As a man I'm very attracted to someone now and she's 6 years older so it's really unique for me. She has this feminine energy that I think a lot of men like. She told me once she's not a "girly-girl" which she is not but she has a youthful energy that I want to wrap my arms around. This is the feeling I've been waiting for my entire life. Plus we're emotionally attracted. We're both very sensitive and in tune with each other's emotions. I don't want to be friends or roomies or for her to be my mom. I want to love her and be a man for her and also protect and nurture her.
@@fareenashofficial I forgot to mention we've known each other casually for at ;east 5 years. We work at the same company.. I don't know what happened one day we just started looking at each other differently and the feelings just took off. She was right there with me and then she started fighting it but I will hang in there for a long time because she's all I want.
@@fareenashofficial Also we have nothing in common with our life experiences. She has children from 2 relationships including a marriage and divorce. I have never been married and have no children. She's rough around the edges I joke she's a biker chick and I'm a college grad who is used to wearing suits and ties. But I adore her for the person she s today and I see the sweetness and kindness and love in her heart. I know she's attracted to me too but nervous about someone so different so I'm giving her time and space to sort through it.
Personally I don’t believe that familiarity breeds contempt. I say this because familiarity in my opinion breeds safety, it breeds consistency, and it breeds authentic love.
You’re truly a natural at explaining attraction dynamics simple that do not promote game playing that’s pervasive in almost every other dating coach out there
Yessss men value women who value themselves!!! A great reminder ❤❤❤ it's always about looking inward. P.s. that is so cute that you sleep better with your partner 🥰🥰
Hey Fareen, thank you for the advice. I didn’t understand this before, and in my past dating history, I was just trying to be a nice girl to the guy. But over the years I start to understand that the guy doesn’t want a nice girl. They want a mean girl that knows her worth and values. She asserts boundaries and she makes him feel he is winning a prize by being with her. Nice girls who hand everything to the guy are doormats. By doing more, it’s actually less likely that the guy would fall for her. He actually wouldn’t be all over her the way she thought.
It's not Mean Girl at all. There's no attack or anything of the sort so there's no mean about it. It's that we can go neutral. We can be our positive etc or they get nothing. If they bring problems and negativity or insecurity says instability. So we withdraw and, if serious enough, we will leave.
Even if we women dont like it to be this way, its just facts. Men love excitement and challenges. But you have to play fair still. Thats how it works. 😊❤
There is always a mystery to why two people are attracted to each other and love each other at deep levels. . No one can explain it with words because it is ethereal .
You touched upon so many great points. Love your content! ❤️ And it’s so true that just because a man ends up having a child with a woman does not mean she’s “the one” or is someone he wants to possibly marry. The woman he wants will be able to evoke certain feelings inside of him and make him miss her when they are not together.
To your joking point, I'm wondering if a certain amount of conflict In the past add to attraction. Now I'm in a very compatible relationship so I will see how this plays out.
Crazy how well you know relationship dynamics. I feel like I’ve been in all the relationships: attraction, good but not quite there, toxic AF… and yea, even though I really want children, I can’t see myself having children with “the wrong person”… what an anchor and disaster that would be. Love your videos, they always make me feel so good and wanting more ❤️❤️❤️
Before I was healed, I was honestly afraid of masculine men. So I chose a more feminine man with a high income bcuz i thought that felt safer emotionally and financially at the time. Eventually after I healed, I became more feminine and that relationship ended bcuz there wasn’t any attraction, it was a friendship/roommate, and my awareness around my needs in a partner changed.
My husband of 22 years is my best friend almost since day 1, we genuinely like eachother. We do most things together. We enjoy eackither til this day. Mileage varies.
That’s soo good to know about the sleeping part, he could never understand my need with that. But i was at full peace when we would go to bed at the same time or before i fell asleep ❤ it was my 1 big requirement :) because to me it means the world and it makes me feel safe
Please don't feel offended but this video seem to be one logorrhea and mumbling. Might be that something is off with audio caused by technical problems, but really its not easy to undersrand your sweet voice and useful tips. Maybe its my fault as I am not native speaker but really I think something is off with audio.
@@fareenashofficial can you create a video that touches on the topic of forgiving youger version of woman who had broken all these rules and behaved in low value ways
I guess am the odd ball as I go by how I “feel” and how she treats me and is she a flirt with everyone. Also most women only get 1 chance with me but women love to play games and cat and mouse so then I just walk away. They truly regret it but I just go I missed a lot of wasted time. I truly only have connected with 2 women but one doesn’t know go to work things out so I walked away and the other one is perfect but she has a bf so I had to let her go. Time away use to do what you stated but not anymore as I love being single and my time. I get a lot of attention but if I feel no safely or “home” feeling I just am not interested. I don’t need someone to be happy. They can add to my life yes.
After a month of dating my boyfriend said I can't see you like that because of my past life trauma. When I start to pursue him he said I need space. Please leave me alone.. After a heating urgument from the next day iam in no contact. It's been 4 days.. It alomost a mental truama for me.. 😢
Wow. Can you please talk more about women who settle with feminine men just because they want to have babies and experience motherhood?? I HATE that my mother lowered her standards and chose my narcissist father. 😫 I don’t care about being married that much or having children when it’s not with someone who is WORTHY of having ME. I am too attractive and feminine to be with a narcissist. I am strong and independent and i am happy to live alone forever. It takes a masculine man to impress me.
@@samia6888 oh yes. The macho type. The overt narcissist. That is easy to avoid when you develop your healthy masculine. I see the feminine type as the covert. They are hard to spot but you will see their truth the more you vet them and keep your distance. You should never have s** too early because it clouds your judgement. Many women fall for their sweet talks. But they regret it once they are pregnant. It’s the woman’s responsibility to vet and phase the relationship. When you have self love and true worth you know not to waste your time or give yourself too easily.
Maybe you could do a video about dating when your around 40, most men of that age have a backpack so its very different from when your young 😊 i think it's more dificult to find a good one
@@fareenashofficial everytime i meet someone and think hmm this guys is interesting, and then i look at the hands, yes of course he is married what did you expect 😂
Hey Fareen, thank you for the advice. I didn’t understand this before, and in my past dating history, I was just trying to be a nice girl to the guy. But over the years I start to understand that the guy doesn’t want a nice girl. They want a mean girl that knows her worth and values. She asserts boundaries and she makes him feel he is winning a prize by being with her. Nice girls who hand everything to the guy are doormats. By doing more, it’s actually less likely that the guy would fall for her. He actually wouldn’t be all over her the way she thought. It’s no easy job to get a man to fall
They don’t want a mean girl… they just want a woman that takes care of herself and doesn’t accommodate him at her expense 🤍. I know it can appear as being mean, but taking care of ourselves is very loving :)
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As a man I'm very attracted to someone now and she's 6 years older so it's really unique for me. She has this feminine energy that I think a lot of men like. She told me once she's not a "girly-girl" which she is not but she has a youthful energy that I want to wrap my arms around. This is the feeling I've been waiting for my entire life. Plus we're emotionally attracted. We're both very sensitive and in tune with each other's emotions. I don't want to be friends or roomies or for her to be my mom. I want to love her and be a man for her and also protect and nurture her.
I love this!!!
@@fareenashofficial I forgot to mention we've known each other casually for at ;east 5 years. We work at the same company.. I don't know what happened one day we just started looking at each other differently and the feelings just took off. She was right there with me and then she started fighting it but I will hang in there for a long time because she's all I want.
@@fareenashofficial Also we have nothing in common with our life experiences. She has children from 2 relationships including a marriage and divorce. I have never been married and have no children. She's rough around the edges I joke she's a biker chick and I'm a college grad who is used to wearing suits and ties. But I adore her for the person she s today and I see the sweetness and kindness and love in her heart. I know she's attracted to me too but nervous about someone so different so I'm giving her time and space to sort through it.
Sleeping better with my man is definitely another tell-tale sign he is the one for me
Yes!!!
Personally I don’t believe that familiarity breeds contempt. I say this because familiarity in my opinion breeds safety, it breeds consistency, and it breeds authentic love.
You’re truly a natural at explaining attraction dynamics simple that do not promote game playing that’s pervasive in almost every other dating coach out there
Thank you!!
Yessss men value women who value themselves!!! A great reminder ❤❤❤ it's always about looking inward. P.s. that is so cute that you sleep better with your partner 🥰🥰
Yess!! Exactly!! Yes it’s a bit annoying actually lol
Hey Fareen, thank you for the advice. I didn’t understand this before, and in my past dating history, I was just trying to be a nice girl to the guy. But over the years I start to understand that the guy doesn’t want a nice girl. They want a mean girl that knows her worth and values. She asserts boundaries and she makes him feel he is winning a prize by being with her. Nice girls who hand everything to the guy are doormats. By doing more, it’s actually less likely that the guy would fall for her. He actually wouldn’t be all over her the way she thought.
It's not Mean Girl at all. There's no attack or anything of the sort so there's no mean about it. It's that we can go neutral. We can be our positive etc or they get nothing. If they bring problems and negativity or insecurity says instability. So we withdraw and, if serious enough, we will leave.
the shure mic would be a life changer on this channel ❤❤ it’s nearly 200$ but it’s completely worth it!
Yeah I just bought the SM7dB. $500+ $150 for the attachment but SO WORTH IT
Even if we women dont like it to be this way, its just facts. Men love excitement and challenges. But you have to play fair still. Thats how it works. 😊❤
Yup!
There is always a mystery to why two people are attracted to each other and love each other at deep levels. . No one can explain it with words because it is ethereal .
You touched upon so many great points. Love your content! ❤️
And it’s so true that just because a man ends up having a child with a woman does not mean she’s “the one” or is someone he wants to possibly marry. The woman he wants will be able to evoke certain feelings inside of him and make him miss her when they are not together.
Thank you :)
So this is why my ex was so annoying! She was trying to evoke negative emotions to attract me. Now it all makes sense 😁.
Lol well trying and playing games is very different from what I teach about lol
@@fareenashofficial She was your worst student ;)
To your joking point, I'm wondering if a certain amount of conflict In the past add to attraction. Now I'm in a very compatible relationship so I will see how this plays out.
@@a.d.b535 That could very well be true
You are lovely, intelligent and very helpful.
Thank you 🙏
Crazy how well you know relationship dynamics. I feel like I’ve been in all the relationships: attraction, good but not quite there, toxic AF… and yea, even though I really want children, I can’t see myself having children with “the wrong person”… what an anchor and disaster that would be.
Love your videos, they always make me feel so good and wanting more ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so glad!
Great video Fareen 💕
Before I was healed, I was honestly afraid of masculine men. So I chose a more feminine man with a high income bcuz i thought that felt safer emotionally and financially at the time. Eventually after I healed, I became more feminine and that relationship ended bcuz there wasn’t any attraction, it was a friendship/roommate, and my awareness around my needs in a partner changed.
I never understood couples on top of each other. They turn into room mates in the end. 💀
Yup! They do!
My husband of 22 years is my best friend almost since day 1, we genuinely like eachother. We do most things together. We enjoy eackither til this day. Mileage varies.
That’s soo good to know about the sleeping part, he could never understand my need with that. But i was at full peace when we would go to bed at the same time or before i fell asleep ❤ it was my 1 big requirement :) because to me it means the world and it makes me feel safe
Yesss! Our senses are relaxed
Please don't feel offended but this video seem to be one logorrhea and mumbling. Might be that something is off with audio caused by technical problems, but really its not easy to undersrand your sweet voice and useful tips. Maybe its my fault as I am not native speaker but really I think something is off with audio.
Yeah I think if she spoke directly into the mic and held the mic it would work better
it is
It’s a little muffled. But most of her videos are great so she gets a pass 🩷
It is muffled, I have to turn my volume way up to understand what is being said
Hi Fareen! Love your new format. Do you have any tips on how to discuss not wanting children with a new partner? Thank you!!🙏
I would just be honest about it from the very beginning
And thank you!
Always loved your videos
Love hearing that!!
@@fareenashofficial can you create a video that touches on the topic of forgiving youger version of woman who had broken all these rules and behaved in low value ways
How do u get over it especially if most of your girl friends remind you of the low value woman you once were
This is really helpful, thank you Fareen 💖
I’m so glad! 🤍🤍
Hey Fareen,
Thank you so much
My pleasure 😊
Love your videos. Thank you
Thank you!
So good!!
Thank you! 🤍
I luv your authenticity 💐
Thank you :)
Sooooo good, once again!
Thank you!
I guess am the odd ball as I go by how I “feel” and how she treats me and is she a flirt with everyone. Also most women only get 1 chance with me but women love to play games and cat and mouse so then I just walk away. They truly regret it but I just go I missed a lot of wasted time. I truly only have connected with 2 women but one doesn’t know go to work things out so I walked away and the other one is perfect but she has a bf so I had to let her go.
Time away use to do what you stated but not anymore as I love being single and my time. I get a lot of attention but if I feel no safely or “home” feeling I just am not interested. I don’t need someone to be happy. They can add to my life yes.
The children trap is real..
Yup!!!
After a month of dating my boyfriend said I can't see you like that because of my past life trauma. When I start to pursue him he said I need space. Please leave me alone.. After a heating urgument from the next day iam in no contact. It's been 4 days.. It alomost a mental truama for me.. 😢
I’m so sorry :(
Wow. Can you please talk more about women who settle with feminine men just because they want to have babies and experience motherhood??
I HATE that my mother lowered her standards and chose my narcissist father. 😫
I don’t care about being married that much or having children when it’s not with someone who is WORTHY of having ME.
I am too attractive and feminine to be with a narcissist. I am strong and independent and i am happy to live alone forever. It takes a masculine man to impress me.
Masculine men can be narcissists too, you just never know unless you did a ton of research but by then it might be too late.
@@samia6888 oh yes. The macho type. The overt narcissist. That is easy to avoid when you develop your healthy masculine.
I see the feminine type as the covert. They are hard to spot but you will see their truth the more you vet them and keep your distance.
You should never have s** too early because it clouds your judgement.
Many women fall for their sweet talks. But they regret it once they are pregnant.
It’s the woman’s responsibility to vet and phase the relationship.
When you have self love and true worth you know not to waste your time or give yourself too easily.
if a man is spending money, time and emotions and all but not ready to commit, should I tell him Im dating or going to date someone?
No allow him to bring up the exclusivity conversation. Continue to date others until he says you two are exclusive.
Maybe you could do a video about dating when your around 40, most men of that age have a backpack so its very different from when your young 😊 i think it's more dificult to find a good one
I’m 40 :) and yes we all have backpacks! My books will help :)
@@fareenashofficial everytime i meet someone and think hmm this guys is interesting, and then i look at the hands, yes of course he is married what did you expect 😂
@PetraHeylen oh noooooo !
@@fareenashofficialno way you are 40 :0 drop the skincare routine pls
Ladies don't get mistaken... You are the one he wants to ruin your life forever 😂 Don't give in respect yourself, men are not the prize 💖
First comment haha
Uploaded 50s ago - amazing!
Edit: I watched the video and it's really really good, for both men and women
Hiii!
Live your videos and it all makes sense to me
Love that you do!
I could not hear what you were saying it's like you are singing, please get a better microphone 🎤.
She's very clear on my end.😊
There is something wrong with your audio.
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Hey Fareen, thank you for the advice. I didn’t understand this before, and in my past dating history, I was just trying to be a nice girl to the guy. But over the years I start to understand that the guy doesn’t want a nice girl. They want a mean girl that knows her worth and values. She asserts boundaries and she makes him feel he is winning a prize by being with her. Nice girls who hand everything to the guy are doormats. By doing more, it’s actually less likely that the guy would fall for her. He actually wouldn’t be all over her the way she thought. It’s no easy job to get a man to fall
They don’t want a mean girl… they just want a woman that takes care of herself and doesn’t accommodate him at her expense 🤍. I know it can appear as being mean, but taking care of ourselves is very loving :)
@@fareenashofficial I agree, Fareen!
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