Like my ex husband who was a violent malignant narcissist . He's made me ill now . And my mother was malignant narc. I can't cope I'm left with cptsd adhd bipolar I'm alone with this now
Im beyond miserable. Im sick of having this. It feels like a disabilty where instead of my legs not working my entire body doesnt only sometimes and noone understands or can help me. They all leave to normally rip me apart for the very things im trying to understand and figure out. I feeo screwed im 33 yrs old and i dont get out of bed anymore and it seems like noone can actually help me. No i don't want to talk about it all again i just want to wake up without it.
Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible.
Is it possible you're going through a burnout? They can actually last yrs if it's really bad. Another thing to think about is executive dysfunction is also a symptom of complex ptsd.
Dissociation is one of the worst things I had ever gone through. I just want to send a message to anyone going through it right now, because I remember just how terrifying it was to be stuck in it for multiple months in a row… It does end eventually. It might take some time, maybe longer for you than it did for someone else. But derealization ends. It’s only there until your brain feels safe enough to let you out again. I know that we are all sick and tired of being told that everything is going to be ok… But someday, you will be alright. Not because it won’t be hard anymore or it will stop hurting. Because you will be truly fine with not being fine at all. We might be a little broken, but we have now. We have -now- to live and experience. You will still cry. Those scars won’t just disappear. But crying and peace will learn to coexist.
Hi can you pls make a vid on how to deal with panic attacks at school, and also friendship/ bullying trauma, thanks 🙏 love your vids😊 understand if you can’t ❤
I grew up in a very good household. My parents loved me and provided for me. My dad was chill. However my mother had depression and PTSD and would often fly off the handle, screaming and slamming doors, or she would just yell at us. My childhood was peppered with “spankings” often multiple times a day. I struggle with the independence part and I’m 23.
Same my mum used to yell at mea and beat me up but it was never considerd abuse untill i immigrated to another country and realised i could have called CPS on her i have so much trauma that i cant handle being in loud places even school
My dad was so chill and cowady and let me mom do whatever and didnt stop her at all even though he didnt hurt me straightly he did hurt me by not being there for me to rhe point i allways avoided him
My dad was so chill and cowady and let me mom do whatever and didnt stop her at all even though he didnt hurt me straightly he did hurt me by not being there for me to rhe point i allways avoided him
That’s what happened to me and ever since my trauma I’ve had a massive RBF and I never show my emotion to people and I’ve had people ask me if I was mad at them when I wasn’t. I was just had an RBF.
I wish you could do follow up Video or include ways to Stop these very Sad feelings and Behaviors! We know how we all got here let's Focus on how to Heal from these Traumas!
My little sister is terrified of being by herself she feels like she needs to save everything she also smiles alot but its never true she is still struggling and its hard for her to an adult about something that happens in her life that an adult needs to hear and when we ask why she says its because shes afraid of them yelling at her shes been traumatized twice and still handles it badley and it took her a month to tell our mom about something bad that happend and she tends to care about other people more than her and once she was being bullied and everyone was saying it was bc the boy had a crush on her she cried every night.
Omg so as I suspected the dissociation started as child, and now at present I'm having extreme dissociation feel petrified and unreal.But I must be real as I am watching video and responding.
Back in April of 2023 i was taking meds or nerve pain for my neck . I was taking small dose instead of taking three pills a day . And one pill was enough to give trauma back in 4-7 grade from 2004-2008 being bullied / made fun of how i looked because i had a tumor on back of my neck and they think it was okay to do that to someone ? It made me make feel awful about my self . I have been seeming a therapist for my self esteem
I don't trust myself. I like always go after what my parents say to the point they get annoyed that I can't make decisions on my own. I grew up as an autistic girl that wasn't diagnosed and my family was chaos and me being the youngest got very scared and felt unsafe and so on and I was bullied in school as well so I kinda thought it was normal for people who were supposed to care to also bully you or scream at you. Many other things also happened but I'm really unsure of myself and always need someone else's opinion and now that I'm 20 I am trying my best to make my own decisions but I can't even have an opinion without asking if my opinion is okay maybe because I often get told what I think or feel and get pushed down for being disabled
Is it possible to have a good childhood and all of the trauma showed up in early adulthood? Or do you think there is always a childhood origin for trauma?
ok, my wife is getting into this and is not ready. she hears people talking about her and me and its not . I see some of her here and now where do I help her or how?
Even a regular independent person would understand that they can't rely only on themselves. They might make their own money, live on their own and be independent in a general sense.. A hyperindependent person thinks that they are the only person they can rely on. It isn't just financial or any basic form of independence. This person would have extreme trust issues and think that the only way they can make it is on their own. For an independent person they choose to be independent and understand that is they need, they can get help. A hyperindependent person thinks that there is no choice. Life is every person for themselves and if they go down it's their fault.
Yes, and food , often improper food combining (stuff we eat that is hard on the digestion, leading to IBS). Try an Ayurvedic dosha quiz online and find the foods that are best for you and what to avoid (“like too much raw food, or dry food, or cold food .)
It's a difficult journey from this place, but the progress is priceless.❤
Yes!
My mind dwelled so long after each point, that I had to listen this a lot. Thanks.
Holy shit same. Like 5 times
Same 😢
Like my ex husband who was a violent malignant narcissist . He's made me ill now .
And my mother was malignant narc.
I can't cope I'm left with cptsd adhd bipolar I'm alone with this now
Im beyond miserable. Im sick of having this. It feels like a disabilty where instead of my legs not working my entire body doesnt only sometimes and noone understands or can help me. They all leave to normally rip me apart for the very things im trying to understand and figure out. I feeo screwed im 33 yrs old and i dont get out of bed anymore and it seems like noone can actually help me. No i don't want to talk about it all again i just want to wake up without it.
Praying God heals and strengthens you in Jesus name. God bless❤❤
Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible.
Is it possible you're going through a burnout? They can actually last yrs if it's really bad. Another thing to think about is executive dysfunction is also a symptom of complex ptsd.
Dissociation is one of the worst things I had ever gone through. I just want to send a message to anyone going through it right now, because I remember just how terrifying it was to be stuck in it for multiple months in a row… It does end eventually. It might take some time, maybe longer for you than it did for someone else. But derealization ends. It’s only there until your brain feels safe enough to let you out again. I know that we are all sick and tired of being told that everything is going to be ok… But someday, you will be alright. Not because it won’t be hard anymore or it will stop hurting. Because you will be truly fine with not being fine at all. We might be a little broken, but we have now. We have -now- to live and experience. You will still cry. Those scars won’t just disappear. But crying and peace will learn to coexist.
I feel extreme anger and unease near my father.
All 3 are me 😢
I have no idea how to heal from all this!
I hope you can heal from it. i too have PTSD. And I'm trying to heal from it as well. You're not alone.
@@mattia.shorts5958It's actually complex ptsd 😊
Also maybe try therapy or look into parenting your inner child if you don't have the insurance to do therapy right now
I’m stuck. How do you become more independent and finding yourself? I’m genuinely lost.
Find a trauma informed therapist and stay away from CBT, it's not helpful for trauma.
Well that makes a lot of sense now thank you for your video
Hi can you pls make a vid on how to deal with panic attacks at school, and also friendship/ bullying trauma, thanks 🙏 love your vids😊 understand if you can’t ❤
Yes I will ❤
I grew up in a very good household. My parents loved me and provided for me. My dad was chill. However my mother had depression and PTSD and would often fly off the handle, screaming and slamming doors, or she would just yell at us. My childhood was peppered with “spankings” often multiple times a day. I struggle with the independence part and I’m 23.
Same my mum used to yell at mea and beat me up but it was never considerd abuse untill i immigrated to another country and realised i could have called CPS on her i have so much trauma that i cant handle being in loud places even school
My dad was so chill and cowady and let me mom do whatever and didnt stop her at all even though he didnt hurt me straightly he did hurt me by not being there for me to rhe point i allways avoided him
My dad was so chill and cowady and let me mom do whatever and didnt stop her at all even though he didnt hurt me straightly he did hurt me by not being there for me to rhe point i allways avoided him
That’s what happened to me and ever since my trauma I’ve had a massive RBF and I never show my emotion to people and I’ve had people ask me if I was mad at them when I wasn’t. I was just had an RBF.
I wish you could do follow up Video or include ways to Stop these very Sad feelings and Behaviors! We know how we all got here let's Focus on how to Heal from these Traumas!
My little sister is terrified of being by herself she feels like she needs to save everything she also smiles alot but its never true she is still struggling and its hard for her to an adult about something that happens in her life that an adult needs to hear and when we ask why she says its because shes afraid of them yelling at her shes been traumatized twice and still handles it badley and it took her a month to tell our mom about something bad that happend and she tends to care about other people more than her and once she was being bullied and everyone was saying it was bc the boy had a crush on her she cried every night.
Im a mix of not being able to look after myself but also being too scared to let others look after me
Ran as far away as I could.
My cousin moved to the same area.
The family are witched.
I’m in hiding now.
FTW
Can you do more videos on panic attacks, and anxiety? Oh and I love your videos
I absolutely will ❤
Awww thanks!!
Omg so as I suspected the dissociation started as child, and now at present I'm having extreme dissociation feel petrified and unreal.But I must be real as I am watching video and responding.
Your videos are really helpful for me love u 💗 💓 best wishes from me to u
Thank you ❤❤❤
@@Micheline.Maalouf welcome dear love u so much 💓 😘 💖
Lmao dis me. I dissociated, lack of self, no trust in anyone nor myself. I'm so delayed
Back in April of 2023 i was taking meds or nerve pain for my neck . I was taking small dose instead of taking three pills a day . And one pill was enough to give trauma back in 4-7 grade from 2004-2008 being bullied / made fun of how i looked because i had a tumor on back of my neck and they think it was okay to do that to someone ? It made me make feel awful about my self . I have been seeming a therapist for my self esteem
I don't trust myself. I like always go after what my parents say to the point they get annoyed that I can't make decisions on my own.
I grew up as an autistic girl that wasn't diagnosed and my family was chaos and me being the youngest got very scared and felt unsafe and so on and I was bullied in school as well so I kinda thought it was normal for people who were supposed to care to also bully you or scream at you. Many other things also happened but I'm really unsure of myself and always need someone else's opinion and now that I'm 20 I am trying my best to make my own decisions but I can't even have an opinion without asking if my opinion is okay maybe because I often get told what I think or feel and get pushed down for being disabled
Sounds like bpd as well ☮️💟
Hyper independence all my life, I'm 50. Never had a live in partner nor married.
The way I'm crying
Is it possible to have a good childhood and all of the trauma showed up in early adulthood? Or do you think there is always a childhood origin for trauma?
I want a pill to fix what other's broke in me.
ok, my wife is getting into this and is not ready. she hears people talking about her and me and its not . I see some of her here and now where do I help her or how?
Too dependant or too hyper independent
Thanks for the video... How do we get better?
I have a full length video I just posted on my channel with tips!! And also book recommendations
@@Micheline.Maaloufdo you mean the 5 signs one? Does that have the book recommendation on it? Thanks again
Interesting, I wonder how hyperindependence is different from just independence
"Hyper-independence is an extreme form of independence that can lead to both personal and relational issues."
- From Google :)
@@ems.master Yeah. Doesn't answer.
Even a regular independent person would understand that they can't rely only on themselves. They might make their own money, live on their own and be independent in a general sense.. A hyperindependent person thinks that they are the only person they can rely on. It isn't just financial or any basic form of independence. This person would have extreme trust issues and think that the only way they can make it is on their own. For an independent person they choose to be independent and understand that is they need, they can get help. A hyperindependent person thinks that there is no choice. Life is every person for themselves and if they go down it's their fault.
@@realbedo Dang, sounds like me not long ago. Thanks for the information. Also, Albedo is dope.
@@fm1615 Yeah no problem ^^ and thank you
First thing to understand about male trauma is that NOBODY CARES
I just came here to say f the public school system
hlw mam people plesar what solution
Check out my channel! I just posted a long video about this it’s tips and book recommendations ❤
Is IBS Related To Childhood Trauma? Pls Tell
Yes, and food , often improper food combining (stuff we eat that is hard on the digestion, leading to IBS). Try an Ayurvedic dosha quiz online and find the foods that are best for you and what to avoid (“like too much raw food, or dry food, or cold food .)
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She's cute