You can. Im a western. Brazilian.. here we also have this kimd of guilt of not being enogh. More often refferening to social aspects. When you start understand the buddhism teachings with very patience. Well patience and time. You can understand and feel it. Meditanting for example.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Through the practice of meditation on emptiness, we indeed find that guilt acts as a bias, giving us not only a poor self-image but also a distorted view of the external world around us.
The issue here isn't guilt, it's the limiting beliefs which you have been faced with in your life. In life you will hear things that aren't true; however it's your responsibly to guard your mind from the negative beliefs of others.
Guilt is there to make you stop the mistakes you make . But you don't have to feel guilty to change. But you need to know right from wrong. Guilt makes us want to fix things. If it stays, leave it and let it go. Regrets, well do better, shame, do better. So guilt, DO BETTER, this is if you made a mistake. Not other cases unless it matches and works too. But if it is not pushing you to change what you did wrong it is useless, if you keep feeling guilty over and over. No point If you do not change it. If your not gonna change it, well why live with guilt. Guilt does seem pointless. But if it leads you to repent from wrong doing, it was worth it and good to have even though it did not feel good.
He diddn’t it was easy, just presented some steps that could help. But i agree it’s not «that easy», i think his advice will become way more applicable and helpful if you have practiced this: 1. Train awareness, learn to notice the neuances of your feelings, where they are, how they feel in your body (or outside your body), the reasons and stories attached to them. 2. learn to notice the feelings and accept them, learn not to be scared of the feelings, or to tolerate the pain that comes with them. This will make them more approachable and easier to work with. There is probably more advice and practices that synergize with his advice but i think those are two important parts. Practice can be hard but i think it’s worth it.
my sister did the arabic subtitles for this video ~~ so proud and happy
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Greatest insight for me at this moment in my life. Thank you.
So guilt in not innate, it's a learned behavior. I wish I could unlearn. ✌️☘️
You can. Im a western. Brazilian.. here we also have this kimd of guilt of not being enogh. More often refferening to social aspects. When you start understand the buddhism teachings with very patience. Well patience and time. You can understand and feel it. Meditanting for example.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Through the practice of meditation on emptiness, we indeed find that guilt acts as a bias, giving us not only a poor self-image but also a distorted view of the external world around us.
So wonderful this monk!
The answer is in the eyes.
Great stuff thank you!
The issue here isn't guilt, it's the limiting beliefs which you have been faced with in your life.
In life you will hear things that aren't true; however it's your responsibly to guard your mind from the negative beliefs of others.
Thank you so much
❤🙏
Guilt is there to make you stop the mistakes you make . But you don't have to feel guilty to change. But you need to know right from wrong. Guilt makes us want to fix things. If it stays, leave it and let it go. Regrets, well do better, shame, do better. So guilt, DO BETTER, this is if you made a mistake. Not other cases unless it matches and works too. But if it is not pushing you to change what you did wrong it is useless, if you keep feeling guilty over and over. No point If you do not change it. If your not gonna change it, well why live with guilt. Guilt does seem pointless. But if it leads you to repent from wrong doing, it was worth it and good to have even though it did not feel good.
Milarepa felt guilt. Now where is your assertion?
I am sorry cause it's not that easy.
Its a practicable thing
He diddn’t it was easy, just presented some steps that could help. But i agree it’s not «that easy», i think his advice will become way more applicable and helpful if you have practiced this:
1. Train awareness, learn to notice the neuances of your feelings, where they are, how they feel in your body (or outside your body), the reasons and stories attached to them.
2. learn to notice the feelings and accept them, learn not to be scared of the feelings, or to tolerate the pain that comes with them. This will make them more approachable and easier to work with.
There is probably more advice and practices that synergize with his advice but i think those are two important parts. Practice can be hard but i think it’s worth it.
Worst Tedx
this guy's what feynman would call a faker
Excuse me ,he is a qualified docter .