can’t do that anymore bc he left me due to my mental healthy apparently straining us. it took us breaking up for me to realize he narcissistic he was and how manipulative he was. he wouldn’t let me set certain boundaries. blamed me and turned every argument into my fault, even if it was his. i told him sometimes i can’t control my thoughts, he called me psychotic and said i need to ‘fix myself’ and woke up the next morning like nothing happened. now it’s been 5 days and he’s already interested in someone else. it took me 9 months to realize this as he broke up with me 5 days ago. fucking crazy.
I see this type of abuse in so many abuse victims. You’re not crazy. No more than the average American is… You would already be aware by now, way before meeting him. If you actually hit the level of what people would consider crazy. This type of abuse I usually see victims having common legitimate mental health issues. Like depression. The abuser will use it against them “oh, have you taken your meds?” “Are you acting this way because you’re out of your pills?”. Stuff like that. You’re not crazy, even if you suffer from depression, anxiety, many other legitimate common mental health issues. Especially being a victim of abuse. But you’re not “crazy”. I hate that word. But if anyone is crazy, the abuser is. Usually narcissists cannot see what they’re suffering other to work in fixing it. Truly crazy people do not think anything is wrong with them.
Well I need help. When I succeed at ignoring all the covert abusive gestures and verbal abuse. He goes around to verbally abuse, the rest of the family just to get a reaction. And then state we don’t respect him. I’m so tired. All the mood swings it’s exhausting
I’m currently going through this with my husband. He’s very emotional abusing me and I find myself losing me everyday. I’m not happy and I want out but I don’t have the strength or the finances to leave and we twin girls together that need me. He controlling, isolate me from family and friends, and manipulate me in front of his family. Please help me 😢
Mine does 4 out of 5 :( he also hurts my wrists and hand both in anger and "as a joke " on seperate occasions, has threatened me a few times, and he puts me down a lot.
Very dangerous people. Run! I have no past experience (thank God), but yeah..... leave at the first sign. These kind are literally incapable of loving you! They do not love themselves, so they abuse and manipulate. Run for your lives!!
Anything i sent to my boyfriend got sent to my parents, boyfriend wanted to see my psychiatrist i want to break up with him. He has hit me once. I gained small bit of muscle kept talking about food i told him id lose weight if he did that im 33kg got very aggressive so no longer on speaking terms.
My partner is possessive and jealous with controlling behaviours too. Delete socials, have to text him every hour, share my location (for my own safety apparently) and the crazy thing is, I’ve never given him any reason to be like that. It’s just bizarre behaviour but he’s not abusive towards me; infact the opposite, super protective, loving, supportive, always respectful of me and my boundaries, compassionate, super generous, beautiful and considerate lover, emotionally open, very kind, goes out of his way to make me happy so what gives? It’s so confusing. Is this just a male dominance thing or just a masculine behavioural trait or something much much worse?
My partner behaved this way too in the beginning of the relationship. He was caring, kind, understanding. The type of man who doesn’t even look at other women and is fiercely loyal. He always put me on pedestal and said I was the best thing that happened to him. But eventually there was red flags. He became controlling especially around male friends, wanting to know my whereabouts and even got angry when I met any male clients or colleagues even if it was strictly work related. He would give me the silent treatment then eventually he’ll talk to me and explain that it’s because he fears for my safety. But this did not apply to him, many times he had returned home late or hung out with female colleagues after work. He lied so often that eventually I didn’t even know who he was. He became so different that the sweet, loving man I knew. He became increasingly aggressive and would say scary things to me. It’s a gradual thing with narcs. Eventually the mask will fall to reveal who they really were all along. I failed to see the signs earlier.
@@andieinthecity I called it off. I’m sorry that happened to you. I felt that the jealousy thing was too much for me. And yep you’re right, he said a few things that made me very very uncomfortable while he was “joking”. Things like have fun, be good and don’t make me come down and 🥹🥹 someone if they touch you. Hes was talking about my male friends. 👀 FAIL. My friends are important to and I love them so no. Thanks for replying and sharing your experience, it helps to solidly my instincts were correct.
1. Continually brings up the past and requires multiple apologies from you 2. Gaslight you when you bring up the facts of their bad behavior 3.never apologize for wrongs... they say "sorry you feel that way" 4. Blame you for their wrongs and never take responsibility for hurting you 5.Threaten separation constantly when they feel "disrespected" after you assert yourself This is an emotionally abusive, immature and manipulative person. I wish you well
My son can't see how she is destroying him. He says that he can't leave his kids and I don't know how to help him. I told him to come here with the kids, but she gets insane if he tries to pull away from her.
These should be taught in high schools. So correct. it takes 10-15 years for victims to figure this.
It took me until i was nearly 22 to find out my mum’s abusive
I’ve been dealing with this and more he even choked me before. This is a nightmare. He won’t leave, feeling traped
I hope you get out sister. 😢❤
I hope you are able to leave and free yourself from this. So many women go through this. God bless and stay safe.
@kerrikolby6124 yes women but also men ...
can’t do that anymore bc he left me due to my mental healthy apparently straining us. it took us breaking up for me to realize he narcissistic he was and how manipulative he was. he wouldn’t let me set certain boundaries. blamed me and turned every argument into my fault, even if it was his.
i told him sometimes i can’t control my thoughts, he called me psychotic and said i need to ‘fix myself’ and woke up the next morning like nothing happened.
now it’s been 5 days and he’s already interested in someone else.
it took me 9 months to realize this as he broke up with me 5 days ago. fucking crazy.
I see this type of abuse in so many abuse victims. You’re not crazy. No more than the average American is… You would already be aware by now, way before meeting him. If you actually hit the level of what people would consider crazy. This type of abuse I usually see victims having common legitimate mental health issues. Like depression. The abuser will use it against them “oh, have you taken your meds?” “Are you acting this way because you’re out of your pills?”. Stuff like that. You’re not crazy, even if you suffer from depression, anxiety, many other legitimate common mental health issues. Especially being a victim of abuse. But you’re not “crazy”. I hate that word. But if anyone is crazy, the abuser is. Usually narcissists cannot see what they’re suffering other to work in fixing it. Truly crazy people do not think anything is wrong with them.
@@randymarsh8974 you are so right. thank you.
Run Run Run...I hope you are able to exit safely.
Well I need help. When I succeed at ignoring all the covert abusive gestures and verbal abuse. He goes around to verbally abuse, the rest of the family just to get a reaction. And then state we don’t respect him. I’m so tired. All the mood swings it’s exhausting
Leave now! I dealt with that for 10years. I wish I could get those wasted years back
I’m currently going through this with my husband. He’s very emotional abusing me and I find myself losing me everyday. I’m not happy and I want out but I don’t have the strength or the finances to leave and we twin girls together that need me. He controlling, isolate me from family and friends, and manipulate me in front of his family. Please help me 😢
Make a plan and start working/making your own money. Once you have enough you can leave.
Start to keep a distance from him and make friends/meet new acquaintances that can emotionally support you
Mine does 4 out of 5 :( he also hurts my wrists and hand both in anger and "as a joke " on seperate occasions, has threatened me a few times, and he puts me down a lot.
Very dangerous people. Run! I have no past experience (thank God), but yeah..... leave at the first sign. These kind are literally incapable of loving you! They do not love themselves, so they abuse and manipulate. Run for your lives!!
Well said Sir.My experience from my husband and his narcs family.
Thanks for the info ☺️ very helpful 😉
All very correct...
Very good, sir. Thank you
Im going thru it but my friends dont let her near me anymore
Anything i sent to my boyfriend got sent to my parents, boyfriend wanted to see my psychiatrist i want to break up with him. He has hit me once. I gained small bit of muscle kept talking about food i told him id lose weight if he did that im 33kg got very aggressive so no longer on speaking terms.
My partner is possessive and jealous with controlling behaviours too. Delete socials, have to text him every hour, share my location (for my own safety apparently) and the crazy thing is, I’ve never given him any reason to be like that. It’s just bizarre behaviour but he’s not abusive towards me; infact the opposite, super protective, loving, supportive, always respectful of me and my boundaries, compassionate, super generous, beautiful and considerate lover, emotionally open, very kind, goes out of his way to make me happy so what gives? It’s so confusing. Is this just a male dominance thing or just a masculine behavioural trait or something much much worse?
My partner behaved this way too in the beginning of the relationship. He was caring, kind, understanding. The type of man who doesn’t even look at other women and is fiercely loyal. He always put me on pedestal and said I was the best thing that happened to him. But eventually there was red flags. He became controlling especially around male friends, wanting to know my whereabouts and even got angry when I met any male clients or colleagues even if it was strictly work related. He would give me the silent treatment then eventually he’ll talk to me and explain that it’s because he fears for my safety. But this did not apply to him, many times he had returned home late or hung out with female colleagues after work. He lied so often that eventually I didn’t even know who he was. He became so different that the sweet, loving man I knew. He became increasingly aggressive and would say scary things to me. It’s a gradual thing with narcs. Eventually the mask will fall to reveal who they really were all along. I failed to see the signs earlier.
@@andieinthecity I called it off. I’m sorry that happened to you. I felt that the jealousy thing was too much for me. And yep you’re right, he said a few things that made me very very uncomfortable while he was “joking”. Things like have fun, be good and don’t make me come down and 🥹🥹 someone if they touch you. Hes was talking about my male friends. 👀 FAIL. My friends are important to and I love them so no. Thanks for replying and sharing your experience, it helps to solidly my instincts were correct.
My husband has all this signs and am dying of his behaviour
1. Continually brings up the past and requires multiple apologies from you
2. Gaslight you when you bring up the facts of their bad behavior
3.never apologize for wrongs... they say "sorry you feel that way"
4. Blame you for their wrongs and never take responsibility for hurting you
5.Threaten separation constantly when they feel "disrespected" after you assert yourself
This is an emotionally abusive, immature and manipulative person. I wish you well
My son can't see how she is destroying him. He says that he can't leave his kids and I don't know how to help him.
I told him to come here with the kids, but she gets insane if he tries to pull away from her.
Please help. This impossible to dealth with 😢
True 💯
That's right 👍😢
TY
Marriage is not a requirement anymore. People realise very very late, sad.
When did you swop labour law for psychology?
My wife not sure bout possessive but might be 5out of 5 my mental health is shot.
What if it’s signs 1,2, and 5……..
Google And RUclips .
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The problem i see with a lot of these self help videos is it gives way to many people JUST enough information to run with it and ruin their lives.
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Narcissist
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