culture. My manager at the time asked where I was from. I was a little confused at first and explained that I was African American. She was shocked and then exclaimed "But you're so nice and soft spoken!" Another girl chimed in and explained that her boyfriend was African American and his family was more boisterous and opinionated......
I don't think that calling black women "strong" is the reason for ridiculous racial stereotyping. I'd argue it's the other way around. Black women have had to live with the stereotype of being loud and aggressive for so long, they are now against labeling themselves as "strong", whilst white feminist can proudly use this term without having to be afraid of being called "masculine" or "aggressive".
Tbh some of these girls, it’s not because their black.
Cause they not good looking
@@tonywasikhongo7510 Seriously, that first girl look like a Skittle got into a trainwreck with a tub of Oreos.
@@discingaround lol tub of Oreos
Anime Babi don’t hate on the dude, it’s just most dudes including us don’t find some of them attractive... at all.
FACTS!!
In Africa none of this is an issue.
thanks alot sir.........
Duh
Lol if these girls went on holidays to Sub Sahara Africa they'd have no problems.
This is the most desperate representation of black women I have seen in a long time. Like geez. Perpetuating victimhood much? Was the point of this to guilt men into dating more black women? In that case, the women didn't even discuss why they are dateable or what makes them attractive partners? To all the black women out there, dont feel sorry for yourself, love yourself unconditionally, clean up your energy, heal your anxiety attachments, invest in personal development, find the fashion style that resonates with you best, develop your personality and ability to emapthize, learn about men (how they think and operate), and find HAPPINESS with your life and who you are , and you will have no problem getting and keeping ANY man you want. This advice goes for any woman of any color btw. I know its easier said than done, but trust me, it WORKS.
you are a goddess, best advice to give ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Your one of the sane people in this comment section
A Mel Thank you, dear 💛🌞
Brionna Pinkney no problem 😘, love heals all things, positive energy only 💛
I hear and understand your point, but they are being open about insecurities a lot of us have had to deal with and have ignored out of fear of not being acknowledged. As a black woman I feel we need to commend them for talking about it and not criticize them calling it “perpetuating victimhood”. I feel you sound like someone who clearly experienced this or if you have, you were able to move past it. Not everyone deals with such issues the same way so the last thing they need is someone saying they are responsible for how other people perceive their physical appearances because they are not.
I’ve legit been told that black women have too much attitude, are too heavy, and their hair is too high maintenance. And that’s why people gravitate away from us. That’s when my eyes were opened.
Yes I agree with you.
That's stereo typing pretty perfetic for them to judge all black lady's like that sighs...
It's funny how people want a black woman to be absolutely perfect before considering them but put up with so much more for almost any other type of woman. Black women need some attitude how else can they protect themselves when no one else will. Too heavy? Anyone can be heavy not even a factor. High maintenance hair? Have people seen the types of amazing things black women do with their hair whether it's natural or not. Like dating a new person to every month 😂 Black women are it 👌🏾
"Too heavy" what?
I don't believe for a second that you have "trouble" dating. You are beautiful, beautiful smile. Maybe the men you want don't want to date you, but that could be who you are choosing, but I do not believe you have trouble attracting men
Man I wish that I could remedy this situation by letting these GORGEOUS women feel their worth. Please stay strong, you are loved, you are valued YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
I’m a black girl and I just learned to accept that black women are deemed as undesirable in this society. Maybe when I’m 6ft under things will change but I’m not going to stress over anything human beings’ acceptance. Beauty ain’t forever so....🤷🏾♀️ I know it sounds harsh but no matter how much black women try to fight back the enemy will always hit harder, it’s a sad world.
No. When I see your face, there's not a thing that I would change! 'Cause girl you're amazing just the way you are! And when you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while! 'Cause girl you're amazing just the way you are! Yeeeaaah!
Girl what?? Black women are not undesirable! Change your mindset
To all my black girls out there: you are beautiful and intelligent and so resilient! I appreciate all of you and wish the world gave you more love because you are wonderful❤
"It's hard to be a Black woman." The Sister with the braids made numerous important points.
*I'm sorry, but when I saw this: ...0.01... I stopped. But for curiousity: I place my mouse on the progress bar to see if anything else looked like that...?*
*Well, not as bad but... 0.57... She's NOT... Alicia Keys...*
What she said had me kinda pissed off a little bit. While she's being passed up like that I can't find any sisters like her where I live. 😕
If your loud and outspoken, and you need to be "strong" cause you need to be, then that's cool.... for you. But that dosent mean that it is, or should be attractive for guys.
Also why are you comparing yourselves to the white woman dating expirence? If your beautiful black queens, then you shouldn't care, right?
And all of these women dont seem like they are in the best shape. This is the type of woman that does the most complaining behind being black, but fat bodies, and fat faces are the real hindrance for them. If your face is attractive, and your body is nice, you should have Zero problem getting a date.
The darkskinned chic with braids gets dates. She just doesn't get the guys she wants.
@JusticeTM The only point she kept making was as a black woman she gets to claim victim status in everything. It is childish. Take responsibility for yourself and stop blaming others. It is a sign of weakness, but black women are strong regardless of how they behave in their own eyes. They are in a grand delusion!
Nothing about dating
There’s nothing wrong with not being attracted to a dark skin woman but when you say we’re not pretty or that we’re pretty for a dark skin, or that you would never date a dark skin based on just because we’re dark is kind of hurtful ngl 🤷🏾♀️
whahhhhh, tell that to the millions of good black men that black women call "educated lames." (oh but yeah, 20 years later, after y'all are beat and have multiple children, then that "lame" becomes "the good man")
F. O. H!!
I am dating a beautiful black wowen and it’s my first love and for sure the last❤️💍😍
diztiinct ???
Smh
@Private Privacy What are u talking about
@Private Privacy Why so mucg negativity ? He just said he was in love with his wife.
Update?
Two things I cant stand:
1. Being an experiment to other races.
2. Being unappreciated or unwanted by our own race.
! Black women are humans too !
To my black women, you're beautiful just the way you are and you are enough 😙💕
Coming from a black man I want you to know that most of us love you and don’t all the propaganda fool you. You are beautiful, you are a Queen and you are loved.
UnDebNiable same sis.
Thank you queen I also subscribed
@@mcbthird I appreciate that 😊 I love ya'll too. I wish I was referring to the propaganda, unfortunately this is based off my experiences (can't speak for anyone else).
@@lolamonroe5910 awh thank you! Stay blessed
@Donald trick Trump Has STD's from Stormy D. Thanks for solving the issue 😘
With my experiences growing up in Europe in a very small " white town", I could write here a testament. All I can say , I feel very related to this video. Besides as a teenager I heard " How is it possible a girl so beautiful ?" ( I know what he meant ) , at a party " Don't be sad , you are a very beautiful black girl ", at school " Be lucky you are not dark as that girl" and so on. Nowadays I am just " careless" and living my life.
Reading this made me feel sad. Can't stand that people say that.
Which part because germans love black women and men hahaha
dritzzjoney Portugal
@@maurasanchez33
litteraly there was this turkish MAN coming up to me talking about the dark skin people "but NOT you, your skin is nice "
😷😷😷like don't involve me in that racist psycho world.
I'm a child of god and all his creations are beautiful.
Only the devil pushes one ethnic group. I'm NOT for any cast system, thanks.
But they somehow blame on black men. Keep your head up beautiful
Most of the women were fat and not attractive and very masculine .
The pretty girl with the braids gives off that masculine vibe.
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I'm perfect. The problem is everyone else.
fefi only if I got a nickel for every time a woman portrayed that.
Lol, fefi is definitely a troll.
Is name calling a sign of maturity?
@@fefifofob you're a troll.
It's OK. You probably just don't understand the subtle humor. Maybe someday.
As a black girl i suggest like we date guys of all races instead of trying to specially find black men and stop holding them up on a pedestal since they don't do the same for us.
Agreed. Things are hard enough and we'll always be treated as lesser women so might as well increase our chances of getting lucky
That's what I'm doing
Good luck.
Right?! It took these bitches long enough. I dont know how long or how much its gonna take to drain that into their skulls. Some blk men arent even that cute ew smh lol ive BEEEN saying this
Full Dem, girl one of my formal bm friends cut me off because I decided not to pursue bm anymore. It's like bm don't want us bw dating out. However, most of the wm & Asian men I talked too was cool as ever. I'm so over bm that their not in my dating pool.
I went straight down to the comment section.
Lol same!!!
Lol same
Lmao and here I am too..😂😂
Same
But I'm a white man and I am really attracted to black women.
AFGThugonomics9 ?????
Vault Boy. Don't listen to him. But what I wanted to say is that I love ALL colours of the rainbow.
To the other black women who read the comments and see, AGAIN, that no one is listening or that a lot of these commenters are very disrespectful and not wanting to understand our situation (NOT ALL, BUT I SHOULDN’T HAVE TO SAY THAT) just know that we know our situation. And that our feelings and experiences are valid! Stay amazing out there ladies! 💙💙
It's so sad that being confident and indipendant is being seen as unattractive when you're a woman but when men have these traids it's completely normal and even a must
Its not fair when men seen as unattractive when they lack confidence and are dependent. Its just not fair.
@@Mactownization the same for women
@@imnaelywa5113 Not true at all. I will say that successfully women usually look down on men who not on their level or higher.
@@Mactownization those kind of people will always be there and you can't do anything about it. I think it's better to live together with people and try to get along instead of bullying or looking down on someone but sadly that only works in small groups
Mactownization
True
I don’t see why people are saying the video makes the women come off as if they’re playing the victim card...how are they playing the victim if they’re simply just explaining their experiences and how their race tied into those experiences?
Unfortunately that's what happens when black people tell the stories. It was the same thing when black people gave their experiences with the police. People said they're whining or playing the race card. When people started to see what was happening with police and black people in everyday life, they could no longer say they were whining or playing the victim. But that only happened because of social media and the use of cameras
Simple, complaining about not getting dates sounds like pandering. Would you or anyone have sympathy for a man you aren't attracted to who wants to date you? No, you would tell him to move on. So why can't these women do that?
@@aqeelmorgan8873 I agree. A lot of the women weren't attractive and it didn't have anything to do with their skin tone. Also some were overweight and most people aren't into that. I really don't think race plays a factor. And totally agree. They shouldn't try to guilt people into dating them or giving them compliments because it isn't genuine
@@aqeelmorgan8873 first of all, when a large group with the same characteristics have the same experiences, that gives grounds for evaluation. Did any of them complain? I didn't hear not one complaint about their experiences. I only heard their experiences. What you internalized was the fact that you fall under the group of people who shun these women simply because of their skin tone. The mere acknowledgement of an experience is not a complaint. These women have not let any of their experiences keep them from happiness (as evident by the fact that one is currently married). They are sharing their experiences so that others don't feel so alone and can see that life still moves on and can be positive, even with all of these factors going against them.
@@tawhneebaby that is your interpretation of the video. My interpretation is a group of people who feel entitled to other people's affections and inserting race as a reasoning for why they have not received that affection. I love black women, I'm black, grew up in a mostly black city. This phenomenon of black women not feeling desired seems very new. This women do not speak for all black people or black women. I was simply giving another possibility for why this specific group of women may not have as much success compared to other women (black women included) when dating.
black women in my experience (I'm black btw) are generally more approachable even though they initially give off the vibe that they aren't. they are fun to hang out with, really good sense of humor, if you ever watch prank videos on youtube black women seem like they are able to laugh at themselves and laugh at the prank in the end. def have a unwarranted bad reputation.
Honestly, the most common prank pulled on black women involve pulling her wig which just aren’t funny anymore. They were funny during 2016 back then and we all laughed and had fun. Now it’s just awkward and they have to laugh it off to not come off as offended and aggressive. When you repeat a joke long enough, it stops being funny. What is so funny about that prank? That they don’t have hair? Let’s stop with those humiliating pranks.
Why would a man want to date a woman with credentials? That isn't what is important to any man. Is she polite, would she be a good mother, will she be faithful, does she have a good sense of humor?. Not some list of accomplishments that shows you don't have time to date or have a family. These women are listing things they find attractive in men and wondering why men don't respond. We are different.
Being in college exposed me to this dehumanizing thing. I am basically invisible to every man of every color. The ones that flirt are guys that “just wants to try something new” like I’m some kind of exotic sample. It crushes my heart to be dismissed like this. Why can’t anyone see me as a beautiful woman?
Thank God I’m confident in my brown skin cause the world does not want us winning
Dekontee Barnard gee that’s a great, optimistic attitude you have there 🙄🙄 woe is me
@@b64771 are you jealous? Lol jealous alert
Come on if that's you in that photo you are a perfect 10...you csnt possibly have any idea of how hard dating can be...you can have anyone.
You're beautiful and when you are beautiful regardless of shade people will want you.
Dekontee Barnard what do you mean “the world does not want us winning”?
we’re not living in the 60s anymore
It's not about color to me, it's about personality and character, and of course, personal attractiveness. That gal with the white t-shirt and braids, I would totally ask her out. She is so pretty and just needs to be respected and enjoyed for who she is. Wish I knew her number....
I admire your outlook. Scrolling through these comments has been an absolute nightmare 😂
I always get that I’m a good woman and etc.I still get curved. So i gave up on dating at the moment.
Roger Gerritsen yeah they do
Here come the comments invalidating the experiences of these women because they don’t understand! 🤗
Ana Campbell totally unrelated but you are so pretty
Lechatnocternal Thank you so much 😭🥰
terry wit da dreds Nope, I was referencing the people in the comments denouncing the experiences of Black women because they see it as trivial or unworthy of discussion
Honey this brotha will back u up
terry wit da dreds have you noticed the comments here by blk males ?
Please stop blaming your ugliness on your blackness. I CANNOT stand this talking point. There are countless black women who enjoy success with men.
So are you saying colorism doesn't exist? That people don't discriminate against you because your skin is darker? Because it definitely does and people definitely do.
Chidi So you're saying YOU take responsibility for YOUR ugliness? Way to keep it real.😉
The ugliest woman in the video, Ehis, was the one blaming her blacknes the most....
Chidi - Props to you... Great comment. Sadly most of these chicks won’t understand it.
As much as it's hard for a lot of black women to admit race does factor into men approaching you. Doesn't matter how attractive you may be. Ever heard of "you're pretty for a black girl?" Why is it always "for a black girl?" You may not have a problem getting any man, but don't sit here and act like every black chick has it easy too. There are many of us who are attractive, but attractiveness doesn't matter when we're stereotyped horribly. Other women do not have this problem. If you have white female friends ask them if they were ever told they were "pretty for a white girl." I'll wait.
This is so painful, but so true. And it just seems to get harder as you get older :/
It feels like the world hates Black women and deemed us to be "undesirable" when we're the ones that birthed creation :_ (
Birthed creation? No your ancestors were working in mines before deluge meanwhile adam and eve were taught husbandry, farming etc.
I dated a few dark skin black women (not cuz I wanted to try a black women but their vibe) , and the stereotypes aren't always true(shocker) some are loud some are calm, as a man I love both, I love it when I can handle her being loud and outspoken, I find the beauty, the fun in it how they talk with passion and full of live. Like some of my white friends, dark skin never bothered me cuz, I saw they person beyond the skin, I can relate cuz I m light brown skin. Just my 2 cents, I love black women!
that’s actually the best thing i’ve ever read lmao i might screen shot it and set it as my wallpaper to read it everyday
I love black women, but I don't like mad face piercings and pink hair. Maybe that's the problem😂😂😂
They look like a clown when they do that it not attractive IMO .
B Mac wow
@@isa.m8009 Not to many men find face tattoos, face piercing and weird color hair attractive it a bad look no matter the color the woman is .
Well mr Man Make it seem like ur talking about all race then
@@isa.m8009 oh, one other thing. Don't let me catch you with that scarf on. Set your alarm 15 minutes earlier than mine, take the scarf off, lay back down, let ur hair beautifully lay on the pillow, pretend ur sleeping until I wake up and say " Good morning my queen". Lol
Black women are sooo beautiful!
JDoe depends
@The Real Tea why tf you come on this type video then? Stick to a specific subject.
@The Real Tea they said black..
@The Real Tea *All lives matter* have a seat.
Yeah some are
Daysha's insight was so deep. I listened to her first comments (3:00-3:27) at least five times. It IS okay that I realize that I may not be what SOCIETY has dictated is attractive, but I can still feel attractive, and it doesn't have to destroy how I feel as a woman. That can even be a (positive) self-fulfilling prophecy, because people have minds of their own and don't have to be told by the media what is attractive to them. Daysha, you made my day!
First of all... If someone does not find you attractive then thats that.....but dont blame your skin for it..... Not everyone is prejudice..... And why a chic in this look homeless?
if you are a "pretty" black girl and most guys don't like you its probably because of your skin color lets be honest
@Kenya Grant
If you’re a ‘pretty’ black girl and no guy wants you, it’s probably because of your attitude, not skin color. Attractive is attractive regardless of skin tone.
I'm more attracted by Caucasian men, certainly due to the fact I was adopted and grew up in a Caucasian family. My ex was from Eastern Europe and he kept telling me I wasn't black enough because I wasn't loud, didn't have huge lips nor was wearing super colourful clothes all the time. He wanted to date the caricature of a Black woman he saw in the media, not me. Best breakup ever!!
Melissa London Wow so distasteful that he thought black women were like that
Sucks for you
@@kemartini I think this was how he only Black women portrayed on medias at the time. He had a big culture shock when he moved to London.
Melissa London that makes sense. That’s why positive media portrayals of black people are so important.
Good for you babe💙💙
I've heard horrifying comments from men that are both black and other races on this topic. "Oh I don't like dating black women because they're just too aggressive and loud" how can you just generalize millions of people like that.... It's terrible to hear and I know it's even worse to experience. It hurts my heart because I've met dozens of amazing black women who some men won't give a chance purely because of ignorance and stereotypes
since the 1970's there has been a Hollywood/media campaign to portray blck one way wich is 90% negatively. unfortunately people who don't have interactions with blacks because of their country or where they live, rely on these media portrayals to judge us. I think it's so odd that black women are portrayed as loud and aggressive....from what I have seen in my travels around the world, African women and Black women of African heritage are THE MOST humble and sometimes passive women out there. Also to note, African women from the continent are way more submissive than Asian women (I lived in Japan)….yet MEDIA never portrays this. I have been getting my hair braided by different African women for years and when their husband, sons or father comes into the house he is treated like a KING. Also back in the day in the South at least, I remember my great grandma from Georgia being the EXACT same way.
As a black man I want you to know most of us love black women and the clowns date outside of their race who subconsciously wants to be white. Their minds have been destroyed by your people. So don’t ever act like you care more about black women than black women. That’s why I don’t like white women y’all aren’t even half as smart as you believe you are.
Yeah, I bet you care so much. Lol..
@Christian Barrett every woman is strong though so you will probably end up alone if you don't like strong women and the funny part is there are negative stereotypes about black men too yet y'all behave as if you're better than your women.
In nature the best way to not fight is to avoid conflict at any opportunity.
Ok so being unattractive doesn't have anything to do with it?
Attitude can make you unattractive.
Of course they see you are black first.
You might have too much masculinity.
I might have a lady that could beat me up (skilled Brazilian jujitsu) but i dont want one that looks and acts like it.
Where are the fit black women? Makes a big difference.
INB4 a bunch of white people charging in here to say "Well ackchyually, dating is hard for everyone, don't make it about race"
It is hard for everyone. A lot of the girls in the video have a hard face and weird style sense. I am a black women and I don't find it hard to date.sorry
@@queenswaybaby1992 you probably dont notice things that other people do
@@sexychocolategoddess2821 did you not watch the video,these poor girls said their friends get more guys and they themselves don't get approached much. I don't blame them ,they don't know how to be lady like ,like me.If you work on yourself trust me a lot of guys will not only approach but will also stalk you.
@C RD awwwww I know your type. You are the type ,who doesn't want any black women to do better than her.It's okay,some man will one day love you.
@puppycat just try not to look like a man simple
Can we start promoting a positive narrative of dating while black? I'm so over the media portraying black women's dating life as if it's nonexistent or challenging. Maybe if we change the narrative, we won't perpetuate these negative stereotypes.
Edit: I want to be very clear. I know this is a reality for a lot of black women. I’m not saying their experiences aren’t valid. What I am saying is that there isn’t enough media representation of black women in loving relationships to counter this narrative. We’re fed so many images of the “unloved black woman”. I believe that can have an adverse effect on black women’s self-esteem and self-image.
And I also understand that this video may not be the best place to voice my concern as it appears that I’m invalidating their experience. That definitely isn’t my purpose for commenting.
Thank you,some people will have pity and feel that They are doing a good duty,by dating black women as if they are giving to the poor.that's what these poor girls are portraying
That’s what I’m saying!
Im glad someone spoke up it's crazy because I've never had that issue they're talking about and neither have my sister all married and have black husbands and not to be mean but look at the woman they choose to speak on this matter not trying to be mean not the best looking bunch .
Sure, there are many happy, black relationships in the world. However, they are talking about the negative aspects which also still very much exist. It’s easy to say just talk about the positive when you haven’t had negative experiences with black guys/men.
agreed. im over this victim mentality. I know im a beautiful black and I dont need validation from the internet
Lesbianism is enormous in the black community.
“You’re the prettiest of the ugliest”…whew that hit close to home! That you’re pretty for a black girl is such a backhanded compliment.
Only if natural hair and not overweight.
Wow! This hit home! I'm dark skin, nappy hair, and BIG. All things that the world deems undesirable! I'm glad this video is out here.
if that is you on the profile, add " has a damn cute face" on your list
@@youtubeaccount6625 awwwww! Yeah, it's me. Thank you! 😁
Girl don't put down your own features remember no one can love if yo don't love yourself💕
Girl. YES! I can definitely relate to this.
God is above all these people and he only creates perfection or you wouldn't exist. Only god matters. Don't put man above god or you will be mislead by the devil.
As an Asian dude, I guess I can relate. Dating is rough game for Asian guys in this country too. Unfortunately, as men, we’re not allowed to “complain” and are expected just “man-up” so it’s difficult to have an honest conversion about the problem.
I’ve read about that. Black women are seen as too masculine and Asian men are seen as too feminine. At the end of the day it’s all just stereotypes and are myths.
Richard K That’s sucks because you’re a very attractive man, whoever says other wise is missing out. Good luck on finding your soulmate. ❣️
Richard K
We should show a world the middle finger and date each other. Problem solved!
@Tyrone jacobs jr it isnt about who has it harder. Let us talk about our pain and help each other through it. pain is pain
well go get you a black woman and you can both stroke each others egos
Im russian and i love black women
I am brown not black and I love Russian women!!!
But are u normal..or should I say come from under that rock you're hiding under !
Don’t
I feel for these ladies. I’m a gay latino male. The gay dating scene can be harsh, but black women have been overlooked for so long. I’ve noticed many black women have beautiful skin that needs little, if any makeup.
It's hard for latino men to get dates in the gay scene?
@@wendigodeadpatterson2514 It can be. Dating within the culture, outside of it. Stereotypes
Sequoia is fine though. Not for a dark girl, not for whatever random identifier people like to add here. She’s just FINE.
FACT
What’s her @
She had a deep voice and a permanent look on her face that screamed “discontentment “ let’s just say she wouldn’t be a first round pick in the draft lololol
@@angelzanetti-1947 IDK man. Call it a reach, but imma take her with a mid-first
FACTS, my brotha... She need to come my way f'real...
I don't understand why black men don't support their own women.
I as a Somali i will always put my Somali girls first.
Don't abandon your women
@Zazzy we Somalis are iron heads, it really doesn't effect us that much what other people say.
We don't see Europeans as a righteous to dictate us,
I really don't care what a German, English, French or Italian standards of beauty is.
We have our own beauty standards that goes centuries back,
@@marknic5000 You are amazing brother. Keep supporting your Somali women because they are truly beautiful and stand by you guys as well. I am originally from Botswana and our men although players, love their women. I think Africans prize their culture above everything else.
@@ButternutBanyana that's great thing to here, men and women from the same country needs each other, so they have to support each other.
If we abandon our women other men would take advantage of them and will ruin their lives.
I don't get what attracts AAs men to white and latino women that much, that they left their own women, who were for them there in their hardest times.
@@marknic5000 Exactly. Somali men are warriors and protect their culture. I truly admire that. You guard your women, thats why Somali women are exclusive. Its a big deal if a man gets a Somali woman because they are very very hard to get. Thats what happens when you guard your culture and women, they become a hot commodity.
@@ButternutBanyana i hope Botswana men do the same thing.
A lot of black and Asians don't understand the dating game, That's all it is. Most of those women looked like lesbians. What do they expect . . .
Sequoia was the best looking one up here by far… men are not approaching women that we find physically unattractive. Look good and have a kind aura around you and that’s all we need. That’s the real reason they can’t find a man, they’re not intimidating at all.
they are intimidating but in a negative way
Like being loud is intimidating in a -ve way while being elegant is intimidating in a +ve way
The unending strange phenomenon of people of African descent seeking validation from other races...sigh... Maybe just maybe one day things will be okay
Lol I say the same thing. Im with you though. I hope and pray that I can take a breath on that day
Exactly, this isn't our country, we just live here. They aren't our people, the have proven to be bad for our well being. If we would remember our history we would know that no generation has benefited because of them since we have had contact with them. They are not on our team. We need to get our minds and hearts back to Black.
Exactly when did it stop being ok for your own people to think you're beautiful?
What about the black Women who want black men to love and appreciate them it’s usually black men who tear us down the most
@@rmanney100 I tried but I'm too "white",nerdy or a good guy.
So I let it go.
These are comments are why I don’t have Black conversations in white spaces.
Daria L. Right?? People refuse to address the elephant in the room. It's comical how they so desperately try to deflect from the real issue.
It's not all white people commenting in here.
*_I'm sorry... What?_*
Daria L. What you doing on here lol? Come back to THEE I LOVEE
The internet is not a "white space". That's why you're here. That's why everyone's here. There are a disproportionate number of black people without a computer in the home, if that's what you mean. But it sounds like you would like these self-promoting, racist, sexist conversations to happen in racially and sexually segregated areas in order to never get them called out for being just that.
What? I didn't know this? I am
Native North Amrican Indian from Canada and also grew up in Washington state. I felt my people and I my self was not desirable. When I was like 8 years old I found my self attracted to black women and from my dating experience dated women of colour and it's what I prefer I'm not at all afraid to talk to black women they are most sweetest i am least afraid to talk to black women. I found I am really attracted to darker women I just find this hard to believe! Well I dinno this is like weird to me .. I dunno what else to say?? :/
Not all black women are angry ... just the ones I have run into
😆 they are all Queens with no subjects